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November 11, 2019

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Craig A MillsNovember 10, 2019

Sister White, thank you for sharing a wonderful discourse on the "Power and Authority of the Priesthood". At my recent Stake Conference in September, the visiting General Authority taught that the advancements we are currently witnessing, is the Lord removing the scaffolding of the church that surrounds the family. The family, as it is led by a united mother and father, sealed under proper authority of the Melchizedek Priesthood. I might suggest that the expansion of those who can witness ordinances and Ward Youth Councils is the Lord taking down a whole wing of scaffolding. This is how I understand the role of the family supported by the church in the Lord's Kingdom. Patriarchal Order - Priesthood, as an eternal family matter - Home Centered, Mother & Father united - we know this order began in the garden with Adam & Eve and is the order we will live by when the Savior returns. Apostolic Order - the administrative authority we tend to think of as "the priesthood" - Church Supportive - this order began with the Savior, first in Galilee, then again in the sacred grove. This order is the means by which the Lord facilitates and teaches us, His children. This order is His light in the wilderness. (1 Ne 17:13)

Piero MazzeiNovember 9, 2019

Is not Allah a derivate of Elohim?

RobynNovember 9, 2019

I didn't to realize until reading this article that I, too, had actually used the Savior's power when raising my children in the gospel. My husband was not a member and I can vividly remember the strength of my prayers, the Spirit in our home, in guiding me to do what was needed to assure my husband felt loved and that my children would grow up with testimonies. It was through the Savior's priesthood power that the Holy Ghost was able to stir up my husbands thoughts and heart to accept the gospel. Now many years later, and with my husband and I having served a mission and our children in faithful homes, I can see where women can utilize the Priesthood when it is not available through a faithful husband. My heart feels so grateful for this new knowledge.

Theresa FinneganNovember 8, 2019

Near the end of your article, you say "These statements can be puzzling in the context of a church where women do not officiate in any ordinances ..." In the Temple women do officiate in ordinances. Sisters are called and set apart as Ordinance Workers specifically so that they can officiate in Temple ordinances. It's important to realize that. I love the article, and have had similar experiences in my own life.

Laurel Lee PedersenNovember 8, 2019

Dear Diana, What an amazing article! I am so uplifted after reading it! I'm printing it out so I can study it as I go through Hebrews again the remainder of the week. So grateful to be your friend! Hope you are doing well! Love you!

Sue C.November 8, 2019

It would be much better if there was no such thing as bullying but it is there and I would venture to guess it is worse than at times past. But your advice is right on point. Just because someone says it does not make it true. We need to have tougher skin and not let the little hurts that happen often to children decide who we are. I want my child to know regardless of what people may say or do to them they are a valuable human being with God given talents and are capable of handling those situations. We can't cave because that makes us weak. We have to stand strong and be courageous. I love this article and appreciate your insight.

H NorthNovember 8, 2019

While Dr. Al-Issa's efforts are truly admirable, and I wish him the best of luck, unfortunately, being a PhD in his own ideology, he must be fully aware that his efforts are contrary to the primary teachings and doctrines of Islam, and so one can only conclude that his efforts are an attempt at taqiyya.

H NorthNovember 8, 2019

This article fails to address the primary reason that clearly demonstrates that Islam and Christianity are from different sources: their origins. Muhammad was physically assaulted by an entity to the point that he was so traumatized that he feared for his life, and wanted to throw himself off a cliff and kill himself--it was his wife Khadijah that convinced him that instead the entity was supposedly an "angel". And so Islam was born.

Lynn JohnsonNovember 8, 2019

wonderful article; I have one area of confusion. Paul says a bishop must be the husband of one wife and be a good and righteous father. So I am not sure about the idea of a single bishop. That would violate Paul's rule. Has there ever been one?

DJNovember 8, 2019

I'm so excited for them!! I can feel the good vibrations half way across the world, and can't wait to know and see the fruits of their labor. A small pebble in a big pond creating ripples.

Robyn KeeslingNovember 8, 2019

Thank you for taking the time to minister to us by preparing this wonderful resource for us - people you don't even know! I am certain that Hebrews 6:10 applies to you and that our Lord is very aware of your service and sacrifice for His flock. I have felt the Spirit as I have used this as a companion to my study of Hebrews this week.

JuliannNovember 8, 2019

Lengthy article, but so insightful. I learned wonderful things. Thank you

Tamara WatkinsNovember 8, 2019

I can't thank you enough for this article! It's so enlightening and gratifying to have it explained the way you did - to see the difference between the two. I have read several things from early church history that the Prophet Joseph Smith has taught about women having priesthood power, but for whatever reason, seems to have been buried and is finally coming into the light again. We are being told to "learn more about this power and how we can wield it", but there is nothing published that I am aware of to teach us exactly what we can do and how to use our family priesthood in behalf of our family members. My husband is inactive at this time and because of choices he is making, is not a worthy priesthood holder. Other than praying for my family members, what am I blessed to be able to do? Because it isn't being taught to us, it continues to frustrate me and other women. We strive to be humble and teachable and patient. The brethren have alot of printed direction in "wielding" their priesthood. Where is our help and direction?

KarenNovember 8, 2019

I am married to a non member who has not given permission for me to go through the temple and be endowed. Am I then not eligible, or, as a mother do I still receive the blessing of Priesthood Power to bless my family?

Ladelle CookNovember 8, 2019

That is a most significant, explanatory article of priesthood power held by women. What you shared is another testimony of the validity of my understanding concerning the relationship between women and the priesthood and between women and men in the marriage and family relationship. I have learned much from your article and my wife also is impressed. Thank you for sharing your insight,

Jenny SvendsenNovember 8, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing your story! There were many truths revealed to me as I read, I will be printing it off and sharing with my husband, and anyone who would benefit from reading it

Brother Gary A Garvin & Sister Noy GarvinNovember 8, 2019

This is so true and awesome. Thank you Sister

Neill MarriottNovember 8, 2019

Dear Sister Ulrich, Your words struck many a rich and resounding note in my heart and I hope in the hearts of all your readers. Thank you for your insightful paragraph on the spiritual power of the lamb and for your wonderfully wise and clear seven points of 'we do work together.' I'll be remembering your admonition that if something is worth doing, it's worth doing badly. Serving a foreign speaking mission, I have learned that a testimony spoken badly is better than a testimony not spoken at all. You are right on all counts. Many thanks.

GregNovember 8, 2019

Great article. Question arises…does a child ever need a’priesthood blessing’, or will a faithful prayer be sufficient, which it was in this case?

AnneNovember 8, 2019

Fabulous article! Things I never had known or thought about. Thank you for sharing!

KathleenNovember 7, 2019

He, and a lot of others!

JaneNovember 7, 2019

I disagree. I believe words can have long lasting effects whether the person consciously takes them to heart or not. Surface smiles cannot undo the lasting impact of verbal and emotional abuse. It's a good place to start. But messages from cruel and thoughtless parents, siblings, friends, teachers and even the culture as a whole, can build a false foundation of lies within. It takes courage to recognize them and seek the power of Christ's truths to find freedom from them comes.

DavidNovember 7, 2019

The colonies in Mexico were founded in 1885. In 1912, Pancho Villa's men gave the saints 24 hours to leave with what they could carry with them. About 1918, after the revolution has subsided,some of the colonists returned. The colonies have contributed greatly to church leadership over the years. Names like Eyring, Kimball, and Romney come to mind. But living there has always had its challenges. After the 1912 exodus, many lost everything they had built up during their time living there.

Joy LangNovember 7, 2019

We just got to see this beautiful film and it is just playing here in Novemberr in Calgary Alberta. What a testimony of the power of ministering to others & how powerful service can be in our lives. Great missionary tool. I want to read the book! I wish that notification could be sent to Church PR reps of upcoming movies produced by TC Christiansen or others & that are going to be shown in theaters. There are times that good movies are only shown for a week or sometimes they only play for a weekend. By the time we hear from other Church members, it is gone! One movie about the missionaries who were held captive only played 2 days!

Jill HallidayNovember 7, 2019

HOW can I thank you??? I was sitting here in tears, in a quandry about what to do. Like your friend, I consider my faith to be strong...it is my gift! But I had lost hope in a particular thing happening to me...a medical problem. I sat here reading about all kinds of ideas and "solutions," in medical places, when for some reason decided to check my email and there you were. Your title, coupled with your own beautiful countenance pulled me in. As I read I thought, "I don't even believe this is happening!:...your words were SO EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED in this very moment! I wasn't familiar with the Zechariah scripture (my husband has been ardently studying the Old Testament and I'm sharing his study...we've talked about that book but not THAT scripture...it is PERFECT!) THANK YOU! I am going to go my way rejoicing now, for I know that just as in these wonderful examples you've given, answers will come to me.

Terri WagnerNovember 7, 2019

I love your analogy. I live in an area prone to hurricanes, and we are always learning more about to survive. The aftermath is sometimes more overwhelming than the storm itself.

Karl StumNovember 7, 2019

Great insights, Shalissa! You mentioned the work of other faith traditions tangentially in your Arrival Ready item #5. That made me think a bit. If the millennium will house those of at least a terrestrial level, then the heavy lifting of preparing the world for the second coming is really being done by all the other God-fearing sincere faith traditions who are raising the masses of humanity to that level. Latter-day Saints should be grateful to them in this common work with us.

Brenda LaCorteNovember 7, 2019

A great reminder for me as I suffer inside my prison walls daily while caregiving for my 36 yr old son who is near end of life. Upon his diagnosis of Stage 4 Renal Cell Carcinoma and paraplegia almost 4 years ago, I turned to our Lord in faith, asking Him to help me do all that I could for my son. The Lord has blessed me "double" with so much mercy, grace and strength during this trial. It is wonderful to feel His loving arms around me and to know that he cares even when it is so hard!

Del MussmanNovember 6, 2019

truly most heartbreaking.

EvalyNovember 6, 2019

Satan has used lies to influence the choices mortals have had to make since he first told Eve she would not die if she ate the forbidden fruit. Moses 5 shows how Satan worked to direct Cain to kill his brother and Cain believed he would inherit Abel's flocks and have no consequences for murder. Clearly Satan left him to himself after he committed the murder and became a vagabond. Satan was jealous of his brother Jesus, then Satan convinces Cain to be jealous of Abel, Jacob's sons to be jealous of Joseph, Ishmael to be jealous of Isaac, Laman and Lemuel to be jealous of Nephi, etc., etc. Satan continues to use greed, power and jealousy to foment discord between brothers and nations - he truly does want us to be just like him and has had a pretty good record of success unfortunately.

J. ChadwickNovember 6, 2019

Thank you so much for this article and your book. I was given a copy of your book when I was going through a very difficult time. It was truly and answer to prayer. It has helped me to understand that my depression is not a character flaw or spiritual weakness. it is a brain illness and I need to treat it as such. This information freed me from years of self condemnation and gave me so many tools and so much hope! Thank you Thank you!

VardellNovember 6, 2019

Yes, Jesus sanctifies and redeems. Way too many LDS think that they must first make themselves holy before they can be forgiven and changed by Christ. And frankly much of this comes from being taught erroneously that repentance is not complete without completely conquering our sins. Well if that's the case then no one can ever repent of all their sins. Scriptural examples of repentance do not indicate a complete self conquering of sin. Repentance is the broken-hearted recognition of ones sins, and a sincere pleading for more righteousness and for mercy. Almas repentance didn't take a lifetime. Neither did Lamoni's, or his fathers - it happened immediately.

Lora TalbotNovember 6, 2019

I loved this podcast! I will listen to it again. I plan to send it out to my kids. Thank you so much for your effort.

R GreerNovember 6, 2019

I thought it ironic that Democrats advocated the portrait of Andrew Jackson, the founder of the Democratic Party should be removed from the $20 bill in favor of a gun toting deeply religious Republican, Harriet Tubman

Kenny MazzantiNovember 6, 2019

These murderous "Gadianton Robbers" of our day deserve nothing less than the justice they received in the Book of Mormon and that is absolute destruction. They are a plague, not only on Mexico, but on the whole earth that must be eradicated.. In the last year more than 68,000 people in the USA alone died from drug overdose with most of those drugs coming from Mexico via these cartels. 60,000 people in Mexico are "missing" in these drug wars. Mass graves of men, women and children are regularly being found in Mexico. The distasteful news of these finds rarely makes it to our media sources because it is disturbing to hear or read. Look at what the Nephites did to destroy these thugs and then, "liken the scriptures" to ourselves. Allowing this secret combination to continue to live makes us complicit in their murderous crimes.

AmyNovember 6, 2019

I just find it interesting that the bbc had this story way earlier that the US news! Our hearts and prayers are with the families!❤️

Melinda RobinsonNovember 6, 2019

Oh my, there are just no words to Express how we feel. We will pray for these families touched by this horrible tragedy. May the Lord bless them all.

K RiceNovember 6, 2019

Neat story.

Claradene StewartNovember 6, 2019

The mind-gut connection as relating to what we eat has just been discovered in the last two years. Depression runs rampant I my family. My grandmother had electric shock treatments for depression which helped her. She was one of the saintliest women I ever knew. My mother suffered greatly, Also, my sister, and some cousins. Depression is a diagnosis no different than influenza, etc. We can improve our diets and exercise to help the depression medications work. Depression has nothing to do with "being weak," it has to do with recognizing the problem and then getting medical help sooner than later.

JohnellNovember 6, 2019

I'm loving this series. Thank you. It brings back memories.

Nicholeen PeckNovember 5, 2019

Reboot, I know you are right. As a previous foster parent I have seen some of the toughest teens through some of their most agonizing struggles. I’m with you. Christ-like understanding is what we should foster. This article is for parents of the bullied and the people who feel unsafe in society for whatever reason. This article it to put things in perspective and give them hope and empowerment. I hope it does that. Thanks so much for your additional insight.

JaneNovember 5, 2019

These ideas are entirely in harmony with President Nelson's address to the women in this past General Conference where he assured us that all women have access to priesthood power by virtue of their faith and the keeping of their covenants. Thank you for so beautifully expressing the rationale for this new frontier of understanding, mutual support, and work needed to build the Kingdom of God on earth.

Stevie McKennaNovember 5, 2019

I think the first step to knowing God is to stop referring to him as God. The Savior asked us to refer to him as our Father in Heaven or Heavenly Father. To me to refer to Him as God is to distance myself from him. He remains this CEO of a company that I work for who is untouchable. Someone whom I dare not approach or attempt to know on a personal level. I would feel constrained to do my duty and hope he approves. But if this CEO is my father who implores me to draw close to Him and know him as my father than that is a completely different dynamic. One that will help me in time of need and will help me to strive to become more like His Son.

Carol AnnNovember 5, 2019

There are no words that can adequately describe the power of the message of these videos! Thanks to the leadership of the Church who followed the inspiration to make these possible to people everywhere. The Spirit of this work is very, very strong. The message is well received!

Jennifer KambourianNovember 5, 2019

So beautiful, Tessa. Thank you.

LyndaNovember 5, 2019

Thank you for this article. You put into words some of the thoughts I have been pondering for the past 3 years but haven’t been able to express. I have felt about God my whole life much as you did. I knew He was a God of love but I was also terrified to mess up for fear of “not making it”. It wasn’t until my husband died suddenly three years ago that I have truly started to come to know God and my Savior. Your article has been another witness to me of what I’m just starting to understand.

Mark WadsworthNovember 5, 2019

I agree with Doug, although President Trump may have some skeletons in the closet, he's doing the Lord's work in preserving the constitution. The anti-Trumpers are becoming the modern day Kingmen (Alma51:8). Anyone who wants to can Google General Conference & the constitution: starting with the bicentennial year of 1976 addresses of then Presidents/Elders Benson,Tanner, Dunn and Constitutional bicentennial year of 1987 addresses of President Benson.

vickieNovember 4, 2019

in the past I had a nursery calling that was meant more for me. as a matter of fact I had revelation that my next calling would be nursery calling. we were leaving England via my husbands airforce job. we were transferred to san Antonio tx. there was only one church there at the time and sure enough I was called to the nursery. the Lord told me this and I told my husband and it did happen. in England, I was going through major depression and anxiety and a not so good doctor who made things worse. I had to rely on the Lord as my great physician. so when I went into nursery, I met another woman who was going through the same thing but had gotten some great help from a very good doctor. she recommended him to me and I tried to see him but was told he had changed his job location and he couldn't see me now. well, I begged him telling him I wouldn't get any help at all. so, he said okay I will see you. I thank the Lord to this day because he helped me get over my phobia I developed because of the bad doctor I saw in England. I did this without taking any medication. it was very hard but this doctor helped me and taught me more than anything.I know the Lord knows all things about us and how we when needing help can trust that He will find it for us and many times through others. I do say this though I do not think the elderly should be in the nursery because some cannot get up and down and are not stable when holding babies. im elderly now and can see I am not able to do what I once use to do.

Barbara BohanNovember 4, 2019

I have followed from afar from time to time the progress of this film starting in the very early stages. I am excited that it is a reality now and coming in December!

Sally SmithNovember 4, 2019

This article hits the nail on the head. My parents taught me "sticks and stones" and it got me through some tough bullying. I would also say silently say, that's what you are not me.

Lisa SJNovember 4, 2019

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CindyNovember 4, 2019

I've always said Nursery Leader is the best calling! What other calling lets you take off your shoes, sit on the floor, play with toys, eat goldfish, and get big hugs every week? Oh, and the ward leadership thinks you're wonderful for accepting the calling. I teach the Sunbeams this year -- I love the little ones!

Susan MorrisNovember 4, 2019

As a young married in my 20s, I became friends with a sister my age who moved into our ward and was married to the son of a general authority. She was used to being treated with a special deference which grated on her. When the 20-something counselor in our bishopric somewhat apologetically called her to the nursery, she replied to this effect: "I would love to serve the Savior there. I believe that if He were to attend our ward some Sunday, He would visit the nursery first."

Mike M.November 4, 2019

When I was in my forties, I served as the nursery leader for a couple of years. I loved my calling. With the prior nursery leader, every Sunday one three year old girl would throw a tantrum, crying for her mother until the leader took the girl to her mother, a single mom. It was a challenge for her mother to fully enjoy Sunday school and Relief Society. When I was the nursery leader, I never took her to her mother when she threw a tantrum. However, one time when someone came into the nursery, the girl ran out the door, screaming for her mother as she ran down the hall to the Relief Society room. I ran after her and brought her back, kicking and screaming. Later, her mother told me she heard her daughter screaming for her. Eventually, the girl learned she couldn't get her way by throwing a tantrum. She behaved herself and enjoyed nursery until she went into Sunbeams. Now, at the age of 69 I'm on the list of substitute helpers for the nursery in my new ward.

Barbara K.November 4, 2019

I was called to be the very first nursery leader in our ward. Two of my former children have married. One once called me to be the nursery leader (my very favorite calling!) and now he is bishop and called me to be the RS Pres. Hope I get called to the nursery again!

Marsha LivingstoneNovember 4, 2019

My Christmas wish would be that this would come as a DVD to purchase. I have given the book to my family several years ago with a jar for them to use every year. I would love to be able to give them the movie to remember and continue the tradition.

Judith WilsonNovember 4, 2019

What a wonderful article!! Young children have a way of changing your viewpoint on life. You can understand why the Savior them so much.

rebkotNovember 4, 2019

Yes! Mr. Durfee I agree wholeheartedly. WHY are scientists, in particular, so antagonistic toward religion? Do they stumble because of the 6-day creation story, without considering it might have been creative "periods"? Are they so arrogant that they can't bear the thought of an intelligent being infinitely superior to them? It is unscientific to deny something you cannot see and measure. Many things in science aren't directly observed, but rather are identified because of their affect on other things, for instance, black holes are inferred from their affects on surrounding space. Surely the evidence of a creator is the ultimate example of this. All things testify of Him.

Debra PeckNovember 4, 2019

Nursery seems to always be the difficult calling to fill. One can get kind of lost in the ward when having that calling. Such was in our ward years back. I was called to serve as Nursery Leader with a brother younger than myself. I was told it was a six month calling. The Primary President was thrilled I accepted. She had a daughter in there and was so worried about who would love hers and the other little angels with her. I, not so enthusiastic, accepted and started my 6 month sentence. I even marked on my calendar when the six months was up. Now I never attack a job, task or calling half hearted. I decorated, cleaned out toy closets, restocked everything and got into it. We had little ones that seem to never having been out of Mama’s arms. I asked the sisters of the ward for a rocking chair. The next Sunday there was one waiting for me. I asked for healthy snacks. They were donated. I took pictures of each angel and put them on a bulletin board. When one little boy didn’t want Grandma to leave I showed him the pictures on the board and explained simply that Grandma wasn’t in his class. He turned to her and told her to go. He never cried again. I had a Daddy that was hesitant and he happened to express this to my husband in Priesthood. My husband assured him his little one couldn’t be in better hands. I love my man. Well, shortly after six months I was called into meet with a Bishopric counselor to be released. I cried and said if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. I had little ones I want to get thru the next month to advance into Sunbeams. He let me stay. I pulled the tears card three times. It didn’t work the third time,. After over three years I was called into the Presidency. The President explained she had a hard time pulling me out of the nursery. She had three little ones in there over the years I served and fought with the Spirit over leaving me in there. I loved that calling. It is the most important calling in the ward. You are the first to start to mold the Army of Hellman outside of their homes. I am now watching those angels head out on missions, go off to college and get married. I also had the second most important, best calling, Valiant 10 and 11 teacher. They happened to be the little ones I had in the nursery. I get hugs and love from those angels often. I have been so blessed to be able to love them not once but twice and forever.

rebkotNovember 4, 2019

Yes, it does seem like there is so much emotional fragility these days. I think the "Sticks and stones" outlook might inspire dismissal or contempt of others, which really isn't great for us. I wonder if thinking about the reasons someone might bully others - see them as the Savior sees them- is a good strategy. Are they abused, bullied themselves? Do they have an overwhelming need to follow/fit in with other kids? are they lacking self-confidence? If we can see them as needing our understanding, or as a person with overwhelming challenges maybe that removes the sting and even brings us some level of compassion for them. I am absolutely sure that if we peeled back the layers on ANY person who is behaving poorly, we would find wounds and weaknesses that would inspire our compassion.

Linda GummersallNovember 4, 2019

My time spent in the nursery was the most uplifting and loving calling I have ever had. I was "Cookie Grandma" and even though there have been ward boundary changes and my little ones have moved up in Primary I get hugs in the grocery store at sports event and other places and still happily wear the honorable title of "Cookie Grandma." I truly feel loved and that I had the best calling in the Church .

Ann-Marie JensenNovember 4, 2019

It helps me to know that others have to beg for help with patience! Thanks for the article and the posted comments!

MaryannNovember 3, 2019

I love doing temple ordinances and have been so excited to find my ancestors as I have researched. Your article brings a beautiful added perspective to my love for this work. Thank you so much.

Carol PriceNovember 3, 2019

Thank you for sharing these amazing insights. I LOVE this.

Doug BlackmanNovember 3, 2019

The same line of thinking needs to be applied to those so critical of our Constitutional President who has done so much good for our country. Even though he had a past of not holding up to some of our standards, he has turned into a great President leading us to historical records of unemployment, lowering welfare needs, limiting abortions, improving our military, and raising the respect for our country and democracy through out the world. He is a man of Faith. Many in the Bible and Book of Mormon came to change and did much good in serving others and God.

Janet OlsenNovember 3, 2019

"There is always a serpent in Eden" stood out to me. There is always opposition. The presence of evil makes the good stronger. I also appreciated that you pointed out that God is not a genie, busy father, policeman etc. I am thankful for that!

Rose C. WalkerNovember 3, 2019

Wonderful to see the inclusion of Richard Cracroft! He was my husband's 2nd mission president, and such a great man. For many years until he passed, my husband would call him when in need of advice. Meeting him a couple of times (mission reunions), and knowing about him from my husband, I adored him as well.

David DurfeeNovember 1, 2019

The possibility that all of the critical variables sufficient to allow galaxies to form (which scientists generally equate with "life") could randomly pop up with the necessary values is staggeringly small. Not exactly infinitesimal, but close. It's why scientists who choose to reject an intelligent creator have basically no choice but to believe that there are an infinite number of universes -- and that we happen to be on one that has life. It seems like a convenient solution, but it comes with its own inconvenient problems. For instance, we are more likely to be computer programs inside a gigantic computer, than real humans. Sorry, agnostic astrophysicists, but that is far more wacky than the "mythology" of religion that you laugh at us for believing in.

JustinNovember 1, 2019

We have had Coco themed Halloween parties at our ward for the last two years, and infused family history into it by inviting people to submit photos of their ancestors and a short paragraph about them. They were hung up for everyone to look at at the party. Of course, there was the taco bar and appropriately themed music. As the Ward Temple and Family History leader, I walked around to tables and gave them a passalong card from thefhguide.com (a family history training site recommended by the church for training purposes).

RandyNovember 1, 2019

Science and DNA determines gender and it takes place at conception. And only women can have periods, even if she identifies as a man, she is still a woman according to her DNA and nothing can change it. Its a sign of mental illness and needs to be treated regardless of what one thinks.

KathleenOctober 31, 2019

CUTE!

Tom ArmitageOctober 31, 2019

Great article and perspective.

Dennis McKayOctober 31, 2019

Such a wonderful article with great ideas and encouragement. Thank you for your thoughts. I hike a lot and meet several new people each day. I would like to hear how others introduce perfect strangers who you've just met to the gospel in such a short period of time. I find some kind of humor helps. Are there other ideas? Love to hear about them.

Beth TOctober 31, 2019

Your words give courage & wondrous counsel. Excited to Proclaim God’s truths with more trust & faith.

LexaGraemeOctober 31, 2019

Hahaha! Another good one!

J COLLINS MEEKOctober 31, 2019

My understanding of Paul's comments about women keeping silence and not teaching men is that he was referring to the secular Roman law which required this (the Roman Empire was dominant during Christ's era). Paul was not referring to Gospel law, as his teachings about women in other contexts testify. - J Collins Meek, Sherwood Park, Alberta, Canada, Oct 31, 2019

ChrisOctober 31, 2019

I had the same question and so I went searching. Here was great site (in 5 parts) that helped me better understand this passage in context. https://margmowczko.com/1-timothy-212-in-context-1/

MichaelOctober 31, 2019

There are some things that can't be resolved or "metabolized" in this life-mental illness for example.

Tacy L. MuzzyOctober 31, 2019

Wow! Great and powerful and thought-provoking insights. Thank you so much!!

Harold RustOctober 31, 2019

Thanks for the broader perspective. Takes me back to those sharing the wearing of chains along with Joseph in Richmond during the 1838 efforts to eradicate "Mormonism" in Missouri. Joseph was confident the Church would continue to fill the earth. If I had been there, would I have had the same confidence? Boy...it would have been difficult to imagine the Church ever building a temple in Nauvoo or establishing a firm base in Utah or building dozens of temples every decade less than 200 years later. We really do have to exercise faith that this is the Lord's work and not man's; that means anything at any time is possible. Just be prepared to do our part.

RochelleOctober 31, 2019

I love this so much! We always ask what we can do, and this family is such an example of using their talents to serve and showing that a little creativity and a lot of love can go a long way to making a difference in the lives of others! Those kids in Bihar are blessed to have such kind friends, here. :)

Kathleen Smith HowlettOctober 31, 2019

Great ideas and insight!

Claudia Henderson SmithOctober 31, 2019

Wonderful article, as usual, Catherine. One scripture though is Hebrews 4:11, not Hebrews 4:13. Thanks for all the effort you put into writing these articles. They are always a part of my weekly Come Follow Me study as well as listening to Maurine's and Scot's podcast.

Claudia GassinOctober 31, 2019

I too would appreciate your sources on this interpretation of a select group

LexaGraemeOctober 31, 2019

Food for thought. Thank you.

Margaret YoungOctober 31, 2019

Much to think about here. I love this insight: "We don’t just tell stories – we live them."

James ScottOctober 31, 2019

While I love the book of Hebrews generally, I’ve alway felt the last half of chapter three and the opening verses of Chapter four told such an incredible lesson of redemption and that the gospel of Jesus Christ was being taught to the Israelites anciently. Many in the world feel Jesus’ teachings were brand new, that the Old Testament could now be ignored. These verses along with Galatians 3:8, that the gospel was taught to Abraham, clearly show the gospel of Jesus Christ was taught to the people of God from the very beginning and that patriarchs of the infant world knew who the Savior was and knew him first person. .l

K. Chin—Modesto, CAOctober 30, 2019

These “helps” are SO well expressed—THANK YOU for sharing them! Our Savior desires to bring us together; it’s Satan who gets us to think of ourselves and others as, “-ites!” If we allow him to divide us from others into “categories” that make us feel any less than beloved children—sisters and brothers—of our Father in Heaven...then we empower Satan to conquer us. What a beautiful reminder of the “eternal now” as we head into a season of thanksgiving and joy. When we focus on ministering as our Savior would (including “ministering” to our own tender spirits and mortal needs) we open ourselves up to blessings of exponential joy and the tender mercies our Father in Heaven would have us receive. This article/letter is a “keeper,” and one I will gladly share!!

Francis NmeribeOctober 30, 2019

Wow! This is an amazing story. I can feel the hand of God in all of it. "His purposes would ripen fast, unfolding every hour", one of our hymns say. Thank you Sister Young for your sacrifices in making this unfolding to happen.

Wally GoddardOctober 30, 2019

Thank YOU all for sharing your gratitude! It brought me even more joy!

Stevie MckennaOctober 30, 2019

Please give the reference for the vocal group of women.

HalOctober 30, 2019

Wonderful article, thank you! My wife and I will review it together this evening.

Jan KuesterOctober 30, 2019

Oh Becky, my heart is rejoicing and my grandchildren and I are doing a happy dance all the while I am both laughing and crying. Praise God!! What can we do to help get this vaccine to our dear brothers and sisters who need it?? Thank you for all you and all at Rising Star Outreach for the blessings from heaven you call down and administer.

Anna FeatherstoneOctober 30, 2019

I totally agree, I've also used prayer as an antidote to choosing contention, and it's a strategy that works wonders. When my son who has Cerebral Palsy would hit me full in the face full of his own turmoil of frustrations, I would often break down in tears and sob my heart out to God right there and then praying for his heart to be softened that he wouldn't feel the need to strike out and that I too wouldn't feel the need to strike out with the words and tone of my voice. Although it wasn't a miracle cure, it took him a few months to really get out of this heartbreaking habit, it certainly helped me to be able to handle the outbursts with greater calm and compassion. It seems vital to me that if we want our children to be able to control their temper, they must have as good an example to follow in their parent or caregiver as possible. And at the time for the parent it feels like a mighty sacrifice, a huge injustice to choose the soft response, the adversary would much rather have us believe we are justified in our anger and retaliation. What we are doing is breaking a whole family history of retaliation, which all comes down to that pivotal moment of choice as the trigger comes at us. I fixed a quote to the wall above our dinner table so I could read it often which says, "And that which doth not edify is not of God, and is darkness" D&C 50.21-22. Thanks again...

DianeOctober 30, 2019

For years and years, my New Year’s Resolution was to not yell at my kids and to be more patient. Every year I failed. I felt like a terrible mother. One year I decided NO MORE! This year I will just set the resolution to BE KIND. That was the key! I found that when I was kind, I was also more patient and didn’t yell as much. This was a great article that reminded me of my days as a young mom.

Margaret YoungOctober 30, 2019

Thanks so much for these sweet comments! The film is in film festivals now. We've been accepted into six throughout Africa and the USA and have won three awards. We will release in the DR-Congo in December. Tshoper will take the movie into areas where people have never seen a film. He will send me pictures of the various audiences and I'll include those in the series installment I do at that time (Dec. 4th for the first Congo screening). We will release in the USA between February and April. We're in process of putting that together now.

Russell NickelOctober 30, 2019

I share everyone else's feelings about this article. You always come up with valuable material for us to contemplate. On a selfish note can you share with me the recipe for pecan brittle? I would appreciate it. My email is [email protected] .

kathryn amesOctober 30, 2019

I like the comments; they answered the few misgivings about the article. How grateful I am that President Nelson is making such meaningful updates on these matters and that the Church is using that to interpret several of the things we are reading from Paul in our Come Follow Me NT studies. We women have waited a LONG Time for these clarifications and are singing silently or out LOUD the hymn that is based on Paul's words: "Rejoice, again I say, "REJOICE"

Joan moodyOctober 30, 2019

Aime handles our apartments for us in Kinshasa. He is a bright, diligent man, always kind even when dealing with crazy demands. It is so nice to read more about his story than we know.

AnaOctober 30, 2019

Thank you for this reminder. This was an answer to my prayers this morning. (Prayer also helps when you have young adult children. )

FrancineOctober 29, 2019

Like TC, I would like to know your sources. I am old enough to have seen different interpretations of this scripture and others regarding gender roles change greatly. Fortunately in the way I always believed they should. But I am old enough to know this was not always what was taught in our faith.

kathryn amesOctober 29, 2019

Where and when may we see the movie you are making about this story?

L. J. HerringtonOctober 29, 2019

Men are that they might have joy. Recently, I realized that the currently held definition of the word joy was insufficient. A roller coaster ride might bring a temporary sort of joy, but does not seem to have an eternal perspective. I came to a conclusion similar to yours, though. If we think of joy as actually having 3 parts, it makes better sense. 1. Happiness, due to a recognition of a particular or general blessing, 2. Gratitude to the Lord for such, and 3. An increase in testimony. I then looked up all the ocurrances of joy in the scriptures, and decided they all made eternal sense, with this recognition.

Diana TOctober 29, 2019

Wally, Thank you so much for this. You knocked it out of the park, again. I've read this twice and literally sobbed both times. What a perfect message for us.

V. MillerOctober 29, 2019

This article brought to my day a nostalgia for my parents, grandparents, siblings, childhood friends and experiences that I seldom ruminate on. I am very grateful for those people in my life that the author mentioned in his. Past circumstances and cherished blessings for my faithfulness during the trying times as well as joyful times, have been brought to the forefront of my thoughts again, and I will experience that JOY once more. Thank you

Jennifer YoungOctober 29, 2019

Love, love, love this. We've always had the sleep on it rule, but the 72 hr. rule is even better, and using it with people and feelings, not just stuff, is so wise! Thank you for sharing.

Marsha NewmanOctober 29, 2019

Perfect! This explanation is great and very much needed. Even girls and women who have long been members of our church and other Christian denominations misunderstand that passage in Paul’s writing. And our Relief Society organization has been a model for Russian civic organizations.

roxanneOctober 29, 2019

This was well done. thank you

BruceOctober 29, 2019

I will share this beautiful message with my children. Thank you for your wonderful insight.

Shauna MurdockOctober 29, 2019

Very inspiring to read your expressive feelings of gratitude.

roxanne dupliseaOctober 29, 2019

thank you for your timely article. gratitude really is important and great blessings come from it. we had a lesson in rs this past sunday on joy and so many had questions on how to receive it.

Vicky Jo SmithOctober 29, 2019

This is an amazing story! Can’t wait to see the rest of it! So many amazing people all around the world!

Alexander ForsythOctober 29, 2019

Women were part of "about 120 in that upper room" when, in fulfillment of Joel's prophecy, the Holy Spirit was poured out causing "daughters" to speak: this during the FIRST church meeting.

James KendallOctober 29, 2019

May I be ever-so Grateful for your example it was something I needed at this time in my life, we just made a big move to another city,(from Salt Lake to Vernal, Vernal was where I was born being a little older and disabled I needed to find employment to help supplement our income and it has been hard so it seems that my mind has been focused on the worldly things instead of the many blessings that have been afforded to me through the grace and mercy of our (Maybe we shouldn't have moved, I won't find a job etc...) Lord having my mind opened if it was for just a short moment now understanding where my focus should be the Joy and Happiness will come the faith that things will work out was so needed. Thank you so very much, James Kendall

Marsha AndersonOctober 29, 2019

Thank you, thank you!

TCOctober 29, 2019

What are your sources for the information regarding the vocal group of apostate women?

L. OgdenOctober 29, 2019

This is a remarkable story ... Post more and more, quickly! God is shining through this brother, very brightly.

JohnellOctober 29, 2019

Wow. I'm so excited to see this film and to know how much the making of it benefited many people. Exiting times for the Congo.

J JamisonOctober 28, 2019

My mind thought of Richard Thomas in one of my favorite movies and TV specials the other day - just saw this announcement today (10/28/19)

DJOctober 28, 2019

So exciting! Can't wait to hear (and eventually see) the "rest of the story"!

JoanOctober 28, 2019

Wouldn't it be better to say Matriarch? Women receive Revelation from God as needed through the Holy Ghost and by the power of the Priesthood. Women have their own divine roll. So we are Matriarchs not Patriarchs.

Daniel BlombergOctober 28, 2019

That is the kind of thinking that makes my soul sing! Thanks for thinking deeply, and putting in the necessary work to make your deep thinking accessible to others!

Jim ScottOctober 28, 2019

A thoughtful presentation and well received. Consider this also, that Onesimus came to Philemon with talents that Philemon either refused to see or recognize. And because of the master slave relationship Philemon refused to use or allow Onesimus to have freedom to contribute or show those talents. Paul’s experience with Onesimus those talents began to show and be developed. Paul then having had experience with Onesimus knew that the slave could be more valuable if given opportunity to show.

WeezieOctober 28, 2019

I disagree. I’ve seen many examples of people I love who’s mood and depression and anxiety completely changed after they gave up all social media and was just present in their lives, instead of comparing themselves to other people’s fabricated wonderful life’s I learned this lesson on my older kids. Social media was a driving force of their anxiety and depression. My next age group of kids will not be allowed to have social media. Why? Because I love them and want them to be happy. This is one way I can make this happen. .

D. Lynn JohnsonOctober 28, 2019

Many think patriarch means Daddy rules. Not so. The word patriarch derives from two Greek words, patria and archo. Patria is like the word for father, but it is a feminine noun. It appears three times in the Greek New Testament, translated as follows: family (Eph 3:15), kindred (Acts 3:25), lineage (Luke 2:4). Thus patriarch means family head. The temple usage of the term teaches us that it includes both father and mother.

Debra MackOctober 28, 2019

Great article. Thank you

Chip WOctober 28, 2019

Wow. Very powerful insight.

Alece ReynoldsOctober 27, 2019

This reminds me of an impulse purchase we made one day of a musical instrument. We were attending a craft's fair in Salt Lake and one vendor had a display of beautiful wooden African slit drums -- something which I had wanted for years, which ranged from relatively inexpensive ones costing about fifty dollars to the most expensive ones, which cost over three hundred dollars. The artist carefully played each one, and it was easy to hear the difference between the 50 dollar instrument and the three hundred dollar instrument while they were being played next to each other. We eventually bought the three hundred dollar instrument because its sound was so much superior to the cheaper one. However, once we got it home, and no longer had the cheaper instrument to judge its superior tone by, we realized that we could have purchased the fifty dollar instrument and would have been just as happy with it as we now were with our very expensive instrument. Interestingly, because of this experience, we have been prompted NOT to make such a mistake again on numerous occasions as we just ask ourselves, when in a similar situation, "Is this another three hundred dollar African slit drum?" Our experience has only helped with impulse purchases, so this Sister's experience is even more valuable, but because they are similar, I can definitely see the value of the 72 hour rule for more important decisions!

PJ UtleyOctober 27, 2019

Enjoyed the video. There are many things still unknown to us from this period of time. The most important is to know that through prophets down through the ages, we have the Book of Mormon, which adds to the testimony that Jesus is the Christ.

Ed RehderOctober 27, 2019

Good stuff! Another way we are blessed to have and understand temple work. Thanks much.

Jay ReesOctober 27, 2019

I enjoy both of your insights into the New Testament. I have gotten a deeper testimony of Jesus Christ this year by thirsting after and feasting on the scriptures, following the 'Come Follow Me' manual, and listening to this podcast. May God bless you two for your hard work, research, and dedication! Thank you so very much!

Claradene StewartOctober 27, 2019

What can anyone say, but thank you for all your effort and work. It is amazing to think that a vaccine has finally been produced for leposy. May Heaven's blessings be upon all of you.

Joel Robin MarksOctober 26, 2019

Fabulous comparison of Lehi's tent activities with the most popular Festival of Sukkot or indwelling by those celebrating the 7 day holiday of the Israelites in the wilderness after traveling and receiving the 'Ten Commandments'. Sukkot has also the small booths and the Lulav etc., the egg and the palm. It is a joyous Jewish holiday celebrated by every hebrew-school student and religious Jew. Thank you for magnifying Lehi's religiosity and strict belief's.

SKnightOctober 26, 2019

If the ex-wife wants a picture, and she asks you to take it, push the camera back and say, "Wonderful idea." Then go stand next to your husband, leaving her holding the camera.Either she'll take the hint, or go get someone else to take the picture. If he knows this is a big deal to you, your husband should stand with YOU and tell his ex-wife that pictures without you aren't appropriate for him and his current marriage. There are so many red flags here. And it seems obvious to all but you what the family wants, especially if she asks one of the "adult" kids to ask you to take the picture, and then the kid asks you. If they are adults, they should know it's not appropriate. I'm divorced, and my son just got married. We had one big picture with everyone, then we took separate pictures--with him, his new wife and the kids, and a separate one with me and my kids. THAT would be more appropriate.

Mary Ann JohnsonOctober 26, 2019

I am weeping!

Charles DefranchiOctober 26, 2019

While a University student in France, I'd listen to my favorite program, "Radioscopy," that each day featured a well-known individal. One time, Raoul Follerau, who created the world's greatest foundation against leprosy, that carries his name, was invited to talk about his life and philosophy. I was greatly impressed with the interview, and wished I could meet him someday. A few years later, while a missionary in Paris, I was asked by a Sister in California to take a Book of Mormon to him. I did, and briefly met him. Interesting how the Lord can fulfill such simple wishes in His own time-table.

FrancineOctober 26, 2019

We need more information. Is this a one dose vaccination or will several doses be needed? How many will the world need to truly eradicate this disease? Are there plans afoot to get a vaccination program underway? Is there a way to help? Is there another host for the disease or will it be like smallpox, once gone no more vaccinations needed? Step one is funded. On to step two.

SueOctober 25, 2019

I feel such joy at hearing this good news. Too much news in the world is ugly and painful. How beautifully refreshing to read this great announcement. God bless Professor Talwar for his years and years of loving service. I am so happy to pray for the success of Rising Star Outreach.

Sandra HaleOctober 25, 2019

This is lovely. I hadn't thought about it this way before but it really rings true that extermination camps are the polar opposites of the temples. Moving piece of writing.

Adrienne ThomasOctober 25, 2019

Why hasn't this stunning news been on the front page of every newspaper and the lead story of every news cast?

JeanneOctober 25, 2019

Amazing, exciting and blessed news!! Hallelujah!! Praise God!!

Caroline OrdnerOctober 25, 2019

Becky, we support you and your efforts!! May God bless you!!!

KristenOctober 25, 2019

I felt empowered after reading this article. Thank you for helping me clearly understand just how accessible Jesus Christ's Atonement is to me, personally! I loved this!

Angie HillOctober 25, 2019

Congradulations on the news of the vaccine. Also to yall at Rising Star and to you, Becky, for your vision and stallwartness in not giving up all these years. I know you have had many road blocks but yall have busted through them and kept going. Yall have done amazing work!!!!

Paula BryantOctober 25, 2019

This is truly a miracle! Thank you for sharing this wonderful news with us. One usually does not know the outcome of contributing to worthy causes - especially those that seem to tug at our hearts. This is thrilling news. Thank you for reaching out with your hope and especially for this saintly man who has given 36 years of his life and energies to finding a vaccine for this terrible disease.

TerriOctober 25, 2019

Dear Becky, As I finished reading your article about reaching the financial goal for building the school in Little Flower Bihar just now, I was moved to tears. I could feet the love, the support, the compassion and generosity of those who contributed. I have been deeply touched by this story and am grateful for the exposure to this cause. I particularly felt moved by the guidance you received in "Look at my children." That had a lasting impression on my heart. THEN when you delivered the news of a vaccine being discovered I burst into tears again imagining the impact of this beautiful gift changing the lives of those with the disease and the hope given for the rising generations. Thank you for all the work you, your staff and other volunteers on the ground do for such a noble cause. God bless you all!

Roberta HarrisOctober 25, 2019

Oh Becky... I want to shout out Hallelujah!!! For the funds raised... for the donor matching them and for the development of the vaccination!!! What wonderful news for us and all the multitudes of people who will be blessed in the future. Thank you,.. thank you. With love Roberta and Don

HeidiOctober 25, 2019

Becky - Thank you for the incredible impact you are having. It's inspiring to read your story and hear how one person can make such a difference when guided by the spirit. You are changing the world! You truly are an inspiration to us all.

HC1951October 25, 2019

Might I suggest Brooke Castillo's thelifecoachschool podcasts about her self-coaching model? I'm finding them life-changing! Another second wife.

Susan SchumacherOctober 25, 2019

I had difficulty reading this feature because of the tears in my eyes! I had just received a text from a friend testifying how the Lord is in the details of our lives. I’m simply overcome with humility. I too work for a charitable organization changing lives in a little village in Mexico. I think when we are able to participate in this kind of work the Lord gives us a vision, very palpably, of how great his love is for his children and what lengths he will bless us as we do Service to those in need. I rejoice in your success and pray that the Lord will continue his blessings over you. The news of the vaccination is a little bit mind-boggling after such a long time.. Truly the day of miracles has not ceased! May God bless us all!

Martin JohnsonOctober 25, 2019

What wonderful news. Truely, one or afew can make a positive difference in the lives of many.

LindaOctober 25, 2019

What amazing news to wake up to this morning! It may be a gray and rainy today here where we live, but there truly is sunshine in my soul. Thanks for sharing, and for the opportunity to participate in such a great work!

Martha ClantonOctober 25, 2019

What a beautiful announcement. Truly a fulfilling of prophecy, when we do our best the Lord does the rest!

Marc E.October 25, 2019

What wonderful news. A true testimony to the power of our Lords commandment to serve one another and the blessing that are poured out from heaven as a result. Thank you and the Organization for all you do.

Anne H. PrattOctober 24, 2019

Magnificent article! Thank you

DeniseOctober 24, 2019

Love this ! Thank you

Annette LillroseOctober 24, 2019

I loved this article. Your message was very timely for me. Thank you!!

P. RockwellOctober 24, 2019

This was a really, really great podcast this week; the best so far for me. I listen to these podcasts every week as part of my scripture study. I am an adult convert to The Church, and have an especial interest in the Apostasy and the Restoration. I really appreciated your information as part of this week's lesson. THANK YOU!

Sherrie CraigOctober 24, 2019

I can only imagine the heartache of this family and others who have suffered such a loss. May they be comforted in their grief is our prayer.

NancyKCarterOctober 24, 2019

It's a shame the dramatization showed stone buildings; Lehi's descendents never build with stone; all their buildings were of wood, or when that ran out, of cement, not fitted stone. The only rocks were those used to make fences around their cities. Check it out.

Rhoda AndersonOctober 24, 2019

Well-said-- great point, thank you!!

SixakidsOctober 24, 2019

This is such a great reminder. Thank you. Byron Katie has been teaching this same turn around for years. It really is life-changing. Thank you for sharing.

rebkotOctober 24, 2019

Really beautiful article - thank you!

Ken HazelbakerOctober 24, 2019

Thanks for so tenderly putting into words what I feel always about music. I maintain there is a tune/lyrics for every experience in life....sometimes I have to modifile the words, but always an application.. Thanks for persevering through your 'cross' and willingness to share with the world your gifts. Also to reach out and embrace others. We listen to you for hours all through the week on Amazon, for the essence you just expressed. Thanks seems shallow, but is all I have to offer. PS: to Meridian = this is why I follow you faithfully everyday since you began, what, 10+ yrs ago? Marvelous, simply marvelous - so much goodness. I never realized about the hymn at the last Supper. To you also, thanks.

ChuckOctober 24, 2019

For twenty years I performed in many different venues in the United States and in 18 other nations, doing public relations work as a representative of our country. With all my professional experience in orchestras and bands, the sweetest, most inspirational experiences I have had with music have been in singing and performing the simple songs of Zion in sacrament meetings and at home. I can attest to the truth expressed in this article. My thanks to the author of this for sharing his testimony of the sweet greatness that good music can accomplish---especially, again, the simple songs of Zion.

Euna PinedaOctober 24, 2019

So true! Thank you for the wonderful article that I’d love to share with my family.

Cindy SavageOctober 24, 2019

Thank you Paul for sharing your love and inspiration with the entire world. You minister God's love to all! I for one am a better person from having listened to your music.

JanOctober 24, 2019

Thank you for this timely article. This is just what I needed today.

DianeOctober 24, 2019

Excellent article! I was definitely convicted.

GrandpaOctober 24, 2019

The "Worthwhile Messages" mentioned by the author in this review is exactly what the Addams Family has always been about. In its own "creepy and kooky" way, there are more family values in one Addams Family movie than in a dozen other movies combined. In an interview, the actress who played Wednesday Addams in the original TV show said that after one day on the set her parents were fans and encouraged her to play the role -- because of the family values this author mentions in this review. If you can see past the mysterious packaging, they really are quite the family.

Alisi FiliagaOctober 23, 2019

Elder Hermann Keredjim Mwanken. We pray that his family and loved ones will feel comforted and supported at this difficult time.

Tired and SilentOctober 23, 2019

With what little we know from the letter the dear sister wrote, I don't know if my situation applies or not. The moment we married my wife had to arrange everything in our lives. Including where I was reading in my personal scripture study. And, when we discussed what we were reading together in the scriptures, every conclusion I made was wrong and she would try to force me to say she was right. (I was a life-long member; she a convert of 2 years, but she believed she knew the scriptures far better than me.) The amazing thing is that the Sunday School teacher can make the same conclusions as me and be right in her eyes - that's when I just gave up trying to study with my wife. Decades later, we can't do the 'Come Follow Me' together because I am still always wrong. Going to the temple has become easier now that I am retired and she is the breadwinner - I am able to attend without seeking permission from her calendar. There is no porn addiction or other such issue in our home. Just someone who has to be right and has to control the calendar for both of us.

pattyOctober 23, 2019

Giving Keri the benefit of the doubt, I'm assuming she has only experienced in her limited circle of LDS acquaintances (be it an LDS ward(s), stake(s), LDS family, LDS friends) those who don't "lovingly embrace" divorced people. Very sad. I must say that I don't categorically fall into her personal experience. I am one of over 16 million LDS people from around the entire world and to be told by a total stranger that I "judge and marginalize" any group of people is simply not "truthfully" true. Who is "truthfully" judging and marginalizing here? Not me.

PattieOctober 23, 2019

Many thoughts and prayers for the family.

Ethel RobinsonOctober 23, 2019

I am truly sad for the loss of Elder Hermann Keredjim Mwanken. He will be missed from the earthly life but, will be with our Father in Heaven. I am so thankful for the eternal family as you can be together again. My love to all that had the blessings of knowing him while he was here.

Bill WeaverOctober 23, 2019

It took over 70 years to be diagnosed with ADHD. I sometimes wonder how much agency we have when our minds are not working on a normal level. Over the years I have struggled to keep my mind clear and clean in terms of sexual purity. It has been a hard hard journey, once I started taking ritalin I found that I stopped having these kinds of thoughts. as the medication wears off these kind of thoughts return. I call it dopamine thinking, my shrink calls it emotional thinking. And, over the years I’ve had to deal with a variety of angry thoughts, and I have always debated like a heat seeking missile. As a PhD chemist I understand the thinking of Farnsworth and Einstein. It is great when an unrelated insight comes to your mind. And, I am finally feeling the sweet piece of calm when I sit in sacrament meeting and sit in the temple and to know that I can bring my mind back to the proceedings that are going on. I finally feel like that I can choose what goes on in my mind.

A. B.October 23, 2019

The family is a species in extinction for sure. I thought of that 20 years ago after vising the local zoo. My own father had recently left the house. I was shaken and thought to myself, "Why in the world did I get married? Will this also end in abandonment?" Fortunately for us, the Lord worked in mysterious ways and my father came back. My parents forgave each other and they are still together. I cry with each episode of Relative Race on BYUTV, because these adults have always had this question in their minds all their lives, "Who is my father/mother, and why was I given up? Wasn't I enough?" I tell our kids they are fortunate to know their father and their mother and know that even though we are not perfect, we love them and are trying hard to raise them to be their best selves.

Dan DergesOctober 23, 2019

Excellent article and very applicable to each of us as we battle with the adversary on a daily basis!!!

Carlin BartschiOctober 23, 2019

Excellent! Very thoughtful and inciteful!

Michelle COctober 23, 2019

Wow! What an excellent, though-provoking article. Thank you!

leatrice ChildOctober 23, 2019

I was very disappointed that Howard Hunter was not mentioned in the article and the important part he played in acquiring the land, etc. for the center.

GayleOctober 23, 2019

I have come to realize that Satan wants to ISOLATE everyone of us from everyone. Then Satan can lead us to total destruction.

KeriOctober 23, 2019

Truthfully, LDS Church members do not lovingly embrace the divorced. They judge them, marginalize them and teach their children not to marry theirs Nice try, but no cigar.,

Shauna FarnsworthOctober 23, 2019

I loved this article! In a time when we as a society have gotten so used to getting whatever we want whenever we want it on credit, this advice is invaluable! We will be discussing this as a family! Thanks you for sharing!

Virginia PartchOctober 23, 2019

I am so very sorry for his family. Also, I am grateful in knowing our Heavenly Father's plan and they will be united!

Candace J BarrowsOctober 23, 2019

Wonderful article. I love how it not only deals with purchases but also feelings!

C SavageOctober 23, 2019

Excellent article, well written! This is very applicable for all to be reminded than any sin, great or small, is shame based and that the advisary inflicted shame on our first mortal parents before they were cast out of the Garden of Eden. This article provides hope and a comfort in reminding us that our Savior claims us in spite of our imperfections and He will help us return hope, amid our battle scars.

Charles DefranchiOctober 23, 2019

Another good example of the "the gospel being beautifully simple and simply beautiful" Thank you so much for showing us how to find peace and healing through its blessings.

BonnieOctober 23, 2019

I am grateful to have become acquainted with these concepts. Thank you for sharing them.

Gary LawrenceOctober 22, 2019

Alexander Forsyth: Thank you for your comment. Beard is credited with inventing the first mechanical television while Farnsworth is credited with developing the first all-electronic television -- the image pickup device known as the image dissector. Lots of patent wars ensued. So who invented TV? Depends on definition and what parts did what job in which type. From what I've read, I still line up with Farnsworth as having made more of a contribution to what we now have. And that's why I made the statement I did. Cheers.

Kirtland StoutOctober 22, 2019

Let's not forget the importance of training one's brain when it is young and in development. One of the best ways for many people is through music and learning a musical instrument. Albert Einstein trained his brain by learning to play the violin, the love of which remained with him throughout his life. Never underestimate the power of music.

DarinOctober 22, 2019

Thank you for the article. Jerusalem has been on my mind a lot lately, with this being the 30th anniversary of its dedication. I was among one of those students 30th years ago to be so lucky and blessed to attend. The building was not yet complete when I was there. One large room had rolls of carpet yet to be put down - and remained so while I was there. Other parts were just shells, yet most of it was complete and so beautiful. They paved the front road shortly after my arrival, so you can see how "new" the building was when my group of 160 students (Fall 1989) became one of the first groups to study and living in the Center. I would give anything to return and see the "completed" building. I feel so blessed to have had that experience. Only another student could understand what that building and program means to those who have attended. I testify there have been "many" miracles in the lives of those who have called the Jerusalem Center "home" for a time.

Alexander ForsythOctober 22, 2019

My Mother worked when I was a young boy; she worked a Backshift. I HATED IT WHEN I CAME HOME FROM SCHOOL AND SHE WAS NOT THERE, FOR ME! Her not being there had a NEGATIVE EFFECT on me.

Alexander ForsythOctober 22, 2019

It is my understanding that John Logie Beard (a Scotsman) invented the Television.

MelanieOctober 22, 2019

This is a crazy good article!! I love it and look forward to your book. Do you remember reading the Meridian article “Faith to Heal the Brain” back in 2015? It is a chapter in the neuroplastic journey of my family. How will we survive the latter days? By being mindful of our thoughts, determining their source and CHOOSING to focus on the Savior when they are deceptive, distracting and/or discouraging. That pretty much sums up October General Conference., too. Thanks to you, and Elder Johnson, and all of the Brethren!

KokoOctober 22, 2019

Such an excellent article! I'm internalizing this and sharing with my children and siblings. Thank you!

rebkotOctober 22, 2019

As usual, This author has written a deeply meaningful article. I am always gratified when I invest the mental work to try to understand his concepts.I appreciate the comprehensive list of sources.

Robert NielsonOctober 22, 2019

Wonderful article. May I mention a smaller miracle that happened in 1973. The second semester abroad to Jerusalem arrived in January under the direction of Donl Peterson. There happened to be some very musically talented students in that group. A musical variety program was put together and performed in Jerusalem just for the fun of it. By chance a member of the Israeli Tourism department attended and was so impressed that the students were invited to tour and perform at several army bases. This was similar to the USO entertainment. Much good will was accomplished. As I look back now, a foundation stone was laid for the future growth that was to come. I was honored to be one of those students but without the musical inclinations. The Jerusalem center was not even a glimmer of an idea in the early days.

NiaOctober 22, 2019

Im grateful to learn such great advice.

Beagle Lover in the SouthOctober 22, 2019

AMEN! As a woman I have experienced both the dismissal of not working (without children at home) and praise for being career active. Some of the biggest critics are not men but other women. We are truly blessed to be able to choose when many others are not that fortunate and working at a paid job is a necessity to make ends meet, not a choice or a luxury decision. Though we have done with less many times when I did not work, the ability for many women to contribute to greater society is a real advantage. It has allowed me to head local civic organizations or serve as their president and volunteer at many places I would not be able to if I worked full time. All these positions are non-paid of course. From my county wide Arts Council board position to animal charities to teenage programs for local youth I currently head up - a woman's impact can be great. Doing so has improved the life of locals in a way many others benefit from. *Often I am the only LDS person they have known well and this has given me opportunities to share my faith & beliefs with other Christians in the area. Much civic work is done by people of assorted faiths in my state. Though women are valued much more in the Church for raising a family, running a household etc. - many others fail to see the value of strong intact families at first glance. (women are the heart of the home) Educating folks about the importance of our families being the basic unit of society is a great way to begin a discussion of other gospel principles. Strong families make strong countries and contribute to the overall good in the world. The Family Proclamation is a wonderful inspired tool, don't forget to use it.

Roberta HarrisOctober 22, 2019

This has been such a wonderful campaign of love!! We love Becky and we love the people she is trying to help and we love and thank Meridian for this amazing project. It is a win win for everyone!!

Craig FrogleyOctober 22, 2019

That was fun!!! Thank you!!!

Charles DefranchiOctober 22, 2019

Wonderful article, so simple but so wonderful. One important detail: it's not only the 78-hour wait that makes the difference, but the very fact that we are thus able to make space for the Spirit to change our perceptions and soften up your hearts if needed. Something so simple but so powerful, maybe the key to making my life and relationships - at 66! - better than they have ever been.

Bob WellsOctober 22, 2019

Thank you for such a thoughtful and well-researched article. I'm continually impressed at how the Lord still let's us learn "line upon line and precept on precept." I find many examples of that, even in the "adjustments" that have been announced by the First Presidency. We know and understand so little that we have no business judging other's beliefs and faith, even those who have left us. Fortunately, the atonement allows for our mistakes and brings about a reconciliation nevertheless. We often seem to talk of "righteousness" in terms of the things we don't do, restraining ourselves from doing evil. I'm sure the Lord wants us to hate sin AND focus on "goodness" in the way we serve and minister to our fellows. But since we all sin, I take comfort in Peter's teaching that "charity covereth the multitude of sins." I appreciate that you found such value in the understanding of a friend from a different tradition of faith. I find remarkable goodness in many of my friends who are not followers of our faith and I hope they find the same in me.

Herm OlsenOctober 22, 2019

Indeed, let us pray that our leaders turn from unrighteousness and evil-speaking, and return to decency and integrity.

TrudyOctober 22, 2019

I wish I had this when I was a young mother

Chris DOctober 22, 2019

Great Council. While you received this wonderful timely advice, your article comes at a very timely point in my life. I have just become unemployed and am in debt more than I should be. While I struggle with my bad decisions from my past, this will help me to make better decisions going forward. Thank you and Heavenly father for bringing me this Message. God Bless

Hal TaggOctober 21, 2019

Thank you for writing this story. I have read this story before, but yours has added additional details that I had previously not known.

KatherineOctober 21, 2019

May the Lord continue to bless you as you do His work.

Kathy HansenOctober 21, 2019

I loved this article. I only wish I had known about the 72-hour counsel given when I was young. I am going to share this with my family.

RosieOctober 21, 2019

I'm a convert who married a nonmember. He was hostile to the Church, then joined the Church, then got his temple recommend. Then he started backsliding. He comes to church every Sunday, but is reluctant to do scripture study, refuses to pay tithing, etc. Everything seems like pulling teeth. Here's the thing-my spiritual progress is my responsibility. Not his. I still go to the temple, pay tithing, etc. Always have, always will. I will be forever grateful to President Nelson for changing the temple ordinance script in such a way, that the progression of every sister does not depend on her husband. This was a big stumbling block for me in the past. Let's not pretend that that wasn't implied when it clearly was, for so long. I think this made for a lot of nervous sisters and resentful brothers. Never turn down a chance to go to sacrament meeting or to the temple. And never make someone else's choices a reason to neglect your personal relationship with the Savior. That's all we can call our own when all is said & done. Don't make it about trying to change your husband. Make it about your own inherent worth as a daughter of Heavenly Father.

GTOOctober 21, 2019

I think we bought that set of books! Great advice. Thanks.

S LindsayOctober 21, 2019

Thank you so much for writing this. I had heard much of it before but this summary included several choice details!

Jane HyteOctober 21, 2019

I really loved this counsel . I’ve lived by the 24 hour wait but not 72 hours . I can truly see the wisdom in waiting. I’m so grateful for this publication!

Thom HallOctober 21, 2019

As one of the 8 grown children of the author, I can attest to the frustration this policy engendered growing up when I wanted something really badly. I can also share of the repeated benefit I have seen when it has been followed in my own life. Sometimes the simplest of principles can have the most profound long-term effects.

HalOctober 21, 2019

Thank you for this article. I have tried to follow the "24-hour rule" and still ended up making financial and emotional decisions that I regretted. This is a good reminder that I always need a three-day "cooling-off" period before making purchases and letting my emotions run away with me.

Barbara ReedyOctober 21, 2019

Please be sure to pray for our Country, it is badly needed.

BrettOctober 21, 2019

Thank you, Becky! Fantastic article and a wonderful reminder of the power we all have to influence this world for the better.

JulieOctober 21, 2019

This is exactly what I needed. Sometimes parents need the words in these moments that they cannot think of themselves, especially if this is their first teen, or child that behaves this way. This advice can be used for any disrespectful interaction! I will be memorizing parts of this article. Empowering advice. Thank you.

Wayne M SantOctober 21, 2019

This is a great story that should be added to the Church's self-reliance materials at churchofjesuschrist.org/self-reliance

Rich BowermanOctober 21, 2019

Great article, great advice. Thx for sharing!

LexaGraemeOctober 21, 2019

Wise counsel, indeed.

Joan ClarkOctober 21, 2019

Thank you for sharing this powerful lesson. The 72 hour rule is inspired.

Haze KompelienOctober 21, 2019

This Stake President gave advice we should all take to heart. As a 65+ woman married over 40 years, I can look back at my life and see the many times I wish I had received this same counseling as a young married. Things would have been better for us.

Suzanne MooreOctober 21, 2019

Good and simple to understand

CarolineOctober 21, 2019

These are great stories. Touching to see such life changing work happening.

Ann-MarieOctober 21, 2019

Excellent counsel! Thanks for your examples of how faithful you were in following it!

Virginia HallOctober 20, 2019

I loved this and have sent it on to family members!

P. RockwellOctober 19, 2019

Excellent article. I too loved the insight and would love to read more like this. Thank you.

John R CarpenterOctober 18, 2019

I then really feel old because I remember separate Priesthood, Sunday School and Sacrament in three different Sunday segments. Relief society was on Thursday and youth programs on either Tuesday or Thursday nights.

MarkOctober 18, 2019

Tom M, I think what the Prophet Joseph Smith said is represented well in the article. Satan “said” he could save them all (he couldn’t) then he rebelled against God. That is exactly what the article states so I don’t see a 180 at all. Thanks for reading!

Margaret E. BatesOctober 18, 2019

Thank you so much for this wonderful article on events in modern days surrounding the building of this beautiful edifice. An additional fact, not mentioned here, and also a capital M miracle: My great grandfather, Elder Adolf August Haag, died and was buried on Mount Carmel, as was his companion Elder Clarke in 1892, of Typhus.These two graves served as the evidence of the Church's presence in Israel prior to the Partition of 1948. This was one piece of the reason that the Knesset and all Israeli officials allowed the Jerusalem Center to go forward. I am so proud of my great-grandfather's missionary service, and for my great-grandmother, Eliza Marolf Haag, who, as a result, raised two small sons to manhood as worthy members of the Church. I just wanted this fact to be included, as it is related in tours of the German Section of the cemetery on Mt. Carmel, when people tour it. If you want to read more, go to Amazon and get the book, "A Missionary's Story - The Letters and Journals of Adolf Haag, Mormon Missionary to Switzerland and Palestine," by Larry Draper and Kent P. Jackson (paperback ed. $21.99)

Janice OienOctober 18, 2019

Great article. Our families traveled that area in 1967 right before the 6 day war. I've recently been to the Jerusalem center send it is simply magnificent. I anxiously await the next step of the Lord's plan. Maybe a temple!

Carolyn DayOctober 18, 2019

You do Amazing things Becky Douglas. Your husband was my son's Mission President.

Norma J EntrekinOctober 18, 2019

I'm confused; What does the law /rule actually say? And why\is the Church opposed to changing it ? Details please- I second K Mc Clure above- Please explain in detail- Thanks

Still StrivingOctober 18, 2019

To "Question" and "Lori". Please, do not give up. To "Question": The change from "dating" to "committed marriage" is filled with emotional pitfalls, and many spouses don't manage these transitions well. Your spouse seems very much overwhelmed with being a true "temple" husband. His work schedule changes may have complicated this. Consider any wholesome work schedule changes that can be made. It may help. Beyond this, follow the Savior's example: "I stand at the door and knock" and "My arms are outstretched still." Meaning, always have a loving space for him, and ever pray that the Lord will draw him into it. Finally, tenderly, gently and lovingly have a true "heart-to-heart" from time-to-time, ensuring he knows of your love, and the importance of these things. Consider sharing with your bishop, if you feel prompted, for possible further help. And ever remember the power of prayer and personal revelation. To "Lori", please, please recognize the significance of the words "to be a Savior on Mount Zion." It refers to our opportunity to stand in the redeeming work of the Savior. He who "paid for something the he had not done" and "for sins He had not committed. Why? Pure Love" (May 2018 Ensign). You are a tool in the Savior's hands, in behalf of your husband. As you do your part, truly great blessings will follow. It can help so much, if you see the wonderful role you are in. In this life, spouses struggle. At church, people may fail us. But the Savior will "never, no never, no never forsake" (Hymn 85), for we are *all* "graven on the palms" of His hands. I so feel your sorrow. Marriage is meant to be so much more than you are experiencing. Trust that the Lord has trusted you to carry this marriage forward. At church, look for the lonely and isolated. As a youth, feeling left out at church, my now deceased father taught me that when I felt alone and even rejected, it can change everything when I look for others I can serve. It really works. Be prayerful, humble, trusting and willing. May you both be blessed.

Ben ArkellOctober 18, 2019

Mariah, thank you so much for this article! It's shows that God is at the helm and has the power to open doors at any time He needs to.

kayOctober 18, 2019

The writer keeps saying she knows her husband is worthy. She can't be 100% sure of that point. I know, I was married to someone who was a return missionary and he acted the same way. Come to find out he had a porn addcition. I tried for 18 years to make it and had 2 kids when I finally had to pull the plug.

Duane CardallOctober 18, 2019

I was with President Holland on his 1985 mission to save the Jerusalem Center in my capacity as a reporter for KSL. Here is what I later wrote about that memorable experience: As President of Brigham Young University, Jeffrey R. Holland’s assignment in the summer of 1985 from the school’s Board of Trustees (the leaders of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) was to travel to Israel and essentially save the BYU Jerusalem Center. My assignment from KSL was to travel with President Holland and report on the circumstances surrounding his challenging mission. The Brigham Young University Center for Near Eastern Studies, as it is officially called, was under construction at the time and about 25-percent complete. A crisis, though, erupted when Israel’s two chief rabbis called for a halt to the construction and thousands of ultra orthodox Jews began well-organized and very public protests against the project. The opposition movement spread beyond Israel, even to Jewish communities in places like New York City. The main objection of the protestors was their concern that the Center would become a base for Mormon missionary activity. They objected to proselytizing in their country and feared that such activity would ultimately be the Church’s intent. Since the Center was a BYU project, Church leaders sent President Holland on a very visible weeklong media blitz to try to diffuse the opposition and solidify support for the Jerusalem Center. President Holland was met at Ben Gurion Airport by hundreds of sign carrying and chanting demonstrators. We learned most were Yeshiva students who had been bused in from their various schools to protest against the Mormons. “Mormons Go Home,” read many of their signs. They constantly chanted the same message. For the next few days, the students were transported by bus to every place President Holland went. “The Mormons are very dangerous,” said Rabbi Menachem Porush who was one of the voices leading the charge. “They have made it unsafe for Jews.” It also became a rallying cry for his Agudat Israel Party to try to topple the sitting Israeli government in favor of one that would be more conservative and religiously oriented. Undaunted and like a politician on the stump, President Holland went from interview to interview and meeting to meeting. From his initial visit with reporters at the airport he moved to one-on-one visits with many of the nation’s top journalists. Like Daniel in the lion’s den, he had an intense session with the opposing Rabbis themselves on their turf, and took occasion to slip into private conferences with leaders of various influential organizations. At every turn his message was concise and clear. Those associated with the Jerusalem Center would not proselytize. The Center, he said, would be strictly an educational institution, an extension of Brigham Young University. And he provided written and verbal assurances that missionary work would not in any way be part of the Center. On one occasion President Holland went face to face and eyeball to eyeball with a vociferous demonstrator. It occurred just outside the Center’s construction site atop Mount Scopus. Despite the taunts of the man, who happened to be a leading Rabbi, President Holland majestically held his ground while declaring with loving clarity his respect for the Jewish people, the city of Jerusalem and the nation of Israel. He gave repeated guarantees Latter-day Saints would honor the law of the land and that no proselytizing would take place by Mormons associated with the BYU Jerusalem Center. Perhaps no one in Israel at the time was more supportive of the Jerusalem Center project than Jerusalem’s long-time mayor Teddy Kolleck. He welcomed President Holland warmly at City Hall, and then proceeded to let him know in no uncertain terms that BYU’s publicity blitz should have occurred much earlier. Kolleck showed President Holland a stack of mail – hundreds of letters in fact – and not one of them from a BYU supporter. It appeared to the Mayor that anti-Mormon groups in the United States had launched an organized letter-writing campaign to oppose a Mormon presence in Israel. The mayor didn’t hesitate to encourage President Holland to generate more visible support for the Jerusalem Center from BYU’s friends in the United States. President Holland looked at me with a wink and nod of the head. Indeed, that message became the focus of my next report and within a matter of days Mayor Kolleck was receiving support letters from all over the United States, including one signed by 154 members of the Congress of the United States. The opposition didn’t summarily end because of President Holland’s inspired mission, but he definitely succeeded in changing the tide of public opinion. In time, the demonstrations against the Center waned and construction of the facility moved full-steam ahead. A pivotal moment came in December, 1985 when Rabbi Porush’s minority party used legislative maneuvering to force members of the Knesset to take a stand on the BYU project. When the vote was tallied, BYU’s opponents claimed only five of the Knesset’s 120 votes. It was an overwhelming victory for BYU and the impressive efforts of the school’s president and future apostle Jeffrey R. Holland. From “Glimpses of Prophets, An Eyewitness Account” By Duane Cardall

debOctober 18, 2019

Excellent article. Learned so much. I'd like to see more articles like this!

Helen C.October 18, 2019

Perhaps this also applies to our lives: “When you start building something in the name of the Lord, don’t ever stop.” Jeffrey R. Holland

Mark SteeleOctober 18, 2019

The document raises some concerns about the proposed rule that should be given consideration before the rule is adopted. However, their request that the rule making process be taken out of the hands of professionals and given back to the legislators is a terrible idea and should be rejected. Let’s let the professionals complete their work and establish appropriate safety from damaging conversion therapies, which the church agrees should be eliminated.

LoriOctober 18, 2019

When I was 54 I met and married a man I thought was strong LDS and by the end of the year he wasn't going to church anymore unless I insisted for his teen daughter's sake who didn't want to go either. 15 years later, now, he still refuses to go to church but puts up with watching general conference but has zero interest in ever being involved again. He hasn't stated any quarrel with the church, just doesn't want to be asked to do anything anymore and has no interest in scripture study or praying together. I have quit going to church because I just cry and feel lonely. My kids moved so far away I can't be a grandma or mom anymore and my husband pretty much only cares about himself. The romantic forever family fable can be a nightmare for many of us. My last husband didn't think the kids and I were worth being kind to either and he was addicted to porn. I joined the church in 1974 because I wanted to feel part of a family and belong to something kind and good after a lonely childhood. The ministering program has been a flop in my area. We have no home teachers or visiting teachers anymore so I have no connection at all since our ward split. I give up.

Jack CadoganOctober 17, 2019

Well done. I love the analogy of the electrical outlet in our ability to connect into God’s power, and the comparison of the treaty to our covenant relationship with God and our actions to make the covenant effective in our lives.

Barbara HobbyOctober 17, 2019

That is just beautiful writing and insightful concepts. There is real meaning there and inspiration for knowing our covenants and really keeping them I love it. The title captured my interest as well.and I enjoyed the very personal analogy, Thank you so much for a meaningful contribution and for influencing our lives with the magazine.

ChuckOctober 17, 2019

My parents named me "Nulon Chalmers Sanford, III", a very unusual name, then nicknamed me "Chuck". When I was baptized over 48 years ago, I knew my Heavenly Father knew me, by name, and had things for me to do in mortality. He still assigns things to me. He still knows my name.

Tom MOctober 17, 2019

Joseph Smith did in fact clarify Satan's Plan. Let's not 180 what he said. Joseph summed up that preexistance controversy saying that Satan claimed "he could save them all." Joseph clarified that Satan's and a third of the hosts of heaven's Rebellion Followed the rejection of Satan's Plan to save All: “The contention in heaven was—Jesus said there would be certain souls that would not be saved; and the devil said he could save them all, and laid his plans before the grand council, who gave their vote in favor of Jesus Christ. So the devil rose up in rebellion against God, and was cast down, with all who put up their heads for him.”

EOctober 17, 2019

I get a lot of ads advertising the church. When I started seeing them I thought, "Why is the church wasting money advertising to me?", but your article has helped change my perspective a bit... I guess I'm doing an okay job using the internet to seek the gospel! I hope those ads are reaching others outside of the church too.

MattOctober 17, 2019

Lots to think about. It would be interesting to see the dialogue extend to the Garden of Eden, covering the actions of Adam and Eve as they have to deal with the Accuser (Satan). Did his tactics change when interacting with Adam and Eve? This can be a very deep subject.

Alisi FiliagaOctober 17, 2019

I never saw the way you expressed and it makes you think. Thank you for an inspiring message. I will always keep in mind.

lizOctober 17, 2019

I think we are too quick to use the word addiction in regards to pornography. I am not trying to diminish the author's experience. I am glad that he found help and recovery with his addiction. However, would we call someone who has a drink with dinner or a few days a weeks an alcoholic? Probably not. To church members, because our standards our high, one drink(even if it is few and far between) is wrong, just as looking at porn one time(maybe one time today and one time next week) is wrong. To me, this does not necessarily equate addiction. I think by saying someone who has a pornography habit has an addiction can lead down a rabbit hole of shame and crippling fear which can actually lead to an increase in the behavior.. It is something that needs to stop to remain worthy, just like drinking alcohol and other things, but let's ease up on calling anyone who looks at porn an addict.

Sherryl CoonrodOctober 17, 2019

I love this, I am a member but was married to a Catholic and I wish while he was still here he could have read this. He passed 3 yrs ago and I did get his work done in the Temple so I am sure he knows LOL. I shared it with my friend who is also Catholic he has been interested in what the Latter-Day Saints believe and so I have told him and I think he will enjoy reading this article also.

Harold RustOctober 17, 2019

I am very interested in the source for the quote from Joseph Smith regarding the convent burning in 1834. That is a quote that should receive wider attention within the Church because it is such a clear demonstration of the wide vision that our prophet had from the very beginning. He was not just focused on unjust actions against member of the Church but also against other people and other religions and at other times. That is a distinct perspective that you simply don't find in charismatic leaders who have claimed they were prophets or should be given total loyalty as leader of a religious or even a non-religious organization. Very powerful.

Judy ParnellOctober 17, 2019

Thank you! As always, Brother Peterson

Kayleen HunsakerOctober 17, 2019

Thank you for sharing this most wonderful and uplifting story. I cried as I felt the spirit so strongly, as I read the ending!

rea raderOctober 16, 2019

why don't you take a idea from Heifer and get the village a flock of chickens, show them how to raise them and get their manure for a vegetable garden that the parents can tend? It's the old teach them how to fish idea.

LizOctober 16, 2019

I'm relieved to see the church take a stand for reasoned fairness. There are a pleura of counselors who are ready and willing to celebrate, encourage and even promote alternative life styles. There should be agency to choose a counselor who can give compassionate care for someone sho wants to consider other paths. Enough of the scare tactics - time for reason.

Wally GoddardOctober 16, 2019

Lexi, I think our goals should be focused on knowing and following Christ.

Judith H. RoseOctober 16, 2019

Thank goodness the Church is taking a stand against a rule that would seriously affect the efficacy of counselors in dealing with LGBTQ concerns. No psychologist should be limited in his or her counseling in this important area. Each has received specific and thorough investigation and education in how to meet the emotional needs of their clients. Lawmakers do not know more than these counselors. Furthermore, each client always maintains the right to accept or decline advice and/or treatment concerning this sensitive issue.

Margaritab dangoOctober 16, 2019

God is almighty & loving. He knows our needs & make a way for us to do the things we can not do for our selves which are right in accordance to His pattern. If our thought are righteous like Rachaelle grace of God abound in us. Thanks for sharing.

Sonja HopkinsOctober 16, 2019

It is obvious that you have a problem. Your husband and his sister don't have a problem...they have behavior. Until their behavior becomes their problem, it will continue to be their behavior. There is an old saying: "If you can't wean the baby, you have to sour the milk." Setting boundaries isn't about telling them what they have to do...it's about establishing what you need in order to remain in the situation. To the degree they are willing to honor your boundaries you will know whether you can remain in the situation. There need to be natural consequences for the violation of boundaries that are clearly communicated when the boundaries are established. Since you are the breadwinner, you have a lot more leverage then either of them do. In the event you withdraw your financial support what would they do? Maybe it's time to find out. For instance, if they respond with "are you kicking me to the curb?" You response might be: "No, I'm not kicking you to the curb....your behavior is doing that." This isn't really about them - it's about you and what you've taught them about how to treat you. Your task is not to seek for peace in your life. Your task is to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. SImply put....don't blame a clown for acting like a clown...ask yourself why you keep going to the circus.

Ashlee Taylor LaytonOctober 16, 2019

So "trek" is of biblical precedence. Hmmmm. Thanks for sharing your insights, Brad.

K. McClureOctober 16, 2019

So what is the proposed rule?

The struggle is realOctober 16, 2019

Amen to others who have commented who were also hospice workers. I made the mistake of sticking up for family members when they stayed a year in our home with their destructive dogs. My spouse (like you) kept trying to kick them out nicely but I was foolish and kept feeling sorry for them all while they manipulated us, (me imparticular) and rarely helped around the house. After a horrible incident with their dogs and mine they moved out. Our marriage took a big hit in the year long struggle and now we are mending it and I take a lot of the blame for that. If your husband is going to be physically aggressive and always angry with you then I guess you give him the ultimate ultimatum, but with love and a non-emotional delivery as best you can. Give it to him straight "If your sister does not leave and you choose to continue to make me support her and her drug habit in our home, I will start divorce proceedings in two weeks if she is not gone and you refuse to get counseling with me." The end. Do get a lawyer first as CL suggested. Your sister-in-law has no right or business living with you; destroying your marital intimacy and deepening wounds in your already fragile marriage. Either he will care enough to take you seriously and let go of his manipulative sister or he will stick with her first because blood is thicker then marriage to him. I feel for him as I am easily manipulated by others and their "hardships (they bring on themselves) as well". If I could go back and redo this last year I would have kicked the extra family members out with in two months and their dogs would have gone to the shelter to be adopted by people who could care for them properly, "no if and or buts" and certainly I wouldn't have allowed their dogs to hurt my own dog. They kept telling me they were "working on it" when it came to getting rid of their dogs until it was too late. Don't be as stupid as me. Often we allow ourselves to be manipulated by those who have been through severe trauma as children as we feel we are helping make up for how crappy their childhood was and we want to prove we are better then their parents were. However there's nothing we can do or say that will help them out of their victim mentality and they will always play the victim card to serve themselves. They are survivors and manipulate others to survive. We choose how much manipulation we're willing to take till we hit a tipping point then we free ourselves. Good luck and prayers for all.

karell BinghamOctober 16, 2019

This is another thought about the small huts that they make, indeed they are a covering to celebrate their escape from Egypt, but if you see Egypt as "The world" or sin, then the hut is a covering, the word "Kaphar" is a Hebrew word for Atonement. When we leave the World behind, we are covered, protected, by the atonement. Could be.

Trish HeatonOctober 16, 2019

I think the question about financial obligation to spouse or children should include, "or anyone else."

Tom KunzOctober 16, 2019

Mark, I am so appreciative of this article as it has answered a question that I have been pondering for a couple of months now. I was teaching the plan of salvation to a gospel learner (someone learning how to read and write using the Church's Gospel Literacy program) and as I was explaining the presentation of Satan's "plan" that would force people to do good, I felt a "stupor of thought" and the spirit confirmed my statement was incorrect, but I didn't understand it fully. Now I see that Satan's plan was a short-sighted, short-term plan of rebellion with no consideration of the consequences - and this is why it was a LIE. The statement by Elder McConkie that you quoted turned all the rest of the light bulbs on for me. "His offer was a philosophical impossibility. … Lucifer and his [followers] sought salvation without keeping the commandments” (Millennial Messiah p. 667)." Thanks for taking the time to share these valuable insights with me.

Alexander ForsythOctober 16, 2019

LORD in the context of the Old Testament is always in "upper case". The reason: it is the English equivalent of the Tetragrammaton. I noticed LORD is used twice; other times the incorrect Lord is used. Should the writer desire to contact me, feel free to do so.

Tom KunzOctober 16, 2019

One more thought. There is imagery in the word "strait" that I think helps to differentiate it from "narrow". One definition of a strait is a narrow waterway that connects to larger bodies of water on both ends. I believe the strait and narrow way, is the path that connects our premortal existence to our potential postmortal glory. Seen in this light, the strait way is the path that has both a beginning point and a destination. Both glorious in all aspects of the word.

Tom KunzOctober 16, 2019

Thank you for this wonderful article. I have two thoughts I would like to share to build upon what has been said. The first is in relation to the Iron Rod which is the Word of God. Perhaps the most important part of the Word of God is the still small voice that prompts us to do good. If we can learn to obey that voice, I believe we will never lose our way. The second is the word "cling". It is interesting that in Lehi's vision in 1 Nephi 8, those who were "clinging to the rod of iron" in verse 24, were ashamed in verse 25. However, in verse 30, those who came forth "continually holding fast to the rod of iron" did not seem to be ashamed and were not lost. I think there is something significant about "continually holding fast" vs. "clinging". Just as a child "clings" to its mother's apron, as soon as she moves, the clinging child loses their grip. "Continually holding fast" paints a more firm grasp of the rod than merely "clinging". I also like the relationship of this imagery to being "steadfast and immovable" as suggested at least four times in the Book of Mormon (Mosiah 5:15, 1 Nephi 2:10, 3 Nephi 6:14 and Alma 1:25.

Marsha NewmanOctober 15, 2019

As usual, Brother Frogley has deep and thorough explanations of all things spiritual. His degree of "light" is inspiring and wonderful! Thanks for this insightful article.

Tom MOctober 15, 2019

Forced goodness is just as evil as forced "goodness." That is an eternal truth and can't be changed by shifting traditions of men.

LexiOctober 15, 2019

Hmm. So then what do you think about the new youth goal setting initiative by the church? Because I believe prophets get revelation and know what’s best.

Gary OliverOctober 15, 2019

Thanks Brother Goddard for explaining something that has bothered me for decades ever since I heard the statement; "I don't believe in New Years Resolutions, I believe Repentance." Goals and resolutions that do not include the influence of the Atonement of Jesus Christ lack the power to make the fundamental changes to effect conversion to more highly developed character. The "natural man" is only over come by responding to the " to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, ... becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord." Mosiah 3:19

rebkotOctober 15, 2019

I have sometimes been troubled trying to understand the wrathful God, especially of the Old Testament, since my personal experience with God has been so loving and tender that I can't imagine any other interaction. This article makes such perfect sense, and is so comforting! thank you so much for this!

Charles DefranchiOctober 15, 2019

What seemed impossible only a few years ago has now turned into a reality. What's next? Doing away with Christmas out of respect for non-Christians and non-believers? I bet this will happen not too far from now. So sad!

VardellOctober 15, 2019

Yes! Thank you! And once you understand that we are indeed saved by our faith in Christ, rather than through an abundance of accomplishments and self-perfecting, then you will see scores of examples of this throughout all the scriptures. Consider the common elements in the examples you mention; they all include feeling an extremely broken heart (fear of the Lord), then pleading for mercy, then being immediately forgiven; and only after these elements are they transformed, not through accomplishing a list of goals, but by being a new creature - by the power of Christ. These elements of feeling fear, pleading for mercy, being forgiven and changed by Christ are everywhere in the scriptures; they are present in the accounts of: King Benjamins people, of Enos, of Lamoni, of his father, of the wicked Lamanites in Helaman 5. They are present in the accounts of Paul, and the prodigal son, and of Job, of the publican and of the blind man in Luke 18. No wonder Paul says, "therefore we conclude that a man is justified by faith without the deeds of the law."

Cynthia M. MoorheadOctober 15, 2019

Beautiful article, as all of Brother Goddard's writings are. In this one he says what I discovered for myself many years ago: we can work and struggle and fight to change ourselves, but nothing really changes until we ask the Lord Himself to change us. Then amazing things happen. Sometimes they are very hard--but they work. He knows how to change us, and "all we can do" never can.

Roberta PalmerOctober 15, 2019

I cringe when I see, read, or hear about Satan’s “Plan”. He had NO PLAN! He only offered a “proposal”, a proposal of REBELLION! Not a “plan” of rebellion. There was and always has been only one “Plan” and that was/is Heavenly Father’s Plan of Happiness, So whenever I read or hear about Satan’s Plan, I change it to Satan’s proposal! But not all members understand the difference and mistakenly go forth thinking there were two or three plans presented...Heavenly Fsther’s, Jesus and Lucifer! I have actually had Sunday School teachers present this false doctrine! It makes my heart actually hurt!

MarkOctober 14, 2019

JE, according to D&C 121:37-43 we should not use unrighteousness force. It is not a good method but not “Satan’s Plan.” Does that make sense?

Chuck DeWittOctober 14, 2019

Very informative article and well documented. Thanks Garth for sharing some wonderful inspiring information.

Douglas and Ruth RoseOctober 14, 2019

I learned about the MeridianRising Star Outreach school project from Susan Fullmer, a subscriber and neighbor. Like some others, I am reluctant to make online contributions, so I was pleased to see that there is a check donation option. As the founding directors of Latter-day Saint Charities in India 1998-2001, we provided project support to leprosy institutes in Tamil Nadu and Nepal, so we know first-hand from our visits to the institutions the conditions lepers and their children endure and value of schooling for these healthy, but disadvantaged youth.

Addie M SimperOctober 14, 2019

Bless you Becky for sharing this story of Suku's remarkable example of sacrifice. He has surely set priorities that may not make earthly sense but will certainly have far reaching eternal consequence in the lives of those he serves. Bless him and his family. I hope they are soon happily reunited.

RitaOctober 14, 2019

I've been reassured several times by the Spirit that the duplicated names of many of my ancestors are each known, even if I have trouble telling who's who. Having birth or death dates really helps, though!

MarciaOctober 14, 2019

You don't have to be the "Meanie", but you do need to set some ground rules and establish that you have power in your own home. Maybe the sister can stay if she does certain things hat are rquired, such as not illegaly smoking pot in your home, putting you in jepordy of the law. She should have "chores" as should anyone living with you. Pray earnestly about what ground rules to set for the entire family, then present them to each family memer so that they know just what is expected of them. Set a time limit for them to comply and lay out clearly the consequences if they don't. This puts them clearly in charge of their destiny as to whether they stay in your home or not. It is what THEY do that will determne if they stay or go. Giving them this power will releave you of the stress of making them do what they don't want. If your husband is capeable of helping you make these rules, by all means involve him in that. You are partners and if you approach him in asking what he thinks would be adequate rules, may go far in helping your marriage relationship. You are not meant to carry this load alone. Seek The Lords help and confer(not demand or even request) with your husband. Praying for you to have comfort and strength, maybe a blessing from your Bishop is in order. I got one from mine that turned around a lousy atmosphere and awful relationships in my home.

Alisi FiliagaOctober 14, 2019

Thank you for sharing this story as a constant reminder, I could be like this little boy. At times need to correct many wrongs but too proud to walk and correct. A great father with his day off to teach is son a lesson that means a lot and I believe the son has become a great individual from many years at young. Best example I can follow!

John KammeyerOctober 14, 2019

I was in a sealing session once, where we mangled a bunch of Dutch names. I thought, "I sure hope somebody knows who we're talking about." A voice in my mind responded: "Yeah, we know, we have our own lists."

Thalia TaylorOctober 14, 2019

Scot, thank you for this comparison/analysis. I would read line by line to try to see the difference in the wording. Your assessment is spot on.

L PotterOctober 14, 2019

I recently watched a video taken during a meeting in California (that has since been removed from YouTube, Google, and Facebook) just after the mentioned education law was passed. Planned Parenthood was training representatives from various school districts about how to integrate the "gender spectrum" into various non-related topics, so parents would not be able to completely "opt out". Additionally, there was specific discussion about how to help a girl who wants to leave during school hours to get an abortion without her parents finding out. They were instructed to falsify the online attendance record to state that the girl was "with an administrator" during that time; laughing that it was a necessary "white lie."

Harold RustOctober 14, 2019

Wonderful and delightful examples of a simple concept which has very deep meaning.

JEOctober 14, 2019

Well said. Question, what then of force against agency, like the example of parents forcing their children? Still wrong? Just not part of Satan’s plan? Or are we saying this is acceptable?

KrannyOctober 13, 2019

To address Barry's question: What does “a third part” of Heaven constitute? Many tend to shorten the scriptural phrase “a third part,” by saying “a third.” “A third” means to have three equal parts of a whole. But does “a third” mean the same thing as “a third part?” If something, such as a play, consists of three parts--a first part, a second part, and a third part--are they necessarily equal? If I tear a piece of paper into three unequal parts, each of the three parts of the whole piece is a third part, despite not being equal. The scriptures teach about another part of God’s children, His elect, which could be a first part. The Prophet Lehi said that “[Christ] is the first fruits unto God, being the first that should rise [from the dead], inasmuch as he shall make intercession for all the children of men.” (2 Ne 2:8-9) In the Book of Mormon, Jacob wrote that to “be reconciled unto [God the Father] through the atonement of Christ” [would place us in a position to be] presented as the first-fruits of Christ unto God.” (Jac 4:11; D&C 88:96-8) This concept of three parts implies that there would also be a second part, which Elder Melvin J. Ballard suggests may have been neutral towards God’s Plan of Salvation. (“The Three Degrees of Glory,” Odgen Tabernacle, 9.22.1922). I just struggle to accept the idea that God could have lost a third of His children. But, we really don’t know at this time.

tony fullerOctober 13, 2019

GTO is the only commenter that hit the nail on the head. old flames change in 55+ years. even if photos have been exchanged, they may not tell the current truth.

DawnOctober 13, 2019

Moses 4:1-4 1 And I, the Lord God, spake unto Moses, saying: That Satan, whom thou hast commanded in the name of mine Only Begotten, is the same which was from the beginning, and he came before me, saying--Behold, here am I, send me, I will be thy son, and I will redeem all mankind, that one soul shall not be lost, and surely I will do it; wherefore give me thine honor. 2 But, behold, my Beloved Son, which was my Beloved and Chosen from the beginning, said unto me–Father, thy will be done, and the glory be thine forever. 3 Wherefore, because that Satan rebelled against me, and sought to destroy the agency of man, which I, the Lord God, had given him, and also, that I should give unto him mine own power; by the power of mine Only Begotten, I caused that he should be cast down; 4 And he became Satan, yea, even the devil, the father of all lies, to deceive and to blind men, and to lead them captive at his will, even as many as would not hearken unto my voice.

Matt ThorleyOctober 13, 2019

I strongly concur with Neal Christensen. After the “run” and “hide” options are exhausted, what are we supposed to “fight” against the active shooter with? Our hands? Concealed carriers are not the problem, they are the solution. Making the church a gun free zone only makes it more of a target, not safer.

Andrew StoutOctober 13, 2019

Sadly, this is why schools with young children have been targeted. They are gun-free zones with a large quantity of ready-made victims unable to easily or properly defend themselves. Gunmen are typically cowards who want minimal resistance when satiating their mental health crises. They only want to attack unarmed and defenseless people, hoping for maximum damage before the police finally arrive and lay siege to the facility *outside*, while the victims and the shooter(s) remains inside. I look forward to living in a world without Telestial beings determined to harm and kill others, but that isn't the case at this point. It is certainly a conundrum.

CLOctober 13, 2019

Here's the situation: You are the breadwinner. The house is likely in your name through the rent contract or mortgage. You have a dependent (husband) who is abusive in various ways. That is NO excuse for anything. He is also betraying his marriage to you by catering to another woman (his sister). There are huge boundary problems in your relationship. She is violating the law by the marijuana use, which you are exposed to the odor daily and you take it with you on your clothes to go to work around terminally ill patients. Here is what your options are. You need first to consult an attorney and have sister-in-law removed from your home, by law-enforcement (through a court order) if necessary. Unfortunately, your husband does not sound like he will be cooperative, so I would not waste any more stress with this situation. I have been exactly where you are, and I am a retired paramedic-nurse myself. I also worked in hospice care at the same time I had to go through a divorce. You must not leave your home. This is your home, YOU do not pack your bags. PLEASE consult with a lawyer immediately to assess your rights in this situation. And I would highly recommend any special counseling in betrayal trauma, because you are definitely going through that. www.btr.org. Be selective with counseling. Not every therapist will be appropriate, and clergy is not trained in this either. Praying for you....

Wendy RojasOctober 12, 2019

We should be able to celebrate both the native populations of the American continent and the arrival of Columbus. We would do well also to remember that the conquistadores were cruel to several peoples that received them openly. I am a descendant of people from both the old and the new worlds; I am proud of my Native American heritage as well as grateful to those that were adventurous and brave to cross the ocean to seek for a new life in this continent.

SterlingOctober 12, 2019

I suggest another article that might also be very informative, and even help to clarify the church's recent outreach efforts. As you state, what we see in society is Satan's plan growing. However we need to learn the peaceful balance between advocating the Lord's position and then allowing society to make its decision. And when that decision is made, to accept that we may be subject to it. Elder Oaks has been vocal on this as well.

Susan MorrisOctober 12, 2019

Yes! Satan's plan, or lie, was, and is, totally unworkable. It is contrary to the laws (physical, moral, social, and spiritual) upon which the very universe exists (see 2 Nephi 2). These foundation principles are 1. opposition in all things (vs.11), 2. purpose in creation, or progression (vs.12), 3. agency, or consequence from choice (vs.13). In fact, the end result of Satan's plan would be chaos--annihilation of all matter, including ourselves and God (vs. 13). The fruits of Satan's plan are seen everywhere today as the Destroyer seeks to destroy--never create, build up, or sustain--individual integrity and responsibility, biological sexual identity, the traditional family, civility and trust in communities, rational political exchange, government safeguards of natural rights (parental, speech, religious liberty), national boundaries and defense, international cooperation, an so on--forever.

Charles DikeOctober 12, 2019

I understand that the Psalms were written over a few centuries. Do we know which of the Psalms are the oldest?

BobOctober 11, 2019

I think part of the answer is found in 2 Nephi 2 and opposition. There must be opposition in all things. "[M]an could not act for himself save it should be that he was enticed by the one or the other." One of the things that creates opposition is law. I think Satan wanted to remove law and thus destroy the agency of man.

EOctober 11, 2019

Isn't this what mainstream Christianity says? "You don't have to DO anything thing to be saved" (Except say the sinner's prayer).

Jamie DanaOctober 11, 2019

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perspective regarding conversion therapy. Although it's a vast improvement to remove aversive conditioning techniques from treatment protocols, it's important to remember that there is a difference between choosing to refrain from sexual relationships and purporting to be able to change sexual orientation. I'm not aware of any published research in the most reputable scientific journals supporting the idea of orientation change, which is the purpose of conversion therapy (this is the reason that the Counseling Organizations such as the APA don't support it being practiced by professional counselors). People may choose to live in a mixed orientation marriage/choose celebacy, feel some level of attraction to each sex/or have a lower sexual drive. These factors may impact the choice that he or she makes in relationship development. But this is not the same thing as a change in sexual orientation. It is a change in behavior. It is also important to consider the increased risks of suicidal ideation/anxiety/depression among unaccepted individuals, regardless of which side of this issue you may find yourself on. As the article says, our goal should be one of acceptance, a hope for healing, and understanding.

Doran RiceOctober 11, 2019

I have always cringed when someone would state that "Satan would force us to do good". In and of itself that is not obedience and thus a false thought. I offered a comment that removing our Stewardship/Agency/Commandments we would not be accountable for any of our functions or duties not completed. Alma 42 and D&C 93 speak of this situation. Agency, in this case, means exactly as the dictionary states, "The function or duty of an agent" The meaning of the word agency to be "Freedom of Choice" seems to have been initiated by Orson Pratt about 1855, he then further coined the word "Free Agency" also to mean "Freedom of Choice" All of Joseph Smith Jr. writings, the word Agency means Stewardship. So to destroy our Agency would mean to have our commandments/duties taken away leaving no penalties.

LeeOctober 11, 2019

I have felt this for years and wish all members would read this. Moroni 7:17 teaches the same thing. He won't persuade anyone to do good let alone force them to be righteous. That's for the article

Roberta HarrisOctober 11, 2019

I finished this article reading through tear filled eyes. Thank you Becky once again for a story about India and telling us about Suku, who is truly such an amazing man! Oh if only there were more like him but then maybe there will be after others read his story.

Analili BurrowsOctober 11, 2019

Rebellion was and still is Satan's plan! Thank you for making this clear to me.

Todd LillywhiteOctober 11, 2019

Amen! Amen! and Amen! I have been saying this for a while now. Satan's "plan" is mostly removing the consequences of our actions. Which is in large part what modern society is being led to do. When people resist holding the line on laws, commandments, and moral mores they think they are being loving or understanding. In reality that is how Satan behaves. It is Heavenly Father who holds the line, and requires conformity and punishment and repentance for infractions. Establishing laws and their consequences is not forcing people to do be righteous. But, it does train us to be righteous and love order and propriety.

Thomas 2.0October 11, 2019

I am reading this beautiful article over and over again these past few months. It is Extraordinary. Its special to me and I can hardly read it without crying. Thank you Josh and Thank you John for being part of a traumatic event that has influenced my life positively for the better in a profound way.

Linda SmithOctober 11, 2019

Joseph Smith said that as Man is, God once was. As God is, Man may become. It seems to me that Satan's plan would never work because he and his followers were not striving to become "as God is." There truly was no choice about Satan. All of eternity rejected him because of his rebellion. He literally couldn't have "taken" God's glory. God couldn't even "give" it. It is like the 5 foolish virgins who asked the 5 wise if they couldn't give of their oil. It simply can't be done. It must be learned and earned.

Jeff BellOctober 11, 2019

Would it not be much easier to "fight" if one was holding a weapon? Because I would, for lack of a better word, bet the perpetrator would have a weapon.

MJOctober 11, 2019

I just came across this article and want to applaud “Kate” as I thought the same thing on some of her points. Cornering someone into a lie because you are shaming them for their choices is somewhat how I saw this woman as well. According to C.J. the lies are abuse. Are they? This woman apparently married him knowing he wasn’t a member yet is trying to force him into her way of thinking with her behavior of questioning the drinking constantly knowing he will protect himself with the same lie. I’m not excusing him, just wondering if this woman knows her part she plays in the discord. I was married several decades to a non-member who made his own choices about what he drank or did and my shaming, argument or contentiousness never got him into the eternal marriage we have today but in fact had the opposite affect. It took decades learning this and in fact and the same idea is working with those of my children who have become inactive. It took love and respect, moving on with my own eternal goals and letting him make those decisions for himself. I first had to see that the only person I can change is myself and keep on with my own soul work. Then things started to change and fall in place which was a surprise to me as it had been so long I had somewhat mentally given up on that happening. Things may never change in her case and I wonder where she is with this shaming of him months later? We must love people where they are and that unfeigned love can start to move mountains.

Denise StoehrOctober 11, 2019

Mind. Blown. So many new ideas in this for me. Fantastic!

Neal ChristensenOctober 11, 2019

When seconds count, the police are only minutes away. Concerning the carrying of concealed firearms, the lawful carriers of concealed firearms are not the source of the danger and the prohibition of firearms does not deter those who are intent on harming an unarmed group of people. Indeed, it just makes it easier and safer for the perpetrator of the violence.

RayOctober 11, 2019

Very well written and easily understood article. Many church members today still believe that it was like an election when we met in the Great Council in Heaven. As you outlined, this was not the case. Heavenly Father called His family together to present a Plan for our continued growth and salvation. Jesus Christ accepted His divine role in our continued growth and salvation. Satan rebelled against the Plan of Salvation and presented his lies and deceit to convince us of "the easier path" knowing full well that there was no easier path. What motivated his rebellion is still not fully known but a third part of our brothers and sisters got caught in his web of deceit and lost their eternal inheritance. Let us, who still have opportunity for eternal inheritance, choose to follow the Father's Plan of Happiness by following Christ's example and not get caught up in the current rebellious nature and the downward spiral the world is trending towards. Satan is still actively campaigning for our souls but we all need to realize that there never was an election in the first place.

MarieOctober 11, 2019

He who knows no love knows no family. Satan will not support or defend us

Roberta A PetersonOctober 11, 2019

Thanks so much for this article. I, too, am tired of hearing Saints misunderstand this issue. It simply makes no sense to think that Satan wanted to guarantee that all of us would be righteous. His "plan" mirrors what we see in corrupt government today--the desire for power over all of us. We need to judge leaders by whether they desire liberty & agency for us or control over us.

Julie ArcherOctober 11, 2019

“Satan’s War on Agency” by Greg Wright should be read by every member of the church. It is a valuable gift of knowledge on this topic and the true definition of agency. After reading this you see Satan’s true plan everywhere in society and you know how to properly educate your children to see it and use their agency again to choose Christ. It’s sad how many traditions in the church have become a stumbling block to truth.

AndrewOctober 11, 2019

Thank you. I've been saying this for years. Glad to see it so well put.

JulianaOctober 11, 2019

I too work with hospice. Your nature is to be patient, kind and to look to others well being. Hospice is a demanding occupation, especially for a nurse. I cannot imagine living under your current conditions and if I were you, I would pack a large suitcase and move out and give yourself some space and time to allow your head to clear and hear God. He does not require you to be miserable or to sacrifice your own well being and earthy progression. You are being used, manipulated and in-prisoned but you hold the key to your own jail cell. Take care of yourself or there will be nothing left to care for anyone else. And whether or not you admit it, your home stress is affecting your performance at work. God wants to help you. Let him.

Barry BennettOctober 11, 2019

Excellent discussion and doctrinally accurate. We tend to interpret scriptures based on jumping to conclusions at times, when further pondering allows a deeper perspective and truth. I would ask one question your discussion opens. The scriptures never say that 1/3 of the hosts of heaven followed Satan. Instead, they say the third part followed Satan. Nowhere in scripture does it state that the third part was 1/3 of our Fathers children. Perhaps this “third part” was not the same size as the first or second part. Could this be true?

SylviaOctober 11, 2019

Satans addendum to the plan had to have been more enticing to have 1/3 of the host follow him. Which plan would that be. Forcing righteousness or no consequences for your actions?

SylviaOctober 11, 2019

I have found that when this principle is explained to members of The Restored Church of Jesus Christ they think they are being forced and don’t want to listen to the truth. Maybe more articles and people talking about this subject with the Holy Spirit would help blow this myth.

DianeOctober 11, 2019

Great article! I have long believed that “force” was NOT Satan’s plan. Your article put stated it so well!

EmilyOctober 10, 2019

Camilla Kimball was the official witness to a baptism her husband performed in India in 1961. I do know Joseph Fielding Smith objected to women serving as witnesses to temple ordinances. I think it was when he found out they were being used in Canada, the Alberta Temple. But according to the David O. McKay papers, President McKay did did not object. So the change occurred sometime after President McKay was the prophet. I think we will get more information as researchers try to pin down the date of the change. Plus I read that Vienna Jacques was an official witness to baptisms for the dead when they were performed in the Missippi River in the 1840's. So really, Church leaders restored a right women enjoyed for over 100 years. It was not a new right they granted.

GinaOctober 10, 2019

Terry, I believe you are conflating two separate events. Joseph Fielding Smith did object to women serving as temple witnesses in 1959 when visiting the Alberta, Canada Temple. However, President McKay continued to think it was fine. The change to stop allowing women to be witnesses did occur about 1976. Uncertain to to why because there clearly had never been any doctrine to support the change.

GinaOctober 10, 2019

Jim, unfortunately for many women I know, the idea of being a wife in the eternities where there is another wife is revolting. They choose not to truly love their husband because they fear the pain that will result from sharing him. They hate polygamy, the same way Emma Smith hated it. Leaders of the Church can reassure or make light or command them to get with the program, all of which has been tried in the past. It does not work. Men commit to women when they feel uncertain, afraid they might lose her. Women commit when they feel safe. If the possibility of having to share him exists, they hold back. And getting a sealing cancellation is often necessary for someone to heal before they feel ready to make that commitment again if they suffered greatly at the hands of another priesthood holder. Unfortunately, too often the sealing cancellation request is turned down, leaving the women feeling their choices are outside their control, in the hands of faceless men who do not understand their needs and think sending them a form letter denying the request they agonized over is somehow helpful. I actually considered getting engaged to my boyfriend in order to get the sealing cancellation, then calling off our engagement, but could not do it to him. But I felt that desparate. This conference contained so much that was wonderful for women, but we still have not addressed everything that is wrong. The fear of polygamy and having your own power to truly escape an abusive marriage remain to be addressed.

JOctober 10, 2019

This article would be enhanced with references to Pres. Nelson's extraordinary talk to the women in Oct General Conference. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2019/10/36nelson?lang=eng

Judy AmarOctober 10, 2019

What a wonderful message -- yes, cherish the present and look forward to the future. My future life with my children has blessed me with 11 precious grandchildren. Thank you so much!

Muriel Grace Hall member of Panmure Stake Auckland New ZealandOctober 10, 2019

Thank you thank you for sharing understanding the Worth of Souls I am very grateful.

LAMBOctober 10, 2019

I was once married for nine years to someone who was always thinking about a former girlfriend. That was a deal breaker and I left and raised the kids myself. Unfortunately we live in a polygamous church even though we are non-practicing at the moment. I have met so many LDS men who can hardly wait for their harem of women in the next life and are just biding their time being so called faithful here. Like me, the woman in this article is elderly and she may not have the resources plus there is the reality of living alone in old age and not having anyone to check on you to make sure you are okay. There are a lot of considerations in this instance. He has broken her trust and it is a very big deal and things will never be the same unless he realizes the harm he has done and sincerely apologizes and spends the rest of his life showing her she is the one he cares about.. Otherwise this is the death of her marriage and the grieving begins.

John BurgonOctober 10, 2019

In Thomas Sowell’s book Applied Economics he makes the point that we should always ask the question, “and then what?” four times. When we are mad at someone and want to responded with a hurtful or rude comment, ask, “and then what?” Three or four times. Usually the answer will be negative or non consequential, Now ask something suggested in your article and and see the positive “and then what”

Donald Montréal CanadaOctober 10, 2019

Thank-you, Thank-you, thank-you !

Boanerges RubalcavaOctober 10, 2019

In México we call the October 12th "el día de la raza" (the race's day) meaning that we assimilated the spaniards unto the indigenous people making a "new race" the mestizos". This is not racist but the opposite. México has around 15% of white people, more than 75% of mestizos and the rest almost pure Indians. Unfortunately for the USA, you did not mix with each other and from that comes the problem. However, instead of now going all the other way, make something in between, and try to avoid that awful contention (see another article in here Today).

RitaOctober 10, 2019

"A soft answer turneth away wrath." Proverbs used to be a very popular source of wisdom, and for good reason. Giving ourselves a chance to stop and think seems to be a lost art in our current state of affairs. Thank you for the reminder!

Becky DouglasOctober 9, 2019

This is, as they say, "BREAKING NEWS"! Five days ago India announced that there has been a LEPROSY VACCINATION approved and they will be delivering it to a number of leprosy districts in India. This is a game changer!! The researcher achieving this breakthrough is Prof. Talwar, who has been working on this vaccination for 36 years. I was privileged to meet with him just a few days before the news broke, as Prof. Talwar is the brother-in-law of a Rising Star Outreach Board member. Prof. Talwar is committed to helping Rising Star Outreach get the vaccination provided to our leprosy colonies. This will be a huge blessing. In our Bihar school alone, we had 5 children diagnosed with active leprosy just this month. Just imagine how many children in the colonies are being missed! Becky Douglas

Shi MeisonOctober 9, 2019

Columbus never set foot on what is today the United States of America, except a brief stop on what is today Puerto Rico. During his 1495 voyage: "In just two years under Columbus's governorship, over 125,000 of the 250,000–300,000 natives in Haiti were dead, many died from lethal forced labor in the mines, in which a third of workers died every six months. Within three decades, the surviving Arawak population numbered only in the hundreds. 'Virtually every member of the gentle race ... had been wiped out.' Disease, warfare and harsh enslavement contributed to the depopulation." How did Christopher Columbus come to be regarded as a hero by the citizens of the United States? Washing Irving, the writer of Sleepy Hollow and Rip Van Winkle, wrote a work of historical fiction about Columbus in an attempt to create an early US mythology. It worked, and the US still lauds the Italian to this day.

Debora Engh FrenchOctober 9, 2019

She should invite woman and husband to dinner and have a lovely round table meeting at the same time. Break the ice. Get to know everyone. She should tell her hubby that she’d love to meet his old flame in person. Maybe they’d become friends. This way she’s taking control. It would give her the opportunity to check out the competition and see what the reality of this relationship is. Face it head on, courageously. Take back your self respect because situations like these can be so deflating.

Bruce LloydOctober 9, 2019

The Mesoamerican model is built entirely on the Isthmus of Tehuantepec (narrow neck of land) and the east and west sea. The narrow neck of land and the east and west sea were not mentioned until 500 years after arriving in the promised land. This is because the Lehites landed in the Gulf Coast area and retreated northward to the hill Cumorah and Great Lakes region to escape the Lamanite wrath. It was over 300 years before the Nephites discovered the Mulekites. The east and west sea refer to the Great Lakes. The narrow neck of land is the Isthmus of Niagara. Niagara means "neck of land." It is 21 miles from Lake Ontario to Lake Erie on a line parallel with the Niagara River and the Welland Ship Canal--a very good candidate for a Nephite journey of a day or day and a half. It is 136 miles across the Isthmus of Tehuantepec and a 61-hour (7, 8-hour days or 5, 12-hour days) journey (3.3/mph) on the shortest road in the area. Without roads, it could easily take 3 or 4 weeks or more!

kathryn j amesOctober 9, 2019

As a mother of nine children, I have always interpretted Jesus saying to his disciples who didn't want him to be bothered with children, "Let the children come unto me, for of such is the kingdom of God," to be a gentle remider to us to invite children to come into our homes throughout our reproductive years. But I hadn't thought of labor/delivery as another symbol of the atonement. I am so grateful for this idea,new to me!

JaneOctober 9, 2019

It is totally wrong to forbid people from seeking and finding the kind of therapy they want and for laws to forbid it--one of which is pending in the Utah legislature. I knew a psychologist who had a great deal of success treating gay men who seriously wanted to change their orientation--something like 90%. It can be done in significant numbers of cases if the person is truly motivated. Perhaps not easily, but serious change is never easy. Why would any honest person want to forbid someone from having a choice?

Anne H. PrattOctober 9, 2019

Wonderful Article! I especially loved when you compared the Atonement to giving birth. The greatest sacrifice that women make is giving birth, and it can helps us understand HIM better. The pain we endure in order to bring something greater into being.

Jim RawsonOctober 9, 2019

Gary, I'm looking forward to reading more of your study of AGENCY! Hope you are doing well! Haven’t seen you since we were children!

Diane IrwinOctober 9, 2019

Wendy, I could just hear your voice as I read this! It was sweet and comforting. I love what you had to say about women being authorized to perform and officiate in the highest of priesthood ordinances: temple ordinances. That is the best. That is what is the most important thing in this world.

MerileeOctober 9, 2019

I love how the author tied giving birth to the atonement of Jesus Christ. I have understood this before, but she expressed it beautifully. It is an honor to be a woman and represent Christ in this way.

Rita MillerOctober 9, 2019

Wonderful insights into a question that many women in the Church struggle with. Paul wrote that only when men and women are together are they "in the Lord". It seems to imply that the priesthood is completely effectual when both sexes are focused on and working toward the same thing. Men and women have been deliberately pitted against each other by the adversary since the beginning precisely to stop the power that comes from a true understanding of just how strong we are together.

Virginia PartchOctober 9, 2019

During the last 3 or 6 months we have had a heavy test in our lives. As listening/watching the Conference I felt they all had had a look into our hearts, home and thoughts. That they knew exactly what was going on. What a miracle to me.

Janna MorrellOctober 9, 2019

Wow! Just Wow! Wendy I have always grown up with the calm assurance that I did not need the priesthood because I have motherhood. Now I understand I was mostly correct. I now understand that I not only have priesthood power but that Motherhood and the priesthood are inseparably connected already! I love your poignant connection of childbirth and Christ’s Atonement! Although it brings great agony, I’ve always felt giving birth was THE MOST spiritual experience of my life.

Rob GreerOctober 9, 2019

Thank you for an excellent article. One of my favorite priesthood leaders was Sister Smith. She was the primary president and I was the primary chorister. This woman of God took time out of her schedule to meet me at the park, pray with me, watch a video put out by the church on being the chorister (that I had no idea existed) and give me direction and guidance for my calling. She had the priesthood authority and the power, and I followed her lead due to her closeness to the Spirit.

CarolynOctober 8, 2019

I was struck by President Nelson's declaration about endowed women having the Priesthood in their home. I took this to mean, SINGLE or MARRIED. For too many years, as a married, endowed woman, married to an inactive and uninterested spouse, I have endured President Nelson's exampled comment from others, "Oh, I am so sorry you don't have the Priesthood in your home." It has been hard not to feel like a second hand citizen in the Gospel. This teaching by President Nelson has given me so much hope and encouragement. I can and do measure up after all!

AlbertOctober 8, 2019

Sadly there is a tendency for many in LDS Culture to think of Temple Marriage as completing an important step, perhaps the only necessary step, toward entrance into the Celestial Kingdom. And, once that step has been completed, there is no further need to live a Temple Worthy life. This Sister deserves far more than she is receiving from her husband. And should be counselled that if she divorces him that does not cancel or remove her Temple Blessings. On the other hand, his right to Temple Blessings should be evaluated by a Judge in Israel. Hopefully he will see the error of his ways and repent, but his Wife has no obligation to wait around to see if this happens.

Charles DefranchiOctober 8, 2019

A while ago, a Sister told about how she had done Temple work on behalf of one of her husband's relatives, who had been managing a Saloon during Salt Lake pioneer period, and who had been antagonistic to the Church her whole life. Yet, she felt a sweet spirit of gratitude while she was doing the ordinances. Her conclusion was that people can change drastically over time once in the Spirit World. Along these lines, what Elder Oaks is trying to say (I translated his speech into French, so I remember every one of his words), is that things will be so different that there will be peace and joy for all the faithful, regardless of their respective family issues.

Jane TiltonOctober 8, 2019

How can we share this excellent article?

FredOctober 8, 2019

It is also fun to note that the proper answer to one of the questions (#6) has actually changed from No to Yes.

JimOctober 8, 2019

My wife was pretty upset with a part of Elder Oaks' talk when he addressed concerns by sisters who faced being sealed with a man who is previously sealed. While I agreed with him that things would work out, relaying that the concerns over this should not be the focus of their faith, it bugs my wife greatly. (She started vacuuming around me so I couldn't hear the rest of the talk.) I believe it to be part of why she has not chosen to be sealed to me, which carries its own sadness for me, as I married her to be sealed as well. I have faith things will work out in the end for me, but it's not rare that I don't hesitate when pondering the scenario if she ever does ask me to be sealed. Too many things have been conditional for her, and I question whether that choice will be due to her not wanting to remain being sealed to her 1st husband who abandoned her, and is the father of her children. I wonder.... if I made an eternal mistake in dropping my engagement to another faithful woman to marry her. I have faith things will work out.. but it's hard living with someone who harbors such antipathy for this component of the gospel. It ripples out to temple worship as well. Conference was wonderful for so many women I'm sure, but this point in Elder Oaks' talk really put a damper on my wife's enjoyment of conference. It's like the rest of the comments directed towards women wasn't even uttered.

ShareeOctober 8, 2019

I think the Church's new program for children and youth is a good example of what you are saying. I was thrilled when it was announced. But I didn't really like your Annie Oakley example. Annie was deprived of her childhood by her impoverished condition. No 6-year-old should be required to provide for her family.

HKOctober 8, 2019

I do so appreciate your reviews and opinions. It is nice to have some idea of what to expect in the way of "borderline stuff" before going to the movie. Helps me decide if the movie is for me.

Melissa MarkhamOctober 8, 2019

Since I don't give temple recommend interviews and only hear these questions every 2 years, I couldn't tell much of a difference at first. This side by side comparison was so helpful, thank you!

Haze KompelienOctober 8, 2019

I had to work both days at the hospital this past weekend, so I didn't have the privilege of being able to listen to General Conference this time. However, just the tidbits I've gotten from emails, social media releases from the Church, and Meridian have made me, too feel uplifted more than usual from Conference. I feel cherished and empowered by the Lord with these changes. Isn't it wonderful?

ELISABETH CONESAOctober 8, 2019

t hank you so much ..even if I can't havre them in french ...I'll share them here in Lyon France ....Wonderful idea to have more about the sunday sessions ...Thank you again

SBOctober 8, 2019

While your experience being onstage seems to have been valuable to you, when you were running the lights you facilitated others making good friends and memories. Visible does not equate with valuable.

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KathleenOctober 7, 2019

All three are spot on! We are a peculiar people. Thanks for letting us laugh at ourselves.

Richard V JukesOctober 7, 2019

Thank you, Scot, for this insightful comparison of the old and the new. I appreciate you experience and the way you capture the compass heading indicated by these changes.

DebbieOctober 7, 2019

I really enjoyed This article. I love the passages about putting on the whole armor of God. Thanks for sharing it.

TriciaOctober 7, 2019

Do you have any book recommendations for children that always seem angry and negative? One of my 11 year old twins is really struggling with this.

Boanerges RubalcavaOctober 7, 2019

You have an error in your interpretation of the "keys" when you say that the Apostles have the keys. You are right but it is important to understand that the keys are in the Quorum of the twelve apostles but not individually. As it has been stated in the part one of the question, the President of the Church is the only person that have all the keys.D&C 132:7

Kay Wiemer GerkeOctober 7, 2019

These changes are wonderful! They seem to clarify the concepts beautifully. I am so grateful for the wisdom in temple reccommend interview questions because they give us specifics to work toward. Defining worthiness can be vague, but these questions give us a basic check-list to focus on.

LoraOctober 7, 2019

I appreciate having these memes to share. They would be so much more powerful if, instead of images of general authorities that my non-member and less-active friends don't know, there would be images of the Savior that they do know. Is there any chance that these can be redone and sent out again? It's a lot of work, I'm sure, but they could be so much more effective. Thank you for the effort!

Rich BowermanOctober 7, 2019

Thanks for this side-by-side comparison! I too have given many recommend interviews over the years, and so am very familiar with the "old" questions. I was very surprised when one of my adult children said "I didn't notice many changes"! I'm sending him the link to this article!

Charles DefranchiOctober 7, 2019

Dear Wally, You always come up with what it takes to convert me to whatever you teach, even if the natural man in me resists those teachings. People like you give me a strong desire to repent, mend my ways and follow the disciple's path. Our Church and world need more people like you! Kind regards, Charles

Barry HansenOctober 7, 2019

Thanks for putting this together, Scot. A side by side comparison of the old and new questions was exactly what I was hoping for after hearing the talk.

William DurhamOctober 7, 2019

The. Temple Recommend. Is the most important, little piece of paper, that you will ever own in your life. So therefore, the questions, that you are asked, are vital, to you, to enter . The House Of The Lord, The Interview Questions. Have to be answered in an acurently and honestly, and sincere, as the Temple Recommend is only for two years, then you must remain worthy, to hold it and thus be in a position to , answer these questions , on a two year roll, so that you can enter The Temple, not just to receive your own Endowment, or sealed to your Spouse, for time and all eternity, you also have a great responsibility , for your kindred dead. So being a worthy Temple Recommend Holder, is a must, for our eternal progression.

PatOctober 7, 2019

Thank ou

Alece ReynoldsOctober 7, 2019

The donation page worked for my on October 7th.

JulieOctober 6, 2019

A witty and fabulous reminder of how Satan can turn good into bad. And what a wonderful parody of CS Lewis. I think he would enjoy reading this as much as I did.

BruceOctober 6, 2019

Smashing and destroying whatever electronic devise your husband does his e-mails on just might get his attention. Then send the old flame's e-mail address to everyone for them to write and shame her. Wow, I'm a guy and am writing this. I would expect nothing less if I acted like this husband.

Sasha KwapinskiOctober 5, 2019

Her husband is asking that she "put it behind" her, when he obviously hasn't put it behind himself? That alone says a lot.

Jacob HessOctober 5, 2019

Thank you for the thoughtful feedback and insightful responses, including some meaningful push-back. A few responses: May – chills! Thank you for the powerful words. They bring up sweet emotion and a confirmation of the Spirit. Vickie – I admire and respect your response to your son and find it inspiring. Thank you for sharing. You are acting as Elder Christofferson’s family did in response to Tom – with love, while still holding firm to the Church. I believe that response is not only inspired – but a reflection of how Father would and does act. Merilee – I certain have not intended to “characterize the LGBT community as a whole in a negative light” and certainly not to “disparage members who would like to find support for their LGBT status while remaining faithful to their covenants.” I agree it’s not what we want to “polarize readers into two camps- for or against LGBT individuals.” What about my article led you to this feeling? I fully agree that we need more of this: “differentiating between being LGBT and having attractions which are different than most people experience and LGBT who are opposed to the commandments of God and church teachings and leaders.” And this: “articles on how we can negotiate the blessed opportunity of opening our minds and hearts to our LGBT brothers and sisters while staying true to the faith and also helping them be true to themselves and their faith.” Dr. Shea – YES to stepping away from the cacophony and grinding battle. I suppose you agree we can do that, while still engaging forthrightly, lovingly, clearly, and peacefully in the conversations of the day? CSBevans – it was precisely the disagreement, dissent or conflict that I’m calling here “confusion.” Bravo to Maria’s insightful comment, “I believe he has flipped the first and second commandments.” I’ve been working on a piece on precisely that. Email me if you’d like to co-author ([email protected]). And I resonated with this too, Lisa C: “how easy it is for religious people to unconsciously cede ground in these debates by adopting the framework and language of people who oppose us.” I promise to work on what you’ve challenged me to do (more examples, simpler guidance). I feel urged to try and do just that right now – thanks for the encouragement. You articulated beautifully one thing I hope and pray for as well, Justin: “in time…people are left with the misery that strident and continued disobedience has brought, they might look to those whose lives are still bright, light and delightsome, and be willing to seek for understanding and the blessings that they see.” I was touched by your words, Melissa – and the courage it really does take to just stay with the prophets these days. And I was reminded in a good way, SB (and Vickie), by your encouragement to find simpler, plainer ways to speak – so that a teenager might really grasp this. I’ve been thinking so much about your caution, that I want to give it a try…right here in a paragraph: The Proclamation to the World on the Family was not super confusing or controversial when first shared. But it is now! Why? Is it just because we now have a new expanded understanding of civil rights as a society – one that “opens our eyes” to see the proclamation as a flawed, narrow document? OR (or!) is there another possibility? I think there is. And I’m suggesting here that pretty much *anyone* who comes to adopt the reigning, popular beliefs of our day about identity, sexuality, choice, change, the body and God WILL inevitably (predictably) come to see the Proclamation as deficient and even damaging. In other words, these beliefs “filter” what they see about the proclamation – even to a point of blinding them to its truth, power and goodness. The great question is this: are these popular beliefs being widely promoted about identity true – or is what the prophets are teaching about identity true? Depending on what you decide about that, your view and vision of the proclamation will be completely different. Make sense? SB - how did I do?

JanetOctober 5, 2019

Personally, I would go to the woman's home and confront her in person. Let her know she is destroying your family. He is married and you hope she would respect what that means. If she is married, visit her husband. I would contact your bishop and ask him to contact your husband. Get your own counselor. Bishops lack the training you need. If you have access to your husband's email account, figure out how to have her emails go to spam, then delete them before he sees them. Put your needs first. Consult a divorce attorney now to see what you legally can do to protect your assets.

EveOctober 5, 2019

She might start by emailing the girlfriend and clearly telling her that her actions are destroying a marriage. If this woman is married, she should contact the other woman's husband and let him know what is happening. Also, the other woman's siblings and children. This situation needs to be taken out of the fantasy world and placed squarely in the light where all can see the real consequences of the road they are traveling. I echo the advice to limit advice from church leaders. I too found their words more destructive than helpful and some of it completely false. It is not true that the Church will not allow these people to later be sealed in the temple if you divorce. What is true us that they will ignore your protests as the wronged spouse, not even taking the time to respond to your letter. . So if your bishop tells you this, do not believe him. He is ill informed. And believing him just gives you one more thing to forgive because you made decisions based on his assurances. And take steps now to protect yourself financially. Consult an divorce attorney to see what you can do and not do.

Scott BrownOctober 5, 2019

William Durham - thanks for your comment. I agree that we can learn a lot by paying attention to the scriptures referenced in General Conference.

Faithful WitnessOctober 5, 2019

Terry, how did Joseph Fielding Smith make that change in 1976 when he died in 1972?

Travis TolmanOctober 4, 2019

Since President Joseph Fielding Smith died in 1972, it's unlikely he made any policy changes in 1976. He only served as president of the Church for about 2 1/2 years. I wasn't old enough to hold a temple recommend then, but clearly remember many of his talks.

GTOOctober 4, 2019

There may be another aspect here. Note that this is a 55 year marriage. I married when I was almost 22 and have been married 51 years. I'm now 73 years old and my husband is 78. We are old-timers. Our short-term memory is getting faulty and we're finding it fun to get into our long-term memories. We wonder about the people we knew in school. We get fuzzy-good feelings about those people. When this husband actually sees his old girlfriend in person (if it ever comes to that), he will discover she's an old lady! So nostalgia and fantasy plays a big part in this sort of thing.

acwOctober 4, 2019

Thank you, great explanation of fascinating cosmic timing! Also think it's interesting that the Mount of Transfiguration happened six months before the crucifixion at Passover, so those events would also have been at fall and spring equinox moments.

Richard CoreyOctober 4, 2019

I am impressed with the beauty of the paintings and the profound understanding of the parables.

CLOctober 4, 2019

Thank you, Geoff, for advising this woman to seek a specific type of counseling, namely: betrayal trauma! General counselors usually have zero experience in this area and will offer basic advice on marital discord. This can open the door for the guilty spouse to gaslight or manipulate the conversation against the betrayed spouse, causing further harm. In my first marriage, emotional betrayal, emotional abuse was never ever mentioned by the counselor. The narrative was all about "co-dependency" which was not the problem and wasted thousands of our dollars before it ended in divorce anyway. It cost me my livelihood, as I was a homemaker and had to go get an education late in my working years. I am still financially in dire straits. I had to figure all this mess out on my own years later. I would advise this woman not to rely too heavy on her religious leaders either, as they will usually have very limited professional ability to deal with this topic as well. I have been more harmed than benefited myself by their comments. This woman's situation is definitely "Betrayal Trauma" and has a definite set of complexities. The Facebook group Betrayal Trauma Recovery, www.BTR.org, and www.BloomForWomen are excellent sources for this specific topic.

WeazieOctober 4, 2019

I love the reaction of the therapist on this. Truth is truth. People who are in the wrong so quickly trick the victim into thinking it’s OUR fault or problem. But it’s them projecting their guilt on us so they don’t have to feel it. I think a lot of people don’t want to have difficult conversations because they want to keep the peace. But what is that helping? Certainly not the victim. As hard as it is to have difficult conversations, in the long run, they are very helpful. I love how the therapist talked about having dignity. I think we are all so confused now in this world we live in today, where we see infidelity all the time on Tv and it seems normal. It’s NOT normal and healthy and RIGHT. Hoping this good sister can get her husband to see the terrible betrayal he has inflicted on her. He can’t have a wife AND a girlfriend. It doesn’t work that way.

William DurhamOctober 4, 2019

Stunning. I love Statistics, and this is amazing, how they have all been taking and used, and how important the impact of The Scriptures has on the First Presidency, of our Church, and the fact the Scriptures, have a major part in our life's as Church members. Reading, praying, pondering, and studying the Scriptures of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter- Day Saints, will make us become better people, only if we learn from the Scriptures, and our Church leaders who are the perfect example, to teach us, how to lead a Christ centred life. Stunning article.

Teresa SanofskyOctober 4, 2019

Your article makes me want to listen more carefully for  the "Therefore what?" in scriptures referred to at conference, particularly the ones referenced  by multiple speakers. Thank you for presenting these conference statistics in such an interesting and insightful context.

Ingelise PangOctober 4, 2019

I would love to see an analysis of how often and by whom we have been warned against the dangers of socialism, since a lot of our younger members seem to think the church is neutral on that topic. Most adults think it was only Ezra Taft Benson who spoke out against socialism, but that is not true. I’d love to see a published article about that!

Becky DouglasOctober 3, 2019

God bless you, DMT! Your words humble and inspire all of us! Becky Douglas

Earl ChantrillOctober 3, 2019

I need to go back and re-read the Screwtape Letters. This certainly rings true to my memories of CS Lewis's short book that I read first many years ago when I was in high school. Can you imagine the Screwtape Letters being required reading in a high school English class now?

MichaelOctober 3, 2019

The title of this article pretty much sums it up.

WitnessesOctober 3, 2019

I really think someone is splitting hairs here there are many types of witnesses. This was witnessing an event Not a sacred ordinance.

TerryOctober 3, 2019

This is inaccurate. Up until 1976, women were serving as witnesses in the temple. It was a policy change by Joseph Fielding Smith that changed that. It us the first time that we know of where children are used as witnesses.

Bot BowlesOctober 3, 2019

In the first two centuries, deaconnesses checked "recommends" for entrance into temple ceremonies. Perhaps this will be the next advance for sisters in the church.

HeatherOctober 3, 2019

Wonderful article, and thank you for the book recommendations!

Judith GrantOctober 2, 2019

EXCELLENT!!

JoyOctober 2, 2019

This was excellent. You should run it every year. ☺️

Albert SchindlerOctober 2, 2019

Well done ... creative and timely! I agree, your article should be appended to the original Screwtape Letters.

DL AndersonOctober 2, 2019

Oh!!! Most excellent!!! (& warning for me!!) A spoonful of sugar... etc.

Robert GreerOctober 2, 2019

C.S. Lewis has an heir apparent. Do you think we could get John Cleese to append this to his audio book of the Screwtape Letters?

Wanda BrownOctober 2, 2019

Sounds just like Uncle Screwtape! Well done.

Pam BlairOctober 2, 2019

INCREDIBLE! I am saving this one, for sure. I have read The Screwtape Letters - this is perfect. THANKS!

Roberta PetersonOctober 2, 2019

Delightful! & meaningful as well. Thank you.

Rhoda AndersonOctober 2, 2019

This is brilliant!! Thank you for sharing!

Cindi PeckhamOctober 2, 2019

As a big fan of the Screwtape Letters, I really enjoy this adaptation. zeroes in like a laser on some of our common tendencies. I'll be on the look- out! Thank you!

Judith H.RoseOctober 2, 2019

This inventive article pretty well follows all the devices that the enemy uses to neutralize the spiritual effects of General Conference. Congratulations on a well-written, creative piece.

LA jensenOctober 2, 2019

Sounds like I felt about a horse my kids had. He could smell an open gate and we spent half our lives looking for him. We’ve never had a horse since.

Susan CurtisOctober 2, 2019

Genius! I love it! Faithful to the original and original to the Saints!

Carolyn WilckenOctober 2, 2019

I loved this. A brilliant and entertaining way of portraying what I and many others of us have experienced. I well remember times in the past where I was excited for General Conference because It meant a “break” from going to church. I’m glad I’m past that. Now I love General Conference for the spiritual feast it provides. Can’t wait to overload my plate and stuff myself.

HenryOctober 2, 2019

Those remarks by screwtape are certainly true. Satan knows our weaknesses and will absolutely use them to throw us off track. We must start our day by getting the rest the night before, say our family prayers, read our scriptures like we are taught to do. If we don't, the door has been opened for Satan to attack what our leaders are trying to teach us in our conference meetings. Pray for the Spirit to be with us.

RussOctober 2, 2019

To "Vickie" - regret to hear of your husband's rage issues. It may help to remember that persistent intense anger is usually a symptom of deeper discontent - with self, life, circumstances, etc. Help him get help. Prayerfully seek out a counselor. That much anger is so destructive - to him and others. Sincere best wishes to you both.

Martha ClantonOctober 2, 2019

What a wonderful tribute to CS Lewis and his ability to present spiritual truths in unusual, yet remarkable ways. Thank you so much! I will be sharing this with my family.

Vivian RogersOctober 2, 2019

Thank you for this explicit reminder of what I am doing in this process, responsibility, and privilege.

vickieOctober 1, 2019

I am able to some degree control my outward anger...my problem is my inward anger. I keep it in and don't say anything....my husband on the other hand...lets it all out....road rage and rage about everything..he stays angry.....its making me so uncomfortable.....I try to rationalize things to him and he comes bk at me and tells me not to take their side....I wasn't taking anyones side...I was trying to help him see why he shouldn't get angry ….nothing works....

Lloyd ReidOctober 1, 2019

The # 12 represents Priesthood authority ( Apostles-Twelve Tribes Etc. ). But I believe you missed the important fact that The Ox represents the “House of Ephraim” and they face out towards the 4 corners of the earth. The tribe of Ephraim has the primary responsibility of “going out “ to gather the tribes into the “Brazen Sea “. Where they are gathered from both sides of the veil and brought to the Temple where the door ( Baptism) is made available to all. At least that’s the msg I get from the symbolism in the Temple Baptistery .

Dr Lynn D JohnsonOctober 1, 2019

Well said, Wally. I find it odd that we don't think of anger as an emotional disorder, yet what else is behind the horrible shootings? It isn't mental illness as typically defined, it is anger carefully hoarded and stored up for a day or retribution. Like suicide, anger is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Our anger and tantrums may damage relationships forever, at least in time if not eternity.

LynnOctober 1, 2019

I too will donate and I strongly agree with only putting the request for donations at the front and end of the article, it is very distracting and feels like all you care about is money money money, it takes away from the people you are teaching us about and touching our hearts in a way that we certainly want to help.

Haze KompelienOctober 1, 2019

As an adult convert, I've never done baptisms for the dead. Many new ideas and understandings were presented clearly for me. Thank you for this article! (I'd love to have a day in the temple with the author for further insights and instructions)

DMTOctober 1, 2019

If you listen to Meridien Magazine Come Follow Me podcasts, you will learn why they have picked this charity, who started it, why, and the heartrending stories surrounding the leper families. Although we have no extra money, it moved me to act. These people on the other side of the world are shamefully treated by their own country. I signed up for $5/mo. donation...

BrettOctober 1, 2019

I love Becky’s articles. It is a good reminder to me that God is there in the details of our lives and that impossible things can happen.

AliciaOctober 1, 2019

What a touching story, and i'm glad to see that Fran is doing well and now is returning the favor!

kellieOctober 1, 2019

Needed this today, so thank you.

karell BinghamOctober 1, 2019

I think that you can also pray and ask the Lord to remove the anger from your heart. At least it has helped me before!

JustinOctober 1, 2019

Thank you for sharing this information in a cogent and compassionate manner. Too many accept this alternative lifestyle because of social pressures and seeking acceptance, and it's worth having (and maintaining) an option to help people sort out their inner conflict and values, much like any other counseling.

L. WestoverOctober 1, 2019

This is the best clarification of the symbolism involved with baptism for the dead that I have ever read! It will be the springboard for some family discussions. Thanks for sharing!

JustinOctober 1, 2019

Thank you for sharing not only the explanations and scriptural references that you have, but the technique to enlighten and inspire.

Anna FeatherstoneOctober 1, 2019

Thank you.....

EdOctober 1, 2019

I enjoyed the article. I understood that the oxen is a symbolic representation of the tribe of Ephraim.

Vicky YeatesSeptember 30, 2019

I know that John Dehlin and followers insist that they "know" that the LGBT suicides are because of the teachings of the Church. I have listened to countless podcasts about this. I wish they could read articles like this that prove that to be wrong. And many other religions are very negative, to put it mildly, about the LGBT community.

vickieSeptember 30, 2019

I think this is wonderful....I think it will bring people out who are not use to being charitable and it will teach them how or develop how to listen to the Spirit...wonderful...

mucumsSeptember 30, 2019

Great article

john s hochhalterSeptember 30, 2019

I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Idaho, and am submitting the text of a letter written to members of the Idaho Legislature, concerning the same proposals: I am writing to address the ongoing debate and consideration of House Bill 52, concerning Conversion Therapy. I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) in the State of Idaho, and have been in private practice for 10 years. Over the past year or so I have heard of the controversy surrounding Conversion Therapy (CT), and the ongoing efforts to pass a law in the State of Idaho to prohibit the practice of this form of therapy, or what some refer to as Sexual Orientation Change Efforts (SOCE). I personally have provided counseling services to several clients who would identify as LGBTQ. I have enjoyed working with these clients on the myriad of life’s stressors and issues that they face. I have found these clients to be wonderful, loving, caring human beings, and have enjoyed my association with them. There indeed seems to be an ongoing debate as to the effectiveness of CT/SOCE. Some argue that the therapy has little to no affect on actually changing a person’s sexual orientation, while others argue it does help. There are also some who suggest that engaging in this therapy can be harmful to the client in several ways. What concerns me is, can those who espouse that CT/SOCE causes, amongst other issues, increased suicidality, actually scientifically prove that because of this therapy their suicidal ideation has increased? Or is it that the individual may have an increased suicidality because of other factors and life issues? The human psyche and emotions are indeed difficult to understand completely and accurately. Such a “measurement” that claims that indeed this is the case should be viewed with some level of skepticism. Also, if you all are so concerned about the ‘ill-affects’ conversion therapy can have on people, WHY are you “protecting” only minors? Isn’t this something you should be concerned about for the ENTIRE population? (of course, I am not supporting that idea either). When I first heard of CT/SOCE I was not familiar with this therapy and have endeavored to learn more and become educated on the topic. One of the first thoughts I had is the one that has been most concerning to me, and indeed is very perplexing: How can any counselor, body of counselors, or national association of counselors, endeavor to espouse a cause (efforts to ban CT/SOCE) that would tell a client, or group of clients, that they cannot receive the counseling help they seek with their issue (no matter WHAT the issue!). To me it is unconscionable that any professional counselor would say that this was ethical. As trained and licensed professional counselors we are taught that one of the guiding principles of counseling is nonmaleficence, to “do no harm”. If a client truly desires to change their behaviors and lifestyle (and let me emphasize – it is ALL about the client in counseling – we as counselors are NEVER to tell the client what to think or feel, or to persuade them against their will) -- if this client discovers that mental health providers in the state are prohibited, by law, from helping them with what they desire to do with their lives, then this client realizes they are without hope, or help, in working through and accomplishing what it is that THEY want to change in their lives. THAT to me is a recipe for disaster – one that would definitely increase suicidality amongst that population. To use a phrase from the 70’s – it “blows my mind” that any counseling professional would support such a proscription in the counseling arena. To me, it would be a very egregious and glaring violation of the counseling ethical code to prohibit and deny ANY person from receiving ANY form of counseling therapy. This would be a violation of the public trust placed in the helping professions in our state. To attempt to proscribe certain forms of therapy and counseling theories and practices is indeed stepping onto a slippery slope, and setting a dangerous precedent of governmental interference and dictum that would be misguided and ultimately harmful to the residents of the State of Idaho. Regards, John Hochhalter, LCPC, NCC

DaveSeptember 30, 2019

And @Julie, so far this wife hasn't shared anything really inappropriate that this husband has done. He laughs when she talks . . . So? Isn't that only being polite? He stares at her and seems to hang on her every word. Well, having been a listener for many years, those statements are someone else's perception. Would everyone else in the room agree with that interpretation? Maybe this is a case of a husband inappropriately smitten by an attractive young female. Or maybe this is a case of an overly sensitive wife who feels a little insecure with a young attractive female in the house. For me, I wouldn't jump to conclusions too quickly here. I like Geoff's answer. Does the girl have the same impression as the wife? If she doesn't feel that anything is inappropriate in the way the husband is acting, then maybe we should focus on Geoff's last two questions - is this a question of jealousy and insecurity on the part of the wife? She could be magnifying what she sees. But if the girl is uncomfortable, then this is a real problem.

Stephanie AndersonSeptember 30, 2019

This article is amazing! I agree 100% thank you for putting my thought into words. LOVE THIS and I love my teenage son. Perfect no but he has so much good going on hard not to push too much because I see how much more he could be.

RichardSeptember 30, 2019

Outstanding article I only wish that when my children were at home and I would have understood some of these things that you have pointed out. I tried my best.

Gordon J HensleySeptember 30, 2019

Taken to the logical conclusion, our critics would have us change our doctrine to give same-sex couples all the blessings of the Celestial Kingdom. I'm just wondering how two male or two female exalted beings would be able to populate worlds without altering the laws of physics.

DC YoungSeptember 30, 2019

This article provides sound, rational understanding to the issue of the "transgender" craze and movements to limit proper and needed help to those caught up in gender identity. The concepts noted here need wide circulation.

MegSeptember 30, 2019

That was the best. Thanks. Here is my favorite quote from it: Teenagers who are armed with solid values and loved as individuals will thrive even in the harshest climates

C. LewisSeptember 30, 2019

Try asking your teen "How am I doing as a mom?'

JuliannSeptember 30, 2019

Incredible list of doable suggestions. I will forward this article to my grown children who are struggling with their parenting and I will save it and re-read it and practice as I interact with my grandsons. I learned many of these principles the hard way and endorse each and every one. We can bless this young, growing generation armed with love, patience and recognizing the great challenges they deal with. Thank you for articulating this blue print for interacting with teenagers. Beautiful. Powerful.

DebraSeptember 30, 2019

I’m on my second Instant Pot. My first one from Costco sat in the box unopened in my office for about two months and I finally took it back. About a month ago Hubble and I were in Costco again and he put it in the cart and said he was getting me one. Our son and daughter-in-law rave about theirs. So in about two weeks I tried it. First attempt was ribs. My husband said they were the best baby back ribs ever, fall off the bone yummy. 25 minutes in IP than 10 minutes in the oven to caramelize the sauce. EASY! Brown rice cooks perfect and quick. My goal is 1-3 meals a week. We are older and go out to eat a lot. I think this will cut that number down. Now I’m telling my son what I make and he has to try it. You can teach an old dog new tricks. I’m passing on all my crock pots too!

Charles DefranchiSeptember 30, 2019

This is wonderful advice. Thanks! I still remember when I was 12, a colleague of my father was visiting and asking how I was behaving, and my father to reply, "well, he is the oldest one, so the worst."! I felt deeply betrayed and to this day - yes, 54 years later - feel that I did not deserve the "compliment." My father was just trying to act cool, but at my expense. My father was a very good man, great Church, and wonderful gospel Teaacher, But see how something so small and such a long time ago hit me so that I can still remember it, even 23 years after he passed away...

GWSeptember 30, 2019

Best parenting article I've ever read - thank you!!!

DaveSeptember 29, 2019

"Note that nearly one third of all scripture references are from the New Testament." Sure, but if current trends continue that will not continue to be the case.

JulesSeptember 28, 2019

@Julie, why should the girl be punished for the actions of someone else especially if she is not doing anything to encourage the behavior. (if she is, thats a whole other thing). I've been in a similar situation where having done nothing except exist and be female, I was humiliated and embarrassed because of someone else's fear of not being able to control themselves. Her issue should be with her husband and not with the girl.

Ken RichmondSeptember 28, 2019

Thank you and good work! As a therapist, I am frustrated to see so many who struggle with gender issues and have significant trauma, yet the profession chooses to put blinders on-for what reason I am not sure.

Kathleen ChinSeptember 28, 2019

I just read, “An Epistle from an Apostle,” an address given by M. Russell Ballard to the Utah Salt Lake Area on September 11, 2016. President Ballard gives helpful and specific counsel about the eternal importance of some questions, and how we can encourage and validate such questions. Additionally, he gives clear counsel to parents and church leaders to not dismiss, minimize, gloss over, shame, etc. those who ask questions. He stresses, we need not be scholars or historians to help others answer their questions; we can study and search out answers together. One crucial point he makes it that there is still a place for faith when we have questions. “Of course we may not always find satisfying answers to our questions. At such times it’s good to remember, there is still a place in religion for faith. Sometimes we can learn and study and know; sometimes we have to believe, and trust and hope.” In my 40+ years as a convert, I’ve learned that it is a sign of spiritual maturity to live with some ambiguity—I don’t always receive answers and explanations, or understanding when I first ask or ponder a question. Yet, I don’t need to allow insufficiently answered nor incompletely understood questions to become the “be all and end all” of my church membership. When I’ve been patient and allowed the Holy Ghost to guide me...eventually I’ve found answers and/or actual peace regarding my questions and doubts. My late husband (also a convert) used to love to quote this Zen phrase, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We need not fear our doubts or questions, because our Father in Heaven—in His perfect love for each of us—will lead and guide us to the answers. Don’t give up on Him; He never gives up on us! K. Chin-Modesto, CA

vickieSeptember 27, 2019

what a sweet little boy. he grew through his life challenge. it would be wonderful if people saw things through God's eyes...

InstagrammaSeptember 27, 2019

I can’t comment on the original article from Idaho but I would like to respond to the first comment there about parents having their gay children bullied at church. I’m appalled that any rude comments towards gays in a church setting ( or anywhere for that matter) would come from church members (and I know they sometimes do). This is NOT what we hear from the Prophet or the general Church leaders. On the contrary they plead with us almost daily to love one another. When people take offense at what is said by members (and often leave the church because of it) they will hopefully think about what the Prophet and Apostles teach and realize that the Savior is weeping when we don’t treat others kindly.

Chelsea KernSeptember 27, 2019

This was a very eye-opening article. I am glad that Fran received the help that he needed and that he is doing what he can to help others!

HalSeptember 27, 2019

Great article, thank you! I, too, showed some same-gender attraction behaviors as a young child. Thankfully, in that day and age, such things were "just not done." Through gentle guidance from my family and friends, I simply grew out of my attraction by the time I was about 15 years old. Thank goodness no one ever told me to "embrace" my gender confusion in my tender years. Had I done so, I would have missed out on the joy of marrying and having a family.

RochelleSeptember 27, 2019

What a light Fran seems to be, and yet what a difficult circumstance to have to be away from his family in such conditions for such a long period of time. I am glad that he will be able to get such a good education now, and hope that brings some comfort to his family.

Chelsea KernSeptember 27, 2019

When I hear about starving children, my heart aches. I love reading the personal stories about the children and how they are being nourished through the nutrition program. Thank you, Rising Star!

Mike CollinsSeptember 27, 2019

The claim that the Book of Mormon is a fraud simply because it uses phrases and terms not used until the new Testament is as ridiculous as can ever be. Think about it... God speaks to prophets and he often tells them the same things. God is the same Yesterday, today and tomorrow. So why couldn't these statements all have originated from Him? And if they did then he can pass them on to any prophet at any time and they are still valid. God is the Origin of the Old Testament, the New Testament , The Book of Mormon and the D&C. So if things seem to repeat then God is just trying to get us to pay attention to these statements.

HalSeptember 27, 2019

This is good news! I'm delighted that it was a representative of the United States that stood up for the rights of the unborn on an international stage.

JulieSeptember 27, 2019

You need to have this young lady removed from your home as soon as possible before they have an affair. Be kind and remove the temptation for both of them, before they do something foolish.

Maureen CookSeptember 27, 2019

when a person comes in who is suicidal, it is our responsibility to help them to see that their life is of worth and they should not commit suicide, how does that differ from someone who comes in and is convinced that they are not the gender they were born as. We owe it to them to speak candidly and truthfully to help them understand their feelings and investigate where their thoughts are coming from.

Ed GayhartSeptember 27, 2019

Wickedness never was happiness. We - even as a Church - seem to condone LGBT albeit in a lawyerly fashion. The more it is condoned the more it becomes engrained in society and shown to your children as an accepted alternative lifestyle. My heart goes out to those with this cross to bear and I hate no one, but condonation of the lifestyle does not help those who suffer from it and will not make them happy. How different is this issue than the loss of contact with loved ones because we joined the Church? The Savior said he did not come to unite, but divide. This is probably Satan's finest effort and I see him on the sidelines smiling at the work he has done in equating resistance to sexual aberration the same way we looked at resistance to governmentally suthorized hatred.

Dorothy KeithSeptember 26, 2019

As a young girl, I much preferred boyish activities; toy pistols, climbing trees {I was Tarzan, not Jane}, etc. Dolls were for target practice with my bows and arrows.My playhouse became a fort. Boys just had more fun. Eventually, about age 11, I outgrew most of my "tomboy" personna, acquired a boyfriend and though I still enjoyed rough and active sports (now, at age 86, having been married nearly 67 years, I can still play a mean game of ping-pong!) I am grateful not to be growing up in today's world. Heaven help the poor "tomboys" and the more sensitive and artistic boys whose lives could be hijacked before they have time to become what they truly are.

MarybethSeptember 26, 2019

I love reading all the stories from the students and staff themselves! What an incredible difference RSO has made in giving these people a real chance at empowering themselves.

NPPSeptember 26, 2019

Your story is honest and so important for people to know. Thank you for speaking out. I hope they listen. Sometimes I wonder if this whole issue is about a movement, and not really about the children. Children are all unique. We can't put them in boxes. They need to know they have options so that they don't feel trapped and hopeless. This therapy gives them a vital option if they choose to want it. Thank you for advocating for children everywhere to be given the chance to choose.

CubbySeptember 26, 2019

Beautiful story written by a beautiful, articulate woman. Thank you for sharing such a pertinent story with a surprise ending. I am sorry that the horrible event had to happen to you, but you have transformed it into a work of art for convincing society to allow children to grow up and settle into their bodies comfortable, and to accept themselves just as who they are. Especially interesting to me is that yours is not a single event but others have shared similar happenings with you. You must be doing a lot of good with your courage to share. Thanks for sharing and increasing our knowledge

SuzieSeptember 26, 2019

Thank you for the post. I know what you have shared is true. For several years, my husband and I took in foster kids who had been sexually abused. Often they were confused about their sexual identity. In our state, they were not provided with therapy to address their issues, and each girl ended up coping differently. One became suicidal and had to be put in an institution. Another became very immoral and self-destructive. Another tried to look very tough and manly, displaying menacing tattoos and eventually choosing a woman to “marry.” Many ended up pregnant and not married. We feel that appropriate counseling would have spared them lives of self-hatred, anger, addictions, criminal activity, and even premature death. In a society where immorality is growing at a rapid pace, therapy, and the Gospel of Jesus Christ may be the most important things that can be offered to help children ever find peace in this life.

R. A.September 26, 2019

I enjoyed reading the article about the people in India. This is a wonderful cause. Thank you for posting this article.

AliciaSeptember 26, 2019

I thoroughly enjoyed reading the comments from the staff and students and how they're already being blessed.

mucumsSeptember 26, 2019

Appreciate your honesty and willingness to share your story.

mucumsSeptember 26, 2019

Wonderful article

Rosalind DraperSeptember 26, 2019

What is the size of the calendar?

LJSeptember 26, 2019

Timely! Touching! There is a great dialog on this over on Quilette. It is called "No one is born in the wrong body." https://quillette.com/2019/09/24/no-one-is-born-in-the-wrong-body/

Bob PowelsonSeptember 26, 2019

I would like to read the comments before I post. On the other hand this is a magnificent story of kindness and love.

Bob PowelsonSeptember 26, 2019

The therapy must be allowed to continue. It not desirable that the LGBT advocates should rule our ability to treat our children and family.

ElizaSeptember 26, 2019

It is wonderful to see how so many people's lives are being changed for the better.

Judith La MontagneSeptember 26, 2019

For the author: What a marvelous and objective piece this is. It should be published in both Salt Lake City newspapers. The editorial page would be the best, but it probably wouldn't fly there. It shoud at least be in a letter to the editor. There are a number of grammatical corrections needed. I would be happy to help if you would like to be published.

Scot ProctorSeptember 26, 2019

100% of raised funds are going directly to the building project.

Scot ProctorSeptember 26, 2019

All of the parts of the story are available under Daris Howard's author page here: https://latterdaysaintmag.com/author/daris-howard/

Raeann PeckSeptember 26, 2019

And what if that person's bishop is a therapist? Would counseling as a bishop overlap and cause him professional risk?

susan nelsonSeptember 26, 2019

religious freedom is most important! I don't understand why anyone would want to ban something that could be and is so helpful!

a Latter-day SaintSeptember 26, 2019

Thank you so much for the time and effort, plus the sacrifice of making your story public. You will help countless (including me) with the experience you've gained at such cost. I am very grateful for you sharing your experience and the knowledge you've gained.

Nan HancockSeptember 26, 2019

Thank you for standing up for therapy and being willing to share your story. Banning this type of therapy would be a tragedy.

Robert StarlingSeptember 26, 2019

Thank you, Erin, for bringing a valuable perspective to this vital discussion. Your incredible courage to reveal the tragic reasons behind your gender identity challenges will be an inspiration to others, and hopefully prevent legal mis-steps that would deny helpful therapy to other victims.

Robert StarlingSeptember 26, 2019

This is a vital issue and needs a "call to arms" NOW to protect our religious freedoms and the freedom to give safe, helpful therapy to those experiencing gender confusion. These issues were explored in depth at the "Stand4Truth Summit" conference held in Salt Lake City in 2015. There are a number of pertinent videos from that conference on Youtube, including this one talking specifically about the legal threats to the ability to practice positive therapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QscYKhpfhU&list=PLoZh26zcXX90ib6gEgKAGbJOQCc0jIbvg&index=3

SusanSeptember 26, 2019

Wow! Powerful story and information. Thank you. I feel much better informed.

MICHAEL EDWARDSSeptember 26, 2019

God created two sexes, did He not ?

Judy HulseSeptember 26, 2019

What a wonderful story. To hear the personal account of 'helping a child that was not his.' But what touched my heart, was his 'forgiveness of the first signs of anger.' The Spirit was so strong to guide him along the correct path. We all need this.... there are various events in our life we need to look to the Lord.

John Charles PearceSeptember 26, 2019

I live in the Tri-cities area of WA which doesn't have access to the Fathom network so we will not be able to receive the broadcast on November 4th. Just over two months ago I started a movie club called LatterDay Movie Club which now has over 850 members. I would love our club to be able to host a screening. Recently we held a private screening of "The Fighting Preacher" with 233 in attendance. Is there some way that we can bring the movie to our area after November 4th. Perhaps in a DCP.

Jeanne HuntSeptember 26, 2019

Thank you!

AnonymousSeptember 26, 2019

Thank you for sharing your experience. I wish other states would take this into consideration, instead of mental health professionals trying to force/forcing parents to “compromise” with their children aka push forward transitioning. They would never tell a parent to compromise with their anorexic child by letting them starve some of the time.

JustinSeptember 26, 2019

Fantastic article! Coincidentally, our bishop mentioned many allegorical comparisons within the movie Pinocchio in our ward conference last Sunday, focusing on character Jiminy Cricket being similar as the gift of the Holy Ghost in leading us, and concluded that our Heavenly Father loves us. And he aimed this talk at the kids... perhaps inspired to give that talk at the last minute. Sadly, we lost a young member of our ward to suicide 2 days later. He likely dealt with comparisons, and definitely with depression while navigating the teenage environment of school and friendships. Some keen observations there about self-pity (through comparisons) being a hindrance to having gratitude!

Cherie DaySeptember 26, 2019

This should be printed in the op-ed section of every newspaper in the country. Thank you Erin for sharing such valuable information and a different perspective than what is making all the headlines these days. Your story was helpful in helping me better understand this issue.

LisaSeptember 26, 2019

Very interesting article. It made some really good points. Thank you for sharing. My husband is a therapist so I gave it to him to read.

Linda SmithSeptember 26, 2019

This amounts to being REQUIRED to BULLY these minor children into submission.

Carol RadmallSeptember 26, 2019

I have the first & fourth part of the story ~ but I don't have the 2nd or 3rd! And for some reason I am not able to get them! Could you send me the second & third part! Please and thank you.

Carol RadmallSeptember 26, 2019

Love this story ~ I read the first part to my ministering family ~ I will read the rest of the story to them ~ what a sweet story on forgiveness ~ I only wish that you told more of after they got into France & didn't skip how they survived!

JasonSeptember 26, 2019

What percentage of each dollar donated goes to the school vs administration?

Anne PrattSeptember 25, 2019

Fabulous! Thanks for your insightful and articulate article!

VioletSeptember 25, 2019

Finally, someone has had the courage and clarity of mind to put into words how anger can be viewed in a healthy way. I have long believed that God intended for us to channel and integrate difficult emotions as part of our God given nature; as the Way to become more Christlike. Thank you so much. This is an excellent and practical article I want to keep for future reference. We need more articles like this one on understanding difficult emotions from a healthy [and holy] perspective.

Nicholeen PeckSeptember 25, 2019

Vickie, That is a beautiful story. There is a beautiful spirit that is present when a family in uniting to better live the gospel, even if things aren't perfect. That is a treasured memory for your whole family to always remember. Thank you for sharing it here.

BobSeptember 25, 2019

SB, I love you man. When I read the King James with my kids, and I explain something, and they say, "why didn't he just say that," I tell them instead of continuing to dumb down our beautiful language, let's bring our minds up. Having said that, I didn't have a problem with the wording, but the point was sometimes elusive, until I was able to contemplate the article as a whole.

Michael Shea, MDSeptember 25, 2019

I’m not sure how many people have become convinced that the LGBTQ cause is a righteous one. I suppose it depends on one’s notion of righteousness. For some of us, especially those raised in relatively insular societal enclaves, the reality that there is no agreement on this subject may come as a surprise. Two thousand years ago, didn’t that paragon of social justice, Pontius Pilate, show how clearly he recognized the issue when he asked of Jesus the question, “What is truth?”. In fact, the problem is now as it was then, but the cacophony of conflicting LOUD voices and irreconcilable controversies has become so intolerable that many just don’t care anymore. What characterizes much of our “enlightened” culture is nothing more than battle fatigue. The cure? For me it’s simple: leave the battle. Yep, just walk out and close the door. Problem solved.

LindaSeptember 25, 2019

I am so grateful for the changes made this year to the temple ceremonies. I have hated the temple since the first time I attended over 40 years ago. I studied and attended but always left feeling the Lord saw me as a woman as less valuable than his sons. My Relief Society President, who was single, said she was always grateful to be single after attending the temple. Hardly the message we want people to get.

AubreySeptember 25, 2019

Thank you for posting this article. It has brightened my day!

Linda & PaulSeptember 25, 2019

I loved, loved, loved your "question-to-self"... 'What are you believing now that isn't true?' It is a very powerful query that counteracts self doubt and self sabotage!!! It is also such a joy to be inspired on Sunday mornings prior to attending church by your voices sharing and enlightening my mind with words of great wisdom via the CFM podcasts. Your loving efforts are appreciated far more than you will ever realize. Blessings to you both!!!!

Jackie WassmanSeptember 25, 2019

I love your article about finding and recognizing peace. I realy liked the quotes you put in there from the general authorities. I would have never had found them without your article. Thank you

VardellSeptember 25, 2019

Hopefully you will indulge a differing conclusion. When you say that synonyms for "in Christ" might be "in covenant," "in union" "in harmony", you neglect the most accurate ones which would be forgiven, redeemed, justified. Paul plainly and extensively teaches that when we are justified, (an event when we are forgiven and changed to a state of righteousness. See Mosiah 27:25, Romans ch 3-8), then we are indeed considered righteous. Justified means we are pardoned from our sins, and as you quoted Millet, Christ takes the sin and imputes righteousness to us. IT IS ONLY AFTER THIS EVENT that we become, "in Christ, or "in the spirit", opposite of our former condition which was "in the flesh", "of nature", of the "natural man". So if you take justification to it's logical conclusion, you understand what Paul taught when he explained that upon being pardoned and forgiven of ALL our sins, then in effect there is no more law that we are accountable to; we are "dead to the law", no longer under law but under grace. No longer walk in the oldness of law but in newness of the spirit, a new creature, dead to sin, but alive in Christ, and "in Christ." So, throughout his epistles Paul is trying to teach the significance and ramifications of being forgiven and changed by our faith in Christ.

karell BinghamSeptember 25, 2019

Surprisingly, I was thinking along this line earlier this week! So I concur!

JoanneSeptember 25, 2019

Love this, thank you!

Roberta and DonSeptember 24, 2019

Thank you Becky for such a wonderful article about what is and what will happen in Bihar!! We have personally witnessed what amazing "miracles" you have accomplished with RisingStar in Tamilnadu and now there is the same hope for the leprosy affected children and their parents in that area of Bihar. Thank you Becky and thank you to the Proctors.

RitaSeptember 24, 2019

Joel, it is helpful to hear from a Jewish convert. I don't think the author was speaking about all Jews, but about those who participated in the referenced survey, and who appeared to be mostly Orthodox and Reformed. They are obviously not a complete representation of worldwide Jewish thought or experience. As for their need for conversion to the Restored Gospel before Christ's return, I would respectfully disagree. I have found that people are where they are for a reason, and not everyone will embrace, or even learn of, the Lord's true church during mortality. And that's OK. Whether in this life or the next, all of His children will have an opportunity to hear and choose. As we witness to our brothers and sisters in love and compassion, the Lord will take care of their ultimate outcome. His beloved Jewish sons and daughters receive blessings for their faithfulness to the Law they know, even if the traditions temporarily prevent them from embracing the gospel in this life.

G. JohnsonSeptember 24, 2019

Brother Marks makes an important point, the same I came to, in that many of the Jewish faith and culture, seem to have lost their connection to the traditions that give it it's vitality and dynamism. Some would contend that it is those very traditions that have cost Judaism those very characteristics. I worked for over 40 years in the television business and counted as my friends and co-workers many who identified themselves as Jews, yet, were not "practicing" the religion. We, as LDS, suffer from the same fate, when we make life choices that separate us from the essence of our religion; ongoing and continuous revelation and direction from our prophet and his emissaries. Much as some Jews neglect those traditions that guide their faith. Further, I find it curious that as citizens, the Jews seem to support political philosophies, parties and candidates that run entirely contrary to their theology. I asked one of my Jewish friends about this and they theorized that it was due to what they termed, "Jewish guilt"; guilt coming from that which posited their traditional values against what they perceive as their "chosen" nature as a culture versus the injustices that characterize modern life. Further, they felt that, at one time, one specific political party addressed those concerns better than others. That proclivity finds it's persistence in a generational tradition passed from parents to children. That the political landscape as well as the values that characterize and define one political party from another are constantly changing in this day, modern Judaism has a difficult time overcoming these traditions. Support for Israel, is another factor that seems to run contrary to the American Jewish experience; it seems to have no correlation to what one would expect of Jews in supporting their homeland as they seem to support a political party that has shown hostility towards Israel.

T FSeptember 24, 2019

I love reading the words from the students, especially. To see their smiling faces next to the words-- a wonderful reminder of what this is all about.

Glendon SypherSeptember 24, 2019

Have you ever wondered what really is the purpose of life. Many years ago my parents lost their first child and wondered what became of that sweet son who only lived a day on this earth. They received this message from an elderly missionary couple who shared this message of the plan of salvation, and that made all the difference for their hope and happiness......and mine as well.

Joel Robin MarksSeptember 24, 2019

As a Jew and a Mormon I have a different unique perspective of your polyannish article. Yes it is true that religious Jews want thebest for their families and friends, but so do irreligious Jews. Many Jews are not attending SHUL or synagogue much and if they do its tradition or peer pressure. Modern Judaism is not homogeneous and does not fit as your article implies into a neat orderly dynamic. Jews need today to know that the Messiah has returned and though dedicated somewhat to traditions and long beliefs they are not in the scope of real truths though many traditionas and cultural distinctions are Talmudic converted from Biblical or as we say Old Testament writings. God bless my Brothers and sisters of the Jewish faith to see the light before the heat of Armageddon. Thanks you for writing such an insightful article on the forgotten Jewish faith which encompasses pure religion not just Zionism.

MerileeSeptember 24, 2019

I wish we were better at differentiating between being LGBT and having attractions which are different than most people experience and LGBT who are opposed to the commandments of God and church teachings and leaders. There is a need to separate these two realities in our rhetoric. People who are LGTB need to feel accepted and welcomed in our church community. When articles such as these characterize the LGBT community as a whole in a negative light, it can disparage members who would like to find support for their LGBT status while remaining faithful to their covenants. Additionally, it can polarize readers into two camps- for or against LGBT individuals. I would like to see more articles on how we can negotiate the blessed opportunity of opening our minds and hearts to our LGBT brothers and sisters while staying true to the faith and also helping them be true to themselves and their faith.

CelesteSeptember 24, 2019

I’m so devastated by this article! I’m asking Our Heavenly Father to cover those innocent babies in the blood of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! I didn’t think that I would read something so horrible in my life! My heart goes out to these babies! I don’t know what’s wrong with the humans in this world! Why so evil? Why prey on babies and hurt them? I’m so emotional right now, I can’t think straight! I’m going into prayer about this! This is the most disturbing news I’ve yet to come across with these articles! I’m so appreciative that we have The Meridian! I truly learn something new everyday! No matter how degrading it my be, I still learn something new! I learn good and hopeful things too, but this right here, just leveled me! I’m looking at my grandbabies right now and I’m so elated that I’m here for them and I’ve sacrificed my life and the things that I wanted out of my life for them! Actually for them and my daughters! God is so amazing! He is the Alpha and the Omega! The beginning and the End! King of all Kings! We need him so very much! Thank you Jesus for everything, words can not express!

Corinne ShepherdSeptember 23, 2019

The Proclamation was given BEFORE what is happening today was an issue! We also have The Articles of Faith to clarify our beliefs and the 11th Article seems to cover the "Confusion": "We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow ALL men the same privilege, let them "worship how, where, or what they may." God loves all His children - we should too, without compromising His TRUTH!!

MaySeptember 23, 2019

Brother Hess, Thank you so very much for your thorough and articulate treatment of this delicate, yet relevant, subject. As one of those "beating hearts" for whom this subject is tender and close, It is obvious that you are not only passionate and curious but congruently careful and considerate. Thank you for the reminder that "WE" the people numbered among those who wish to follow and emulate the life of The Master are every bit, if not more, accountable to The One whose name we represent to stand boldly, courageously and lovingly for the beautiful truths our Prophets and Apostles so clearly articulate. It is my hope personally to do all I can to remain motivated by love, which I believe to be the catalyst for not only The Family Proclamation but the many other efforts The Church, as an organization, undertakes to do good in this world. As President Nelson said, "Because we feel the depth of God's love for His children, we care deeply about every child of God, regardless of age, gender, personal circumstances, sexual orientation or other unique challenges." May we too, as disciples of Jesus Christ, approach public discourse on these important matters with the civility, respect and love so beautifully exemplified by apostles and prophet and may WE indeed "Become the change We wish to see in the world!"

vickieSeptember 23, 2019

my kids are all grown and gone. I remember trying to have family home evenings and this was good sometimes and not sometimes. we had kids very far apart in age. we tried to organize it and it worked and sometimes it didn't but we were able to get a message out. whether it was pad attention to we don't know. however, one family home evening we had was paid attention to by another person living in our home unbeknownst to us. my husbands sister was staying with us and we thought she was in her room. we were too dumb to ask her to join us but I think the way it happened worked out well. we started our family home evening with prayer and then sang a song and then tried to teach a lesson and talked and sang another song and had desert. well, my husbands sister was hiding behind a wall and watching us. she never said a word about it. later when she moved out and got to living her own life, she let me know that she had just been baptized in our church. I said what!....I couldn't believe it. she smoked and drank. I couldn't believe she had quit. she then told me why she joined the church. she said she wanted what we had and that she was watching us having family home evening. I had no idea and wondered if she saw all the fuss as well. she said she loved it. well, some people who knew her in her ward called us a few times. she had fallen and was drinking again so she couldn't stay with it. I think she did go to church off and on though until she passed away. on her death certificate it said she was a latter day saint ie Mormon. so we did her work for her. we loved her no matter how she was. she saw something and it filled her heart to see our family working together to be together.

vickieSeptember 23, 2019

also I agree with SB...I had a hard time understanding what the point is. maybe its better to state the point and then write about it. some of us are not so educated as you are but want to read what you have to write. thank you

vickieSeptember 23, 2019

I HAVE A SON WHO IS GAY. HE IS 34YRS OLD AND CAME OUT TO ME LAST YEAR. he emailed a letter to me letting me know how he felt years before when he was growing up and realized he was different. he kind of knew something was different he said when he was 11yrs old. his siblings noticed it before that. he was the youngest in our family of 5 kids. one girl the oldest and then 3 brothers. he was the baby and the cutie pie. he said he hurt inside and was angry. he went on a mission and wanted to go and was young and hadn't done anything and I think hadn't recognized that this was who he was. when he came out to me I cried for 2days. I told my husband and he got quiet and then looked at me and said, he is my son and I love him very much. I then realized that he was right...we both love him no matter what his situation. whether he was wrong or right we loved him as Christ loves us. I also realize that we are all different via language, skin color, culture, religion and we need to do what Christ says....TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER....my son is getting married to his partner. I don't believe in gay marriage but at the same time if it means him being with one partner the rest of his life then I can look at this as a safety issue and health issue of which I prefer. I know that spiritually its not probably recognized and legally in some states probably not recognized....my son was unhappy for a very long time esp knowning his parents were not approving of the gay lifestyle. now its not if I approve of any lifestyle because I raised him and he was a good son and now he is an adult and he makes his own choices. my choice is to love my son.

Lisa CSeptember 23, 2019

I think this diagnosis of how religious ideas get framed in social discourse is spot on. I also was thinking how easy it is for religious people to unconsciously cede ground in these debates by adopting the framework and language of people who oppose us. But to not do that requires a really clear understanding of what assumptions are being made in a conversation and how to point that out and introduce new assumptions. I wonder if the author would give a little more clear evidence showing specifically how this happens in modern conversations and particularly some examples of how to reframe a conversation. Thanks

JustinSeptember 23, 2019

I wonder at which point we have to come to a point where people who have been taught proper standards will never change and just strive to live good and loving lives, and in time, as passions cool and the pendulum stops swinging, and they are left with the misery that strident and continued disobedience has brought, they might look to those whose lives are still bright, light and delightsome, and be willing to seek for understanding and the blessings that they see. We are taught in the scriptures that contention is of the devil. It's common for people to define the terms of the conversation to suit their needs. We don't need to play along. Truth is truth.

ValerieSeptember 23, 2019

Thank you so much for expressing this so plainly.

KrisSeptember 23, 2019

I would think this husband will deal with an idealized girl friend’s rejection and realize how much he gained from a faithful dutiful wife and mother to his children. I would think he will greet his wife with open arms and joy as his eternal sealed partner. I think this will be the final scenario. In the meantime the wife can become more sanctified and glorious in her own right. She will need to decide if she can forgive his immaturity and hurtful behavior and thus own her own story’s outcome.

MariaSeptember 23, 2019

I love this so much. I'm going to share it with many. We know Satan is a beguiler. He twists things just a little so it seems good. I believe he has flipped the first and second commandments saying we are supposed to love our neighbor first and if God's commandments don't match with this first commandment we are hateful. And love for gays trumps love for anyone else. Even if I tell people that I have friends who are gay, I'm still considered bigoted because I believe in the proclamation..

CSBevanSeptember 23, 2019

This is a very thought-provoking article but I’m a little confused by use of the word “confusion.” I know there is disagreement, dissent or conflict among those who don’t see the “Family Proclamation” as a prophetic declaration but I haven’t not been party to any confusion. I remember, however, when the proclamation was “introduced” my first thoughts were, “of course.” Years later I’m now even more convinced of its divine necessity (not that I needed convincing!).

AnnaSeptember 23, 2019

A really enjoyed this article and especially the part about how Christ asks all of us to become new creatures in Him. It doesn't matter how we identify, or who we love, in the end we ALL must come unto Christ and become like Him (in thought word and deed). We all have to give up "our natural man /woman" and become new.

A. BinghamSeptember 23, 2019

I am a Latter Day Saint and self employed contractor. I have belonged to Christian Healthcare Ministries for 3 years. This could be another option. https://www.chministries.org/

MelissaSeptember 23, 2019

Oh how I appreciated your succinct and compassionate approach! Your thoughts are spot on and have bouyed my spirits knowing I am not alone. I work in a corporation where "tolerance and acceptance" are paramount...but only for for those that lie within the new protected social minority (LGBTQ and their sympathizers). Those like me who hold to traditional beliefs are censored and ostracized. I have hoped to find some help/advice that would provide some guidance and reassurance. I loved that talk from our prophet and I will continiue to stand behind him and our apostles! They speak truth and "truth is truth"!

SBSeptember 23, 2019

Thanks for your interesting article and insight! My only suggestion would be to write in "easier to understand" language for the benefit of many readers, including teens, who may struggle with some of your advanced wording, such as in this sentence: "While certainly an expanded societal pluralism has fostered greater mutual appreciation, an ideology of ongoing liberation from structural oppression has now become the de facto, virtually unquestioned starting point for most public discussions about sexuality today." Surely that, and many of you other sentences, can be more simply stated and made understandable for the "average" person? A person who is not quite as educated as you will probably stop reading your article at the second or third paragraph. All should be able to read and understand and appreciate your important message - if you make it so they can.. Thanks!

Herm OlsenSeptember 23, 2019

Mr. Hess makes valuable points. He notes that the social media discourse can very quickly become toxic. It’s tragic that people seem willing to unleash intense hostility against views (and people) who disagree with themselves - both in an out of the Church. I appreciate both the tone and the content expressed, and hope that our Pride-focused brothers and sisters will pause just long enough to consider the truths expressed.

blackwolfSeptember 22, 2019

Great first video, big step up from the 'Book of Mormon' movie. Check out www.lehiinarabia.com if you want to review all the supporting evidence.

JanelleSeptember 22, 2019

People are sick! I hope we at least pass the Born Alive Survivors Protection Act. A complete ban on abortion would be preferable!

AnnSeptember 22, 2019

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carolyn nicolaysenSeptember 21, 2019

Cyrus, I think the difference is between someone who wants to survive and someone who can no longer think clearly due to stress or old age or being too young to understand the danger. When my grandmother was living with me she would not eat and just did not understand she needed to. I found two things she loved and she ate many, many peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and cream of wheat with brown sugar until she felt better when we got her medications regulated. Studies have shown children and the elderly are the most at risk.

Roberta PetersonSeptember 21, 2019

Thank you, Bro. Proctor, for sharing these in July & for re-sharing them during Constitution Week (Sept. 17 & thereafter). We members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have a responsibility to study and promote the divinely inspired Constitution. We cannot follow it if we do not know what it says. Hillsdale College's free on-line course, Constitution 101, is excellent.

DeeAnnSeptember 21, 2019

They have a right as a private religious organization, to determine the criteria for who joins. The only part I have a problem with is that they weren't up front about it when the family originally signed up. Welcome to the world of religious freedom!

Iliana martinsenSeptember 21, 2019

It is hard to read all these comments, I think we all are victims of these constant promptings from Lucifer. If Lucifer was villain enough to tempt our Lord Jesus the Christ, what can we expect from David?. He was a victim too; Lucifer knew the glory that awaits for David and he Lucifer worked extra hard to make sure David won't be able to reach it. What am I trying to say is this: We have no right to point a finger to any of them we weren`t there, I don`t think for a minute that our own lives are perfect we all have ups and downs we are not by any means perfect humans, so please stop calling King David rapist or, bathsheba seducer respect them we all will someday heading there means the other side of the veil and our own eyes will be open to the perfect truth of what or how really happens... meanwhile be respectful and focussed on our own personal progress.

CW2SADSeptember 21, 2019

It’s funny that there’s a message at the end of the article about the temple not taking Visa. My Eternal Companion and I went to our local temple last week and she tried to pay for her rental clothing with cash. Imagine her surprise when she was told they don’t take cash anymore! Visa is accepted though...

PaulSeptember 21, 2019

This is a fantastic article! I too struggled with the temple at first. The biggest thing that helped was my mom who told me that she didn't understand everything either and keep going back. It was reassuring to know that as long as I continued to go back that I would learn powerful truths that would help me. I found that to be the case. My current issue is the new film. I get motion sickness if I watch it for too long. I try to listen to what they are saying and close my eyes and fall asleep! It is so difficult.

Alece ReynoldsSeptember 20, 2019

You could remind her that regardless of whether or not her husband married her on the rebound, or not. If he truly never loved her, and she has been faithful to him and to the Lord, a loving Heavenly Father will provide an eternal spouse for her who will love her in the way she always hoped to be loved.

ScottHSeptember 20, 2019

Thank you. Great article. Good suggestions. I had a bishop who said that your visit to the temple could be a deeply sacred experience or it could be no more spiritually significant than visiting the drive-thru at a fast food restaurant. It's really up to you. I was fascinated by a comment Richard Bushman made to a group of seasoned journalists about how Latter-day Saints create sacred space. The temple may be sacred to the Lord, but it only becomes sacred to ourselves as individuals as we take deliberate action to make it so. Your GPPPG formula is the perfect approach to doing so. More than a decade ago, I had a stake president who counseled stake members to attend the temple weekly or as often as circumstances allowed. To be frank, I was chagrined by his counsel. Weren't we already busy enough? To top it off, our local temple closed for 3½ years for extensive renovation. The first year of so of my weekly temple visits were tainted by my attitude. But you know what? Week after week, the Lord softened my heart a little bit. Eventually my weekly time in the temple became deeply sacred. I learned more and more, and I had many hallowed experiences. So I know that your suggestion to keep attending the temple really works.

MicheleSeptember 20, 2019

The original article demonstrates the Samaritan organization is having to comply with the Affordable Care Act, and isn't willing to stand up to the ACA standards and/or changes. The ACA shouldn't have any say in religious beliefs, in my opinion.

JudySeptember 20, 2019

Are the significant dates such as first visits of Moroni to the Prophet Joseph Smith and the date of receiving of the gold plates, etc., also noted on this calendar?

KathySeptember 20, 2019

I can't thank you enough for your insights into these wonderful scriptures. I don't listen to the podcast but I read the article every week and add numerous notes to my scriptures... always giving the two of you credit. THANK YOU!!!

Dottie SagerSeptember 20, 2019

I also tried twice but my information was rejected. Dottie Sager

DL AndersonSeptember 20, 2019

What a lovely reminder on the day I'm returning to "my" Temple. It hasn't been long; nor is temple attendance unusual for me. Regardless, these sweet reminders added so much to my work day that will melt into my "temple trip" day (I live a distance and so will stay at Temple Patron apts). To others reading this, I add my witness that it is indeed our attitude, not our knowledge, that prepares us (along with personal worthiness!) for receiving the gifts our Savior, Heavenly Parents, and the Holy Ghost would LOVE to give us - IF we would just slow down; listen, then hearken.

Gaye BreillattSeptember 20, 2019

Attending g the temple regularly changes your life. You are more focused on the things that truly matter. Beautiful Article.

CarolSeptember 20, 2019

The first point: "You are sons and daughters of God" is something that helps me stay focused in even the hardest times. I just repeat over and over out loud if possible or in my heard when it's not, I am a daughter of God, over and over until I feel grounded and focused.

Gail HansenSeptember 20, 2019

I think that Stephen E. Robinson's book "Are Mormons Christians?" has the answers to all of "Christian Health Care" objections.It would take to long to clarify their objections here.So I would recommend the book to make a clear statement back to them.

CarolSeptember 20, 2019

Now you can put those wonderful stories into Family Search for all the world to see. And even the pictures too. I love that feature of the program. I don't have many stories but the ones I have I share!

Temple LoverSeptember 20, 2019

Loved this article —it mirrors my own experiences and feelings in many ways and expresses them better than I ever could. I receive my endowment many many years ago— completely unprepared as far as temple preparation classes or anything except negative and bewildering comments from others. Fortunately, and I will be grateful for this eternally, I fell in love with the temple from the very first words spoken during in the first ordinance— I am sure it was because I was already in love with the Lord and somehow trusted and knew that whatever happened that day was from Him, and was what He wanted me to know and feel. I feel the same way 50+years later as I administer these ordinances to my sisters in the temple. If we go to the temple loving Him and always remembering Him, and trusting Him, I can promise He will fill us with reverent joy —if we will only be still and know that He is God.

Lee HillSeptember 20, 2019

Thank you so much for this wonderful article! My wife and I are the temple preparation instructors for our ward and we have had many wonderful discussions with young people preparing for missions and couples who are going to the temple for the first time or returning after many years of being absent from temple attendance. We teach our lessons one-on-one with each individual or family and love the intimacy of that setting. The points made in this article will be helpful to us in explaining the importance of regular temple attendance and listening carefully to the whisperings of the Spirit while there. Thank you again!

CDLSeptember 20, 2019

Not an easy job. I wish him well.

Mary JSeptember 20, 2019

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Steven K. SsenyonjoSeptember 20, 2019

This Prophetic message is not only for the youth but for the entire church membership globally. "We thank thee for a Prophet..."

Cyrus L WelchSeptember 19, 2019

I take exception to your comment that people will starve before eating food they don't like. I was privileged to serve in the USAF with a survivor of a Japanese prisoner of war camp, He promised me and anyone else who cared to listen that you will eat anything, yes, 'ANYTHING' when you get hungry enough,

Martin AckleySeptember 19, 2019

Wonderful article. Thank you so much. I agree with everything you wrote, except the the sentence about disagreeing with our prophets being a universal experience. I am a Latter-Day Saint because the prophets are prophets. Either they are or they aren't. If they aren't then I am wasting my time here, but they are. There are many who want to be taught what they want to be taught. There is no growth in that. We ought to desire to be taught what the Lord wants to teach us. I believe this is relevant. I have always followed politics and of course had very strong opinions and of course was right. I have at times been quite vocal about my beliefs. Under the previous administration I went through a dark period in which I said I am beginning to not recognize my country. For me this was a time of sadness and anger. However, the Spirit spoke to me these words "Countries come and go. Nations rise and fall. You focus on the kingdom of God." This was a powerful Holy Ghost moment and message, and I have never been the same. There is no soundbite or video that could be played on any network news or radio show that can bring me despair again. I know those difficult moments are coming. The Babylon we have all cherished will crumble around us, but it is the Kingdom of God that is unshakable. "Choose ye this day... I will serve the Lord," and follow the Lord's servant Also There was no concealed carry allowed by Jesus in His ministry, Peter when Saul was slaughtering the Saints, Paul when the Romans..., Polycarp... It will probably happen somewhere, sometime; will we say "see I told the Prophet..." or will we follow Paul's teaching to not resist evil, and continue to have faith in Christ and follow the prophet in the face of the most terrible tragedy?

J FoxSeptember 19, 2019

I think this issue is complicated by the distinction between doctrine and policy. it is my faith that the Prophet and Apostles as the final authorities in promulgating correct doctrine and principles. And deviating from these could imperil one's salvation. It is also my faith that they are also the final authorities on church policy - The "church" being distinguished from the "gospel" as the church is the organized structure that reinforces gospel living. When new church policies are made, especially administrative in nature, I'm just not certain they have the same salvation related significance. I think this article makes great points, but I suspect there are probably situations where one can take exception to a general policy and it may actual be pleasing to the Lord.

Ben JonesSeptember 19, 2019

When I joined the Church in 1982, Ezra Taft Benson was next in line to be prophet and he had been quoted as saying that you couldn't be a good Democrat and a good Mormon. One of my colleagues, a returned missionary, called Benson a fascist and hoped he'd die before President Kimball did. A year later, I saw Benson speak in General Conference about his experiences as a Boy Scout leader and I decided I was fine with him being the next prophet. A year or so later, he became the prophet and he never said another word about Democrats or Republicans. However, my colleague became a bitter apostate.

EveSeptember 19, 2019

Excellent points. Great reminder that applies to everyone. Thank you so much!

HalSeptember 19, 2019

Wow, what a great article! I will be sharing this with my immediate family. There have been times in my life when I questioned counsel given by church leaders and I have been wrong every time.

YFBSeptember 19, 2019

I want to quarrel with one point: alcohol abuse does not lead to rape. A person does not commit rape because they've had too much to drink. I think it's important to clear up misconceptions like that about sexual abuse once and for all.

Darlene HarrisSeptember 19, 2019

May God bless you at this difficult time. Losing a child is a terrible thing to go through. Take comfort that he is with our Heavenly Father. He was doing God's work. God will bless you in your grief.

RebeccaSeptember 19, 2019

Many people say they would never have "stoned the prophets" as is recorded in the scriptures to have happened. But, how often is this done (not physically casting a stone) when a prophet's stated position - the church's position - on something is not agreed with and fought against in a public, or even private, forum. Ask yourself if your actions/inactions are in effect "stoning the prophets". Thank you for this article - it has given me much to think about. Especially the paragraph that ends with... "If it hasn’t happened to you yet, I can almost guarantee that it eventually will."

Mary Ann KershisnikSeptember 19, 2019

Thank you!!!!!!

Charles DefranchiSeptember 19, 2019

Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the First Presidency had the experience as a young Attorney to consider the Supreme Court's decision to remove any form of religious symbol from public schools and universities as valid...until President David O. McKay stated that this represented the victory of a religion without God over a religion with a God. Brother Oaks later realized that the Prophet had been right all along.

Roberta PetersonSeptember 19, 2019

Excellent, excellent article. Thank you so much. I believe it is arrogant of us (of me) to think I am always right.

Justin MSeptember 19, 2019

Becky, thank you for your efforts to make the impossible POSSIBLE! And thank you to the Proctor's, for recognizing a way to help that vision come to light! It was hard to see in some of the photos the light of hope become dimmed through a hard life. That will be a wonderful miracle to see! My wife and I are grateful that we can be a small part of this effort through our contributions. I hope you'll report out the progress of the school, and changes in their lives!

J. HoodSeptember 19, 2019

Well written. I have never questioned the prophets because as you've said, I have received my own revelation from God that they are prophets. But your article made me think about how others might think or feel. I really enjoyed it. It was very informative.

Patricia CerisanoSeptember 19, 2019

Our deepest condolences go the family of Elder Keck. It is so hard to loose a child at any time. But he was in the service of the Lord when he died and that itself is a comfort. May you be blessed with peace and comfort and know that Heavenly Father is aware of you.

LIndaSeptember 18, 2019

This article was spot on! Our youngest daughter was diagnosed with an adult-onset pediatric brain tumor 7 years ago. She was 25 at the time, happy teaching elementary school, in a vibrant YSA ward in another state. She had surgery right away, radiation, then a year of chemo and physical/occupational therapy. She was left with some diminished skills, unable to return to teaching, no driving, and had to move back home with us. Her grief was heartbreaking! Life as she’d known it was gone, dreams dashed. Gratefully, she had mega support from family and friends. But her grief manifest itself often, and it included raising her voice and snapping at me (totally NOT her gentle self!). It cut me to the core, but I knew she was grieving and bit my tongue. But after a few months, I cratered. One day when she snapped at me, I looked her in the eyes and tearily told her she didn’t need to yell at me, I was only trying to help. She looked shocked, and said “did I yell at you”? She didn’t even realize what she’d done, and felt badly. We talked about it, and although her grief went on for a long time, she never raised her voice rudely again. And over time she has learned to accept her “new life” and in many ways is thriving. She knows she’s greatly blessed.

George SkylesSeptember 18, 2019

It was thought that there would never be a temple in East Germany. Russia needs the Church, and the Lord will provide when the time is right. There is a reason the temple announcement was made when it was. We think, "How in the world could that come to pass? However, we know it will happen "in the Lord's due time." Meanwhile, we have our own challenges and need to be faithful for our own sakes and for the Russians.

Jo Ann OkelberrySeptember 18, 2019

Marvelous.

David H BaileySeptember 18, 2019

Dear Unaccepted Wife. Please excuse my being direct, but you and your husband share some responsibility in enabling this serious problem. You have given this woman power to emotionally abuse both of you for 8 years and from the context of your writing it is likely to shortly increase in tension as you deliver. I honor you for anticipating a possible crisis as you bring a new creation into the world. How will this person view that innocent infant? Will she, perhaps without conscious awareness, transfer some of her disregard for you to the child? I view this situation with understanding as a man recovering from being an addictive controller. I learned of my addiction because I chose to accept group counseling and as part of that exposure witnessed women who came to weekly meetings because their husband-abuse became intolerable and they wanted resolution. In most cases the group taught and supported each other about how to gain control and not be victims. In my innosence I thought I could be a fly-on-the-wall. Ha. Not possible. I became involved in the trauma and challenges and discovered how deeply powerful addictive behaviors are. I suggest it is time to reverse the circumstances. What are your needs? Can you generate courage with love and caring to establish game-changing behaviors. This is not a time in your life to be nice to her which I sense you have tried without even getting eye contact. You need to disconnect from her abuse by setting rules you choose. I suggest you politely address her (with your words) that you will avoid contact so long as she engages in abusive words and uncomfortable contacts. When she privately agrees she may make it known in a way acceptable to you, maybe in writing.. Until she makes contact, you must enforce your limits, not even phone calls. You will have regained your power instead of giving it to her. I suggest you are strict because she may engage in a fight if she can make you feel like you are abusing her. I wish you loving success. David. u f the me but I will What are your expectations? You have allowed this mentally ill seems to me that you have given your mother-in-law power to control your life for 8 years, and as of this writing I sense no change in the health of that relationship. What are your expectations? I write as one who is a recovering addictive

Patricia ThompsonSeptember 18, 2019

So sorry for your loss. It is always hard to lose a child, but especially when the child is serving as a missionary.

RosaSeptember 18, 2019

My daughter had a similar situation, and it took years, but she has a good relationship with her mother-in-law now. I think reaching out to the MIL and inviting her out to lunch, just as you would do with your own mother is key to establishing a relationship. In my daughter's case, they invite MIL and FIL out to pizza regularly, if MIL is in a cranky mood, she stays home, if not she goes; it is her choice to be included or not.

JudySeptember 18, 2019

Thank you for this abundant selection of lesson enhancements!

JKSeptember 18, 2019

Oh my heart just goes out to this young Elders Family. May they find comfort through the Holy Spirit and the truths of eternal family ties. I pray if it be the Lords will the other Elder will recover. God bless

Alexander ForsythSeptember 18, 2019

How tragic! Bryant's Mother saw her son come into this world; and has seen her beloved son depart.

Paul HSeptember 18, 2019

I was nervous about using my credit card information as well so I called the phone number of Rising Star to ask if it was a secure connection. They assured me it was so I made a donation. How could I look at these pictures and not want to help? (My only suggestion is to list a link to donate at just the beginning and the end of the article. Otherwise is looks a little too much like you're just asking for money and I routinely avoid such as just a marketing opportunity.) Fortunately the photos and the text that said all funds will be used for the charitable purpose with no overhead fees overcame my usual objections and I made a contribution. After ignoring it at first, it kept coming back to me that this was a wonderful opportunity to help in a very small way. Bless you for your efforts. I hope somehow it snowballs into more than just a school for these poor yet deserving people. Thanks you Meridian for the humanitarian opportunity to help others.

Karin ThompsonSeptember 17, 2019

I also will keep these two missionaries in my prayers. My heart goes out to their families.. May our Heavenly Father with his infinite love and mercy allow them to heal and get well. The injured people in the truck will be in my prayers as well,

HalSeptember 17, 2019

We have had to be so careful lately. One of my favorite children's books authors started slipping in non-traditional relationships into his works as though they were normal, healthy alternatives. Similarly, we have found videos specifically targeted to young children (animated films) that depict non-traditional relationships. We have taken to previewing most of the books and videos our children read / watch even if they are geared for kids or rated G. It's very sad that our children aren't even safe in a school library.

Jo Ann OkelberrySeptember 17, 2019

Why can't children be children? Why does the LGBT community feel that their life style choices should deprive others of having a regular childhood? This article has made me so afraid for the children and teens of this world.

HSSeptember 17, 2019

I'm with the person who didn't want name, address and credit card out there in one more location. Please add PayPal as a way to donate. I promise I will donate, if you do that.

SHARON HARRISONSeptember 17, 2019

Thank you.

JOHN C SALAZARSeptember 17, 2019

Our most sincere prayers go out for these missionaries. We have a grandson serving and we are always praying for his safety. We will add them to prayer rolls at the temple tomorrow.

Charles DefranchiSeptember 17, 2019

I was diagnosed with a severe case of anemia when I was six, and was put through a regimen of medicines meants to boost my blood iron levels. Part of the regimen - not necessarily a priority - was to give me "Human Serum" shots in the tummy. The first one turned out to be extremely painful, to the point I could barely walk afterwards. There were 3-4 more shots remaining to administer, that were kept in the fridge. However, temperature in the fridge suddenly reached freezing levels, that destroyed the stored medicine. It was then decided not to continue with the treatment. Looking back sixty years later, I suspect that this incident was the result of the Lord's tender mercy towards the poor little boy I was.

Been ThereSeptember 17, 2019

This is a completely toxic relationship with the mother-in-law. She is wanting control on her terms and is undermining the wife right in front of her son. She is giving him an ultimatum and he is actually the one who needs to choose anything. The wife owes her mother-in-law nothing at this point! I believe the best advice is for the husband and wife to realize the mother-in-law is a controlling narcissist and will stop at nothing to accomplish a division within this marriage. This is not a healthy atmosphere to bring this new baby into, so they will need to secure their borders for the safety of their own family. THEY are the only ones who should be in control here. My next concern is, this mother raised the husband. Does he see the abusive nature of his mother and is he willing to protect his wife and baby? This is the only stance that will save his marriage. Ask me how I know -- this has happened to me and my former husband put his family first because that was the modus operandi of his original family, and ours ended. I am not bitter, I am grateful that is no longer in my life. When you've been exposed to this devious undercutting, you recognize it. This woman should be banned from their lives, not the other way around. I cannot stress how dangerous this woman is for the life of this new couple and their future children. Stop this pattern of insidious control and abuse with this generation. Placating a narcissist never does any good. It will keep you in torment and destroy lives. PLEASE publish what I am saying! I recommend a good counselor who specializes in abuse and controlling relationships so the couple can see their options and outcomes.

Steven K. SsenyonjoSeptember 17, 2019

Its very sad, however, I pray to the Almighty God through His mercy, love and care to heal these two missionaries who were working in His vine yard, a comfort to their parents also I pray for those who were in the truck.

GayleMarie WilkersonSeptember 17, 2019

Things are in the Lords hands and Prayers going out for the two missionaries, the medical staff taking care of the and for the families. You are not alone.

Alexander ForsythSeptember 16, 2019

No comments could equal the sentiments written in what I have just read.

Earl ChantrillSeptember 16, 2019

Beautifully written. The passages of our lives are unique, but related. I was a teacher for a number of years, and a speech pathologist for a number of years, then failing health took both from me. But I still have my family in what we expected would be an empty nest years ago. But we are blessed in ways that we could never have expected and have been challenged in ways we could never have expected.

DebbiSeptember 16, 2019

Wow! I so enjoyed this essay. Eloquently written, and spot on. As the mom of five grown children, this brought back so many memories and feelings. My last kindergartner is now 36 years old, but it seems like yesterday. tears feel to read such a thoughtful, insightful article.We do all experience going up a grade, don't we, and need to accept our assignments with grace, faith and courage, even when they seem difficult to understand.

Cassie L.September 16, 2019

Sharon, Though I graduated just over a year ago, I still find myself “moving up a grade” through the changes that come in life. Thank you for reminding me that there is beauty in transitioning and change just like the pretty Fall leaves. Love you!

JaneSeptember 16, 2019

So beautifully put. Teachers at school and home are blessed to make a difference in the lives of children who not only learn from us, but teach us every day. I too, shed tears over this sweet lesson. Thank you.

Jim BurrSeptember 16, 2019

I always knew that you had, and continue to have, a wonderful talent for expressing the thoughts and feelings of your heart. I also know how precious the life's experiences with your children are to you, and how much they continue to provide you with dear memories and how they have helped shape your life. This essay is beautifully crafted, deeply expressed in your own emotions, and reflective of your testimony. Thank you for sharing it with us.

Diane IrwinSeptember 16, 2019

She certainly was an 'Old Soul' to be able to say that!! Such insight!

Tami ClingerSeptember 16, 2019

I tried to donate but it rejected my information. It was all correct. Is there a glitch or something I didn't see?

John R CarpenterSeptember 16, 2019

Well said. Sadly the story of Chicken Little has been removed from California schools because it is racist and derogatory.

Scot ProctorSeptember 16, 2019

We will be publishing a series of articles throughout this week with more information on leprosy and the issues that face those affected in India. Stay tuned.

Sharon HawksSeptember 16, 2019

God bless these two missionaries and their families. Our family home evening group of widows will be praying for them this afternoon as well as personal prayers.

Donald Montréal CanadaSeptember 16, 2019

Beautifully Said...thank-you !

WendySeptember 16, 2019

I love this. Though I have no children of my own, I was a teacher for 31 years and thus my years began in September. I still feel what you have written about those feelings of fall and "moving up a grade" now that I'm in my 70s. Thank you for the memories!

Ed RehderSeptember 16, 2019

Brilliant!!!

Laurie PollardSeptember 16, 2019

This is an excellent article, Sharon! You are an extraordinary writer with keen insights and a marvelous skill of epression. These thoughts choked me up with emotions of sweet melochomy in regards to my own children's growth. Thank you for beautifully reminding us of the divine necessecity of "moving up a grade" and the grand blessings that are in store for us as we advance in Christ. Love you!

Larraine in CalgarySeptember 16, 2019

I am very sad about this. I know the Lord works miracles. I'm praying for these missionaries and their families.

Ann-Marie JensenSeptember 16, 2019

I love this statement: "No American who seeks the pure love of Christ would ever yield to the urge to attack others for their differing views or to extol her or his strengths over those of another." A real help to civility! Thank you.

Justin MSeptember 16, 2019

I love the human side of this story, but wish there had been a little more education about leprosy put into the story as well, to highlight the preventable nature of the disease, and the senselessness of families shunning their own loved ones. Like you, I assumed that this was a disease of the past, and have no idea on whether it's contracted or inherited, whether there is a cure, or if it's preventable (ie, clean food/water, etc). I learned more about that (if even a little) from prior comments. Could more info be added in to the story?

FredSeptember 16, 2019

Is there a way to donate without listing my name, address, phone number and email address? I want to donate but don’t like giving all of that information.

LindaSeptember 16, 2019

This is one of the finest articles I have ever read! I’ve been through those stages of life, and your perspective is perfect. Your writing is a joy to read!

JulieSeptember 16, 2019

I always used garlic oil for my kids’ earaches - worked like a charm!

Linda PannoneSeptember 16, 2019

Your story brought me joy and made me grateful for how we can be brought to unity through motherhood. As I read your story about children moving on and leaving us in “the after school period of our lives” I realized that was exactly how I’ve felt for many years and someone else so eloquently described and labeled it. I too have many tests in my life that I want to refuse and give back. I spent years doing that in my mind, futilely resisting the reality of life. It takes courage to face these and as we do we become stronger and build confidence.

JanetSeptember 16, 2019

What a beautifully penned essay. I will share it with my family in hopes they will enjoy it as much as I did. Thank you so much for capturing feelings that I have so well, that tears sprang to my eyes. Well done!

Alexander ForsythSeptember 16, 2019

Faith, prayers, and Temple Garments are in their favor. The Church shall have acted quickly; and families shall be at their bedsides. Thank you for letting us know.

Susan FullmerSeptember 15, 2019

I am excited to make a generous donation and encourage others too. I want to take it one step further. how can I get involved with the actual building of the school?

Marilynne LinfordSeptember 15, 2019

Thanks for reminding me of Genesis 14 in the Inspired Version that give added understanding to Abraham’s character.

Becky DouglasSeptember 15, 2019

First of all, a huge thanks to the Proctors for their kindness in dedicating this year's Meridian campaign to Rising Star OUtreach. They are angels! Also, a note that our work has succeeded only because more than a thousand people have responded, sacrificed and come to serve, lift, and heal. It's the story of many, many caring and loving people reaching out to lift some of the most stigmatized people in the world. To answer some great questions: We used to use crocheted leprosy bandages, but we now get our sterilized bandages at cost and so no longer use ones that cannot be properly sterilized. They were made with so much love! Thank you for your service! We miss the connection of people to our work from the crocheted bandages, but are grateful to now have a very inexpensive resource for these needed bandages. The cure for leprosy, a multi-drug therapy, is provided by WHO. The trick is in finding those who need it. In India, the problem is that people diagnosed with leprosy are usually marked socially as "Untouchables"-along with the rest of their families, This stigma is so great that many people hide any symptoms until it's too late to stop the deformities. Also, the families tend to turn the patients out into the street in order to protect the rest of the family from becoming Untouchables, or what India now terms as members of the "Unscheduled class", or "Dalits". This is why so much of our work revolves around education and attacking the stigma associated with leprosy. We also do thousands of screenings each year and catch many cases, which can then be treated. Basically educating people that leprosy is a micro-bacteria, not a curse from God, helps people feel safe to come forward. I'm stunned at the response from Meridian readers. In only two days $20K has been raised. Incredible! Thanks to all of you, from all of us at Rising Star Outreach! With this kind of response--surely we will reach our goal--and a new school for the children of the leprosy-affected will be built in Bihar! Praise God!

MarciaSeptember 14, 2019

A school is very good, but what can we do to get medical help to wipe out this horrible disease from this country?

Charles DefranchiSeptember 14, 2019

It someone were trying to give an example of what an abomination is, here is the best one! Our world and modern science have surpassed Sodom and Gomorrah! We are indeed approaching at an increasing pace to the "end of times".

Mary andersonSeptember 14, 2019

2 hours made this film too long. We started losing interest in the long, slow movie

C ShieldsSeptember 14, 2019

Thank you for addressing this issue. While in college as a Cultural Anthropology major, I had the opportunity to study world religions, and was surprised at the similar underpinnings that most of them shared - including Islamic traditions. I also got to serve the homeless in the local community along side many Muslims, who also lovingly gave of their time, talents, and resources. They were true 'does of the word' and exemplified their unadulterated faith and Christlike compassion. Unfortunately, many want to marginalize, spin stories, and categorize a few individuals' actions with a particular group, or sect. It's almost as if the media 'needs' an antagonist and someone to blame/point the finger at. I hope we can all keep an open mind and have the unbiased neutrality to 'see' and 'get' the real intent of those who are 'different' than us and show the kind of respect we all deserve as children of a loving Father. After all, isn't that what OUR faith wanted in its infancy, as well?

Ricardo MerchanSeptember 13, 2019

In Missouri the Metropolitan Community Colleges have abolished studen run newspapers. The Nicolaitan Secret Society defames, persecutes, and stalks anyone who believes in Christ. Eventually, believers leave the campuses censored, dejected, and defeated. Let's march with the title of liberty out of the colleges and into the streets. Soon!

MICHAEL BAWDENSeptember 13, 2019

The movie was exciting and the main character, the jailer, was portrayed vividly and I thought he was terrific. It was for the most part accurate historically. There was some good dialogue from the other cast members. I was more critical than most would be because I taught in the Church Education System for 38 years, but I really enjoyed the movie and would recommend it highly.

Teri LatimerSeptember 13, 2019

Same question as above.

vickieSeptember 13, 2019

I would like to know why if there is a cure discovered in 1988 do these people have leprosy....is there not enough of that cure to go around. it would be good to know the facts on this. since this is so contagious then the world health organization needs to make enough of this cure to go all around to these people so they can be healed...

Michael Shea, MDSeptember 13, 2019

I guess that’s someone’s idea of compassion.

George ThompsonSeptember 13, 2019

Your take on the greater sin remaining with the person who refuses to forgive added the concept that the act of refusing gives Satin leverage over us. This concept is good and worthwhile to promote, but I think that it misses the central issue, of why failure to forgive could be considered the greater sin. My feeling is that Heavenly Father's plan for our progression in this life required that we forgive all of the other children and that they forgive us of faults and sins. Failure to forgive is therefore rebellion against and rejection of God's plan, the plan of salvation. Those who rejected God's plan in the pre-existance were cast down to hell. Will those who reject God's plan while in mortality be treated any different? We do lack a full understanding in this mortal existance, but failure to forgive is still a very serious sin.

TawnaSeptember 13, 2019

I work for Rising Star Outreach, and though I work with this every single day, your article brought me to tears multiple times, being reminded of your great care and the real chance we have with your readers to make such a monumental impact in the lives of these children and their families for generations to come. I know their stories. I'm learning more each day. Your readers will hear more as this campaign moves forward. These are real people, just individuals like you and I, and I thank you for helping bring that to light and for loving them. I know you felt their love, and I am so excited to see what we are going to do for them, together! Thank you, thank you! Together, we can do this!!!

SusanSeptember 13, 2019

Over the years I’ve knitted or crocheted leper’s bandages as a way to help lepers plus making them helps as a distraction to my own pain. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints no longer has a distribution program for the bandages. Do you?

Doris WilliamsSeptember 13, 2019

I don't know how long our dear Lord can look down on our world with this indescribable evil occurring so frequently and still withhold our due punishment. The hardening of our hearts, the great selfishness too often prevalent in our society is is almost unbelievable. The precious souls deprived of a chance to live breaks our hearts. Each revelation becomes more horrendous. People just don't understand the Lord's plan, and the value of each soul. How many "Einsteins", "Mozarts", "Helen Kellers", "mother Teresas" just didn't make it!

TessieSeptember 13, 2019

Yes, it’s a real incident. The filmmakers describe using historical documents to inform the script and dialogue. I’ve been listening to YouTube lectures on Liberty Jail given by historians. The hearing that lead to their imprisonment was fully documented for a later government investigation. Also, it was fascinating to learn, among other things, of a promissory note showing that a jailer (other than Tillery) sold Joseph a horse for their escape, and they came to him later to collect on it (presumably since Joseph could not show his face again in Missouri). Joseph did pay them. It was well known that the jailers helped in their escape. Can’t wait to see the film.

Donna HesslingSeptember 12, 2019

Thank you for the interesting studies on Abraham! Have you read in the "Inspired Version" of the Bible Genesis 14, of Abrams dealigs with Melchiizek king of Salem?

LoaraeSeptember 12, 2019

What a blessing this family received. I gave birth twice to premature babies...once in 1962 and again in 1966. At a little over 2 pounds, neither survived more than a few hours. Thankfully, medical advances have come a long way since then. I'm so grateful many babies now survive what used to be impossible odds!

Bob PowelsonSeptember 12, 2019

There is one old saying that still bears fruit. "Not all Muslims are terrorists BUT nearly all terrorists are Muslim." Many LDS, are for some reason, willing to be very tolerant of Islamic success. The "poor Palestinians are so badly treated by the Israelis" is a common thing I hear. In that regard, the Palestinians have recalcitrant and unthinking since the days of Haj Amin al Husseini. They refuse a settlement or compromise, start a war an lose the war. There is little and should be no sympathy for that. Also the return of the Jews is God's goal, exemplified by Orson Hydes mission at the direction of the Prophet Joseph..

JeanSeptember 12, 2019

For too much of my life, I tried to stuff down my real feelings. But it did not work. We need to acknowledge the reality of what has happened to us and learn to label our emotions correctly. Grief is real. Betrayal is real. Pain is real. We cannot forgive people who wronged us if everyone continues to insist we have no right to feel angry or hurt. The sin must be acknowledged before it can be forgiven. Anything less than that and we will explode in an angry outburst that destroys rather than heals. We cannot come to terms with loss if we are made to feel we are making too much of it. I cannot empathize with all pain. I do not know what it means to lose a child. But I can offer friendship and sympathy because I have lost friends and other family members. And I appreciate your reminder that I should.

Robin BakerSeptember 12, 2019

I can appreciate your article. When our daughter died 6 months ago, though we have strong testimonies of the gospel. We still grieve because we miss her. That said because she had a chronic illness we have been comforted to know that she is healed. Right from the moment that she left her body. How amazing Heavenly Father can know that she had lived her life enough and brought her safely home.

MarieSeptember 12, 2019

Thank you. I will be saving this one. Exactly what past sin disqualifies one from history? Certainly not Martin Luther King, Jr.'s adultery. Bill Clinton's past only allowed the ultra-left to finally dismiss him when his wife Hillary was no longer seen as a possible political asset and the parade of Trump's equally egregious sins something that could bring him down if only so many had not voted to save Clinton from impeachment. Perhaps we could all write these committees to demand the removal of buildings and classes and streets named for Dr. King. I am a divorced woman whose husband was sexually unfaithful. Should my anxieties and anger at past injustice be triggered every time I am required to hear his name or celebrate the holiday named for him?

Kathleen ChinSeptember 12, 2019

This article is a Keeper! It’s a...print it out in “hard copy” to keep, refer to and share. It is PERFECT!!! With DEEP and sincere gratitude for sharing it! K. Chin, Modesto, CA

Sharon J ShogrinSeptember 12, 2019

To think that people can kill a poor little innocent baby is hard for me to fathom that. And then to throw them in the trash is more unbelievable. They are our future! Are these little ones too pure to live on Earth or is it just Satan working in the world? This breaks my heart!

RebeccaSeptember 12, 2019

Thank you for this article! The loss of a loved one is definately one of the most recognized types of grief - but is not the only one. Grieving is a natural human response - and can be triggered by many different things. A few years ago I wrote about grief on my blog (http://messofmusings.blogspot.com/2013/12/good-grief.html?m=0). There is no timeline for grief, steps can be repeated as many times as needed - giving the illusion to others and self that no progress is being made. Community support is very important as you skillfully pointed out. Thanks again!

Marilynne LinfordSeptember 12, 2019

May I read your paper? [email protected]

AlanSeptember 12, 2019

30% of Amazon readers rate this book one or two stars. Dr. Peterson has written a biography of Mohammad that is very kind and forgiving, not mentioning much controversial about his life. To me it is a little too kind. I read a respected English translation of the Quran and I do not see it as evil, though there are some troublesome parts. Rather I think the way it is interpreted by Islamic leaders is and always has been the problem. Muslims are like everyone else, they just want to live their lives and be at peace. If they constantly hear harangues from radical leaders they start to believe it. Moreover, the West has treated Islamic countries very poorly for many many years. It is easy to see why they have resentment. I do believe the fierce condemnation of all things Muslim is over the top, but there are real dangers from certain radicals. If we were more kind perhaps we would be in a position to teach the gospel in those countries one day.

Bob TaylorSeptember 12, 2019

The mob in this film is not a sea of anonymous, spitting, thugs, but has a leader whose brother was killed by a Mormon and who believes his cause is just. And though you aren’t necessarily rooting for him, you understand how he might think what he’s doing is justified. -- is there historical documentation for this incident or was it just added to create a situation? it would be nice to know - looks like a good movie.

LexaGraemeSeptember 12, 2019

More specifics on Mrs Madison would have been nice. I’m sure the article is meant to be a teaser for the book, but *how* Mrs Madison complemented her husband, *how* she was gracious under personal attacks, would have been a nice way to demonstrate all that etymology of what helpmeet means. As someone whose girlhood hero was Dolley Madison, I was hoping for more.

H NorthSeptember 12, 2019

Once again, the point is missed: it's not "attitudes" that drives Islamic Jihad--it's the doctrine. If Muslims are deprogrammed right out of Islam, they will stop being terrorists … and only then. Islam is intrinsically a TERRORIST DOCTRINE … ‘Turhibunna’ (terrorize them) – Koran 8.60.

Carol AnnSeptember 11, 2019

This problem is so serious. Add to this: More colleges will not let conservatives have a voice at all--in the classrooms, auditoriums, social media,or even the sidewalks of their institutions. They claim free speech when in fact their mantra is, "Agree with me and you're fine! Disagree with me and you will be mocked, ridiculed, and assaulted." I would never allow any of mine attend a college with such liberal behavior and spend thousands of $$ in tuition costs to have them be so indoctrinated!

Celeste McclainSeptember 11, 2019

Again... being a convert of 2 1/2 years, I’m learning more and more about this wonderful and God Blessed church and all its members! Especially the Profits! I’m so blessed to be apart of this church and to be a Mormon! I’m so completely happy and blessed! I appreciate so much in having a living Profit and learning some of his life’s story! I Love him very much and I pray that he have many many more birthdays! I have to admit, I’ve been through so many churches and religions in my life, because of my family. I never learned what I needed to on my own. I just did what I was told, because I trusted family! But when I prayed to God wholeheartedly and completely, my prayers were answered with The Church of Jesus Christ and Latter Day Saints! I was at the store and saw the church and just went in and asked questions and although it took 2 years and about 20 missionaries, I finally and respectfully got it! This is where God wants me and this is where I want to be, for as long as I live! God has a plan for me and I’m so greatly going to follow it! I’ve never had so much passion and conviction about anything in my whole life, life I do my faith and religion now! Well except my family! But nothing else compares! Absolutely nothing else compares! I love this church! I love all of its members, past and present and future! I can say that without hesitation honestly and truthfully!

Celeste McclainSeptember 11, 2019

That’s horrible! That man should have never taken that gun out regardless if it’s his home or not! He was an idiot! By the Grace of God, and God only, this incident didn’t become deadly! I know people want they’re “guns”, but this should show how dangerous they are period, even in a completely innocent situation! Showing off is over rated that man should feel horrible for putting those amazing missionaries through all that pain and suffering! God Bless then! Hopefully that idiot who shot not only himself, but the missionaries is also should be ashamed of himself and should learn to keep his gun, unloaded and concealed, in a safe place! Idiot!

Celeste McclainSeptember 11, 2019

I absolutely love this story! I’m a new convert of 2 1/2 years and I’m learning, however slowly, I’m learning about the history of the church. This story, fills my heart and soul with admiration and so much love for Joseph Smith and all the other saints and pioneers! They endured so much adversity! You can’t help but be proud to be a Mormon! I know I am! Heavenly Father and our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ loves us and will always cover us! I’ve been going through some really tough and rough times and I be been praying constantly and feeling like I’m getting no results, until this story. I’m going to read more of the Church history, because this story just gave me what I needed to fight harder and have more faith and to focus on Christ! Not the tribulations I’m going through, I know that they will come, I just have to give everything up to God and understand that I need him to control all things in my life, that the battle is not mines it’s the lords! I Thank Heavenly Father and Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for everything and all things! The good! The great! The bad and the ugly! We learn from it all! Thank you for this much needed story!

NDRSeptember 11, 2019

It's too bad that BYU students are being taught to believe and depend on science rather than revelation. We have already been told that there are "worlds without number".

Gary AndersonSeptember 10, 2019

I love this story of the apostle Paul and his excellent missionary efforts and undying faith and obedience! What a great servant of the Lord Jesus Christ! Thanks Bro. Gibbons!

Alisi Iongi-FiliagaSeptember 10, 2019

Our love to Sister ’Anaseini V. Langi, Children and Family.

Rita in TexasSeptember 10, 2019

Many years ago my daughter and I took a 500 level PoGP class at our Institute in Ann Arbor, MI, taught by Steven Hedquist. The focus was on the Book of Abraham and its relationship to the Egyptian temple papyri and Book of Breathings. His insights and scholarship opened up an entirely unknown (to us) connection between the story of Abraham and the efforts the Eqyptians made to embrace the Priesthood that had been denied them. I wrote a paper on it, and have cherished the knowledge I gained from that unique opportunity. Now, at 67, I am focusing again on the PoGP in my scripture study. The journey toward Christ continues!

Richard Dee WinmillSeptember 10, 2019

One has to wonder if it is best to let this yellow journalism fall of it's on weight? After and initial dispute on the fact, maybe drop it and see if the the sound of one hand clapping might be the best response? This particular beast feeds on controversy. Don't feed the beast.

Alece ReynoldsSeptember 10, 2019

My husband's cousin's wife had to have surgery to repair varicose veins in her legs. She had just had a baby, and was still in the hospital after the birth. Her physician was planning to tie her tubes the next morning so he could later perform surgery to take care of some serious varicose veins she was suffering from. The cousin had just visited his wife in the hospital and was on his way home to take care of their other children, when he heard a child's voice say to him -- "Daddy, don't leave me here!" He realized that it was the voice of a child that was to come to their home, so he turned the car around and went back to the hospital to tell his wife that the surgery to tie her tubses as well as the varicose vein surgery would have to be postponed so this child could come to their home. That is what they did, and after their next child was born, both then felt the time was right for her to have both surgeries.

krewcotSeptember 9, 2019

I agree with Marla - The birth child has been sealed to her adoptive family and they have literally become her eternal family. LDS adoptions were once considered "closed" and the birth mother was counting on that information not being released. It is a betrayal to change the rules after the fact. The birth parents provided a body for the child, but they aren't the family.

TomSeptember 9, 2019

This is only the beginning. The left will not stop until we bow before their altar of relativism. It has been coming for decades and we were warned about over and over so we shouldn't be surprised by it. If the left gains control of the White House, the Senate and the House we may be told what we can Preach over the Pulpit as well as what we can teach our children. And it won't take long for that to happen. BYU itself as well as a fair number of members in Utah Valley lean very heavily left on many topics. All is not well in Zion.

Michael Shea, MDSeptember 9, 2019

I have just about lost ALL respect for the profession of journalism. The first rule of good writing is to keep the readers’ attention focused on the issue at hand. Well, here is my issue: just what, exactly, does football have to do with LGBQT politics? Nothing. Nothing at all. It may have something to do with money, and it has a lot to do with the political fashions of the day, but it has nothing to do with football. Those students can be thankful I am not their professor. They would both get “F’s”. And if I were the dean, that professor would be looking for employment elsewhere. All articles like that do is to create public discord. That is called Yellow Journalism. I guess that’s the sort of journalism favored at USU.

EvelynSeptember 9, 2019

I'm glad someone cared for this brother. I'm a single sister (currently inactive), never married, no kids, and I haven't had a regular home teacher since the time I was in a singles ward, which was a good 25 years ago. I have a time or two, received word of a new Home Teacher and I get excited to maybe finally have someone visiting regularly. Nope, nothing ever came of it. I also wonder if anyone really truly cares.

RitaSeptember 9, 2019

Finding joy in organization. What a Kondo thing to do! But this sounds like manna from heaven, a tender mercy from a loving Father.

OldHandSeptember 9, 2019

(sigh) There were so many rules broken that I hardly know where to start. The ones I will mention are not necessarily in the usual order of precedence. #1 failure: every firearm is LOADED until you have proven otherwise. Treat it accordingly, (#2) never allow the muzzle to cover anything you do not intend to shoot - including yourself! #3 Know what's beyond where the muzzle is pointed. If you are on the first floor of a two story building, the ceiling may not be a safe place to point the muzzle. If you intend to show someone a firearm, CLEAR IT; that means removing all ammunition, both from any magazine attached and from the firing chamber. If you don't know - for certain - how to do that, you shouldn't be handling that firearm at all. Get competent instruction. In aviation, it's commonly said that one mistake can bend the airplane; two mistakes together will likely get someone hurt; three mistakes together will almost certainly get someone killed. It works the same with firearms. AND it is always preventable. If you have a gun, know, in detail, the its operation and its weaknesses (they all have at least one). Take the weaknesses into account when you handle it. Just like

Bruce SaylerSeptember 9, 2019

I believe that President Hinkley would fall into that category also. Thank you for what you do.

LynSeptember 9, 2019

My mother died recently and she wasn’t gone five minutes when out came the secret! I will live with the pain and disappointment i feel because she didn’t feel enough friendship from me or trust me with this pain in her life she had carried since she was 16. I wish she had told me while she was able to help me understand, process and deal with it. Secrets come out, they should be told while the person is alive to tell their side.

Lorraine BridgeSeptember 9, 2019

These USU reporters are so guilty of what they claim to be opposed to; they are prejudiced against any school that has an opinion different than theirs. Another example of the liberal point of view: if you don’t agree with what I say then you are wrong. Very sad commentary on today’s society.

Launa WestonSeptember 9, 2019

I graduated from the USU journalism program twenty three years ago and was not surprised to read about a story like this coming out of the program there. My experience while there was that nearly every professor in the program tended to have a VERY left leaning philosophy on life, with liberal political views. In fact I can only think of one professor who didn’t-and he was only a part time instructor with a real journalism job writing for the local paper. That’s probably what kept his feet a little more firmly in reality lol. And by the way -why are political opinions like that described as “liberal” when in reality these type of views are very UN-liberal in regards to others? I was married and pregnant by the time I received my degree and I remember specifically being called out BECAUSE I was married and pregnant. The professor was lecturing about what I can’t remember but he called on me and said “You know life isn’t like you think it is. You’re living in a bubble and what are your plans going to be when divorce happens?” Or something to the effect. I can also very clearly being in a class with our department head and him making the comment that he and his wife-who also was a professor at Usu in a different department-were shocked at all the college age students who were married with children at USU. He said it was like “Babies having babies” everywhere they looked on campus. I also remember him using a video one day in class of one of Senator Bob Bennett’s campaign videos and picking it apart bit by bit to show how ridiculous conservative Republicans are and point out how the commercials were supposedly made in a way that would make conservatives look better than they really are. (Isn’t that the same for ANY political commercial and campaign by the way?) Another professor used his class time at least twice a week to rant about the “ridiculous small town morals of Cache Valley.” I often wondered why in the world he continued to live and teach in a place he had so much contempt for and finally decided it must be that he couldn’t get a job anywhere else and was bitter. Anyway, I just found the program there at USU to be particularly slanted toward churning out close-minded liberals, and that was almost 25 years ago, so I would imagine that it has only gotten worse in the years since.

LexaGraemeSeptember 9, 2019

Unfortunately, shoddy journalism is all the rage these days. That a journalism professor is in the byline for the article in question is disappointing. That it is published in papers notorious for opinion-masking-as-news, though, makes it written for its audience. It also shows me that, 30 years after I first saw it, Cougar hatred—not rivalry, there’s a difference—is still alive and well for some in Aggie Country, and that is also disappointing.

Pam BiggerSeptember 9, 2019

Well done sir... I appreciate this insight very much... it is a little crazy out there with all this fussing and fighting about everything and nothing... thank you for taking the time to write this :0)

JenniferSeptember 8, 2019

My mother too gave a baby up for adoption following a rape. She lived with the shame (which was never hers to bear) for decades and was so relieved to discover that her children all love her the same when she found out we knew. I secretly hoped that my half-sister would connect with our family through DNA but that hasn't happened. It makes me wonder if she died young or never had children of her own. I would definitely let the adult children know--I'm guessing their capacity to love will be great.

BeckySeptember 7, 2019

May I offer a look at this situation from the other side? The mother of my daughter's boyfriend is the child given up for adoption in a situation exactly like this. She is in her 50's, connected with her birth siblings via a DNA website, and just met all of them 2 months ago. Just like her birth mother, she is an innocent person in this situation. Her life with her adoptive family was difficult. Her birth mother went on to raise a wonderful and loving family. She did not tell her other children, and they connected via the DNA website. All of her children had a deep desire to meet this sister they never knew about, and they had a wonderful reunion where they discovered they all look exactly like each other. They had this reunion minus their mother, who would not participate. The children told their mom they were going to meet their sister with or without her. It has been very healing for the innocent daughter who was adopted to feel so much love from people she is related to by blood and who look exactly like her. I think it's important to remember that the mother is innocent, but so is the child in a situation like this. If I have learned anything from this turn of events, its that love, even in difficult situations, can be very healing.

Lois MiddletonSeptember 7, 2019

I hope you have an awesome birthday President Nelson!! HAPPY happy day!!

KathleenSeptember 6, 2019

Isn't that the truth?!

TessSeptember 6, 2019

I worked with a wonderful person who is in her 50s and just found out she has a half brother. Her mother disclosed it this year after he sought her out. They were thrilled to meet him and make him part of the family. I would think that most adults in today's world would understand circumstances and tragedies that happen and would certainly be forgiving and want to have compassion and love. .

Mike ThomasSeptember 6, 2019

It would be nice if Kate and others who disagree with this article could rebut it with rational argument so those of us who don't fully understand why it's a good thing to erase part of our history could appreciate their points of view. Instead of calling the author and all who agree with him white supremacists, try adding something to the body of knowledge. Make your points so we can ponder them logically! We might actually agree with you! As far as you're concerned those of us who initially agree with the points raised here are just racists...end of argument! How are we supposed to reason with that?

CJWSeptember 6, 2019

I was raised as the grandchild of a similar situation like this. My grandmother was forced by her parents to give my father to them ro raise after he was born. There was abuse and control in that family and I think she was trying to get out of it. They ran my biological grandfather off at gunpoint before a marriage could take place. This was 1920's America and a very religious farm community. He was Catholic, she was Lutheran, and you didn't mix that back then.. At age 6 yrs, his "parents" died and he was re-routed back to his biological mother and was told the truth. She was now married and had started a family. He felt out of place from the start and left the farm at age 16. His half-siblings were never told--my grandma was a wonderful loving woman, but maintained the secrecy till she died because her family of origin had shamed her into it. My grandmother died when my father's half-siblings were well into adulthood with families of their own. At that point, my step-grandpa said, "It's time all the secrets stopped" and told everything. They were shocked but said, "We've lived with our eldest brother, as our brother all our growing up years, why should that make a difference now?" To them, that was something that happened to her, sad though it was. They were not adopting that pain onto themselves, which was healthy. I believe once people arrive at mature adulthood, these things need to come out. I have located my biological grandfather's family and now have a relationship with them that is very good. I feel loved and more whole. People need to live their truth. A lie is a chaotic rotten stinking mess and the smell doesn't get better with time. I would rather stare shock and pain in the face one time when I'm mature enough to handle it, than live in a made-up world of someone else's lies and still being silently manipulated. My grandma died when I was a baby so I don't remember her, but if I had, and have known her story, it would have endeared me to her even more for the unnecessary trauma she held inside her. I tell this to honor and heal her, hoping to prevent lies happening to someone else. Live the Truth. When it is all on the table, it can be sorted out. Give people a chance to deal with their own lives. Don't be the master manipulator of someone else's fate.

Jen ChaceSeptember 6, 2019

I love the mind of John Pratt.

Marla SmakaSeptember 6, 2019

I come from the perspective of an adoptee and have adopted siblings and a son-in-law who came into his parents' home via adoption. It is very disheartening for me when think the adoptive family is not the "real" family. In this instance, the poor woman who was raped and subsequent pregnancy is told she needs to let her children know they have a half sibling. But do they really? The genetic material from their mother does not make them siblings. The family that raised them is the "real" family. In this same line of thought, if an infertile couple see help through reproductive medicine, is their baby conceived through either sperm or egg donation not their "real" child, but the "real" child of the sperm donor or egg donor? One thing that stabbed me to the heart was when my adopted sibling told me he met his "real" sister (note, not birth sister, but real sister). Nevermind he was 44 and I was 58 years of age the time. All those years of family events, shared memories, were not the same as the "real" sister he met briefly.

KateSeptember 6, 2019

Wow. Really? We should have statues holding up Robert E. Lee and Stonewall Jackson as heroes? I suggest that the author (and those who are giving him high-fives) spend an afternoon in the beautiful Smithsonian National Museum of African American History on the National Mall in Washington DC and then see how they feel about genteel Southern white women erecting statues lionizing Confederate leaders. White supremacy has an amazing ability to rationalize, as this article clearly demonstrates.

Dennis r BottSeptember 6, 2019

I live this story everyday...my birth parents were never married because my birth father was an Italian prisoner of war being held at old Fort Douglas at Salt Lake City and my birth mother was the daughter of a prominent medical Doctor [she was only 16-years old when I was born]...my birth certificate was falsified to show that the women I was given to was my birth mother [this sweet lady was unable to have children but her husband did not want a child that was not "his blood"] so I was never adopted [I lived like Harry Potter in a cupboard under the stairs"... when someone would ask where I came from this man would say "he is the milkman's son" which I felt was a very cruel thing because his wife was an angel...I was 17-years old when a sister to the sweet woman that raised me informed me that I was not a blood member of the family - but the lies continued. My make-believe-father went so far as to destroy a detailed letter that the woman that raised me left that was to be given to me upon her death [detailing the events of my birth, the names of my birth parents, and how to reach them if I so desired] - you see she always believed I would not love her if I knew the truth about my birth...that was an unwarranted falsehood because I bonded and loved this sweet woman with all my heart. At the age of 60 my wife bought me an Ancestry DNA kit as a Christmas gift and it was the results that verified the I was 80% southern Italian decent and 20% English decent and provided credible DNA links to my birth family and identified my birth mother who is living in Idaho. When I reached out to my birth family they expressed embarrassment that their mother had a child out of wed-lock [especially with a World War 11 prisoner of war] refusing to communicate further with me. My birth mother suffered from the same issues as the mother in the article that had been raped fearing repercussions from her children [my half bothers and sisters]...so my search for my birth mother and my blood family was both successful and tragic...

JamesSeptember 6, 2019

This heroine should not have to face such a delicate and traumatic event again, but truth be known when her children are exposed to this outrageous horror they will want to know who caused it. Their trauma could overflow if it is discovered a loved relative or a respected acquaintance caused their mother’s heartache. This discovery could throw the family into disarray and throw the siblings into a hate for their newfound brother or sister.

Win BroadhurstSeptember 6, 2019

It was informative to find out there are 134!

karell BinghamSeptember 6, 2019

How I love the prophet! May the Lord allow him to stay with us as long as possible, we really need this man!

Cynthia M. MoorheadSeptember 6, 2019

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." -- George Santayana

Grateful Adoptive MomSeptember 6, 2019

To the mother: thank you for choosing to give the baby life, even under such dire circumstances. Thank you for giving the adoptive parents the most precious gift any person can give them. As the mother of three adopted boys, I send you a hug, my love, and gratitude on behalf of all adoptive mothers.

TrudySeptember 6, 2019

Happy birthday for the 9th President Nelson! I share a special day with you! ♥️♥️

TrudySeptember 6, 2019

I love President Nelson, I share his birthday and just wanted to say Happy birthday for the 9th!

TanyaSeptember 6, 2019

Being a temple worker I had the privilege of a little advance notice and of course had to learn the changes to the ordinances. Like many, upon hearing the news I was anxious to know the changes and wanted to be prepared. So the night before my temple shift I attended the temple as a patron in both Initiatory and an Endowment session. I "heard" the changes during the ordinances, but of course after just one time had not yet "internalized" the changes ... until the next day during my shift. As I administered in the Initiatory ordinance, though subtle the change, I remember feeling 'My Heavenly Father loves me just the way I am." Not that I ever felt otherwise, but being a divorced woman in a marriage-centric church can be a struggle at times. So those subtle changes were huge to me and reaffirmed that I'm okay in my present situation and He loves me just the way I am and I don't need to have a man in my life to define my divine role as a daughter of God. Someday marriage will happen again, but until then, all is well.

Kenneth SutphinSeptember 6, 2019

Amazing story

TomSeptember 5, 2019

The first Black to recieve the Priesthood after this announcement in 1978 had joined in our Ward in Hawaii. He was stationed in the Army their. He was called as our Youth Choir Director and served admirably until leaving the Islands. What a joy it was to hear that the Blessings of holding the Priesthood was now open to all.

PennySeptember 5, 2019

I agree with Bryan...either you believe they are prophets and God is in charge or you don’t...perhaps some of these things were put in place as deliberate stumbling blocks. I am a convert to the Church and have had questions I researched and prayed over...sometimes the answers were “you don’t always need to know everything right now ...be still and know that I am God and ...I don’t need your permission” Also I blocked this article on my FB...

JanSeptember 5, 2019

I hope you don’t mind me using your ideas on emergency packs. We are having an evening of emergency preparedness and I’m doing emergency kits. I really enjoyed your article in meridian magazine and it makes so much sense than what to pack. I purchased a lot of single items and noticed there is lots of salt added, I some one is concerned could the take sodium tab. I was listening to the director of FEMA and he said to have a 7 day emergency pack. Thank you again for good information. Jan

KayleenSeptember 5, 2019

I have a husband of over 33 years who is just like the WoNdErFuL men that you described in your blog. He is kind, loving, considerate and patient, even when I definitely don't deserve it. He just loves me no matter what, and I have learned to try to follow his sweet example.

Sharon HowardSeptember 5, 2019

I was saddened. By the changes to the Endowment . I had studied diligently to understand it, and when I did I was thrilled by the beauty of it. When I go now I let the old things I have been taught by the Spirit pass through my mind. I feel the LORD gives us what we are prepared to receive and understand.

Melissa MarkhamSeptember 5, 2019

Enjoyed this thought-provoking article. Thank you.

KarinSeptember 5, 2019

I am so very grateful for all the wonderful changes which have come about lately as a result of continuing revelation in the Lord‘s church. The revelation of 1978 was preceded by long and arduous struggles of the prophet. I do not doubt that similar preparations must have preceded the changes in our day. I rejoice with Tessa and can honestly say that there is no judgment concerning what has preceded these changes - only rejoicing in what they reveal about how Heavenly Father sees his daughters. I cannot express in words the joy they brought to me. That’s all I read in your article, Tessa.

Patricia BarwickSeptember 5, 2019

Your presentation was so organized and well presented. My heart and mind were filled with wonderful inspiration! Thank you for your efforts to share Paul's comments and make them applicable to us today. I have been fed generously.

ChuckSeptember 5, 2019

I well remember where I was when I heard the news on my car radio. I was driving under an overpass in San Antonio, Texas. When I heard it, I started weeping for joy. At long last, as a Seventy, I could now teach the gospel to every person---every person. What a great joy this was.

AmeySeptember 5, 2019

Thank you for the beautiful review!

Coleene AllenSeptember 5, 2019

Sadly and infamously we are erasing our own history. How devastating this will be for future generations to come.

BryanSeptember 5, 2019

Revelation is an exciting part of Christ's church. We all welcome the coming forth of so much light and truth. But I'm a little leery of the tone of this article. It seems that somehow this Sister thinks that Pres Nelson has gotten it right when all before him, including Joseph the Prophet, somehow got it all wrong. Sisters, if you feel inferior somehow in the church, either now or before, why? If you somehow felt that the endowment ceremony somehow 'belittled' you before, why? I am married to a wonderful woman that has NEVER felt 2nd class in the Church or with her HF. To me, hanging on is an essential part of faith. And ALL of us have to hang on at some time or another. But this recent spate of 'NOW the Church is in sync with our HF' shows, to me, the lack of faith and the lack of understanding of how the Church operates. Either the prophets before were prophets or they weren't. Either they rec'd revelation or they didn't. You can't have it both ways.

Russell CannonSeptember 5, 2019

History classes for my grandkids will be much shorter if we eliminate all imperfect figures from our history books. I memorized the presidents of the United States when I was young. Think about how simple that will be once we eliminate slaveholders or those that allowed slavery to exist. Funding for libraries can be cut dramatically if we eliminate all books that might be considered offensive. Orwell’s 1984 should be the first book to burn because it is bound to make the new generation of history guardians squirm. I enjoyed the article. Thanks for sharing.

PennStater08September 5, 2019

When will it end? What removal of which icon, statue or memorial will be the tipping point when we start fighting back at the revisionists? What more will we have to lose before we say "enough is enough"? It has already been suggested that Mt. Rushmore come down. We balk at that, but then again we are allowing the small stuff to come down and it will be only a matter of time before the hatred and bigotry of the left win and bring it down. It is time for the 'silent majority' to speak up.

roxanneSeptember 5, 2019

my condolences to Darla's family and friends. i enjoyed her writings. she was very insightful. she will be missed.

Celeste McclainSeptember 5, 2019

I love this story! God most definitely have a plan and it’s always his time, not ours! If you just be patient and wait he will always reveal things to you, but only in his timing! I’m so happy everything worked out and they both were truly blessed! God is the Aloha and the Omega! We must always remember that!

CubbySeptember 5, 2019

This was a worth reading article. I appreciated the words, “In the first place, the monument controversy involves not just art works or commemorative objects. Rather, it encompasses the resources of the past writ large. It is an attack on the past for failing to live up to our contemporary notions of virtue.” It is all summed up right there. Thanks for this enlightening, though sadly too true article.

Celeste McclainSeptember 5, 2019

I absolutely love this article! So much of it reminds me of having faith, and hope and having God’s mercy given to us! All of us! I’m so glad to have read this article, because I can remember that not too long after my Baptism in 2017 my Bishop asked if I could come see him for a talk! I went, not knowing what to expect and Bishop was so caring and thoughtful as he, explained to me that in 1978, the church had allowed for Black men to have the priesthood and that he don’t know exactly why they were not allowed to have the priesthood prior to that, but they were not! He looked a bit uncomfortable in telling me this, and then I smiled at him and said, you do know that I’m a woman right? Trying to lighten what must have been uncomfortable to tell this newly converted Black sister about the church history and it’s Old ways! I told Bishop I’m ok with the decisions of this church of past times as long as it knew to correct things, that’s all that matter! God is a forgiving God, who am I to hold and grudges? I explained that all things for a reason and that I wasn’t bothered by it at all! Bishop explained that he wanted to tell me before someone else told me about it! I told him and I meant it! Change is everything, who would have ever thought I’d be a Mormon? A Black Woman who grew up on the mean streets of Chicago, who have a family of Baptist Pastors on her Father’s side and Baptist, Apostolic’s, and Catholic’s on her mother’s side of the family. No one would have ever thought it, but God works in such a profound and mysterious way! I am so blessed to have been led to a faith that I feel like I belonged to all along! Being a convert is hard, I won’t act like it’s not. However, the thought of being with Heavenly Father and Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ has a stronger and more significant hold on me and I wouldn’t change it for the world! The reason I love this article so much, is that I’m a new convert and I really didn’t pay attention to the significance of what having the priesthood could have meant to others of my race and color! I mean of course the obvious, but needless to say, I’m so glad to have learned it first hand today!

William EvansSeptember 5, 2019

This is a great article! So much is being said about our history and I'm grateful that there are people that are speaking out against the covering up of that rich history. Wilfred M. McClay, a Professor in the History of Liberty at the University of Oklahoma, talked to the students at Hillsdale College on July 17, 2019 about this very same issue. His talk is very inspiring and says that without the memory of our histories, our stories, "we cannot learn, use language, pass on knowledge, raise children, establish rules of conduct, engage in science, or dwell harmoniously in society. Without them, we cannot govern ourselves." This reminds us so well of what happened to the people of Mulek when coming to this land. Their whole way of life changed because they didn't have the stories - the history - of their people. Again, the idea of covering up our history, or even saying that they are mere myths, is appalling. Great article!

HalSeptember 4, 2019

There doesn't even need to be war or natural disaster. Some years ago, I was completely out of debt and had plenty of monetary / temporal resources. I never dreamed that one day I would be divorced, forced to move out of my home, and then lose my job in the ensuing recession. I lost almost everything and had to start over again. Fortunately, a little preparation, a lot of hard work, faithful friends, and my faith that the Lord would provide carried me through that difficult time. All of those trials eventually resulted in tremendous blessings. It was also a lesson that worldly possessions don't bring happiness - the only peace in this world is staying close to the Savior and keeping His commandments.

HalSeptember 4, 2019

Just this past winter, I was cleaning the snow from the bed of my pickup truck so I could help a family member move. I stepped back onto the open tailgate, slipped and fell horizontally to the street. I lay in the street for a few moments to assess the damage to my body and, to my surprise, was completely unhurt. Being in my early sixties, I was astounded that I didn't hit my head, wrench my back, separate a shoulder, twist a knee or receive any injury except a slight abrasion on my elbow. I immediately said a prayer of thanks and wondered which of my departed family members caught me that morning.

HalSeptember 4, 2019

I found that the more I express gratitude to my Heavenly Father for my blessings, the more aware I am of how much I am blessed and that the blessings come at an increased rate! Even my trials have turned into tremendous blessings. Even years of enduring a painful trial prepared me for blessings that I now enjoy that would not have been possible without the preparatory refiner's fire. Truly, everything will work together for our good if we continue faithful and show our gratitude for our blessings.

Keith UnderwoodSeptember 4, 2019

It is significant that we uphold one another in prayer. Stay close to God's word and love one another as the Lord teaches. Forgive and love our enemies as God does. They too deserve a chance!

John HewlettSeptember 4, 2019

Well said Carolyn. The apathy and indifference around us foretell the prophecies coming true each day. Thank you for a well written reminder warning and admonition to continue to prepare in every needful thing.

CarolineSeptember 4, 2019

Wonderful and touching article. There are congregations of the Church in Malawi— hope they can reach out and minister to their refugee brothers and sisters if that’s even possible.

Wally GoddardSeptember 4, 2019

I agree, Orva, that our Beloved Father wants our exaltation just as much as the Son does. They are in complete agreement. However, God is required to enforce the law of justice. "Now the work of justice could not be destroyed; if so, God would cease to be God" (Alma 42:13, see also vv. 22 and 25. So Jesus offers His mercy to satisfy the law of justice. "And thus mercy can satisfy the demands of justice, and encircles them in the arms of safety" (Alma 34:16). While both the Father and the Son are determined to rescue us, they must work together to satisfy the law of justice. Thus, Jesus comes to Father as our advocate pleading that His sacrifice be used to satisfy the law of justice. So we are probably in agreement with the possible difference that I see Father as required to enforce the law of justice. We both rejoice in the great plan of happiness! Blessings

Diana BakerSeptember 4, 2019

After serving in Africa for two years, this article really touched our hearts. The African Saints are so faithful and humble, but happily follow the Spirit even in very difficult circumstances. We love them.

Jane TiltonSeptember 4, 2019

How can we help these faithful Saints?

VardellSeptember 4, 2019

Brother Goddard, thank you for making the point that Christ is pleading our cause NOW. We LDS have a mistaken belief that because we are not perfect now, then we cannot be redeemed now. The scriptures teach otherwise; Amulek said, "now is the time and day of your salvation, therefore, if ye will harden not your hearts, immediately shall the great plan of redemption be brought about unto you." (Alma 34:31) What about "now" and "immediately" do we not believe? We read and accept that it only took 3 days for a very wicked Alma to be "redeemed, born again, even changed to a state of righteousness." (Mosiah 27:24) Can't that apply to us? Alma did no good works, but simply plead for the mercy of Christ and was forgiven and changed - immediately. King Benjamins people plead for the mercy of Christ and were forgiven and changed - immediately. Do we see a pattern and a lesson here? Amulek said the truth, "ye cannot be saved in your sins." Then it seem that we have two possible solutions to that dilemma - either perfect ourselves, or be forgiven and changed by Christ. I'm betting my life on the latter.

Arlene WildeSeptember 4, 2019

Brings tears to my eyes, and a renewed commitment to remember the people of the world in my prayers. What great evidence that it isn't adversity that will stop the saints; prosperity may well be the greater challenge.

Georgina Cuadros de JooSeptember 4, 2019

Tus comentarios han sido de gran ayuda para mi. Gracias por proporcionarnos estos maravillosos aportes.

CarolineSeptember 4, 2019

This is so true. I’ve learned it the hard way, but it is so true. My prayers now are full of thanks and “Thy will be done!” Lots of names of individuals but complete trust that He knows their needs better than I.

LexaGraemeSeptember 4, 2019

Ha! I’ll bet he didn’t!

Melvyn HiscockSeptember 4, 2019

Such an inspiring and edifying article! Adversity really brings out incredible faith and trust in the Lord. It did with the pioneer members of the Church in the 1830's and 40's and it has with these wonderful saints in the DRC. By contrast, many of the members living in our current continental bubble of prosperity do not seem to have the focus to strive in the Spirit with the great determination required to overcome the constant distractions of everyday life.

Toni PorterSeptember 4, 2019

"While moments and hours distill the will of heaven upon us, we search the skies for angels." Such poetry!

Karen S WrightSeptember 4, 2019

Thank you, yet again.

KathleenSeptember 3, 2019

It's been 42 years since I left my mission in Bolivia and I still remember that I thought my heart would break. Your comic is right on!

KateSeptember 3, 2019

Oh Helmut! You poor dear! As every woman knows, IVF is in-vitro fertilization, an OBGYN is an obstetrician/gynecologist (they are always called an OB/GYN, by the way), and a NICU is the neo-natal intensive care nursery, where very frail babies are cared for until they are healthy enough to go home from the hospital. Methinks you haven't been around babies (or maybe females) for a very long time! Ha!

Gaye BreillattSeptember 3, 2019

How well I remember your dedication in coming to the temple in the Dominican Republic. Now you have your own. God bless you. Will be a great blessing to the country and each of you!!!!

EmmaSeptember 3, 2019

Have you ever heard of MTHFR? It’s a bleeding disorder that many women are not checked for but can affect getting pregnant or sustaining the pregnancy. It is something worth checking with every women with infertility or not. Because it can come with other problems.

Marybeth cragunSeptember 3, 2019

Such a great blessing for the saints in Haiti. Continue to be courageous and spread His Word.

DianeSeptember 3, 2019

These two comments make me feel so sad! Of ALL the universities in the country, BYU should be the most encouraging, the most caring,and the most helpful to its students. Instead, it seems the students are just part of “the masses.” When I was there with my husband—he was the student—many years ago, I felt then that the attitude was too much one of being tough on the kids, stern, unbending, strict. Of course they need to learn to be self-disciplined, but there should NOT be an attitude of being so tough so that they fail, where the students end up feeling unloved. Young adulthood is hard enough, filled with many self-doubts. The faculty at BYU, more than any other university, should bend over backward to build the students up and help them be successful.

Helmut A. WorleSeptember 3, 2019

Cute story, but written as if by a doctor: all these abbreviations are never explained. What's an IVF, OBGYN, NICU

TracySeptember 3, 2019

I grew up with Daris and I can vouch that he was the hardest working kid. Working on the dairy farm and excelling in three sports in high school and excelling in school (Valedictorian). An absolute stud!

George ThompsonSeptember 3, 2019

I personally don't carry and don't intend to. At the same time, I feel much safer in any location that allows the people to carry. The cowards that want to shoot innocent people tend to run if someone starts shooting back. They also tend to go for the softest targets like schools. This policy puts us right up there with schools. I am slowly coming to grips with this. There may be some good reason for the policy change that I don't see now. I will follow the prophet.

OrvaSeptember 3, 2019

I appreciate this merciful perspective of how Christ will cover and shield us with His perfection. What amazing, gracious love! I am worried that this interpretation may also imply that we need protection from our loving and gracious Heavenly Father. I like to believe that both Christ and Father are rooting for us, right up to, and including judgement day. Could an alternative interpretation of the scripture be: because we have kept our covenants binding us to Christ, we are judged by His merits rather than our own? In this scripture might He be symbolically reminding us in His words to the Father, of how He has satisfied justice in our behalf? We do not need Christ’s protection from our Father, after all, it was Heavenly Father who arranged for and provided us with our advocate. What we need is the Savior’s infinite perfection and grace to cover us from our having to face justice alone. I am eternally grateful for Father’s gift of His son to the world and that Jesus Christ was able and willing to complete His promised atonement for us all.

AnnekeSeptember 3, 2019

Yes! Thank you for this reminder, this message of hope!

Rick in VirginiaSeptember 2, 2019

Some of our members may be law enforcement officers and therefore authorized to carry weapons in church. Crazies enter at your own risk!

GarrySeptember 2, 2019

Wonderful pod casts. Thank you so much for providing these

Ruth JamiesonSeptember 2, 2019

So hilarious!! Loved it!!

SaydiSeptember 2, 2019

I love this Cath. Thank you for writing it.

LindaSeptember 2, 2019

I love this.

Kay RookhuyzenSeptember 2, 2019

I Gave birth to a 3 pound baby in 1977. She was born the end of August and came home for good just before Christmas. I know exactly what this mom went through. Brenda was very sickly for several years but has been healthy as a horse eve since! She just had her 42 birthday!

Colleen GoffSeptember 2, 2019

You guys were AWESOME!!!

John Jay HarrisSeptember 2, 2019

Where is Nephi’s blessing?

DJCSeptember 2, 2019

I think it's that they used Game of Thrones when it's a pornographic, terribly violent show that's definitely not in keeping with the Lord's standards.

Jen Geigle JohnsonSeptember 2, 2019

What a beautiful review of A Lady's Maid. Thank you.

Jose GomisSeptember 2, 2019

Enjoyed the Horseshoe concept so much that I'll away leve and opening for others to enter but never close it off. It also seem to cause a follow around of who next to speak without calling on them. And found that leading from one end is easier then from the middle.

emSeptember 2, 2019

I love the core idea of engaging in a spirit of love to try to understand better what was happening with her during that time. We all have our stories, but hiding them doesn't help a thing and having a safe place to share them and to learn from sharing them can, as the article states, build a sense of intimacy and trust. However, I am surprised that this article doesn't give just basic advice to ask for STD testing just in case. Anyone who has been sexually promiscuous (all the more so when drug addiction is involved in one or both partners) should be tested for STDs, and their partners should know those results to make informed decisions about safely managing their intimate relationship. Repentance can erase the sin, but it cannot magically make physiological consequences disappear. In that sense, I completely disagree with commenters who say that this is in the past and she has no obligation to talk about it. It's kind of like if he was going to ask her to be an organ donor for him. She can be the most loving, giving, caring, repentant person, but if her body is infected, he should know that before accepting fully her acts of love. They can still build a loving relationship, but you can't exercise agency without knowledge. And you can't build trust without honesty. If I were to ever have to remarry later in life, I'd absolutely be expecting a full disclosure of any sexual history and I would openly share mine. The bishop is not the mediator of the layers of trust needed in an intimate, marital relationship. He's only the mediator of worthiness for church membership. That's not insignificant, but it should never be used as the only measure for whether a person is healthy mentally, physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. I also agree with the person above that the betrayal he feels may take some healing of its own.

Judith MorganSeptember 2, 2019

Magical, sweet, beautiful song and dance. Took my breathe away!!

Ann-Marie JensenSeptember 1, 2019

I really benefited from the extra sources that you brought to this discussion! Thanks so much.

Ken MazzantiSeptember 1, 2019

This policy appears to be the direct result of a Utah law prohibiting firearms in public places, including church. The Church complies with the laws of the land, and that is the law in Utah. Polygamy stopped being openly practiced in Utah for the same reason. We can use Article of Faith 12 as a resource. I believe that the Utah law is un-Constitutional. It may one day be overturned or affirmed by the courts. I have carried concealed for the past 48 years and carried openly when I was a law enforcement officer for nearly 30 years. I feel uncomfortable being unprepared to deal with some violent situations when innocent lives need protection from the 'wolves' around us. We can debate the issue all we want, but that policy came out for the entire Church with the authorization of God's Prophet here on earth. The real decision is not whether we should be able to carry a firearm in church or not even when we don't live in Utah. The issue is whether our lives are defined by the theme of the Primary song "Follow the Prophet, follow the Prophet, he knows the way".

LindaSeptember 1, 2019

I am glad to hear that students wil know in advance why they are being summoned, and will know who the report came from. When I was at the Y back in late ‘60s, I got called to the Dean of Womens office, along with 2 other girls in my dorm. We joked on the way over about why the 3 of us got called, knowing none of us had done anything wrong. It seemed odd, because we shared no classes together, and our dorm parents were baffled about it. The Dean truly thought we knew why we were there, and when we said no, she said it was for wearing too short skirst/dresses. Whaaat?! She she had us get down on our knees and see if our dress hems touched the ground (they did). She seemed perplexed. I asked her who had turned us in. She wouldn’t say. I said it had to have been some kind of prank, since we had no teachers in common. So, we were excused to leave, but I sure thought that was odd!

Terry L TippetsSeptember 1, 2019

Thank you for an inspiring story. At my last CPR training we were told of a device that could be used to prevent the exchange of bodily fluids when doing CPR. Its use is encouraged by the Red Cross and sold by them. The cost is less if purchased directly from the manufacturer, Genuine First Aid. There are videos on line that tell how to use it.

MEGAugust 31, 2019

Thank you for taking the time to address these issues. I guess I take the short cut and ask Heaven if the writings are true and if so, then that's good enough for me.

HeidiAugust 31, 2019

What a needed project to shed positive light on what can divide us! Thank you Sharlee & crew for heading this up . . . and Maureen & crew for sponsoring such an enlightening publication! What stalwart women you are!

Theresa FinneganAugust 30, 2019

I did almost exactly the same thing for years, only it was a special place in my own closet. No more Sunday Scramble! and no reprimanding of children, and no last-minute dash out the door. Back then I was a single mom with five children, and it absolutely saved my sanity.

Grandpa ClydeAugust 30, 2019

This cartoon really hit home; my wife and I will shortly return home from our mission in the Australia Adelaide Mission.

Elaine CarrollAugust 30, 2019

Jenny and her entire family are a true testament of faith, love, and everything else ai can think of. I have seen mostly Jenny in concert, but have also seen Family Four a couple times, I truly can appreciate all of the intense work that goes into the preparation for Jenny’s concerts (many of which I have seen). We see the final product after the countlesshiyrs have been put in. I sit in the audience in Awe as a I listen to the most beautiful music I have heard. I am sooooo proud to be able to say that I have personally met Jenny, who is a world class violinist, and her amazing musical family, Family Four. Thank you for sharing your wonderful, exquisite talents with us all !!

Maralyn DotsonAugust 30, 2019

When your Mom and Dad came to Cedar City to the Shakespeare Festival, they brought you and then attended our sacrament meeting on Sunday. I was visiting with your Mom and she told me that you had a very difficult Suzuki teacher and that you wanted to quit your violin. I told her not to let you. My daughter was your primary teacher that day. Thanks for not quitting - we love your music and your family!!

gerry nelsonAugust 30, 2019

I agree with most of the above - wasn't too smart to let the world know that we are defenseless in our meetings !!

Barbara BrewerAugust 30, 2019

I love watching your entire family perform together!

Ladelle CookAugust 30, 2019

Your articles are always so good. How do you do that? I admire your ability to not only comprehend a subject but also to write about it. Thanks for sharing.

TrudyAugust 30, 2019

I loved the music and the dance! Just beautiful! Thanks for sharing your talents! All of you!

vickieAugust 30, 2019

I never heard if he is in another relationship. is he married already to someone else or engaged or dating someone else. if so they that isn't good. they need to talk and understand why they were divorced and why they took a permanent plunge. maybe this was a one sided divorce...we are only hearing one side not hers. it could be totally different.

Haze K.August 29, 2019

" Two men in two gardens chose to die so that man might live." What a powerful sentence. What a way to think about Adam & Jesus Christ. Thank you.

KristinAugust 29, 2019

I personally think it is very unwise to publish something like this. Why publicly broadcast that we are completely defenseless - just waiting for some crazy Christian-hater to come into our public Sunday meetings and kill us all?! As a member, I would feel infinitely more safe, if there was a type of "fire marshal" in every building, in every sacrament meeting - as a calling. IMO - doing anything less, is irresponsible.

Michael Shea, MDAugust 29, 2019

Thanks very much for this educational article. It was a good learning experience for me. Having a clear explication of the New Testament doctrines is worth far more to me than all the sophistry, expression of opinions, and archaeology in the world. It is the internal consistency and logic of the doctrine that speaks loudest to me. I understand the arguments in both mind and heart.

John B GrierAugust 29, 2019

Most excellent !! I have adult children that are inactive. I found the quote by your friend to be a very basic truth; "Once you leave this Church, however, it ruins you for any other church because you know too much." Thank You !!!!

Kaylene SkanchyAugust 29, 2019

My husband accidentally took a sleeping pill in the morning with his other morning meds, and therefore, fell asleep on his drive to work. He went off the road and his tire marks showed that he missed the edge by inches that would have rolled the car into the water. His car veered away from the edge, crashed through a gate and went perfectly down a dirt road missing trees on either side. He came to a stop and woke up enough to call me. The next morning as he was waking up and thinking of the miracle that he wasn't hurt, he heard the voice of our son who had passed away a few months earlier, saying, "Dad, I was with you," and he knew who had taken control of the steering wheel.

DavidDAugust 29, 2019

Great insight and reminder. The real key to a conviction that the Book of Mormon is true is the witness that we receive that the doctrine expressed in the book is true.

Lori JonesAugust 29, 2019

This is a wonderful and generous offer! How nice to live in a State where there can be collaboration with big entertainment commerce and Humanitarian aid! The movie was wonderful!inspiring and moving. I saw it 3 times! If I lived in Utah I would go to a Megaplex Theater and see it again!

Juliann BradshawAugust 29, 2019

When we are paying attention the incidents of intervention are numerous and it is interesting what is prevented and what is allowed. God is in control. Trusting Him is the challenge. Beautiful article, thank you for collecting these experiences.

Rachel HesslerAugust 29, 2019

What wonderful stories! Thank you for sharing!

Jan KingAugust 29, 2019

I'm delighted to read that angels can physically touch us as I've wondered about this for years. For the several years I lived in Hawaii my husband and I would frequently stop at the Pali lookout as we returned home to Laie from Honolulu to enjoy the beautiful view. After moving away we returned to Hawaii for a visit. During our 5 year absence that tourist spot was no longer a safe place to be, especially at night. We had forgotten the recent violent history there, and so decided to stop and see the night lights of Kaneohe below the cliffs. As I turned off the highway into the parking lot I felt a hand on my chest and a voice say "stop!" All the hair on my neck and arms stood up!! I quickly reversed and tore off down the highway! After my heart stopped pounding I asked my husband if he had touched me or spoken. He said he hadn't. When we returned home I told a family member what had happened. With alarm in her voice she reminded me what had been happening there. I've always believed that we were protected by an Angel that night.

Kathy WilsonAugust 29, 2019

I agree about the cover. I would have passed with book by with a glance without your review.

Craig FrogleyAugust 29, 2019

In my opinion the organization and content of the Book far exceeds any speculative scholarly theories about its origin. See https://latterdaysaintmag.com/abrahams-chiasm/ for reference.

Bot BowlesAugust 29, 2019

I find it interesting that the Richmond Temple will be across the street from St. Athanasius church. Athanasius is the person responsible in 325 AD for eliiminating temple teachings from Christianity. And the temple restores those teachings.

Joyce aurichAugust 28, 2019

When my little daughter fell out of a little yellow rubber raft in the Pacific Ocean she was lifted up by her guardian angel into the raft.

Susan Corpany CurtisAugust 28, 2019

As a fellow columnist from years past, I got to know Darla and looked forward to her uplifting articles that always seemed to touch on something to which I could relate, probably because she had the courage to be real about her own struggles and shortcomings. She will be missed, but I am quite sure she is finding new avenues for her talents.

Peggy McFarlandAugust 28, 2019

Thank you so much for this wonderful tribute to my dear friend. You captured her spirit so well. I celebrate that she is now at peace, though I will miss her dearly.

Paul HAugust 28, 2019

It's good to remember that historians give their interpretation of facts that are centuries old and often don't possess an exact knowledge of the facts that really occurred. Therefore, they give an opinion, albeit an educated one, but it still is an opinion. Until one is assured they possess all the facts, they should make certain their statements are conjecture and not anything else. This reminds me of Fawn Brodie and he she was almost worshiped as the best source to consult when it came to anti Joseph Smith "facts" until she wrote about an early American Revolutionist (I think it was Jefferson) and the critics stripped her of all credibility because it was a "hatchet job" was a pre-conceived bias, not based upon facts. Remember the supposed Salamander letter? Same type of thinking. One day we shall know everything that has happened. Until then, be careful what you assume.

Lawrence H.August 28, 2019

Absolutely Amazing!!! Thank you so much sharing these wonderful faith uplifting stories

Karen Stone, Ragle Point, OregonAugust 28, 2019

Yes! I do know that my angel Father saved my family and myself from death. As we were traveling along the summit road of Santiam Pass in Oregon, in the early morning hour of 5:30, I fell asleep while driving. When I awoke, our van was in the left lane, with a large freight semi-truck coming directly at us. I felt someone’s arms around me, driving the steering wheel to the right hand lane, carefully turning us away from danger. I know it was a miracle that I, my older brother, and my 5 children were not killed. I learned, through the Spirit, that it was my father who saved us. He had died on 1969, and this occurred in 1997.

SPBAugust 28, 2019

I had a similar experience to one mentioned in your article. I was driving from Cedar City to Bountiful after a restless night in a motel with an aching back. My daughter (just returned from serving a mission) and I were traveling to see relatives and do temple work. I had taken painkillers, and we got up early to attend a church service before leaving Cedar City that rainy Sunday morning. About 20 minutes outside of Cedar City, my daughter fell asleep and I was also getting tired. The next thing I know, I woke up and the car was going about 30 mph down a street of one of the small towns along the route, with buildings and cars around us. My left arm was on the door's armrest and my right hand was laying in my lap and I was totally relaxed. I have no idea how long I had been sleeping but we were not near any towns when I got tired - it was only fields and hills along the road. I took hold of the steering wheel, amazed and very thankful for someone rescuing us. I got back on I-15 and continued driving, wide awake by then. My daughter kept sleeping. Thank heaven, literally, for angels!! I only wish I knew who was driving and for what purpose we were were spared. Was it so we could complete the temple work? Or maybe it was because my daughter has since married and now has a little girl of her own who was waiting to be born to her? No matter the reason, I am very thankful angels are aware and sometimes allowed to help us along.

Jerry D GroverAugust 28, 2019

There is no requirement that reformed Egyptian was phonetic. The "manner of speech" can simply refer to sentence structure and syntax, not pronunciation.

JemezblueAugust 28, 2019

LOVE THIS!!! This definitely means that we are put on this earth for a purpose and that we will be aided by Angels when needed, until our work is finished on earth.

LettieAugust 28, 2019

As a recent graduate from BYU, it was definitely a testimony-challenging environment. Some teachers were arrogant, uncaring, and even openly dishonest about assignments to students (especially lying about deadlines). Fortunately, I had some great professors that helped me salvage my experience and education. I hope that BYU steps up to make sure that the faculty treat students fairly rather than as a means to fund research.

Linda NesseAugust 28, 2019

This is very comforting to know. Thank you

JaredAugust 28, 2019

These are excellent articles! I appreciate the careful analysis and perspective including the assumption that Joseph was a prophet and that his translation came as a gift from God. Is there any chance that these articles could make it into the Joseph Smith Papers project, even as footnotes in the electronic version?

Heather HemmertAugust 28, 2019

I served my mission at Historic Winter Quarters in the Nebraska Omaha mission. During a special display of the art work of Liz Lemon Swindles work of Joseph and Emma, Gracia Jones came and had a special fireside to share her testimony. It was such a powerful experience. The spirit was overwhelming. Hearing your testimony of Emma’s words to you brought all of that back. Thank you for sharing that special experience. I have no pioneer ancestors because my family are converts but I feel a special connection to Joseph and Emma as they lead the restoration. Testifying of their experiences I always brings the most powerful spirit.

LauraAugust 28, 2019

From Les Miserables by Victor Hugo: Unless the Lord guard the house, in vain do they watch who guard it.

ShareeAugust 28, 2019

It's not just kids of different races or ethnicities that are bullied. Some are bullied because others just don't like the way they look or don't like some little thing about them. There should be no bullying period, not just because of race or religion.

vickieAugust 28, 2019

I didn't bother to read the entire write up on Abraham transcripts...I think that by faith we can know the truth of all things...people reading and transcribing and writing are all different and are variable in intelligence...so....those looking for imperfections will get them but it still proves nothing.....only what they want it to prove....in their own minds.

GrandpathegreatAugust 27, 2019

I work there and admin doesn't know much about actual students, and unfortunately don't really care about the needs of the staff. The ones who do the real work on campus. Certain managers are great and others only care about looking good at the cost of others. Admin needs to get out of there comfortable chairs and Actually meet with staff, in all depts not just a select few. On a side note..I have a great boss, just the bosses above us don't really care unfortunately. Hopefully President Kevin Worthen will read these comments, and listen to employees to make it a better environment to work in. I have kids who have graduated there, and I am glad they did. Go Cougs!

PaladinAugust 27, 2019

In the United States, many state and local laws require the prominent posting of a no weapons policy at all entrances. The policy in a church handbook, even if widely distributed to members via electronic means and with more clear and updated language, may not be sufficient.

Paul PlumbAugust 27, 2019

Why is it that the countries that have the most guns have the most problems with the most sick-o's? If a culture includes guns, remedies include guns. If a culture excludes guns, remedies exclude guns.

Not afraidAugust 27, 2019

It's a matter of faith. I trust that if it's God's will that I get shot in church (and the likelihood of that is very, very remote) then that will happen. If it's not His will, it won't happen. I don't need to take a gun with me to a place of sacrifice, worship, and faith. For me, taking a gun would feel I have faith only in my abilities, not in God.

LoraAugust 27, 2019

My bishop has received death threats. Our elders quorum takes turn acting as security every week, watching for suspicious characters. I felt safe with the idea that our elders were armed. I work in a government building with law enforcement officers, all of them openly carrying weapons. Not once has a gun burst out of its holster and started shooting. Now we are practically putting up a sign that says our churches are "gun-free zones"? Has anyone noticed that gun-free zones are the chosen targets for mass shooters? Has anyone noticed that shooters do not obey laws, much less church policies?

TerryAugust 27, 2019

Faith is simply belief strong enough you act on it.

Mary BellAugust 27, 2019

Love this and love you Joni. Thanks for your gracious wisdom. You're a gem!

John R CarpenterAugust 27, 2019

The key words for me are: "... unless carried by current law enforcement officers" - Most law enforcement officers are required to carry 24/7, some are not. Having been in the former, I was discreet and leadership was aware. On two occasions over my active duty time, I placed myself on duty to prevent issues from getting out of hand by judicious use of armed law enforcement presence. One led to an arrest and the other allowed me discretion to handle informally. FYI - weapons are tools - it is the person who wields such a tool who determines whether or not it is for good or evil.

George ThompsonAugust 27, 2019

Those places that prohibit guns are setting themselves up as easy targets for the next sick-o that comes along looking for an easy shot at the most people! I personally think that it is much better if he thinks that some people might shoot back. As the coward that he is, he will then go elsewhere.

Barbara RobertsAugust 27, 2019

What’s helping me: Learning how to counsel together, to disagree appropriately (be calm, understand and validate the other’s view), learning how to SELF GOVERN(see Nicoleen Peck’s work), learning how to give up the vicinity paradigm ( C.Terry Warner’s work) , learning to do the simple thing of turning to look to the raised Brass Serpent in my wilderness for healing, to trust the Savior’s hand is outstretched to save me not shame because I really am of little faith.

AlexanderAugust 27, 2019

If only I had his faith! Please pray INTENSELY for me; someone you have never met, or probably never shall!

MimiAugust 27, 2019

I've come to the realization that everything that was taught to me in primary and seminary was not all that simple, and it's okay. While I am disappointed at the new discoveries that we are finding out about how the Book of Mormon wasn't actually translated from golden plates sitting on a table and the book of Abraham not being translated from the scrolls, these stories have changed my life and perspective for the good. I am excited about all the research being done in our history. This is the Lord's church and we just have to deal with all the hidden and "let's put this away and not talk about it," parts of our past. I truly believe we will be fine if not better for it. We have to wrestle sometimes and it only makes us stronger.

Neal ChristensenAugust 27, 2019

So why did we have to hear of this from the national media before hearing it from the pulpit?

BradAugust 27, 2019

With one of our jobs as a Father/Husband being the protector of our family, we can't do that while in our church? Bishop's have been killed and people have shot up churches. And now the Church wants us defenseless against such atrocities? I don't get it...

SebAugust 27, 2019

I admit that I've had a hard time following this article. But I'm not a scholar of course. This lengthy article certainly gives a lot insight to various aspects surrounding the Book of Abraham and therefor is a good source for information ... especially for those who want to dive deeper into this issue. I however, because I have a limited understanding of the matter, will stick with the easy explanation: A lot of the papyri the BoA is translated from have been lost in the Great Fire of Chicago. The remaining part which is known to us today does not contain the part Joseph Smith translated from. So of course it will not match what we can read in the BoA. Ptolemy is attributed with stating: "We consider it a good principle to explain the phenomena by the simplest hypothesis possible." I will stick with that for the moment.

Donna HesslingAugust 26, 2019

In the Islam Koran 21 Sure:52 - one reads how Abram got himself into such a position as shown in the fascimily in the Pearl of Great Price of him lying on the sacrifice alter. "The scriptures are holy, but ot too wholey, because they are so holey"

Karen Schmidt ReynoldsAugust 26, 2019

Thank you for sharing! I heard the story my whole life about my grandmothers brother Uncle Bert's experience. I've wanted a copy and can now share it with my children. Thank you Anne for sharing!

HalAugust 26, 2019

It's been over 30 years since I graduated from BYU and I still do not understand the furor over the Honor Code or the office charged to enforce it. I say this as someone who was once called in for an infraction (my hair was too long - I knew it when I got the notice to appear). I remember being disgruntled at the time - as most 20-something men probably are - but also knowing full well that I was in violation of the code and, therefore, deserving of the mild reprimand. I'm a firm believer that, if you are always where you are supposed to be and doing the things you should be doing, 98% of the time one need never worry about being called into the honor code office. Our youth have been taught this since the time of Brigham Young. If you are at a party where there is drinking, leave immediately. If you question the intentions of someone you're dating, don't go out with him / her. My guess is that most of the students called in for honor code violations know full well what they've done wrong but they seem to think the values in the For the Strength of Youth pamphlet no longer apply to them once they turned 18 and became an "adult." Unfortunately, I know many older "adults" who feel the same way.

HalAugust 26, 2019

I very much appreciated this article. When this topic came up from my cousin and her husband (both devout Baptists), I explained to them (again) that I believe the Book of Abraham is an inspired, true document for the same reason that I believe that the Book of Mormon was translated by the "gift and power of God." The so-called secular "evidence" that the papyri make no mention of Abraham means no more to me than my finding out a few years ago that Joseph Smith often used a seer-stone rather than the Urim and Thumim to translate the gold plates. It does not matter to me how the revelation was received - all that matters to me is that I know that the Book of Mormon is the word of God and that Joseph Smith was called to be the prophet of the restoration. Everything else is mere trivia.

Phillip C SmithAugust 26, 2019

We do not have adequate insight and data from the 1830s to make any conclusive statements about the Book of Abraham. Scholars should admit that we really don't know enough to draw any valid conclusions. I find that the content of the Books of Abraham is so extraordinary and divinely revealing that I continue to accept it as having been inspired of God.

LettieAugust 26, 2019

I'd caution against completely avoiding salt as salt is important in maintaining hydration (salt = electrolytes).

Renaissance NerdAugust 26, 2019

One very simple word in Spanish is one I wish like crazy had an English equivalent: igualmente. Literally translated it means merely ‘equally’ but it has a larger meaning, something like, ‘I warmly wish similar good things for you.’ No way to say that succinctly in English. It’s just one of many examples of this same reductionist bent in modern language and thought.

Kelton ToblerAugust 26, 2019

Thank you for this perspective. I have been concerned for the past few years about the Maxwell Institute moving away from thoughtful, well-documented apologetics in a quest for academic credibility "untainted" by valid points and authorities in defense of faith. I don't know what the right balance is, but I appreciate this reminder that it is possible for a bias in favor of academic "purity" to omit well-founded, useful information, distort the whole truth, and damage faith.

Sharee HughesAugust 26, 2019

I consider the Book of Abraham to be our most profound piece of scripture. Whether it was translated from papyri that are now missing or simply by the power of god is, to me, irrelevant.This new volume of the Joseph Smith Papers should be pulled from the market and corrected to remove the subjective bias of the editors.

Charles DefranchiAugust 26, 2019

Dear Brother Lindsay, Many thanks for reconciling the testimony of the Spirit with a reasonably balanced secular knowledge. The LDS Scholars who gave this lecture must have indeed fallen into the trap of "pleasing" our critics at the expense of a more objective truth, thus proving that "being learned does not necessarily make someone wise," (2 Nephi 9:28)

PennieAugust 26, 2019

It seems to me that all these scholars are willing to swallow a camel but are straining at a knat. Altho I understand that scholarly work is needful, the fact remains that Joseph was a prophet, the Book of Mormon is true, and the Book of Abraham is a wonderful book is scripture. Sometimes scholars sound like the Jews who argued every comma and aphosterphe of the Book of the Law with Paul in order to reject Jesus. Listen to the Holy Ghost before you listen to scholarly lectures

essayAugust 26, 2019

Well written article. My question is why didn't the scholars of JSPRT4 take these points into account? Isn't their project supported by the Church?

Samuel McCrackenAugust 26, 2019

Further to your examples, when we speak English we have totally forgotten the use of the second person singular/familiar---Thee, Thou. (Funk and Wagnals Dictionary). Familiar, in this sense is still alive in French (France) and Spanish and also German. The other second person,--You-- was reserved for those who were not related by Family (familiar) or Friendship---or Plural..

Arlaine AustinAugust 26, 2019

Thank you for this amazing podcast on the negative power of anger and contention. This is one that should be listened to or read often. Thank you again!

Richard WinmillAugust 26, 2019

Meanwhile, in the "hard sciences" they admit at least among themselves that "dispute is science" and may always be until confirming experiments lend more light. It appears that the subject of JSPRT4, dependent as it is now on correcting the editorial work must rely either on personal revelation or much more clear evidence. Else the "dispute" will be unresolved until "that which is perfect comes." The editors of the present Volume 4 ought to admit that. George Musser speaking about the "hard science" he reports on for the Scientific American said: "We expect scientists to speak as one, but the very idea of speaking as one is alien to science. Scientists tend not to discuss this aspect of their profession. They often describe their disputes as dirty laundry best not aired in public (and complain when journalists do so). But if you don’t air disputes, what’s left to air? Science is dispute." To Jeff's comment perhaps we must air this laundry. George Musser, Spooky Action at a Distance: The Phenomenon That Reimagines Space and Time--and What It Means for Black Holes, the Big Bang, and Theories of Everything (p. 211). Farrar, Straus, and Giroux. But, of course, the soft scholarly work of writers and historians are a much different than scientific inquiry. I found this e-mail discussion between Dan Vogel and Brian Hales much before one of the editors for Volume 4 let off steam on Dan Vogel's FB page--I found these excerpts quite illuminating in the present discussion: Dan Vogel to Brian Hales: “You are attempting to take advantage of a silence in the historical record …” Dan Vogel to Brian Hales: I’m only focusing on the logic and arguments … since … the documentation is scarce for either side, it becomes imperative to get the thinking right. Historians often argue from the known to the undocumented and build probabilistic cases." Brian Hales to Vogel ” You follow the path so common among (Mormon) critics. They don’t have hard evidence, so they wonder or speculate and then condemn … based upon their speculations. It isn’t a position of strength in polemics, but you need to go with whatever evidence you have (or don’t have).” DAN VOGEL to Brian: I don’t have any new sources for you. I said my discussion would focus on the logic of your position. Silence is silence. You don’t know the reason for the silence. You don’t even know who knew what." Indeed! https://journal.interpreterfoundation.org/the-joseph-smith-papers-project-stumbles/

Marsha NewmanAugust 25, 2019

I seem to always be saying thank you as I read your wonderful magazine. And today is no exception! Thank you for this moving discussion of gifts of the spirit. Most people don't think of charity as a spiritual gift to be exercised and increased regularly in us. Most consider it a specific gift of money or goods. Quite the opposite, charity is a gift of the heart, generosity of spirit, tenderly making use of forgiveness and understanding, and lifting others up by encouragement rather than chastisement. I especially loved the lost pilot story and will use it in my own family. Thanks again!

Joe CallenderAugust 25, 2019

Excellent insights here. If I may say so without violating any rules, I'm the author of an Amazon #1 Bestseller on this subject titled "Faith and Physics: How the Light of Christ Bridges the Gap." (Don't let the word "physics" intimidate you, there's no math in it). If interested, you can also download two of my papers, free, at www.light-of-christ.com. Go to the "Articles" page.

VardellAugust 25, 2019

The answer is very simple and you mentioned it at the bottom of part 1. Joseph did not "translate" the book of Mormon. He did not read the reformed Egyptian and put it in his own words. According to all the evidence, Joseph looked into the hat with the seerstone, saw the words, and read them to the scribe. So the words read by Joseph were of divine origin - revealed to him. Royal Skousen's work has shown that the supposed bad grammar- so troubling to early church scholars- is actually evidence of early Hebrew and even 16th century English. The reason for the similar phrases is that the Lord saw fit to translate the ideas from the plates into the same language used by Tyndale and King James translators. Doesn't that make sense if He wanted the Bible and the Book of Mormon to become "one stick" in the Lords hand? Ezekiel 37:17

SteveAugust 25, 2019

Danny and his wife are friends and very nice people.

CarolineAugust 24, 2019

I saw this movie tonight. The story was wonderful, the characters charming, the scenery gorgeous, and the language terrible throughout. And there was no need for the main character to be in his underwear for so long. That was puzzling. It could so easily have been a family movie.

RosaAugust 24, 2019

Thank you for the podcast. It was wonderful to read, I especially loved the personal stories. I am the only member in my home, and sometimes it is really hard to do all the studying I feel I should be doing. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your study group.

Charles DefranchiAugust 24, 2019

I was very sorry to read about Darla's passing away, because I had developed some kind of a friendship with her through a few Email exchanges. I can only conclude that time had come for her to move into a much better and more peaceful world, especially to reunite with her son, whose suicide must have been the most devastating experience of her life. Her example and teachings do represent another confirmation of the good fruits this gospel can produce in people's lives.

Kathy MedlarAugust 24, 2019

Yes, Darla was a Special "Earth Angel." Her articles touched my soul, especially the last article she wrote. I hope you wll keep her articles archived on Meridan magazine. She wlll live on in my heart and I would enjoy revisitng her articles.

Nihla W. JuddAugust 24, 2019

Do you have a photograph of the engraving in Corinth of the text of 1 Cor 13. I'd love to see it.

Yvonne AstonAugust 24, 2019

The problem is with the decimation of the female population, those possibly millions of young men seeking partners will have to travel elsewhere to find a partner. The shortage of women will cause violence between competing males and this will escalate through female-less societies. The future of communities where females are considered to be less valuable than males will find in the future that they will have falling populations and anarchic social responses to that lack of partners for young males.

Sue AndrewsAugust 23, 2019

Darla and I shared the loss of each of our sons. I appreciated so much the correspondence we had several years ago. Her words were much needed at that awful time of my life. I’m saddened to hear of her death.

Jeriann Hughes MarksAugust 23, 2019

I will truly miss you Darla and the wisdom you so generously imparted. Thank you and take care of my husband who I am sure you will meet.

Layne KilpatrickAugust 23, 2019

As the father of a now 30-year old pediatric heart transplant recipient, I have a sense of the overwhelming gratitude and humility Paul speaks of. When an anonymous donor, in our case an infant, gives you the very gift of life, and you have no way to express to them your profound gratitude, it impacts deeply your love for a merciful God in heaven AND the fellow human beings you share this earth with who would be so magnanimous and selfless in their hour of grief. I’m so glad you and your family were able to experience that love and that you are now able to share your unique gifts and talents with all of us. And on it goes forward in the Lord’s great plan. God bless you, Paul. And thank you for your music. It is a conduit for the spirit.

David HallAugust 23, 2019

A great book that pokes fun at all the theories of creation that leave it all to chance was written by an agnostic secular Jew and renowned scientist David Berlinski - The Devil's Delusion: Atheism and its Scientific Pretensions. If you dismiss Intelligent Design, there are so many unanswered questions that are brushed aside by militant atheists in the scientific community. These people simply don't want to deal with the idea that there may be a God and thus busy themselves trying to intimidate other scientists into accepting their views. Read this book. Berlinski is really smart and quite funny.

WanasAugust 23, 2019

Began to listen to his work about a yr ago Found it to be very different than” main stream “ religion , far more spiritual but at a different level of depth - sacredly haunting it seems Near death can uncover secret pathways I write poems- if it doesn’t come to you there isn’t much value to what comes from you , I have found Speaking of organ donation: 27 yrs again my wife and I had to decide to take our 17 year old son off life supports We faced a that decision that no parent should have to But we did and by so doing gave life to those that would not have had a second chance So glad we chose to His heart was given to a musician In Nashville Would not have been Br Cardall as it was 27 yrs ago Ensign wanted our story but it got pulled by ? Church and organ donation “stuff” Not much into piano solos but when he combines it with a “full house” it is magic— keep creating there is no bottom!

Phil WasdenAugust 23, 2019

As a member of the Choral Arts Society of Utah, it was a delight to perform with Paul Cardall in a charity concert. Paul is a humble and gracious human being and most deserving of the Dove Award.

Amy ChristensenAugust 23, 2019

This music brings about a calmness to your soul, that it can help lighten whatever hardships people may be enduring in their lives. It’s been awesome to watch how much Paul has grown and the many people he has helped bring joy to with his music! It’s an honor to know Paul, through my husband Corey, on a personal level. For those that only know Paul from his music, on a personal level he is just as genuine and caring of a person, as this so reflects in his beautiful music! Congrats on the 10 year Anniversary! ❤️

Peg BranvoldAugust 23, 2019

So thankful for your beautiful, truly peaceful music. I have been wanting to let you know that for a long time. I have listened to your CD’s for years, but almost 10 months ago the Camp Fire in Paradise, CA changed my life and the lives of 27,000 people. Consequently, I have had many long drives from where I currently live to serve and worship with my community in Paradise. Your music is what has sustained during this time during my drives, when I needed to feel peace during the day at home, and falling asleep at night. I feel so blessed to have your music in my life! Thank you does not express my feelings well enough...

El Mentecato MayorAugust 23, 2019

The U.S. sided with the Mexican government that Pancho Villa was fighting against, that's why Villa became very antagonistic towards U.S. citizens, killing many because he considered them his enemies during the Mexican revolutionary war. He actually perpetrated a successful attack into U.S. soil in Columbus, NM. That's why the U.S. put a price on his head, and the reason he captured any U.S. citizen that he came into contact. I'm from Cd. Juárez and my dad is from one of the Mormon colonies, and I've been to Villa's home in the city of Chihuahua, now a museum. A place you must visit! Viva Villa!

Adams, KathrynAugust 22, 2019

Thank-you Maurine, Darla touched me personally with her beautiful spirit, as well. I was privileged to meet her, at a singles conference in Charlotte, NC about 2004, where she was the featured speaker, and I sang a song I wrote. Darla, wrote and published a beautiful article in the Meridian Magazine, about me and I will be forever grateful for her love and encouragement. She will always have a special place in my heart! Thanks to you and Scot for your ministry through the Meridian Magazine , it is ray of light in a dark world, sincerely, Kathryn Adams

Sharma AndersonAugust 22, 2019

Please keep her articles available in the archives. She had such wisdom and I would love to be able to go back and reread her contributions.

CatherineAugust 22, 2019

So many times when I doubted myself, wondered if I'd EVER be "good enough" I'd find one of Darls's articles in the daily Meridian updates always on days when I needed them the most. I always regarded those as "tender mercies" and a witness that God really does know what I need and when I need it.

Stephanie BillingsleyAugust 22, 2019

We're all better for having known Darla, even if only through her writing. I am blessed to have had her in my ward family for many years and will miss her dearly. She has now joined quite a remarkable group of women from our ward on the other side and I smile at the thought of that sweet reunion and all the work they must be doing. Her life is a testament to trusting in the Lord and His goodness. What a blessing to remember even just a bit of her wisdom each day. Love you, Darla. See you again one day.

Linda WattsAugust 22, 2019

I MUST make the arduous effort of using the keyboard. My "feeble hands that hang down" have been aptly and abundantly reminded of the availability of "strength beyond my own" as I've read your inspired/inspiring tribute to Darla, as well as How to Make the Sacrifice of a Broken Heart by H.Wallace Goddard. As I face the frustrations of muscle deterioration insidiously imposed on my body by IBM [inclusion body myositis], what I've read has refueled my fortitude tank and deepened my reverence for the absolute reality of individual/personal strength and peace accessed through the immense/infinite atonement of our Redeemer, Jesus Christ. I am greatly grateful for the free newsletter [which, I'm sorry to say I only recently have opened...having thought it was one of manymanymany health solicitors I see daily :| I open yours now. Again, THANK YOU! [just "for the record" - it took an hour to type this. May knowing that help you know of my sincere appreciation]

Jay WamsleyAugust 22, 2019

Wally, this is really good. Miss seeing you and yours.

Nicholeen PeckAugust 22, 2019

This is such a fitting article to memorialize a wonderful woman! Darla wrote an article about me years ago and I got to feel her heart in the process. She was full of love for me and for all the people who would read her article. She truly wanted to make the world a more beautiful place. If it weren't for Darla I don't think I would be writing for Meridian. Even though we haven't talked much in recent years, I will always consider her a friend. I think she was the kind of person who was a friend to all who knew her. Darla will be missed!

Michael Shea, MDAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for the lovely eulogy. I always looked forward to Darla Isakson’s articles, filled with memorable prose and solid common-sense wisdom as they were. I don’t think I have found any better way of learning practical religion from reading and pondering her words. I am grateful for the gifts she had and for her willingness to use them for the benefit of her readers, for anyone willing to listen. I did not know her, but I will miss her.

LUCYAugust 22, 2019

Having experienced childhood abuse also, I recommend EMDR. our emotions and experiences are held in our bodies. One very long session of EMDR released many horrific childhood traumas from my body and soul. I still try to gain the spirituality I see others achieving. I go to the temple and pray to feel the Savior's love. I think as the brain develops in children who are being abused, something is not developed in the spiritual centers of the brain as fully which is why we struggle spiritually. The Savior has his arm extended towards us in love. I lean on Him. I am gaining spiritual insights. Reading the Book of Mormon helps with regaining what I didn't get as a child. There are blessings of healing and celestial love from studying the spiritual concepts in the Book of Mormon.

LUCYAugust 22, 2019

I also agree with those who write that if the Lord remembers her sins no more, that talking to her husband will only bring harm to her relationship with him. it will not be helpful to the marriage because he is not totally understanding of forgiveness and the atonement. He prefers to think on the sin rather than the atonement. This woman can work privately on seeking her own personal forgiveness. Developing a closer relationship with the Savior and understanding that he has taken the burden upon him already for her assault and her attempts to to deal with the assault in sexual ways. This woman should not bring up the past that will be harmful,,,especially because she has stopped all such behavior and repented. Respect the Savior deeply,,,respect and honor his love and sacrifice for us. The Savior has suffered for this and says its now my burden. Go forth in love...lots of love ...life is bright ...do not let the effects of your assault continue to haunt you. You are totally above it now...don't revisit it! Even the Lord is not remembering or revisiting it.Go forward!!

Barbara LewisAugust 22, 2019

Dear Sister Hilton; You wrote this for me, didn't you? Thank you, Barbara Lewis

Debbie BakeAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful synopsis of Darla's inspiring words. May her spirit continue to influence and bless on both sides of the veil...

Arlene Larsen BascomAugust 22, 2019

Thank you Maurine for your kind, special tribute to my wonderful sister. I was uplifted, and comforted and some of my grief was lifted by your beautiful words. They did a lot to remind me of Darla's faith, words of wisdom, and the influence she has had on me and so many others.. It is inspiring to know that she had such remarkable friends as you and Scot, and that you valued her writing and personality as much as I did. I love Meridian and will forever be grateful for you and Scot and the work you do with Meridian and all your other endeavors.

RitaAugust 22, 2019

Darla's articles were always the first ones I read on the day they came out, and I have forwarded many of them to friends and family going through difficult times. She has been one of the 'tender mercies' the Lord affords us in this life, and will continue to be as her insights and humor are read and re-read.

RitaAugust 22, 2019

Thank you!

Jennie HansenAugust 22, 2019

Long before Darla began writing for Meridian, she accepted my first novel at Covenant Communications. I first met her when I assisted her at a library function and she persuaded me to withdraw that book from a New York publisher and submit it to her instead. I've never regretted that decision. She was a great friend and mentor during that early part of my novel writing career and I later enjoyed reading her contributions to Meridian. She will be greatly missed here, but I have no doubt she will quickly become a part of furthering the Lord's work on the other side as she did here.

Sheila WallAugust 22, 2019

Maurine, thank you for this beautiful tribute to my life-long mentor and dear friend. Sending you a spiritual hug as we both grieve her. I am so happy that she is no longer suffering and she is free to run and climb mountains and do all that her body limited her from doing. I'm selfishly sobbing like a child who can't catch her breath, and I'm so sad for her husband and family. I will be praying for them and for you and all of Darla's loved ones. I occasionally looked for her obituary, as I didn't want to disturb her and and take more of her energy by calling her or her husband, and yesterday I decided I would call and found her phone number. That was the day she passed! I must have had some prompting from the Lord. The call was not made. It would have been bad timing if I had called. Darla and I have a mutual friend who was precious to us, she passed a few years ago, and I can imagine them embracing. I am so grateful to know that we can be together again someday. We have lost a light to the world. I hope you will keep her page up with her articles on it so we can refer back to her words of comfort and wisdom.

David PerryAugust 22, 2019

Your ability to make us feel we are watching the scene in real time is amazing. Thanks for relating this to the Savior's perfect example.

Ann-Marie JensenAugust 22, 2019

I love Darla's take on the spiritual blessings she received from her trial with cancer. It often gives me pause when we fast and pray for someone's well being in the midst of a tragic event. When that event turns out to our liking, comments often sounds like this: "God is merciful." "God is mindful of us and our needs." "God loves us." How about when that event ends in death? We are wise to echo the same sentiments! I truly appreciate President Nelson's attitude about death. It is a necessary part of The Plan and one of the few ways for us to step into the next sphere of our existence. Darla will continue to be a marvelous example of faith and understanding beyond her own ability. Thanks for the beautiful tribute, Proctors.

Guy WilcoxAugust 22, 2019

I have always saved her articles for future reference as I do so often! Her courage during the last months are a wonderful example as we all should have! I will cherish her words now more than ever!

Janie BrayAugust 22, 2019

What a sweet article about a dear friend of yours. You have passed on, through her words, the hope we all for eternity, the truth that Heavenly Father loves us, and that even in our imperfect state, we need to trust in our perfect Heavenly Father and His plan for each one of us. Tears come to my eyes as I read this article, the love you shared for each other and our Heavenly Father is so apparent. Even in time of loss, there is always the positive, providing we are willing to look for it. Our Heavenly Father blesses us each and every day, but we have to be open in our hearts and minds to see it. Thank you and bless you for your podcasts. A group of us meet each Sunday and have lunch together and share the message of the podcasts, and our hopes and dreams. I will close this message to you with a BIG THANK YOU! and something I do for those I meet -HUGS

Stephen SmithAugust 22, 2019

I am sad and happy to hear of Sis. Isakson's passing. I have read many of her articles and saw great insight and wisdom in them. Some of the things she discussed I learned of first hand in my own battles with cancer. I too will miss her deep insights to gospel principles but I believe she is now free of earthly pains and sorrows and feels much more greatly God's love enveloping her in the realm of spirits. I shed a tear for her, for her family and loved ones, and express my deepest condolences to them all. God bless. We will miss her greatly.

Ann SiggardAugust 22, 2019

My heart is truly saddened today. I consider Darla a true friend, even though we have never met! I have feasted at her table of wisdom and experience for many years and my life has changed for the better because she shared her wonderful gifts and insights about our relationship with the Lord! Trust on!!

Kate MerrillAugust 22, 2019

Blessed Darla -- Your words and wisdom reached me in ways needed and yearned for . . . in ways that have given me connection and validation as I navigate the challenges of mortality and spiritual growth. May those words continue to reach others aching to be understood, to feel connected, and to discover hope again. Rest, explore, fly sweet Darla!

KarenAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for sharing this about my Aunt Darla. She has a gift with words and we are fortunate to have eaten at her table of wisdom that she was able to share with us.

ShirleyAugust 22, 2019

You nailed it, Joni. So many of us have huge motes in our eyes.

Diane IrwinAugust 22, 2019

What a wonderful woman!! I have LOVED her articles. And this article you wrote is the cherry on top. What a marvelous tribute to her. She will be missed.

TerryAugust 22, 2019

Thank us for letting us know her just a little through her writings.

Cynthia M. MoorheadAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful article and letting us know about Darla's passing. I have been reading her articles on Meridian for many years and will miss them. I have her book--it has been a blessing to me. What a wonderful example of faith and trust in the Lord she has been!

Doris WilliamsAugust 22, 2019

Maurine, this article was the first thing I read this morning. My heart just melted with love and gratitude for the truths Darla espoused all these years on Meridian.....but also for YOUR words, for your inspired editorship and guidance of Meridian which is a lifeline for so many of us....for your good husband, Scot, for his uplifting, spiritually soaring photographs and words, for your shared podcast, Come Follow Me, which we have shared with our ward and family, and for the precious gospel, restored to the earth, and for all who teach, and share their insights and testimonies. I am eternally grateful.

Nyemahame D NyenweneAugust 22, 2019

Every word that I have read about Darla has just been uplifting. Thank you for writing this article. I believe it makes more sense to me because of the difficult time I am facing having just lost my Dad of cancer a month and 7days today. It's been a three and a half year battle with laryngeal Cancer. The experience has also been much spiritual. I know my Dad is in a better place now. I have been given strength through your message. Thank you

DeNile williamsAugust 22, 2019

I can't begin to tell you how much this article touched me emotionally and spiritually. I feel that I need to read this article over several times on a weekly, monthly and yearly basis. The courage and strength to overcome our earthly obstacles seems less of a challenge from the "medicine" given. Thank you ever so much for the good that you are doing in the excellent articles that I look forward to with great anticipation each e-mail. Your e-mail articles are the most important email s that I receive. Sincerely, DeNile Williams

Scott C.August 22, 2019

Though she has passed on from mortality, her messages and insight will last forever. I look forward to re-reading her articles and I will do so with the knowledge that she has now sealed her testimony with how she lived her life. I've never met Darla personally but I feel I know her. Thank you Darla for your example, and thank you Proctor's for publishing her works!

Susanne DavidsonAugust 22, 2019

What a beautiful story of the life of this fine woman, Darla. I am soup.ifted by reading this of her strength, her hope, her trust in God, her love and charity, that I will try to do and be a better person. THANKYOU Darla for your great example, your life of loving, giving, serving, doing for others . May God bless you and help us all to remember the lessons you taught us.

ShielahAugust 22, 2019

Darla will be greatly missed. Her words of encouragement and gospel truths will echo long after her death. I am so thankful to her for always choosing poignant topics that touch lives much beyond her own. We miss you, Darla.

Tanya NeiderAugust 22, 2019

All of us readers of Meridian Magazine will miss Darla! Her voice has carried us through trials, joys, and given us hope along the way. My condolences to all who knew her.

Charles McClellandAugust 22, 2019

Thank you, Maurine, for this heart touching memorial to Darlene. I am forwarding it to a loved one who will be uplifted by what you wrote.

Nefi AscencioAugust 21, 2019

Hi, I have a friend here in Winchester, Virginia Paul H. Thompson who was a Trial Attorney not member of the church but show it me pictures of his Grandfather riding with Pancho Villa they were very good friends and always hunting and riding horses, and I have another friend a greatgranson of Pancho Villa, Fernando Villa from Ensenada, California now lives in New Jersey. But always shares good stories and some pictures. I am a member of the church of the Jesus Christ of the latter days saints. In the Winchester Stake, Berryville Ward. Former Missionary.

DonnieAugust 21, 2019

Thanks so much

David WhittleAugust 21, 2019

My precious aunt, and all of our beloved sister, Darla Faye Larsen Hanks Isackson, passed through the veil this morning on her way to a glorious reunion with other loved ones gone on before. Like her mother and brother before her, she was given the immeasurable blessing of advance notice of which she spoke: "I’ve been given the gift of advance notice, of time to tie up loose ends, to prepare and help others prepare in mind and heart. What a precious amazing gift." She and we were able to share in that blessing as we expressed our love for her and she shared her faith in the love of God with us. Last week, she texted me and invited me to come and take the gems of family history she had been gathering. I had no idea that would be my last visit with her, but I will never forget her holy kiss, her saintly smiles through the pain and suffering I knew were there but not from her, and the care she took to give me (and let go of) the treasures of the memories of her life. And what a life she lived. Ten years my senior, I've always idolized her. The way she laughed when we played Flinch or badminton taught me of joy in simple things. When she won the title of Idaho Jr. Miss, I was sure she must be the most beautiful woman in the world, right up there with my mother. Every time I heard her playing the piano so effortlessly, and when she played the leading role in the play at Bonneville High in Ammon, I was sure I had the most talented aunt ever. I still remember her mission farewell and singing "I'll Go Where You Want Me to Go" and deciding that if Darla was going on a mission, then I was going on one too. I have clear memories of so much - but I can never forget those times when she was there for me when I needed someone most - especially how she took me and my children in that first Christmas alone with them. To this day, my children tell me that was their favorite Christmas ever. How could it be otherwise? Darla treated them like they were the most important souls on earth and they were each the most precious of her loved ones. And so they were that Christmas. How could anyone in Darla's presence have any doubt of their importance to her? And now the tears come, because I've let myself think of my own loss instead of the blessings of all the love that Darla has found today, and her reunion with her beloved son Brian, and my son Michael and daughter Ashley, and Grandma and Grandpa, and so many others. Darla is a bright light and a glorious soul - and I'm both thrilled to know she is free and blessed but grieving to know that my spiritual examplar - the most Christlike person I've ever known so well - is gone from my life. At least the Lord let us share our thoughts and feelings with her before she passed - painfully soon for us and mercifully soon for her. For that I am grateful to the Lord whose grace and love she lived by.

Marleen RobertsAugust 21, 2019

Thank you so much for this lesson. I certainly opened my mind and heart to how this needs to be carried out. I really appreciate it.

Donna BatemanAugust 21, 2019

Beautiful and insightful. This truly is helpful in my quest to offer a broken heart.

Herm OlsenAugust 21, 2019

Bro. G offers a thoughtful analysis of humility and prayer. I appreciated the insights of the article and the encouragement towards a more genuinely ‘broken heart’.

PatAugust 21, 2019

This is a great video with an important message. Everyone is included at the table to feast upon His word. I really wish that they would have represented those with learning disabilities. My daughter was humiliated during Sunday school by the teacher because of her lack spelling and reading abilities. She has dyslexia. She was 17 at the time and she was very aware that she cannot do what others do. It was very difficult for her. I had to ask the teacher to stop. He apologized to my daughter. It happens all the time to her. At church people need to not be so quick to point out others weaknesses and just be accepting.

AH75August 20, 2019

Google Lake Baikal and go to it's Wikipedia page and then scroll down to Historical Traditions and read about Christ visiting that region.

William TurnerAugust 20, 2019

Why do the scriptures say Noah was perfect? Noah was a just man, and perfect in his generation; and he walked with God Moses 8:27 https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/pgp/moses/8?id=p27&lang=eng#p27

CarolineAugust 20, 2019

If anyone is still reading comments ;) I just want to add some comments to the comments. We served three missions in Eastern Europe and never heard about this painting, which I believe is in the St Petersburg museum of art. So we really appreciate this article. We do know, for certain, that every one of the lost tribes is represented in the patriarchal blessings of the members in these countries. We saw for ourselves remnants of temple ordinances in some of the rituals in the Orthodox churches there. God loves all of His children and is mindful of every one.

AnonymousAugust 20, 2019

It's easier to forgive the debt when the creditor has moved on and no longer needs the money. But is it fair to tell a parent who scrimped for years, working two or three jobs and making huge personal sacrifices to raise several children alone that they are now expected for forgive the debt while the other parent has spent years living a spendthrift life and ignoring all family responsibilities? A parent who lived paycheck to paycheck supporting the family alone may now be facing retirement age with little to no savings because of the lack of support from the other parent. Forgiveness is important, but so is taking responsibility. It is possible to legally pursue the debt after the children are grown. Too many deadbeat parents are learning that if they just wait long enough the whole thing will go away. And too many custodial parents are facing financial ruin because of it. Therefore, I don't think it's fair to give a one-size-fits-all answer that it's best to forgive. For the letter writer, sure, she's got a good life and lots of other resources. For others, the right answer is to pursue that back support, especially when the other parent has the means to pay and simply refuses to do so.

AlbertAugust 20, 2019

Even if the vaping liquids do not contain nicotine, two factors to consider are: 1) the influences of someone vaping on younger, impressionable acquaintances, and 2) the physical effects of second hand vapor on anyone who is nearby.

AlbertAugust 20, 2019

Isn't the fact that the ex-husband is purposefully being deceitful about his payment of child support in order to obtain his Temple Recommend significant on many levels both in his personal life and in his functioning within the Church?

CCAugust 20, 2019

Has anyone done any research to find out why so many of the millennial generation are so self-centered and rude? It shocks me to see the change for worse in manners and courtesies with so many younger people.

AnnAugust 20, 2019

Let it go. His failures are on him. We all fail - sometimes miserably and grace and mercy is all we have to give to ourselves and to the person who has failed us. If he didn't pay before - odds are he still won't pay/cant pay and then you will have that grief to add to the resentments that still hold you hostage.

Kellie M. BarnhurstAugust 19, 2019

Lynne you have such a gift with your words that often go hand in hand with your wonderful musical talents. I cherish the love & kindness you offer so willingly. These real life experiences help all of us to understand that we can be “the Lords hands” within our everyday lives.

DJAugust 19, 2019

May I just say "Ditto" Christine H. Thank you for your marvelous story and example.

Diane GodboutAugust 19, 2019

alas, many women are against their own children through abuse and abortions..

Perla BAugust 19, 2019

His real name was Jose

Perla BAugust 19, 2019

While I believe everyone has the opportunity to hear, feel and be saved by the gospel Pancho Villa was definitely not a good man. I don't doubt the story and I'm glad he was good to the missionaries but that's because Heavenly Father was protecting them. Also glad they weren't girls as he raped, killed and took any woman he felt like

Lynn CallisterAugust 19, 2019

Lynne, thanks for “making meaning” in such a powerful way. Daring to love is a clarion call for us all

HalAugust 19, 2019

This article made me think of my own interaction with Siri - I typically thank "her" for her help - if nothing else, to see what response I get which usually brings a smile to my face. One thing is certain, I've found that the more grateful I am - to my family, coworkers, neighbors, ward members, and - especially - Heavenly Father, the more consideration / cooperation / blessings I receive in response. I.e. the more gratitude I show, the more people are willing to help me.

Mark W MinerAugust 19, 2019

Lynne, thank you for helping us see that love is at the heart of the matter--every matter of real importance. And thank you for reminding us that as we respond with love--which begins by just showing up--God will truly direct the show, and we will never be wrong.

Christine H (Idaho)August 19, 2019

Oh my heart, Carolyn! You are such an extraordinary woman, inside and out! I adore you!

Martin KurtzAugust 19, 2019

I'm glad to hear this story because just this morning my daughter got involved in a car wreck. All we could do was offer her love and support. I do this because I remember when I got into a car wreck many years ago there was not any love and support for me, all because of fast and prayers from former missionary companion's and a former girl friend wanting to humble me out! They even wanted me excommunicated! I guess their prayers were answered!!

Eileen deMarsAugust 19, 2019

You DUD act in love by hurrying over to help the boys. ! Thanks for a beautiful article of so many people being helpful

Alexander ForsythAugust 19, 2019

Please publish more anecdotes like these two.

kathy bergevinAugust 18, 2019

I agree that not all e-cigarettes contain nicotine, however, one is injesting vapor. A mist. Ligquid into their lungs. The medical field and dental field has reported over and over again that the application of liquid into the lungs over a period of time can become a health hazard to the lungs.

Virginia HallAugust 18, 2019

To me this is the best one of the series. I loved it!

ACHAugust 17, 2019

This happened with my wife and her ex-husband. He owed some $80,000 in back child support when I married her. Bough the state garnished his wages, he would quit the job and begin work elsewhere always trying to stay ahead of the state. We received a small portion of the back support but my wife and I determined for our peace, that we would not pursue him in another court. Though we could have used the money, but at what price to give up our peace and our relationship to the children. So we simply did nothing. We are still nice to him, the kids get to have a peaceful relationship with their father and quite frankly, they know how he is. It hurts but they’ve dealt with it and see their mother a their true hero. Live and let live. Money does not and will not bring you any happiness in these type cases.

MikeAugust 17, 2019

What are your thoughts on coffee flavored ice cream or candies?

Kathy GibbleAugust 17, 2019

Such an inspiring, thought-provoking article! I loved it very much and will refer to it often! Thanks for your devotion in researching and being great examples!

ChuckAugust 17, 2019

I raised three sons with life-threatening asthma (my oldest was hospitalized 19 times before he was 17), and have spent many hours---days, weeks---in hospitals. It's miserably hard on everyone, especially the one directly affected by it. I've also conducted the Lords' program on Addiction and Healing in my stake. I truly wish more young people could understand what violating our Saviors' instructions on obeying the Word of Wisdom by vaping, etc. can do to them. These substances destroy the will to obey commandments and live a good life; they also can lead to other addictive substances. Addicted people are most assuredly not in control of their lives---their addictions are. And despite what someone may think, these things can and do cause addiction all around the world. I've seen it.

CarolAugust 17, 2019

A fun article on a serious subject. I guess females just must be given the "finding gene" but it just doesn't mature until we become mothers.

Coy JonesAugust 16, 2019

Thank You for this lesson. It has caused me to review my life and what zip need to change. I would like more information on the different classes of angels you shared in this podcast. Looking forward to many more of these lessons.

Jerry AndersonAugust 16, 2019

I have been long acquainted with a group of Russian "Old Believers", and am amazed at the remnants of the LDS Temple clothing and the endowment ceremony that they possess. I have become very close friends with one of their Priests, and I am convinced that they are a remnant of the Lost Ten tribes. Wonderful people!

SaraAugust 16, 2019

Scot- what talk is your President Nelson quote from? Love your podcasts!

MJAugust 16, 2019

Interesting story. My grandparents lived in the old Mormon colonies in Chihuahua and Oaxaca Mexico and told nothing but frightening stories of losing homes, persecution and murder by Pancho Villa and his men. There are 2 sides to every story but I would have never guessed this one. I will have to research this more thoroughly.

vickieAugust 16, 2019

pretty much I think we all kind of know this....but....from what I have seen and known not being born into the church....but joining in 1977..that the word of wisdom being broken shouldn't stop you from going to the temple...the only thing that would stop you form going to the temple would be alcohol and smoking cigarettes....because I know others who drink decaf coffee and tea....and some drink sodas that are cafinated...however, I bet there are other things that we take into our bodies that are not good and we need to use the gift of discernment...its best to be safe ...I don't drink coffee or haven't drank it for years when I joined but as I get older I noticed I love the smell of it...and would like to try some once in awhile....but I am holding myself back..because of the word of wisdom...

vickieAugust 16, 2019

i didn't read the entire advice back ...but...I can see how hard it is to FORGIVE...and basically that is what she has to do. I bet that there are people who know the situation better then she thinks. they know the score because he has shown his hand in other ways as well. she feels hurt inside that she gave up so much...but what she needs to do is stop looking back and move forward and FORGIVE HIM...she knows who he is...and so do others...instead...pray for him that somehow he can see what he has done and change himself...and never know one day he may come to her and ask for her forgiveness..he is still her brother...if she can look at it that way...it changes perspectives...wouldn't she want to FORGIVE her brother..

Diane CAugust 16, 2019

Many years ago when my husband was dying of cancer, I had not had time to make bread, which my children ate for breakfast every morning. My unsaid prayer was for bread for my children. That morning, my neighbor, not a member of our church, appeared at my door with a loaf of homemade bread! This was not something she had ever done. it was a testimony to me that Heavenly Father was aware of me and my small needs at this difficult time in my life. Thank you for sharing this story.

JeanAugust 16, 2019

Thank you for this question and answer. It ministered to my soul also. I love your explanation of forgiveness and Christ's part in it.... "When we forgive others, Christ assumes their debt to us." When we forgive, it's between them and Christ and we are no longer in the middle. Love it!

Don HoffmanAugust 16, 2019

We should consider sugar???

Oscar MuñozAugust 16, 2019

In defense of the few ex-husbands in this world, my ex-wife owes me over $70,000 in back child support. As the article alludes, I have no legal recourse since our son in common is now over the age of 18 and the court can no longer enforce its order. Is it fair? Is It right? Where’s the justice? I can forgive, but the forgetting part is not always easy. Why? Because it’s not fair, right, or just. Sure, we use the word “Atonement” and talk of future blessings of living in God’s present, but in the meantime the human weakness of wanting “fair, right, and just” still lingers, and that is normal, we are not perfect. Time, time has been my only friend to heal my heart.

Alexander ForsythAugust 16, 2019

CONTEXT! CONTEXT! CONTEXT! It has to do with LOVE FOR YOUR ENEMIES Matthew 5:43-48. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints needs a paradigm shift on what it means to be "perfect". It is LOVE for those mentioned in those six verses.

DianeAugust 16, 2019

Thank you for reposting this excellent article! I wish it had been around years ago when I was a young wife and a young mom. But, at that time, I probably wouldn't have believed it.

Jim ChadwickAugust 15, 2019

I'd like to know the same about different classes of angels.

JaniceAugust 15, 2019

A few years ago we were living with my mother-in-law in Midvale while building a new home in Idaho Falls. When we would leave for Idaho for a few days at a time, she would water the few plants we had brought with us. I told her she didn't need to water one plant any more because it was dead. A few days later when we called she said, "That plant isn't dead, it's blooming!" I went to check it when we returned and it was a few small silk flowers that had been stuck into the bottom in the dirt that were 'blooming'.

vickieAugust 15, 2019

what is amazing is the TIME LINE....to see what other people were doing at any given time in history even when the Savior was on the earth. I know that we are all children of our Father in heaven so to me why wouldn't the Savior go to all nations after His death. How wonderful this story was to me. thank you

Ena MacDonaldAugust 15, 2019

I was thrilled to read this. I also have wondered about other visits of the Savior to other tribles of Isreal. Thanks so much for sharing this.

Amie MacDonaldAugust 15, 2019

Thank you Kathryn Somers for your comment!

RenaeAugust 15, 2019

As a woman who spent many years in singles wards, may I offer some advice. To the sisters: Do not make this search the center of your life. Be open to good non-LDS men. Avoid at all costs the men who repeatedly date a woman for five or more years and do not marry. They will still be single in their 60's and 70's, thinking their Victoria's Secret model is coming. Brothers: Do not think all the women are chasing you. They are Not! Brush on on conversational topics that interest women. Your motorcycle is not one of them Neither is your ex-wife's problems. Both: Looks and grooming and clothes do matter. Weight control matters. Having a job matters. The women are not just seeking a good priesthood holder. Both want some one they are proud of.

BenAugust 15, 2019

I'm grateful for this clarification. There might be differences from country to country but e-cigarettes CAN contain nicotine. But many do not. Anybody who buys vaping liquids can choose to buy some with or without nicotine. So vaping can be absolutely nicotine free. There are no conclusive studies on whether or not standard vaping liquids do indeed pose health risks. Vaping liquids from reliable sources usually do not contain substances that are known to be harmful if inhaled. But I adhere to official Church policy that says vaping is against the Word of Wisdom. But that does not mean that it is indeed harmful to your body. I think it is important to draw this distinction.

HarrietAugust 15, 2019

I remember sharing my patriarchal blessing with a friend. Her immediate response was that I was not living up to what it said about me. I felt unknown by her and others because I WAS living up to that part of my blessing, but have always taken seriously the commandment not to do my alms before men. I no longer share my blessing. I no longer speak to my former friend. But the Lord knows I am doing my good works. He knows me.

CourtenayAugust 15, 2019

I love what you have shared. Thank you. It's certainly far overlooked in today's society, especially for the unborn. I would encourage returning to God His rightful place in our society, adhering to the Constitution of the United States and elected representatives that keep their oath to the Constitution. Asking the UN to "provide and enforce" God-given rights that have been abused because we are neglecting our God, will not be enough. And, the UN is also very committed to abortion, sterilization and experimentation on 3rd world populations. I'm not holding my breath that they are the answer.

Carol Ann Voisin RadmallAugust 15, 2019

I would like to get a digital copy of my Patriarchal Blessing! It is under my maiden name Carol Ann Voisin.

Thank you for this profound article. It will be a source of strength to many.August 15, 2019

Thank you for this profound article. It will be a source of strength to many.

Marilyn CrandallAugust 15, 2019

This is a wonderful reminder of how my prayer of yearning was answered, when all I had left to ask in prayer, was : I needed a hug, just one, this particular day.. Everytime something good came along, I looked to heaven & asked,"Is this how God gives a hug?" And I whispered each time "thank you" ....Before the end of the day,, I received the very best hug from an old friend who was inspired to come to the temple (not knowing we'd ever see each other again, or knowing we had both moved to this new State) Yes, Heavenly Father knows us & where we are & what we need. Thank you for reminding me of His abundant love .

ChuckAugust 15, 2019

I had a similar experience recently as I was struggling within and finding myself discourage. Was I doing nay good in the world I asked myself. As I arrived at my desk there was a large fruit basket with a card. The card was from 2 women who I once worked with but not any longer. They expressed heart felt appreciation for me and all the little things I do to make the work place better. That was the shot in the arm I needed that day after a humble prayer!

Diane KAugust 15, 2019

Thank you for this beautifully inspired article. It made me feel known!

JaredAugust 15, 2019

Maurine, so beautifully written. Makes me feel like I was back in Israel again hearing one of your sermons. Thank you!!

HalAugust 14, 2019

Thank you for this wonderful insight. I was a child of divorced parents - my junior high and high school years were very difficult for lack of a father. I vowed that I would never divorce and would be the perfect husband and father. I even majored in psychology with an emphasis on marriage and family counseling. Little did I know the role free agency would play and, unfortunately, my own first marriage ended in divorce to the detriment of all involved - especially our children. I'm not sure what I could have done differently (although I'm sure there was something), but I got a second chance with my current marriage and our focus has been teaching our children the blessings of being devoted to each other.

HalAugust 14, 2019

I love articles like this! Like every other member of the church, I made (what I thought were) "sacrifices" to live the gospel. However, like the Apostle Paul, I found that "the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us." (Romans 8:18). In short, the blessings I receive daily by living the gospel far outstrip any "sacrifice" I may have made along the way.

Mark StoddardAugust 14, 2019

Nice to see this republished. I'm perplexed by how frustrating it was for those who subscribe to anti-Mormon websites to deal with my account. They go off into tangents but can't address the central premise: a Russian Orthodox priest and one of the chief leaders of the ROC said what they said in the presence of several people who corroborate my account. No sense debating beyond "is Mark delusional or lying." Sometimes the first. Try never to do the second and the people with me would have called me out. Fact is, they knew the legend. It is part of their religion's lexicon. Is it proof Christ visited the ancient Russian people? Whatever. My proof of the Book of Mormon came from reading it in all its complexities, simplicity, metaphors and amazing spirit. My experience in Russia was fascinating for us and that picture, turned into a beautiful reproduction hangs in our home. If you would like a photograph of the original painting, just email me: [email protected]com No charge. I'll also include the phonograph record cover.

John H. WaitingAugust 14, 2019

Mark, another interesting report on your experiences in Russia. I have always believed that Jesus Christ visited all continents after His resurrection.

K TerkAugust 14, 2019

China did this and they are now having a "Whoops" moment. "We blew it."

Marsha NewmanAugust 14, 2019

This is a beautiful, faith-building painting, showing that Jesus never was an exclusively Jewish figure. His presence was real for the people of this hemisphere and for others around the world.

CubbyAugust 14, 2019

Really enjoy your stories, this one was a delight and brightened my day. I had a boy like that.

AngelsingsAugust 14, 2019

This article ricocheted me back to my college days in the early 1970s. I became a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in 1971 after being born & raised a good Methodist. The LDS Church & Institute by campus was different than anything I had ever experienced. My outgoing personality allowed me to easily make friends. I was happy & comfortable but began noticing some of the girls were standoffish to me. I just assumed they were shy & would warm up, eventually. Wrong ! One of them asked me why all the guys liked & asked me out. She said other girls felt that way, also. I hadn't noticed that happening but, tried to diplomatically answer. I remember telling her my philosophy was to be myself. To paraphrase she said, sure, you're a pretty blonde from Southern California so wouldn't know how I feel but how she felt saddened & concerned me. I didn't want anyone feeling threatened by me. I think college students should not be relegated into students only wards but integrated into family wards; otherwise, there is a meat market effect which is not conducive to dating or life.

Renaissance NerdAugust 14, 2019

I got married for the first time at age 47 and I rarely got a second date for all the single years. I told women I wanted to be friends if it didn’t look like marriage was in our future, that we would both benefit from that, and get to know other people as well in the process that you just don’t meet on your own, giving us a better chance at marrying somebody else. I was told often that they didn’t want to waste time. If it wasn’t going to end in marriage there was no point in dating at all, even in groups with lots of friends. I did finally get married, going in four years now, and I can’t imagine a woman more suited to me than my wife, but it sure was a longer, harder road than it had to be. Your points are Excellent.

Julie RosalesAugust 14, 2019

Interesting story. But i don’t think my Father-in-law would like it Poncho Villa murdered his mother’s first husband by hanging him in front of his mother and sister. Not a great guy

Flora Mae PattersonAugust 14, 2019

I saw a photo on FB of a baptismal font on the backs of 12 oxen. This was from Russia.

Mike BringhurstAugust 14, 2019

This may also be the fulfillment of the scripture in III Nephi 16: 1-3

Steve Hodkin. Manchester UK.August 14, 2019

I love this story. It shows all that makes story telling in America so unique in the world.

Sandra WhteAugust 13, 2019

The comments were excellent....how can we print them too?

TravisAugust 13, 2019

This article sums it up well. It's vitally important for women to show initiative because nothing else communicates desire. There needs to be flexibility in terms of who asks who because people are not born the same. If it was to be that only men could do the pursuing, why do many of us men suffer from low self-esteem, discouragement, Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria or any other thing that would legitimately hold us back? Shouldn't we be immune to that stuff? Any woman who says that only men should pursue is not considering the man's point of view (and yes, empathy is vitally important for any relationship to work). The fact that any woman-initiated relationship has resulted in marriage is proof that it can work.

Sandra WhiteAugust 13, 2019

I have noticed for quite a while now that when I try to get the other comments, they do not show up.....please fix as those comments are important to us as well as the first 2 or 3 shown on the first page. Thank you. Love this article...yes, it is entirely possible that Jesus appeared to them as well as other lands and peoples. We do know that there are more golden plates like from which the Book of Mormon was translated....as at that time that was a common way things were recorded,....

SueAugust 13, 2019

Also read the chapter called "The Grand Inquisitor" in Dostoyevski's "Brother's Karamazov." He quotes a famous poem from the 1870's about Christ visiting Russia, and testifies that he knows it is true. This was written in the 1880's. It's common folklore in Russia. Archeologists there are still finding old caches buried below the permafrost in Siberia with old artifacts. One of these years they will find the Russian version of the Book of Mormon, I'm sure.

Pam RoderAugust 13, 2019

Loved reading this! thank you for sharing.

MichaelAugust 13, 2019

Does anyone remember the SNL skit where Jesus (Jason Sudeikis) visited Tim Tebow and the Denver Broncos and at the very end said "Oh by the way, Mormonism, all true, every single word. Yeah...peace!" Unbeknownst to many, it was absolutely true and actually helped in conversion efforts as the Book of Mormon musical is also doing.

Pamela SandersAugust 13, 2019

There is no doubt in my mind that this can be fact. I have often wondered who the 'other sheep' could have been. Surely there were more 'other sheep' than in the Americas. Perhaps as the last days become more apparent, more indications of who the 'other sheep' may be will come to light. Personally, I find this very exciting.

Jo AnnAugust 13, 2019

I found this article to be very informative and interesting. I wonder how many other places in the world have stories about Christ visiting them after His resurrection.

Michael Shea, MDAugust 13, 2019

Unbelievable!! Finally someone has identified the problem. Unfortunately, it seems that a large segment of the population doesn’t want to hear it. “... when the wicked rule, the people mourn.” Isn’t it the truth?

HalAugust 13, 2019

Thank you for this article. Does not surprise me at all. I pray for the day when addition scriptures are made available to us from Christ's "other sheep."

Beagle Lover in the SouthAugust 13, 2019

Like so many things in the scriptures - we need to study the Lord's symbolism to understand the full impact of what we read. Your article did a wonderful job of explaining the imagery in simple terms! Well done. Compelling and educational read. In response to another female commentator - this main point of this article's terms are to show the role of men & women. The Priesthood is specifically given to men, not women. Women may access its power but it is the responsibility of MEN to wield the priesthood. Women have their OWN area of influence, (family + children) be happy neither gender must do it "all" on their own. Re-visit the temple endowment ceremony to get more clarification. Family Proclamation info is included within the article. If you read this article again about the role of women and importance, it might fall into place better.

Marilyn BabcockAugust 13, 2019

I wish I could post a picture I found., it is a small version of a temple baptismal font with 12 oxen holding up the font. It is located in an old museum in Russia. It is amazing

ZacAugust 13, 2019

I've long believed that there were other Lehi's who were lead off into the wilderness and other people who were visited after Christ's death. Why would the Savior only visit the people in the America's? Why not the people of Asia, India, Australia, and the "Isle's of the Sea"? And how many other "Brothers of Jared" were there whose genealogy was lost when their civilization perished?

Juan ZurcherAugust 13, 2019

If they were part of the other sheep, it means that they are descendants of Israel. Which tribe? Is there any consideration about which tribe they might be from?

Pennylynn MaxwellAugust 13, 2019

The best chuckle I have had in a long time. Margaret you are hilarious! so many ways to spin this story into a great sermon about visualizing and retracing our steps back home to God. Have a great week.

Linda PaulsonAugust 13, 2019

Amazing! Thank you!

Lori HatchAugust 13, 2019

Great story - thanks for sharing. Makes you wonder what other oral histories/""legends the people of the world pass down thru their generations.

Ann WhiteAugust 13, 2019

LOVED IT!! SO TRUE!!

Robin PrestonAugust 13, 2019

Absolutely amazing and delightful! Thank you for your story, I thoroughly enjoyed every morsel!

Justin MAugust 13, 2019

Thank you for sharing this! I think as we more closely embrace one another as brothers and sisters across the globe, more stories like this - sacred, deeply spiritual and cultural - will come to light. And perhaps more...

VickyAugust 13, 2019

Beautiful!

Kathryn RhotenAugust 13, 2019

Where can i see this picture?

SandyAugust 13, 2019

I too would like to know the references regarding principalities and powers as being different classes of angels. Looking forward to your reply

JulieAugust 12, 2019

I had a vision once during a stake leadership meeting where priesthood holders in my immediate, extended and ward family lined the covenant path. I saw them help a friend on that just got out of an abusive relationship and they stood shoulder to shoulder to protect those women and children already on the path. It was a powerful picture. Your article beautifully compliments what I saw.

Larry BethersAugust 12, 2019

I really appreciated this article. I am just finalizing a divorce and it has been the hardest experience in my life this far! Many members were supportive of me but when I moved into a new ward I felt like I had the plague. The first Sunday I attended 2 other families came. They were the traditional family with kids. After the meeting everyone rushed to meet them and I was left within 6 feet of them. It felt horrible. I have always been a person to reach out to others and believe that divorced people need to do their fairshare of introducing me to others. Fast forward 2 months. I finally was embraced by ward members after I gave a talk in Sacrament Meeting and taught a lesson in Elder's Quorum. To eveyone out there, please, please don't leave a divorced person unwelcomed at church, or any person that comes to church that you don't know. It is so very painful to feel unwelcomed and worse, not wanted. Only my strong testimony and a loving bishop kept me moving forward.

Sailor GirlAugust 12, 2019

I enjoyed this very much. Thank you for getting it out there. We need all the help we can get these days.

Jorge HernandezAugust 12, 2019

Very helpful insight to gain knowledge to be brave warriors with the power of God and be worthy to bear the Holy Priesthood to defend our eternal companions and our children against the enemy. Thank you for sharing this article.

Marsha NewmanAugust 12, 2019

I am grateful to Larry for his article - just as timely today as in 2004 when he first wrote it. I have long believed that the true, revealing mark of a "civilized nation" is how they treat their women - how they educate them, honor them, protect them, and nurture girls from babyhood to womanhood. Those religions and ideologies which do not do elevate womanhood are just a relic of the past when women were only seen as a gratification for a man's sexual desires and a weaker being to be exploited. This is midieval thinking. Jesus Christ the Son of our Eternal Father and God taught us how to value women. His approach was kind, tender, loving, caring, and resulting eventually in exalting. Plainly He knew that women are the perpetuators of the human race, and the teachers of the most enabling God-like traits. It is commonly said in American history books that the West was not settled until the women came. Hunters and trappers are great and necessary, but true civilization rests on the shoulders of women. I sincerely appreciate the women athletes, soldiers, and adventurers. (My own mother was enrolled in the Women's Naval Reserves in World War II.) However, in light of the unique cultural calling of women to bear and teach the future generation, I feel the highest calling in this world is to be a woman and a mother. We have neglected to teach the importance of that calling to our upcoming generation of girls. I suggest we reverse course, and instead of applauding the "Me" attitude, we teach and revere the "I am the Future" attitude among our girls.

Alfred VienneauAugust 12, 2019

This is so true. Thank you for sharing such great remarks on Satan's Attack on Women. It helps understand and put things in right perspective. It completes the picture of why Satan attacked Eve alone in the garden of Eden rather than Adam or both of them together. .

TaddAugust 12, 2019

Great insight's! I have often wondered why women have been so persecuted throughout history and this makes a good scriptural argument as to why Satan does it and how Christ and the Priesthood step in to play their role's to defeat Satan. My one disagreement is that I do think it is healthy for couples to have some separate interests and not always have to be together.

David BellAugust 12, 2019

Very good and very true article. Thank you.

Pepe quinteroAugust 12, 2019

I did not know a ranger candidate had to be airborne qualified to partake of ranger training. The 173 airborne brigade is remembered as being one of the elite , well decorated units in the combat of arms units in the army. As a former special forces Sargent, I welcome you my dear sister in the gospel ( I being a convert ) and member of a unique unit in the us army. I hope to meet you someday... all the way, Geronimo

Andy C.August 12, 2019

"We Killed God, Family, And Community...." From the title, I thought the article was about our public schools and colleges!

Kathryn SomersAugust 12, 2019

This is a good article, but the understanding of priesthood power in it is dated. In recent years, the First Presidency, Quorum of the Twelve, and general auxiliary leaders have striven to help us all understand that not only men but also endowed women are given the power of the priesthood. Not priesthood office or ordination, but the power of the priesthood. Women can use this power to call upon the powers of heaven in behalf of themselves and their families. This is a vital doctrine that is missing from what is being taught in this article.

Mike BringhurstAugust 12, 2019

How do you get such inspired insights? Thank you for inspiring me to step up my efforts to lead and protect my wife and family through the proper use of my Priesthood.

Valerie LeBaronAugust 12, 2019

Great lesson! However, I have never heard or been taught that principalities and powers were different classes of angels. Do you have a reference for that you could share? Many thanks!

Susan CliffordAugust 12, 2019

Thank you for this article. It all made so much sense to me. I loved it .

ChuckAugust 11, 2019

Jesus Christ fulfilled His responsibility to teach truth, and atone for the sins of humanity. Any responsibility for bringing the Great Apostasy into effect rests with others alive at that time, for not more fully accepting what He taught. Our Savior accomplished His responsibilities, and set the stage for marvelous things being done today by His church. He did not fail.

Stephen L. A. RoweAugust 11, 2019

A wonderful depiction and glimpse of life beyond the veil. I have shared this with friends and family who have lost a loved one, and it brings them peace. Mahalo for this inspiring story.

JasonAugust 11, 2019

I think rephrasing a lot of this as parental responsibilities would be better. The desired results would be the same. The proliferation of "Rights” these days has become a tool to project a lot of governmental control. "Rights" have become abused in essence.

J.C.August 11, 2019

A great story about repentence and leaving ultimate judgement to the Savior. There should be records of the First Presidency letter mentioned in the article. Not doubting the author, but as a historian, its instinct in to want concurrent sources in addition to oral histories. It would be great to attach to the Family Search record as well.

LoriAugust 10, 2019

Her past is her business as is his, and not many would bring up an embarrassing past situation until they were sure they were in a secure relationship which takes time. This man is 66 years old, not a kid. I am sure he hasn't been perfect either. How sad that he wants to dwell on the negative and has made it a cross to bear. They both wanted a safe and loving partner and he is going to ruin it with his judgmental attitude. Her past had nothing to do with him.

LoriAugust 10, 2019

And meanwhile in another family, the sons never talk to their parents or have anything to do with them because they are too prepared to be on their own and their wife wants everything to be about her family. It is hard to have a balanced life where you are still family and not ignored or too involved after the kids are grown.

Amanda RoweAugust 10, 2019

I work as a Family Support Worker in Essex England, every day I see in action the exact things you describe here. I try to support families through the principals I have grown up with as a member of the church as I know they are divine principals and that if lived by would literally Change the World. Thank you for writing your thoughts in such a clear, insightive and positive way. You have voiced everything I know to be true.

Irazema Lozano DavisAugust 9, 2019

My grandfather at 17yrs old rode with Pancho Villa, he told us that Pancho Villa was a great man and care for his people wanted a better life for them. I enjoyed reading the story, I had heard part of story. It’s interesting reading the comments it looks a lot of Pancho Villas soldiers were baptized! My grandfather also accepted the gospel and we are greatly blessed we are 5 and 4 generations in the. True Church and have served humbly.

vjAugust 9, 2019

Excellent article!

Wayne KurtzAugust 9, 2019

This is truly a helpful article. I had never heard the quote.... “Advice is what you ask for when you already know the right answer but you don’t like it.” My new favorite quote... This made me laugh out loud and say ‘This is the meaning of life’... Thank for your work.. I just found you today...

MaryannAugust 9, 2019

This story sounds very suspicious. Someone who has a green thumb and works often with plants does NOT mistake a plastic plant for a real one. For one thing, she would have been checking the soil to test for moisture. I'm sure the person who shared this believed it to be true, but it sounds like a fake story to me.

MaryannAugust 9, 2019

Geoff really gave some great advice here, especially the counsel to the parents to back off and allow this couple to work this out together on their own. I hope the parents will take his checklist seriously as to how they can do this. Being too supportive will only encourage the daughter to lean on them instead of her husband.

MaryannAugust 9, 2019

The reason you "feel completely abandoned by him" is because you have been! Time to stop calling him and to accept the fact that you cannot save this marriage alone. The most important point made in this article is that marriage is a two way comittment. You cannot heal this marriage without his support. If he doesn't contact you, I would end the marriage and start looking for a man who is ready to truly commit himself to you.

PatAugust 9, 2019

This is a simple and wonderful explanation of our belief of the Bible. I will surely use its words and sentiments in my conducting conversations with others. Thank you for printing this.

MICHAEL EDWARDSAugust 9, 2019

The only thing I can think to say is "WOW" . That marriage is doomed.

Anne Hinton PrattAugust 9, 2019

The source for the article came from Bert Whetten himself. My husband is his grandson and heard the story many times and recorded it. This is a special story to the family. Also a note: Pancho Villa was not elected President, but was considered president because he took over the government. He sat in the presidential chair ( there is a famous picture of this)but after one day he didn't feel qualified and gave up the power.

michelAugust 9, 2019

Merci 1000 fois pour votre témoignage ,votre exemple et la mise en pratique de l'évangile qui vous donne tant d'enthousiasme... BLESS YOU.

Alexander ForsythAugust 9, 2019

What happened to the phrase: "As far as it is accurately translated!" It was not Paul that established the Principle: "At the mouth of two, or three, witnesses." This Rule came from the Old Testament.

Bruce LloydAugust 8, 2019

My grandfather served under General Pershing and they were chasing Pancho Villa at the end of WWI.

MichaelAugust 8, 2019

The fact that your wife went to such measures to conceal this unsavory relationship demonstrates that she feels extreme remorse and is taking it very seriously. I would be more concerned if she was more open about it, which might indicate she did not take it that seriously. Just a little bump in the past of no consequence. At your age you both don't have time to wallow in this. Everything else seems good. I say embrace the future and be grateful to be with each other every day. Lift each other up. Time flies.

Lori JonesAugust 8, 2019

Thank you for this insightful, real interview. I felt like I was let in on some personal thoughts and feelings as well as facts about the movie and it's making. I loved the movie too!

raj singh sidhuAugust 8, 2019

very good story

Robyn BarnettAugust 8, 2019

How can I organise this for New Zealand. We 2ould love to see the mivie to.

Marsha BowlerAugust 7, 2019

My grandfather fought against Pancho Villa. That same grandfather ended up being baptized when he was 96 years old. It is never too late to accept the gospel, whether in this life or the next.

Tora Sue Crapo KniselyAugust 7, 2019

Very exciting! Servi mina misao em brasil, Brasilia. Estsava la janeiro 1986 ate' fim de abril 1987. It is incredible that there are currently 7 shortly 8 and then before long 9 Missions in Brazil. I have a great love for the people and country.

Bryan R IsaacsonAugust 7, 2019

Thanks for writing this. My grandmother Myrtle Whiting Isaacson told me a lot about him before she died.

A M PiliAugust 7, 2019

Upwards of twenty women claimed to be his widow. He was married to multiple wives at the same time. He was apparently pretty hot stuff in his day!

HalAugust 7, 2019

This article voices a concern I have had for a very long time. We are being forced to shun truth in favor of "acceptance." A recent court case in Canada involved a female who ran a waxing service exclusively for women who was being sued by a man who identified as a woman wanting her to perform her services even though he/she still had all the male characteristics. The poor woman is being forced to either shut down her business or perform her service on a man who claims to be a woman. How does this protect the women in our society? Isn't this forced sexual abuse in the guise of "acceptance" of a person's "preferred" gender? Where does it end?

HalAugust 7, 2019

Thank you for this article! I don't know how many times I have encountered "ravening wolves" both within the church and without. Some are bold and do not hide their intent, but there are many more who are very cunning and have succeeded in luring several of my loved ones (friends and family) ever so carefully away from the sheep-fold and into their lairs.

Alisi FiliagaAugust 7, 2019

AWW Wanda had good intension and her main goal was to assist and serve. Thank you Wanda, your pure love of service has not gone in vain. I want to be like you and serve without leting many know. You are awesome

Jenny SvendsenAugust 7, 2019

I don't know what took me so long to listen to your podcast, Romans 1-6, that is the first one I've listened to. First of all, the beautiful music that brought such peace to my soul (should have know it was from Paul Cardall), and then your beautiful words and explanations helped me understand that yes, we are saved by Grace, and therefore we need to do and be the best we can, to become one with Christ. Thank you just doesn't seem enough, may God's choicest blessings be yours!

Joni HiltonAugust 7, 2019

Bravo-- what a great podcast! You've really captured the essence of gospel living: Dedication to Christ, courage, boldness, humility, genuine change, how we really get home again. This should be heard or read by everyone, everywhere.

Jenny SvendsenAugust 7, 2019

What a wonderful miracle! Heavenly Father watches over all, and paves the way! Thank you so much for sharing this!

Dave MyersAugust 7, 2019

Thank you. That's a great story that I had never heard, and it speaks to the issue of redemption that we seem to so easily deny historical figures. I'd be grateful if you could provide your sources. Thank you.

Jan KingAugust 7, 2019

Thank you so much for this article! It is great to have this previously unknown piece of history!

S RichardsonAugust 7, 2019

Great story. The author should post this, citing the original source(s), on Pancho Villa's Memories page at familysearch.org. His FS ID number appears to be LB9H-PK4. Villa had other LDS friends, including an Elmer Wood Johnson of Colonia Diaz, who life Villa saved. That story is also posted there.

HelenAugust 7, 2019

A friend and former Visiting Teaching companion said her grandmother ride with Pancho Villa so apparently others in his family sought the Gospel, too!

CarolAugust 7, 2019

I feel for Wanda because I've done stuff like that myself. So glad she kept using her green thumb on the real outdoor plants!

anonymousAugust 7, 2019

We had a similar situation in our ancestry but when we did John's work, it was the most spiritual experience and we knew he had accepted the work of the Lord and was sealed to his grateful family for time and all eternity

Jane PAugust 7, 2019

Cool story! I probably don’t see where they’re listed on the page since I’m on the mobile version, but do you have any sources for someone to verify it and learn more?

DJAugust 7, 2019

Wonderful! God moves in mysterious ways- how special to be a part of that!

ImoAugust 7, 2019

I know now why you are so respectful of others even those below your station in life. I watched you keenly and closely at SVU and was touched by your humanity. Respect, brother.

SherrineAugust 7, 2019

Thanks for this. What a touching story. I have a great uncle who rode with Pancho Villa back in the day, and I believe his temple work has also been done, so this story touches close to home.

karell BinghamAugust 7, 2019

Wow, that is a great story. I will tell it to many people. I knew none of this! Thank you! Karell

Christine Jenkins HavensAugust 7, 2019

My grandmother, Lillian Cluff, was a young girl in the Colonies during Pancho's reign. The story she told of Pancho and his men was of the Latter-day Saints being driven out of Mexico, fearing for their lives as Pancho''s men took over their homes, food and livestock. I always understood him to be a bad man. It is interesting to hear "the rest of the story". Thank you.

DianeAugust 7, 2019

What an absolutely COOL story! The Gospel is not only TRUE, but it is for everyone, and it can change lives!

GeraldAugust 7, 2019

Wow! What a wonderful article.

Susan CarrollAugust 7, 2019

Fascinay, that after his Temple work was done, his historical image changed from despicable villain, to revolutionary hero!

Laurel Bishop NielsenAugust 6, 2019

Such a beautiful story. Makes me think of my ancestors that my children don’t know about. This has encouraged me to start writing down my memories

Marsha NewmanAugust 6, 2019

Thank you for this article. We can't tire in the fight to protect our children; they are our future and our thanks to a Heavenly Father for the priceless gift of life! If only we could teach our girls and women to understand the great privilege and responsibility they have in carrying forward humanity!

HalAugust 6, 2019

My wife and I saw this movie last weekend. Entertaining, but Hobbs & Shaw is so far over the top that it hits low-earth orbit. In contrast,we liked the more real feeling of The Fighting Preacher and The Other Side of Heaven better than Hobbs & Shaw, Spiderman, or even The Lion King. Maybe our tastes have changed, but we feel the recent releases of movies geared toward members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have been surprisingly refreshing when compared to the non-stop, pounding action of the Hollywood films.

Jared H.August 6, 2019

Thanks for the article. "However, to call a he a she, or vice versa, is a lie that some people just can’t perpetuate. " This has exactly been a major concern for me while in gov't service and factor in my decision to leave. I felt exactly as you described -- I would forced to lie in the name of political correctness. I feel we are increasing hemmed into a place where we are required to think and act a certain way, contrary to our natural rights and religion, yet it seems very little notice is taken of these 'flaxen cords' about our necks until it will be too late. The free ground to side step these issues is shrinking unless there is some form of "containment" (think Cold War) of the authority such ideas have over our lives. Isn't that worth struggling for? It is also disturbing that there seems so much willingness to (irrevocably) yield on principles in the name of peace-making. How is it that a real right, such as property rights (owners of housing and employment), are subject to unjust laws enforcing fabricated "equality" rights? Upon what grounds? What? Will we soon be told our purchases and other similarly voluntary engagements in society must also reflect that day's version of 'diversity' and 'equality'? Um, no. ...As was stated, there is no 'right' to 'validation'.

SamuelAugust 6, 2019

I had sex as a teenager, can I repent and still marry my partner, because I still love her

DeNile williamsAugust 6, 2019

I love his writings. Please continue publishing them from time to time. Thank you for this great media of truth - Meridian Magazine. I look for it in my e-mail daily!

DeNile williamsAugust 6, 2019

This article is so interesting and timely. I am going to print this out and review it often to help myself with over coming that evil one.

Jane Ann AndersonAugust 6, 2019

this story brought tears to my eyes but joy to my heart. This little one's life then brought life to other relatives who had gone on. I also have ancestors who I should write about so that my children will know them. Thank you for such a wonderful story and memory of ancestor discovery.

Ann BurrAugust 6, 2019

Sorry to hear of his passing. I will miss his new incites into the gospel my condolences to the family.

Lorraine QAugust 6, 2019

Oh great! Beginning the day with tears all over my face, but an equal overflow of love in my heart. Thank you for this touching story and important reminder.

Nihla W. JuddAugust 5, 2019

Go see The Fighting Preacher and watch what the miracle peace maker, Rebecca Bean, does with her pies.

J&W HintzeAugust 5, 2019

No. And glad to know we're not alone. Anxiously awaiting.

Sheri kowAugust 5, 2019

Have there been any talks on vaccines? Have an awful decision in my family due to a daughter choosing not to, and a daughter-in-law with crohn’s

LeahAugust 5, 2019

Lupine, thank you so much for your comments. I needed to hear it. I've gotten to the point of wanting to be active in church, but dreading attendance. I've experienced an outbreak of "awful comments" from LDS ladies in the past few years. It has been shocking! Not over a specific "lack" or event, just ME, who I am, how I talk. (??) I'm unsure. For example, one woman said, "When I saw you here, I thought 'I dont know how much (my name) I could take'!" I really want to go back to church and try again, especially since I moved and am in a new stake. I have a hard time staying past Sacrament. I prayed about it all and found this in 2 Peter 2:12 "...(they) speak evil of the things they understand not..." And your comments, Lupine, made me think I'm not alone. Thank you.

Kim HulbertAugust 5, 2019

Excellent article. Thank you for your research. Your justification and sanctification meanings are spot on and so insightful. So much food for thought. Can't wait for your next contribution.

Marlund HaleAugust 5, 2019

It's a wonder their feet are even touching the ground with that load-wheel placement!

Scott QuinneyAugust 5, 2019

As always Professer smith it spot on. Seek peace seek understanding.

Margaret VanNoyAugust 5, 2019

I know Steve! He is my cousin.I read Meridian all of the time. I was excited when I saw his name as a writer! This is the first time I have heard this story. I was not surprised because this the way Steve is. I was born with debilitating birth defects. He and another cousin,Judd King, have always been accepting, loving,caring and protective They are my only family in Utah. Whenever I need them they drop what they are doing and help. They give me blessings whenever I am sick or overwrought. I am blessed because of them.

cindyAugust 5, 2019

Two words in your testimony in your last paragraph stick out for me ... "I'll continue..." I think your Robyn is cheering you on from the other side as you "continue" . May you know that "Peace that passes all understanding."

Laurie C.August 5, 2019

Thank you for this timely and much-needed article. I appreciate this reminder that kindness, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, love, and a willingness to understand others can make all the difference.

Connie JensenAugust 5, 2019

I enjoy these podcasts so much Is there a way possible to download these so I can save them onto my flashdrive?

ELISABETH CONESAAugust 5, 2019

Thank you ever so much for your podcast . I'teaching the new testament at Porte des Alpes ward in Lyon France and even if I won't teach on the 11th of august Thanks to your podcast I can understand Paul's letter to Romans better and it will help me through all the week .I'm looking forward to next week podcast Elisabeth Conesa

Ken McGowanAugust 4, 2019

What a great story ! There are many stories such as this that provides evidence of the Lord’s involvement in our individual lives. When my wife and I served a mission in England 5 years ago our mission president visiting our assigned ward told the story of two missionaries then serving: Both had gone to visit an inactive sister who had not entered church for several decades. After allowing them into her home she immediately told them never to return and to tell their bishop to not send anyone again. Just as they were leaving one of the. Missionaries asked if they could sing a hymn before leaving. She reluctantly said yes. The following Sunday she came to church. Apparently - and not known by the elders - the hymn they sang was her favorite and, by happenstance, the hymn sung in church that Sunday was the same hymn. No one can ever tell me that the Lord is not in the details - the same One who notices the fall of a sparrow. What a testimony builder !

VivianaAugust 4, 2019

We listen to you every week...I think it's been wonderful for us to listen to the lesson and read it after...you are great...We feel your sweet spirit and I've been sharing it with as many people that I could......Viviana...please keep doing this....thanks so much

Mark MathesonAugust 4, 2019

No other comments here?! That is so sad. The Proctors have given us some great material to ponder and shared with us several personal stories from their lives. We should be having a vigorous discussion based on what they said. I am using several of their points in my GD lesson today. Thank you Proctors for this podcast and transcription. May God keep your writings and insights going forth to the world for years to come.

Pamela RoderAugust 4, 2019

Thank you Daniel for sharing this. As always, your wit and intelligence shines through in staying ever steadfast against the mockers.

Karen S WrightAugust 4, 2019

Thank you.

Kenneth StevensAugust 4, 2019

British Methodist scholar Margaret Barker, on page 241 of The Great High Priest (T & T Clark, 2003), refers to a mother named "the 'almah" who would bear a son to be called Immanuel. She wrote "Literally 'almah means 'the hidden one..." Consider that Alma, who had fled from the servants of king Noah "hid in a place which was called Mormon." Book of Mormon, Mosiah chapter 18. In that situation, he was "a hidden one".

LyndonAugust 3, 2019

We sung a powerful rendition of this song in General Priesthood session in the Conference Center for the October 1915 General Conference. It is an all male version. So yes, it has been sung in General Conference. https://youtu.be/rzn0ptcWndA

Oscar Muñoz JrAugust 3, 2019

I agree with Dean A Davis. I would never use this video with a co-worker, friend or family member as a missionary tool. The idea should be sweet and short to the point: Where we came from, why we’re here , where we are going. Not for nothing, but using a paper and pencil, I have sketched out the plan of salvation many times over the years in an easier to understand fashion than the video. Even as a missionary I used to use “toy” cut-outs of spirit bodies, flesh bodies, earth, resurrection, etc to teach the plan of salvation that presented the idea in a more personal way. Sometimes I think in the name of progress, like newer fonts and designs, digitizing like Brother Davis says isn’t always effective. Just saying...

Marsha NewmanAugust 3, 2019

This is a great article and most families need it. Thank you!

Lawrence NielsenAugust 3, 2019

There are problems with the following statement: Ether 3 contains the prayer of the Brother of Jared in which he asks the Lord to help him provide light inside their barges so that his people will not have to cross the oceans in darkness. The first verse of this prayer is remarkably similar to Jonah 2, and this verse may have been modeled after the Psalm contained in the chapter. The Brother of Jared's pray was said long before Jonah prayer was written. Jonah's account was written after The Brother of Jared left The Old World. How could there "modeling after" by either party?

AyseAugust 3, 2019

I love your articles, they always hit the right nerve and give food for thought or peace and reassurance when needed. Thank you for putting into clear , sweet often humorous language the way God would have us be. You are one of my heroes for telling things as they are and how they would be better when we follow Christ. Xo

MiaAugust 3, 2019

Thanks for these wonderful insights. I am a sundays school teacher and I could say sometimes it is really tough, but whenever I read the insights of others, it helps me so much.

FrancisAugust 3, 2019

I wish someone would acknowledge the anger and betrayal he feels. I wish someone would have the ability to slip into this guy's shoes and feel the dark thoughts that will creep into his head at random times both day and night. (and for years to come) I wish someone could actually help him and not give disconnected advice that they themselves are safe and secure from this type of problem. I wish someone could acknowledge the lonely path he is on. If I could talk to him I would tell him... Take a deep breath this is going to hurt for a long time. Forgive on a daily basis. Carry this burden the best you can. Try not to lash out at her and especially yourself. Focus on the Savior and pray when those demons show up. In all reality you are the knight in shining armor who has saved a maiden in destress. Be the best Knight possible.

vickieAugust 2, 2019

I feel this man will never be comfortable unless he confronts his wife. he needs to do that with love. he needs to admit that he feels slighted that she didn't tell him up front. and it does matter whether she was caught in not telling him or she came forward with the info because she wanted him to know everything about her because she needs to feel safe and secure in his love. if these things are her reasoning then she is safe. but we don't know her reasoning for coming forward. people are different. her need could be a good one or not a good need. so I believe he does need to know more. and of course having an std would be awful. so I do not believe in secrets.

vickieAugust 2, 2019

I felt very lucky I never had the post partum depression. however its odd because I have a history of major depression and anxiety disorder..but not during or after having a baby. I have known women who were depressed the entire pregnancy and thought how sad that was. when she had that baby it lifted...it was the opposite of what usually might happen. I have also known women who had babies and went through really bad postpartum. I also knew of a woman who continued for several years having post partum and she was treated and got well. we are all different. having a baby changes lives ..it also changes the marriage situation. I think that how we feel depends on many factors....environment, hereditary, and just the body making changes can do that which is normal. I didn't know that women were ever asked about if they felt depressed. it must be a new thing because when I had my babies no one actually cared about it. im glad that its recognized now and help is available.

SamAugust 2, 2019

Maybe you should be grateful that this "old flame" was not smart enough to hang on to the treasure that you married. You are the prize.

Sue MAugust 2, 2019

What a great article! Having been through this six times, from my perspective, you described the 4th trimester quite accurately. I knlow it is different for each person, but this author really expressed a candid view of the many feelings that can arise during this wobbly time. Bless you for sharing those feelings with us. This may even help some daddy's get the picture! If ever you need their support, it is now.

Ana BlakeAugust 2, 2019

About twenty four years ago I had my first baby and so much of what you say in this article fits with how I felt then! It is SUCH a learning and growing and humbling experience to be a mother! After our first, I went on to have ten more wonderful children who have given me great joy and tremendous stretching experiences. My youngest is three now and sometimes I stop and wonder where all the time went? It goes slow and fast. You said “I’m starting to think motherhood might just always be an ongoing identity crisis where you’re constantly contending with how to do it all and what to let go of and who you are in the midst of it.” Yep. You nailed it.

Susan RoylanceAugust 2, 2019

Thank you for sharing your tender feelings.

Haze Kompelien, RNAugust 2, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this message. As a Labor & Delivery nurse I've often heard patient's express fear of being strong enough to go through labor. I always think "Sister, wait until you see how strong you are going to have to be to be a mother!" The fourth trimester with all of its challenges and changes is so often overlooked.

MaryannAugust 2, 2019

When we feel someone has "let us down," we can ask ourselves: "Have I ever let someone down?" If we are honest, the answer will be yes. Brings everything into perspective!

MaryannAugust 2, 2019

The article does not indicate if this woman previously went to church leaders and confessed her sin. If she did, I do not see why she would be under any obligation to tell her new husband.This happened before they met, and telling him now has only brought him heartache.

Maryann TaylorAugust 2, 2019

Dear Brother and Sister Proctor--You are helping me so much in teaching my gospel doctrine class. Thank you!!! I appreciate you, your testimonies, your insight, your time, and your willingness to share. It is a great blessing to me.

Dave HallAugust 2, 2019

What does the use of the name in 19th century America have to do with the language of the Nephites around 90 BC? Evangel's original complaint makes no sense. The whole answer is in Hugh Nibley's statement referenced in the article, "Alma is in fact an anciently attested Semitic masculine personal name." All this discussion about how the name was used in Joseph Smith's time, in my opinion, is a distraction.

Marti ScottAugust 2, 2019

Am I the only one who hasn't gotten the August Ensign yet?

Dave HallAugust 2, 2019

I would add one question to ask this man, and that is, did she share this information to you about this relationship voluntarily, or was she forced to admit it? If it was something like, "Honey, I have been bothered about this that I never told you . . ." I would think you need to have no other worries about her. To me, that shows character and true repentance. But if she was discovered and confronted about it, that's an entirely different matter, and I would worry about what else I might discover that she has concealed.

Michael Shea, MDAugust 2, 2019

What a fabulous reality check, told with love and humor and pathos mixed just right. As you go through more turning points in your life, keep a journal, write a book, tell the others what’s to be expected. Thanks for the article. And that’s a good baby you have there. Congratulations!

Dean A. DavisAugust 2, 2019

The art / graphics accompanying these articles is distracting to the message. Perhaps it's just because I'm older and more used to realistic type illustrations accompanying church produced articles. I rejoice for and celebrate some of the newer artists offering there visions and interpretations of scriptural and church history themes and characters but any of the digital, stick figure surrealistic type illustrations in church magazines or other church related publications dampers the message for me and makes it hard to relate to the purpose of the accompanying message.

VardellAugust 2, 2019

Great article! And thank you for including interpretation from great non LDS scholars like John MacArthur. His explanation of justification and sanctification is spot on. Paul gives us a great discourse of the doctrines of salvation, but the Book of Mormon gives us examples. The application of justification and sanctification is perfectly illustrated in the accounts of Alma and the people of King Benjamin. (And also Enos, Lamoni's father, the Lamanites in Helaman 5) Paul has explained that we are justified by our faith, not works. See how perfectly this is illustrated in the story of Alma. He was a wicked man, yet when confronted by an angel he suffered a painful repentance. Alma then merely thinks of Christ and mentally prays, "Jesus thou son of God, have mercy on me." (Alma 36:18) From this simple act of faith Alma is justified (born again, forgiven, changed to a state of righteousness) (Mosiah 27:24) The people of King Benjamin experience the exact same thing. Had Alma done years of good deeds and good works? No! So these are text book illustrations of justification and like Paul says, "therefore we conclude that a man is justified by faith without the deeds of the law." Good works do not earn salvation, but they will always follow one who is forgiven and changed by Christ.

DavidDAugust 2, 2019

Danged if you do, danged if you don't. I suppose the correct characterization is that (a) if "Alma" was known to be a man's name in Joseph Smith's time, then his work cannot be mocked for its use of the name; but (b) if it was not so known, then the use of the name in the work lends credibility to the work. Because of the importance of faith in our religion, I don't think that our Heavenly Father will ever allow the Book of Mormon to be incontrovertibly proved -- but it's sure fun watching the work pass the tests of both intelligent critics and biased scoffers.

Linda WAugust 2, 2019

It's good to be reminded of how it "really is" for a new mother -- how it is the best of times and the worst of times. It is also good to be reminded that we can all step up and do some little thing for someone else that will help ease their load and brighten their day. And don't we all need that! Congratulations, new momma! You're getting it right!

etAugust 2, 2019

I think it would add more validly if no men in Joseph's time were named Alma and that it was only in the Americas of the Book of Mormon times! It would also be cool to find the name in American Indian history before the Book of Mormon.

Douglas BagleyAugust 2, 2019

Excellent advice given here. If I could add 2 thoughts, they would be: 1. You married a loving person. Each of us wishes to be loved and have our love be the "right" love: lasting, faithful, trustworthy, honest, not hurtful, and sincere. Hey, she tried what she thought was the right thing in her past. Nothing wrong with trying. 2. When you courted her, you loved the person she is now. All of her prior relationships and experiences made her into the woman you love. If you could do it over again, and you knew about this particular relationship, would you marry her? or would you rather be alone. A good marriage is based on the now and planning future actions together to make her happier. Such a continuum is what makes marriages good. Read 1 Corinthians 10:13-14. FLEE IDOLATRY (substitute evil for idotatry). That includes thinking of the past which cannot be changed. But her past made her into the woman you love. Adore her for who she is. She knows her mistakes, be grateful she doesn't bring up yours. We all have them. But if you focus on the Savior's love and the atonement, shower her with all the best you can. Don't focus on the rearview mirror; focus on looking out the windshield and what's ahead for both of you. Best of luck to you.

Kathy EnsignAugust 1, 2019

Thank you! I copied many excerpts from this outstanding article into my journal tonight. Everything Diana Webb had writen and the fabulous resources she quoted gave me much to ponder and treasure, especially about justification and sanctification and the covenant nature of grace. I also was enriched by her exploration of the ancient Greek and Hebrew words involved in her research for Romans 1-6, especially "charis".

Melanie ThompsonAugust 1, 2019

My husband and I served a humanitarian mission in Cape Verde 4 years ago. The church is still growing at an unbelievable rate. We feel it was a great blessing for us that we were able to serve those wonderful people!

John T.August 1, 2019

Very helpful and insightful. Thank you.

Scott DawesomeAugust 1, 2019

You are an amazing example. I hope to meet you some day...

Don CottamAugust 1, 2019

Was it a Texaco station you cashed your check at? my father-in-law owned one of the two stations in Lovelock back then and it was a Texaco on the north end of town

Carol AnnAugust 1, 2019

Thanks for these ideas! We are enjoying writing our life stories right now. It can be overwhelming at times. One of the things that has helped me was creating a Timeline. I put personal events on the left, family/other events on the right, and dropped the years down the middle. I created it on Windows Publisher, and it is an incredible tool to keep things organized. Each page is a decade of my life! I've had to tweak it to get the correct dates for everyone. We have a large family with six children all grown now. I entered all family's births, baptisms, graduations, missions, weddings, Grandchildren's births, our employment and moves, Church callings, travels, etc. It's a treasure! I just wanted to share this really fun idea! Then, write memories in your life story from the timeline! I am placing the Timeline at the beginning of my life story. Adding photos on other pages is also very important for a meaningful life history. And, always remember to put names, dates, place, and a little short description to go with them. A scrapbook with photos and no notations is practically useless for a life story.

SPBAugust 1, 2019

My father was on a trip once, driving his Toyota Camry. He pulled off at a rest area and another couple was there with a Toyota Camry. They were looking everywhere for their car key -they had gotten out and been moving around and lost it somewhere. My dad had a feeling to try his key and it actually worked - their car started! He had an extra key so let them keep one and off they went.

Jen OberdorfAugust 1, 2019

You are an amazing man Steve!

Ron McMillinAugust 1, 2019

Great story, beautiful message. Enjoyed it very much.

JW ScottAugust 1, 2019

Sometimes we don’t even know the name of our friends. They wish us well, they pray for us, they give thanks for us, but we never know them save ‘the moment in time.”

Oscar Muñoz JrAugust 1, 2019

For me, writing a journal is very therapeutic. It allows me to “drain” so to speak all of the emotions, thoughts, and feelings that I might be experiencing on a daily basis. It is a personal form of expression, that allows me to better myself in thought and indeed. I started writing a journal back in the 1980s after I was baptized. I remember reading once that President Kimball said, just paraphrasing, that we should write and not hide any of our feelings as we journalize . Joseph F Smith also taught that we should not journalize from memory. I have often wondered who will read my journals? The generational gaps that exists, especially in the modern-day era of baby boomers, millennials, generation XYZ, all points to the hearts of the children turning to the fathers, at least I would hope in my own lifetime, haha. I have written 22 journals, 2 1/2 Book of Mormon journals, and have over six photo albums. “Nothing is ever wasted,“ as the missionaries say, and all I know is that for myself journalizing my life and my experiences have drawn me closer to the Savior Jesus Christ.

Randy A. MitchellJuly 31, 2019

Nice job on this article! I am not LDS but Messianic. I want you to know that the Sabbath was never changed to Sunday except by the Anti-Semitic Roman Catholic Church! The KJV reinforces this when in the Gospels and Acts they translate the Greek word Shabbat Shabbaton as the first day of the week. Shabbat Shabbaton was the cessation of the Shabbat when believers would gather for the Havdalah ritual. You may also want to know that when YHWH gave the Shabbat the Aleph-Tav was there, the Word who later became flesh. (think Alpha and Omega).

LupineJuly 31, 2019

Good grief! After 49 years in the church, I thought I’d heard every spiteful, nosy question/comment/piece of gossip that it was possible for many of our women (and men) to put out there. I say this having been through the whole kit ‘n caboodle of cultural insensitivity toward situations like childlessness, an inactive and mentally ill husband, widowhood, and then, being called a cougar on the prowl for daring to speak to younger, single guys. But these questions reported here hit the bottom level of cruelty. I respect Camille and Jared for allowing their names to be included in such a sensitive topic, yet fear they’ve opened themselves up to an even greater risk of mental peeping Tom behavior by so-called friends, total strangers, and of course, relatives. Personally, I would not and have not reported such detail on any topic for a published article, but to each his/her own . As I heard a brother in our ward comment a couple of weeks ago, “There’s a highway to hell but only a staircase to heaven. That tells you a lot about the volume of traffic that’s expected both directions.” In the church, we can likely replace “hell” with the Telestial Kingdom. There’s sometimes a cure for ignorance. They call it education. But there never has been and never will be a cure for stupidity. Please, brothers and sisters, put your brain in gear before engaging your mouth.

Tom ArmitageJuly 31, 2019

About 10 years ago my son and a sort of adopted son, his best friend, had set out on their journey to Utah from New England. They had been planning this for some time, had rebuilt the engines in their trucks for the trip. Somewhere in the middle of nowhere they stopped for fuel. They noticed a Latino family in a car sitting on the edge of the parking lot. They both felt impressed that they needed help so they went over and asked. They found out that the family had been there all day, spoke little or no English and the car would not start. My son's friend Sergio asked if he could sit in the drivers seat feeling impressed to do so. The car started right up. It had not been in park. No one had attempted to help and the problem was really not a problem at all but an insurmountable one for them. Hugs and tears were shared as this family was able to continue on their journey and "my" boys learned a powerful life lesson. Someday far in the future it will be wonderful to hear the rest of that story. I am convinced that good deeds, however small, reverberate through time.

John A Bennett, MDJuly 31, 2019

One of the joys of being 82 is knowing that I am close to meeting, in person, my grandfather, Armond Thomas Rose, who was killed by a drunk driver while serving as Bishop of the North Farmington Utah Ward. Hw was on his way to October 1924 General Conference when the accident occurred. I have always tried to honor his name and his lifetime of service. I am always amused when I realize he was one of the rowdy boys in the original Primary in the old Rock Church in Farmington. John A Bennett. Albuquerque, New Mexico

DMJuly 31, 2019

I agree with Leigh, Reasonable and gives him the choice to declare or not.

DMJuly 31, 2019

I love this story! Thanks for boosting my day.

LucieJuly 31, 2019

That story is so beautiful

AngelsingsJuly 31, 2019

A poignant, emotionally-moving true account. The older I become, the more convinced I am that some things which occur in life are not by happenstance. That these Tender Mercies are Divinely & purposefully orchestrated. Reflect back on things that have transpired in your own life & see if you don't agree.

Andrew CurrieJuly 31, 2019

As long as today's churches merely 'vote' on their doctrine to fit the current membership's whims, one would be a fool to have any confidence in such an organization. It's no different than having confidence in a religion devised by Congress--religious doctrine by committee! It's the Nicene Creed all over again!

Leigh SmithJuly 31, 2019

I think I would make an apt for a counselor (if for nothing else, your own piece of mind) and then give him the message of when the apt is. Also tell him you have made every effort to try to save your relationship and you deserve an explanation for his behavior. in other words, closure. His behavior is unacceptable and you deserve at the least an explanation for it and a release from the relationship, so you can begin to heal and move on. Give him a date by when you need to hear from him/see him face to face, etc or you will move on. Then stick to it. I have been married for 40 years and that is my advice. That is what I would tell my daughter or friend.

Leigh Ann SmithJuly 31, 2019

Thanks for sharing this story so much. There is an expectation for the perfect honeymoon, especially if you have waited and done everything "right." Rex, thanks for sharing your comments. It is true that in a long term marriage, sexual relationship/abilities vary & change and are not consistent for many reasons. I have heard of this girls condition and I wonder at several doctors examining her before and after marriage & not suspecting her having the problem and being more helpful sooner. That is sad. I have had a miscarriage, and so have some of my daughters in law, so I am sensitive about that (but never knew how traumatic they could be until I had one) My husband had prostate cancer and that can be extremely life changing & traumatic surgery/treatment for men/couples and no one talks about it at all hardly. The more we reach out to each other and share our experiences, the less alone we feel and the more we can help each other.

JeanJuly 31, 2019

Every bride-to-be should have an appointment with a gynecologist several weeks before marriage. Often very minor surgical procedures can make the all the difference in the joy and satisfaction of those first sexual and sacred intimacies.

Larry SJuly 31, 2019

Paul H. - IMHO, I think you might be thinking of Roman or some other architectural style of the times, with peaked roofs. Housed in Judea at that time tended to have flat topped roofs, with cisterns for catching rain water, and with external stairs to easily reach the roof. It was customary to spend significant amounts of time up there to eat, socialize and relax, especially in the cool of the evening when the breezes off the ocean brought reliev from the heat of the day. Therefore, I don't find it at all unusual for Peter to have been on the roof, meditating or contemplating things of the Spirit.

Maryann TaylorJuly 31, 2019

Your story reminds me of the loss of my sister-in-law, coincidentally also named Robin. She, too, had breast cancer which also later went to the bones. She was only 35 and died at the age of 39, leaving 4 young children. This left a huge hole in our family. Robin was committed to the Savior and his teachings. She had a very dynamic personality and was so much fun! Our family is so incomplete without her. It was very hard to understand what could have possibly been more important than for her to remain and mother her children. I don't know why she wasn't healed, but I put my trust in the Lord. I believe one day we will all understand why these things happen and that he will consecrate all of our suffering to bring about greater blessings than we can even imagine. What a joyous occasion it will be to embrace our loved ones again!

Carol J. ReynoldsJuly 31, 2019

A wonderful story told by a wonderful, caring man! Let's all follow his fine example and help others whenever we can.

GDWJuly 31, 2019

Excellent comparisons. You may know that 'sheet' as you alluded to can be a sail and thus the famous knot - the sheet-bend. Check it out.

Tracy WareJuly 31, 2019

Thank you Camille for being brave enough to share something so personal. I just wanted to cry reading about you feeling shame and loneliness. I am glad you are giving a voice to this, and hope to other women. I remember after having my first child, and thinking I was nursing so well, only to find out my son had failure to thrive, and had lost too much weight. I, apparently, did not produce any milk. No one in my entire life had ever said there were some women who could not produce milk. I tried so many things to encourage my body to produce food for my baby, only to have it fail each time. I was miserable, and felt like I failed. But I realized, formula was great!! Bottles were wonderful. And a healthy, living baby was far more important than nursing. I had many people ask why I wasn't nursing, and I decided to make my voice heard. Of course there were many who gave suggestions I had already tried...I just smiled. You would be surprised how many women started telling me they couldn't nurse either. How had I never heard that before. It was just not talked about. Now I tell every young woman I know that you are not a failure if you can't nurse. You can still bond with your child, you can still have those tender moments together....but now dad can too. Just as mothering is more than breast feeding, intimacy is more than sex. Camille and Jared, you have learned from the beginning what most people take years to figure out. Powerful intimacy is having a deep understanding, and love of each other. I wish you two all the best. Please know you are not broken. My heart and prayers are with you both.

DonnaJuly 31, 2019

EVERY prospective virginal bride should meet with a gynecologist for an examination to determine whether simple vaginal surgical procedures should be performed early enough before marriage to avoid the pain and/or discomfort of the first sexual relationship and to experience the supreme joy that can be theirs. DO NOT feel embarrassed to read and study literature on this subject. PREPARE YOURSELF for what can be a holy experience.

KarenJuly 31, 2019

Thank you so very much for sharing your tender story as it has touched my heart profoundly. Our family has moved across the United States several times and I have witnessed many tender mercies and miracles. Heavenly Father is so loving to His children. You story reminded me that we need to look for opportunities to be His hands and serve those in need.

Lana WellsJuly 31, 2019

While reading this story, I was prompted to turn my thoughts to the young women of the church. I watch the young women as they make conscious decisions to establish a career instead of falling in love. They want success in the world before success as a loving wife and a nurturing mother. The family is crumbling before our eyes so the words of J. Richard Clarke in this article ring out loud and strong to me, "Men guard the church and help in the home, but women guard the home and help in the church." We must be that force that nurtures family, friends and neighbors. It is possible our young women could save the world's families?

BruceJuly 31, 2019

I sit here in tears as I contemplate what you and your precious daughter and others went through. How many times has your experience in different ways touched the lives of others similarly tried? Your story describes so well the experiences which are so many and so varied but, perhaps, don't carry the magic quality of faith and hope and knowledge of life's realities as yours does. I have lost two lovely, honorable wives in my lifetime. I live, but would prefer to die to be with them, yet my family needs me to help them to understand and have hope in their own lives. So what brings sorrow to one brings hope to another. Your willingness to tell your story is a potent reminder of the reason why we come to this earth in the first place. Thank you

Jim scottJuly 31, 2019

Sister Arveseth, a great blog to Romans, I appreciate your efforts to help us, especially with our kids. I like Rom 1 for the perspective of applicability to our day with the rebellion of members to sound doctrine. The last part of chapter 1 seems to address our ills and those things we can easily rationalize by virtue of public popularity of the day. The legalization of gay activity and same sex marriage seems to negate the Lord’s position on morality. We shouldn’t be fooled by the situational ethics that tyranny of the majority makes “me” more important than the commandments of the Lord. The litany of rebellion written in the last part of chapter one is a castigation of what’s popular today. Family members should be taught and exhorted that these are to be avoided if they want total justification.

ChuckJuly 31, 2019

I love the way the Lord works! I have seen this happen over and over in my own life!

JulesJuly 31, 2019

When my husband was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s he was given a Priesthood blessing by our Bishop in which he was told that the Lord did not want his family to suffer and was willing to work a miracle in his behalf. Four years later he was dead. Now, working as a Hospice Chaplain, I have come to understand what a miracle it was that Jeff never forgot his family, his physical strength remained until the last week of life, he never lost his pleasant personality or his constant smile. My ways are not your ways and my thoughts are not your thoughts saith the Lord. God has taken care of me and Jeff continues to be a blessing to his family. God is in control and it will all make sense when we are able to see as He sees and know as He knows. My love goes out to all of you who are grieving. May the Grace of the Lord Jesus Christ provide you with comfort and strength.

Chuck ChamberlainJuly 31, 2019

I believe the advice given in this article and would add one caveat. We should never assume to know the motivations behind someone's behavior. In the case of this husband, the "message" manifested by his behavior could be something other than what it appears, and the wife should be open to new information when it becomes known. For instance, perhaps the husband had been in a serious accident and therefore unable to respond.

Charles DefranchiJuly 31, 2019

As for Martin Harris losing the BoM manuscripts, the Lord knew what to do about it thousands of years earlier. Fourty years ago, I got a French roomate at BYU by the name of Thierry. We became instant friends, and I was a witness at his wedding to a German BYU Co-Ed seven months later. Three years ago, I became severely ill and was incapacitated for a year. In a City that counts 12 million inhabitants (Paris, France), fate had it that I moved within five minutes of Thierry's home. He had just retired, and did stand as be the best possible support I could ever dream of, giving me priesthood blessings, and coming to visit me and comfort me in an inspired way almost every day. Fourty years ago, the Lord knew that I would some day need help from someone like him, and everything was planned accordingly.

KarenJuly 31, 2019

Loved that!! How nice for you to have that experience, and to recognize the hand of the Lord.

Alexander ForsythJuly 31, 2019

Stories such as this cause me to tear up, and make my heart joyful. Please include more of these testimonies.

SandyJuly 31, 2019

I love to hear how people respond to the Spirit to touch the lives of others. Thanks for sharing this tender, beautiful experience.

Lorena HolmsteadJuly 31, 2019

That's a beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing. I love the Lord and His tender mercies.

Gladys SJuly 31, 2019

Thanks Camille! I'm proud of you.

Alicia B.July 30, 2019

Thank you both for being willing to be a “witness of all things” even something so very hard and personal. I believe that the more people will be REAL, the more comfortable we all can feel with our unique experiences in this life. Thank you for doing your part to help people feel safer to just be exactly who God made them to be. What greater good could there be? I hope and pray you will be able to find a permeant resolution as quick as possible.

DMJuly 30, 2019

I add my voice to all these comments. Thank you for sharing—so brave. There are dear people in my own family that went through something very similar. Also found a facility in NY that really helped them. I was saddened to find out about their difficulties but glad they sought help. Your article helped many, I am sure.

Amy GerberJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful article! I think we met a couple of times when you visited our WA ward. Robyn and I were in the Primary Presidency together, our children were friends, and she is a remarkable woman. My heart breaks as I read this- knowing she was one of the healthiest, thoughtful, kind and faithful ladies I have known. I hope your strength and commitment to the gospel continue to buoy up her children and their families. I believe that you will be together again. ❤️

vickieJuly 30, 2019

as I see this happening esp the unborn live babies...they are alive...living..being murdered ...destroyed...its man's inhumanity to man and to me that is a sign that the 2nd coming has to be close. we all love babies...yet not we but there are those who wouldn't mind destroying them ...how can that be...and there is only one answer..satan...he plants these thoughts in the minds of man...and women who want to kill their own children....we have seen how some mothers have murdered their own live children..how sad....all we can do is pray....and sometimes take part in our government to prevent abortion ...however, even then there are those who will seek it out and that is what I think many parents are afraid of....that their daughter will seek out abortion in some dirty back alley and she herself die from it. so instead they legalize it so its in the open and accepted by law and health clinics spring up to take care of the matter and to get gain...what we can do is teach our children and set a good example to them and others...and we have to speak out about this....that it is wrong.

vickieJuly 30, 2019

this is so beautiful....I have an older daughter who is turning 49...she is my only daughter as I have 4sons....I use to say I couldn't handle if any of my children died young....esp as babies....but I now feel at any age when a child passes before the parents...its a very hard pill to swallow. God bless this woman in her faith and her daughters faith. also my own thinking is that maybe God wanted them to think she was going to be healed so they would have the ability to carry on...instead of the feelings of giving up. imagine if the blessings said sorry you are not going to make it...I cant imagine what would have been felt and what would have been done. I believe God gives us hope and the desire to continue in faith....for some reason I believe that is the only answer the LOrd could give to the priesthood....all needed that hope...the family and the daughter...look how much they accomplished living in that hope...its wonderful....God bless this family and thank you for your life story....

Shaunna TonelliJuly 30, 2019

Having been married to a professional musician for 20 years, we often discussed how the performance degree musicians get in college falls short of actually teaching a performer how to have a career in music. My husband did his doctoral dissertation about entrepreneurship in music to hopefully help fix that problem. The short answer from me (the wife) is that you must think of your sons career like a table top and your son will always have four or five table legs (representing varied streams of income) needed to hold it steadily firm. The more legs he adds, the sturdier it will be. When we were first married Mark had been a professional performer for 7 years and we were able to live on his income. Some of his streams of income were cd sales, gigs, teaching private lessons, teaching as a college adjunct, publishing articles in music magazines and journals, writing and selling arrangements, etc. it was all music related work. If you are worried about your son working hard, I can assure you, it was hard work with long hours, and the hardest part might be generating/finding the work, but it’s doable. He will have to make his own career - if he’s driven he can do it. The biggest challenge we faced was finding affordable health care. We ultimately solved that problem through my employment, but when our children were born, I began staying home, so Mark auditioned for a military band and was hired as the guitarist for the band at the West Point US military academy. If your son is willing to go through basic training, the military does have some great opportunities for musicians. After my husband left the band, he joined Millikin University in Decatur, IL, which has a heavy emphasis on student-run ventures (experiential classes) in which students get hands on experience running performance related businesses while they major in music. I might also add that even though my husband is the head of Millikin’s Guitar program, he still performs on a regular basis, records music, and publishes guitar instructional books. Having multiple income streams will always be part of a musician’s career. Hope it helps to know it can be done.

Diane CarterJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing the story of your daughter and her valiant fight. I too have battled breast cancer. I am a 26 year survivor. We had two sons, both were hemophiliacs or bleeders. When they were little HIV came onto the scene. When they were tested in 1985 both had been infected with this horrible disease. Our older son has been able to survive, but our younger son passed at the age of 21. He seemed to catch everything from the time he was about 3 years old. When he received his Patriarchal Blessing it told us that he would serve a mission and have a family. He received many blessings and the were in a positive light but the Lord had other plans for him. He passed at the age of 21 suffering with any ailments. He had pneumonia, fluid around the heart, he had nocardia another lung disease that made his lungs look like they had ground glass in them and a fungus that had eaten through his ear drum into his brain. The fungus was so rare that there was only one other person in the US that had it and they had purchased all the available medication for her and they no longer manufactured that medicine here in the US as there was no call for it. He was such a model patient and touched so many lives. When he was 12 one of his nurses asked him if he was angry about his condition? He replied that he wasn't angry and it was just something he had to go through. One of his nursed said that she had had many patients that professed to be a certain religion, but Marty was the only one that she knew that truly lived his religion. One of his nurses stated that they each had had pieces of Marty implanted within them where they continue to bloom and grow. When he passed at 21 we gave him a missionary farewell and gave out copies of the Book of Mormon with his picture and testimony in them. To date we have given out about 1900 copies and I have requests for more. We have seen many conversions to the gospel. We have received great comfort from reading D & C 138:57 I beheld that the faithful elders of this dispensation, when they depart from mortal life, continue their labors in the preaching of the gospel of repentance and redemption, through the sacrifice of the Only Begotten Son of God, among those who are in darkness and under the bondage of sin in the great world of the spirits of the dead. We discovered that Patriarchal Blessings continue on through the next step of life. So Marty is completing his mission on the other side of the veil. As a mother I could not have asked for a more wonderful son and payday came a few days before the Lord took him home. I was rubbing his feet and asked him if there was anything he had ever done that he needed to take care of? He thought and thought and responded, "Not that I can think of." Could I as a mother have asked anything more, if I could live my life to be able to report to the Lord that I had nothing to repent of how glorious would y homecoming be. I try to live my life to be as clean as he was when I am called to report.

Cristie SmithJuly 30, 2019

I had the privilege & honor to know Robyn. I met her & her family when my daughter & I moved into their ward. She was & will always be an inspiration to me. Her faith was incredible. Seeing her pictures in your beautiful story makes me smile, remembering her amazing love of life & faith in our Heavenly Father. Thank you for writing this story. It is the perfect reminder of your amazing daughter.

Jorge HernandezJuly 30, 2019

It's very sad story, I know that kind of pain and suffering in my own experience after my mother passed away of disseminated cancer. Take time to overcome our grief but our comfort and blessings still continue pouring from our Heavenly Father, sometimes it's hard to understand the " why's, me, yes or no. Our faith, hope and love bring to us His Grace and His infinit atonement to offer with gratitud our prayers in find peace in Him.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for this article. My heart is full for your family.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 30, 2019

Great articles. It seems as there is a strong movement in the world to destroy families. We all need to speak out in respect for families.

pamela Morgan roderJuly 30, 2019

If this weren’t so tragic, it would be utterly preposterous and laughable.

EmilyJuly 30, 2019

I am so proud of Camille and Jared for being willing to share. I admire their relationship and what a powerful positive force they are even just through their social media. And I feel such joy in knowing the individuals that will be encouraged and comforted through their willingness to share.

HelenJuly 30, 2019

The day before my daughter died grim Metastatic Breast Cancer, similar to your daughter's, I requested a Priesthood blessing from my Ministering brethren. In that blessing she was told she would heal. The healing was not for her but for those who loved her. She died the next morning, in her fiance's arms. She has not even been able to hear his longed-for proposal the day before. Father knows what is needed the most.

BobJuly 30, 2019

To Brad, hope you don't feel picked on. It is very hard to be patient when everyone encourages patience, and you are in the throes of anxiety and depression. If you are patient and believe or desire to believe, it will come. I suffered these things off and on most of my life and finally found Christ's overwhelming joy in my forties. Definitely worth the struggle and the wait. When I read your comment I remembered a very inspired blessing I gave to an elder who appeared like your comments. The Spirit took over; it was a beautiful blessing. The Spirit told him that what he was experiencing was by design and encouraged him to hold on and be strong and patient, that his experiences were developing him to help many many others, in his future, whom most would be unable to help; but that he would because of his experience and struggle and strengthening. I am from Louisiana. We cook. Life is a gumbo with hours of preparation and is at its best the next day. Don't make life a microwave meal. They are barely sustenance and just not that good. By the way try a little potato salad in your gumbo; it's really good.

Pattie SkousenJuly 30, 2019

How sad it must be to loose a daughter, especially from cancer. Cancer is so devastating on the body. Your daughter must have been a real "trooper" to have gone through so much. She is still your daughter, we are all families in the hereafter and are truly blessed to enjoy our family again when this earthly life is done. I lost my mother to breast cancer 3 years after they found it. I developed breast cancer and was afraid that I would die 3 years after my diagnosis. As you can tell, I didn't die and I have been extremely blessed to have lived 12 additional years. I can't tell you why some live longer and some don't; but I do know that we have a loving Heavenly Father who knows all and what is best for all of us. I have a strong testimony of the gospel and want it to grow everyday. May the Lord bless you in your trials.

JeffreyJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for writing and sharing your thoughts and insights regarding your daughter's life and death.

TiffanyJuly 30, 2019

This is a beautiful sorry. It feels very similar to mine. My mom was diagnosed with cancer at age 29. When my dad gave her a blessing he told her "you will be ok." She was gone a year later. As an adult when I was told about the blessing I asked my dad what he thought. He replied, "she is ok." Our perspective as mortals can cause us to doubt. But if we can be enlightened to a heavenly perspective our understanding deepens. Recovery, being ok, they're all part of the atonement. That's the healing that matters most.

HannaJuly 30, 2019

Loved the article, thank you!

LeahJuly 30, 2019

I've had that experience of praying mightily that a loved one will recover, that they will LIVE. I even received the warm comfort from the Spirit which I interpreted to mean I would receive that for which I asked...So when Death came, it was devastating until I realized...he does live, just at a new address. He went to his Heavenly Home, with his "real" parents. And then we realize that God sees the big picture. His thoughts are higher that ours. I've learned to be very cautious when I "interpret". I often dream of loved ones who have passed. Sometimes the dreams are vivid. Often they are comforting.

GALEN SCHATZMANJuly 30, 2019

A BEAUTIFUL STORY OF FAITH. I READ THIS WITH TEARS IN MY EYES. HEAVENLY FATHER HAS BLESSED ME WITH A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER AS WELL. SHE TRULY IS A GIFT TO ME EVERYDAY. THIS STORY JUST BROKE MY HEART BUT I AM STRENGTHENED BY THE FAITH OF THIS FAMILY AND I KNOW THAT SURELY THEY WILL SEE HER AGAIN.

Kareen T ChristenJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing this. We lost our beautiful 36 year old daughter in law in 2014. She was the mother of 4. What you described was almost exactly the same path she took trying to fight this insidious disease. She also held out hope til the very end because of the blessings she received. She was a precious sweet girl and had a lot of faith as did your daughter. I still weep when I think about the pain and suffering she went through, but am lifted up thinking how she bravely lived her life as though she would be here many years more to raise her children.

Linda G.July 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing this. I went through a similar trial with a very faithful and loving husband. He never once complained and although he didn't want to leave us he humbly accepted the Fathers will. Me not so much, but as the years have passed I too have come to understand, accept and hope. I have learned and grown so much from going through this and truly believe this was a way and blessing for me to become more than I ever knew I could be. Again, thank you.

ErikJuly 30, 2019

My deepest condolences. While this may not be of any consolation given your loss, D&C 42:48 makes quite clear that blessings only “work” when the receiver is not “ordained unto death”. The few verses before that one are comforting.

Mary BJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing this message about your beautiful daughter and the hope the gospel gives to us all.

Melissa MarkhamJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for your faith and your honesty. Your story helped to provide clarity for me about a similar situation.

Deb LeggeJuly 30, 2019

Reading your article was the first thing I did this morning. I just sat and cried over your last paragraph. I loved your honesty about the struggle and hanging on to that small particle of “hope”. When I was a naive 29 year old, my best friend at the time was struggling with cancer. In her blessings she too was told she would be healed. We used to hash over these words as her cancer got worse and when she died my faith was shattered. That was around 31 years ago. Since then I’ve had my own bout with cancer, breast like your daughter’s. I was terrified to have a blessing knowing how easily they can be misinterpreted, but I did and was told my time on earth was to continue for I had more to learn. It’s been 10 years. As I’ve pondered your daughter’s blessing, those exact words turned her into the fighter she was right to the end. So so hard to trust the source through our limited vision, especially as continued prayers go unanswered for children and other loved ones. You have given my spirit a needed boost, thank you! What a reunion we will all have at journey’s end!

DianeJuly 30, 2019

I am so very sorry about the loss of your daughter, but thank you for sharing this beautiful story. It reminds me of an article when Elder Bednar met with Elder Maxwell years ago and this was said: “During the course of our conversations that day, I asked Elder Maxwell what lessons he had learned through his illness,” Elder Bednar said. “I will remember always the precise and penetrating answer he gave. ‘Dave,’ he said, ‘I have learned that not shrinking is more important than surviving.'” Your daughter most definitely did not shrink! Bless you all.

Donna L LeavittJuly 30, 2019

This article lifted me. Thank you for your faith in God's plan. What a joyful reunion it will be when you see your daughter again.

Jan KingJuly 30, 2019

It was a huge leap of faith which had brought us to my husband's new work assignment. He had gone off to the job, and our son to school. As I looked out across the bleak frozen landscape of Bethel AK that January morning, I spoke a soft plea to Heavenly Father for confirmation of this choice. At that moment the sun broke through the clouds in the distance for the first of many breath taking sunrises in that place....and I said, "that will do, thank you dear Father!"

Eric ChaseJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing such a personal story. It touched me deeply and was just what I needed at this time in my life.

Erika P.July 30, 2019

Well, maybe all of these aborted children will assemble in the afterlife and remind the governor about what he prevented, there could be Nobel Price winners, doctors, musicians, lawyers and even governors among them. Will he then still feel that cats are more important than humans?

AprilJuly 30, 2019

Your story and mine are the same. Cancer is evil. I too lost my daughter to BC. She was 32. She had children who were 8 and 5. The loss has taught me so much about Heavenly Father and myself. My testimony of Christ never waivered. But I was mad that she was gone and that she had to suffer. It has been 6 years since her death. I miss her every day. I know she is OK and that she is watching us from where she is now. May God bless you as you struggle with grief. Your Robyn loves you now and will always love you.

JulieJuly 29, 2019

THANK YOU! I've had two friends who have had to go through similar situations. How our bodies work and things that can go wrong with intimate situations definitely need to be discussed more. And I would estimate that probably 70% of the people at church have serious problems they're struggling with. But like you, they put on a happy face when they're in public. Just being kind and inclusive is so important. Thank you for sharing your story. That was very brave.

JulieJuly 29, 2019

What a great light-hearted discussion about listening, which is something I'm working on being better at. I love that you poke fun of yourself. Finding humor in situations is a great way to help relieve tension during serious discussions.

MucumsJuly 29, 2019

Very good article

PaigeJuly 29, 2019

Sis, i know I’ve told you a million times today but I am so incredibly proud of you for summoning up the courage and vulnerability to publicly share your story. You are not alone and these comments are evidence of the powerful impact you are already having for others. I hope that you will find some healing in sharing your experience. Thank you for being an example of resilience and a bright beacon of bravery.

Kara DunkelJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for writing this article and a huge thank you to Camille and Jared for courageously sharing such a difficult trial in their lives. Most of us face private Goliath's that The Lord shares intimately with us. Disappointing to learn that doctors aren't listening to such sensitive and important concerns. The emotional challenge of changing our thought process from "forbidden" to "approved" in it self is something we should address more in our LDS culture. Also, in our culture is a sense of a marriage license being a license to have intimate relations rather than the promises and covenants to share life together in love and potentially bring spirits from heaven into our home to support, love and nurture. Thankfully we can turn to Him and trust His timing and healing powers to overcome the shame and embarrassment the world's views can inflict on our hearts and souls. Thank you for reminding us of the sacredness of these relations and the importance of patience, compassion and support in our marriage relationships with or without physical intimacy.

P. RockwellJuly 29, 2019

Very insightful. I really enjoy these articles. Thank you.

Jo Ann OJuly 29, 2019

I feel that she is a very brave person to tell her story. I had never heard of this condition, and I am glad to know about it now. I pray that she will get better and that she can have a life with intimate relations. Bless her husband for standing by her. I learned a long time ago not to ask about these things and not to ask if people are going to have children. We never know what the situations are for others. Again, thank you for this article.

LindaJuly 29, 2019

Who is asking such personal questions? Wow, I never had anyone ask but my sister who has no boundaries and she was told it was none of her business. What culture? Maybe it depends on where you live? I'm so sorry people were that invasive into your personal life. Also I was warned about taking it slow and so warned my kids about taking time to get intimate to the point of sex. Thanks for sharing.

daiseedebJuly 29, 2019

My heart breaks for you. I don't know why there are these silly expectations in life from others, as we know life is not a fairy tale. Some may try to state their life is a fairy tale, though realistically I suspect or know.....it is not. The sexualization of our culture portrays sex in a fantasy realm. It has damaged our culture beyond repair. This is a difficult experience for you and your husband which will prepare you for more difficult times. You have the advantage now that you have both gone through such a difficult time. I see your strength and wisdom as well as compassion for others, as a wonderful trait coming from this trial. You and your hubby are remarkable people. Thank you so much for sharing this painful story with others (which I am sure was difficult in itself) so others can understand and learn compassion as you have. Bless you two wonderful kids!

Jan K.July 29, 2019

Bless you both!! If only I could have read this 40 years ago. Through the years of tears and tender mercies I have come to learn and more importantly deeply understand that I am a beloved daughter of God and am blessed with a husband who has patiently and lovingly walked and supported me through a similar trial, my own path from which to learn. I echo the words of Elder Ballard.

Mr. Leonard H.July 29, 2019

Dwell in the physically clean holy places on the land parcels of Jacob or on the mountain lots of Ephraim. Obedience first.

Earthly ParentsJuly 29, 2019

Camille, thank you for being courageous enough to speak out. Your story will help others feel less alone. Too many just suffer in silence or give up on sex completely. It's important for newlyweds to know on the honeymoon that if the bride is experiencing pain, STOP. Intercourse is not supposed to be painful. It may just be that technique needs to be better (a woman may need 20 minutes or more of stimulation before intercourse is pleasurable).Or the pain may be a medical condition like yours that needs medical attention. The wife may need to train her body to feel comfortable with touch. So don’t make the trauma worse. There may be a few weeks of touch training and dilators or more treatment resistant cases such as yours. The couple may enjoy something else sexual if intercourse is painful. Nobody has to have intercourse on a honeymoon. It's more important not to have a traumatic experience and to get to know each other.

DJJuly 29, 2019

Much more shocking than this medical condition is that people (and it sounds like many!) would ask such personal questions. I was certainly never asked, or have asked, such an intimate thing. Might she have misinterpreted a general question of "how was your honeymoon" (after all, a trip to Peru sounds pretty great) to "how was the sex"?

Earthly ParentsJuly 29, 2019

I wrote the book And It Was Very Good for Latter-day Saints to help through the honeymoon (and beyond). The PDF version is free from me at [email protected]

Cindy WoodJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for sharing such a personal experience! You will never know how many people you have touched through this article. I love that we need to stop the judgement and realize that everyone has a unique path. Asking someone when they are getting married or when they are having a baby is none of their business ...we need to use more appropriate ways to communicate ...May Heavenly Father bless you in your path!

HalJuly 29, 2019

The Fighting Preacher was a wonderful movie! We are delighted to see so many well done motion pictures depicting lives of Latter-day Saints. It is truly a fulfillment of President Kimball's admonition decades ago that members of the Church should create wholesome and uplifting entertainment in the form of music, printed material, and movies to counter the drivel that so often comes from the world. We've noticed that these wonderful books and movies are even having a positive influence on mainstream media. We have seen several movies that have had much less foul language and sexual content than we used to see in similar films in years past. Keep up the good work!

Trudy EleyJuly 29, 2019

People need to realise that what goes on behind closed doors is nobodies business except the husband and wife. Too often far too many details are shared with the world. As far as comments regarding the birth of children coming into a couples life is also way out of line. The church being a family oriented church makes comments so hurtful for those who may be facing challenges in these areas of their lives. People need to mind their supposed well meaning business.

Paul HJuly 29, 2019

I think maybe there is some speculation in this article as the scriptures said Peter went to the housetop or roof to pray. Houses at that time were the shape of a U with a second story at the base and a single story on the two sides, which became an occupiable roof. Why was he there? To pray, and he wan an hungered, so my speculation is that he was praying on a Fast Sunday. Many of the great revelations were given on a Sunday. See for example the Book of Revelation itself where John said he "was in the Spirit on the Lord's Day..." By reading the three preceding chapters of Acts you can see why Peter was in that location and not abiding in Jerusalem. I think he had more on his mind than looking out across the oceans at the sails of ships.

Luana WellsJuly 29, 2019

Someone dear to me could have written this, in fact she wrote a term paper and was asked to present the material in her professor's other class. She frequently was asked why she was'nt 'pregnant already,' and even once was asked "why do you come to Relief Society, you don't have children?" These hurts are deeply personal. As Sisters and Saints we need to be far more sensitive to those around us. Such questions have no business being asked.

Charlie HarperJuly 29, 2019

We are all imperfect and fall short of the glory of God.

Kindred sisterJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for sharing this! I suffered with vaginismus for years early in my marriage and can totally relate to camille's story! I found a treatment center in New York that are experts in vaginismus and vulvodynia. They cured me completely over 10 years ago. Please let me know if she'd like more information!

CATHERINE GARDNERJuly 29, 2019

I sometimes feel like I belong to a different church!! I cant believe anyone would ask questions about your wedding night, your sex life or when we're you going to start having babies??!!! I don't know how anyone even dares to hint at those kind of questions! It doesn't happen here in our branch.

BrynneJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for being brave enough to share your story, Camille! You are an example of courage, faith, and strength to everyone.

Linda WestoverJuly 29, 2019

While my situation was not as extreme as Camille's, I can definitely relate from our experience with infertility. People's "innocent" comments can be so hurtful. So I've tried to live by this standard: "Ours is not to question why; ours is to love them till we die." Not easily done, but surely the kinder path.

KatelynnJuly 29, 2019

Thank You for this.

Paul HJuly 29, 2019

I got married in my mid-late 30's and people would wonder why I didn't get married sooner. Some sisters in our singles ward announced once that any brother "not married by age 25 must be gay." You can imagine how that went over with my friends and me. My brother, before we were married, wanted to know my views on intimacy and birth control. I told him that since I was sin gle I didn't need to share those thoughts. When he wanted to know why I didn't date and marry girl "x" I asked if he married who he wanted and when he wanted. When he replied "Yes, I did" to both questions, I stated "Please allow me the same privilege." After our honeymoon when we were alone he started asking for details and I said "You've been married 17 years longer than me, so you already know everything about which you are asking from your own experience." My daughter gave birth when married two years, then suffered a bout of infertility that lasted 5 years. She had to endure countless questions of "When are you having another child?" I told her to either ignore the question, or say "That's up to the heavens" or to change the subject. People are NOSY about things that are, frankly, NONE of their business. That wouldn't be so bad but they are extremely insensitive about it, too. I don't entertain their inquiries and satisfy their curiosity about things that really won't matter to them one bit. I'm glad the person found medical help. I wouldn't feel to share my personal intimacy issues in an article because it's really a "personal thing." And I know several that have had fertility problems they have explained, but I never broach the subject. If they care to discuss it they can mention it first as I won't be bringing it to the forefront.

MistiJuly 29, 2019

I am so proud of her for not being anonymous!!!!! That takes such courage! I love that she did it for the sake of others who are looking for hope & less shame! Life is an adventure! That’s all I can say when things just don’t make sense because so many things in life just don’t for now. Btw I know of someone who this very thing happened to & she did some procedures & it worked out for them & they now have a beautiful family. Much hope for this cute couple too ❤️❤️❤️

mam262July 29, 2019

This was my experience when I was first married, and it took about 8 years for the physical pain to go away, and much longer for the emotional pain to lessen. In my case, it was compounded by close in-law family members being completely indiscreet about their very enjoyable intimate life, leading by husband to compare me to my sister-in-law and feel even more disappointed himself by the hand we'd been dealt. I wish this were more talked about. It caused so much heartache and made unrealistic and uneducated expectations for how a marriage should begin and evolve that much more difficult to sort through when things didn't turn out the way we'd expected.

RexJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for this article not only does this happen at the first of a marriage but due to medical situations that can come on anytime in a marriage physical intimacy can become difficult or impossible and it changes the marriage dynamics

AnonymousJuly 29, 2019

Michaela, thank you for writing this and Camille thank you for your willingness to share your reality. Bringing daylight to a difficult story will be a great blessing for many. Our honeymoon phase was also not so sweet but for very different reasons. We've been married for over 32 years which is a testament to love and commitment.

vickieJuly 29, 2019

I knew my grandmothers and one of my grandfathers. the grandfather that died, I had heard was a very kind man. he died when my mother was 7yrs old of tuberculosis. my poor grandmother is what I think of because they were both young.my grandparents couldn't speak English. so, I was never able to converse with them and understand what they were saying. my parents decided not to teach me their language even though they spoke it. however, I loved them anyway because we would visit them often. they lived in another state but we traveled every year to see them. before my fathers mother died we were visiting her and she was very frustrated and tried to talk to me. I realized her frustration as my cousins were teasing her which really upset her. for some reason I was able to see that and I tried so hard to let her know I knew what she felt and would have wanted to help her. I miss my grandparents very much even the one I never saw because I heard so many stories about him and they were all great.

carol kredtJuly 29, 2019

Thank you so much, Camille, for having the courage to let your story be told. It's a strong reminder that we all need to think before we speak when we don't know all the facts. And I really feel it's none of.our business to know what transpired - or didn't - on someone else's wedding night.and that it's anything but kind to even ask.

vickieJuly 29, 2019

poor thing....as I read this story I realized that its all about expectations ..what we expect sometimes is what we see on TV or MOVIES ...and it just aint so....also the church has expectations and if we somehow don't fit that...people in church look down on that person for not following or being in that expectation esp those that have just joined the church. people who just join don't know what to expect and they go by what they see or the answers they get by asking. they really don't know. I have realized over the years that each person is different and God deals with them according to how they are not how everyone else is. for instance, not just one set mode. my oldest child my only daughter got married and she put off having children for 10yrs or so. she never had this special feeling. she was the oldest of 5 kids the rest were boys. later in her thirties she decided to have children and she had 3 kids each one 2yrs apart from the other. she is going into her 50;s and her children are in their teens. I have to say she tells me she is glad she waited because she loves motherhood. her husband who is 9yrs older has semi retired and is at home helping her raise her teens. she loves every minute of raising her kids and both parents are very involved in their lives. so as you see, one's persons expectations or desires do not always fit anothers. her younger brother had children right away and one of them just got married. who knows what they will do. we have choice and it was given to us freely by our Heavenly father so I believe that we shouldn't judge anyone or look down on anyone because of their choices made. God is the only one who can see into our hearts and minds. also I believe that we are all at different stages in our lives.

JulesJuly 29, 2019

Dear Camille, you are not alone and you have nothing to be ashamed of, although we do feel ashamed. We did not create our bodies, but in the creation process we ended up with a physical handicap. You now know that many women suffer the same or similar handicap. I also did not develop breast and my infertility doctor said it was all connected. My dear husband has passed away now, but I still thank God for blessing me with a man who was so patient, kind, and never looked on me as less than a woman. I would have preferred to be “normal” but there are physical handicaps others bear that I was blessed not to. Thank you for your honestly and courage and I pray intimacy will become sweeter for you as your life unfolds.

JocelynJuly 29, 2019

Your courage is inspiring. Thank you for opening eyes and hearts and closing down those who unabashedly pry into private territory. It is their shame, not yours.

LeahJuly 29, 2019

Sounds like he's "just not that in to you" to quote a book and the movie about it. My own experience begs me to ask: Is it possible he's behaving badly so you will kick him to the curb and thus he will escape the blame for a brief failed marriage? If he can blame you, he doesn't look so bad? - in his own mind. People's actions tell you all you need to know if you are willing to see it.

Marcela StaceyJuly 29, 2019

What a fantastic and fun research! Thanks for sharing!

Gene SchaerrJuly 29, 2019

Interesting and insightful!

Eileen deMarsJuly 29, 2019

What a brave woman to share her story. I’ve never heard of her condition, but am sure others will benefit from this.

Rebecca AndersonJuly 29, 2019

Oh my goodness. My heart goes out to that young couple. God bless them in this unusual journey. I hope the Lord will continue to help them and they will be able to experience the Lord's tender care.

DianeJuly 29, 2019

Thanks for sharing your very personal experience, Camille and Jared. Your openness, strength, and courage will provide hope to countless others.

Charles DefranchiJuly 29, 2019

My father always stood as an example of faith, deep understanding of gospel doctrine, and great leadership experience. The thing he emphasized most in his speeches and lessons in the years preceding his death was the need for more empathy from the part of Latter-Day Saints, that is, "the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within their frame of reference, that is, the capacity to place oneself in another's position."

Gordon J HensleyJuly 28, 2019

Did the Lord cause the great volcano of 1815 just to make the Smith family move from Vermont to Palmyra? He sees the end from the beginning, and sets the stars and planets in their orbits. It is not inconceivable that this was planned out before the earth was built.

Gordon J HensleyJuly 28, 2019

Thank you for sharing your autism experience with the world. My son's story is the very same as yours, but one year older. I, too, know all of the Disney and Pixar movies by heart. We learned to navigate that new-fangled internet thing while researching autism. My son also scripts movies constantly. My wife has been a strong advocate for Steven since 1996.

Tom WoodJuly 27, 2019

Insightful and inspiring, my friend. I do find myself made better by reading your lessons and look forward to them. Your efforts in preparation are very much worth their while as your message and questions are spirit building. You're quite the spiritual educator.

Sally SmithJuly 26, 2019

I just came home from the movie and was drawn to opening up my email. The first thing I opened was Meridian Magaziine and saw this article on " The Fighting Preacher". Stirred my heart! Must see movie!! Coincidence? I think not. Thank you.

CraigJuly 26, 2019

The optimist believes we are living in the best possible world. The pessimist fears this is true.

HalJuly 26, 2019

This reminds me of the atheist who marries a religious spouse. The atheist proposes a compromise for teaching their children which goes something like "If you won't teach our children to believe in God, I won't teach them to not believe God and they can choose for themselves." Such a proposal all but guarantees the atheist spouse will win. If children are not taught to believe in God, they become atheists by default. By the same token, a recent study shows that 85% of children who exhibit same-sex attraction will grow out of it IF they are just left alone (I was part of that group). Instead, children are encouraged to experiment and declare their sexuality even before puberty. In my early pubescent stages, I had feelings of same-gender attraction, but was never encouraged to act on those feelings. Like 85% of other youth that had the same experience, I grew out of it. Maybe if we stopped foisting same-gender relationships on our youth, it would become a non-issue.

JoJean LoflinJuly 26, 2019

I have often wondered how my grandmother managed to provide and care for 8 children on an Idaho farm when her husband, William Orson Pratt, served a 2/1-2 year mission in the southern states at the turn of the century, 1900. It can't have been easy. When I knew this grandmother, she had advanced Alzheimer's. The wives of those missionaries were absolute amazing women.

Marti ScottJuly 26, 2019

We saw this last night. It's a great movie and I hope many will go to see it.

G.MathewsJuly 26, 2019

THANK YOU T.C.CHRISTENSEN!!! WE ALL LOVED THIS!! You created a BEAUTIFUL MASTERPIECE with Willard and Rebecca's story. A WONDERFUL example for each of us! LOVE! LOVE! LOVE!! Anxious to buy the DVD- for ALL my kids!

RussJuly 25, 2019

To the contrary, we have entered a Grand Solar Minimum Period. If you want to know the effects of it, look up the impact of the Maunder Minimum of the 1600's. Weather will continue to get more chaotic as the years continue to go by. The Joseph Smith family had great issues being able to farm in New England during the Dalton Minimum, hence their moving to Palmyra and near to Cumorah - and the rest, as they say, is history.

Jenny SvendsenJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story, moved me to tears! Our grandson was healthy mentally till about 4 months young. He was fascinated with fans in the ceiling turning around, screamed when there was a crowd, my daughter couldn't take him shopping, too much sensory stimulation, in kindergarten she was called to the school every day because of his outbursts, typical Aspbergers behavior, which they now call 'low autism spectrum'. I suggested to our daughter that she call Tony Stephan, a very humble and righteous Priesthood holder, through the tragic suicide of his wife Debbie, and most of their children having mental issues like Bipolar/and other symptoms (I know this is not the same as your sweet boy), Tony developed a vitamin/mineral program, if you feel inclined, look up Truehope EMPowerplus, it has shown some improvement with autism for some people, plus many other issues, all independant studies that the company never paid for, it totally helped our grandson within 3 weeks. Again, thank you for sharing your tender moments!

Carol AnnJuly 25, 2019

Emergency Prep is a life-long journey not a destination. When one realizes that preparing is part of one's ongoing lifestyle, it becomes automatic to obtain those things you would need to survive most situations. It becomes a priority as it should be!

TerryJuly 25, 2019

I would not have thought these wolves could be so successful until I had a conversation with a friend's son who removed his name from the Church after listening to John Delhin's Mormon Stories broadcasts on Church history. I tried to explain to him that these broadcasts bear little resemblance to the truth and John Dehlin deletes critical comments from listeners who point out the errors. I know because several of mine were deleted. In one case he deleted one but failed to delete the one that made reference to it later in the comment atream. He is not as bright as his college degree would seem to require. And after all, he makes about $80,000 a year from conducting these interviews. He cannot have people pointing out he does not know what he is talking about but is taking so much money for making ridiculous assertions about the Church.

ShereeJuly 25, 2019

While I agree this was amazing technology and thoughtful themes expressed this is not a kids movie. Stay with the earlier one for young children. It is very, very violent-more so than the original. Tender hearted little ones will likely have a hard time with this. This is so real that the violence is even worse. In the animated it was hard enough with Scar and Simba in slow motion. If you have children who deal with night mares this may not be for them.

MelanieJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for sharing this touching account.. Yiu are clearly a blessing in your son’s life as well. You may find this video clip of interest: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qiHFI36wmzo

Sharon ShogrinJuly 25, 2019

I recently bought this book and I can hardly lay it down. It is church history at it's best. It is interesting and entertaining at the same time. Of course I love Dean Hughes' books.

Lynn SJuly 25, 2019

I really needed to read this today since yesterday I was so torn about selling our house and moving across the country and leaving our imactive adult son and his little family and all their issues and problems. I am grateful for answers to prays not just for him but for me as I pray in distress and receive peace. It was very reassuring to read your story.

Janet GrafeJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for a sweet article. I also have a son with autism. He's 28 and so unique. There are many things he can't do, but he is a joy to us and helps us realize that you don't have to be "perfect" or "normal" to be of great worth.

A mother and member in ConnecticutJuly 25, 2019

I loved reading about the beauty of this dear child’s immeasurable value to your family. I love the joy you feel and gratitude for all that your precious son awakens in you. I also cringe when I read this because I have learned of similar stories of these high fevers that are a direct result of vaccinations. I have seen documentaries like VAXXED and THE GREATER GOOD:THE MOVIE and I’ve heard the truth about the population of children at risk for these reactions who are not identified prior to vaccinations. As one pediatrician stated in THE GREATER GOOD, he held out his hands making a circle and he said: we as medical professionals know there is a population of children this big who can not be vaccinated due to compromised immune issues. But in truth, that circle is really THIS BIG, and he widened the circumference of the circle in front of him by about three times. He said, the pharmaceutical industry out spends the oil industry six times on lobbying Congress. That money should be being spent on research to identify this significant number of children who also can. It handle vaccinations without a life threatening or life altering reaction. Then in the documentary the special “Court” was shown where parents of dead or damaged children can seek damages. But since the pharmaceutical industry is protected by our government with immunity from being sued this isn’t actually a court of law it’s dome other type of court and at the time the documentary was made at least ten years ago 4 billion dollars had been paid out to parents who’s children died or were damaged due to vaccinations. I plead with everyone to get informed and watch these documentaries and stop the madness of this profit driven fear campaign which is destroying many children’s nervous systems. The films mentioned show very sound medical research and facts and show doctors on both sides of the argument.

Penny A DouglasJuly 25, 2019

While I think there are times when just listening is important and empathizing is what is needed most, the thought of doing this with every conversation makes me want to never talk (or listen) to anyone ever again! I love the word "wallowing." It reminds me of the many times that I hear the same person saying the same things over and over without any intention of changing the situation. Sometimes this person is me, but usually after I hear myself a few times, I think, " I either have to change this or resign myself to it and get on with my life. Ultimately, we are the only ones who control our attitudes and constant complaining doesn't help anything. Saying something aloud can help us focus on the situation, but constant whining does no good at all. Listening to constant whining, like I'm doing now, - well you get the picture. I was not cut out to be a psychologist.

GinnyJuly 25, 2019

My husband and I have both read this and loved it. It truly makes you feel for what the Pioneers went through. We are looking forward to the rest of the series being delivered today!

GinnyJuly 25, 2019

I have read it, as well as my husband and we both loved it! We are looking forward to the rest of the story!

RobertaJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for your story about Andrew. My son’s name is John, he 22 and is mentally challenged and has Autism. We too know so many movie scenes by heart. We get excited when he discovers a new movie. We’ve also learned we had some not so good movies after he played scenes with bad language or innuendo over and over. My biggest “break through” with our son happened when I was fasting and praying about him. He was 15 and having a particularly hard time at home and school. I was sincerely asking Heavenly Father why did he have to suffer so much and why did we as well? He is physically strong and looks typical on the outside. I was just trying to understand why and here’s where my answer came, I don’t even remember exactly how, but my question changed to “what can we do for him?” And my answer to that was to move from a smallish town in west Texas to Charlotte, NC, where there were some unique opportunities for him. We only were there 2 years, but it helped immensely. In another part of that prayer I was telling Heavenly Father all of the things I could do for Him if I didn’t have John the way that he is; temple work, genealogy, callings that take more time, etc... my answer was, “Duh, I have others to do that, I want you to take care of John.” We have learned to look for all the things John teaches us and the unique joy he brings to life.

Charles DefranchiJuly 25, 2019

A Pastor once prayed to become more patient. Next thing, his efficient Secretary had an accident, that caused her to be temporarily incapacitated. Her replacement turned out to be slow and making lots of mistakes. The Pastor soon got very annoyed with her, until he realized that she represented the very answer to his prayer! Along the same lines, the Lord gave me a Finnish wife, whose culture greatly contrasts with Mediterranean one. They remain silent until the other one is done while we are used to talking on top of each-other! As Joni suggests, it is never too late to learn to develop better communication skills out of desire for happy and loving relationships. Many thanks for the article!

SteveJuly 25, 2019

I am British and remain surprised that Americans lump Socialism and Communism as if they are absolute synonyms. In Western Europe we have a number of Socialist led countries - particularly the Scandinavian countries. They lead the world in terms of population happiness and quality of life. Most of the other European countries swing left and right at each election. Whilst I agree that Communism is anti-gospel, I also believe that rampant Capitalism is also anti-gospel.

Kathleen ChinJuly 24, 2019

Hahaha! I can relate! My late husband grew up in Orange County, CA. When he moved “North” to San Jose, CA for college, he said he was SO cold; he could NEVER get warm! (In San Jose, CA there is sometimes frost on the ground and roof tops on winter mornings.) I moved from a suburb of Minneapolis, MN to San Jose, CA. I didn’t wear a coat—EVER—the first winter I lived there. In 1990 we moved to Modesto, CA. My husband LOVED the heat—not me! I’m heat-sensitive, sun-sensitive, and allergic to sun screen; during the “hot season” (May - October) I live the life of a vampire—I come out when it’s dark—ha! Oh yes, and...I NEVER complain during the two months it’s cold here!

Boanerges RubalcavaJuly 24, 2019

"Climate change" is an euphemism used by the catastrophists because "global warming" was not as good for heir aims. Actually Climate change is truism since the clime has been changing since the earth is earth. The important point in here is what is causing the change. The constant factor always has been the SUN, and the changes have happened before the Industrial Revolution or for that matter the USA. I can give you hundreds of real scientific references to show you that the CO2 is not doing the trick, but I will give you just one fact that everybody knows about: the atmospheric composition is Nitrogen 78%, Oxygen 21%,Argon 0.8%. Here you already have 99.8%. In the 1950-60s, the amount of CO2 in the atmosphere was 0.032% and recently has been 0.038%, this is just 60 ppm(parts per million). Please draw a graph and in the X axis put from 0 to 1.000,000 ppm, and in the Y axis time. Now make points of Nitrogen concentration from 1960 to 2019 this will be 780,000 ppm all the time (no change); now put the C02 concentration at 1960 320 ppm and in 2019 380 ppm (if you want increase it to 410 the last data that the catastrophists came with few months ago). Can you see this change in your graph?

Karen EmeryJuly 24, 2019

I have always believed that the Lord is in control of everything, including the climate and the weather. This fine article reinforces my belief. I also believe that God made us caretakers of this beautiful,productive sphere and that we should all work together to protect and preserve it. "Let us all presson inthe work of the Lord!"

HalJuly 24, 2019

This was a poignant and personally painful article. I know several members of the church, some beloved friends, neighbors, and even family members, who very subtly try to lead other members away from the church and the counsel of the prophets. Their tactics range from enticements of worldly pleasure to touting their support of fringe social issues as being charitable. When I tried to explain that I love all of Heavenly Father's children and want to share with them that keeping His commandments brings true happiness, I am castigated as being bigoted, intolerant, or a "hater."

RandyJuly 24, 2019

D&C 104: 17 For the earth is full, and there is enough to spare; yea, I prepared all things, and have given them unto the children of men to be agents unto thenselves. The earth was prepared to fulfill its purpose by our Heavenly Father, who knows the end from the beginning. The only world saving that was required was accomplished by the Savior. I certainly believe it is my responsibility to be a wise steward of my small piece of the world, the only one who has the power to control the elements is the Savior. Matt. 8: 28.

Russell CannonJuly 24, 2019

Global warming in 1847 and Trump was not even alive yet?

HavenJuly 24, 2019

We see and believe what we want to see and believe. Neither, necessarily makes it true.

Rita MillerJuly 24, 2019

Brad, your questions brought me to tears in sympathy for your sadness. It is so hard to read about marvelous experiences that seem to happen to everyone but you. As I read through the scriptures many years ago as a new member, I heard the experiences of Moses, Isaiah, Paul, Nephi and Abish and wonder "Why not me?". What I failed to see was that each of these experiences were tailored to a specific need, either the person's or God's. I eventually had my own powerful witness, which came because the Lord needed me to do something. You, too, will have your own witness, but it's never an event that comes just because you want it. It comes because you are ready for it, even if you don't realize it before hand. His timing is always perfect, and He will manifest Himself to you in a most unexpected way, a way you can't explain to others or maybe even to yourself. You are being prepared for that, and it will come. Stay true to the course the Lord has set out for you, keep close to the Savior, and ask for strength to do what He asks of you. He loves you, completely and unconditionally.

MichaelJuly 24, 2019

Chip, regarding Ether 12:41, Moroni is speaking of prophetic writings regarding the coming and ministry of the Savior, and writings of New World apostles sharing and discussing the Savior's teachings among the Nephites.

RandyJuly 23, 2019

The only problem I found with this article was the problem all politicians have today: And that is that they refer our form of government as a democracy. We are a Constitutional or representative Republic. A democracy is majority rule. The United States is a Republic with representatives representing the people. This labeling of our form of government a democracy has been going on since the 70s. And it has everyone thinking that we are a democracy. In a representative republic, all people have rights and those rights are protected so that no one is more important than anyone else.

Rusty RobinsonJuly 23, 2019

For Brad G. We know the Saviour loves each of us very dearly, otherwise why take upon himself every sin we make, so that we can go to be with him. Probably he does come to you - just not in the same way he did with those in these stories. Think in your heart. Remember?

pamela Morgan roderJuly 23, 2019

Thank you Claire for sharing your lovely video w us to feel inspired by the sweet sound of your voice singing the words of Jesus. It warmed my heart. Beautifully done!

AnnekeJuly 23, 2019

These are great tips! Thank you for sharing. I would be cautious, though, about Save Our Bones. I am NOT one to take drugs without researching, but sometimes some medical intervention may be needed.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 23, 2019

Thank you for writing this article. I found it to be very interesting. I understand completely how we each can mix up what a person says because often I try to tell others what someone said and get it wrong. I didn't know about how the last five years of Joseph Smith was actually reconstructed by his friends and recorders. I enjoy your articles very much. I always learn a lot.

HalJuly 23, 2019

When I found myself single many years ago, I purchased a modest home and furnished it almost entirely with items from Deseret Industries (all for less than $200). When I remarried and we bought a new home, all of the furnishings went back to DI before we moved. Easiest move ever!

Marilyn CrandallJuly 23, 2019

This is so tenderly written! Thank you for sharing! Your expressions of love made me smile and cry for my own empty spaces; which you showed me how to fill.

Charles DefranchiJuly 23, 2019

This to thank Cheryl Burton for her wise and enligthening advice, which will significantly help me in dealing with my less-active children. I may also add that we, mortals with limited perspective, do not always realize that the great work of salvation continues beyond the veil. This gives us great hopes that, no matter what, our efforts to bring salvation to our loved ones, as well as to all those we may be able to influence for good, will eventually pay off, if not in this life, in the hereafter.

Mary Ann KershisnikJuly 23, 2019

I loved reading about your wonderful Grandma Verna. I had such grandmothers who filled my life with love. Thank you for urging me through your words to think of them today!!!

BradGJuly 23, 2019

These stories are wonderful and they brought me to tears. I’ve come to understand that in my case I am an emotional person and where some consider a welling up of emotion to be evidence of the influence of the Spirit, I cannot. Stories like these I choose to believe but the thought always comes: why to these? Why not to all? Why not to me? What made them “special” when there are others that yearn for such an experience and receive none? Is it worthiness? I didn’t notice that these individuals exhibited any particular worthiness. We understand God is no respecter of persons. Not everyone that considers taking their life receives an intervening visit from the Savior, my guess is very few. So why these, and not me? I love stories like these but they make me sad. Self-pity is not a desirable trait I know.

Ron ClarkJuly 23, 2019

Sadly, this reviewer missed the beauty behind Lion King. It's her opinion, however, and she's entitled to it, but for the many we know, including ourselves, the Lion King rings with great drama, compassion, magnificent cinematography, and a level of computer-aided technique that transcends anything produced by Disney thus far. Audiences are proving the critics wrong. It's a must-see that touches the heart and rekindles the beauty of the original. The two art-forms were not meant to clash with each other. The new generation of film production in this case is a true compliment to the original. Take with a grain of salt the negatives. See the movie, sit back and enjoy the talent of gifted souls who labor long and hard to entertain us. Disney accomplished it and then some.

JeanJuly 23, 2019

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing such tender and heartwarming memories and "reunions" of and with your grandmother.

Ken HazelbakerJuly 23, 2019

You are too harsh - we loved the movie = absolutely enthralled with the realism of the technology We think they did a terrible disgrace to Elton John's circle of life The singer sounded amateur and shallow you left out a good thought about being the reflection of our father as he looked in the pool Having been to Africa on a safari hunt the realism of the animals was greatly appreciated - even to the syncopation of their individual gaits choreographed to the music. why can't you just sit back enjoy the movie for what it is instead of making such clinically detailed analysis? Like who cares who the actors are let's just enjoy the movie

Carol MartinJuly 23, 2019

These accounts brings tears to my eyes. He loves us very much.

AngelsingsJuly 23, 2019

Remember, Joseph Smith was a teenager when he witnessed the Father & His Son.

Jan KingJuly 23, 2019

When we see a person speaking we have more than just their words to judge their meaning by. Voice tone and body language tells us much. This is not that. Confidence can be misunderstood as arrogance, especially when tone is lacking. Personally seeing God the Father and his son Jesus Christ would inspire a level of confidence unlike any other life experience.

Wendy LanderJuly 23, 2019

Save Our Bones is a great program. I highly recommend it. It includes scripts to explain to your doctor why you will not take medications with such dreadful side effects. It is carefully researched and referenced. We have been following the program for several years and been very satisfied

Herm OlsenJuly 23, 2019

Beautiful account of a wonderful woman. I particularly loved reading the dedication at the beginning of the Scrapbook. I wonder where and when she spoke to a group of women in Logan - because some of my relatives might have attended. Thanks for introducing us to a sweet daughter who, I’m sure, still lovingly watches over you!

WILLIAMJuly 23, 2019

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Annie B.July 22, 2019

I am so glad to see this monument. My great grandmother lost two. One shortly after they started from Council Bluffs and one who was born crossing and only lived a few days. She carried the second one for two days until they reached the Strawberry River. There she let them bury the child because others were buried there and the baby wouldn’t be alone.

Helga SilskiJuly 22, 2019

I love the sweet young voice and innocence, there is purity that so often lacks from adult performers. Even the dress is part of the performance, here again Claire beautiful but simple and it does not detract from her song that she shares with us. Perfect rendition, so uplifting and sweet. THANK YOU

JohnJuly 22, 2019

you truly live up to your name, "bright" you light the world with your God given talent thank You

Judy HaddadJuly 22, 2019

My husband & I read the book & saw how the Beans overcame the adversity & completed their mission for the Church. They weren’t released for 25 years & were heartsick to leave when they were released. We are so disappointed here in Ontario, Canada that this movie will not be shown here. There are so many Saints who would love to see this movie.

SeagullSuzJuly 22, 2019

...okay fine!...now hiw about some information about the children 8-11...what will the boys be doing without Cub Scours...and the activity Day girls..apparently the Faith in God Program will be discontinued...when will we hear about the replacement?...

LINDA ALDERMANJuly 22, 2019

We own a Photo Equipment sales and Photography business (42 years) All our children went to college except for one son. He chose not to attend college. He had a job(s) While in High School and before he left on his mission and when he was soon to return from his Mission,one of the businessmen wrote him and offered him his job back in a print shop, When he returned, he reluctantly took the job but also worked in Insurance sales. My son soon realized his best opportunity was at the Print shop and focused on that.....Long story short, he now owns Quality Printing. He and his wife and 2 children are doing well and he did not have to go to college to make his way. We advised him along the way when he sought out our advice and experience. But he's a self made man and doing well.

Monty Brown AlvordJuly 22, 2019

Your grandfather is my great uncle. As a young girl I lived close to them in Calif. Visited with Aunt Zina and Uncle Hugh and family quite often. My father Lamont Brown, loved and respected him so much. He was going to marry me and my to be husband but something came up and it didn't happen. I always felt so badly about that. I have much history about him if you are interested. Email me if you would like to. It was wonderful to read your beautiful story!

Heidi WolfJuly 22, 2019

Thanks for sharing these great ideas. I loved your mom. She was a wonderful person.

AllenJuly 22, 2019

Most, if not all representative assemblies in this country have procedures in place that allow the citizens to recall elected officials who are not doing their duties or who are not in keeping with community standards. The citizens of this community and others with similar situations ought to be petitioning for recall elections for each offending politician. If they allow these people to continue in office, they are inviting other abuses of power, since the underlying ideals of the offenders will not change.

Carol Grass WinklerJuly 22, 2019

And after days like that, she still took time to do my husband's shirts! Keith had the privilege two summers of his Eastern States missionary experience of serving as the voice of King Lamoni at the Hill Cumorah pageant. The summer of 1955 in the first year of our marriage, we drove to Palmyra and he told me of the Beans, who had by then been released. This was before the days of "wash 'n wear", and the missionaries still had to have white shirts done up for the public appearances. Since his days were filled with assignments on the construction crew and his evenings were taken for performances, dear Sister Bean took over having his white shirts washed, ironed, and ready for him daily. Though I never met her, she has always been an inspiration.

Cheryl BurtonJuly 22, 2019

As I have several children who are on different paths than how they were raised, I have learned there are 7 things that we can do. First and foremost is to LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY. Even if we don't mention anything about their inactivity they can feel the negative energy that comes from withholding our love. Which brings us to the second big one which is DO NOT BE JUDGMENTAL. We are all on our journey back to our Heavenly Parents and need to honor Their gift to us of having agency, to be authors of our own actions. This includes ourselves! Do not waste time and precious energy beating ourselves up as to what we did or did not do in the past. This is not only counterproductive (unless we need to repent of any wrongdoing) and will deplete our energy for being able to be there for those who need us.One of my favorite mantras: Regret looks back. Fear looks forward. Faith looks up. #3 and 4 are the obvious PRAY sincerely and FAST with real intent. #5 Bless their names as we put them on TEMPLE PRAYER ROLLS. #6 Consistently send them positive, encouraging and LOVING THOUGHTS throughout the day. Their true self, their spirit will feel those affirmations and positive energy. And #7 (which is symbolic of completeness and spiritual perfection) ask for the ATONEMENT of JESUS CHRIST to bless our hurting heart to be comforted, even healed so we don't stand in the way of them coming back to Him. I find a divine connection when I use this 7th step and actually surrender my pain and their choice of journey back to Him. Then I can "give it a rest" and feel His rest as He rested on the 7th day of Creation. As I reflect the past years I can stand back and see the holes in my heart have allowed space for His Love and Light to enter in for growth and sanctification.

Marsha NewmanJuly 22, 2019

Can’t wait to see it! Historical films are a superb way for our generation to “virtually “ experience the heroism and effort that our ancestors shouldered daily To push God’s work forward. They set the disciple bar high! May we follow worthily in their footsteps.

Ruth JamiesonJuly 21, 2019

What a wonderful story of faith! Can't wait to see the movie and read the book!

Ann-Marie JensenJuly 21, 2019

Thanks for the best lesson I've ever received about Paul and his missionary work!

Mark MathesonJuly 21, 2019

Great analogy, Mr. Turner. Thank you for sharing it. Very few things in life do we test Before we buy.

CodyJuly 20, 2019

Gentle parents - I so get this! If music is the chosen path for your son, there are great tools to give him practical preparation and give you peace of mind about it. Is your family aware of the Commercial Music Program at South Plains College in Levelland, TX? I can’t say enough good about this amazing program! Top-notch instruction & mentoring in musicianship development, recorded and live-sound technical skills, music industry & entertainment business skills, and lots of performance opportunities. SPC is a public community college - personalized instruction, reasonable tuition, degree granting, transferable credit to 4 yr “U” if that ever becomes his desire. My high school aged daughters have been taking a live band performance class @ SPC over the last year & I am simply amazed at the program. Diverse music offerings - rock, jazz, blue grass, experimental, country, inspirational, and hybrids of all! If your son wants to explore the world of professional music, he would be hard-pressed to find a more supportive, professional environment in which to do so.

TimJuly 20, 2019

I too am shocked at the number of members who have bought into socialism. They seriously need to look into what they are siding with because, as Roxylynne so aptly says, everything about current left wing socialism goes against virtually everything the gospel stands for. At its worst, socialism/communism the very plan we once rejected in favour of free agency on this earth.

Jen McDonaldJuly 20, 2019

Thank you for the wonderful story of Brother Johnson and the birth of the church in Ghana. My son is currently serving a mission in West Africa and I have shared this story with him. The people of Africa are thirsting for the Gospel and so receptive to the missionaries. I appreciate the time and thought you put into your very interesting and thought-provoking podcast each week.

DENNIS BOTTJuly 19, 2019

I served a mission in the Southwest British Mission [1965 - 1968] where President Brown was a frequent visitor...on one occasion I was present during a mission wide meeting where President Brown spoke to we missionaries...during that meeting he gave this Currant Bush parable and I can testify of the power that is contained therein...I also was privileged to be personally interviewed by President Brown as he toured the mission when we were congregated in zone conferences and that was a very humbling experience...his gaze seemed to penetrate my very heart and his unconditional love for the Lord glowed...as President Brown told the Currant Bush parable he made eye contact with each missionary as if to say "take my testimony to heart because the Lord will cut you down in order to cause fruitful growth, it may be painful but remember the Lord IS the Gardener here".

stevie mckennaJuly 19, 2019

Thank you for this very insightful read. Paul is a very interesting character and such a talented missionary. You brought this out beautifully.

Elliot MorrisJuly 19, 2019

"Open borders" is an incendiary phrase. It is used by those who fear liberalized immigration to demonize any and all who suggest that current restrictions on immigration are detrimental to our national well-being. There are many who favor unrestricted or less restricted migration. Some of them are socialists. Some are not (the Cato Institute being one. Hardly a Socialist organization). There are socialists, however, who ardently oppose immigration (the Chinese, for example). In other words, immigration is a policy issue every nation faces and is not determined by economic ideology (capitalism v. socialism). Many free market economists and thinkers favor the free flow of labor accross national borders. It is dangerous, I believe, to marry words like "Socialsim" and "Open Borders" as this tends to impede intelligent discourse concerning what immigration policy is best for the country. To put it another way, free market, liberty loving folks like myself, who believe in a more liberal immigration policy do not very much like being lumped in with Socialists.

Bill LawlerJuly 19, 2019

Love Issac’s comments and insights. I hadn’t thought of any of those three principles but now I will. Thank you Prof Calvert!

Chip WhitmerJuly 19, 2019

Ether 12:41 -- "And now, I would commend you to seek this Jesus of whom the prophets and apostles have written..." (Moroni editorializing.) This suggests pretty strongly that Moroni was familiar with New Testament writings. How he would have received those writings is open for speculation.

Jan KingJuly 19, 2019

I agree with Paul Wheeler.....it would have been nice to have had more information. What was the inside performance to have been??

Juli RileyJuly 19, 2019

I am so excited for this movie to finally come out! I've read the book a few times and loved reading about the great heart of these people. I'm so excited to see it in film.

McKay TurnerJuly 19, 2019

Every time someone told me "you need to take a car for a test drive" thing, I tell them they’re using the wrong analogy. It’s more like building a new house. You’ve never lived in it, but together you carefully pick and choose how you want it to look, how you build it, how it’s furnished. And once it’s built, you need to work on, and maintain the house. Then you can make changes to it over time. Add new rooms, new levels, new appliances, repaint it, keep it fresh etc

Ann-MarieJuly 19, 2019

Great book. Fantastic people.

Judy IrvingJuly 19, 2019

GREAT summary I can't name sources, but remember a talk at a BYU at Devotional in which the speaker said the suffering of the unrepentant doesn't expiate for their sins. We can't pay back the law, only Christ's atonement does. I'd love to get sources on that because it does make sense. Per force we suffer because we're outside of the only power that can relieve us -until we use the atonement to be cleansed - but our suffering doesn't pay back the Law of Justice, only Christ does that. After the suffering evidently the holdouts do reconcile to the atonement before receiving a kingdom of glory, but the suffering is a result of rejecting the power of the atonement up to that point.

Dennis MckayJuly 18, 2019

Wow!! Simply amazing. The words and meaning of the song, The music and scenery and Clair's incredible presentation are all such a perfect combination. Love it!! Thank you!!

Maggie BannachJuly 18, 2019

The PTSD that comes with abuse is not just a matter of forgive, suck it up or act maturely. It is not vendictiveness or revenge. It is overwhelming uncontrollable emotions that threaten to shame or embarrass you. They are so powerful the crying & anxiety won't stop. This isn't about being mature enough to put your child first on their day. It's about being able to get through the day without spending the entire event hiding in the bathroom.

Kareen T ChristenJuly 18, 2019

This was an interesting story that was similar to one my Father in Law told about his experience in the Army during World War ll. He was also up for a promotion from Major to Colonel and was passed over because, "He is a Mormon". This was a big disappointment but he later retired as a Major and went on to be a successful business man. He was one of the founders of SOS Temporary Services in Salt Lake City. His name was Russell Christen.

SuzieJuly 18, 2019

There are some things that a spouse may feel, but absolutely should not say...such as “Wow, you are sure getting fat.” I would never want to say something that hurts my spouse, even if there was truth to it. When I was younger, I said unkind things that were true, but often did so because I was upset. There came a point where I didn’t have it in me to fight anymore...and I started just being respectful and more agreeable. That escalated to where we both have become kinder to each other. We enjoy every day together, and we both feel loved. We must obey the Savior when he says, “Cease to find fault.” I do not even allow myself to THINK a negative thought about my spouse. I concentrate on his many positive traits, and we both are blessed.

Joni HiltonJuly 18, 2019

Thank you so much for this extremely generous praise. I will live on that compliment for a very long time! How grateful I am that you took time to write words that made my day!

Merlyn de la MelenaJuly 18, 2019

Exquisite! I’ll listen to her any time you include her in the Meridian.

Sue C.July 18, 2019

I love this Claire. Thanks for sharing your talents with us. It made my day.

SusanJuly 18, 2019

Our experience is that when one person keeps has feelings that don't get expressed, the other person can sense it, and could possibly interpret it negatively: He's not talking..is he mad? Did I do something wrong? Doesn't she think I can handle what she's going to say?

Joel Robin MarksJuly 18, 2019

Hugh B Brown strikes again!!

N. Larry JackJuly 18, 2019

Enjoyed your article. If you are interested I have a Great personal story about your Grandfather, Hugh B Brown

Larry WimmerJuly 18, 2019

Thank you, Marilyn. Yes, your grandfather was a great man; a very special man among the many with whom he served. I am also grateful to have known him. As tender and loving as any leader I have known. In addition, he has an extraordinary and beautiful granddaughter - Marilyn. From your past HT and always your friend.

Sarah HomerJuly 18, 2019

Aunt Marilyn, I too am grateful for the examples of faith that are found within our family. I cherish every moment with you and I know that Grandpa Brown continues to reach out to his family on the earth and help bring them the peace of heaven. Thank you for writing this article; it was just what I needed to read this morning!

Ben JonesJuly 18, 2019

The Church has been noticed for its members being good citizens of whatever country they are citizens of. In particular, Saints in East Germany were able to get a Temple before the Berlin Wall came down by virtue of their honoring their commitments to return from visiting temples in Western Europe. When the Tabernacle Choir visits other countries, it sings the national anthems and some pieces in the languages of those countries out of respect to them. They still get much applause for singing Battle Hymn of the Republic wherever they go.

JaneJuly 18, 2019

Thank you for sharing this powerful story of Pres. Brown's. It is one of my favorites. What a lesson for him and for us. It is a treasure!

Michael Shea, MDJuly 18, 2019

It is nothing less than astonishing to me that anyone with even a primitive education and cognitive ability above the 3rd grade level could countenance such a pernicious and blatantly evil ideology. There are certainly more dullards in this country than I ever imagined.

Kenneth W VickersJuly 18, 2019

I was bothered by the author worrying about what people in the congregation who may not be American born. I love my country, the Founding Fathers are my heros. I respected the customs of the people of Turkey when I was stationed there in the US Air Force. I also love to the Stars and Stripes waving in the breeze, in front of chapels as well as on Temple grounds, to me, it is a banner of freedom. I would recommend both author and those posting comments, to read "The Covenant, One Nation Under God" by Timothy Ballard. I consider myself a patriot. When I took the oath to defend the Constitution of The United gates of America, when I enlisted in the Air Force, it is a life time commitment to me. I also would suggest reading the history of the Star Spangled Banner, how the flag was held upright by true patriots, and as they were dying another would take his place. I apprecIate Jim Merrell's comments.

KC DayJuly 18, 2019

There is a great divide in America today. It's between those who reject change and those who insist change is needed. We have a President who is doing everything possible to further widen that gap. Nothing he says or does is remotely true to the Gospel Jesus preached, including the Sermon on the Mount. Until we elect a President with the wisdom and compassion of King Benjamin, this divide will widen, until we are once again fighting each other in the streets. Trump exemplifies everything that is wrong with Capitialists. He worships money and power. There are so many scandals associated with him, all of them sordid and examples of violating the 10 Commandments. No wonder that some people who reject his ideology are also rejecting his version of Capitialism and wish to steer our government into becoming more responsive to the needs of the less fortunate among us. They look to Socialism and Communism as examples of government that is socially responsive and responsible because they are the exact opposite of our current Administration. It is the fear that Trump will turn us into a facist state, or a twisted Theocracy devoid of Gospel principles, that is motivating their words and actions. And left unchecked, that's exactly where we are heading. We need a new version of Capitialism, one that rewards those who acheive, but also requires those individuals to pay fair taxes to assure everyone in this country has access to shelter, food and health.

RuthAnnJuly 18, 2019

I love this message so much! And me and my wrinkles needed to hear it! Thanks so much

Sandra LucusJuly 18, 2019

Marilyn ...thank you for your great example throughout our friendship. You have been an inspiration to all who know and love you. I have always admired your ability to love and serve all those you come in to contact with. Your grandparents, family and friends are so blessed to be apart of your circle of love.

Ruth JamiesonJuly 18, 2019

So beautiful! Just what I needed this morning. Thanks Claire, love your sweet voice and testimony.

KIMBERLY H CATRONJuly 18, 2019

Thank you for sharing your story. This is so important to love with all we have. That's the way people will be touched and know of our genuine concern and hope and love for them. I love that you felt the love not only from your grandparents, but from aunts and uncles and cousins.

CW2SADJuly 18, 2019

I'm the bulletin specialist for my ward and learned something interesting after that particular Sunday. I put in the bulletin, under the information for the hymn, "Please, if possible, stand for our national anthem." The bishop informed me afterwards that the presiding leader at the meeting decides if standing is to be done or not. I'd never heard that before... BTW: Our ward stood.

Kevin D KrauseJuly 18, 2019

I know socialism is bad. I'm not promoting it in any way, but Capitalism has its week points too. I feel like the Socialism movement is picking up pace because so many are unhappy with the current state of things, and they are desperately seeking something new.

HelenJuly 18, 2019

Thank you for this! None of my grandchildren have the Gospel in their lives. I will increase my prayers on their behalves.

CW2SADJuly 18, 2019

Perspective. Changing a person's perspective can change their life. You work in each article to assist us in changing our perspective and I so appreciate it. Admittedly, you're one of the reasons I don't write; I could never wield words the way you do... Thank you. I need you. Your community needs you. Your Church needs you. The world needs about 8 billion more of you.

vickieJuly 18, 2019

yes I do understand this message...its a great story. I was the best girl tennis player on the team at my school. I played hard because I loved it. I was just playing and having so much fun doing it that I hadn't realized I made number one on the team. boys were trying to play me and I beat one that did. well, I was proud. my father told me not knowing my circumstances that we had moved and he could no longer come this late at my high school to pick me up so he told me I had to quit. plus my grades weren't all that good so I had to quit. I am sure my tennis coach freaked out because here he had someone who beat out everyone. well, that brought me down. I had to quit and I did. the only blessing from this was...I didn't have to play in front of crowds of people. I hated playing in front of anyone because I played for me because I enjoyed it so much. many times in my life I reached the top only to find that this was all I was expected to do; to see that yes I can do well and that was all I needed at that time.

KarenJuly 18, 2019

W.O.W. Beahtifly powerful.

Leslie HillmanJuly 18, 2019

Thank you so much for this heartwarming article! I too had active Latter-day Saint grandparents who prayed daily for my brother and me, and I’m sure also for my half brother and sister. My father was active on and off after my parents split up. My full brother and I went to church with our mother and were baptized at ages 9 and 10. My father was estranged from his family but I made contact with them as an adult. What a wonderful reception! And the spontaneous family reunions as I visited aunts and uncles and cousins! I sadly never met my grandparents, as they had died when I was 14. I love to do temple work, and my brother is a temple worker! We each have children who also attend the temple!

K. Chin - Modesto, CAJuly 18, 2019

So many times I’ve heard these words, “All I can do is pray that....” I have come to learn that the word “all” should be changed to “EVERYTHING!” Prayer IS the BEST and MOST powerful action we can ALWAYS take. This story reminds me of everything good and hopeful we can do to help our families and ourselves. Many, MANY, thanks for sharing it!

Janneke BaasJuly 18, 2019

How I recognize your experience. Only: I had no grandfather to teach me about the Church, to pray for me and guide me. My parents were against any form of religion. As a child of 4, in kindergarten I first heard the story of the birth of Jesus. Since then I have been searching for a church and a religion. It was a long and hard road. But this feelings you describe, that you knew there must be a God who is personal, I recognise. A little girl with a touch of heaven is not easily discouraged.......

Alexander ForsythJuly 17, 2019

How did Saint Paul know what to write to the Corinthian Church? Did he receive "revelation" from Heaven? There is a simple explanation: open the New Testament and read 1Corinthians chapter One verse eleven: "For it hath been declared unto me of you, my brethren,by them which are of the house of Chloe, that there are contentions among you." Today, the First Presidency, and the Quorum of the Twelve get reports from Stake and Mission Presidents, and others, as to the needs of a Global Church. I am not a Church Member; only an "Investigator" - however, it is obvious that a parallel situation exists in this 21st Century, as it did in the 1st Century.

Barbara O'BrienJuly 17, 2019

In conclusion, please be assured that senior Church leaders who preside over the divinely appointed purposes of the Church receive divine assistance. This guidance comes from the Spirit and sometimes directly from the Savior. Both kinds of spiritual guidance are given. I am grateful to have received such assistance. ~ Quentin L Cook ; General Conference 2018 ; Prepare to meet God

Charles DefranchiJuly 17, 2019

Because our Church is being faced with a wide variety of attacks through Social Media and other means, I highly recommend the reading or viewing of "Stand for Ever," by ElderLawrence E. Corbridge, dellivered at BYU on January 22, 2019 (see https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/lawrence-e-corbridge/stand-for-ever/)

RoxylynneJuly 17, 2019

I'm not sure how we overcome the rampant ignorance of people who think socialism in any form is going to offer anything but bondage, pain and suffering. The most discouraging is to see young lds people, students at our own universities spout views that are the antithesis of the gospel.

Denise CottrellJuly 17, 2019

Thank you Eileen for sharing this tender story. I purchased your book and read it and have shared you message with family and friends. The Savior is always close and aware of us, our happiness and our heartaches and trials. Your book will (and has) touched many. Our special time together in Europe is a memory never to be forgotten. Love to you and your family. Denise and Dave Cottrell

Samantha from TennesseeJuly 17, 2019

My youngest was a cryer from the git-go. If she was unhappy she wanted to make everyone miserable. To make matters worse, when she got wound up, she could imitate a siren. EVERYONE at church knew whose baby was crying! We finally got through infanthood ...only to be stymied to know what MIGHT bring on the flood. It came down to ‘letting’ her stay in her room until the flow would stop. Bingo! It’s no fun crying by yourself (unlike crying and getting what or nearly what you want—attention)! Forward to HER last baby. I got used to the calls about her crying baby (minus the siren), and finally told her as long as he was fed, dry, and painless (that’s another story) she’ have to put up with it until he was older. Then her older sister came to visit. she took one look at the now toddler crying and said, “Oh, so he’s your ‘mini-me’!” Later, after sister had left, my crier asked, “Was I THAT bad?” Oh, Baby, you’re learning fast.....

AndrewJuly 17, 2019

When are we actually going to see the text of the June 1978 revelation.?

Paul HJuly 17, 2019

Great scriptural examples. In Acts 10, two things have beeen left out: 1) The Spirit told Peter the men inquiring after him had been sent and it was OK for Peter to go with them back to Cornelius's house, and 2) After Peter preached the Gospel to them and the Holy Ghost bore witness of the truth of it, Peter baptized them and continued to teach them; it wasn't preach, then leave but rather baptize and build the Kingdom of God using the time that required. Studying Acts is also fascinating to see why Peter was in the area. The Lord knows who, what, why and how to help us with our issues AND He actually does so---it isn't just theory that He has the power to do so.

ChuckJuly 17, 2019

To see the truth of this article, go to the Internet and look at sites about : "Stars of the ____s---where are they now?" You will find pictures of people thought beautiful, handsome, sexy, several years ago---and they look like ordinary people now, growing older, just like us. Thanks for this--hope it helps those who need it.

DL AndersonJuly 17, 2019

All I would add is that men, too, are obsessed with self-image (physical beauty) as much as women appear to be. Please be aware brethren that all these points apply as much to you as it does to we sisters.

Paul WheelerJuly 17, 2019

No mention was made of why so many men had white shirts and ties. Was this a special "Mormon Night on Broadway" event? Was it near the temple and a meeting was taking place when the black out occurred? I cannot imagine why that many people in white shirts and ties just happened to be there in one group.

Haze KompelienJuly 17, 2019

As a mother, grandmother, and Labor & Delivery nurse, this is so funny, so accurate!

Carol AnnJuly 17, 2019

Having seen this spectacular production in past years and feeling the great Spirit that attended it, I have to say, "This is a very SAD day!"

KentJuly 17, 2019

Daris, I look forward to the Wednesday edition of Meridian for the simple reason i know your column will be there. i never took a family vacation with my parents or with my own children with a telephone - and now i feel blessed for the lack of experience.

LoraJuly 17, 2019

I come from the future: revenge is near. It's called EARLY MORNING SEMINARY. That's when you get to wake the kids up! Also, there is a lovely phase in childhood between 5 and 10 when children are adorable and you just know you are the best mother on earth. But remember these years, because no matter how much your teens challenge you, they are still easier than infants and toddlers. For one thing, they are self-cleaning. They can dress themselves, feed themselves, and you don't have to bring them with you to the store. After they are grown, they may have children just like themselves! (That's a lot of fun, too!) But beware: they may want you to babysit.

LoraJuly 17, 2019

Aging has been a blessing to me. My own mother got old at a young age. She spent 20 years completely bedridden and died at the age of 60 of a massive heart attack. She never got to be my age. Any time I am tempted to moan about my body, I can hear her saying to me, "Did you get out of bed on your own? You are having a good day." As far as looks, I have noticed that the most beautiful women are serving in the temple with lights in their eyes that shine from the soul. Smiling is a free, instant and painless face lift. Letting go of competing with others for the Fairest of Them All is such a relief! All young women are more beautiful than they realize, and the love of God makes all of us, at every age, so beautiful! I wish I'd known this sooner!

Milton H.July 17, 2019

We must remember that God established our free land--first and foremost, among its many virtues, as a place where the true gospel of Jesus Christ and His Church could be restored. (This is recognized by latter-day saints, wherever they may live.) So our National Anthem is most appropriate for inclusion in our hymn book, WITHOUT any qualms.

Ruth annJuly 16, 2019

Beautiful, simply beautiful.

Jose GomisJuly 16, 2019

Thank you for beautiful stories; And I to can testify of the Holy Ghost which teaches me over and over and the blessing that the Holy Ghost has been to me in fortifying my testimony. I have seen all the miracles that Jesus did; done my men of the priesthood but none are as important as the gift of the Holy Ghost as we look for more ways to make ourselves better, then that the conformation of the Holy Ghost. All those daily Miracles that keep us strong, believing in those miracles that happen to us personally including and knowing that Heavenly Father and Jesus gave us a name to go through vail to come to is earth and to return through vail also with same. Learn of all the miracles is good but more importantly love the one that you can create with the Holy Ghost by following it's directions. Remembering that we must be asking for them. Then doing them! Little by little the voice become clearer and clearer and more pointed as to what we should do by doing what it asks.

vickieJuly 16, 2019

what a beautiful and precious story this is. I felt sadness for Julene and her family. I have also seen things happen just like this to other people. they seem to be in a very good place in life here on earth and then suddenly something out of the blue happens and it changes everything. maybe its like they have such a wonderful spirit that their test is something drastic but doesn't last forever and they go home. God bless her family.

KenJuly 16, 2019

Ben is right, it's not a choice, but that's because choice is not the right word. No one really thinks anyone was offered a choice to have SSA or not. It is the attraction they feel, which is real, but somehow based on a part of our nature, maybe more or less of one hormone or another, and a part of our nurture, what happened in our environment. I can give lots of examples or explanations of how childhood brains interpret situations to support one idea or another. No one will ever be able to establish how every little life experience may contribute to how we view those of the same or opposite sex. It's dishonest to claim people are not inclusive, intolerant or hateful just because they want a person to get help for what they are experiencing, rather than feed a lie that it's all nature.

J. JamisonJuly 16, 2019

My experience/advice: If you offer scripture in attempt to "tone down" inflammation or your view during discussions becomes inflamed - leave any "political" discussion alone with individual

Jo AnnJuly 16, 2019

Vocal Point always does amazing performances.

BenJuly 16, 2019

Same sex attraction (SSA) is not a choice. Nobody chose to experience SSA. You can of course choose to act out or stay true to the covenants you made. As somebody who is suffering (yes I suffer) from SSA I know that for whatever reason I experience SSA it is how Heavenly Father wants me to be. I'm not less a man because of my SSA. If I choose to seek counseling in hope to possibly overcome SSA it will be my own decision. Nobody has the right to tell me " No, you can't do this." And if I choose to live with SSA and by doing so miss some blessings during my mortal time it will also be my decision. As long as I stand true to my covenants I will eventually lose no blessings whatsoever. For a Latter-day member it is especially challenging to do not feel alienated or lost in the eyes of Heavenly Father. I have to learn every day that my Father in Heaven loves me regardless from what I might suffer. THAT is true inclusion!

Robyn GreenJuly 16, 2019

Right on Paul H

Stephen DoneJuly 16, 2019

Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing this. I've been fighting for my right and my children's right to ethical therapy to address unwanted same-sex attractions in Utah and I've been feeling so alone. So incredibly tired of being told I was "lying to myself" and that I "hadn't really changed". I literally sobbed when I read this article. Maybe sometime soon the Deseret News will have the courage to publish something similar.

Margaret DaBellJuly 16, 2019

Thank you, Eileen, for sharing Julene’s experience and the blessings she has given to your family.

MelanieJuly 16, 2019

Love this ❤️

roxanneJuly 16, 2019

well done. thank you

Celeste McclainJuly 16, 2019

This article is a great one! I’ve said before that I’m a new convert and I’m learning everything anew and fresh! Learning this history of Joseph Smith is amazing and makes me appreciate and love him all the more! The great works he had ahead of him, the ridicule and persecution that awaited him and his unmovable faith in the Lord is so inspiring! I Too knew nothing of that governor of that time, that Ford fellow.... see I forgot his first name (joking)! However, I knew Joseph Smith name before my conversion! It’s amazing what you learn just by reading articles in the Meridian! I’m so elated and proud to be apart of this Church, of Jesus Christ LDS! One of the best decisions of my life! God is always here with us! I’m learning so much, not only through my teachings, but reading articles like these helps to strengthen my faith! Thank You for your article, it was enlightening!

Charles DefranchiJuly 16, 2019

Just reading this brought tears to my eyes. How can one complain about our own miseries when seeing a family going through such a challenge and yet be such an example of faith and long-suffering?! There was no miraculous healing and recovery for Julie, but the miracle is in the healing of the souls of all who will read this story.

Celeste McclainJuly 16, 2019

I am just floored! I love your story, and it has helped me put things in perspective! Heavenly Father is so amazing and will never forsake us! I truly believe he never left your daughter, your Angel or your family, not once! I’m so sorry for your loss, but I’m grateful for your testimony and faith! I have to admit, it has made my faith stronger! I have to look at ALL the miracles around me and learn to appreciate them all and Thank God for them all! Thank you for your Angel’s story!

Gill RutterJuly 16, 2019

As a non American member, I do find it inappropriate seeing flags (of any nationality)actually in chapels, on the stand and more especially, on Temple grounds. I guess it is all about cultural differences, but I personally feel uncomfortable with the idea. Church property should be neutral territory.

Janice Kapp PerryJuly 15, 2019

I am so honored that my song was meaningful during your great trial. Thank you for the copy of your book Which I read with great interest and heartbreak. Bless you for your great faith. Love, Janice

Becky EdwardsJuly 15, 2019

I love this story and have shared it quite a few times! I'm speaking at BYU-Idaho Education Week in a few weeks. May I have your permission to share the story there, as well as the picture at the beginning of the article?

Carol AnnJuly 15, 2019

Hmmm! And, I thought there was just one congresswoman who spoke out and disliked this country so much from Minnesota! Sounds to me like the good, sensible people of Minnesota and elsewhere need to start making their voices heard in the town halls of this state and be move vocal and stand up for the flag, the Pledge of Allegiance, and this country and its principles and values before "those" people with their noise and publicity are the majority voice! God bless America!

Gerald G FullerJuly 15, 2019

You asked, "But again, isn’t it wrong and even dangerous to affirm “conquer we must,” even if we add the qualification “when our cause it is just”? " How did you understand that notion? Did you understand it to me "we must go forth conquering and to conquer"? I have never so understood it. I have always taken it to mean that when our cause is just, and there is no other way to fulfill what is right without conquering and enemy who would prevent our just cause, we will not be made to fail Notice that lately we seem to have endless wars, wars which never seem to "conquer" the opposition? Could it be that we have lost the justness of our cause?

PamJuly 15, 2019

There are hymns that I think we should include (Amazing Grace) and some I don’t care for but are in the hymn book because the lyricists were prominent Church members; not all hymns are created equal. Does it harm anyone to acknowledge our patriotism? God gave us this country as a gift and it was sanctified by the shedding of blood. We are rearing our children to love their home country and when we have nonmembers visiting I think they should hear music that they recognize and love. One of my sons said he cringed every time “Praise to the Man” was sung when he was a missionary in the South, nonmember visitors didn’t get it. I also wish we had more music by classic composers like Mendelssohn and Handel. That would be inspiring and beautiful.

Annette SladeJuly 15, 2019

Love Celeste's testimony !!

Susan ImigJuly 15, 2019

Thank you for posting this! We had heard about kids singing outside Carnegie Hall while watching ‘The Blackout’ on Fox, but did not realize it had anything to do with the Church! The young interviewer tried to get a small group of the kids to sing as they wandered over to her interview spot, but they did not take her up on the offer. How nice to know that this choir was able to bring the light of the Gospel to a dark city.

Paul HJuly 15, 2019

One might want to read again the Articles of Faith if singing a national anthem celebrating the founding of the nation in which you are singing makes you uncomfortable. Being too sensitive is not healthy.

Sam HobbsJuly 15, 2019

If I may humbly make a request to those seeking to invite members to return: please do not pretend that the past was anything other than it was. Along with this newfound transparency, I often hear statements like "that was never doctrine, it was always just policy" or "the church never tried to cover this up," or "that was just the opinion of [X], it was never taught as revelation." For many topics, those statements are simply not true. We can say that X was "just policy" in hindsight, but members (and leaders) at the time would not have treated it as such. We can look backwards and find cherry-pick instances where the church did describe Y in an Improvement Era article in the 70s or an authority mentioned Z in a conference talk in the 80s; but that doesn't change the reality that Y was rarely discussed, and that its near universal omission from most correlated material was obviously intentional. I knew a lot of things from my parents growing up, from BYU publications, or FARMS/FAIR essays here and there. But even then, I've increasingly discovered over time that I was mistaken about more than I could have imagined. Thomas Marsh did not leave the church over milk strippings. Church leaders did not end polygamy in 1890. Some individuals were, in fact, excommunicated for taking stands against the church's racism (and those individuals' beliefs would today align with the church's official stance).

Melissa MarkhamJuly 15, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful testimony of faith and the Atonement. We so often hear stories about people having the faith to be healed (and they are wonderful!) but not always about sustaining faith when our prayers are not answered in the way we hoped. I, too, experienced a trial that I said I would never be thankful for. But prayers and soul searching have helped my husband and I to recognize the blessings that have come from our experience. Thank you again for your story.

Meredith R JackJuly 15, 2019

This is a beautiful story of Faith and Courage. I highly recommend the book!

Jan KingJuly 15, 2019

Sister Wilcox, thank you so much for writing and sharing Julene's tender and touching story. I'm glad you are able to recognize and be comforted by the miracles your family has, and will likely continue to experience. Sometimes the miracles we are blessed with are revealed to us in time.

AllisonJuly 15, 2019

From the current Seminary manual: Invite a student to read John 16:7 aloud. Ask the class to follow along, looking for whom Jesus promised to send after He was gone. Whom did Jesus promise would come after He departed? (Jesus would send the Comforter, or the Holy Ghost.) Explain that the word expedient, as used in verse 7, means beneficial or profitable. Point out that “the Holy Ghost did not operate in the fulness among the Jews during the years of Jesus’ mortal sojourn (John 7:39; 16:7)” (Bible Dictionary, “Holy Ghost”). To help the class understand why the Holy Ghost did not operate in its fulness, read aloud the following statement by Elder Bruce R. McConkie of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles: Elder Bruce R. McConkie “As long as Jesus was with the disciples in person, there was not the full need for them to have the constant companionship of the Spirit that there would be after Jesus left” (Doctrinal New Testament Commentary, 3 vols. [1965–73], 753).

Karen EvansJuly 15, 2019

My eyes are leaking so much that I can barely write this. What a beautiful story. Her legacy will live on and on. She will continue to touch lives as her story is told over and over. God bless her mother for following the spiritual prompting to share her life.

Michael Shea, MDJuly 15, 2019

I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America and to the republic for which it stands; one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all. If that’s offensive to you. leave. In fact, if you’re concerned that someone might be offended by that pledge, leave. And that means YOU, even if you’re one of the bureaucrats. No one needs you, and the pledge says nothing about allegiance to bureaucrats. Bureaucrats are a necessary evil at best. Our allegiance that we pledge is to the UNITED STATES, to the flag that symbolizes our unity as a society, and to the republican political order as it was conceived and executed by our forefathers and sustained by those who were martyrs for that cause. If that isn’t what you want, leave. Some of us have had just about all the nonsense from you that we can tolerate. It matters not at all if you don’t agree with every policy or every procedure, but if that is the case, and you would rather not leave, at least try keeping your mouth(s) shut for a change and stay out of the newspaper. You’re disturbing the peace. I join with those blowing back.

Mary Kay McGowanJuly 15, 2019

This beautiful young woman was clearly an Angel and her story helps me understand suffering better. I am grateful this was shared. Thank you so much.

Steven K. SsenyonjoJuly 15, 2019

A story worthy reading and pondering. As such faithful and dedicated members pass on, we think of their exemplified life based on their faith and testimony then we think of our worthiness, the atonement, the plan of salvation and determine to work better as Saints for our own salvation.

Jan KingJuly 15, 2019

Thank you for continuing to publish these excellent articles by Ted Gibbons! I had not read them before and am benefiting immensely!!

Merry MillerJuly 15, 2019

What a miracles story. I will pass this on to many of my friends. God bless your daughter and thank you God by taking her so she did not have to suffer anymore and now she is in your care and keeping. Bless the family and for allowing us to read your story.

John HendricksJuly 15, 2019

Hi, just a suggestion. I notice many times when you post photos there are no blurbs below the photos to identify who is who. It would be nice to see who the article is about.

Dr. AnonymousJuly 15, 2019

No one is required to recite the pledge if they individually choose not to do so. In my elementary school, there was a girl whose religious affiliation suggested that she not participate. She simply stood quietly during the pledge, and didn't receive any negative feedback for nor participating.

Jim MerrellJuly 15, 2019

For those who might be uncomfortable with patriotic music in church they obviously haven't read their Book of Mormon or Doctrine and Covenants lately. Nephi prophesied about this promised land of freedom and liberty and how when we are righteous we will prosper in this land. In the Doctrine and Covenants it teaches us the U.S. Constitution was inspired and directed by God and for "All nations". If I were in another country and they sang their national music on their national holiday, I would not feel threatened or harmed in any way. It is clear that this author is very articulate and as such are well read. Perhaps they would consider reading books about the American Covenant by Tim Ballard which gives references time and again of the God's hand in the formation of and sustaining of this country. I agree that we would do better to find ways to sustain this country by living righteously than just singing hymns in church about patriotism, at the same time I think rather than criticize the practice, we would be better served in discovering why we do it.

MarilynJuly 15, 2019

NICELY expressed! For those of us who have loved ones who sacrificed their own lives our attachments & memories find comfort in that sacrifice acknowledged in anthem. God does mend MY every flaw, and He can mend even a nation, to become even greater.

LexaGraemeJuly 15, 2019

Cute. How often would we get better results if we just approached things from a different angle.

TimJuly 15, 2019

While the UK national anthem is listed in the hymn book, I do not recall ever singing it in church as I was growing up, and certainly not during regular Sunday meetings. Nor do I ever recall hearing the Mareseilleise sung in church when I was on my mission in France. I'd be curious to know whether the national anthem gets played in other countries. And yes, it does make me uncomfortable to be in a Sacrament meeting to have the American national anthem sung. And I get some very odd looks when I refuse to stand up for it or to sing the words. Not sure this article really addresses the issue raised in the title.

BeckyJuly 15, 2019

What a beautiful story of hope. No matter the trials we go through, our Savior is ever aware of us and with us. Thank you for sharing this story

Sally MaddocksJuly 15, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this. Very moving and for me a wonderful way to start my morning listening to the beautiful voices.

Robert HaleJuly 15, 2019

Thanks for sharing that rich experience !

Christine SchwartzJuly 15, 2019

Ah, this week's episode gave me so many tears of joy. Thank you! From South Africa

DarrelJuly 14, 2019

There is only one set of 12 apostles at one time on the earth, so the ones that Jesus called in the Book of Mormon were called disciples.

Anne JacksJuly 13, 2019

Totally agree with Julie Davis!

Jan KingJuly 13, 2019

Beautifully done.......covers all the bases!!

StacyJuly 13, 2019

Fantastic article. Regarding one of the comments, it is complete nonsense to not refer to Heavenly Mother because she's too sacred. Read the Gospel Topics Essay on Heavenly Mother. No prophet, apostle, or General Authority has claimed we shouldn't talk about Her. It was one CES teacher once and thus the urban myth began that She's too sacred to discuss. Can you imagine anyone saying we shouldn't talk about Heavenly Father because He's too sacred. Does anyone actually think that God is not married to His equal? My kids are sometimes rude to me, but I love them and forgive them because I'm their mother. Heavenly Mother is infinitely more loving, knowing and powerful. It's insulting to expect any less from Her. She doesn't need to be protected--She's a GOD! Did you ever consider that maybe the reason we don't know more about Her is because people have just accepted what little revelation there is about Her? Revelation doesn't magically pour out on people's heads. Leaders and members have to ask in order to get answers. Also, most women I know in the church do not want to be put on a pedestal or be told they're superior. They want to be treated with respect and equality. Infantilizing Heavenly Mother and women into beings that need to be protected is exactly what is driving many women from the church.

Wally GoddardJuly 12, 2019

The theme of this article doesn't seem to agree with the revered research by John Gottman. See his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

Patricia RanousJuly 12, 2019

Celeste Mcclain expressed my feelings as an adult convert way more eloquently than I every could. Not a new me - but a better and happier me. Thank you, Celeste!

LauraJuly 12, 2019

Thanks for your words Celeste! That was almost as fun to read as the article. I appreciate the encouragement to be free to be yourself at the same time as being a faithful believer. They are compatible!

William R. WalkerJuly 12, 2019

Mariah; Your article was very interesting. You are a great writer. Also, I LOVED the comment from Celeste. Keep up the good work. William R. Walker

SharlaJuly 12, 2019

So very good. I see that this is so important in marriage. Our problems in communicating are destroying our 52 year marriage. Through the years I have been grateful for all you have taught, thank you.

ChrisJuly 12, 2019

Celeste McClain, so well said!!

Susan MuirJuly 12, 2019

Celeste, what a wonderful testimony. I love it.

Julie DavisJuly 12, 2019

If he says he does not want to be married to you. Believe him. Set him free to find someone else and set yourself free before you waste 25 years with someone who does not love you. It will hurt, but it will hurt less when you have 25 years to spend with someone who does love you.

Helen CondonJuly 12, 2019

Afraid I AM "super-white". Nothing I can do about it but it thrills my soul to know we are now actually in the minority. At least I'm an English woman who doesn't drink tea! :-)

AnonJuly 12, 2019

This story did not sit completely well with me. I do believe that prayers can influence good outcomes. This is scriptural. Think: Alma's prayers for his son that were granted. I also believe that all prayers are subject to the will and timing of God. Many people with great faith will pray and pray, and those prayers will not be answered in this life. Had this story not had the positive outcome that it did, it likely would not be a story.

Celeste McclainJuly 12, 2019

I watch, Stranger Things, but haven’t seen season 3! I can’t wait! However, I have to say that before I converted, I had those same ideas about Mormons. It’s called misinformation! I wish the world could get to know this Mormon! I’m sure I would shatter all of that misinformed data. I’m Black, most definitely not “superwhite”, I’m very Spiritual and I Love Heavenly Father and our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, but I’m not “super religious”! People often make jokes, or statements about people, places and things they don’t understand. It’s all very human so we shouldn’t be surprised! Let them keep speaking about Mormons on they’re very popular shows, great advertisement if you ask me, if it were me I’d want to know who these Mormons are and I’d find out. I mean to be honest I did and that is why my life is so much better now and have such more meaning and why my journey with Jesus Christ is so profound! Im no saint, not at all, and far from it... However I wish to be, joyful, happy, longing to be free! I’m a Mormon convert and I’m learning that even though I’m a convert, who I am will never change, but how I’ve lived my life has changed drastically and all for the better. I’m still a intensely passionate black woman, who loves everything and all things, I’m a writer, a poet, a cook, a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a daughter, a sister, a niece and a friend. I’m still the woman who loves and listens to Jazz and R&B. I also love classical music and country and everything 80’s! I Love history, literature and art, non of that has changed. The only thing that has changed with me being a Mormon is the positive structure and strong foundation of Loving Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ in my life, which makes me a better person. The things that has changed is that, I don’t drink liquor anymore, which was killing me, I don’t smoke anymore which was killing me, I don’t engage in nonsense and devilment anymore which would have killed me! So in saying all this, Being a Mormon doesn’t make you something your not. It just makes you a better you! This is my opinion and this is heartfelt! If anyone has a problem with it too bad! This is who I am! I am a Mormon and I’m so blessed that the Church Of Jesus Christ Latter Day Saints Came into my life and brought me so much closer to my God!

Mark MathesonJuly 12, 2019

I have not talked to anyone that has seen it, that hasn't enthusiastically liked it. So much better than the current Spiderman movie. John Groberg is a real hero, not a comic book creation. Please support films with great morals and messages or there won't be anymore to see in the future. Tell your friends, no, take your friends.

July 12, 2019

Let us now how you relate to this myth and whether it has affected your marriage.... Richard and Linda Eyre

Denton L. KimballJuly 11, 2019

If anyone is offended by the pledge of allegiance to this country, then, as someone already stated, they should return to the country from which they came. A citizen here cannot have allegiance to another country. If they do, they cannot and should not be trusted to stand up for this country when it becomes necessary. I certainly would not want such people as my neighbors.

Julie Fink/BrantleyJuly 11, 2019

I am not LDS but have read similar accounts and died myself back in '76

Laurie LewisJuly 11, 2019

Thank you so much, Jennie, for your thoughtful and lovely review of "Secrets Never Die." I'm honored that you enjoyed it. And thank you for all the times you've shined a light on colleagues' books, and for helping readers find them.

Rod LowJuly 11, 2019

I couldn't agree more. A number of years ago in some discarded records, I found a story about my 3rd great grandmother, Jacobina Well Osborn Patten Willamson. This discovery prompted me to get involved in writing stories of my ancestors. I now have stories of my ancestors and my wife's ancestor back several generations. This has led to great love and apparition for all my ancestors, but a special love for the grandmothers I never knew.

Wally GoddardJuly 11, 2019

Kandace, yes, it is great to offer ourselves and others hopeful statements. We should lift and encourage each other. I love your statement that we are enough with God and because of Him. For those without religious faith, another statement might be developed like: I have valuable talents that make a difference as I serve. I always think it is better to use a true statement than a faulty one. Blessings.

JulieJuly 11, 2019

Nice article, but it's important to remember that sometimes it is not God's will to heal us. Although our faith is enough for physical healing to take place, we do need to accept His will in these matters. I know the author is not implying this, but some would say that if we are not healed of our illnesses, it's because we don't have enough faith. Elder Oaks gave a beautiful talk on healing entitled, "He Heals the Heavy Laden".

HalJuly 11, 2019

I am grateful for the "little" miracles I witness nearly every day of my life. We have a neighbor who has been reclusive for many years. We began praying for this dear sister a few months ago and, almost immediate, an occasion arose for us to ask her to go for a walk with us. She opened up and talked to us for over an hour - more than we had spoke to each other in the past 10+ years. Last week, we prayed for guidance on how to contact a non-member who had recently moved into our neighborhood and made it a significant part of our fast last Sunday. Following our Sunday meetings, we discovered this neighbor's daughter was having a birthday the following Wednesday which gave us an opportunity to visit and meet the entire family. We were graciously welcomed in, had a wonderful introduction to the entire family, and opened up opportunities for future visits. There are miracles all around us every day - we just have to open our eyes, our ears, and our hearts to recognize them for what they are.

Charles DefranchiJuly 11, 2019

When I got married 27 years ago to my wife - quite a pretty young woman - I made sure we'd get a professional photographer to take wedding pictures. The pictures turned out to be very nice. However, my wife always resists my showing those pictures to family and friends. There are some mysteries in couples relationships that may never get resolved in this life. Maybe more testimonials from our female Latter-Day Saint readers would help...

Seagull SuzJuly 11, 2019

OMG...yes, your last comment...BE MORE DELIBERATE!... Have you ever had a group of kids...a diverse group...LDS and other Christian or Jewish or Muslim kids?...ask them a question about any social issue...most likely the LDS kids will not have a clue how to answer...teach your kids about the world around them...BE DELIBERATE!...those kids need to be street smart as well as BOM smart!!!

Andrew ChildsJuly 10, 2019

What Boanerges Rubalcava said. My thoughts exactly.

Oscar MuñozJuly 10, 2019

“Prophecy is but history in reverse—a divine disclosure of future events.“ Ezra Taft Benson Jan 1974 Nephi saw Washington and his struggles: 1 Nephi 11 17 And I beheld that their mother Gentiles were gathered together upon the waters, and upon the land also, to battle against them. 18 And I beheld that the power of God was with them, and also that the wrath of God was upon all those that were gathered together against them to battle. 19 And I, Nephi, beheld that the Gentiles that had gone out of captivity were delivered by the power of God out of the hands of all other nations.

Nihla Wilcox JuddJuly 10, 2019

Loved your insights. Thanks for sharing.

Jay GoldthwaiteJuly 10, 2019

I also refer to the amazing talk by Lawrence Corbridge at BYU. He was asked by church leaders to study many Anti-Mormon writings, and he was powerfully affected by them. He talks in detail about the experience. But he also explains why he was able to get through all that material without losing his testimony, his faith, his conversion. He teaches a fact that the "anti's" poke at the branches of our doctrine rather than at the heart. Or perhaps better said, at the secondary questions that arise from the history of the church among imperfect members (all of us) rather than the primary questions. Find the answers to the primary questions through sincere and prayerful study and willingness to change if true - as is officially recommended to investigators. Here's the link: https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/lawrence-e-corbridge/stand-for-ever/

Samantha, Lebanon, TNJuly 10, 2019

I should have said, 'most of the parents we saw in the office' seemed as if they did not want to take responsibility for their children' almost as if they were afraid of them!

J JamisonJuly 10, 2019

I was baptized in Minneapolis - St.Louis Park is a suburb of Mpls. - the Mission Home was(?) in Burnsville, another suburb

Samantha, Lebanon, TNJuly 10, 2019

I worked as a registered nurse in a pediatric office for almost 20 years. Parents could always call for advice about their child's health. At first, we nurses could give advice on what to do before making an appointment. That was well received for many years before my time and for a minimum of five or so years after. Gradually we saw resistance to common sense remedies for things which our parents would NEVER have made an appointment. By the time I retired, the majority of parents were resistant to suggestion for even the simplest thing, such as removing a splinter. And horror of horrors -- inserting a suppository rectally for an older infant with constipation!! Parents would calI and complain about their child not taking their medication (I always wanted to ask 'Who's the adult in your house?').I came to the conclusion long before I retired that today's parents don't want to take responsibility for anything -- not even their children!

Gary LawrenceJuly 10, 2019

Very good. Thanks.

Anne StricklandJuly 10, 2019

I'm from NZ and very much interested in doing this tour. How do I get in please.

Lisa CroftJuly 10, 2019

God’s laws don’t change, but the application of those laws do. If it were not so, we would all being eating Kosher. It is important to understand the distinction. Those who are steeped in the culture of the Church, instead of its Doctrines will struggle with change.

John C PearceJuly 10, 2019

This is a great movie that should be seen by every Latter-day Saint and anybody who wants to have a beautiful emotional experience. I was fortunate enough to organised a private screening of this on June 29th with over a hundred in attendance. Everyone that I spoke to after said that they really enjoyed the movie and said they would love to see other inspiring movies in the future. In other churches the leaders encourage their members to attend christian themed movies. My wish is that members will support this and other well made movies without "being commanded in all things".

Jenny SvendsenJuly 10, 2019

Good article, well written! If I may, let me just make this observation...members may leave the church because they are not anchored in faith and knowledge of God our Eternal Father, His son Jesus christ our Saviour, the holy Ghost who reveals truths to us and testifies of Christ. I just read a talk given by Lawrence Corbridge at BYU (look it up on youtube), absolutely amazing, and brings to light why we need to be anchored in the above, that is all that matters.

Charlotte SinclaireJuly 10, 2019

Regarding the city council who voted to forego the Pledge of Allegiance at their meetings: The councilwoman who was pushing for the pledge to be eliminated said it might "scare" people away. Well, if they're going to be scared away by a strong country that offers liberty and justice for all, they certainly were misguided when they came to the U.S. All those council members who voted for this change should be voted OUT. As should many other groups, organizations, and people across the country -- and especially those who run our schools -- who have chosen not to include the Pledge of Allegiance as part of their daily routine. It's bad enough that "God" has already been removed from so many aspects of American life. But this is kind of the last straw because it is against both God and country. Our country is a gift to us from God. It is the great place it is (despite its problems) and we have what we have (the ability and right to solve those problems) because of God's blessings and protections. The folks who push for these kinds of disrespectful and ungrateful initiatives are, brick by brick, dismantling God's protection over our country and making us vulnerable to the same problems experienced in the less prosperous, less tolerant, less happy, and less secure countries in the world -- the same countries from which our foreign visitors and new citizens are fleeing. I believe think these visitors and new citizens would be thrilled to hear such a Pledge of Allegiance, counting it as confirmation that they have truly come to a better place. It is a shame, then, that our own citizens simply take it all for granted. Taking something for granted is like daring it to disappear -- to disintegrate bit by bit when we aren't looking. With initiatives like this one, we should not be surprised to turn around someday and realize that the God-given blessings and protections we have as a country have disappeared. Who or what will we pledge allegiance to then?

Bob PowelsonJuly 10, 2019

Why should we be tolerant of Islam when it is intolerant of Christians? Tolerance works both ways.

Ed DeusenberryJuly 10, 2019

Seems to me all elected officials need to remember who they work for. They are there to represent we the people. And if you can’t/won’t do that, you need to step down.

JulieJuly 10, 2019

I totally agree with Ms. Auclair. If someone is offended by The Pledge, just leave the room when it’s being said & then come back in! It’s getting to the point where being in the majority means nothing.

John H. BurgonJuly 9, 2019

When the wording in the temple ceremony changed along with Pres. Nelson changes in standard policies many wondered how truth could change? Truth has not changed, the doctrine of Christ, faith, repentance, baptism, gift of the Holy Ghost and enduring to the end are still the same. The purpose of the endowment, to receive the necessary names, signs and token to be able to return to God’s presence, is still the same. Polices will and should change to fit the times we live in. Doctrine will remain but may be added upon.

Marianne RimmaschJuly 9, 2019

I know Jana and Brtynee, you can’t be around there family without knowing the amazing amount of courage and faith they have. Thank you for the story. Beautiful ❤️❤️

Sue CJuly 9, 2019

Your points are so important. Thanks for this video! Well done!

MaryannJuly 9, 2019

Once again we see that our founding fathers truly did worship the "Great God, our King." I am so grateful for their perseverance and sacrifices. How I wish we had more political leaders today following their pattern of faith and obedience. Articles like this spark greater patriotism and remind us that our Heavenly Father is still in charge. We have a great obligation to live the gospel with all of hearts with a spirit of thanksgiving, and also to retain our promises of freedom and prosperity.

CynthiaJuly 9, 2019

Thank you for a wonderful, thought provoking article! Yes, God doesn't change, BUT three thoughts came to mind as I read this article: 1. First, He DOES reveal things line upon line and precept by precept ... and should we suppose that because He "has spoken one word, (he) cannot speak another"? 2. The world changes, and Satan's tactics change - while the principles of the Gospel will never change, we may (probably) need to apply - or speak about - them differently. 3. I sometimes visualize myself - in my understanding of the Gospel - like a 2-year old feeling like having a tantrum when I'm faced with a new instruction / direction (whether from a leader or from the Holy Ghost) ... I've finally learned that the more "quickly I obey", the happier and more blessed I am. Father does know best, and I'm positive Mother does, too.

Kim HulbertJuly 9, 2019

London is overrated and the crowds are huge this time of the year. This tour looks spectacular. Would totally give up London (having been there 3 times) to do this tour.

Bob. SpielJuly 9, 2019

Such great insights, Janet. Thank you. C.S. Lewis once said, "We read to know we are not alone." It seems history has this power..if we will let it...to see our condition is not unique unto itself. Each generation is faced with challenges that appear daunting, and even insurmountable -- yet God's work and will continues and His children overcome as our better angels are employed!. How valuable it is for our children to learn this simple lesson. Thanks, again, for the reminder!

Richard HillsJuly 9, 2019

Your excellent article is well written and thought out but doesn't deal with an essential question. Why do changes in church teachings, liturgy, policies, and culture sometimes make Latter-day Saints feel uncomfortable? For me, I see myself accepting changes with shallow explanations pretty much mindlessly. I see me rationalizing without end, never admitting that I've ever been wrong, never considering that I might be wrong and never wondering what my priorities should be. And I'm uncomfortable wondering what's next?

Boanerges RubalcavaJuly 9, 2019

I tend to agree almost completely with this article, however, I must emphasize that due to the fact that the author tries hard to be 'inclusive" for women, this makes the article at the end to be very "sexist". I will explain myself: There are different aspects in our Church that show very clearly that the Church never has been sexist, although many members have been. The author used our Heavenly Mother to try us to change the way we have been treating Her in the past: With a veneration and respect beyond the understanding of the author. First, we seldom refer to Her, because Heavenly Father seldom refers to Her either; nevertheless, we as a Church is likely the only one that has come with this concept of a Heavenly Mother; this shows very clearly that we are different than any other church in the history of the world, and Second the reason we seldom talk about Her is because He, our God wants Her to be sacred and He only revelas Her to few prophets and for special reasons. That's also the way that He is teaching us to treat women in Church, as our sacred companions, the mother of our children and because of this untouchable for the evils of the world. The late Apostle Mervin Ashton once told me when we were discussing feminism: "I never understand why women wanted to be equal since they always have been superior.". This is the way we think of women in the Church, and if some of the members do not understand it, it is very important for articles like this to illuminate them, but be careful do not go all the way to the other side trying to be "politically correct" and change to the manner of the world. Of course we must embrace change, and in this church I have learned this better than in any other place on earth. However, we must remain with Heavenly Father (obviously this englobes HER, but I do not want and I will not do that, to trivialize HER) in the changes we want to make following the prophet when those changes come, that I believe will be changes in procedures but very likely never in the doctrine.

Neil DevereauxJuly 9, 2019

From an eternal perspective and trying to comprehend a God that is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent means that there are infinite numbers of choices which God can make and in turn reveal to us. Just because God chooses to reveal and put into practice specific aspects of His divine plan for us as to how His kingdom on earth will be administered at a given time, doesn't mean that those are the only choices He has. Any combination of the infinite number of choices which God has at His disposal can be revealed to His prophets so that His church can be administered according to His will and in order to fit the circumstances of an ever changing world. Why should we be surprised when God allows us to know that He has many ways to deal with the volatility of His children. His Plan of Salvation and Happiness has many facets that we may not be aware of at any point in time but they are always at His disposal. When Nephi received a revelation to incorporate two different records for the same period of time in his writings, he didn't know why but God knew He would have to deal with Joseph Smith's bad decision hundreds of years in the future. We are in good hands and God knows what He is doing. Pres. Nelson has told us to prepare for many more aspects of the restoration that have not yet been revealed. God does not change. He just uses different choices from the infinite ones he can select from. I hope we can stay faithful as we see His divine plan unfold.

CarolineJuly 9, 2019

As Sister Joy D. Jones said “If the pull of the world is stronger than the faith and trust we have in the Savior, then the pull of the world will prevail every time “. Since Adam and Eve, literally, this has been the sad story of mankind. Faith in Christ, loving Him with our whole souls, always remembering Him,following Him as He and our prophets have always invited us to do, is the whole purpose of our existence. The “anguish” of President Nelson’s heart is when we decline His invitation. “Retention” has always been a problem. The cycles in the Book of Mormon and throughout history are evidence of how His children are so prone to wander and why He weeps. Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is the anchor and the answer to every question, to every doubt, and fills us with joy through all the pulls of the world.

Don HoffmanJuly 9, 2019

Doctrine and policy are very different matters.

Charles DefranchiJuly 9, 2019

Dear Brother Frogley, Thank you very much for this very inspiring message -- indeed, so many similitudes with the current Temple Endowment ceremony! The very fact that reading this feels sweet to my soul does not tell me only about the value of your writings but about the fact that, despite my sinful nature, there is something in me that continues yearning for the gift of eternal salvation. I do occasionally catch sight of you at the Paris Temple Visitors' Center, working alongside my good friends Jacques and Danielle Meunier, but look forward to having a chat with you one of these days.

Steven K. SsenyonjoJuly 9, 2019

An inspiring article which has reminded me of our role and relationship in this mortal life with God. Moses had such a calling from God in this life. All us Saints in this life we have a duty or calling to fulfill before God, that is, serving God through serving others.

Laurie OgdenJuly 8, 2019

Mr M. and Mr. Elliot ... and so there wasn't at the time of the Reverend Roger Williams, but if he was seeking that true prophet, keys, church and authority of Jesus Christ, surely he has found it now <3 for it is here <3 in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Doug WrightJuly 8, 2019

I know this amazing family well, their father is the branch president in my branch in rural south Alabama. You can tell the entire family puts the lord first like Whitney mentioned. Can’t wsit to see the twins.?

Kandace A. McClureJuly 8, 2019

Uplifting article, thank you. Only other comment, "I am enough" is not meant to be boastful but more of an encouraging, hopeful statement; a way some people are able to lift themselves up and get a better footing in a world constantly disparaging their efforts. You can't breathe unless your nose is above water. We are enough, with God and because of Him. I understand your point, but for people with little or no faith (or religious beliefs), trying to create a positive mental attitude about yourself to overcome adversity is never laughable.You have to start somewhere.

Tamra KriserJuly 8, 2019

As the mother of Whitney and Heidi, I am also aware of the years of prior prayers and fasting for the blessing of Whitney in finding her eternal companion. These were blessings we all desired for her to have, and yet, for reasons and timing the Lord only knew, they were years she needed to faithfully wait. I thought Elder Dale G. Renlund did a great job in expressing and explaining this in his talk, "Abound with Blessings," this past April. His whole talk was dedicated to this subject--the need for our faith, prayers, and actions, but also the trust in the timing of our Heavenly Father. Even though there had been many prior prayers and fasting, Heidi's heart was moved with deep desires for her sister to receive this blessing, and she earnestly sought these blessings for her. Were all the prior prayers and faith in vain? Certainly not, but only added upon as the Lord's timing neared and Heidi was moved upon and then acted to help bring about this blessing and miracle for her sister.

Bob SpielJuly 8, 2019

Such a great reminder, Maurine! Thank you! Along with Tim Ballard's book, another great source is Seven Miracles that Saved America by Chris and Ted Stewart. It has stories in it that are breathtaking, and demonstrates that God is intimately involved in the forming of America, and the preservation of it's freedoms, so it can be a beacon to bless the whole world. I highly recommend it.

Marlon WaiteJuly 8, 2019

Great insight, and another wonderful article. As a seminary teacher, I want to incorporate this concept into many of my lessons. Thanks for being a worthy messenger with a most worthwhile message!

NanetteJuly 8, 2019

I am so grateful you share your beautiful insights with us! I have learned so much from your books and articles over the years! Thank you!

FranzJuly 8, 2019

I agree that we have so much pressure to look young and perfect forever and this creates issues of self confidence, there is also trauma in some cases that might have started the issue. However, as a therapist myself I don’t quite see the point in ignoring the issue and just focus on the other qualities of the partner. In a relationship, mutual attraction is not an option, but a pillar. This means that despite being imperfect, and not beautiful, we find something in the other person that draws us to them physically too. Maybe their quirky expression or the way they touch their hair. But it all counts. When a person becomes upset for a sincere compliment, I would suggest going to the root and ask them, how do you feel when I say this? In a therapy setting, I would go down to the root issue, the moment when she started to develop such a negative image of her body that no one can compliment her looks. It’s very unhealthy. It talks about feeling you are not enough. It could have started when a relative made a compliment she found creepy at age eight. It could be that a school friend called her names because of her body. It could be her mum comparing her to the sibling. Whatever it is, the root can be identified and there are psychotherapy techniques that will enable the client to move on from old beliefs that are hindering her. I had a session last week with a 47 y.o. Man. Since he was a child he has suffered from social anxiety. One of the aspects of it was that hand he was young he was teased a lot at school, and once his dad teased him because at age five he gave a kiss on the cheek to his best friend, who was a girl. His parents teased his for months about it. He felt very uncomfortable and confused and side then he failed making meaningful connections with women until in his 40s. He always waits for women to start because he is terrified of being teased again just like the little boy he still has inside. So, while it is good to give compliments about a spectrum of qualities, it is indeed fundamental for any person who can’t take a compliment, to get some help and be able to accept, enjoy and celebrate his or her human body. The human body is beautiful even with scars, disease and imperfections because it has been created after the image of God. It is not superficial to appreciate the body of our partner. We are wired to find it attractive and to enjoy the warmth, acceptance and comfort of another human being close to us. As a columnist of this magazine myself, maybe I should submit an article about the damage we do with our words when we talk to young children about their body in unhealthy ways. One of them is to make them believe that it is sinful to have a nice body, or to look at it. In appropriate settings it is perfectly fine indeed.

SueJuly 7, 2019

This is one of the most helpful articles I've read about marriage. Very practical and helpful advice. Hal's comment was a powerful reinforcement of the principles you taught. Thanks.

Russell Rich CannonJuly 7, 2019

https://www.deseretnews.com/article/705385933/Education-Week-Separating-facts-from-fiction-about-the-Prophets-death.html I grew up attending Ensign Stake Conference in the Assembly Hall and often saw my Great Uncle John Taylor’s watch on display in the old Temple Square Information Bureau. Even if the watch did not stop a ball, the fact that John Taylor’s life was spared was a miracle. I loved the photo essay.

Mark MathesonJuly 7, 2019

May God bless Sierra Leone. They have had so many ups and downs. Ebola - now Literacy. May this be the start of a long string of ups for this sweet people.

Deb LeggeJuly 7, 2019

Your articles through the years have had such an impact on my life! You are such an insightful person. I’ve quoted you in Relief Society and Sunday School lessons and when I’ve spoken in church. Your gift of putting words together is so inspired, how you will be missed! I can’t wait to meet you someday. God bless you for your willingness to share your journey with all of us through these many years.

Neva BordenJuly 7, 2019

Heidi & Whitney's Grandparents went on a mission to Siberia with a prayer in their hearts that their older daughter would find the right man for her, marry and move forward with her life. This happened..... Therefore, my husband and I went on a mission to the SL Inner City with a prayer in our hearts that our older son would find the right woman for him, marry and move forward with his life. This also happened.... Heidi knew these stories. She knew the service part of these prayers. President Monson often said, "When we are on the Lord's errand, we are entitled to the Lord's blessings." Thanks be to God.

Mark MathesonJuly 7, 2019

Thank you for your insights. It provoked some of my best personal Gospel study I have had during my current dry spell.Thank you for being a spiritual catalyst.

SarahJuly 6, 2019

My husband's birthday is on the 4th of July, mine is on the 17th of September (Constitution Day). We honeymooned in Washington DC. My children always say that their parents were a match made in... the USA! It may sound silly, but I think this is part of the seed of our family culture. My children all have a genuine interest in US History and a true love for country. My son in particular is known for his flag-bearing wherever and whenever he can!

Barbara PainterJuly 6, 2019

These two men were not Jesus apostles but were followers.

RanaeJuly 6, 2019

As a wife who doesn't want compliments about my body, I think Geoff answered this fairly well. In my case, rejecting these types of comments was not really about insecurity or body shame as much as wanting reassurance that I was actually seen and known by the person who has the best opportunity to reflect back to me who I really am. I want to know that my "other half" sees my talents, my struggles, my strength, my vulnerability, and that these things are precious and lovable. When comments are about superficial things like body shape or beauty, I don't feel like he is seeing me at all. I don't want to hear that I am okay in a competition of looks, when I know that aging is inevitable and there will always be someone who can outshine me. I want to know that what he sees and loves is deeper than appearances. When that need is met, the compliments about my body and looks are icing on the cake, and I enjoy them also.

Gordon J HensleyJuly 5, 2019

The Lord told Joseph Smith that he raised up these righteous men (and women) to be the foundation of our country. Who are we to question His judgement? I think He knew there were slaveholders among them, but he needed them to frame our constitution, and to set the stage for the future extinction of the universal historical practice of legal slavery.

Teresa FlegalJuly 5, 2019

I never heard the whole story. What a miracle. Heidi, what a great sister to pray so hard for WHITNEY. Loved hearing this story.

Lina HatchJuly 5, 2019

Thank you for including this beautiful story of my two nieces. What a sweet surprise to read it in Meridian! Heidi is also now wed. Blessings to Heidi, Whitney & Mark!

Jan KingJuly 5, 2019

Further evidence that Heavenly Father delights in the details of our lives.

Name WithheldJuly 5, 2019

I’ve been praying for this to happen with my daughter now for over 10 years. She is 32 and remains single. I do not understand the Lord’s timing or how this will all work out. When you pray for righteous things to happen for your family, and they don’t, it is hard. I continue to hold onto my faith and fast for her. I’m happy for this family.

Diana ChaseJuly 5, 2019

Wonderful story!! So happy for them. But, what about all those other single sisters that have been praying, fasting and waiting for their answers or blessings about marriage? Why is the Lord so silent for these righteous sisters? I know, everyone has their own journey and plan but, sometimes you have to wonder why?

bob powelsonJuly 5, 2019

The time has come for the LDS to stop being semi--pacifist and apologetic about our faith and conduct. Most are unhappy teens who need to be brought up very short.

AlexanderJuly 5, 2019

The romantic part of me says: "marvellous!" However, I know RM who are still waiting for a spouse.

Sue C.July 5, 2019

Maybe we should also disrespect the First President of the UNITED STATES, George Washington, as well. Maybe we should split off from the whole southern section of the Eastern seaboard because they owned slaves hundreds of years ago. I love this country,good bad and indifferent. I love Betsy Ross for hand stitching a flag for the Revolutionary War--that gave us all the freedoms we enjoy today. I love that we have the history of the War Between the States so hopefully we don't have to resort to it again. And if we want to learn from the past we better study it and cherish it and honor it. The best way not to have slavery happen again and to make sure everyone is respected is to start with ourselves. Respect Betsy Ross for what she did. Respect George Washington and Thomas Jefferson, because even though they owned slaves that was not all they did. They gave their all to this nation. We can have the blessings and freedoms we have today because of such great men. I love the RED, WHITE, and BLUE. I love that is has flown in this nation since1776. And with all the ups and downs we have faced as a nation. It still flies. It flies in my yard and in my neighbor's yard. It flies on churches and synagogs. It flies at markets and at schools. It stands for something grand and great and bigger than any one of us or any race or any creed.

MaggieJuly 5, 2019

all so true !! What is really awesome is when we as a parent are aware of this! You are the best! Thank for coming back to sharing with us !!

LexaGraemeJuly 5, 2019

Very good. We as a family have learned how important storytelling is. My children’s Sacrament Meeting talks follow this, and people will come up to them weeks later and tell them what they said is still remembered. My husband and I do this with our own talks and class discussions. But it goes further than just How-to-Give-a-Good-Sacrament-Meeting-Talk. Effective storytelling is needed to tell our *own* stories. Telling stories of those who came before us gives the family roots. It can give inspiration. It can hold families together. It could honestly be looked upon as a Life Skill.

LoraJuly 5, 2019

Islam has got a PR problem. I know of no other religion that has in its holy book that it's necessary to loot and kill non-believers. Thomas Jefferson bought a Koran because the Barbary pirates said that it was the will of Allah that they attack our ships. Jefferson couldn't believe it. He read the book--and there it was! The first person to try to reform Islam was the grandson of Mohammed. He was killed. We would all like to believe that Islam is a religion of peace, but it has never been so. Islam started as a religion of conquest. Now we see "no go" areas in Europe and the US where law enforcement is not permitted to enter. In San Bernardino a Christmas party was shot up by Muslims. The neighbors saw suspicious activity but didn't want to look Islamophobic so they didn't say anything. If people feel nervous when Muslims pray, we have had many reasons for doing so. We don't see Buddhists, Hindus, Catholics, or Amish people blowing things up. Until Muslims face that reality, they are still going to be looked upon with suspicion.

Esmeralda AmosJuly 5, 2019

Loved this story!!!

LoraJuly 5, 2019

I can understand thinking that the Confederate flag is a symbol of white supremacy. I cannot understand thinking that the Betsy Ross flag is a symbol of white supremacy. It represents the 13 original colonies who broke free from the British empire. If the Betsy Ross flag is offensive, tell that to James Armistead, Peter Salem, Prince Whipple, and Oliver Cromwell, who fought under that flag. They are named by William Nell in his books Services of Colored Americans in the Wars of 1776 and 1812 (1852) and Colored Patriots of the American Revolution 1855. Young Americans used to know about them until Woodrow Wilson (D) took them out of the history books.

CraigJuly 5, 2019

This is only going to get worse. As the country becomes more secular, less tolerant of religion, and as the demographics of Utah change with mass immigration, members of the church are going to find themselves targeted more often. We're not at another Hauns mill yet, but that's not out of the realm of possibility one day.

Doris WilliamsJuly 5, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this story with us, Michaela. It's just a fact that miracle after miracle occurs when we are trying to follow the Savior. It's so wonderful to share in Whitney and Mark's joy in the gospel and their growing family and Heidi just has to glow, for having played such an important part in their union. I wish the best for their whole family.

LawrenceJuly 5, 2019

AUSGEZEICHNET!!!

Renate MartinJuly 5, 2019

This is a beautiful spiritual story. And also proof miracles still do happen.

Don HoffmanJuly 5, 2019

We need to include tolerance for Christian behavior while we're at it.

PopsJuly 5, 2019

I was listening to a debate on the subject of how one can determine what is morally correct. One participant was religious, and took the position that reliance on the Bible is necessary. The other, an atheist, argued that morals can be arrived at through reason. The religious man asked how the atheist could possibly find his way through the myriad ideas, bad and good, that arise from the intellect, and choose the best. The atheist's response was that he personally relied on the still, small voice.

JulesJuly 5, 2019

It's a great story and I'm glad it worked out for them. But I think we need to be careful about implying that because she prayed so well, that God granted her wish. I literally fasted and prayed for years to meet someone and it was still many more years before I found my husband. And I have friends who are returned missionaries and are very righteous and pray really hard and specifically amstill haven't found someone to get married to. Marriage is not a blessing given to people when they are righteous enough or when they pray hard enough or deserve it enough because it's they've worked hard enough. The concept of prosperity gospel (aka that if you are righteous enough, only good things will happen to you) is something in our church culture rhetoric that needs to go away. Righteous people don't always get what they pray for, and sometimes have things not work out for them all neat and tidy.

Rodney SmithJuly 5, 2019

James is right about Madison opposing chaplains. I discuss the issue at some length in my book. He feared that chaplains would be selected from majority religions and paid for with general tax dollars. He also opposed having a religion department at the University of Virginia. He preferred a wonderful solution -- let all religions have property near the university where they could establish "institutes" (his term) that would have regular access to the university. In today's world where chaplains have been drawn from most faiths, I am not sure how he would stand on the issue -- remember, establishment meant non-preference and equality for all religions. Remember, as well, that his history was one of bloodshed, imprisonment, and persecution of minority religions when one religion was given special preference by the government. His view actually squares very nicely with the 134th section (I wrote an article on this for the BYU Law Review).

TRAILHEADJuly 5, 2019

Wonderful! Love hearing the quotes of Washington showing he was so close to God in commanding the troops in laying the groundwork for freedom and liberty for all

Jeremy R FarnsworthJuly 5, 2019

Diana, I really enjoyed talking with you today. Our meeting seemed random, but considering that I went through this event this week I doubt it happenstance. My house burned down Saturday, and my family lost everything. After a sleepless night, I kept getting phone calls requesting interviews for the news. I did not want to talk to anyone. I asked God what he wanted me to do, and I received an answer that changed me, and my entire outlook on this event. I learned that what happened, though tragic, was not about me. There are way more people involved in ways I cannot begin to imagine. I was told to not rob people of their blessings and to let them serve. Finally, I was told to stop being afraid and to let my light shine so that other's may see His work. There have been so many miracles, and each day brings more.

vickieJuly 4, 2019

YES IT IS DIFFICULT to remember to not say Mormon church or im a Mormon....but I do realize its important because as scripture dictates that Christ said to be called by His name...so latter day saint is fine with me....and saying I belong to the church of Jesus Christ of latter day saints.....most people know what that is....now anyway....

David H BaileyJuly 4, 2019

This article is only part of the story. There is another historical matter of great significance. It is the mission of Joan of Arc who in 1428-9 succeeded in breaking the back of English power in France and enabling the removal of English dominion within 20 years of her death on the pyre. Except for her assumed impossible success, France would have been overrun if the English managed to capture the bridge over the Loire River protected by the city of Orleans. That she prevented that capture enabled France to survive as a nation. The success of our independence according to two historians I researched, wrote that except for the role of France, independence would have likely failed. France provided 63 ships, 22,000 sailors, and 12 soldiers to that battle. Her true story (I like Mark Twain's book) is tragically missing in American history and among Christian writers. Yes, Mark Twain spent 12 years researching English and French records and 2 years writing. Of her Winston Churchill wrote that she had no equal in 1000 years. Other historians and writers say she has no equal in all recorded history. It is an intensely spiritual experience and one of direct involvement of Heavenly messengers. .

Tom ShawJuly 4, 2019

It is remarkable that at this point in history, my nation, the British, were engaged in a major war against Napoleon, which was prioritised. This drew away most of our military power from the Americas & along with the incompetency of our generals allowed the fledgling Revolutionary army to led by an inspired leader to.triumph. The Lords hand was there as it was many years later when a defeated British Army was miraculously snatched from Dunkirk to fight on & form a foundation for the Allied armies that eventually defeated an evil tyranny. Not to forget a small RAF force that was later able to defeat the larger Luftwaffe. I think that both of our nations, as remnants of ancient Israel, are watched over by the Lord , but we must hearken to the warnings by ancient prophets, that we will lose his protection if we turn from Him as many are doing today.

RobJuly 4, 2019

Hi Kate, Does the desire to return to a time of white supremacy include black people who wear MAGA hats?

Patricia CarrJuly 4, 2019

This is such a beautiful reminder of how we should be living our lives today. We definitely need the divine he!I of God to get this country back to what God established it to ve.

David AJuly 4, 2019

Stop buying all Nike Products! Boycotts are effective, but they'd rather listen to a silly, has-been wanna-be NFL player. Boycotts Nike!

KateJuly 4, 2019

I think that Nike made the right decision. The Betsy Ross flag, as lovely as it is, is a favored symbol used by white supremacists, harking back as it does to a time when black people were slaves and women were legally chattel--a world the supremacists would dearly love to recreate. I would not want to wear shoes with that symbol, and I'm guessing that the target demographic of the shoes would not either. Its only value would be to help the rest of us spot those sympathetic to white privilege, much like a MAGA hat does.

KateJuly 4, 2019

There is so much to be said about this topic. Yes, follow the prophets, but be sure that you obtain your own assurance from the Lord regarding their counsel. Brigham Young worried aloud on several occasions that the saints would just give their agency away to the church leaders and not confirm counsel themselves. It is our responsibility to make conscious choices, confirmed by the Holy Ghost. Also it is very important to remember that the prophetic counsel we should heed is that coming from the prophets alive today, not those from years ago. Things change. As an example, one of the other commentators referred to the Equal Rights Amendment--while the Church opposed it in the 1970s, it had been supported by the Church when it was originally proposed in the early 20th century. Something obviously changed. Were it to be re-introduced today, it is possible that we would get different counsel than in the 70s (or not). What Pres. Kimball said in the 70s is interesting (and sounds so much like him! ), but we should not assume that Pres. Nelson would say the same nearly 50 years later.

Carol AnnJuly 4, 2019

I am now a fan of Arizona Governor Doug Ducey (R). Finally, someone on the right side of history speaks out boldly and loudly! ONE person on the left should not have that much power to compel and change Nike's decision making!

EstherJuly 4, 2019

Beautiful reminder. Much appreciated today. A day when my life is simple and can be reflective on our founding fathers and mothers. Their resilience and devotion to covenant with God and have faith in all might to keep moving forward.

Mary LindeJuly 4, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful lesson. I was truly touched by the Spirit. You have a wonderful way of writing that opens the heart to the message written within.

Pat Elliott, Sr.July 4, 2019

There are many examples of how spiritual & physical intervention has helped the outcome of battles in wars and the one mentioned in the text is a very good example. There are a number of scriptures that is an affirmation of this and the creation of the United States of America, D&C 101:79-80, being an excellent example. There are a number of things that happened during WW II during battles, the Battle of Midway and what happened there, are excellent examples as how Heavenly Father helped this nation against a brutal, aggressor nation of Japan and there are other significant happenings during that brutal war that helped the U.S., and allies, win the effort.

RachaelJuly 4, 2019

I appreciate your great insights and knowledge. Thank you for sharing with all of us!

ClaireJuly 4, 2019

This is such an informative article! My thoughts exactly, although I’d never to phrase at as eloquently as you.

Larry SteimleJuly 4, 2019

What is our responsibility in protecting this great gift we have been given? First to be informed, to appreciate, then to teach our children and show them the way. God bless America.

KateJuly 3, 2019

I realized this when my oldest was a toddler and would be the perfect child at the babysitter’s and have a complete meltdown by the time we got home. After a few months of this, I realized that he’d been keeping it together (he was 2!) for several hours and knew that now that he was with momma, he could let all those scary emotions out. Honestly, my husband does it too! It helped so much when I realized what was going on—I’m happy they trust me to be that safe harbor.

Esmeralda AmosJuly 3, 2019

Thank you for your words of wisdom. This information ( The crumbles) may equally apply to adults!

HalJuly 3, 2019

Thank your for this article. I found this out the hard way. My first marriage was to a divorcee' who condescended to marry me because she saw me as "a diamond in the rough." (i.e. "project"). I was determined to be the best husband possible and sacrificed to accommodate her every desire. However, I never quite measured up to her expectations. Her disappointment in me gradually turned to frustration and finally to the point where she despised me and I couldn't do anything right. As mentioned in the article, over the years, I HAD changed to meet her expectations. Unfortunately, it was like getting a puppy that is, at first, adored for what it is. But then it digs up the yard, so you have it declawed; it barks all the time, so you have it debarked; it sheds on the carpet, so you have it shaved; you get tired of cleaning up after it, so you banish it to a 4 x 8 foot dog run. You still have a dog, but it is a sad, lonely, neurotic animal that is no fun for anyone (especially the dog). That's the way I felt - I had changed to meet my wife's expectations but, in doing so, was "no longer the man I used to be." The man my wife fell in love with had become someone else and she didn't like it. Looking back, it was inevitable that we divorced. I later met a wonderful woman who took me for who I was and our love has grown and flourished for many years now. Perhaps I needed my first marriage to appreciate just how well I am treated by my current wife.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 3, 2019

This article I should have read when my children were small. Thank you for these wonderful insights. We all need a safe place to vent.

Cary HolmquistJuly 3, 2019

Thank you for writing this and sharing your insights. I will make sure my wife reads this as she is the safe harbor for the three of our kids who crumble only with her. She does not complain about it, really, but it does wear her out sometimes, as you can imagine. My role is limited, since they won’t confide in me that much.... But your insight will be helpful!

HalJuly 3, 2019

Loved this article! It reminds me of a story I read in the Ensign years ago. A father of a Downs Syndrome son was sitting next to his then 5-year-old with feelings of concern regarding the future of his boy. Out of the blue, the boy looked up and said with perfect clarity, "Dad, I'm okay." Sometimes we're blessed with small, tender mercies to calm our fears and help us to soldier on.

ChuckJuly 3, 2019

In the fall of 1984, I was assigned to the U.S. Air Force band of Europe. We toured the countries of western Europe to participate in festivities marking their 40th anniversary of liberation from the Nazis who had turned Europe into a charnel house. As part of this, I went into many cemeteries to sound Taps in honor of American war dead. When surrounded many times by white crosses and occasional Stars of David, I reflected how none of those good men wanted to die, but they fought Nazi-led troops, were killed, and buried in Europe. I am so grateful that God knows these men, by name, knows of their bravery and sacrifice, and will, indeed, honor them as His children for their commitment to freedom for me, and for you.

ConnieJuly 3, 2019

I feel for people in states like Arizona whose systems are being stretched to the breaking point by refugees. I’m a public school teacher and I understand how hard it can be to meet the needs of students in the large classroom, especially when many are suffering trauma. People in those states deserve the support of the rest of us in dealing with the current refugee crisis. And that’s what it is, a refugee crisis. Because of a failure of the governments in those Central American countries to protect and support their people, partly As a result of previous US support of corrupt regimes, human beings are doing anything they can to ensure their children have a safer and better life. In the midst of this crisis we’ve reduced aid to those Central American countries, assuring that more people will flee. They will flee just as many of the our ancestors fled. Nobody asked the current citizens of this great land (Native Americans) whether they would accept boatloads of refugees from Europe. We just showed up, stinking and starving and carrying disease. Now, as descendants of those Who fled Europe to escape its oppression and poverty, and who have completely taken over this land, we owe it to the descendants of those Europe colonized, some help. Or, putting history aside, we owe it to our fellow human beings to give them succor. I am confused by those who say the Savior, a man sentenced to death by the government of the day for being a subversive, for doing such things as overturning the tables of moneychangers in the temple and healing on the Sabbath, and questioning the morals of those in power, would say that He would support not helping these people. Whether the money comes for their assistance through private donations, or through taxes, doesn’t matter. Taxes are monies levied for what we’ve decided to do as a group, even if we don’t have 100% agreement. Unless we want this crisis to continue, and states on the southern border to continue to be overburdened , and children to continue to die, and families to continue to be separated, we must intervene. We must intervene at both the source of the problem and the source of its effects: in central America and at the border. Government is best positioned to do this. Most people I know have put their money where their mouth is when it comes to helping refugees. It isn’t enough. Now government has to step in. If government is unwilling, we must challenge it until it changes.

Dr. AnonymousJuly 3, 2019

Henry D Moyle, a counselor to President McKay, visited my mission and stated from the pulpit that none of us would ever rist to greater heights that we did on our missions. Thankfully, that particular statement proved to be untrue in my case!

Nihla Wilco JuddJuly 3, 2019

My mother was born and died a Canadian, and yet she was the most patriotic American I knew. We never missed a July 4th Parade or a fireworks display. She played the Star Spangled Banner, the Battle Hymn of the Republic and God Bless America on our old upright piano in our living room. Old Glory was flown in our yard. Whenever a flag passed by or was in close proximity, she was the first to stand, the first to have her hand over her heart, and she saw to it that her four children were next to do so. Fearing that she would not be able to pass the citizenship test, she never tried, but remained a red blooded American to her last day. God bless my mom for her patriotic example, and God bless America!

James HarveyJuly 3, 2019

Except he leaves out the fact that Madison opposed installing chaplains in both the military and in Congress

Don HoffmanJuly 3, 2019

I love this perspective.

July 3, 2019

Words of our prophets. The Constitution and free republic granted by heaven through the instrumentality of inspired and courageous framers and founders carries the responsibility to uphold the principles they were willing to sacrifice for. Thank you for sharing.

Michael Shea, MDJuly 2, 2019

A great story of enlightenment. Thank you.

Mrs. Barbara LittlefieldJuly 2, 2019

My husband (lifelong Church member) and newly baptised me (Nov 2018) watched it together...we were both in tears several times! A very powerful representation of the best human qualities brought out by faithful adherence to the covenants of the Mormon faith, and the awe and beauty of the South Pacific in landscape, song, and culture.

EvelingJuly 2, 2019

Thanks for all the info!. I'm hispanic and will definitely share some of the interesting details you provide on this amazing podcast on sunday school...

Jo AnnJuly 2, 2019

I am going to post one of these a day on Facebook and also send them to my children and grandchildren. I think a lot of members of the Church do not know what our prophets have taught us about the Constitution and the men and women who developed this country.

Jo AnnJuly 2, 2019

This was so interesting to read. Thank you for this timely information.

Rachel KummerJuly 2, 2019

This is one of my favorite songs, and is even in my wedding video! I love the message of it so much. Is the sheet music available anywhere?

Boanerges RubalcavaJuly 2, 2019

What President Nelson did was to call attention to the scriptures; we read in 3Nephi 27:8 "And how it be my church save it be called in my name? For if a church be called in Moses' name then it be Moses' church; or if it be called in the name of a man then it be the church of a man; but if it be called in my name then it is my church, if it so be that they built upon my gospel." I'd recommend to everybody to read the complete 27 chapter in 3 Nephi. For me this was very clear since my early years as member of the true Church of Christ on earth, I've always thought that we were neglecting the scriptures and logic when we accepted they called us "mormons", and worse when we accepted to call the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, the "mormon church". I am glad this has been corrected by the prophet.

karell BinghamJuly 2, 2019

This is the perfect time for everyone to welcome the name of Christ into our Church's title again. So many in our times are moving away from anything that mentions Him for fear of being brought somehow to shame for being exclusionary.

Joyce MeserveyJuly 2, 2019

Beautiful. Love this song. Love this time of year. The 4th of July is my favorite holiday. Love the songs we sing and they still bring tears to my eyes & gives me goosebumps. Thankful to the Veterans past, present & future that make the freedoms we enjoy possible. I love AMERICA!

Rochelle HaleJuly 2, 2019

Where else can you go and spend so little? $500 per month is a bargain, especially when you factor in other expenses besides housing. Back before there was a standard monthly cost and allocation of funds, missionaries managed their finances themselves. Initially my mission cost was $120 per month, but due to inflation I could easily get by for half that for a good part of my mission. Friends supplemented what I did not have, and after I got home I was able to return excess funds in my account to help other missionaries.

Justin MastersJuly 2, 2019

My wife and I had to drive a bit to see this movie (surprising, as a local theater usually shows LDS oriented movies), and it was hard to find a pair of seats at a respectable distance from the screen. The movie was refreshing and emotionally exhausting, as you went through each trial as portrayed in the movie, and saw the faith of those who endured them. It's not hard to see how each of our lives are similarly tried, and with faith can overcome all and eventually rise victorious. I applaud the inclusion of the dialogue at the end, that explains the lives of the main characters. It was handled in love and respect, even towards those who opposed the faith, but served God in their own ways. I loved the portrayal of Pres. Monson by Russell Dixon... from the opening "referee" scene where it was his eyes and eyebrows that did the "talking" to the goat herding, to the inspiration in the barber's chair.

Justin MastersJuly 2, 2019

Thank you for posting a wonderful essay and tribute to James Madison that outlines the upbringing and guiding influence that shaped the law to which we most dearly hold fast to. And thank you for outlining John Witherspoon's influence as well. Both men among many who prepared this land for freedoms that are a guiding light for the world today.

Newell HarwardJuly 2, 2019

Thank you for those very inspirational quotes. I am so grateful to all who have sacrificed so much for our liberty I am saddened to witness a rapid decline in patriotism and a move toward socialism.

A. BinghamJuly 2, 2019

Elder Patrick Kearon's recent piece "Of Rights and Responsibilities: The Social Ecosystem of Religious Freedom" given at the Religious Freedom Annual Review" provides additional insights on key ingredients of a properly functioning pluralistic society. The rule of law is especially critical when people fail to take responsibility to ensure their own rights AND also HEED the rights of others. We live in such a society today.

Mary Jane McCayJuly 1, 2019

You knocked it out of the ball park the movie was wonderful and I feel it was as good as the first Other Side of Heaven movie.

Paul HJuly 1, 2019

If not knowing a lot about Church history is your reason to fail to share the Restored Gospel and in your mind it is a valid reason, what does that say for all the thousands of young missionaries throughout the world? I think you missed my point, which wasn't about some fear in sharing the Gospel, but a personal fear in being willing to learn about the Church and by attachment, the Gospel. "Ignorance is bliss" is one way of saying it. For me, the more I learn the greater my testimony grows and is sustained that it is indeed true. Not all learning is from history books, either. Fast Meeting is an example of such learning. New converts are some of the better individuals for sharing the Gospel because they have come into a new spiritual light and understanding and their knowledge of the Church is small, yet their experience is fresh and life changing. They have enthusiasm for sharing it.

Douglas E NadybalJuly 1, 2019

That might be another myth, that you have to know a lot about Church history to share the gospel.

Jenny VisentinJuly 1, 2019

https://missionary.lds.org/clothing/sister/grooming/demo/skin?lang=eng This is where is talks about concealer.

DanielJuly 1, 2019

I'm a little concerned about the second paragraph of this article portraying all husbands having gotten "much their sexual learning [..] from questionable sources like pornography." This seems like a very presumptuous and stereotypical comment, that paints and unhealthy picture of men's sexuality that sows mistrust. How can it be healthy for women to enter into a relationship with this prejudice toward a potential spouse?

KateJuly 1, 2019

No, H North and the other commenter, children were not endowed. However, garments were essentially union suits (they were basically normal underwear with markings added), because to the Victorian mores of the time it seemed much more appropriate to show women with children in their underwear rather than women alone. It was also considered perfectly fine to sew your own temple garments up until mid-century and my MIL, who worked for years at JC Penney in Provo, said she remembers when temple garments were sold at Penney's. When Rose Marie Reid redesigned women's garments and the Church took over all production, everything changed. You could still buy "union suit" garments at least into the 1970s, and of course the garments worn in the temple itself had to be long-sleeved and -legged until then as well. Thankfully, times change!

William BakerJuly 1, 2019

This is an important topic for latter-day saints. We need never doubt the prophets, and the nearer we come to Christ, the more we will agree with prophetic declarations and understand the "why" behind those declarations.

Paul HJuly 1, 2019

Along this same line of hesitancy, is a fear of learning about Church history. "People are afraid they might learn something about their religion" is a phrase I used to tell my teenage children. "Never fear a study of the Restored Gospel will weaken or destroy your Testimony" was my follow-up statement. But learn from a true source, not some internet site that specializes in anti-LDS thought. The Joseph Smith Papers are an excellent source for those with inquiring minds that want to learn in detail about the subject. There is nothing that is worthy of fearing or from which you need turn away in the Church's history, even though no member is perfect.

JacobJuly 1, 2019

If he’s anything like me( me and most men) he’s compartmentalizing. His time with the kids, he’s in dad mode you don’t exist. When he’s with you, he’s in husband mode, believe it or not, the kids kinda don’t exist In those moments. (This is also HOW men are able to cheat) Men take in a lot, but we drop wats unnecessary to tend to the necessary that’s just how we are wired. If we tried to combine all task, we’d NEVR get anything accomplished. See women would rush to blend the two ASAP( like you’re actively doing) not realizing it’s NOT ABOUT YOU (again wat you’re doing) and it would all crash and burn. This is why step-families have hatred because some idiot didn’t consider the clashes of combing total strangers into one household.

Nadine AndertonJuly 1, 2019

When rhe Equal Rights Amendment was very controversial in Church circles, I was very conflicted. In the late '60s I was a divorced mother of two young children. My former husband only paid me child support when his current wife's ex-husband paid the support he owed her, which evidently was not regularly. It had been difficult for me to find a job at all, in Utah, because single women were not considered to be a good risk because they might get married and leave the work force. Even in California, I kept having to justify my minimum-wage job because I was "taking a job away from a man who had to support his family." WHAT? I had a need to support MY family! So the equal protection of some rights was important to me. However, knowing that I was out of sync with the Prophet and other leaders of the Church was troubling to me. After much prayer, I finally felt that although I had the agency to support the amendment, I was out of step with God's revealed word. I believed that asking questions was a good thing to do as long as the purpose was was to get answers by personal revelation. That answer for me was that I should continue to pray to understand why the amendment was not supported by God and his prophets and that I should wholeheartedly follow their leadership. I am thankful for my agency to make my own choices, but I know that I when my initial instincts lead me in a different path from prophetic leadership, I had better pray until my feelings are in line with God's revealed word. We will not be led astray!

MichaelJune 30, 2019

An interesting question is raised. Why did people hate Mormons enough to want to kill them? I think understanding the answer could be useful, if the time ever returns when we suffer physical persecution. Family legend tells of an ancestor who was supposedly a Danite during the conflict in Missouri and how he fought back against the mobs. I know this history is controversial but if it is true that some members of the church were fighting back, plundering property and burning and shooting at other people, whether guilty or innocent of mob activity, that could snowball into extreme anger and violence. .https://byustudies.byu.edu/content/danite-band-1838 It is best to follow the Savior's advice to turn the other cheek, which probably was the more common response, even though it cost people their farms and homes and sometimes their lives. I think the part of the story of being kind and generous, even to our enemies, is the most notable part of this story.

MaryannJune 30, 2019

I am sick to death of the obsessive saturation in our country over the issues of LGBTQXYZ "rights." Is is really about "rights?" The real issue is that there are some who are issuing demands that attempt to force my acceptance of a sinful lifestyle. If we do not accept, and even support, the immorality of practicing homosexuality, the next step is to try and shame us. If someone won't bake your wedding cake, there are plenty of other bakers who will. Get over it.

MaryannJune 30, 2019

I was about to comment on this article, but I couldn't say it any better than Charles Kraut. I hope everyone will take the time to read his wise and well thought out comment. I will say that I am especially concerned about the fact that the government stole the funds from Social Security and are unable to replace them. How can we dole out money to illegal aliens when we can't even take care of our own people?! This is going to become increasingly serious as we see more and more "baby-boomers" coming of age to receive the funds they paid into social security for many years. For some, this is their only source of income.

MaryannJune 30, 2019

Thanks so much for this! You have given me additional inspiration for my preparations to teach this lesson next Sunday!

Samuel AtumaJune 30, 2019

Wonderful thoughts on listening. I enjoyed reading every word. I took to heart what you had to say about listening for acceptance above agreement. One word 'amazing'

Ann SiggardJune 30, 2019

I own a book entitled, "The Fate of the Persecutors of the Prophet Joseph Smith" which details many gruesome maladies of this mob after they were acquitted in a court of law in Illinois. It;s accounts sound very much like the account mentioned here.

Mark MathesonJune 30, 2019

A wonderful, up-lifting movie. It had dramatic tension and heart-rending plot-lines that moistened my eyes often and strengthened my faith. Tell your friends to see it!

JaneJune 30, 2019

Are we going to try to build Zion without making room for our LGBT brothers and sisters? I don't think we can. It seems to me that there needs to be a little more humility on both sides of this issue, and more willing to see other perspectives. The article sort of approached this, but not really. Being part of a society which seeks the inclusion and well-being of all of us makes it imperative that we begin to see that our gay brothers and sisters who desire marriage and family are just simply being human, and that these desires are honorable. To my mind, there are plenty of reasons (and benefits) to make room for them and their families in our public life. You don't have to agree with gay marriage to simply treat them with respect, and make sure that they not be discriminated against.

Marie CJune 30, 2019

I saw it at its first showing on Friday morning at 10:45 at the AMC in Times Square. There were ten of us. Words can't describe its power. Please see it. You won't be disappointed.

Cheryl Roderick-LittleJune 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing your insights to these beautiful teachings m! I currently serve in Primary and I look forward through reading your lessons. Your tremendous preparation is a blessing to me.

Sandy ReddishJune 30, 2019

This is just beautiful thanks for sharing! There is something very special about being up at night with a little one....unforetunetly , none of my kids have been good sleepers and I was bleary eyed and desperate by baby number 5. When one of my good friends noticed I wasn't looking so hot and shared her secret (she has seven kids)... So long story short look up Woombies. They are special jammies to help babies sleep and are divine....worth every penny. Also I would try to sleep when he sleeps. You will recover better and get stronger faster if you do it. Get a nice thick eye mask for daytime sleep....

Luis LoayzaJune 29, 2019

Being myself in the shoes of this father, how inspirational I find this article. The world really needs more transitional family characters. Thanks.

Ruth JamiesonJune 29, 2019

Such an excellent movie!! Sitting on the edge of seat at times biting my nails and crying at others. This is an action packed movie full of faith and overcoming differences of other faiths! Loved it!!

Sue BringhurstJune 29, 2019

Michael Grant, what makes you assume those who push for immigration reform and humanity haven't opened their pocketbooks and/or homes. You should do some research on this particular author and her ilk before passing judgement. They are adoptive mothers, founders and leaders of humanitarian organizations, active with their Congress, etc. They have personally been to the our southern border, Cox Bazaar, Afghanistan and other places. Seriously.

Sue BringhurstJune 29, 2019

To all of you who still adhere that they are lawbreakers. This "law" is equivalent to speeding and driving on an expired license or registration. Cast the first stone?

VeronikaJune 29, 2019

"Some days we can feel nearly crushed by mourning and feelings of helplessness over laws and policies that inflict suffering on God’s most vulnerable children." I relate to this very much. The need to resist unjust laws is more relevant now than ever. We've got to raise our voices for compassion. Thank you for such an insightful piece.

Sue BringhurstJune 29, 2019

With the world in turmoil and so many peoples displaced, how can we as the most rich and well off turn our backs and site law? Germany and France have done so much. I hang my head in shame as I read the comments above. Where is the Christ in our Christianity? What have I done? Do I stand condemned? I pledge to do more than just lip service. Thank you for stirring me to action.

June 29, 2019

It is not required by law to detain asylum seekers who have passed a credibly fear interview. In fact, it goes against every compassionate, humanitarian, and merciful instinct. The law does not require that an asylum seeker wait in another country for the court decision on their asylum petition. The law REQUIRES that anyone asking for asylum do it on US soil or at a Port of Entry (all of which have been metered so it's impossible to come through there without starving to death first). The worst of the humanitarian crisis at the border is caused by current policy, NOT by law. The vast majority of those coming to our border right now are asylum seekers.

JoanJune 29, 2019

Thank you for this very thoughtful piece. As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. wrote in Letter from Birmingham Jail: "There are two types of laws: just and unjust. I would be the first to advocate obeying just laws. One has not only a legal but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws. I would agree with St. Augustine that "an unjust law is no law at all." Now, what is the difference between the two? How does one determine whether a law is just or unjust? A just law is a man made code that squares with the moral law or the law of God. An unjust law is a code that is out of harmony with the moral law. To put it in the terms of St. Thomas Aquinas: An unjust law is a human law that is not rooted in eternal law and natural law. Any law that uplifts human personality is just. Any law that degrades human personality is unjust."

JanJune 29, 2019

Saw it last night, the theater was nearly empty... but those there sat though the credits and we spoke to each other as we left... "wasn't it amazing, can you believe it?" Well worth the time and effort to go. We laughed and cried and cried, then laughed some more. Couldn't believe the faith of the Groberg family and helped me to love them without meeting them. You understand immediately why President Monson wanted it made... he played such a big part in the story.

Donna DeusenberryJune 29, 2019

Thanks to recliner seats we were able to see it yesterday at the earliest showing. It took on even greater significance because we’d recently re-viewed the first part/first movie about Elder Grohberg’s mission as a youth! The Spirit was strong from the opening scene! Take lots of Kleenex!!! It’s sweet manna from start to finish!!

JudiJune 28, 2019

what's with the woman's sole of her foot?

Rita McNeilJune 28, 2019

I saw it last night in Hillsboro, Oregon. I was so disappointed to see that there were only 5 people attending. I thought the movie was very good--professionally done, excellent acting (all the characters were so believable), satisfying as entertainment, and, of course, the story was just amazing. I loved the real-life photos shown at the end, and the short bio of the family. Excellent movie-making. Thank you to all involved.

Gayle WJune 28, 2019

Two years ago I was visiting Carthage Jail. Among the group of tourists in our group was a woman whose ancestor was a member of the mob that murdered Hyrum and Joseph. She is a member of the church, and she told us how bad she felt because of what her ancestor did. It was important for her to visit that place.

CubbyJune 28, 2019

Two thoughts. One is that having access to a car at home is a privilege. Senior missionaries pay extra, too. Maybe paying extra would help missionaries not have the sense of entitlement. The other thought is that if the person is willing, the Lord will provide, I know he will. Start that mission with an act of faith, find a job, work hard, and pray. The Lord will provide!

AnonymousJune 28, 2019

So true! After being married for several years and a widow for another several, I had a marriage proposal. “I didn’t need anyone.” How glad I am that I accepted that proposal! Truly, trading my independence for interdependence has been WONDERFUL!

Gaye BreillattJune 28, 2019

Well worth the money. Changes so many lives including the missionary and his or her family!!!!!

A. BinghamJune 28, 2019

Charles Kraut your comments are interesting. I am not sure that forced compassion in the form of taxation to support ongoing illegal immigration activities is getting us to a higher place. It is quite a pickle that our legislative department has gotten the US into. It is our responsibility as citizens to speak out to our elected representatives on the unacceptablity of the current situation. Sponsorship that is enforced appears to be the best way forward and ensures a fairness, accountability, and an ethical standard by which all parties can be judged. Great post.

A. WildeJune 28, 2019

Before the Church "standardized" the monthly cost for missionaries our serving the Lord we had a young man leave from our ward to serve in Japan. The family's monthly contribution was well in excess of $1,000/ month. This monthly increase is really quite reasonable.

Arlene S PearsonJune 28, 2019

It was an amazing, emotional movie.

Laurel H DraperJune 28, 2019

I saw this movie last night, and I believe it is just what Pres. Monson, Elder Groberg and Mitch Davis envisioned and desired it to be. It is a magnificently filmed and directed motion picture; its story taking place against the backdrop of a gorgeous island nation in the Pacific. It has heart and an ample serving of the Spirit...some of which you'll undoubtedly take home. It is a feast for the eyes, and with its incredible added measure of the almost unbelievable true story, this movie will fill your heart and soul with the faith promoting examples of the incredible lengths some dedicated servants of the Lord will go...to serve Him, and to share His gospel. I left this movie wanting to do, and be better. I couldn't recommend it more! And see it this weekend, so it can be seen by greater numbers, with wider distribution!

Mary Ann McConkieJune 28, 2019

Thank you for assembling this beautiful photo essay. I had thought several times throughout the day (the 27th): "this is the anniversary of the the Martyrdom". But those fleeting thoughts were enlarged to a profound gratitude after viewing the pictures and the quotes. Well done.

Sasha KwapinskiJune 27, 2019

Just saw it today. It opened today (the 27th) in my area.

Richard JukesJune 27, 2019

Very moving essay, Scott. You really captured many of the feelings Marie and I had when we were there. Thank you.

Bryant RidgwayJune 27, 2019

The author makes some great points....however, we here in Arizona are really stressed making this work for the people that are traveling through Mexico into the U.S. Our schools are being flooded with kids that cost a tremendous amount of money to feed and educate. Our social welfare system is bursting at its seams. There is an lawful way to enter the U.S.... it should be followed. I have traveled all 7 continents and used my passport to gain legal entry into each country. Even Mexico requires entry visa and if you are staying for a long time, a passport.

Ken McGowanJune 27, 2019

I totally agree with Charles K. The government is deciding the rate of tax and how it is spent. To allow anyone who wants to come to America come and then have access to financial subsides without the support of the elected is stealing from one group (the American) to give to another (illegal entries). Let’s face it, the Treasury is not inexhaustible and without some manner of control and continued increase in taxes the Treasury will at some point be empty and everyone reduced to poverty. The writer seems to be advocating a particular political viewpoint which is dangerous. Ancient Rome was overcome and destroyed by “illegal” entries and in some way there is a modern parrallel.

ScottHJune 27, 2019

"How is there room to treat other people with hate when people are seriously suffering in this world?" This goes back to the old adage, "Hurt people hurt people." This is not an excuse; just an explanation. We tend to hurt others when we are hurting inside. When we act out of fear rather than out of love we can hurt others, even while it looks to us like we are prudently protecting. At least in my case, I often don't even realize that I am insisting on holding onto hurt rather than giving it to the Savior, who has already paid that price and has carried that burden.

Richard ClingerJune 27, 2019

It's interesting to note that our hymnal number 27 is "Praise To The Man". Easy to remember the date of June 27, 1844 --the Prophet's martyrdom.

Pamela SmithJune 27, 2019

"This is why socialism is evil. It employs evil means, confiscation and intimidation, to accomplish what are often seen as noble goals — namely, helping one's fellow man. Helping one's fellow man in need by reaching into one's own pockets to do so is laudable and praiseworthy. Helping one's fellow man through coercion and reaching into another's pockets is evil and worthy of condemnation. Tragically, most teachings, from the church on down, support government use of one person to serve the purposes of another; the advocates cringe from calling it such and prefer to call it charity or duty." Walter E. Williams from "Concealing Evil."

D.L. AndersonJune 27, 2019

While I cannot condone what the old man had done (who would???), such misery in this life - & from a son - regardless of how the son was treated or who the "Brother Brooks" (for so he IS) was as criminal as whatever else this man had done. I'm glad to see that the saints of that time and place were kind.

karell BinghamJune 27, 2019

June 27th is always a sad day for me as I remember the murder of the Prophet Joseph!

rebkotJune 27, 2019

I have an uneasy worry that innocent people from South America are being used for political purposes by activists from our country encouraging them to come to this country, not because it is good for the immigrant, but because it furthers the agenda of the activists. This is such a confusing issue - one way I try to determine which view to take is to look around the room at who is supporting a certain view: Am I in bed with Hollywood elites, abortion advocates, Constitution haters and anti-religion folks? I may be in the wrong room.

Alexander ForsythJune 27, 2019

How many of this murderous mob were wounded, or killed, by returning fire form Prophet Joseph and his faithful band?

BrynnJune 27, 2019

It is entirely possible that the daughter in this story lacked respect and kindness. However, as someone who is a caretaker for an elderly mother, I want to share another possible perspective. A few years ago that daughter might have been me. If I tried to fill out forms at the doctor’s office without asking for my mother’s input (even though I knew the answers) she would view it as an assault upon her independence—as if I didn’t consider her really there. I, too, would sometimes need to loudly ask her the questions since even with hearing aids she struggles to hear with the background noise of doctor’s offices. I admit that I would not have asked that specific question out loud. But what if I had? A few years ago my mother had a short-term reaction to a post-surgery medication she had been on that caused her to feel depressed and hopeless. If she had said she felt hopeless most of the time, I would have ached for her as I did every single day during that time, but I would not have reacted in the doctor’s office since I already was well aware of that side effect and knew there was nothing we could do until she recovered from that reaction. Those in the doctor’s office would not have seen all of the other moments when I tried to patiently encourage, uplift and support her day after day. I was, and still am, dedicated to my mother who I love dearly. At the same time, being a caretaker in such a situation is emotionally draining for many reasons. There were times back then when I found myself struggling with feelings of hopelessness. Those who observed me with my mother in several challenging situations where things might have appeared one way didn’t know the entire story. Offering compassion and support instead of judgment is another form of respect—and when I received that compassion as I struggled to do the best I was able in caring for my mom, it was a much needed tender mercy. We have to be very careful when we judge others not really knowing the full story.

CJJune 27, 2019

So far no comments have covered the topic of abuse. Lies in a marriage are abusive. Trust is shattered and trauma occurs. Lies are a betrayal of sorts. Until this wife realizes she and her marriage are being abused, and whether she wants to continue living in this situation, or is able to remove herself from it in time, it will be a miserable marriage for her and any children that are or are to come in that union. So many women do not understand the complexities of an abusive relationship and choose to remain married out of covenant with God when the spouse has chosen to leave that covenant. Even a civil marriage between two non-Christians is a covenant of sorts. It is an agreement at least between themselves. God is not ok with abuse. However, He allows us the choice and if we choose to leave for the safety of our emotional and physical health, the Lord is faithful to assist as needed. I hope this woman can get into some abuse counseling and help her realize just where her situation is. There may be more going on with her husband behind the scenes than she knows about--he won't be the one to reveal it to her because he lies. She could be in danger from a number of issues. He is the one with the problem and makes the choice to remain. She also has a choice whether she wants to live her life wrapped around his behaviors.

Claudia H. SmithJune 27, 2019

Very interesting article. I hope you find more.

June 26, 2019

No , these ads are for”UnionSuits” or, regular long underwear! Children were not endowed, but they did wear long underwear , everyone did!! I

Elsa FigueroaJune 26, 2019

This is an excellent article. We parents are so afraid of letting our children make mistakes and we try shield them from the natural consequences that come. I think it was an excellent written article and something that most of us need to implemen to be better parents to some or our very entitled children of this generation. We need to allow our children to do hard things to learn and grow!!!! The Lord really is our greatest example of how to be the best parent!!

Becky OttesonJune 26, 2019

I have a friend with chronic sinus problems, are you sharing the doctor who treated you?

Charles KrautJune 26, 2019

I struggle to understand the connection between your scriptural quotations and related discussion and the issue of "compassionate" immigration. The United States is now a welfare state, and millions of hard-working Americans are forced to pay high taxes literally at the point of a gun. What do they get for surrendering their hard-earned money? They receive the hatred and bile of the recipients of their money, the funds they might have used to improve their home, send their children to college, make charitable contributions, and so on. America under our Constitution has a government tasked with one specific purpose; to protect the freedoms of every citizen. There was a time when immigrants flooded our shores seeking freedom from oppression and the opportunity to work hard and make a life for themselves and their families. In many cases today that is no longer true. Millions of people come here to have "anchor babies" that will enable whole families to circumvent our laws and come here to receive benefits the taxpayers must pay for. America may be "the world's only remaining superpower" but we are not and were never intended to be the world's sugar daddy. Our immigration laws are largely ignored today as millions of illegal immigrants stream across our southern border, are processed and allowed into the country, and quickly disappear, never showing up for their court hearing that will determine whether they will stay or be deported. Where is the compassion there? It is essential that line-jumpers not be given preferential treatment over those who use legal and appropriate means to enter the United States. All immigrants must be subjected to appropriate tests, for infectious diseases, for subversive proclivities, and more. If our government did not do this it would fail in its purpose - and that is exactly what is happening today. Let me give you an example of exactly how things should be done. If an individual or a corporation wants to sponsor an illegal immigrant, that person, group, or corporation should be required to post a bond for each immigrant. Since the average cost of an illegal immigrant to the taxpayers is $72,000, that should be the amount of the bond. Once the bond is paid, the sponsor becomes responsible for the conduct of that thoroughly vetted immigrant individual. It's a very simple system, and it works. I know it works because that was the official policy of the United States back in the 1970s. I returned to the United States as a serving member of the United States Army. I had met and married my German wife in Europe. When I returned to the US the Immigration officials had me and my bride sign a statement promising that under no circumstances would my wife - my legal immigrant wife - ever seek, accept, or receive any form of welfare from any level of government in the United States. I agreed to be responsible for her conduct and to provide for her for the rest of her life. Simple, appropriate, and legally sound. Americans need to wake up and realize that we have exhausted our financial resources as a nation. It's been a long time since LBJ raised the issue of "guns or butter." He went ahead with both, building the military for the Vietnam War and massively enlarging the welfare state through his Great Society programs. America has been on the road to bankruptcy ever since. I don't merely mean financial bankruptcy; the welfare state has helped to bring about our moral bankruptcy as well. As Christians our obligation is to serve and bless our neighbors. Having met those needs as we feel inspired to do, we are free to expend our personal resources on behalf of those "huddled masses yearning to breathe free," as the Progressive Emma Lazarus declared. Welfare must be individual and personal. We are not compassionate when we give away someone else's money. The sponsorship system works, and it is vastly superior in its faithfulness to scripture than anything that will ever come from government. Let's look toward real, personal solutions that will bless us for our individual efforts instead of government-imposed programs that impoverish us as a nation and drag us toward economic collapse. Did Jesus ever say that we needed a government program to serve others? Is salvation to be obtained at the cost of our freedom?

A. SeleneJune 26, 2019

One of the key points about Christ's earthly ministry is that He did not violate established law. In fact, the story of "pay unto Caesar" suggests that we owe duties both to God and earthly rulers/laws. See also Article of Faith 12. Notably, in the incident where He saved the adulteress from stoning, He did not challenge the correctness of the law (which would have been odd, in any event, since it was His law) or the fact that she had violated the law and her marriage vows, but instead provided her an opportunity to repent. Obviously Christ's First Coming was a mission of showing mercy; but too often members forget that God is also just, which means that he will enforce his laws. As for changing immigration laws, we will have to agree to disagree. I don't see anything merciful or loving about allowing millions of immigrants into the country with the concomitant depression of wages and increase in housing costs (you do remember the supply/demand curve from your economics classes?), increased crime (including identity theft), and increased public expenditures on law enforcement, welfare, etc., bringing with them the dysfunctions that caused them to leave their native countries in the first place. Unless you don't care about the people that are already here...?

Michael GrantJune 26, 2019

All those who wish to support non-legal immigrants can always open their pocketbooks and generously support those same people in their own countries to help them improve their country for the better. At the same time those same people do not have the right to force others to open their pocketbooks through the law and support a law they do not believe in. Remember, every country has their laws for LEGAL immigration and their laws punishing those who ILLEGALLY enter their countries. Sadly those who support ILLEGAL immigration never want to pay for and support those entering illegally, they always want everyone else to assume that expense. If you want to support those poor (or otherwise) souls NOT living in the United States, open your pocketbooks and voluntarily send them YOUR money; and then convince others to voluntarily do the same. REMEMBER, Heavenly Father gave you your free agency to CHOOSE, he did not force any of HIS laws on you, and you must do the same with others.

Alece ReynoldsJune 26, 2019

Of course we can challenge laws we don't like. But, until those legal laws are changed, we should try to follow them, just as our 12th Article of Faith encourages us to do. Ignoring constitutionally enacted laws only brings chaos!

Kay RookhuyzenJune 26, 2019

Another home run in both comedy and narrative! Loved the article!

Jim PetersonJune 26, 2019

Nice job illuminating this important truth. I have used your explanation of watching the "pendulum swinging" motion of the steering wheel many times. Keep using your gifts to bless the kingdom.

Shep KuesterJune 26, 2019

To challenge a law is not breaking it. Challenging means we are advocating a change to the law. Immigration made this country what it is. Illegal immigration may be our undoing. Illegal immigration is just that, illegal. Anyone doing this, for any reason, is breaking the law. If you break the law, you voluntarily disqualify yourself from being a legal resident. That leaves legal immigration, which I agree needs to be addressed. For several decades now, the Legislative branch has abdicated their responsibilities of writing and modifying laws. They abdicated to the Judicial Branch. Doing the tough job of rewriting or even eliminating hot topic laws ruins their chance of reelection and acquiring more power, so Congress lets the courts do it instead. Their inaction set the stage for the current situation going on at our southern border. The problem is not new, it's been going on a long time, just getting massive attention now. People, including children, have been dying on the border for decades. It's big news now because the flow has become a flood. The blame for this sits at the foot of a Congress that has failed for decades to act. As members of the Church, it is our civic duty to meet with other concerned citizens, put together points that would create a fair, compassionate, and workable immigration law and policy that will keep our country safe from criminals and terrorists, and speed up the process for asylum and economic immigration that is within reason and beneficial to our country, and those who wish to become citizens here. We take these points to our representatives, not just in one state, but every state. Congress will only listen to a massive movement. We are bound to obey the law. We are also bound to demand changes if those laws are unjust. To do that, we must speak up, and form cooperation within our communities, not to protest, but to put forth the points of a better law.

Alece ReynoldsJune 26, 2019

This is the best podcast you have done so far. The words are stunningly beautiful. The remarks about the two angels described in the JST translation of these scriptures fully resonated with me because they reminded me of the visual I have of the two Cheribrim found on the top of the Mercy Seat on the Ark of the Covenants found in both the Tabernacle and in the Holy of Holies of the Temple of Solomon -- also placed on each end of the seat -- just as these two angels placed themselves on each end of the stone slab in the seplecure on which the body of Christ was laid, and facing each other while standing as witnesses of the mercy of the Savior in forgiving his spiritual children of their sins -- which mercy could only be obtained through the death and resurrection of the Lord. The language expressed in these scriptures, which mentioned the shining garments of the angels, was also wonderful to hear as I had once had a beautiful experience in the Preston, England Temple while acting as proxy for an Iniatory ordinance, in which the woman who was receiving her clothing ordinance exclaimed in my ears and mind, "Oh, my shinning garment" as that ordinance was authorized for her. Beyond that, as I read your comments about the possible identiy of those two angels, the spirit confirmed, at least for me, that your possible identification of these two angels was correct. Thank- you for making such a profound moment possible for me!

David DurfeeJune 26, 2019

Regarding the very difficult issues of immigration and compassion, I realized something significant recently about the parable of the Good Samaritan. We focus on what the Samaritan did - he took the wounded man to an inn and paid the innkeeper to take care of him before he went on his way. Wonderful. But there is something very interesting that he did NOT do. He did NOT take the wounded man home with him to be nursed back to health in his own home by his own family. He would have CERTAINLY done that if the wounded man had been his son or his brother or his father, wouldn't he? He would not have simply dropped his wounded son off with an innkeeper. He would have taken him home! I think that the United States should do everything possible to make conditions in the home countries of these people more livable. Stick and carrot approaches with their governments - to fight corruption and gangs. Urge companies to move there and provide jobs. Etc., etc. But I do NOT believe that the answer is to bring all these people -- which would eventually be in the hundreds of millions -- home with us. That is misplaced compassion and that will be obvious when there are eventually so many of these people here that there will be 10 families living in your backyard in tents and you will be responsible for all of their medical, education and other needs. The parable of the Good Samaritan does not teach that. The Savior does not expect them. Urge our government to work to make conditions better in their own countries -- where they really want to be anyway.

karell BinghamJune 26, 2019

These are example of the Greek word for love: Agape. It is a love so powerful that you would be willing to give your life for your friends. It is the love of God. In his final words, Jesus pleaded for his apostles to love another. They missed it, they were too concerned that he said he must leave them. I truly believe that he used the word "agape". A new commandment. Agape. Just like Christ. Agape.

JimJune 26, 2019

Do we get to pick and choose which laws to obey and which laws we don't have to obey? I don't believe so. If we do pick and choose which laws to obey our not to obey, then we will be living in a lawless society. If we disagree with a law, then work to change it, but until it is changed, we should obey it.

Lisa CroftJune 26, 2019

So much in this to unwrap, but let me, as a lawyer, just add one thing about the event when Jesus “rescued” the woman who was ACCUSED of adulterous behavior. The law required two witnesses in order to condemn a woman for adultery. Christ asked for those accusers. Of course, it had to be someone who had. It participated in that crime. There were none to be had. I suspect the woman was more abused than a willing participant and Christ demanded that part of the law to be satisfied. He did not disregard the law. First, you have to understand the law, before you attempt to apply it or even change it. When we disregard the law, we reward the criminal elements of our communities and allow further abuse to take place. Don’t be deceived to think that by disregard our immigration laws are somehow compassionate. It is NOT!! (I, too am a lawyer.)

Larry SteimleJune 26, 2019

Exactly what are you trying to say?

Charles McClellandJune 26, 2019

Very timely message! We must all do our part to encourage creation and enforcement of laws and government policies that are in sync with the gospel of Jesus Christ.

H NorthJune 26, 2019

We have no responsibility to obey unjust laws. A large majority of the laws in America today are in direct conflict with the US Constitution, a holy document.

H NorthJune 26, 2019

Are those children wearing garments in those ads? Were children receiving their endowments 100 years ago?

Bob PowelsonJune 25, 2019

Colin is right on. Religious tights come first.

Herman the GermanJune 25, 2019

My son was 5 and 1/2 when he came in with a piece of paper covered with scrawls. "What's this?" "A birthday card for Jesus." Suddenly the scrawls changed into stick figures, and I was what he was trying to depict. In the first panel were Mary and Joseph and the animals kneeling before the manger. In the second panel was the tomb, with a rock rolled in front of it. In the third panel was the tomb with the rock rolled away. He had the life of Christ on a piece of paper. Then a gentle voice said, "For me? Why, thank you!" It was impressed on me that if He sees every sparrow that falls, then he appreciates a little boy drawing him a birthday card. I looked at the paper later, and all I could see were scrawls.

VardellJune 25, 2019

This can be a very confusing topic, and cannot be understood without a clear definition of the words "saved" and of "hell". Those early Mormons should not have been surprised at a revelation that sounded like universalism. The book of Mormon teaches: "Wherefore, he has given a law; and where there is no law given there is no punishment; and where there is no punishment there is no condemnation; and where there is no condemnation the mercies of the Holy One of Israel have claim upon them, because of the atonement; for they are delivered by the power of him. For the atonement satisfieth the demands of his justice upon all those who have not the law given to them, that they are delivered from that awful monster, death and hell, and the devil, and the lake of fire and brimstone" (2 Nephi. 9:25, emphasis added). King Benjamin taught the same principle: "For behold, and also his blood atoneth for the sins of those who have fallen by the transgression of Adam, who have died not knowing the will of God concerning them, or who have ignorantly sinned" (Mosiah 3:11, emphasis added). Mormon taught it: "For behold that all little children are alive in Christ, and also all they that are without the law. For the power of redemption cometh on all them that have no law; wherefore, he that is not condemned, or he that is under no condemnation, cannot repent; and unto such baptism availeth nothing— . . . for repentance is unto them that are under condemnation and under the curse of a broken law" (Moroni 8:22, emphasis added). So indisputably those who pass mortality unexposed to the law of the gospel are "delivered" by the Atonement and grace of Christ and have part in the first resurrection. But keep in mind that the first resurrection involves a morning and afternoon, and includes those of a Celestial and a Terrestrial glory. So these scriptures do not mean that ignorance is a free pass to exaltation. Notice that nowhere in these verses is the word "saved" which almost always means Gods Kingdom - exaltation. Josephs vision of the degrees of glory says that these who die ignorant of the gospel will be in the terrestrial kingdom. "these are they who are of the terrestrial… these are they who died without law." D&C 76:72 Of course there are personal exceptions and D&C 137:7 seems to be an exception to D&C 76:72. Do you have another explanation of how to reconcile these two apparently conflicting scriptures?

Mike DenosJune 25, 2019

Thank you for the article from United Families. I know this organization has been working to strengthen families for several decades and as such is labeled by many and has seen pushback. This call to awareness and lovingly speaking out is needed for all faith groups. The family must remain the core of humanity. Our Heavenly Father expects us to be a vanguard.

Phillip C. SmithJune 25, 2019

A wise and thoughtful piece. Thank you

ColinJune 25, 2019

OK, you've identified the "elephant in the room". A situation that is obvious to almost any thinking individual. I expected to see a thought or suggestion to address the "elephant" but was disappointed. I'm looking for answers as well but found none here. Therefore, I offer this. The 1st amendment to the US Constitution guarantees the free exercise of religion in that the congress (and I believe it infers that no lesser state or federal body) “shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof;”. It is my reasoned conclusion that the issues in the first amendment were so fundamental to a free people and to the authors of the Constitution that it was the first principle that they could all agree on. For that reason it is found first. The present social clamor for the “rights” of the LGBTQ community are subordinate to the principles authored by our founders. The United States is a democratic republic. This means that the majority of opinion have control over the government and its laws but cannot violate the inalienable rights of the individual as expressed in the Constitution. Freedom of religion is an inalienable right. Sexual mores or inclinations are not. No person would advocate that the LGBTQ community not have a right to have a cake or flower arrangement to celebrate their events. There are others that will offer them. It does mean that those with deeply held religious values cannot be FORCED to share their talents or participate in any way with an activity that violates their conscience or religious values to provide such a service. To pass, or attempt to enforce, such a law directly contradicts the Prime Directive (US Constitution, 1st Amendment). There. I’ve just slain the elephant. Will some else please remove the carcass from the room.

Charles DefranchiJune 25, 2019

KATE: The tyranny of political correctness has stricken again! I lived long enough to hear the kind of horror stories you mentionned into my own family. This includes one of my Great-Grand-Mothers witnessing the suicide of her desperate sister through drowning into the ocean. But we are only talking here about an epidemic in this generation - including among far too many Latter-Day Saints - that consists in choosing to end one's marriage rather than going the extra-mile in sticking to covenants through thick and through thin.

Gary S EdmondsJune 24, 2019

My teenage son was awakened one night by a bright light in his room. He saw a beautiful figure standing by his bed who said nothing but showed him the prints of the nails in his hands. Our son took his hand and felt the warmth, but the figure then left him.

Kathryn AdamsJune 24, 2019

Dear Darla bless you my friend , I am so sorry for what you are going through! I know the Lord loves you as so many do ! You have touched many lives for the good. I'm adding my prayers and faith for healing and comfort! I so enjoyed meeting you, and appreciate the article you did after we met in Charlotte and it has been an instrument in sharing light and love ! May the Lord continue to hold you in His loving arms, love,Kathryn Adams

Elouise LambJune 24, 2019

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story of becoming a new mother. Your words remind me of my experiences of bringing each of my four children into the world. The hardest times of my life yet the sweetest and most meaningful times that I wouldn’t trade for anything. God bless you and your precious little family!

Paralee EckmanJune 24, 2019

I love the way you write, and describe what each of us mothers have felt. I am now 84 years old, and the mother of 9 children -- the oldest of which I, now a widow, live with. He will be 63 years old this summer, and if you enjoy these days, wait until they grow up, have children of their own, and become a grandparent themselves! My oldest is now a Patriarch, and has given me such joy. I also have some beloved children, who have chosen a path that at this time doesn't include being active in our Church. But our prayers will never cease. Thanks for your beautifully written story. You'll have many more stories in the future yet to be written, as you live your own life!

Sharon SeiterJune 24, 2019

Thank you both for the outstanding contribution you are making! I look forward to these insightful podcasts each week. Would you please advise me of the reference for the following quote? I would like to look it up. An early Christian asked Peter, “Shall those be wholly deprived of the kingdom of heaven who died before Christ’s coming?”

jwJune 24, 2019

Beautifully written!! You tell a story that we mothers all relate to, and describe our multitude of feelings so well. Congratulations.

Susan C.June 24, 2019

In the same vein of "touch" meaning "hold me not," and in the light of the cute "grandma experience" cited above, I have always felt that touch/hold me not meant "detain me not"...for I have a schedule to keep. Maybe he, also, would rather not have parted at that time from someone he had such a close relationship with, but he had always kept "being about his Father's business" at the forefront. I have no doubt that Mary understood this. The scriptures are typically the "cliff notes," and someday we will know the full account of all that took place between them in that moment.

AlissaJune 24, 2019

I laughed, I cried, I smiled, and boy oh boy did I relate as I read this article. I could not have put my own experience becoming a mother in better words.

Helmut A. WorleJune 24, 2019

One cannot avoid the observation, however, that "neglect of the cross," if such there is in our theology and worship, is an aspect of our religion that was actively fostered and promoted by early church leaders of the restoration. After all, the cross had been and still is the symbol of non-LDS christianity for 1800 years before Joseph Smith. It was a well-calculated and intentioned move that led us away from the cross. The question then is, were they too successful and overshot the goal? Is a correction necessary now?

Luana WellsJune 24, 2019

Two suggestions. After holiday family dinners sit around the table, before you even clear the table, start,"Remember the time......?" The fun memories and laughter flow. Second, write your memories. Take 2pieces of notebook paper for every year you've lived. Label page 1 with the date you were born. On page 3, write the year, and age, on page 5, "2 years" and so on. The year you started school write the grade. Using 2 pages per year allows room for seasons. After you get your "frame" finished, you can start writing your personal or family's history as you remember random incidents. "When I was 10 we ....." or I graduated in 1998", or "i was in 5th grade when I ...." You have three ways to help you rememb events and places. As family members are added, include something about them each year. I share what I've written with our grown children at our reunion last year. They were amazed by things they had forgotten and enjoyed reading the stories. Now, when we talk to our grown children, I take quick notes about the grand children's activities and add those to this year's story. I used this same format to write my parents and grandparents stories. It's a simple format that works! Using loose-leaf paper allows adding room to write as necessary.

JoyceJune 24, 2019

Enjoy it all now. Time goes so fast he will be 45 years old in no time at all. This is the best time.

Cathy & Dave TapeyJune 24, 2019

I am at a loss for words. Dave and I have found memories of our time in Spain with you. I have always enjoyed your many articles and taken strength from your Faith. May Heavenly Father and His Son continue to comfort and bless. Much Love from us both.

Joy LundbergJune 24, 2019

I loved reading this article. What a beautiful baby! What a beautiful mother. What a blessed daddy. Thanks for sharing on such an intimate level. Mothers everywhere can relate.

LoraJune 24, 2019

It seems to me that the husband is in a no-win situation. If he tells her the truth, she will get angry and start yelling at him. If he tells her a lie, she will be angry about the lie. She doesn't say that her husband is an alcoholic. She only says that he doesn't think it's "healthy". Is she really concerned about his health? Or is she treating alcohol as if it were a sin, which for him it isn't. Put it another way: a wife who thinks that eating ice cream isn't healthy, but she keeps doing it. Her husband asks her if she ate ice cream. She can admit the truth and face the consequences or she can lie. What if the husband simply stopped asking? It's hard to love a Daddy/Watchdog, and it's hard for the husband to love a Mommy/Watchdog. A lot of people use "health" as an excuse to make others' lives miserable. She knew when she married him that he was not LDS and that he enjoyed alcohol. A lot of people enjoy going out for a beer with their buddies and it isn't a problem as long as he isn't driving drunk. I suspect that what she's really trying to do is make him live an LDS lifestyle. That's not what he signed up for. Accepting one another is part of having a successful marriage. Is this really worth all the contention?

Sandra Baird PattonJune 24, 2019

He's beautiful! Now, at 77, I still remember the 3 a.m. feedings. It's a magical time of night.

KathleenJune 24, 2019

I read about this study about 6 years or so ago and used it as the basis of a lesson in Relief Society. I asked the Sisters to go through the list and share some of their family narratives. It was very interesting to hear some of the answers. It is important to tell and write down our stories so our children know these experiences. Thanks for reminding me of this lesson, it's time to review this DYK list!

J COLLINS MEEKJune 24, 2019

Dear Mariah, This is my 4 am response to your 3 am mother thoughts and poignant feelings. I'm so grateful that you are able to share in such a heartfelt way. I am a learning specialist, and a man, so, as I tell my clients: we men can intellectually understand what the drama of motherhood is all about, but because we don't have wombs (and fulsome mother feelings) there is no way in which we will ever be able to really fully "get it." No way. Thank you, Mariah, for helping to move us partway on this impossible journey. - Doc Meek, Sherwood Park, Alberta, Canada, June 24, 2019

Jo Ann OkelberryJune 23, 2019

Every word of this is true. Thank you for this article.

Wendy H.June 23, 2019

Cute---as always. But "ablum" misspelled on purpose or just a typical typo.

Debbi McCrackenJune 23, 2019

I can only echo all the beautiful words penned to you. You have inspired me and touched me greatly. Truly you are accomplishing your mission! May you continue seeing tender mercies and feel the peace you need. much love

KateJune 23, 2019

Charles DeFranchi - the reason our great-grandparents didn't divorce was because for a woman at that time, divorce was a one-way ticket to poverty and social ostracism for herself and her children. Women put up with a great deal to avoid that fate, including, but not limited to, physical and sexual abuse (which was perfectly legal, btw) and adultery and other damaging behaviors by their husbands. Now that a woman can support herself (and her children), the balance of power has shifted, and women expect more from marriage than their great-grandmothers did. As they--and their husbands--should. And Sarah, yes he is lying to her. However, he is under no covenant to not drink alcohol, and he has his agency to do so if he chooses and there is nothing wrong with that. Repeat: there is NOTHING wrong with drinking alcohol if you haven't made a covenant not to. I assume he is not coming home drunk (she wouldn't need to ask if that were the case), so it seems that she might be exercising a bit of unrighteous dominion here--trying to shame him into not drinking. He's pushing back by giving her the answer she's demanding--which is a lie--but this sounds like it could be game playing to me. She says "he's ashamed of drinking because he knows it's not a healthy behavior" but it would be interesting to ask him if that's his actual opinion, or her projection of what his opinion should be. Most people I know who drink in a normal (not to excess) fashion do not think of drinking as an unhealthy behavior at all.

JessicaJune 23, 2019

I rarely, if ever, comment on articles, but I want to echo the thoughts of many others and thank you for your rich insights and vulnerability over the years. I have loved your articles and admire so much your strength and faith. My mother-in-law passed away in 2015 from colon cancer that had metastasized to the liver. She attempted treatment for a while before also deciding that she wanted to be able to enjoy some of her last time and use it as a gift to tie up her loose ends. I wish you continued peace and love as you continue your journey. Praying for you and your loved ones.

JacobJune 22, 2019

Seems like they need to establish ways to communicate without it escalating. He may think lying is the better option and leads to better outcomes for himself and even for their relationship. To coax him into telling the truth, they need to establish times and ways in which they can both feel safe to speak their truths to each other without super negative repercussions.

Joseph A OttJune 22, 2019

My 6 year old daughter saw Jesus at the door of her closet in the night time. She described what he looked like: A big man with a white robe and had lots of lights around him. She could not relay what He talked to her about, but it was like just something that seemed perfectly normal. She knew that it was Jesus.

Debra McCrackenJune 22, 2019

I sit here a week after a car accident with a cast and oxygen trying to be positive about my own small miseries. this really touched me!

Eva Mae HahnJune 22, 2019

Only a seasoned genealogist would do that. It is funny tho.

MarenJune 22, 2019

I hear in this woman’s continual discomfort and questioning a desire to establish a healthy boundary for her marital relationship. It also appears that she may need assistance in establishing said boundary. It is a normal and healthy expectation for a spouse to function without the use of a chemical substance. My hope is that she will gain confidence to create a healthy boundary for herself regardless of her spouse’s choice and begin to assert independent of this dysfunction.

SarahJune 21, 2019

Bryan and Dave, he's lying to her. That's the issue. She ain't trying to stop him drinking. But sure ..keeping the peace is more important than trust/ lying/ deception !! He just needs to tell the truth when she asks. End of issue, but he won't.

BryanJune 21, 2019

I agree 100% with Dave's comment. Instead of trying to force him to accept your way of life, love him anyway for his good qualities. Perhaps then he will change because he wants to, not because he is forced to to keep the peace. Remember, someone else one time wanted to force good behavior and save all of us. How'd that work out for him?

DaveJune 21, 2019

I'm wondering why this woman feels like she needs to "check up" on her husband's drinking. She knows he drinks. He's ashamed of it and already knows he shouldn't be doing it. Bringing it up obviously bothers her husband so much that he deflects the question by lying. So what useful thing does it accomplish to bring it up? She could end all of this contention by simply not bringing it up. How many more years will it take for her to figure out that what she is doing isn't working?

CHARLES DEFRANCHIJune 21, 2019

A couple of days ago, I attended the sealing of a young man to his parents after more than twenty years of being less active in the Church. More interestingly, his father had come home drunk year after year and had a tendency to spend his earnings gambling. Many people were pressing his wife, an active Latter-Day Saint to leave him. Instead, she stayed with him and waiting patiently for his conversion. They are well into their 70's now and you would not imagine a more beautiful old couple. They both attend the Temple regularly, serve faithfully in various assignments, and contribute to playing a good influence on their kids and grandkids. Too many couples nowadays call it quits as soon as something unpleasant about each-other arises. What about the power of grace and the atonement, long-suffering, unconditional love, being a light and not a judge, and remaining together for better or for worse till death doth us part? Talk to your Grandparents or Great-Grand-Parents about that and they will tell you that marriage has never been easy, but they'd never consider divorce as a solution unless being faced with extreme circumstances.

CHARLES DEFRANCHIJune 21, 2019

According to recent changes in communicating the official name of the Church, the title should have read:"Apostle Thanks Kuwait for Formally Recognizing The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints"

Sally SmithJune 21, 2019

As a grandmother it is my responsibility to teach my grandchildren what religious freedom is, how to stand for it,and how to fight to preserve it. Mist important to be a voice that speaks out against secularism Thank you printing this article

Cindy WilliamsJune 20, 2019

I consider my Dad to have been 98% perfect while upon this earth. He probably wasn't, but he was to me, especially in hindsight. Whatever my Beloved Daddy promised me, he delivered. He always kept his word. He was my Protector, my Hero, my Best Friend. When circumstances outside his control prevented delivery on those promises, he told me ahead of time. I knew I could always trust him. Because of trusting my earthly Father as I grew up, I came to have such a strong testimony and faith in my Heavenly Father. Daddy set the example for me as a tiny little child, long before I would grow in the knowledge of Heavenly things, and ultimately pointed me in The Way.

LisaJune 20, 2019

Absolutely wonderful. My day has been changed.

DianeJune 20, 2019

This was a great reminder for caregivers of all types. I have been the main caregiver to my totally paralyzed (from a car accident) daughter for over 15 years. I have learned so much and the Lord has truly blessed us both. After all, I get to work in my own comfortable home, caring for my best friend. It isn’t easy, but it is worth it.

JCJune 20, 2019

As a caregiver of my Husband for the past 5+ years, I needed this advice. It is a challenge to work full-time and support us financially, take care of the house & yard, help the kids and the grandkids, have a church calling, plus get my ministering visits and not feel overwhelmed with life. We do need a care-givers "rest" day--to take the day off and not feel guilty. Thanks so much for the article!

KateJune 20, 2019

There were 13 witnesses. Let us not forget Sister Whitmer and Joseph Smith. I went on a Church history tour last year and was humbled by the research that has been done since I last visited these sites many years ago. The number of regular people outside this select group of 13 who saw God the Father, Jesus Christ or angels or other Heavenly manifestations is astounding. This work was not done in a corner. And its foundation was not laid by people credulously following reports told by others. People saw for themselves. They experienced themselves. And then devoted their lives to making a reality what they had been shown was the will of God. We are fortunate to live in the time when so many of their early efforts in preaching the Gospel and building temples are beginning to really pay off. There is still much to be done, but the shape of Zion is becoming clearer. It really will sweep the earth and every one of God's children will be affected by its reach.

Mary Lou CollinsJune 20, 2019

Thanks so much for your time and effort in this great undertaking to teach us all you know about our Lord and Savior. This week's lesson has been the most difficult for me. I know it must have been difficult for you to write it as much as it has been for me to read it. So glad we are moving on to the resurrection next week. Thank you both, dearly, for all you do to help bring us closer to our Savior and all He has done for us. Best wishes...

HalJune 20, 2019

I run into this all the time. We once had to take my (then) 9-year-old son to a medical facility after-hours because he had something stuck in his esophagus. He wasn't chocking, but he was in distress and we needed to get him somewhere quickly. As instructed on my insurance card, I called the after-hours number to find the closest facility. I got a recording that the office was closed and to call back the next business day (this was on a Friday afternoon a little after 5:00). In frustration, I hustled our son to the nearest insta-care facility a few miles from our home. The bill was a little over $200 for the visit and the claim was denied by our insurance company because the facility was "out of network." I appealed with the argument that I had followed the after-hours instructions to find an in-network facility and that it was the insurance company's fault that they did not provide the needed information. The claim was still denied. I decided right then that, the next time I had a similar issue, I would simply call 911 and the insurance company could foot the several thousand dollar bill for emergency transport and an emergency room visit. No wonder our premiums are so high.

David Newbold, PhDJune 20, 2019

Three Types of Healthcare Providers During my lifetime and perhaps more keenly aware of, in my professional career of practicing psychology for 40 years, I have observed three main types of healthcare providers, meaning physicians, nurses, on down to lab technicians and aids of all kinds. My own mental health professions are also part of these groups or divisions. First, are those that do not do a particularly good job of adequately diagnosing illnesses or disorders. They often do a less impressive job of treating those maladies which they are called upon to heal. I have been most fortunate in my lifetime to have only been personally handled a limited number of times by these individuals, and I have quickly discontinued my interaction with them. Plumbing might be a more suitable career for some of these people. Second, are the providers that are adequate, and sometimes highly skilled with the science or art of diagnosis. They are often useful and experienced in treating illness and curing diseases in patients. But their skills and ability are limited; they are only capable of identifying and healing illness. I turn away from these providers in short order. I have not liked them much. Third, are those caregivers who are just what the word implies, they are actual caregivers. They possess the ability to identify disease correctly and with a high degree of accuracy. They are skilled in the treatments that they apply. But they have the capacity to treat people. Skills and intelligence are highly crucial in healthcare professions. True healers possess compassion and do not hesitate to provide their patients with an abundance of kindness and caring. Again, they treat people, not just illness. These are the providers that I seek out, and I am grateful for their skills and their compassion. During the lengthy illness, spinal cord cancer, that my late wife, Lorene, experienced we most certainly encountered all three types of these providers. I was saddened by the poor quality of care that occurred in some situations. I could not understand having excellent skills and not an ounce of bedside manner. But I relished the attention and care given by those who knew how to treat people. Those providers had a positive impact on my wife’s dealing with her pain and death. They were also able to treat me as well; they reminded me of what is truly most important in life; to love and care.

CarolJune 20, 2019

Thank you for admitting your problem and how you got "cured". The filling your empty house with good stuff and then staying totally away from any hint of porn forever is the best analogy I have heard when trying to change your life what ever problem someone has.

Ann-MarieJune 20, 2019

Thanks for publishing this much-needed article.

SandyJune 20, 2019

I loved reading this. It is such a faith booster!!!

Harold RustJune 20, 2019

A great description of a process and its consequences. Many parallels with other actions such as willing to change, willing to try something new, willing to love an enemy, and willing to speak out for the truth. All are steps of vulnerability which, if pursued with faith and with confidence, can move us ahead much further than we were.

Claradene StewartJune 20, 2019

Thank you for your article. The perspective you are teaching us is most refreshing. My own father died of prostate CA in 1995. It was hard to see him suffer, but he was valiant to the end. He was in a coma for two weeks which occurred right at the time of the Oklahoma City bombing in 1995. I flew to OKC the day after this tragic event and helped take care of my dad for two weeks until he passed. There were about 8 bodies in the mortuary from that bombing. Our family had lots to learn during this time and we watched how a whole city came together to start working to overcome this terrible event. We miss our dad a lot, but feel his presence sometimes. My mother lived another 18 years before she passed on. She just missed Dad so much and just got to go with minimal disease process.

Barbara SmithJune 19, 2019

Thank you for sharing your journey with us, all of it. I know my life is better for learning from your experiences and perspective.

Jen LarsenJune 19, 2019

Great Article and perspective! I think perhaps you've hit the nail on the head. Maybe those who are afraid of death and disease and want to cure/heal it are those who aren't right with God yet. Maybe the thought (even subconsciously) of coming face to face with their mighty maker is scarier than death or disease and so they look for mortal fixes/answers/cure to prevent that from happening. Perhaps I'm wrong, but I know that when I haven't been "right" with my lord, the thought of seeing him face to face and being in his presence terrifies me. But likewise, when I have been right with him, there's nothing I want more than to be enveloped in his arms. Get right with the Lord so that your burdens may be light. Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom. I pray for you and your family to have the strength to face what is ahead. Much love and appreciate for you!

Ken LongmoreJune 19, 2019

An excellent article on whatis expected of us who are on the Lord’s errand. I might only add the parable of the Goats and the Sheep as presented by the Savior in Matthew chapter 25 as perhaps the most critical of all expectations. We can discover that brother England touches on all of these things in his article if we study it out and ponder it deeply. “If ye have done it unto the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”

Carol AnnJune 19, 2019

I, too, had a father such as yours. He also was a mighty oak in the forest of life who influenced thousands of people for good through his high Church callings and his law profession! He was a wonderful Father to me and lovingly guided me in the growing-up years. However, he had a devastating stroke at age 82 and lived five more years before he died. I met my test by caring for him and my invalid mother along with rearing a young family along with the help of my dear husband. All of that has defined my life as well.

Carol AnnJune 19, 2019

Very timely post, Carolyn. Thanks for your knowledge!

JulieJune 19, 2019

Elder McConkie told us in his last conference talk, that while on the cross, the Savior felt all the pains and agonies of Gethsemane a second time.

DonJune 19, 2019

This makes me wonder if the difference in outcome are related primarily to parental style/behavior, or if how the child perceives the parental involvement is equally (or even more) important. Of our 4 children, the one with the worst outcome is the one who perceives that we were trying to "control" them - the other three were fine with our default level of involvement.

Ole OlsenJune 19, 2019

Excellent article. I've been assigned a Sacrament meeting talk on the 30th about how to accept and move past failure. This story is perfect. Thank you. and say Hi to your Dad for me.

Joel Robin MarksJune 19, 2019

How true it is that ' Sin is the true enemy' and death is a 'welcome respite.' May God always bless us with the truth.

Haze KompelienJune 19, 2019

President Holland's quote, "As a reminder of those days, Jesus has chosen, even in a resurrected, otherwise perfected body, to retain for the benefit of His disciples the wounds in His hands and in His feet and in His side—signs, if you will, that painful things happen even to the pure and the perfect; signs, if you will, that pain in this world is not evidence that God doesn’t love you; signs, if you will, that problems pass and happiness can be ours." just touched my heart. I had never before thought of why Jesus kept the marks of His suffering. Great article, all should read and share.

AnnekeJune 19, 2019

Well said, and a good reminder. We should remember this perspective!

Vicki CraycraftJune 19, 2019

What a sweet story, thank you for sharing. Greg is a beautiful person. I am proud to see the man he grew up to be. What a blessing you two will be to each other.

JaneJune 18, 2019

Sharee - VidAngel believed that what they were doing was completely within legal limits, citing the Family Home Movie Act of 2005 which "allows the creation of technology that can edit a DVD or transmitted movie on the fly (during playback) and thus present a censored version of that movie."

Laura Israelsen KebkerJune 18, 2019

So well said Michaela. Thank you for sharing this great illustration of such an important principle.

Scot Facer ProctorJune 18, 2019

I love this story and I love the man you married. He is such a wonderful son-in-law. How blessed we all are to have him in our family. And I'm so grateful you chose to be vulnerable. Love you. --Dad.

Geoff SteurerJune 18, 2019

I love this article! Thank you for using such a powerful illustration of this important principle!

HalJune 18, 2019

Great story and a wonderful analogy on how our testimonies are built line upon line, precept upon precept, stone upon stone and having the faith that our questions and failings will all be answered and turned into strengths if we just stay in the Good Ship Zion and keep on rowing.

Chuck McClureJune 18, 2019

Thank you for your wonderful article! I wouldn't normally read something like this but I was drawn to it! I love the way you tied you dating experience back to the Savior. And, being somewhat of a romantic, I loved the wedding picture and your story. Being open to the Savior is so important. Thank you again!

John R CarpenterJune 18, 2019

People fail to understand and parents fail to teach their children, that anything posted to the internet or "on-line" could and likely will be used against them in some manner in the future. Often when it is most embarrassing or inconvenient.

CarolineJune 18, 2019

I love this, especially the phrase "trembling trust." Thank you for sharing these stories.

ShareeJune 18, 2019

It is unfortunate that Hollywood chooses to make films with objectionable content. However, companies like VidAngel need to contract with the studios to do their editing out of the objectionable portions. They apparently did not do this, so the studios were within their rights to sue and the judge was right to award the settlement to the plaintiffs. Moral of this story: don't meddle with other people's property without their permission.

Maralyn DotsonJune 18, 2019

Wow! I can’t breathe! Thanks for making vulnerability so celestial and righteous! Thanks for sharing your beautiful self with us. I love you for that!

RebeccaJune 18, 2019

I thank you for a well written article which explains so much to this two year convert to The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saints. Yes I have received my Patriarchal Blessing but have not read it recently; but will pull it out to read again. To me receiving my blessing was the next step after baptism. I received encouragement and hope as I am the only member of my family. I can’t wait for Part Two Of this article to be published. Again, thank you for blessing my heart the encouragement you gave me today.

CherylJune 17, 2019

Thank you for having the courage to be authentic. People listen when people like you tell their truth. Bless you. Life isn’t easy for anyone even you❤️ I’m sending this to my husband and only pray he reads it because he doesn’t believe he has a problem. So sad

Margaret E. BatesJune 17, 2019

I was 14 when I attended the public open house for the opening in 1964 where Pres. Oaks was at age 12. I grew up in San Francisco, eventually taking out my endowments there in 1986, and finally, sealed there to my spouse, Stephen in 1999. My Oakland temple memories run deep, and I have had spiritual experiences there that defy public discourse because of their sacred nature.

AneteJune 17, 2019

Thank you for making the New Testament come to life as you share your knowledge with us. A group of us in our Ward get together once a week and talk about the "Come Follow Me" lesson. We each listen to or read your podcast and gain much knowledge. We also appreciate all the articles and information given us in your magazine. Thank you for sharing your talents with us.

Neal ChristensenJune 17, 2019

I have long thought that the reason the Lord directed the early missionary effort be in England was because he knew these experienced tradesmen, especially hard rock miners, would be needed to assist in the physical building of Zion, particularly the construction of temples.

JonathanJune 16, 2019

About 10 years ago I finally began to really study the scriptures, rather than commentaries and lesson manuals. Brother England here demonstrates one of the most exciting lessons I have learned: to look up the definitions of important scriptural words - in the dictionaries of the prophets who wrote them. The 21st century dictionary is of very little, or no value in understanding the Standard Works, though it’s great for General Conference, etc. Happily, the 1828 Webster's American Dictionary of the English Language is free online to show us what Joseph Smith meant in the Doctrine and Covenants and Pearl of Great Price. It also serves for the Book of Mormon - although an expensive unabridged Oxford may be better. For the Old and New Testaments, I use BibleHub.com, and click on the HEBREW or GREEK button to see a verse in the original language, then click on the Strong's Concordance number for the word I want to see. E.g. meek, repent, holy, sanctify. When verse of scripture seems obscure, this is generally the simplest and most productive step to understanding. It's quick, cheap, and easy - and often dramatically clarifies the scripture's meaning.

AlitsaJune 16, 2019

After 60 years, I will be meeting my biological father next month. I will not call him my father, dad, or any such thing. He never showed an interest in me and does not warrant the honorable titles. Apparently, he fathered others before committing to a marriage and family. The were shocked to learn of me and even more shocked to learn of at least two others. At first, he said he didn't believe my birth mother but soon after changed his story. I know his other illegitimate daughter is thrilled to finally learn who he is and that is the reason I pursued my research. Finally contacting my estranged birth mother who sent a registered letter with nothing but his misspelled name. My birth mother gave me up for adoption to her mother and stepfather so we were raised, legally, as sisters. Part of the reason for the estrangement is because I won't call her my mother nor my other sister my aunt. (Not to mention my other sister's illegitimate child who everyone wants me to call my cousin.) They aren't. They are my sisters, the girl that was given up for adoption across the country is simply that, and I am entitled to my family name. Even the birth certificate I have has no mention of my biological parents. My adopted parents are listed as the birth parents. In my twenties, I also had a child and gave it up for adoption specifying an LDS family. My upbringing was belittling and violent. I was a convert to the church and, oh, what I would have given to have been raised LDS. He had been adopted by members over 500 miles away. When he was 17 someone gave him my phone number and we had a disappointing conversation. I knew both sides of the adoption story and thought I had made the better choice by not aborting and giving him a "good" family. He didn't want to believe the circumstances of his birth and, through puffs of cigarette smoke, was blaming me for all of his troubles. I hope he has matured and made better choices. SO! Who knows how this will turn out next month. I am curious to see faces that may be similar to mine; to learn about the relationship my birth parents had. no matter how brief; to learn of medical backgrounds, etc. But he will simply be a man I met and not promoted to Father. That belongs to my daddy. The man who raised me and loved me even though I was not his own and had no blood connection. The ones who hurt, abandoned, abused, belittled, judged, and/or controlled were blood. I feel sorry for them. They have missed out on a lot of good things and either were or are very unhappy.

NancyJune 16, 2019

How to say ‘thank you’ for all that your articles have meant to me over the years… Darla, you have served as a much-appreciated spiritual mentor as I wend my way through the twists and turns of my own mortal journey. Though Heavenly Father has not yet delivered me from my physical and psychological trials, His spiritual strengthening is enabling me to bear them and learn from them. Your Christ/Atonement/gospel-centered insight, borne from your own personal struggles, has always resonated with me and has served as an invaluable tool in the divine arsenal that has been prepared for my spiritual support. I hope that in the life beyond this life I will have the privilege of thanking you in person for illuminating my path with the Savior’s light. As you finish your mortal assignment, may you be bolstered by a keen and constant awareness of His and His Father’s abiding love for you.

AnaJune 16, 2019

Love that you write the podcast and add talks to share and I can look it at in Spanish for some of my friends out of the states and for my Spanish branch in Des Moines Iowa.

Becky BigelowJune 16, 2019

my sweet Darla, I think I was about 3 years old when you first knocked on our door. And you became an important part of our family, and than into my own family. The times we spent talking, and just knowing you were there, it filled my heart. You have been my greatest example, my mentor, and sometimes my second mom, and I love you so deeply. But once again your love for the Lord, your testimony, and the peace you share from your heart, and the grace that is you.I will continue to pray for the peace you feel, and the love you feel by the comfort of Heavenly Fathers hands. And always for Doug and your family

MaryannJune 16, 2019

When LDS Family Services was still placing babies for adoption, I worked for them as a volunteer. I met with the expectant girls during the months before their babies were due, encouraging them and helping them to explore their options. One time the LDS social worker allowed me to be the one to place the baby in the arms of the adoptive parents for the very first time. That was quite a thrill! I remember one time when an adoptive couple came to the office to get their baby--I was astounded at how much the baby looked like the adoptive mother. These children really are meant to be with these families---they just come by a different route!

MaryannJune 16, 2019

I hope we aren't in danger of putting disagreements on a pedestal here! After 49 years of marriage, my husband and I agree on most things that are truly important to us---the gospel, our political affiliations, and many other issues. We find a lot of joy in the things we have in common, especially our sense of humor. While we occasionally just have to "agree to disagree", we usually have a peaceful relationship. Neither one of us is a "doormat," and we both speak our minds about how we feel. It IS possible to have a peaceful and mostly agreeable relationship without any sense of boredom. I don't think I would want to stay in a relationship where my husband and I were disagreeing all the time.

D.Kendall, June 16 2019, AZJune 16, 2019

- I was introduced to Sarah Hinze by my niece some years ago, and she gave me a copy of her book, WE LIVED IN HEAVEN. I have not had such an experience myself, but do believe those in tune can surely have thee experiences.

WonderingJune 16, 2019

I followed that Attention Seeking vs. Attachment Seeking reference, but in the reference they appear to be synonymous with respect to the behavior in question. The point seemed to be that the care-giver should interpret the attention-seeking behavior as attachment-seeking, and that that mindset will help the care-giver, not the one engaging in attention-seeking behavior. I wish the author could provide advice on how someone stuck in the attention-seeker's life story can better walk in that story and be less obnoxious to those around them.

Loretta (Lorry) Clayton BensonJune 15, 2019

All of us at Hillcrest those first three years, respected and admired Principal Jensen. I remember so well you and my sister Terri in junior high school together, and how much she admired you.

Harold RustJune 14, 2019

A powerfully touching reflection of what some fathers have been and what all of us fathers pray we can be. Thanks for reminding us of the goodness in Fathers.

anonymousJune 14, 2019

"just saying": This is very much a situation where the role can be reversed. 'nuff said. The answers herein may be helpful.

Suzie SabinJune 14, 2019

Wow, how blessed you were to have such a father. I felt a twinge of sadness, as I thought about the dysfunctional family I grew up in. We 6 children never got hugs or encouragement, and we were extremely poor., growing up in a shack with only one bedroom. The unfinished attic was lined with beds, some of us having to share a bed. Our overwhelmed mother often would hit us, while yanking our hair, yelling that she hated us and wished we had never been born. We grew up unloved, unwanted, depressed, and not wanting to live. I was 19 when the Lord answered my prayer: “What church should I join?” Within three months, the Spirit had guided me to Germany, where I was introduced to the church. After reading only a few chapters of the Book of Mormon, I knew it was true. Since joining the church, and over the years, the Lord has helped me overcome the ignorance, anger, and despair I once knew. The Gospel has taught me to forgive my parents, to understand them, and to love them dearly. The church had become my parents, where I was nurtured and loved. I have been healed. I love knowing how it was growing up for you in a loving, gospel-centered family. Thank you for the light you share at Meridian Magazine.

Kathryn LeviJune 14, 2019

Please can I get a list of the 43 faith Scriptures Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and the hard work that you put into the podcast - I have enjoyed reading and listening to your wise words of counsel. God Bless you both.

JimJune 14, 2019

Brother and Sister Proctor, I’ve been reading and listening for a long time to Meridian Magazine and your knowledge filled and insightful podcasts. I even decades ago bought a large book by you. It had wonderful large photos of early church history. May I make a suggestion? I listen to a lot of podcasts during tasks that are pure repetition that happily allow me to concentrate on subjects that fascinate me - including yours. If someone reads to me my mind wanders - even if the subject is wonderful and the reading is filled with new insights. The podcasts that keep my focus are “discussions” instead of “readings.” May I humbly suggest you use your knowledge and skills to cover the material you’ve so painstakingly prepared to simply discuss it on air. There are a few times when this seems to happen in your podcasts with a telling of an anecdote and I’m all ears at those moments - but those moments are the exceptions. Thank you for the fine service you render to us listeners and readers.

James DooleyJune 14, 2019

Well done, Scot & Maurin e!

NicoleJune 14, 2019

Thank you for the article. Thinking of my own farther and his bad choices that affected my mother, five siblings and me and his own excommunication twice from our faith, who is now an endowed member. I find it’s still difficult to believe my father and even believe his worthiness because we have been lied to so much in our lives. There was never an apology to my mother who he was unfaithful to or my siblings and me and that’s where I have a hard time overcoming feelings I know I should let go. I love my dad and I felt like I have forgiven him but it’s clear as I’m writing this I still have forgiveness to give and this article helped me look deeper into what I need to be doing. Thanks again

HalJune 14, 2019

Great article! I pray daily that our daughters will learn to develop the mutual love and affection for their future husbands as my wife and I have for each other. I pray that all people in the world can understand that men and women are to compliment and complete each other - not compete against each other.

Bradley AndersonJune 14, 2019

The article published by Mark Mathews on September 14, 2017, GETHSEMANE: HOW A PRECIOUS TRUTH WAS LOST AND FOUND in Meridian is especially insightful on this topic. There seems to be little doubt that the insertion of the passage at a later date, was actually a re-insertion of what was found in texts earlier than the 3rd century.

CW2SADJune 14, 2019

I’m wondering if Jesus “bled from every pore” to allow room for whatever coursed through the veins of Adam and Eve before they partook of the apple. This would explain why, when Jesus’ side was pierced, the report was “water and vinegar” was seen.

Bradley KramerJune 14, 2019

An amazing tribute with a profound point--fathers (and mothers) can do much in simple, often nondramatic ways to reveal to us the goodness of God.

KathieJune 13, 2019

Your beautifully expressed a article is so helpful to me as I proceed on the same journey. Thank you for putting your thoughts into words to help others. I am having chemo injections now and wonder if I will lose my hair. You look adorable in the bright pink hat in your photo. I would appreciate it very much if you would tell me where you bought it so that I might purchase one like it. Thank you and God bless you and your husband and family.

Gerald G FullerJune 13, 2019

Candace, as I understand the "adjustment" of the Our Father, whether by Pope Francis or by Joseph Smith, it does not deprive me of my agency (responsibility and privilege) to choose to refuse the temptation. Rather it emphasized that God neither causes us to be tempted nor forces us to reject the temptation.

MeganJune 13, 2019

As someone with a difficult father-daughter relationship, I can attest that forgiveness is real, but it can take many years, perhaps even a lifetime. Boundaries are essential as we work toward reconciliation. As long as we are earnestly striving to have a soft heart, we need not feel guilty if the process of forgiveness takes time.

DeAnn FergusonJune 13, 2019

Yes, Interesting isn't it that Joseph's antagonists or succeeding attackers of the Church are no longer in existence or are long forgotten

HalJune 13, 2019

Thank you for this article. While in my early teens, my own father left my mother to marry a woman many years his junior. To add insult to injury, he moved out of our house on Christmas Eve. I was angry because I struggled during my teenage years and desperately needed my father in my life. That said, I maintained an uneasy relationship with him and I was finally able to forgive and reconcile with him while in my early twenties. I am grateful for the law of forgiveness because it took away the rancor and hurt in my heart. My father an I enjoyed a good relationship until he passed away. Knowing what I know now, I would have regretted not having forgiven my father because I would have lost out on all the wonderful times we had in the ensuing years. I now have an adult son who severed our relationship over ten years ago as a result of a silly argument. I have repeatedly apologized and reached out to him but - so far - to no avail. I long for the day when we, too, can be reconciled and perhaps rebuild the loving relationship we once had just as I did with my father.

SheriJune 13, 2019

As someone who just recently found her birth mother, (in the past week) I couldn't agree more with this article. I am in the family I'm supposed to be in. I have 4 1/2 siblings that have always known about me, and wanted to meet me. I've fought the feeling for the past few years about needing to look, and couldn't have been more excited about how things are working out. I'm so grateful to my birth mother for making the decision that she did, and for my parents who wanted me so much and have given me a perfect life.

Gunnella MurphyJune 12, 2019

Darla, I am just one of the many who have been lifted, encouraged, and blessed by your gift to share what is in your heart through your many inspired articles here in Meridian Magazine. Thank you for sharing so openly, and taking us on this journey with you. It is an invitation for each of us to reflect deeply and to consider the growth needed in our own lives. Thank you for all you continue to teach me.

LoraJune 12, 2019

I have a friend whose marriage is without disagreement. Her daughter once told her that it was a disadvantage to her in her marriage because she didn't know how to have a disagreement with her husband! She'd never seen one! I said, "Send her to my house. I'll show her." I have a son who said, "Thank you for showing me how to have disagreements in marriage. It's really helped." He'd seen us disagree for years. We don't call each other names. We don't bring up past disagreements. When I'm feeling especially inspired instead of frustrated, I just burst into prayer. Right there. Praying in the middle of a disagreement automatically softens voices and invites the Spirit to help. There have been times when I've gotten very upset, and that's when I get quiet. My husband is aware that "the silent treatment" is actually better than my saying what I'm thinking at that moment. I'd rather not have to apologize for saying the wrong thing when I'm up on my high horse. If I had the unrealistic expectation that a truly eternal marriage would be between two people who never disagree, are never thoughtless, and never hurt each other's feelings, we wouldn't have lasted 43 years.

Ron B.June 12, 2019

As the parent of one natural child and three adopted children, our attitude has always been that the more people in our children's lives who love them, the happier we are. Two of my children found their birth mothers. One through a miraculous connection and the other through DNA. One was underwhelming but the other was a reunion beyond description. We were reduced to tears at the mother's expression of pent-up emotions when our child reached out to his birth mother after 31 years. Our children know who we are and we are not threatened by the expressions of love between birth bonds and meeting new siblings. I'm sure the Lord would see it no differently.

K. Chin, Modesto, CAJune 12, 2019

I am deeply touched by the immense courage and strong faith EVERYONE in this story has shown! The Savior is, indeed, our perfect brightness of hope. Through all of the challenging, heart-wrenching, devastating experiences we face in Mortality...it is only through Jesus Christ, and His gift of the Atonement to each of us (if we accept and apply it) that there is ANY chance of happiness. In submitting ourselves to our Savior, we have EVERTHING to gain and NOTHING to lose; but we often don’t realize this until, through exercising our faith in Him, we courageously take a couple of steps into the unknown. I believe MANY more lives will be blessed by hearing this story. Thanks to ALL who have been willing to share it!!

Jo Ann OkelberryJune 12, 2019

We adopted a baby girl in 1967. She was of mixed race and certainly stood out in our family. We loved her so much, and she loved us and her six natural-born siblings. She died 10 years ago, and we have grieved so much as has not only her siblings but her aunts, uncles, cousins, and so many more. She was a delight in our lives. She never wanted to find her birth parents because she always said that we were her "birth" parents. I have read of so many people who found their birth parents only to have a very unhappy relationship. People sometimes don't want to be reminded of the child that gave up for adoption.

HalJune 12, 2019

Thank you for printing this article. The statistics I've read are that less than 1% of abortions are performed to save the life of the mother. Perhaps a few more are to terminate a pregnancy resulting from rape or incest. Even in the case of rape, some wonderful human beings came into this life as the result of an unselfish mother choosing to bear the child of a rapist rather than destroy that precious and productive life. The rest are for "convenience" and to avoid taking responsibility for one's own actions.

Dr. Stan and Cristie GardnerJune 12, 2019

Dearest Darla, Sending you love and prayers for peace and joy in this part of your earthly journey. We have enjoyed working with you so very much and you are in our prayers. We love your vision and your faith.

David C HillJune 12, 2019

Last summer my wife organized our personal version of "Relative Race." Each family had different sites in Utah County and Salt Lake County to locate and had an activity for each stopping point. Eight location had a family connection. We even had a trophy for the family that completed their assignment first. The families learned a little bit more about their ancestors and had a great time in the process.

ChuckJune 12, 2019

You're right---I'm a father, grandfather, and great-grandfather of both young women and young men, and boy! are they different. All are quite precious, and I need each of them. In fact, a daughter is driving me to a temple recommend interview tonight because a son at the last minute couldn't take me. With all these great people, though, it's no wonder my hair is so grey!

Pete PrattJune 12, 2019

That's great story and I'm very glad it worked out the way it did. My wife and I adopted a brand new baby at birth. When he reached adulthood he tracked down his birth mom, who promptly tried to take control of his life. It took a couple years for her to accept that his life was formed by his adoptive parents and he would not change to conform with her desires. Now they have an arms length relationship that is a burden to him. He says he wishes he had not pursued this.

Bob PowelsonJune 12, 2019

Nice story. My wife and I had a girl first then three boys in a row (four in six years). She was the oldest of 5 followed by four boys. A rather unruly bunch but protective of others. It was a rather exciting time. When the boys were teens we received a wonderful message from the school. The boys were bragging about how tough their mother was. Girls are prettier but much harder to care for.

Ray H GarrisonJune 12, 2019

For those of us who also have suffered a lifetime of chronic sinus infections, would you be willing to share the name and contact information for the Good Doctor you treated you?

Kay RookhuyzenJune 12, 2019

I simply LOVE your writing style and laughed out loud at your narrative! Keep writing!

VardellJune 12, 2019

Excellent article! I especially like this line, "I cannot fix myself. I cannot try a do-it-yourself program that will go the distance. I cannot transform myself to be like him." So true! Despite our LDS culture of perfecting ourselves - of doing more and being more - the scriptures teach that we are not capable of improving ourselves to a point of deserving redemption. All the self perfecting is only of value as it increases our faith in Christ enough to believe that he can forgive us and change us. Our works are only of value if they lead us to broken-heartedly plead for his mercy. Alma is the poster child for this truth. He was very wicked, had barely enough faith to plead, "Jesus thou son of God, have mercy on me." Having done NO good works, but with that tiny mustard seed of faith, he was forgiven, born again, redeemed, even changed to a state of righteousness!" (Mosiah 27:24-26) Only AFTER being redeemed was Alma able to be transformed and to do the great works.

Sandy DildineJune 12, 2019

Thank you for your story. I have one of those strong, protective sons. If we just could have that perspective while they are still young!

Marla SmakaJune 12, 2019

I am writing with great respect. I would like to take a view point 180 degrees opposite to the general tone and theme of this article. The author never mentioned how the feelings of the adoptive family feel about their adopted child seeking out the birth family. I along with my four siblings am adopted. My brother sought his birth family. I cannot describe the absolute tearing this caused the fabric of our family. We were sealed in the Mesa, Arizona, Temple. I thought we were now the children of our adopted parents (for those who have participated in the ordinances of the Temple, recall those sacred words). My brother sought his birth parents and found them, and also found he had biological birth siblings. He called one of his birth siblings in my presence his "real sister." I am not an adolescent or twenty-something. I am a grandmother of 13. I wish the trend to glorify the reunion of birth parents would stop. By the way, I saw a survey that said that 90% of adoptees who sought and found their birth families said if they had it to do over again, they would not.

Lori SmithJune 12, 2019

I just found my birth mother we talked this lady Sunday not meeting in person till September halve to build up the courage

JoyceJune 12, 2019

A word of warning for those seeking to dig into their past. My sister-in-law was 15 years old when she paired up with a 20 year old college student. Needless to say they produced a child. The drama in the family was stressing for the siblings who kept better morals, the devastated parents, etc. The infant was placed up for adoption. Fast forward 18 plus years and the offspring wanted to locate his birth parents. Grandparents were contacted to locate their daughter -- stirred up memories of times left in the past. Daughter secretly meets up with the young man over the years. Doesn't tell her parents nor siblings. Until the young man finally get married and his biological mother and her husband are invited to the wedding. Biological grandmother is not. Siblings are told of the upcoming wedding and the drama that daughter had brought upon the family is relived again. Things left in the past were stirred up once again. Spouses of the siblings were told of the wayward daughter and they were new trauma victims as they learned that their spouses had kept this family secret from them for decades. What other secrets were kept from the spouses? What an emotional mess! Biological grandmother now widowed was calling her son for months asking if they 'did the right thing' to have their 15 year old daughter put the child up for adoption as if he hadn't been traumatized enough in high school during his sister's pregnancy. Now he was having to relive the mess that sister's poor life choices had brought upon his family and his own time in high school that should have been pleasant years but were clouded by his sister's actions. He now had to explain to his wife that he had kept this secret from her for all the years of their marriage and wife was upset wondering if there weren't more secrets to be dropped upon her some day. Raking up on the past --- there is a reason that people say -- let the past stay in the past. Before the adopted person goes stirring up the past -- ask yourself if the birth situation that compelled you to be adopted might not cause others biological parents, their siblings, the biological grandparents, etc to relieve painful emotions that they had to deal with and have put in their past. It isn't just the adoptee who is involved. Your decision, just like your birth mother's acts that got her in a family way, will impact many others. The biological mother's acts caused drama in the family -- are you willing to risk stirring up trauma of things left in the past by those who dealt with the biological mother's pregnancy? The infant was hopefully raised in a good adoptive home -- be content with that unless you know that the biological family is not going to be traumatized again at your re-appearance. My neighbors adopted 2 infant boys weeks apart -- both of their mothers were drug addicts and are probably dead. My friends adopted two children -- their son's biological mother was a drug addicted. The daughter tracked down her birth mother -- the adoptive dad told me he was saddened that he had raised the daughter was there for her through medical school -- financially and emotionally was there of HIS daughter. As an adult she wanted to re-connect with her biological family -- dad being a dad -- said if his daughter wanted to find her birth parents he was good with that but deep down he was sad. Dad's do these things for their children --- hiding his true personal heart break because of the desires of his daughter. Daughter was giddy as could be to meet her biological mother --- but for his friendship with me, dad suffered silently that daughter didn't see him and his wife as her true full family. How many other adoptive parents conceal their personal heart break of an adoptive child looking for their biological parents? How many biological aunts, uncles, grandparents lives will be sent into turmoil once again from the reappearance of a child long ago placed into a NEW home with NEW parents? Think before your search causes trauma to others -- biological mother did not think what her actions would do to others.

RussellJune 12, 2019

At 63 looking back as a father this articul is spot-on, my girls were taken to another country for 9 years, I did all I could to comunicate with them but not being there certainly had a negative effect on them, my 35 year old still struggles with the effects quite badly, the next also has her struggles, eventualy I managed to get them back and raised my youngest from 13, we were fortunate to be able to develop a loving trusting relationship with her and she is as happy and well adjusted as most. I would like to know how to reverse the negative affects, it is very hard to watch your daughter continually choose self defeating behaviors and see also the ripple effect into the next generation, she has1 boy 4 girls and they have no Father.

DebbieJune 11, 2019

Thank you for all you have shared with us over the years. We pray that every day of your life will be the very best.

Michael BullJune 11, 2019

Last Saturday, mysterious symptoms I was experiencing were finally diagnosed as cancer in my liver, which is also not operable. I am still in hospital going through test after test. My heart is broken for my wife and the fact that my plan that I would ever by at her side and we would grow much older together, will no longer occur as I’d hoped. I feel I have launched my children on a journey that will be painful for them. I wish I could take this cup from them, yet I cannot - we are so very close as a family. Your words were a great comfort to me and my wife. Our experiences of support from the holy ghost and family members are very similar. Thank you so much for sharing.

GavidaaeJune 11, 2019

Was there any differentiation between legal and illegal immigrants? I don't know anyone that has a problem with legal immigration. We take more immigrants by far than any country in the world. The problem is people who don't follow the law. That is a documented financial burden for generations. Maybe it's supposed to offer us comfort that children will do better in school so they can be successful enough to pay the amount of money required by our government through taxes to support the cost.

JustinJune 11, 2019

I have enjoyed your many pearls of wisdom over the years. Know that you have blessed the lives of many directly, and those who have been the recipients of uplifting behavior of those who were changed. In other words, you are a big rock in the pond with ripples that have spread outward in ways that cannot be measured. And there are blessings in store for you in this life and in the life to come! Be well, and may you have the strength and humility to rely on the Lord in the coming days.

Rita MillerJune 11, 2019

What a difficult journey you're on! In addition to looking for resources to help you deal with this, another idea I had was to work on separating the children from each other. Separate activities, like individual play dates or community outings, will keep them from agitating each other so much, and help them work on their one-on-one skills with adults and other children. Being together as a family is good, but when it's only one adult doing all the parenting, having other 'parents' (actual or otherwise) for each of the children will give them a larger base to work from, and help diffuse their energy away from you.

CubbyJune 11, 2019

My sister is much the same position of caring for autistic grandchildren. She has one advantage, she is a school counselor. She found a discipline book called 123 Magic and implemented the strategies. It is amazing. I was a special needs teacher and had, over the course of years of experience learned the same strategies. They work. I now do some lecturing internationally and teach others bits of this. My psychologist friend who invites me also agrees it works, and now the teachers I work with do also. You can google it. Used editions are cheap. Side note, my sister also follows your advice and gets help, a lot of it.

BarbaraJune 11, 2019

This is great. Please make some more recordings.

MikeyJune 11, 2019

Darla -- i am cheering with/for you. I am in year #6 of the pancreatic cancer adventure.

Charlene DanielsJune 11, 2019

So sorry to hear of this part of your journey. I have so enjoyed your writings over the years and want to thank you for your testimony and for strengthening mine. My prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Janice Cline SommerJune 11, 2019

Dear Darla, your words have touched me more than I can express. Although I didn't get to have a lot of contact with you, you influenced my life for such good and I've often wondered how you were doing. I know that you have courageously faced physical challenges for many years with great faith. Thank you for your sharing from your heart. I've face physical challenges for many years as well. This has filled me with such hope and peace. You are such a light and I'm sure have influenced far more than you know. My prayers are with you as you are going through this tender time of preparation to return home.

MarkJune 11, 2019

This is great advice for couple's that live in the world. How about the couple's who live in the world but not of it? My loving and eternal companion and I come from bad marriages. I prayed that some day the Lord would guide me to somebody who put more emphasis on our reward on the other side. He led me to her! Since we look upon life with spiritual eyes, we don't have disagreements. I don't think I could love anybody else as much as I love her. The road to the tree of life is very narrow and the reward is joy and happiness. I know most of the things you are talking about here are of worldly situations. I think the bigger thing to consider when disagreeing is, "What would Jesus do?"

CandaceJune 11, 2019

The Lord neither leads us into temptation nor will he prevent it. Temptation is a the tool we use as we learn to overcome the natural man. This change removes the individuals responsibility to freely choose not to allow themselves to fall into temptation. It negates the principle of agency and the atonement.

Lora KinderJune 11, 2019

Darla, I have been so inspired by your writing, and this article rings very true for me. I had a similar experience while waiting for brain surgery on a tumor. I had no guarantees that I would live through it, or that I would be the same afterward. I experienced the peace that you describe, and wanted to be sure that my last words to everyone were words of love. As it turned out, it wasn't my time (yet), but we all have that day coming. We've spent our lives preparing to return to God. I like what you said about not fighting cancer. We seem to treat death as if it were some kind of defeat instead of an inevitable return to our heavenly home. I hope that we will still be blessed by your insights in the future, but if not, please know that your writings have been an incredible blessing.

Markus GappmaierJune 10, 2019

Dear Darla, thank you very much for your powerful testimony of most precious tender and loving mercies of the Lord which you have experienced during the recent days amidst very challenging experiences. You surely have been gifted with very vauable insights and the wonderful strength to let them govern this special phase of your life. I pray you, and your kind husband, will continue to feel the perfect strength of our Father's divine arm until returning into his presence, whenever this will be according to his reliable wisdom. I feel very blessed by knowing you! P.S.: Thank you for the beautiful pictures!

John ReilJune 10, 2019

My dad landed on Juno. I miss him a lot.

Jane BirchJune 10, 2019

Beautiful and tender, Darla! Thanks for taking some of your precious time to share these tender teachings with us. Our prayers are with you! Thanks for the example of bowing to, "Thy will be done." You are surely in God's arms.

LorieJune 10, 2019

If 41 countries were involved then the number of schools or students in each country were limited. If you only collected data on 7,000 US students, that is not a representation. The issue with immigrant students is not only what the grades are. The real issue is resources are limited when there is an influx of students without an equal number of households paying into the system with taxes. Overcrowded classrooms, limited supplies, out of date books, overworked teachers all add up. I live in an area that has always had a large number of immigrant students coming in. My high school student is using a sociology book that was printed in 1980 with over 40 kids in a classroom. That is a problem

KristineJune 10, 2019

I try to read whatever you share. You have unique insights that are so helpful. Love.

JenniferJune 10, 2019

My husband and I have really enjoyed your podcast this year in helping us study the Come, Follow Me curriculum. I listened to this one alone when he was out of town and I came back to reread the transcript--it was so powerful. I plan to share it and discuss with him to help us strengthen our marriage as we approach our 25th anniversary this month. What beautiful counsel that can be widely applied by many married couples, not just newlyweds. I definitely think you should make it into a booklet of advice for bride and groom!

KathyJune 10, 2019

Very tender. Thank you for sharing very personal thoughts.

KathleenJune 10, 2019

My late husband's boss told us Cancer was the 'Gracious Disease' because it gives us time to spend with family, sort through things and more. You have set an incredible example of handling this curveball in a most gracious way. We love and appreciate your honesty, your example and your faith. Thank you for sharing it all with us! Keep the Faith, the Best is yet to come!

Lissette BakeJune 10, 2019

Three months ago , I suffered a stroke and I just have not been able to voice my thoughts and emotions, UNTIL NOW, through you, Darla. THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL, POSITIVE THOUGHTS! I WILL TRY HARDER! I WILL GO FORWARD! THANK YOU AND BLESS YOU FOR TEACHING ME/US! ¡MUCHAS GRACIAS!

June AdamsJune 10, 2019

Darla, I add my sentiments to the others who have commented. I have printed your messages many times & they will continue to inspire me when I need your wise & consoling words. Thank you for sharing this chapter of your life & all the blessings you're receiving through these tremendous challenges. I will keep this message, too, & share it with others because I know that your faith will continue to inspire all of us as we all go through life's difficulties, hopefully with the same wisdom & grace that shines through you. My prayers are lovingly with you all the way.

Joy LundbergJune 10, 2019

To our dear Darla, We are so sad to read this news about your declining health. We want you to be here on earth longer! Much longer. But we know Who is in charge and we trust Him to take good care of you along this journey. We love you and we love your talents. Your writing is superior and always touches our souls. You have blessed the lives of so many through your books and articles. You have certainly blessed ours. You are in our prayers, dear friend. We love you! Joy and Gary

Jorge HernandezJune 10, 2019

Thank very much for sharing your miracle experience. I am sorry your difficulty and health struggles but then the impossible for the men was posible for our Mighty Lord.

June 10, 2019

Darla, Thank you for sharing your insights with all of us as you go through this journey. Your grace and dignity are to be admired. You remind me of others who have said, Well, why not me? You are truly one of the great and noble ones. We love you. Russ and Daria Evans

Kerri DavenportJune 10, 2019

Thank you for writing and sharing your spritual experience with us readers for so many years. I was thrilled when I heard Elder Holland quote you in October 2017 because your insights have been helpful to me and I'm sure to so many others. Thank you for continuing to share when life is hard. You are a beautiful soul!

KathrynJune 10, 2019

Darla, there are no words to express my thanks. You have inspired me in the past with your articles, but to have all my own beliefs confirmed is going to help me when it is my turn. I feel that time is coming soon. My daughter beat a very aggressive cancer earlier this year. Your attitude is like hers, but unfortunately it wasn't enough to make her leave her church and come back to the truth. But knowing the absolute truth of your words is so comforting. God's timing is not our timing and His ways are not ours. But, oh, the love, it overshadows everything Thank you and be kind to yourself because it's working.

Laura ClaytonJune 10, 2019

I've heard that Elder Neal A. Maxwell wrote about the Atonement of Jesus Christ was, somehow, performed for each one of us one by one. (I haven't had a chance to search for it, but I'd dearly like to find it!) Elder Merrill J. Bateman, however, taught: "For many years I thought of the Savior's experience in the garden and on the cross as places where a large mass of sin was heaped upon Him. Through the words of Alma, Abinadi, Isaiah, and other prophets, however, my view has changed. Instead of an impersonal mass of sin, there was a long line of people, as Jesus felt, 'our infirmities,' bore our griefs, carried our sorrows and was bruised for our iniquities. The atonement was an intimate, personal experience in which Jesus came to know how to help each of us." (Ensign, Nov. 2005)

Karen RawlingsJune 10, 2019

Darla, my husband and I have been lifted and inspired by your beautiful messages through the years. Your faith and testimony are an inspiration and a light to many people. Thank you for your openness in sharing this phase of your journey here on Earth. We pray for you and your family, that you may have continued peace and love.

SebJune 10, 2019

Highly interesting study. However while the study showed that in countries with a higher number of immigrant students the archievment gap between native and immigrant students is lowest, one question remains: Does a higher number of immigrant students correlate with statistically better or worse test results and achievements when compared to students in low immigrant countries? Or in other words: Do students in high immigrant countries have higher or lower grades compared to their counterparts in low immigrants countries? And another question is: What role does the origin of the immigrant students play?

ShirleyJune 10, 2019

I. Was diagnosed with the exact same cancer in early March...colon to liver. I have been taking chemo . Your message hit me right where it was needed I have been struggling to find the peace you speak of. And that is His will not mine be done. Thank you for sharing your story.

MarlundJune 10, 2019

Luana, I agree with your point and final statement...but you should know that stars are actually suns that are light sources just as our own sun is our physical light source. Every star you can see in the night sky with your unaided natural eyes is in our galaxy (the Milky Way). And the Milky Way contains innumerable worlds that orbit those stars. You may enjoy reviewing D&C 88:6-13 for the connection of physical and spiritual light.

Donna BatemanJune 10, 2019

This was the PERFECT complement to what the Lord has been teaching me about my own healing and the healing of my family. Thank you for adding your witness and thereby strengthening mine.

Rick ChapmanJune 10, 2019

You have been an amazing teacher and testifier of important things over the years. Your articles and books have helped our family and others we have shared with on numerous occasions. Your faith and willingness to share your experiences and insights learned, have been a blessing to us and no doubt countless others. Our thoughts and prayers and gratitude are with you always. Thank you! We know Father will bless you in the days ahead.

Cynthia CarlsonJune 10, 2019

Beautiful article with lovely thoughts! You have shared so much of yourself with us, your readers, all these years. May the Lord continue to bless you daily and hourly.

Eileen SalyardsJune 10, 2019

Thank you so very much for sharing. God bless.

CarolineJune 10, 2019

This is precious. Thank you ,dear sister , for joyfully sharing your own lessons of what is real and good and eternal.

ColinJune 10, 2019

Darla, I've been inspired many times by your honest and insightful articles here over the years. May God bless you with comfort through the end (and then beginning) of your journey—and the reunion with your son.

Corina BurnerJune 10, 2019

Words cannot express my gratitude Darla, for you sharing your experience. Having received a diagnosis recently of thyroid cancer, and awaiting the time when I undergo radiation treatment; your testimony and encouraging message was exactly what I needed to hear in a time when my heart was filled with doubts and fears. It was but another tender mercy from the Lord to let me know He was very much aware of what was going on in my life. Thank you again for sharing. You'll be in my prayers.

Debra WoodsJune 10, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing Darla! I can see why you consider it a blessing to have advance notice. It is a gift to us to see into the mind, that could be our own, of someone who knows the end of the mortality phase of life is just ahead. To take time to write your thoughts and feelings to us is so appreciated. We all know we will die someday, but usually ignore that reality, as if we can, by the ignoring, evaporate the truth. The sweet blessings you are experiencing, amidst the weakness, fatigue and pain, are an inspiration for what is possible whenever we submit our will to God. May your transition be just that much more peaceful, and the reunion on the other side that awaits you just that much more delightful because of the preparations you are making now. Thank you for your years of writing and sharing your journey with us to help make our journey more meaningful!

JoyceJune 10, 2019

Darla, I have been learning from your journey in this life as you have recorded it on Meridian magazine all these years. Thank you for sharing this part also. You are a strong valiant daughter of God. I will keep you in my prayers.

Pauline SmithJune 10, 2019

Darla, I have read your articles from various sources since the 1980s and they have always given me hope and courage to go on. You have been one of my special angels! I’m so sorry to hear this news, but I want you to know I love you and I will be praying for you! Maybe we’ll meet somewhere, sometime in a future day. Thank you for being you and sharing your wisdom. My heart to yours!

HalJune 10, 2019

We do not often eat fast-food fan but I've always preferred Wendy's and Chick-Fil-A over other franchises. Not only is the food better, but I like supporting companies that support family values. We adopted two older children through the foster care program and, while not without challenges, our adopted children have brought incredible joy into our lives. We support any entity that promotes adoption over abortion. Conversely, we also decided we could do without Netflix because of their support of abortion. We are not "boycotting" per se, we just choose to divert our resources from a company who does not share our values to those that do.

June 10, 2019

I have been a fan of yours since you were a writer for the little women's magazine many years ago.

Cynthia DeckerJune 10, 2019

I feel God's grace and love from Him to you and then to me. Thank you.

DJJune 10, 2019

Loved this article (as I have many in the past) and you. Thanks for the courage to share this experience and testimony with us.

Cynthia DeckerJune 10, 2019

I feel God's grace and love from him to you and then to me. Thank you.

KathyJune 10, 2019

No words can express how your words touched my heart. The expressed Faith you have says it all...I thank you! I pray for continued growth and happiness in your cancer journey. Much Love, Kathy

LaDawn JacobJune 10, 2019

Thank you Darla for this tender and thoughtful expression of your journey, not just this episode but countless others that you have freely shared. You cannot know how many hearts have been lifted and burdens made lighter by your writings along with your precious sister Arlene. Thank you for teaching through example serenity and joyful submission because of your trust in and personal knowledge of our Redeemer. With gratitude and love, LaDawn Jacob

Karen HallJune 10, 2019

Dear Darla, Thank you for sharing your heartfelt thoughts! What a frustrating experience to go all those months and not have any answers and then finally to get an answer with no treatment to provide the healing one would understandably desire. I felt peace as you asked how much time would be enough for you to say goodbye and likewise, how much time would be enough for your family to feel that they had enough time to let you go? It is a powerful reminder to make the most of each moment we have. Your tender expressions of love and gratitude touched my soul deeply. I was brought to tears as you described the Spirit bathing you and your husband and enabling you to communicate heart to heart on a level you rarely had achieved before. That was so so beautiful! We all long for such a gift and it is truly a journey of learning to communicate in that way, and it takes lots of practice. However, it is truly a gift from the Lord through the Spirit to have our eyes and hearts opened to have true understanding. Through the years, I have loved reading your experiences and the things you have learned in your relationships. Thank you for sharing that your prayers for healing have been answered! Thank you for being vulnerable and giving us hope that we may also be blessed with the Spirit to enable us to receive the gifts of unity in our communication and healing in our relationships, according to the Lord’s timing. Thank you for sharing the gifts you are receiving at such a difficult time. Thank you for all the things you have shared with us through the years to help us turn to the Lord in our journeys, especially during the hard times when we long for His comfort and peace that passeth all understanding. I, too, love it when my critic is silenced and I can envision and feel that I am a little lamb being tenderly held and encircled in the arms of my Savior's love. My prayers are with you and your family.

Vicky Jo SmithJune 10, 2019

This was such a sweet read. Thank you for sharing!

Marla SmakaJune 10, 2019

I do not have adequate words, so with much love I will say thank you and may God bless you.

CynthiaJune 10, 2019

Darla, Your insight and spirituality has blessed me over the years. I'd read an article that touched me to my soul and time after time I'd look at the top and find your name there! I'm grateful you shared in this article how you are partnering with the Lord on this part of your journey. I've learned myself that submitting to God and letting him in while accepting the finality of a loved one's life can be one of the sweetest and most beautiful experiences we can have. I am touched to see you living this and sharing the beauties of it with us. God be with you and thank you.

CatJune 10, 2019

Darla has always been on my "must read" list when it comes to Meridian articles! She always has such a beautiful way of putting this mortal journey into proper perspective.

Deanna SasserJune 10, 2019

I have had many friends that have passed on because of cancer. I am grateful for Darla’s comments. I felt her Spirit and it is the spirit that is needed at this time. I have always loved her stories and comments in the Meridian Magazine. I will miss her. Her article was comforting and healing to all those who read it. Thank you Darla. I know the Lord will continue to bless you and your husband.

Janene BaadsgaardJune 10, 2019

Oh Darla, Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with me today. I have great love and respect for you and the beautiful desires of your heart. God bless you my sweet friend.

Karyn HughesJune 10, 2019

Oh Darla, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I met you at a homeschool conference years and years ago. We chatted and had a heart to heart talk. I've loved you ever since. I thrive on your wisdom. I'm a better person because of you. Thank you for everything you've given me and to the world. My prayers are with you as you complete your journey here. I know how blessed and sacred that time is. Bless you dear sister!

Jo ZsemberyJune 10, 2019

Please Darla, take the time to write or dictate letters to your loved ones. And audios of your voice- even reading a patriarchal blessing are wonderful for those who grieve or never knew you this side of veil. We have some of those things as we had time also. Such precious gems!!

C ShieldsJune 10, 2019

Having lost 2 extended family members in the 2017 Santa Rosa CA Tubbs fire, I attest your conclusion after the experience of your day of fear: that 'nothing else really matters', when it comes to the preservation of the life. Tangible goods can be replaced, but love ones cannot.

Ann CapelJune 10, 2019

Thank you for sharing these precious thoughts with us. They are just what I needed You are wonderful!

Natasha PalaganoJune 10, 2019

I have read many of your articles. They are wonderful. Thank you for sharing these thoughts about your journey. I wish you the power of God, his perfect grace, and the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. Peace to you forever.

Laura BreymanJune 10, 2019

Thank you Sister Isaacson . We add our prayers to your and your families. Thank you for years of wisdom.

Christine BJune 10, 2019

Thank you for sharing your insights and thoughts on your experiences right now. I appreciate your words and I’m so glad you are feeling love and peace at the moment. I pray that these feelings will continue and sustain you in the journey ahead. Much love.

Erika PechacekJune 10, 2019

My son and I came early and enjoyed the atmosphere and excitement before President Nelson's arrival. Hearing the prophet was a spiritual feast. My son enjoyed the medical information that Pres. Nelson shared and how much it benefits people today. Pres. Uchtdorf and his wife shared experiences from the post- war time in Germany. This brought back experiences of my own. All the talks were very comforting and spiritual to me and emphasized the importance of our scriptures. The book of Mormon, if carefully read, is so important for us to understand how the Lord deals with His people and that Joseph Smith is a true prophet. I wish that all people would listen to the prophet and make decisions for themselves and others accordingly.

Ann-Marie JensenJune 10, 2019

Thank you for sharing your encouraging insights and the sweet lessons you're learning. This morning I studied President Nelson's April 2012 talk where he states, "To return to God through the gateway we call death is a joy for those who love Him and are prepared to meet Him." I wish you continued joy.

Kathie CraneJune 10, 2019

Darla we have learned so much from you through our visits at Kitchen Kneads and through your articles. Thank you for your thoughts on what is important in this life. They express our thoughts completely. Thank you for being our good friend. Love Joe and Kathie Crane

Pat PaulsonJune 10, 2019

Enjoyed this article very much. May God continue to bless your journey. You have given me a more comforting way to look at death. Thank you.

C ShieldsJune 10, 2019

Poignantly insightful. Thank you for reminding us how to live EVERY day of our lives, even withOUT a knowing 'end' in place....

Kathie CraneJune 10, 2019

A beautiful article about the important things in life.

Suzy LloydJune 10, 2019

Dear Darla, You have long been one of my favorite Meridian writers and I was SO sorry to read of your struggle. However, as usual, your faith and ability to spiritually cut to the chase, have lifted my spirit. I am grateful for your example and will pray for your journey and comfort. Bless you and your family, Suzy Lloyd

KathyJune 10, 2019

Thank you for your articles and insights. Thank you for sharing your feelings and testimony. My husband and I traveled this same journey a few months ago. It is a cherished, sacred time. You will be in my prayers.

Claradene StewartJune 10, 2019

I have enjoyed reading your stories and articles for these many years. I appreciate your insight into your struggles at this time in your life. I appreciate the fact that you do not blame God, and understand that you have done your best job taking care of your body and soul. C'est la vie, as they say in France where I am serving a senior couple mission and know very little French! May Heavenly Father and the atonement ofJesus Christ continue to sustain you and your husband and family.

JackJune 9, 2019

I think it’s a jump to conclude that fruits, vegetables and grains are herbs. Webster defines herbs very specifically as soft stem plants that die to the root annually. When Webster claims it comprehends all plants, he means the “whole plant”. Herbs are plants. He didn’t mean fruit trees (which are plants). Trees are not herbs! Vines are not herbs! Grains are not herbs. So when Webster says plants he means the whole plants which are used for culinary purposes. Grasses are a good example of an herb.

Daniel BakerJune 9, 2019

I have enjoyed much interfaith contact - many events, many opportunities, shaking hands with ministers, rabbis, muslims, even a national leader, having interesting respectful conversations and being told some amazing respectful things. We do not need to give up our own doctrine or belief to grow to understand and respect another. It's better than going forever according to some rumors unfounded.

Patricia BennettoJune 9, 2019

You have once again blessed me Thank you! This is getting printed so I can read it over and over and over

Diane C TadjeJune 9, 2019

Where can I find elder bednar's words about the enduring power of the atonement from podcast number 23?

TammyJune 8, 2019

Absolutely beautiful! The veil is so thin. What a blessing that Heavenly Father allows us to have these sacred experiences.

JoyceJune 8, 2019

My daughter in law thought her family was done after they had 5 children. But then she dreamed of a little boys who said he would be part of her family and his name was Caleb. Her husband agreed they should have one more child. Caleb is now 2 years-old.

PamJune 8, 2019

There are support groups on Facebook. ABA is amazing with autistic children. There are several providers. Try getting DSPD services that offer respite and help with other needs.

Patrick collinsJune 7, 2019

My Lord Jesus will always lead me and my family to the light of his love his words save our souls and his cross is the symbol of his saving sacrifice for us who truly love and adore his holy name.amen Lord jesus.

CarolynJune 7, 2019

Kari. where can I find that report. My dad landed on Utah beach.

Anne PrattJune 7, 2019

So Beautiful Maurine. Thanks for sharing!

Don HoffmanJune 7, 2019

Faith in the power of The Atonement of Jesus Christ has always been our source of strength to overcome temptation, as noted in Alma 7:11

Ali NeriJune 7, 2019

What a beautiful mission of our dear Prophet Joseph Smith!! What is "JD" and "HC" in reference to?

Geoff SteurerJune 7, 2019

This is such a beautiful story and a perfect illustration of God's goodness!

LaRita Call EvansJune 7, 2019

My father was at Normandy. I am so grateful that he survived. I am sure that the Lord was with those great men, as they stopped the Nazis. None of us knew what was happening, it was all a secret. I was 14 years old.

Richard JukesJune 7, 2019

Thank you, Maureen, for this article. It does this memory day justice and inspiration.

RS Ormond (Capt USAF Ret)June 7, 2019

Did he write a book about this?

Ann-Marie JensenJune 7, 2019

Thank you for making this available to us! What a perfect example he provides of being in tune with the Spirit. Quite the lesson for us that he received revelation about The Book of Mormon while getting ready for a deadly beach landing.

Tacy MuzzyJune 7, 2019

Thank you, Jonathan, for the recommendation!! We signed up. I like to support any efforts to offer alternatives to the increasingly questionable content available today.

Susan AnneveldtJune 7, 2019

I used to be in the same ward as Hugh Nibley and have great memories of walking to Church with him on some Sundays, or chatting with him in his little downstairs study/visitors room at his house. As I have a great interest in history, especially that of WWII, we talked about that too. He once told me about how he had been a "snoop" (his term) in the war, because he could understand the necessary languages and dialects. Great man!

Kayleen HunsakerJune 6, 2019

Thank you SO much for this article! [and all those that you write] I find that you speak directly to my soul and I am always able to understand in such a wonderfully simple way those things that I can DO to help myself...after reading your precious words!

pamela Morgan roderJune 6, 2019

Nibley is a hero of mine! Now even more so. Thank you for posting this!

Nihla Wilcox JuddJune 6, 2019

I will be reading this article again and again. Thank you for teaching correct principles and eternal truths. The one scripture you chose to quote has been a favorite of mine for as long as I can remember. I loved it the first time I read it. It resonates deeply with me. Thank you for reminding me of truthful solutions.

Margaret DrysdaleJune 6, 2019

In England, I have been watching on TV today the commemoration events of this important anniversary. They were all marked by humility from high and low, with great gratitude to those who fought and fell on that day, with speeches by many who were there and are now in their 90s and over a century. The speeches by the Queen and President Trump were touching and all the programmes so moving they brought me to tears, especially the ones from the immaculate War Cemeteries in the area President Nibley saw action. Surely this faithful man had divine protection. Our country is indebted to the USA for it's help and support in the later years of the War. Afterwards I remember having to take a jar to school to bring home drinking chocolate powder from a huge container, a real treat in those deprived days. Food and clothing was rationed for years after the war ended. When Princess Elizabeth married in 1947, many sent their clothing coupons for her trousseau.

Melvin HillerJune 6, 2019

I do not understand if Weatherspoon is for or against abortion. article is confusing

KariJune 6, 2019

I just read an old report of the landing of 4 divisions on Utah Beach on D-Day, the report being well researched and written 1960. What a bloody and horrendous day for so many men who died or were wounded. I am so grateful to them for their sacrifice. I think very few know of these accounts. It was a difficult day, to say the very least. We should all know about it.

Glen BlakleyJune 6, 2019

I read Sergeant Hugh Nibley...It was a great read. I have read hundreds of books on WW II form all sides, but Hugh Nibley's book is one of my favorite. When I was a student at BYU, I live across the street from him. I find all of his books very interesting. He always felt like he was just an observer. He felt our roll on earth is to repent and forgive. He was one of the smartest men I ever me tor heard speak.

Kent BrooksbyJune 6, 2019

I read the book years ago, and one thought of his has stuck with me. During the war, he often thought, What becomes of me matters very little; all that matters is what I become.

Kenny MazzantiJune 6, 2019

I have wondered about the reasons for the cataclysmic events that occurred on the American continents upon the Saviors crucifixion. In Jerusalem there followed three hours of darkness. In the Americas it was three days. In Jerusalem there was a quake. In the Americas the rocks were broken up, the whole face of the land was changed, cities were burned, buried in the ocean or crushed by mountains. Not to mention the myriads of people killed as a result. Granted that many of the people in the Americas were wicked, as there has been in all ages and in all places, but in Jerusalem the people actually cried out for the Saviors crucifixion, he was illegally tried, scourged, and crucified, and we have no record of mass extinction or destruction. The people in the Americas, as we call it, had nothing to do with the events in Jerusalem, and yet there is little comparison to the destructive events on these two different continents? Fortunately, I know that the Lord knows why this had to happen as it did, and I trust Him absolutely. But, does anyone have thoughts on why the great difference?

Sharon PhilpotJune 6, 2019

I've always loved Hugh Nibley, no even more so. Thank you for posting this. I'll share with our ward, and guess I'll have to buy the book!

Luana WellsJune 6, 2019

It has always been interesting to me that they refer to themselves as "Stars ". Stars only reflect, they do not give off true light. I choose to follow the Light of the World!

kathryn amesJune 6, 2019

Have read this marvelous book. What an astounding first-hand report of WWII from a faithful saint and scholar!

Dr Mike CriddleJune 6, 2019

Hugh is an American Hero and is also very honest about his wartime experiences. What is not mentioned in the story above is that Hugh was assigned to Army Intelligence( OB group) and took part in much of the planning of D Day for almost a year. He mentions elsewhere that it was that huge Storm that actually saved the invasion because German intelligence had the original date and were fully expecting the landing to occur. When the storm came in so powerfully,not only did it delay the invasion, but it also blew many of the ships out of position and changed the order enough to substantially confuse the Germans. In the end the Miracle of D-Day was very much in the storm along with all the planning, but without the Storm it is likely we would have not succeeded at Normandy. Nibley acknowledges that God was fully in charge and that the wisdom and planning of men is insufficient; IMO Quite profound.

Carol AnnJune 6