Let us never forget that the Adversary knows how to fill our minds with all the "good reasons" why a marriage should be terminated. Such a critical decision should be taken only after one has investigated every possible alternative to save the marriage and family, including through deep spiritual introspection, being willing to replace pride with "Broken Heart and Contrite Spirit." Along these lines, one would greatly gain from reading two very inspired books: "The Peacegiver" by James L. Ferrell; and "Drawing Heaven into your Marriage," by
H. Wallace Goddard.
I needed this perspective 27 years ago. It's no longer an issue. I have had to work through what was, what is and what will be in the future and in eternity.
I enjoyed this. My brother and sister-in-law are divorcing. Before this, I've never been very near a divorce, having no grandparent, parent, sibling, sibling-in-law or cousin divorce while I knew them. Kind of crazy. (Honestly, where do I live, under a rock? My family's kind of big, too.) Anyway, to say they felt pressure to stay together is an understatement. I think pressure caused them to stay together even though they were unhappy and unhappiness led to grand problems--much grander than anything they faced in their early unhappy years. My point isn't to divorce quickly. My point is that I personally try to think to myself, "I'm sad that couple was unhappy together," rather than think "I'm sad they got divorced." To me, it helps remind me that divorce isn't the real tragedy and sometimes, as you pointed out, can be a route to something healthier. Though I don't wish it on anyone. It is a tough, tough thing.
Uplifting article, thanks.
Thank you for this wonderfully perceptive and honest portrayal of marriage, divorce, and its after-effects. Especially in the world we live in today, we all need to realize that the stigma of divorce is no longer appropriate. In some instances, divorce can even save spirits. Fortunately, most Church leaders are supportive of those undergoing a divorce. In most cases it is a last choice and may, as the author suggests, be spirit-saving. Only the couple involved know the pain the marriage has undergone. The need to stay close to the Savior and the gospel plan is foremost in any of the trials of life, especially including divorce. Let us love and understand those undergoing such sadness and keep them under the gospel wing.
Disappointed that all that gushy Camelot text did not address the title of the article: The eternal perspective regarding divorce in the Church. Having gone through two divorces, one of 16 yrs and one of 7 and now the happiest we've both been with 19 years of marriage - all temple marriages, the article could have dealt with the title in much more substance and depth. I didn't gain anything from all that verbiage.
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