September 24, 2019

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JustinSeptember 23, 2019

I wonder at which point we have to come to a point where people who have been taught proper standards will never change and just strive to live good and loving lives, and in time, as passions cool and the pendulum stops swinging, and they are left with the misery that strident and continued disobedience has brought, they might look to those whose lives are still bright, light and delightsome, and be willing to seek for understanding and the blessings that they see. We are taught in the scriptures that contention is of the devil. It's common for people to define the terms of the conversation to suit their needs. We don't need to play along. Truth is truth.

ValerieSeptember 23, 2019

Thank you so much for expressing this so plainly.

KrisSeptember 23, 2019

I would think this husband will deal with an idealized girl friend’s rejection and realize how much he gained from a faithful dutiful wife and mother to his children. I would think he will greet his wife with open arms and joy as his eternal sealed partner. I think this will be the final scenario. In the meantime the wife can become more sanctified and glorious in her own right. She will need to decide if she can forgive his immaturity and hurtful behavior and thus own her own story’s outcome.

MariaSeptember 23, 2019

I love this so much. I'm going to share it with many. We know Satan is a beguiler. He twists things just a little so it seems good. I believe he has flipped the first and second commandments saying we are supposed to love our neighbor first and if God's commandments don't match with this first commandment we are hateful. And love for gays trumps love for anyone else. Even if I tell people that I have friends who are gay, I'm still considered bigoted because I believe in the proclamation..

CSBevanSeptember 23, 2019

This is a very thought-provoking article but I’m a little confused by use of the word “confusion.” I know there is disagreement, dissent or conflict among those who don’t see the “Family Proclamation” as a prophetic declaration but I haven’t not been party to any confusion. I remember, however, when the proclamation was “introduced” my first thoughts were, “of course.” Years later I’m now even more convinced of its divine necessity (not that I needed convincing!).

AnnaSeptember 23, 2019

A really enjoyed this article and especially the part about how Christ asks all of us to become new creatures in Him. It doesn't matter how we identify, or who we love, in the end we ALL must come unto Christ and become like Him (in thought word and deed). We all have to give up "our natural man /woman" and become new.

A. BinghamSeptember 23, 2019

I am a Latter Day Saint and self employed contractor. I have belonged to Christian Healthcare Ministries for 3 years. This could be another option.

MelissaSeptember 23, 2019

Oh how I appreciated your succinct and compassionate approach! Your thoughts are spot on and have bouyed my spirits knowing I am not alone. I work in a corporation where "tolerance and acceptance" are paramount...but only for for those that lie within the new protected social minority (LGBTQ and their sympathizers). Those like me who hold to traditional beliefs are censored and ostracized. I have hoped to find some help/advice that would provide some guidance and reassurance. I loved that talk from our prophet and I will continiue to stand behind him and our apostles! They speak truth and "truth is truth"!

SBSeptember 23, 2019

Thanks for your interesting article and insight! My only suggestion would be to write in "easier to understand" language for the benefit of many readers, including teens, who may struggle with some of your advanced wording, such as in this sentence: "While certainly an expanded societal pluralism has fostered greater mutual appreciation, an ideology of ongoing liberation from structural oppression has now become the de facto, virtually unquestioned starting point for most public discussions about sexuality today." Surely that, and many of you other sentences, can be more simply stated and made understandable for the "average" person? A person who is not quite as educated as you will probably stop reading your article at the second or third paragraph. All should be able to read and understand and appreciate your important message - if you make it so they can.. Thanks!

Herm OlsenSeptember 23, 2019

Mr. Hess makes valuable points. He notes that the social media discourse can very quickly become toxic. It’s tragic that people seem willing to unleash intense hostility against views (and people) who disagree with themselves - both in an out of the Church. I appreciate both the tone and the content expressed, and hope that our Pride-focused brothers and sisters will pause just long enough to consider the truths expressed.

blackwolfSeptember 22, 2019

Great first video, big step up from the 'Book of Mormon' movie. Check out if you want to review all the supporting evidence.

JanelleSeptember 22, 2019

People are sick! I hope we at least pass the Born Alive Survivors Protection Act. A complete ban on abortion would be preferable!

AnnSeptember 22, 2019

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carolyn nicolaysenSeptember 21, 2019

Cyrus, I think the difference is between someone who wants to survive and someone who can no longer think clearly due to stress or old age or being too young to understand the danger. When my grandmother was living with me she would not eat and just did not understand she needed to. I found two things she loved and she ate many, many peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and cream of wheat with brown sugar until she felt better when we got her medications regulated. Studies have shown children and the elderly are the most at risk.

Roberta PetersonSeptember 21, 2019

Thank you, Bro. Proctor, for sharing these in July & for re-sharing them during Constitution Week (Sept. 17 & thereafter). We members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have a responsibility to study and promote the divinely inspired Constitution. We cannot follow it if we do not know what it says. Hillsdale College's free on-line course, Constitution 101, is excellent.

DeeAnnSeptember 21, 2019

They have a right as a private religious organization, to determine the criteria for who joins. The only part I have a problem with is that they weren't up front about it when the family originally signed up. Welcome to the world of religious freedom!

Iliana martinsenSeptember 21, 2019

It is hard to read all these comments, I think we all are victims of these constant promptings from Lucifer. If Lucifer was villain enough to tempt our Lord Jesus the Christ, what can we expect from David?. He was a victim too; Lucifer knew the glory that awaits for David and he Lucifer worked extra hard to make sure David won't be able to reach it. What am I trying to say is this: We have no right to point a finger to any of them we weren`t there, I don`t think for a minute that our own lives are perfect we all have ups and downs we are not by any means perfect humans, so please stop calling King David rapist or, bathsheba seducer respect them we all will someday heading there means the other side of the veil and our own eyes will be open to the perfect truth of what or how really happens... meanwhile be respectful and focussed on our own personal progress.

CW2SADSeptember 21, 2019

It’s funny that there’s a message at the end of the article about the temple not taking Visa. My Eternal Companion and I went to our local temple last week and she tried to pay for her rental clothing with cash. Imagine her surprise when she was told they don’t take cash anymore! Visa is accepted though...

PaulSeptember 21, 2019

This is a fantastic article! I too struggled with the temple at first. The biggest thing that helped was my mom who told me that she didn't understand everything either and keep going back. It was reassuring to know that as long as I continued to go back that I would learn powerful truths that would help me. I found that to be the case. My current issue is the new film. I get motion sickness if I watch it for too long. I try to listen to what they are saying and close my eyes and fall asleep! It is so difficult.

Alece ReynoldsSeptember 20, 2019

You could remind her that regardless of whether or not her husband married her on the rebound, or not. If he truly never loved her, and she has been faithful to him and to the Lord, a loving Heavenly Father will provide an eternal spouse for her who will love her in the way she always hoped to be loved.

ScottHSeptember 20, 2019

Thank you. Great article. Good suggestions. I had a bishop who said that your visit to the temple could be a deeply sacred experience or it could be no more spiritually significant than visiting the drive-thru at a fast food restaurant. It's really up to you. I was fascinated by a comment Richard Bushman made to a group of seasoned journalists about how Latter-day Saints create sacred space. The temple may be sacred to the Lord, but it only becomes sacred to ourselves as individuals as we take deliberate action to make it so. Your GPPPG formula is the perfect approach to doing so. More than a decade ago, I had a stake president who counseled stake members to attend the temple weekly or as often as circumstances allowed. To be frank, I was chagrined by his counsel. Weren't we already busy enough? To top it off, our local temple closed for 3½ years for extensive renovation. The first year of so of my weekly temple visits were tainted by my attitude. But you know what? Week after week, the Lord softened my heart a little bit. Eventually my weekly time in the temple became deeply sacred. I learned more and more, and I had many hallowed experiences. So I know that your suggestion to keep attending the temple really works.

MicheleSeptember 20, 2019

The original article demonstrates the Samaritan organization is having to comply with the Affordable Care Act, and isn't willing to stand up to the ACA standards and/or changes. The ACA shouldn't have any say in religious beliefs, in my opinion.

JudySeptember 20, 2019

Are the significant dates such as first visits of Moroni to the Prophet Joseph Smith and the date of receiving of the gold plates, etc., also noted on this calendar?

KathySeptember 20, 2019

I can't thank you enough for your insights into these wonderful scriptures. I don't listen to the podcast but I read the article every week and add numerous notes to my scriptures... always giving the two of you credit. THANK YOU!!!

Dottie SagerSeptember 20, 2019

I also tried twice but my information was rejected. Dottie Sager

DL AndersonSeptember 20, 2019

What a lovely reminder on the day I'm returning to "my" Temple. It hasn't been long; nor is temple attendance unusual for me. Regardless, these sweet reminders added so much to my work day that will melt into my "temple trip" day (I live a distance and so will stay at Temple Patron apts). To others reading this, I add my witness that it is indeed our attitude, not our knowledge, that prepares us (along with personal worthiness!) for receiving the gifts our Savior, Heavenly Parents, and the Holy Ghost would LOVE to give us - IF we would just slow down; listen, then hearken.

Gaye BreillattSeptember 20, 2019

Attending g the temple regularly changes your life. You are more focused on the things that truly matter. Beautiful Article.

CarolSeptember 20, 2019

The first point: "You are sons and daughters of God" is something that helps me stay focused in even the hardest times. I just repeat over and over out loud if possible or in my heard when it's not, I am a daughter of God, over and over until I feel grounded and focused.

Gail HansenSeptember 20, 2019

I think that Stephen E. Robinson's book "Are Mormons Christians?" has the answers to all of "Christian Health Care" objections.It would take to long to clarify their objections here.So I would recommend the book to make a clear statement back to them.

CarolSeptember 20, 2019

Now you can put those wonderful stories into Family Search for all the world to see. And even the pictures too. I love that feature of the program. I don't have many stories but the ones I have I share!

Temple LoverSeptember 20, 2019

Loved this article —it mirrors my own experiences and feelings in many ways and expresses them better than I ever could. I receive my endowment many many years ago— completely unprepared as far as temple preparation classes or anything except negative and bewildering comments from others. Fortunately, and I will be grateful for this eternally, I fell in love with the temple from the very first words spoken during in the first ordinance— I am sure it was because I was already in love with the Lord and somehow trusted and knew that whatever happened that day was from Him, and was what He wanted me to know and feel. I feel the same way 50+years later as I administer these ordinances to my sisters in the temple. If we go to the temple loving Him and always remembering Him, and trusting Him, I can promise He will fill us with reverent joy —if we will only be still and know that He is God.

Lee HillSeptember 20, 2019

Thank you so much for this wonderful article! My wife and I are the temple preparation instructors for our ward and we have had many wonderful discussions with young people preparing for missions and couples who are going to the temple for the first time or returning after many years of being absent from temple attendance. We teach our lessons one-on-one with each individual or family and love the intimacy of that setting. The points made in this article will be helpful to us in explaining the importance of regular temple attendance and listening carefully to the whisperings of the Spirit while there. Thank you again!

CDLSeptember 20, 2019

Not an easy job. I wish him well.

Mary JSeptember 20, 2019

I use “” for everything I order through Amazon. This site allows you to choose a charity that a certain percentage of you order total will be donated to. The first time I read about Rising Star, I determined that this would be the organization that I would choose. Can you imagine how many funds would be raised in even a short time if you and all those you know would pick Rising Star as their charity?? I urge you to check it out for yourself, then spread the news. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a hospital, proper medical care, an Oh so comfortable dorm for the students? Everyone you know who orders from Amazon can help with this!

Steven K. SsenyonjoSeptember 20, 2019

This Prophetic message is not only for the youth but for the entire church membership globally. "We thank thee for a Prophet..."

Cyrus L WelchSeptember 19, 2019

I take exception to your comment that people will starve before eating food they don't like. I was privileged to serve in the USAF with a survivor of a Japanese prisoner of war camp, He promised me and anyone else who cared to listen that you will eat anything, yes, 'ANYTHING' when you get hungry enough,

Martin AckleySeptember 19, 2019

Wonderful article. Thank you so much. I agree with everything you wrote, except the the sentence about disagreeing with our prophets being a universal experience. I am a Latter-Day Saint because the prophets are prophets. Either they are or they aren't. If they aren't then I am wasting my time here, but they are. There are many who want to be taught what they want to be taught. There is no growth in that. We ought to desire to be taught what the Lord wants to teach us. I believe this is relevant. I have always followed politics and of course had very strong opinions and of course was right. I have at times been quite vocal about my beliefs. Under the previous administration I went through a dark period in which I said I am beginning to not recognize my country. For me this was a time of sadness and anger. However, the Spirit spoke to me these words "Countries come and go. Nations rise and fall. You focus on the kingdom of God." This was a powerful Holy Ghost moment and message, and I have never been the same. There is no soundbite or video that could be played on any network news or radio show that can bring me despair again. I know those difficult moments are coming. The Babylon we have all cherished will crumble around us, but it is the Kingdom of God that is unshakable. "Choose ye this day... I will serve the Lord," and follow the Lord's servant Also There was no concealed carry allowed by Jesus in His ministry, Peter when Saul was slaughtering the Saints, Paul when the Romans..., Polycarp... It will probably happen somewhere, sometime; will we say "see I told the Prophet..." or will we follow Paul's teaching to not resist evil, and continue to have faith in Christ and follow the prophet in the face of the most terrible tragedy?

J FoxSeptember 19, 2019

I think this issue is complicated by the distinction between doctrine and policy. it is my faith that the Prophet and Apostles as the final authorities in promulgating correct doctrine and principles. And deviating from these could imperil one's salvation. It is also my faith that they are also the final authorities on church policy - The "church" being distinguished from the "gospel" as the church is the organized structure that reinforces gospel living. When new church policies are made, especially administrative in nature, I'm just not certain they have the same salvation related significance. I think this article makes great points, but I suspect there are probably situations where one can take exception to a general policy and it may actual be pleasing to the Lord.

Ben JonesSeptember 19, 2019

When I joined the Church in 1982, Ezra Taft Benson was next in line to be prophet and he had been quoted as saying that you couldn't be a good Democrat and a good Mormon. One of my colleagues, a returned missionary, called Benson a fascist and hoped he'd die before President Kimball did. A year later, I saw Benson speak in General Conference about his experiences as a Boy Scout leader and I decided I was fine with him being the next prophet. A year or so later, he became the prophet and he never said another word about Democrats or Republicans. However, my colleague became a bitter apostate.

EveSeptember 19, 2019

Excellent points. Great reminder that applies to everyone. Thank you so much!

HalSeptember 19, 2019

Wow, what a great article! I will be sharing this with my immediate family. There have been times in my life when I questioned counsel given by church leaders and I have been wrong every time.

YFBSeptember 19, 2019

I want to quarrel with one point: alcohol abuse does not lead to rape. A person does not commit rape because they've had too much to drink. I think it's important to clear up misconceptions like that about sexual abuse once and for all.

Darlene HarrisSeptember 19, 2019

May God bless you at this difficult time. Losing a child is a terrible thing to go through. Take comfort that he is with our Heavenly Father. He was doing God's work. God will bless you in your grief.

RebeccaSeptember 19, 2019

Many people say they would never have "stoned the prophets" as is recorded in the scriptures to have happened. But, how often is this done (not physically casting a stone) when a prophet's stated position - the church's position - on something is not agreed with and fought against in a public, or even private, forum. Ask yourself if your actions/inactions are in effect "stoning the prophets". Thank you for this article - it has given me much to think about. Especially the paragraph that ends with... "If it hasn’t happened to you yet, I can almost guarantee that it eventually will."

Mary Ann KershisnikSeptember 19, 2019

Thank you!!!!!!

Charles DefranchiSeptember 19, 2019

Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the First Presidency had the experience as a young Attorney to consider the Supreme Court's decision to remove any form of religious symbol from public schools and universities as valid...until President David O. McKay stated that this represented the victory of a religion without God over a religion with a God. Brother Oaks later realized that the Prophet had been right all along.

Roberta PetersonSeptember 19, 2019

Excellent, excellent article. Thank you so much. I believe it is arrogant of us (of me) to think I am always right.

Justin MSeptember 19, 2019

Becky, thank you for your efforts to make the impossible POSSIBLE! And thank you to the Proctor's, for recognizing a way to help that vision come to light! It was hard to see in some of the photos the light of hope become dimmed through a hard life. That will be a wonderful miracle to see! My wife and I are grateful that we can be a small part of this effort through our contributions. I hope you'll report out the progress of the school, and changes in their lives!

J. HoodSeptember 19, 2019

Well written. I have never questioned the prophets because as you've said, I have received my own revelation from God that they are prophets. But your article made me think about how others might think or feel. I really enjoyed it. It was very informative.

Patricia CerisanoSeptember 19, 2019

Our deepest condolences go the family of Elder Keck. It is so hard to loose a child at any time. But he was in the service of the Lord when he died and that itself is a comfort. May you be blessed with peace and comfort and know that Heavenly Father is aware of you.

LIndaSeptember 18, 2019

This article was spot on! Our youngest daughter was diagnosed with an adult-onset pediatric brain tumor 7 years ago. She was 25 at the time, happy teaching elementary school, in a vibrant YSA ward in another state. She had surgery right away, radiation, then a year of chemo and physical/occupational therapy. She was left with some diminished skills, unable to return to teaching, no driving, and had to move back home with us. Her grief was heartbreaking! Life as she’d known it was gone, dreams dashed. Gratefully, she had mega support from family and friends. But her grief manifest itself often, and it included raising her voice and snapping at me (totally NOT her gentle self!). It cut me to the core, but I knew she was grieving and bit my tongue. But after a few months, I cratered. One day when she snapped at me, I looked her in the eyes and tearily told her she didn’t need to yell at me, I was only trying to help. She looked shocked, and said “did I yell at you”? She didn’t even realize what she’d done, and felt badly. We talked about it, and although her grief went on for a long time, she never raised her voice rudely again. And over time she has learned to accept her “new life” and in many ways is thriving. She knows she’s greatly blessed.

George SkylesSeptember 18, 2019

It was thought that there would never be a temple in East Germany. Russia needs the Church, and the Lord will provide when the time is right. There is a reason the temple announcement was made when it was. We think, "How in the world could that come to pass? However, we know it will happen "in the Lord's due time." Meanwhile, we have our own challenges and need to be faithful for our own sakes and for the Russians.

Jo Ann OkelberrySeptember 18, 2019


David H BaileySeptember 18, 2019

Dear Unaccepted Wife. Please excuse my being direct, but you and your husband share some responsibility in enabling this serious problem. You have given this woman power to emotionally abuse both of you for 8 years and from the context of your writing it is likely to shortly increase in tension as you deliver. I honor you for anticipating a possible crisis as you bring a new creation into the world. How will this person view that innocent infant? Will she, perhaps without conscious awareness, transfer some of her disregard for you to the child? I view this situation with understanding as a man recovering from being an addictive controller. I learned of my addiction because I chose to accept group counseling and as part of that exposure witnessed women who came to weekly meetings because their husband-abuse became intolerable and they wanted resolution. In most cases the group taught and supported each other about how to gain control and not be victims. In my innosence I thought I could be a fly-on-the-wall. Ha. Not possible. I became involved in the trauma and challenges and discovered how deeply powerful addictive behaviors are. I suggest it is time to reverse the circumstances. What are your needs? Can you generate courage with love and caring to establish game-changing behaviors. This is not a time in your life to be nice to her which I sense you have tried without even getting eye contact. You need to disconnect from her abuse by setting rules you choose. I suggest you politely address her (with your words) that you will avoid contact so long as she engages in abusive words and uncomfortable contacts. When she privately agrees she may make it known in a way acceptable to you, maybe in writing.. Until she makes contact, you must enforce your limits, not even phone calls. You will have regained your power instead of giving it to her. I suggest you are strict because she may engage in a fight if she can make you feel like you are abusing her. I wish you loving success. David. u f the me but I will What are your expectations? You have allowed this mentally ill seems to me that you have given your mother-in-law power to control your life for 8 years, and as of this writing I sense no change in the health of that relationship. What are your expectations? I write as one who is a recovering addictive

Patricia ThompsonSeptember 18, 2019

So sorry for your loss. It is always hard to lose a child, but especially when the child is serving as a missionary.

RosaSeptember 18, 2019

My daughter had a similar situation, and it took years, but she has a good relationship with her mother-in-law now. I think reaching out to the MIL and inviting her out to lunch, just as you would do with your own mother is key to establishing a relationship. In my daughter's case, they invite MIL and FIL out to pizza regularly, if MIL is in a cranky mood, she stays home, if not she goes; it is her choice to be included or not.

JudySeptember 18, 2019

Thank you for this abundant selection of lesson enhancements!

JKSeptember 18, 2019

Oh my heart just goes out to this young Elders Family. May they find comfort through the Holy Spirit and the truths of eternal family ties. I pray if it be the Lords will the other Elder will recover. God bless

Alexander ForsythSeptember 18, 2019

How tragic! Bryant's Mother saw her son come into this world; and has seen her beloved son depart.

Paul HSeptember 18, 2019

I was nervous about using my credit card information as well so I called the phone number of Rising Star to ask if it was a secure connection. They assured me it was so I made a donation. How could I look at these pictures and not want to help? (My only suggestion is to list a link to donate at just the beginning and the end of the article. Otherwise is looks a little too much like you're just asking for money and I routinely avoid such as just a marketing opportunity.) Fortunately the photos and the text that said all funds will be used for the charitable purpose with no overhead fees overcame my usual objections and I made a contribution. After ignoring it at first, it kept coming back to me that this was a wonderful opportunity to help in a very small way. Bless you for your efforts. I hope somehow it snowballs into more than just a school for these poor yet deserving people. Thanks you Meridian for the humanitarian opportunity to help others.

Karin ThompsonSeptember 17, 2019

I also will keep these two missionaries in my prayers. My heart goes out to their families.. May our Heavenly Father with his infinite love and mercy allow them to heal and get well. The injured people in the truck will be in my prayers as well,

HalSeptember 17, 2019

We have had to be so careful lately. One of my favorite children's books authors started slipping in non-traditional relationships into his works as though they were normal, healthy alternatives. Similarly, we have found videos specifically targeted to young children (animated films) that depict non-traditional relationships. We have taken to previewing most of the books and videos our children read / watch even if they are geared for kids or rated G. It's very sad that our children aren't even safe in a school library.

Jo Ann OkelberrySeptember 17, 2019

Why can't children be children? Why does the LGBT community feel that their life style choices should deprive others of having a regular childhood? This article has made me so afraid for the children and teens of this world.

HSSeptember 17, 2019

I'm with the person who didn't want name, address and credit card out there in one more location. Please add PayPal as a way to donate. I promise I will donate, if you do that.

SHARON HARRISONSeptember 17, 2019

Thank you.

JOHN C SALAZARSeptember 17, 2019

Our most sincere prayers go out for these missionaries. We have a grandson serving and we are always praying for his safety. We will add them to prayer rolls at the temple tomorrow.

Charles DefranchiSeptember 17, 2019

I was diagnosed with a severe case of anemia when I was six, and was put through a regimen of medicines meants to boost my blood iron levels. Part of the regimen - not necessarily a priority - was to give me "Human Serum" shots in the tummy. The first one turned out to be extremely painful, to the point I could barely walk afterwards. There were 3-4 more shots remaining to administer, that were kept in the fridge. However, temperature in the fridge suddenly reached freezing levels, that destroyed the stored medicine. It was then decided not to continue with the treatment. Looking back sixty years later, I suspect that this incident was the result of the Lord's tender mercy towards the poor little boy I was.

Been ThereSeptember 17, 2019

This is a completely toxic relationship with the mother-in-law. She is wanting control on her terms and is undermining the wife right in front of her son. She is giving him an ultimatum and he is actually the one who needs to choose anything. The wife owes her mother-in-law nothing at this point! I believe the best advice is for the husband and wife to realize the mother-in-law is a controlling narcissist and will stop at nothing to accomplish a division within this marriage. This is not a healthy atmosphere to bring this new baby into, so they will need to secure their borders for the safety of their own family. THEY are the only ones who should be in control here. My next concern is, this mother raised the husband. Does he see the abusive nature of his mother and is he willing to protect his wife and baby? This is the only stance that will save his marriage. Ask me how I know -- this has happened to me and my former husband put his family first because that was the modus operandi of his original family, and ours ended. I am not bitter, I am grateful that is no longer in my life. When you've been exposed to this devious undercutting, you recognize it. This woman should be banned from their lives, not the other way around. I cannot stress how dangerous this woman is for the life of this new couple and their future children. Stop this pattern of insidious control and abuse with this generation. Placating a narcissist never does any good. It will keep you in torment and destroy lives. PLEASE publish what I am saying! I recommend a good counselor who specializes in abuse and controlling relationships so the couple can see their options and outcomes.

Steven K. SsenyonjoSeptember 17, 2019

Its very sad, however, I pray to the Almighty God through His mercy, love and care to heal these two missionaries who were working in His vine yard, a comfort to their parents also I pray for those who were in the truck.

GayleMarie WilkersonSeptember 17, 2019

Things are in the Lords hands and Prayers going out for the two missionaries, the medical staff taking care of the and for the families. You are not alone.

Alexander ForsythSeptember 16, 2019

No comments could equal the sentiments written in what I have just read.

Earl ChantrillSeptember 16, 2019

Beautifully written. The passages of our lives are unique, but related. I was a teacher for a number of years, and a speech pathologist for a number of years, then failing health took both from me. But I still have my family in what we expected would be an empty nest years ago. But we are blessed in ways that we could never have expected and have been challenged in ways we could never have expected.

DebbiSeptember 16, 2019

Wow! I so enjoyed this essay. Eloquently written, and spot on. As the mom of five grown children, this brought back so many memories and feelings. My last kindergartner is now 36 years old, but it seems like yesterday. tears feel to read such a thoughtful, insightful article.We do all experience going up a grade, don't we, and need to accept our assignments with grace, faith and courage, even when they seem difficult to understand.

Cassie L.September 16, 2019

Sharon, Though I graduated just over a year ago, I still find myself “moving up a grade” through the changes that come in life. Thank you for reminding me that there is beauty in transitioning and change just like the pretty Fall leaves. Love you!

JaneSeptember 16, 2019

So beautifully put. Teachers at school and home are blessed to make a difference in the lives of children who not only learn from us, but teach us every day. I too, shed tears over this sweet lesson. Thank you.

Jim BurrSeptember 16, 2019

I always knew that you had, and continue to have, a wonderful talent for expressing the thoughts and feelings of your heart. I also know how precious the life's experiences with your children are to you, and how much they continue to provide you with dear memories and how they have helped shape your life. This essay is beautifully crafted, deeply expressed in your own emotions, and reflective of your testimony. Thank you for sharing it with us.

Diane IrwinSeptember 16, 2019

She certainly was an 'Old Soul' to be able to say that!! Such insight!

Tami ClingerSeptember 16, 2019

I tried to donate but it rejected my information. It was all correct. Is there a glitch or something I didn't see?

John R CarpenterSeptember 16, 2019

Well said. Sadly the story of Chicken Little has been removed from California schools because it is racist and derogatory.

Scot ProctorSeptember 16, 2019

We will be publishing a series of articles throughout this week with more information on leprosy and the issues that face those affected in India. Stay tuned.

Sharon HawksSeptember 16, 2019

God bless these two missionaries and their families. Our family home evening group of widows will be praying for them this afternoon as well as personal prayers.

Donald Montréal CanadaSeptember 16, 2019

Beautifully Said...thank-you !

WendySeptember 16, 2019

I love this. Though I have no children of my own, I was a teacher for 31 years and thus my years began in September. I still feel what you have written about those feelings of fall and "moving up a grade" now that I'm in my 70s. Thank you for the memories!

Ed RehderSeptember 16, 2019


Laurie PollardSeptember 16, 2019

This is an excellent article, Sharon! You are an extraordinary writer with keen insights and a marvelous skill of epression. These thoughts choked me up with emotions of sweet melochomy in regards to my own children's growth. Thank you for beautifully reminding us of the divine necessecity of "moving up a grade" and the grand blessings that are in store for us as we advance in Christ. Love you!

Larraine in CalgarySeptember 16, 2019

I am very sad about this. I know the Lord works miracles. I'm praying for these missionaries and their families.

Ann-Marie JensenSeptember 16, 2019

I love this statement: "No American who seeks the pure love of Christ would ever yield to the urge to attack others for their differing views or to extol her or his strengths over those of another." A real help to civility! Thank you.

Justin MSeptember 16, 2019

I love the human side of this story, but wish there had been a little more education about leprosy put into the story as well, to highlight the preventable nature of the disease, and the senselessness of families shunning their own loved ones. Like you, I assumed that this was a disease of the past, and have no idea on whether it's contracted or inherited, whether there is a cure, or if it's preventable (ie, clean food/water, etc). I learned more about that (if even a little) from prior comments. Could more info be added in to the story?

FredSeptember 16, 2019

Is there a way to donate without listing my name, address, phone number and email address? I want to donate but don’t like giving all of that information.

LindaSeptember 16, 2019

This is one of the finest articles I have ever read! I’ve been through those stages of life, and your perspective is perfect. Your writing is a joy to read!

JulieSeptember 16, 2019

I always used garlic oil for my kids’ earaches - worked like a charm!

Linda PannoneSeptember 16, 2019

Your story brought me joy and made me grateful for how we can be brought to unity through motherhood. As I read your story about children moving on and leaving us in “the after school period of our lives” I realized that was exactly how I’ve felt for many years and someone else so eloquently described and labeled it. I too have many tests in my life that I want to refuse and give back. I spent years doing that in my mind, futilely resisting the reality of life. It takes courage to face these and as we do we become stronger and build confidence.

JanetSeptember 16, 2019

What a beautifully penned essay. I will share it with my family in hopes they will enjoy it as much as I did. Thank you so much for capturing feelings that I have so well, that tears sprang to my eyes. Well done!

Alexander ForsythSeptember 16, 2019

Faith, prayers, and Temple Garments are in their favor. The Church shall have acted quickly; and families shall be at their bedsides. Thank you for letting us know.

Susan FullmerSeptember 15, 2019

I am excited to make a generous donation and encourage others too. I want to take it one step further. how can I get involved with the actual building of the school?

Marilynne LinfordSeptember 15, 2019

Thanks for reminding me of Genesis 14 in the Inspired Version that give added understanding to Abraham’s character.

Becky DouglasSeptember 15, 2019

First of all, a huge thanks to the Proctors for their kindness in dedicating this year's Meridian campaign to Rising Star OUtreach. They are angels! Also, a note that our work has succeeded only because more than a thousand people have responded, sacrificed and come to serve, lift, and heal. It's the story of many, many caring and loving people reaching out to lift some of the most stigmatized people in the world. To answer some great questions: We used to use crocheted leprosy bandages, but we now get our sterilized bandages at cost and so no longer use ones that cannot be properly sterilized. They were made with so much love! Thank you for your service! We miss the connection of people to our work from the crocheted bandages, but are grateful to now have a very inexpensive resource for these needed bandages. The cure for leprosy, a multi-drug therapy, is provided by WHO. The trick is in finding those who need it. In India, the problem is that people diagnosed with leprosy are usually marked socially as "Untouchables"-along with the rest of their families, This stigma is so great that many people hide any symptoms until it's too late to stop the deformities. Also, the families tend to turn the patients out into the street in order to protect the rest of the family from becoming Untouchables, or what India now terms as members of the "Unscheduled class", or "Dalits". This is why so much of our work revolves around education and attacking the stigma associated with leprosy. We also do thousands of screenings each year and catch many cases, which can then be treated. Basically educating people that leprosy is a micro-bacteria, not a curse from God, helps people feel safe to come forward. I'm stunned at the response from Meridian readers. In only two days $20K has been raised. Incredible! Thanks to all of you, from all of us at Rising Star Outreach! With this kind of response--surely we will reach our goal--and a new school for the children of the leprosy-affected will be built in Bihar! Praise God!

MarciaSeptember 14, 2019

A school is very good, but what can we do to get medical help to wipe out this horrible disease from this country?

Charles DefranchiSeptember 14, 2019

It someone were trying to give an example of what an abomination is, here is the best one! Our world and modern science have surpassed Sodom and Gomorrah! We are indeed approaching at an increasing pace to the "end of times".

Mary andersonSeptember 14, 2019

2 hours made this film too long. We started losing interest in the long, slow movie

C ShieldsSeptember 14, 2019

Thank you for addressing this issue. While in college as a Cultural Anthropology major, I had the opportunity to study world religions, and was surprised at the similar underpinnings that most of them shared - including Islamic traditions. I also got to serve the homeless in the local community along side many Muslims, who also lovingly gave of their time, talents, and resources. They were true 'does of the word' and exemplified their unadulterated faith and Christlike compassion. Unfortunately, many want to marginalize, spin stories, and categorize a few individuals' actions with a particular group, or sect. It's almost as if the media 'needs' an antagonist and someone to blame/point the finger at. I hope we can all keep an open mind and have the unbiased neutrality to 'see' and 'get' the real intent of those who are 'different' than us and show the kind of respect we all deserve as children of a loving Father. After all, isn't that what OUR faith wanted in its infancy, as well?

Ricardo MerchanSeptember 13, 2019

In Missouri the Metropolitan Community Colleges have abolished studen run newspapers. The Nicolaitan Secret Society defames, persecutes, and stalks anyone who believes in Christ. Eventually, believers leave the campuses censored, dejected, and defeated. Let's march with the title of liberty out of the colleges and into the streets. Soon!

MICHAEL BAWDENSeptember 13, 2019

The movie was exciting and the main character, the jailer, was portrayed vividly and I thought he was terrific. It was for the most part accurate historically. There was some good dialogue from the other cast members. I was more critical than most would be because I taught in the Church Education System for 38 years, but I really enjoyed the movie and would recommend it highly.

Teri LatimerSeptember 13, 2019

Same question as above.

vickieSeptember 13, 2019

I would like to know why if there is a cure discovered in 1988 do these people have there not enough of that cure to go around. it would be good to know the facts on this. since this is so contagious then the world health organization needs to make enough of this cure to go all around to these people so they can be healed...

Michael Shea, MDSeptember 13, 2019

I guess that’s someone’s idea of compassion.

George ThompsonSeptember 13, 2019

Your take on the greater sin remaining with the person who refuses to forgive added the concept that the act of refusing gives Satin leverage over us. This concept is good and worthwhile to promote, but I think that it misses the central issue, of why failure to forgive could be considered the greater sin. My feeling is that Heavenly Father's plan for our progression in this life required that we forgive all of the other children and that they forgive us of faults and sins. Failure to forgive is therefore rebellion against and rejection of God's plan, the plan of salvation. Those who rejected God's plan in the pre-existance were cast down to hell. Will those who reject God's plan while in mortality be treated any different? We do lack a full understanding in this mortal existance, but failure to forgive is still a very serious sin.

TawnaSeptember 13, 2019

I work for Rising Star Outreach, and though I work with this every single day, your article brought me to tears multiple times, being reminded of your great care and the real chance we have with your readers to make such a monumental impact in the lives of these children and their families for generations to come. I know their stories. I'm learning more each day. Your readers will hear more as this campaign moves forward. These are real people, just individuals like you and I, and I thank you for helping bring that to light and for loving them. I know you felt their love, and I am so excited to see what we are going to do for them, together! Thank you, thank you! Together, we can do this!!!

SusanSeptember 13, 2019

Over the years I’ve knitted or crocheted leper’s bandages as a way to help lepers plus making them helps as a distraction to my own pain. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints no longer has a distribution program for the bandages. Do you?

Doris WilliamsSeptember 13, 2019

I don't know how long our dear Lord can look down on our world with this indescribable evil occurring so frequently and still withhold our due punishment. The hardening of our hearts, the great selfishness too often prevalent in our society is is almost unbelievable. The precious souls deprived of a chance to live breaks our hearts. Each revelation becomes more horrendous. People just don't understand the Lord's plan, and the value of each soul. How many "Einsteins", "Mozarts", "Helen Kellers", "mother Teresas" just didn't make it!

TessieSeptember 13, 2019

Yes, it’s a real incident. The filmmakers describe using historical documents to inform the script and dialogue. I’ve been listening to YouTube lectures on Liberty Jail given by historians. The hearing that lead to their imprisonment was fully documented for a later government investigation. Also, it was fascinating to learn, among other things, of a promissory note showing that a jailer (other than Tillery) sold Joseph a horse for their escape, and they came to him later to collect on it (presumably since Joseph could not show his face again in Missouri). Joseph did pay them. It was well known that the jailers helped in their escape. Can’t wait to see the film.

Donna HesslingSeptember 12, 2019

Thank you for the interesting studies on Abraham! Have you read in the "Inspired Version" of the Bible Genesis 14, of Abrams dealigs with Melchiizek king of Salem?

LoaraeSeptember 12, 2019

What a blessing this family received. I gave birth twice to premature babies...once in 1962 and again in 1966. At a little over 2 pounds, neither survived more than a few hours. Thankfully, medical advances have come a long way since then. I'm so grateful many babies now survive what used to be impossible odds!

Bob PowelsonSeptember 12, 2019

There is one old saying that still bears fruit. "Not all Muslims are terrorists BUT nearly all terrorists are Muslim." Many LDS, are for some reason, willing to be very tolerant of Islamic success. The "poor Palestinians are so badly treated by the Israelis" is a common thing I hear. In that regard, the Palestinians have recalcitrant and unthinking since the days of Haj Amin al Husseini. They refuse a settlement or compromise, start a war an lose the war. There is little and should be no sympathy for that. Also the return of the Jews is God's goal, exemplified by Orson Hydes mission at the direction of the Prophet Joseph..

JeanSeptember 12, 2019

For too much of my life, I tried to stuff down my real feelings. But it did not work. We need to acknowledge the reality of what has happened to us and learn to label our emotions correctly. Grief is real. Betrayal is real. Pain is real. We cannot forgive people who wronged us if everyone continues to insist we have no right to feel angry or hurt. The sin must be acknowledged before it can be forgiven. Anything less than that and we will explode in an angry outburst that destroys rather than heals. We cannot come to terms with loss if we are made to feel we are making too much of it. I cannot empathize with all pain. I do not know what it means to lose a child. But I can offer friendship and sympathy because I have lost friends and other family members. And I appreciate your reminder that I should.

Robin BakerSeptember 12, 2019

I can appreciate your article. When our daughter died 6 months ago, though we have strong testimonies of the gospel. We still grieve because we miss her. That said because she had a chronic illness we have been comforted to know that she is healed. Right from the moment that she left her body. How amazing Heavenly Father can know that she had lived her life enough and brought her safely home.

MarieSeptember 12, 2019

Thank you. I will be saving this one. Exactly what past sin disqualifies one from history? Certainly not Martin Luther King, Jr.'s adultery. Bill Clinton's past only allowed the ultra-left to finally dismiss him when his wife Hillary was no longer seen as a possible political asset and the parade of Trump's equally egregious sins something that could bring him down if only so many had not voted to save Clinton from impeachment. Perhaps we could all write these committees to demand the removal of buildings and classes and streets named for Dr. King. I am a divorced woman whose husband was sexually unfaithful. Should my anxieties and anger at past injustice be triggered every time I am required to hear his name or celebrate the holiday named for him?

Kathleen ChinSeptember 12, 2019

This article is a Keeper! It’s a...print it out in “hard copy” to keep, refer to and share. It is PERFECT!!! With DEEP and sincere gratitude for sharing it! K. Chin, Modesto, CA

Sharon J ShogrinSeptember 12, 2019

To think that people can kill a poor little innocent baby is hard for me to fathom that. And then to throw them in the trash is more unbelievable. They are our future! Are these little ones too pure to live on Earth or is it just Satan working in the world? This breaks my heart!

RebeccaSeptember 12, 2019

Thank you for this article! The loss of a loved one is definately one of the most recognized types of grief - but is not the only one. Grieving is a natural human response - and can be triggered by many different things. A few years ago I wrote about grief on my blog ( There is no timeline for grief, steps can be repeated as many times as needed - giving the illusion to others and self that no progress is being made. Community support is very important as you skillfully pointed out. Thanks again!

Marilynne LinfordSeptember 12, 2019

May I read your paper? [email protected]

AlanSeptember 12, 2019

30% of Amazon readers rate this book one or two stars. Dr. Peterson has written a biography of Mohammad that is very kind and forgiving, not mentioning much controversial about his life. To me it is a little too kind. I read a respected English translation of the Quran and I do not see it as evil, though there are some troublesome parts. Rather I think the way it is interpreted by Islamic leaders is and always has been the problem. Muslims are like everyone else, they just want to live their lives and be at peace. If they constantly hear harangues from radical leaders they start to believe it. Moreover, the West has treated Islamic countries very poorly for many many years. It is easy to see why they have resentment. I do believe the fierce condemnation of all things Muslim is over the top, but there are real dangers from certain radicals. If we were more kind perhaps we would be in a position to teach the gospel in those countries one day.

Bob TaylorSeptember 12, 2019

The mob in this film is not a sea of anonymous, spitting, thugs, but has a leader whose brother was killed by a Mormon and who believes his cause is just. And though you aren’t necessarily rooting for him, you understand how he might think what he’s doing is justified. -- is there historical documentation for this incident or was it just added to create a situation? it would be nice to know - looks like a good movie.

LexaGraemeSeptember 12, 2019

More specifics on Mrs Madison would have been nice. I’m sure the article is meant to be a teaser for the book, but *how* Mrs Madison complemented her husband, *how* she was gracious under personal attacks, would have been a nice way to demonstrate all that etymology of what helpmeet means. As someone whose girlhood hero was Dolley Madison, I was hoping for more.

H NorthSeptember 12, 2019

Once again, the point is missed: it's not "attitudes" that drives Islamic Jihad--it's the doctrine. If Muslims are deprogrammed right out of Islam, they will stop being terrorists … and only then. Islam is intrinsically a TERRORIST DOCTRINE … ‘Turhibunna’ (terrorize them) – Koran 8.60.

Carol AnnSeptember 11, 2019

This problem is so serious. Add to this: More colleges will not let conservatives have a voice at all--in the classrooms, auditoriums, social media,or even the sidewalks of their institutions. They claim free speech when in fact their mantra is, "Agree with me and you're fine! Disagree with me and you will be mocked, ridiculed, and assaulted." I would never allow any of mine attend a college with such liberal behavior and spend thousands of $$ in tuition costs to have them be so indoctrinated!

Celeste McclainSeptember 11, 2019

Again... being a convert of 2 1/2 years, I’m learning more and more about this wonderful and God Blessed church and all its members! Especially the Profits! I’m so blessed to be apart of this church and to be a Mormon! I’m so completely happy and blessed! I appreciate so much in having a living Profit and learning some of his life’s story! I Love him very much and I pray that he have many many more birthdays! I have to admit, I’ve been through so many churches and religions in my life, because of my family. I never learned what I needed to on my own. I just did what I was told, because I trusted family! But when I prayed to God wholeheartedly and completely, my prayers were answered with The Church of Jesus Christ and Latter Day Saints! I was at the store and saw the church and just went in and asked questions and although it took 2 years and about 20 missionaries, I finally and respectfully got it! This is where God wants me and this is where I want to be, for as long as I live! God has a plan for me and I’m so greatly going to follow it! I’ve never had so much passion and conviction about anything in my whole life, life I do my faith and religion now! Well except my family! But nothing else compares! Absolutely nothing else compares! I love this church! I love all of its members, past and present and future! I can say that without hesitation honestly and truthfully!

Celeste McclainSeptember 11, 2019

That’s horrible! That man should have never taken that gun out regardless if it’s his home or not! He was an idiot! By the Grace of God, and God only, this incident didn’t become deadly! I know people want they’re “guns”, but this should show how dangerous they are period, even in a completely innocent situation! Showing off is over rated that man should feel horrible for putting those amazing missionaries through all that pain and suffering! God Bless then! Hopefully that idiot who shot not only himself, but the missionaries is also should be ashamed of himself and should learn to keep his gun, unloaded and concealed, in a safe place! Idiot!

Celeste McclainSeptember 11, 2019

I absolutely love this story! I’m a new convert of 2 1/2 years and I’m learning, however slowly, I’m learning about the history of the church. This story, fills my heart and soul with admiration and so much love for Joseph Smith and all the other saints and pioneers! They endured so much adversity! You can’t help but be proud to be a Mormon! I know I am! Heavenly Father and our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ loves us and will always cover us! I’ve been going through some really tough and rough times and I be been praying constantly and feeling like I’m getting no results, until this story. I’m going to read more of the Church history, because this story just gave me what I needed to fight harder and have more faith and to focus on Christ! Not the tribulations I’m going through, I know that they will come, I just have to give everything up to God and understand that I need him to control all things in my life, that the battle is not mines it’s the lords! I Thank Heavenly Father and Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for everything and all things! The good! The great! The bad and the ugly! We learn from it all! Thank you for this much needed story!

NDRSeptember 11, 2019

It's too bad that BYU students are being taught to believe and depend on science rather than revelation. We have already been told that there are "worlds without number".

Gary AndersonSeptember 10, 2019

I love this story of the apostle Paul and his excellent missionary efforts and undying faith and obedience! What a great servant of the Lord Jesus Christ! Thanks Bro. Gibbons!

Alisi Iongi-FiliagaSeptember 10, 2019

Our love to Sister ’Anaseini V. Langi, Children and Family.

Rita in TexasSeptember 10, 2019

Many years ago my daughter and I took a 500 level PoGP class at our Institute in Ann Arbor, MI, taught by Steven Hedquist. The focus was on the Book of Abraham and its relationship to the Egyptian temple papyri and Book of Breathings. His insights and scholarship opened up an entirely unknown (to us) connection between the story of Abraham and the efforts the Eqyptians made to embrace the Priesthood that had been denied them. I wrote a paper on it, and have cherished the knowledge I gained from that unique opportunity. Now, at 67, I am focusing again on the PoGP in my scripture study. The journey toward Christ continues!

Richard Dee WinmillSeptember 10, 2019

One has to wonder if it is best to let this yellow journalism fall of it's on weight? After and initial dispute on the fact, maybe drop it and see if the the sound of one hand clapping might be the best response? This particular beast feeds on controversy. Don't feed the beast.

Alece ReynoldsSeptember 10, 2019

My husband's cousin's wife had to have surgery to repair varicose veins in her legs. She had just had a baby, and was still in the hospital after the birth. Her physician was planning to tie her tubes the next morning so he could later perform surgery to take care of some serious varicose veins she was suffering from. The cousin had just visited his wife in the hospital and was on his way home to take care of their other children, when he heard a child's voice say to him -- "Daddy, don't leave me here!" He realized that it was the voice of a child that was to come to their home, so he turned the car around and went back to the hospital to tell his wife that the surgery to tie her tubses as well as the varicose vein surgery would have to be postponed so this child could come to their home. That is what they did, and after their next child was born, both then felt the time was right for her to have both surgeries.

krewcotSeptember 9, 2019

I agree with Marla - The birth child has been sealed to her adoptive family and they have literally become her eternal family. LDS adoptions were once considered "closed" and the birth mother was counting on that information not being released. It is a betrayal to change the rules after the fact. The birth parents provided a body for the child, but they aren't the family.

TomSeptember 9, 2019

This is only the beginning. The left will not stop until we bow before their altar of relativism. It has been coming for decades and we were warned about over and over so we shouldn't be surprised by it. If the left gains control of the White House, the Senate and the House we may be told what we can Preach over the Pulpit as well as what we can teach our children. And it won't take long for that to happen. BYU itself as well as a fair number of members in Utah Valley lean very heavily left on many topics. All is not well in Zion.

Michael Shea, MDSeptember 9, 2019

I have just about lost ALL respect for the profession of journalism. The first rule of good writing is to keep the readers’ attention focused on the issue at hand. Well, here is my issue: just what, exactly, does football have to do with LGBQT politics? Nothing. Nothing at all. It may have something to do with money, and it has a lot to do with the political fashions of the day, but it has nothing to do with football. Those students can be thankful I am not their professor. They would both get “F’s”. And if I were the dean, that professor would be looking for employment elsewhere. All articles like that do is to create public discord. That is called Yellow Journalism. I guess that’s the sort of journalism favored at USU.

EvelynSeptember 9, 2019

I'm glad someone cared for this brother. I'm a single sister (currently inactive), never married, no kids, and I haven't had a regular home teacher since the time I was in a singles ward, which was a good 25 years ago. I have a time or two, received word of a new Home Teacher and I get excited to maybe finally have someone visiting regularly. Nope, nothing ever came of it. I also wonder if anyone really truly cares.

RitaSeptember 9, 2019

Finding joy in organization. What a Kondo thing to do! But this sounds like manna from heaven, a tender mercy from a loving Father.

OldHandSeptember 9, 2019

(sigh) There were so many rules broken that I hardly know where to start. The ones I will mention are not necessarily in the usual order of precedence. #1 failure: every firearm is LOADED until you have proven otherwise. Treat it accordingly, (#2) never allow the muzzle to cover anything you do not intend to shoot - including yourself! #3 Know what's beyond where the muzzle is pointed. If you are on the first floor of a two story building, the ceiling may not be a safe place to point the muzzle. If you intend to show someone a firearm, CLEAR IT; that means removing all ammunition, both from any magazine attached and from the firing chamber. If you don't know - for certain - how to do that, you shouldn't be handling that firearm at all. Get competent instruction. In aviation, it's commonly said that one mistake can bend the airplane; two mistakes together will likely get someone hurt; three mistakes together will almost certainly get someone killed. It works the same with firearms. AND it is always preventable. If you have a gun, know, in detail, the its operation and its weaknesses (they all have at least one). Take the weaknesses into account when you handle it. Just like

Bruce SaylerSeptember 9, 2019

I believe that President Hinkley would fall into that category also. Thank you for what you do.

LynSeptember 9, 2019

My mother died recently and she wasn’t gone five minutes when out came the secret! I will live with the pain and disappointment i feel because she didn’t feel enough friendship from me or trust me with this pain in her life she had carried since she was 16. I wish she had told me while she was able to help me understand, process and deal with it. Secrets come out, they should be told while the person is alive to tell their side.

Lorraine BridgeSeptember 9, 2019

These USU reporters are so guilty of what they claim to be opposed to; they are prejudiced against any school that has an opinion different than theirs. Another example of the liberal point of view: if you don’t agree with what I say then you are wrong. Very sad commentary on today’s society.

Launa WestonSeptember 9, 2019

I graduated from the USU journalism program twenty three years ago and was not surprised to read about a story like this coming out of the program there. My experience while there was that nearly every professor in the program tended to have a VERY left leaning philosophy on life, with liberal political views. In fact I can only think of one professor who didn’t-and he was only a part time instructor with a real journalism job writing for the local paper. That’s probably what kept his feet a little more firmly in reality lol. And by the way -why are political opinions like that described as “liberal” when in reality these type of views are very UN-liberal in regards to others? I was married and pregnant by the time I received my degree and I remember specifically being called out BECAUSE I was married and pregnant. The professor was lecturing about what I can’t remember but he called on me and said “You know life isn’t like you think it is. You’re living in a bubble and what are your plans going to be when divorce happens?” Or something to the effect. I can also very clearly being in a class with our department head and him making the comment that he and his wife-who also was a professor at Usu in a different department-were shocked at all the college age students who were married with children at USU. He said it was like “Babies having babies” everywhere they looked on campus. I also remember him using a video one day in class of one of Senator Bob Bennett’s campaign videos and picking it apart bit by bit to show how ridiculous conservative Republicans are and point out how the commercials were supposedly made in a way that would make conservatives look better than they really are. (Isn’t that the same for ANY political commercial and campaign by the way?) Another professor used his class time at least twice a week to rant about the “ridiculous small town morals of Cache Valley.” I often wondered why in the world he continued to live and teach in a place he had so much contempt for and finally decided it must be that he couldn’t get a job anywhere else and was bitter. Anyway, I just found the program there at USU to be particularly slanted toward churning out close-minded liberals, and that was almost 25 years ago, so I would imagine that it has only gotten worse in the years since.

LexaGraemeSeptember 9, 2019

Unfortunately, shoddy journalism is all the rage these days. That a journalism professor is in the byline for the article in question is disappointing. That it is published in papers notorious for opinion-masking-as-news, though, makes it written for its audience. It also shows me that, 30 years after I first saw it, Cougar hatred—not rivalry, there’s a difference—is still alive and well for some in Aggie Country, and that is also disappointing.

Pam BiggerSeptember 9, 2019

Well done sir... I appreciate this insight very much... it is a little crazy out there with all this fussing and fighting about everything and nothing... thank you for taking the time to write this :0)

JenniferSeptember 8, 2019

My mother too gave a baby up for adoption following a rape. She lived with the shame (which was never hers to bear) for decades and was so relieved to discover that her children all love her the same when she found out we knew. I secretly hoped that my half-sister would connect with our family through DNA but that hasn't happened. It makes me wonder if she died young or never had children of her own. I would definitely let the adult children know--I'm guessing their capacity to love will be great.

BeckySeptember 7, 2019

May I offer a look at this situation from the other side? The mother of my daughter's boyfriend is the child given up for adoption in a situation exactly like this. She is in her 50's, connected with her birth siblings via a DNA website, and just met all of them 2 months ago. Just like her birth mother, she is an innocent person in this situation. Her life with her adoptive family was difficult. Her birth mother went on to raise a wonderful and loving family. She did not tell her other children, and they connected via the DNA website. All of her children had a deep desire to meet this sister they never knew about, and they had a wonderful reunion where they discovered they all look exactly like each other. They had this reunion minus their mother, who would not participate. The children told their mom they were going to meet their sister with or without her. It has been very healing for the innocent daughter who was adopted to feel so much love from people she is related to by blood and who look exactly like her. I think it's important to remember that the mother is innocent, but so is the child in a situation like this. If I have learned anything from this turn of events, its that love, even in difficult situations, can be very healing.

Lois MiddletonSeptember 7, 2019

I hope you have an awesome birthday President Nelson!! HAPPY happy day!!

KathleenSeptember 6, 2019

Isn't that the truth?!

TessSeptember 6, 2019

I worked with a wonderful person who is in her 50s and just found out she has a half brother. Her mother disclosed it this year after he sought her out. They were thrilled to meet him and make him part of the family. I would think that most adults in today's world would understand circumstances and tragedies that happen and would certainly be forgiving and want to have compassion and love. .

Mike ThomasSeptember 6, 2019

It would be nice if Kate and others who disagree with this article could rebut it with rational argument so those of us who don't fully understand why it's a good thing to erase part of our history could appreciate their points of view. Instead of calling the author and all who agree with him white supremacists, try adding something to the body of knowledge. Make your points so we can ponder them logically! We might actually agree with you! As far as you're concerned those of us who initially agree with the points raised here are just racists...end of argument! How are we supposed to reason with that?

CJWSeptember 6, 2019

I was raised as the grandchild of a similar situation like this. My grandmother was forced by her parents to give my father to them ro raise after he was born. There was abuse and control in that family and I think she was trying to get out of it. They ran my biological grandfather off at gunpoint before a marriage could take place. This was 1920's America and a very religious farm community. He was Catholic, she was Lutheran, and you didn't mix that back then.. At age 6 yrs, his "parents" died and he was re-routed back to his biological mother and was told the truth. She was now married and had started a family. He felt out of place from the start and left the farm at age 16. His half-siblings were never told--my grandma was a wonderful loving woman, but maintained the secrecy till she died because her family of origin had shamed her into it. My grandmother died when my father's half-siblings were well into adulthood with families of their own. At that point, my step-grandpa said, "It's time all the secrets stopped" and told everything. They were shocked but said, "We've lived with our eldest brother, as our brother all our growing up years, why should that make a difference now?" To them, that was something that happened to her, sad though it was. They were not adopting that pain onto themselves, which was healthy. I believe once people arrive at mature adulthood, these things need to come out. I have located my biological grandfather's family and now have a relationship with them that is very good. I feel loved and more whole. People need to live their truth. A lie is a chaotic rotten stinking mess and the smell doesn't get better with time. I would rather stare shock and pain in the face one time when I'm mature enough to handle it, than live in a made-up world of someone else's lies and still being silently manipulated. My grandma died when I was a baby so I don't remember her, but if I had, and have known her story, it would have endeared me to her even more for the unnecessary trauma she held inside her. I tell this to honor and heal her, hoping to prevent lies happening to someone else. Live the Truth. When it is all on the table, it can be sorted out. Give people a chance to deal with their own lives. Don't be the master manipulator of someone else's fate.

Jen ChaceSeptember 6, 2019

I love the mind of John Pratt.

Marla SmakaSeptember 6, 2019

I come from the perspective of an adoptee and have adopted siblings and a son-in-law who came into his parents' home via adoption. It is very disheartening for me when think the adoptive family is not the "real" family. In this instance, the poor woman who was raped and subsequent pregnancy is told she needs to let her children know they have a half sibling. But do they really? The genetic material from their mother does not make them siblings. The family that raised them is the "real" family. In this same line of thought, if an infertile couple see help through reproductive medicine, is their baby conceived through either sperm or egg donation not their "real" child, but the "real" child of the sperm donor or egg donor? One thing that stabbed me to the heart was when my adopted sibling told me he met his "real" sister (note, not birth sister, but real sister). Nevermind he was 44 and I was 58 years of age the time. All those years of family events, shared memories, were not the same as the "real" sister he met briefly.

KateSeptember 6, 2019

Wow. Really? We should have statues holding up Robert E. Lee and Stonewall Jackson as heroes? I suggest that the author (and those who are giving him high-fives) spend an afternoon in the beautiful Smithsonian National Museum of African American History on the National Mall in Washington DC and then see how they feel about genteel Southern white women erecting statues lionizing Confederate leaders. White supremacy has an amazing ability to rationalize, as this article clearly demonstrates.

Dennis r BottSeptember 6, 2019

I live this story birth parents were never married because my birth father was an Italian prisoner of war being held at old Fort Douglas at Salt Lake City and my birth mother was the daughter of a prominent medical Doctor [she was only 16-years old when I was born] birth certificate was falsified to show that the women I was given to was my birth mother [this sweet lady was unable to have children but her husband did not want a child that was not "his blood"] so I was never adopted [I lived like Harry Potter in a cupboard under the stairs"... when someone would ask where I came from this man would say "he is the milkman's son" which I felt was a very cruel thing because his wife was an angel...I was 17-years old when a sister to the sweet woman that raised me informed me that I was not a blood member of the family - but the lies continued. My make-believe-father went so far as to destroy a detailed letter that the woman that raised me left that was to be given to me upon her death [detailing the events of my birth, the names of my birth parents, and how to reach them if I so desired] - you see she always believed I would not love her if I knew the truth about my birth...that was an unwarranted falsehood because I bonded and loved this sweet woman with all my heart. At the age of 60 my wife bought me an Ancestry DNA kit as a Christmas gift and it was the results that verified the I was 80% southern Italian decent and 20% English decent and provided credible DNA links to my birth family and identified my birth mother who is living in Idaho. When I reached out to my birth family they expressed embarrassment that their mother had a child out of wed-lock [especially with a World War 11 prisoner of war] refusing to communicate further with me. My birth mother suffered from the same issues as the mother in the article that had been raped fearing repercussions from her children [my half bothers and sisters] my search for my birth mother and my blood family was both successful and tragic...

JamesSeptember 6, 2019

This heroine should not have to face such a delicate and traumatic event again, but truth be known when her children are exposed to this outrageous horror they will want to know who caused it. Their trauma could overflow if it is discovered a loved relative or a respected acquaintance caused their mother’s heartache. This discovery could throw the family into disarray and throw the siblings into a hate for their newfound brother or sister.

Win BroadhurstSeptember 6, 2019

It was informative to find out there are 134!

karell BinghamSeptember 6, 2019

How I love the prophet! May the Lord allow him to stay with us as long as possible, we really need this man!

Cynthia M. MoorheadSeptember 6, 2019

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." -- George Santayana

Grateful Adoptive MomSeptember 6, 2019

To the mother: thank you for choosing to give the baby life, even under such dire circumstances. Thank you for giving the adoptive parents the most precious gift any person can give them. As the mother of three adopted boys, I send you a hug, my love, and gratitude on behalf of all adoptive mothers.

TrudySeptember 6, 2019

Happy birthday for the 9th President Nelson! I share a special day with you! ♥️♥️

TrudySeptember 6, 2019

I love President Nelson, I share his birthday and just wanted to say Happy birthday for the 9th!

TanyaSeptember 6, 2019

Being a temple worker I had the privilege of a little advance notice and of course had to learn the changes to the ordinances. Like many, upon hearing the news I was anxious to know the changes and wanted to be prepared. So the night before my temple shift I attended the temple as a patron in both Initiatory and an Endowment session. I "heard" the changes during the ordinances, but of course after just one time had not yet "internalized" the changes ... until the next day during my shift. As I administered in the Initiatory ordinance, though subtle the change, I remember feeling 'My Heavenly Father loves me just the way I am." Not that I ever felt otherwise, but being a divorced woman in a marriage-centric church can be a struggle at times. So those subtle changes were huge to me and reaffirmed that I'm okay in my present situation and He loves me just the way I am and I don't need to have a man in my life to define my divine role as a daughter of God. Someday marriage will happen again, but until then, all is well.

Kenneth SutphinSeptember 6, 2019

Amazing story

TomSeptember 5, 2019

The first Black to recieve the Priesthood after this announcement in 1978 had joined in our Ward in Hawaii. He was stationed in the Army their. He was called as our Youth Choir Director and served admirably until leaving the Islands. What a joy it was to hear that the Blessings of holding the Priesthood was now open to all.

PennySeptember 5, 2019

I agree with Bryan...either you believe they are prophets and God is in charge or you don’t...perhaps some of these things were put in place as deliberate stumbling blocks. I am a convert to the Church and have had questions I researched and prayed over...sometimes the answers were “you don’t always need to know everything right now still and know that I am God and ...I don’t need your permission” Also I blocked this article on my FB...

JanSeptember 5, 2019

I hope you don’t mind me using your ideas on emergency packs. We are having an evening of emergency preparedness and I’m doing emergency kits. I really enjoyed your article in meridian magazine and it makes so much sense than what to pack. I purchased a lot of single items and noticed there is lots of salt added, I some one is concerned could the take sodium tab. I was listening to the director of FEMA and he said to have a 7 day emergency pack. Thank you again for good information. Jan

KayleenSeptember 5, 2019

I have a husband of over 33 years who is just like the WoNdErFuL men that you described in your blog. He is kind, loving, considerate and patient, even when I definitely don't deserve it. He just loves me no matter what, and I have learned to try to follow his sweet example.

Sharon HowardSeptember 5, 2019

I was saddened. By the changes to the Endowment . I had studied diligently to understand it, and when I did I was thrilled by the beauty of it. When I go now I let the old things I have been taught by the Spirit pass through my mind. I feel the LORD gives us what we are prepared to receive and understand.

Melissa MarkhamSeptember 5, 2019

Enjoyed this thought-provoking article. Thank you.

KarinSeptember 5, 2019

I am so very grateful for all the wonderful changes which have come about lately as a result of continuing revelation in the Lord‘s church. The revelation of 1978 was preceded by long and arduous struggles of the prophet. I do not doubt that similar preparations must have preceded the changes in our day. I rejoice with Tessa and can honestly say that there is no judgment concerning what has preceded these changes - only rejoicing in what they reveal about how Heavenly Father sees his daughters. I cannot express in words the joy they brought to me. That’s all I read in your article, Tessa.

Patricia BarwickSeptember 5, 2019

Your presentation was so organized and well presented. My heart and mind were filled with wonderful inspiration! Thank you for your efforts to share Paul's comments and make them applicable to us today. I have been fed generously.

ChuckSeptember 5, 2019

I well remember where I was when I heard the news on my car radio. I was driving under an overpass in San Antonio, Texas. When I heard it, I started weeping for joy. At long last, as a Seventy, I could now teach the gospel to every person---every person. What a great joy this was.

AmeySeptember 5, 2019

Thank you for the beautiful review!

Coleene AllenSeptember 5, 2019

Sadly and infamously we are erasing our own history. How devastating this will be for future generations to come.

BryanSeptember 5, 2019

Revelation is an exciting part of Christ's church. We all welcome the coming forth of so much light and truth. But I'm a little leery of the tone of this article. It seems that somehow this Sister thinks that Pres Nelson has gotten it right when all before him, including Joseph the Prophet, somehow got it all wrong. Sisters, if you feel inferior somehow in the church, either now or before, why? If you somehow felt that the endowment ceremony somehow 'belittled' you before, why? I am married to a wonderful woman that has NEVER felt 2nd class in the Church or with her HF. To me, hanging on is an essential part of faith. And ALL of us have to hang on at some time or another. But this recent spate of 'NOW the Church is in sync with our HF' shows, to me, the lack of faith and the lack of understanding of how the Church operates. Either the prophets before were prophets or they weren't. Either they rec'd revelation or they didn't. You can't have it both ways.

Russell CannonSeptember 5, 2019

History classes for my grandkids will be much shorter if we eliminate all imperfect figures from our history books. I memorized the presidents of the United States when I was young. Think about how simple that will be once we eliminate slaveholders or those that allowed slavery to exist. Funding for libraries can be cut dramatically if we eliminate all books that might be considered offensive. Orwell’s 1984 should be the first book to burn because it is bound to make the new generation of history guardians squirm. I enjoyed the article. Thanks for sharing.

PennStater08September 5, 2019

When will it end? What removal of which icon, statue or memorial will be the tipping point when we start fighting back at the revisionists? What more will we have to lose before we say "enough is enough"? It has already been suggested that Mt. Rushmore come down. We balk at that, but then again we are allowing the small stuff to come down and it will be only a matter of time before the hatred and bigotry of the left win and bring it down. It is time for the 'silent majority' to speak up.

roxanneSeptember 5, 2019

my condolences to Darla's family and friends. i enjoyed her writings. she was very insightful. she will be missed.

Celeste McclainSeptember 5, 2019

I love this story! God most definitely have a plan and it’s always his time, not ours! If you just be patient and wait he will always reveal things to you, but only in his timing! I’m so happy everything worked out and they both were truly blessed! God is the Aloha and the Omega! We must always remember that!

CubbySeptember 5, 2019

This was a worth reading article. I appreciated the words, “In the first place, the monument controversy involves not just art works or commemorative objects. Rather, it encompasses the resources of the past writ large. It is an attack on the past for failing to live up to our contemporary notions of virtue.” It is all summed up right there. Thanks for this enlightening, though sadly too true article.

Celeste McclainSeptember 5, 2019

I absolutely love this article! So much of it reminds me of having faith, and hope and having God’s mercy given to us! All of us! I’m so glad to have read this article, because I can remember that not too long after my Baptism in 2017 my Bishop asked if I could come see him for a talk! I went, not knowing what to expect and Bishop was so caring and thoughtful as he, explained to me that in 1978, the church had allowed for Black men to have the priesthood and that he don’t know exactly why they were not allowed to have the priesthood prior to that, but they were not! He looked a bit uncomfortable in telling me this, and then I smiled at him and said, you do know that I’m a woman right? Trying to lighten what must have been uncomfortable to tell this newly converted Black sister about the church history and it’s Old ways! I told Bishop I’m ok with the decisions of this church of past times as long as it knew to correct things, that’s all that matter! God is a forgiving God, who am I to hold and grudges? I explained that all things for a reason and that I wasn’t bothered by it at all! Bishop explained that he wanted to tell me before someone else told me about it! I told him and I meant it! Change is everything, who would have ever thought I’d be a Mormon? A Black Woman who grew up on the mean streets of Chicago, who have a family of Baptist Pastors on her Father’s side and Baptist, Apostolic’s, and Catholic’s on her mother’s side of the family. No one would have ever thought it, but God works in such a profound and mysterious way! I am so blessed to have been led to a faith that I feel like I belonged to all along! Being a convert is hard, I won’t act like it’s not. However, the thought of being with Heavenly Father and Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ has a stronger and more significant hold on me and I wouldn’t change it for the world! The reason I love this article so much, is that I’m a new convert and I really didn’t pay attention to the significance of what having the priesthood could have meant to others of my race and color! I mean of course the obvious, but needless to say, I’m so glad to have learned it first hand today!

William EvansSeptember 5, 2019

This is a great article! So much is being said about our history and I'm grateful that there are people that are speaking out against the covering up of that rich history. Wilfred M. McClay, a Professor in the History of Liberty at the University of Oklahoma, talked to the students at Hillsdale College on July 17, 2019 about this very same issue. His talk is very inspiring and says that without the memory of our histories, our stories, "we cannot learn, use language, pass on knowledge, raise children, establish rules of conduct, engage in science, or dwell harmoniously in society. Without them, we cannot govern ourselves." This reminds us so well of what happened to the people of Mulek when coming to this land. Their whole way of life changed because they didn't have the stories - the history - of their people. Again, the idea of covering up our history, or even saying that they are mere myths, is appalling. Great article!

HalSeptember 4, 2019

There doesn't even need to be war or natural disaster. Some years ago, I was completely out of debt and had plenty of monetary / temporal resources. I never dreamed that one day I would be divorced, forced to move out of my home, and then lose my job in the ensuing recession. I lost almost everything and had to start over again. Fortunately, a little preparation, a lot of hard work, faithful friends, and my faith that the Lord would provide carried me through that difficult time. All of those trials eventually resulted in tremendous blessings. It was also a lesson that worldly possessions don't bring happiness - the only peace in this world is staying close to the Savior and keeping His commandments.

HalSeptember 4, 2019

Just this past winter, I was cleaning the snow from the bed of my pickup truck so I could help a family member move. I stepped back onto the open tailgate, slipped and fell horizontally to the street. I lay in the street for a few moments to assess the damage to my body and, to my surprise, was completely unhurt. Being in my early sixties, I was astounded that I didn't hit my head, wrench my back, separate a shoulder, twist a knee or receive any injury except a slight abrasion on my elbow. I immediately said a prayer of thanks and wondered which of my departed family members caught me that morning.

HalSeptember 4, 2019

I found that the more I express gratitude to my Heavenly Father for my blessings, the more aware I am of how much I am blessed and that the blessings come at an increased rate! Even my trials have turned into tremendous blessings. Even years of enduring a painful trial prepared me for blessings that I now enjoy that would not have been possible without the preparatory refiner's fire. Truly, everything will work together for our good if we continue faithful and show our gratitude for our blessings.

Keith UnderwoodSeptember 4, 2019

It is significant that we uphold one another in prayer. Stay close to God's word and love one another as the Lord teaches. Forgive and love our enemies as God does. They too deserve a chance!

John HewlettSeptember 4, 2019

Well said Carolyn. The apathy and indifference around us foretell the prophecies coming true each day. Thank you for a well written reminder warning and admonition to continue to prepare in every needful thing.

CarolineSeptember 4, 2019

Wonderful and touching article. There are congregations of the Church in Malawi— hope they can reach out and minister to their refugee brothers and sisters if that’s even possible.

Wally GoddardSeptember 4, 2019

I agree, Orva, that our Beloved Father wants our exaltation just as much as the Son does. They are in complete agreement. However, God is required to enforce the law of justice. "Now the work of justice could not be destroyed; if so, God would cease to be God" (Alma 42:13, see also vv. 22 and 25. So Jesus offers His mercy to satisfy the law of justice. "And thus mercy can satisfy the demands of justice, and encircles them in the arms of safety" (Alma 34:16). While both the Father and the Son are determined to rescue us, they must work together to satisfy the law of justice. Thus, Jesus comes to Father as our advocate pleading that His sacrifice be used to satisfy the law of justice. So we are probably in agreement with the possible difference that I see Father as required to enforce the law of justice. We both rejoice in the great plan of happiness! Blessings

Diana BakerSeptember 4, 2019

After serving in Africa for two years, this article really touched our hearts. The African Saints are so faithful and humble, but happily follow the Spirit even in very difficult circumstances. We love them.

Jane TiltonSeptember 4, 2019

How can we help these faithful Saints?

VardellSeptember 4, 2019

Brother Goddard, thank you for making the point that Christ is pleading our cause NOW. We LDS have a mistaken belief that because we are not perfect now, then we cannot be redeemed now. The scriptures teach otherwise; Amulek said, "now is the time and day of your salvation, therefore, if ye will harden not your hearts, immediately shall the great plan of redemption be brought about unto you." (Alma 34:31) What about "now" and "immediately" do we not believe? We read and accept that it only took 3 days for a very wicked Alma to be "redeemed, born again, even changed to a state of righteousness." (Mosiah 27:24) Can't that apply to us? Alma did no good works, but simply plead for the mercy of Christ and was forgiven and changed - immediately. King Benjamins people plead for the mercy of Christ and were forgiven and changed - immediately. Do we see a pattern and a lesson here? Amulek said the truth, "ye cannot be saved in your sins." Then it seem that we have two possible solutions to that dilemma - either perfect ourselves, or be forgiven and changed by Christ. I'm betting my life on the latter.

Arlene WildeSeptember 4, 2019

Brings tears to my eyes, and a renewed commitment to remember the people of the world in my prayers. What great evidence that it isn't adversity that will stop the saints; prosperity may well be the greater challenge.

Georgina Cuadros de JooSeptember 4, 2019

Tus comentarios han sido de gran ayuda para mi. Gracias por proporcionarnos estos maravillosos aportes.

CarolineSeptember 4, 2019

This is so true. I’ve learned it the hard way, but it is so true. My prayers now are full of thanks and “Thy will be done!” Lots of names of individuals but complete trust that He knows their needs better than I.

LexaGraemeSeptember 4, 2019

Ha! I’ll bet he didn’t!

Melvyn HiscockSeptember 4, 2019

Such an inspiring and edifying article! Adversity really brings out incredible faith and trust in the Lord. It did with the pioneer members of the Church in the 1830's and 40's and it has with these wonderful saints in the DRC. By contrast, many of the members living in our current continental bubble of prosperity do not seem to have the focus to strive in the Spirit with the great determination required to overcome the constant distractions of everyday life.

Toni PorterSeptember 4, 2019

"While moments and hours distill the will of heaven upon us, we search the skies for angels." Such poetry!

Karen S WrightSeptember 4, 2019

Thank you, yet again.

KathleenSeptember 3, 2019

It's been 42 years since I left my mission in Bolivia and I still remember that I thought my heart would break. Your comic is right on!

KateSeptember 3, 2019

Oh Helmut! You poor dear! As every woman knows, IVF is in-vitro fertilization, an OBGYN is an obstetrician/gynecologist (they are always called an OB/GYN, by the way), and a NICU is the neo-natal intensive care nursery, where very frail babies are cared for until they are healthy enough to go home from the hospital. Methinks you haven't been around babies (or maybe females) for a very long time! Ha!

Gaye BreillattSeptember 3, 2019

How well I remember your dedication in coming to the temple in the Dominican Republic. Now you have your own. God bless you. Will be a great blessing to the country and each of you!!!!

EmmaSeptember 3, 2019

Have you ever heard of MTHFR? It’s a bleeding disorder that many women are not checked for but can affect getting pregnant or sustaining the pregnancy. It is something worth checking with every women with infertility or not. Because it can come with other problems.

Marybeth cragunSeptember 3, 2019

Such a great blessing for the saints in Haiti. Continue to be courageous and spread His Word.

DianeSeptember 3, 2019

These two comments make me feel so sad! Of ALL the universities in the country, BYU should be the most encouraging, the most caring,and the most helpful to its students. Instead, it seems the students are just part of “the masses.” When I was there with my husband—he was the student—many years ago, I felt then that the attitude was too much one of being tough on the kids, stern, unbending, strict. Of course they need to learn to be self-disciplined, but there should NOT be an attitude of being so tough so that they fail, where the students end up feeling unloved. Young adulthood is hard enough, filled with many self-doubts. The faculty at BYU, more than any other university, should bend over backward to build the students up and help them be successful.

Helmut A. WorleSeptember 3, 2019

Cute story, but written as if by a doctor: all these abbreviations are never explained. What's an IVF, OBGYN, NICU

TracySeptember 3, 2019

I grew up with Daris and I can vouch that he was the hardest working kid. Working on the dairy farm and excelling in three sports in high school and excelling in school (Valedictorian). An absolute stud!

George ThompsonSeptember 3, 2019

I personally don't carry and don't intend to. At the same time, I feel much safer in any location that allows the people to carry. The cowards that want to shoot innocent people tend to run if someone starts shooting back. They also tend to go for the softest targets like schools. This policy puts us right up there with schools. I am slowly coming to grips with this. There may be some good reason for the policy change that I don't see now. I will follow the prophet.

OrvaSeptember 3, 2019

I appreciate this merciful perspective of how Christ will cover and shield us with His perfection. What amazing, gracious love! I am worried that this interpretation may also imply that we need protection from our loving and gracious Heavenly Father. I like to believe that both Christ and Father are rooting for us, right up to, and including judgement day. Could an alternative interpretation of the scripture be: because we have kept our covenants binding us to Christ, we are judged by His merits rather than our own? In this scripture might He be symbolically reminding us in His words to the Father, of how He has satisfied justice in our behalf? We do not need Christ’s protection from our Father, after all, it was Heavenly Father who arranged for and provided us with our advocate. What we need is the Savior’s infinite perfection and grace to cover us from our having to face justice alone. I am eternally grateful for Father’s gift of His son to the world and that Jesus Christ was able and willing to complete His promised atonement for us all.

AnnekeSeptember 3, 2019

Yes! Thank you for this reminder, this message of hope!

Rick in VirginiaSeptember 2, 2019

Some of our members may be law enforcement officers and therefore authorized to carry weapons in church. Crazies enter at your own risk!

GarrySeptember 2, 2019

Wonderful pod casts. Thank you so much for providing these

Ruth JamiesonSeptember 2, 2019

So hilarious!! Loved it!!

SaydiSeptember 2, 2019

I love this Cath. Thank you for writing it.

LindaSeptember 2, 2019

I love this.

Kay RookhuyzenSeptember 2, 2019

I Gave birth to a 3 pound baby in 1977. She was born the end of August and came home for good just before Christmas. I know exactly what this mom went through. Brenda was very sickly for several years but has been healthy as a horse eve since! She just had her 42 birthday!

Colleen GoffSeptember 2, 2019

You guys were AWESOME!!!

John Jay HarrisSeptember 2, 2019

Where is Nephi’s blessing?

DJCSeptember 2, 2019

I think it's that they used Game of Thrones when it's a pornographic, terribly violent show that's definitely not in keeping with the Lord's standards.

Jen Geigle JohnsonSeptember 2, 2019

What a beautiful review of A Lady's Maid. Thank you.

Jose GomisSeptember 2, 2019

Enjoyed the Horseshoe concept so much that I'll away leve and opening for others to enter but never close it off. It also seem to cause a follow around of who next to speak without calling on them. And found that leading from one end is easier then from the middle.

emSeptember 2, 2019

I love the core idea of engaging in a spirit of love to try to understand better what was happening with her during that time. We all have our stories, but hiding them doesn't help a thing and having a safe place to share them and to learn from sharing them can, as the article states, build a sense of intimacy and trust. However, I am surprised that this article doesn't give just basic advice to ask for STD testing just in case. Anyone who has been sexually promiscuous (all the more so when drug addiction is involved in one or both partners) should be tested for STDs, and their partners should know those results to make informed decisions about safely managing their intimate relationship. Repentance can erase the sin, but it cannot magically make physiological consequences disappear. In that sense, I completely disagree with commenters who say that this is in the past and she has no obligation to talk about it. It's kind of like if he was going to ask her to be an organ donor for him. She can be the most loving, giving, caring, repentant person, but if her body is infected, he should know that before accepting fully her acts of love. They can still build a loving relationship, but you can't exercise agency without knowledge. And you can't build trust without honesty. If I were to ever have to remarry later in life, I'd absolutely be expecting a full disclosure of any sexual history and I would openly share mine. The bishop is not the mediator of the layers of trust needed in an intimate, marital relationship. He's only the mediator of worthiness for church membership. That's not insignificant, but it should never be used as the only measure for whether a person is healthy mentally, physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. I also agree with the person above that the betrayal he feels may take some healing of its own.

Judith MorganSeptember 2, 2019

Magical, sweet, beautiful song and dance. Took my breathe away!!

Ann-Marie JensenSeptember 1, 2019

I really benefited from the extra sources that you brought to this discussion! Thanks so much.

Ken MazzantiSeptember 1, 2019

This policy appears to be the direct result of a Utah law prohibiting firearms in public places, including church. The Church complies with the laws of the land, and that is the law in Utah. Polygamy stopped being openly practiced in Utah for the same reason. We can use Article of Faith 12 as a resource. I believe that the Utah law is un-Constitutional. It may one day be overturned or affirmed by the courts. I have carried concealed for the past 48 years and carried openly when I was a law enforcement officer for nearly 30 years. I feel uncomfortable being unprepared to deal with some violent situations when innocent lives need protection from the 'wolves' around us. We can debate the issue all we want, but that policy came out for the entire Church with the authorization of God's Prophet here on earth. The real decision is not whether we should be able to carry a firearm in church or not even when we don't live in Utah. The issue is whether our lives are defined by the theme of the Primary song "Follow the Prophet, follow the Prophet, he knows the way".

LindaSeptember 1, 2019

I am glad to hear that students wil know in advance why they are being summoned, and will know who the report came from. When I was at the Y back in late ‘60s, I got called to the Dean of Womens office, along with 2 other girls in my dorm. We joked on the way over about why the 3 of us got called, knowing none of us had done anything wrong. It seemed odd, because we shared no classes together, and our dorm parents were baffled about it. The Dean truly thought we knew why we were there, and when we said no, she said it was for wearing too short skirst/dresses. Whaaat?! She she had us get down on our knees and see if our dress hems touched the ground (they did). She seemed perplexed. I asked her who had turned us in. She wouldn’t say. I said it had to have been some kind of prank, since we had no teachers in common. So, we were excused to leave, but I sure thought that was odd!

Terry L TippetsSeptember 1, 2019

Thank you for an inspiring story. At my last CPR training we were told of a device that could be used to prevent the exchange of bodily fluids when doing CPR. Its use is encouraged by the Red Cross and sold by them. The cost is less if purchased directly from the manufacturer, Genuine First Aid. There are videos on line that tell how to use it.

MEGAugust 31, 2019

Thank you for taking the time to address these issues. I guess I take the short cut and ask Heaven if the writings are true and if so, then that's good enough for me.

HeidiAugust 31, 2019

What a needed project to shed positive light on what can divide us! Thank you Sharlee & crew for heading this up . . . and Maureen & crew for sponsoring such an enlightening publication! What stalwart women you are!

Theresa FinneganAugust 30, 2019

I did almost exactly the same thing for years, only it was a special place in my own closet. No more Sunday Scramble! and no reprimanding of children, and no last-minute dash out the door. Back then I was a single mom with five children, and it absolutely saved my sanity.

Grandpa ClydeAugust 30, 2019

This cartoon really hit home; my wife and I will shortly return home from our mission in the Australia Adelaide Mission.

Elaine CarrollAugust 30, 2019

Jenny and her entire family are a true testament of faith, love, and everything else ai can think of. I have seen mostly Jenny in concert, but have also seen Family Four a couple times, I truly can appreciate all of the intense work that goes into the preparation for Jenny’s concerts (many of which I have seen). We see the final product after the countlesshiyrs have been put in. I sit in the audience in Awe as a I listen to the most beautiful music I have heard. I am sooooo proud to be able to say that I have personally met Jenny, who is a world class violinist, and her amazing musical family, Family Four. Thank you for sharing your wonderful, exquisite talents with us all !!

Maralyn DotsonAugust 30, 2019

When your Mom and Dad came to Cedar City to the Shakespeare Festival, they brought you and then attended our sacrament meeting on Sunday. I was visiting with your Mom and she told me that you had a very difficult Suzuki teacher and that you wanted to quit your violin. I told her not to let you. My daughter was your primary teacher that day. Thanks for not quitting - we love your music and your family!!

gerry nelsonAugust 30, 2019

I agree with most of the above - wasn't too smart to let the world know that we are defenseless in our meetings !!

Barbara BrewerAugust 30, 2019

I love watching your entire family perform together!

Ladelle CookAugust 30, 2019

Your articles are always so good. How do you do that? I admire your ability to not only comprehend a subject but also to write about it. Thanks for sharing.

TrudyAugust 30, 2019

I loved the music and the dance! Just beautiful! Thanks for sharing your talents! All of you!

vickieAugust 30, 2019

I never heard if he is in another relationship. is he married already to someone else or engaged or dating someone else. if so they that isn't good. they need to talk and understand why they were divorced and why they took a permanent plunge. maybe this was a one sided divorce...we are only hearing one side not hers. it could be totally different.

Haze K.August 29, 2019

" Two men in two gardens chose to die so that man might live." What a powerful sentence. What a way to think about Adam & Jesus Christ. Thank you.

KristinAugust 29, 2019

I personally think it is very unwise to publish something like this. Why publicly broadcast that we are completely defenseless - just waiting for some crazy Christian-hater to come into our public Sunday meetings and kill us all?! As a member, I would feel infinitely more safe, if there was a type of "fire marshal" in every building, in every sacrament meeting - as a calling. IMO - doing anything less, is irresponsible.

Michael Shea, MDAugust 29, 2019

Thanks very much for this educational article. It was a good learning experience for me. Having a clear explication of the New Testament doctrines is worth far more to me than all the sophistry, expression of opinions, and archaeology in the world. It is the internal consistency and logic of the doctrine that speaks loudest to me. I understand the arguments in both mind and heart.

John B GrierAugust 29, 2019

Most excellent !! I have adult children that are inactive. I found the quote by your friend to be a very basic truth; "Once you leave this Church, however, it ruins you for any other church because you know too much." Thank You !!!!

Kaylene SkanchyAugust 29, 2019

My husband accidentally took a sleeping pill in the morning with his other morning meds, and therefore, fell asleep on his drive to work. He went off the road and his tire marks showed that he missed the edge by inches that would have rolled the car into the water. His car veered away from the edge, crashed through a gate and went perfectly down a dirt road missing trees on either side. He came to a stop and woke up enough to call me. The next morning as he was waking up and thinking of the miracle that he wasn't hurt, he heard the voice of our son who had passed away a few months earlier, saying, "Dad, I was with you," and he knew who had taken control of the steering wheel.

DavidDAugust 29, 2019

Great insight and reminder. The real key to a conviction that the Book of Mormon is true is the witness that we receive that the doctrine expressed in the book is true.

Lori JonesAugust 29, 2019

This is a wonderful and generous offer! How nice to live in a State where there can be collaboration with big entertainment commerce and Humanitarian aid! The movie was wonderful!inspiring and moving. I saw it 3 times! If I lived in Utah I would go to a Megaplex Theater and see it again!

Juliann BradshawAugust 29, 2019

When we are paying attention the incidents of intervention are numerous and it is interesting what is prevented and what is allowed. God is in control. Trusting Him is the challenge. Beautiful article, thank you for collecting these experiences.

Rachel HesslerAugust 29, 2019

What wonderful stories! Thank you for sharing!

Jan KingAugust 29, 2019

I'm delighted to read that angels can physically touch us as I've wondered about this for years. For the several years I lived in Hawaii my husband and I would frequently stop at the Pali lookout as we returned home to Laie from Honolulu to enjoy the beautiful view. After moving away we returned to Hawaii for a visit. During our 5 year absence that tourist spot was no longer a safe place to be, especially at night. We had forgotten the recent violent history there, and so decided to stop and see the night lights of Kaneohe below the cliffs. As I turned off the highway into the parking lot I felt a hand on my chest and a voice say "stop!" All the hair on my neck and arms stood up!! I quickly reversed and tore off down the highway! After my heart stopped pounding I asked my husband if he had touched me or spoken. He said he hadn't. When we returned home I told a family member what had happened. With alarm in her voice she reminded me what had been happening there. I've always believed that we were protected by an Angel that night.

Kathy WilsonAugust 29, 2019

I agree about the cover. I would have passed with book by with a glance without your review.

Craig FrogleyAugust 29, 2019

In my opinion the organization and content of the Book far exceeds any speculative scholarly theories about its origin. See for reference.

Bot BowlesAugust 29, 2019

I find it interesting that the Richmond Temple will be across the street from St. Athanasius church. Athanasius is the person responsible in 325 AD for eliiminating temple teachings from Christianity. And the temple restores those teachings.

Joyce aurichAugust 28, 2019

When my little daughter fell out of a little yellow rubber raft in the Pacific Ocean she was lifted up by her guardian angel into the raft.

Susan Corpany CurtisAugust 28, 2019

As a fellow columnist from years past, I got to know Darla and looked forward to her uplifting articles that always seemed to touch on something to which I could relate, probably because she had the courage to be real about her own struggles and shortcomings. She will be missed, but I am quite sure she is finding new avenues for her talents.

Peggy McFarlandAugust 28, 2019

Thank you so much for this wonderful tribute to my dear friend. You captured her spirit so well. I celebrate that she is now at peace, though I will miss her dearly.

Paul HAugust 28, 2019

It's good to remember that historians give their interpretation of facts that are centuries old and often don't possess an exact knowledge of the facts that really occurred. Therefore, they give an opinion, albeit an educated one, but it still is an opinion. Until one is assured they possess all the facts, they should make certain their statements are conjecture and not anything else. This reminds me of Fawn Brodie and he she was almost worshiped as the best source to consult when it came to anti Joseph Smith "facts" until she wrote about an early American Revolutionist (I think it was Jefferson) and the critics stripped her of all credibility because it was a "hatchet job" was a pre-conceived bias, not based upon facts. Remember the supposed Salamander letter? Same type of thinking. One day we shall know everything that has happened. Until then, be careful what you assume.

Lawrence H.August 28, 2019

Absolutely Amazing!!! Thank you so much sharing these wonderful faith uplifting stories

Karen Stone, Ragle Point, OregonAugust 28, 2019

Yes! I do know that my angel Father saved my family and myself from death. As we were traveling along the summit road of Santiam Pass in Oregon, in the early morning hour of 5:30, I fell asleep while driving. When I awoke, our van was in the left lane, with a large freight semi-truck coming directly at us. I felt someone’s arms around me, driving the steering wheel to the right hand lane, carefully turning us away from danger. I know it was a miracle that I, my older brother, and my 5 children were not killed. I learned, through the Spirit, that it was my father who saved us. He had died on 1969, and this occurred in 1997.

SPBAugust 28, 2019

I had a similar experience to one mentioned in your article. I was driving from Cedar City to Bountiful after a restless night in a motel with an aching back. My daughter (just returned from serving a mission) and I were traveling to see relatives and do temple work. I had taken painkillers, and we got up early to attend a church service before leaving Cedar City that rainy Sunday morning. About 20 minutes outside of Cedar City, my daughter fell asleep and I was also getting tired. The next thing I know, I woke up and the car was going about 30 mph down a street of one of the small towns along the route, with buildings and cars around us. My left arm was on the door's armrest and my right hand was laying in my lap and I was totally relaxed. I have no idea how long I had been sleeping but we were not near any towns when I got tired - it was only fields and hills along the road. I took hold of the steering wheel, amazed and very thankful for someone rescuing us. I got back on I-15 and continued driving, wide awake by then. My daughter kept sleeping. Thank heaven, literally, for angels!! I only wish I knew who was driving and for what purpose we were were spared. Was it so we could complete the temple work? Or maybe it was because my daughter has since married and now has a little girl of her own who was waiting to be born to her? No matter the reason, I am very thankful angels are aware and sometimes allowed to help us along.

Jerry D GroverAugust 28, 2019

There is no requirement that reformed Egyptian was phonetic. The "manner of speech" can simply refer to sentence structure and syntax, not pronunciation.

JemezblueAugust 28, 2019

LOVE THIS!!! This definitely means that we are put on this earth for a purpose and that we will be aided by Angels when needed, until our work is finished on earth.

LettieAugust 28, 2019

As a recent graduate from BYU, it was definitely a testimony-challenging environment. Some teachers were arrogant, uncaring, and even openly dishonest about assignments to students (especially lying about deadlines). Fortunately, I had some great professors that helped me salvage my experience and education. I hope that BYU steps up to make sure that the faculty treat students fairly rather than as a means to fund research.

Linda NesseAugust 28, 2019

This is very comforting to know. Thank you

JaredAugust 28, 2019

These are excellent articles! I appreciate the careful analysis and perspective including the assumption that Joseph was a prophet and that his translation came as a gift from God. Is there any chance that these articles could make it into the Joseph Smith Papers project, even as footnotes in the electronic version?

Heather HemmertAugust 28, 2019

I served my mission at Historic Winter Quarters in the Nebraska Omaha mission. During a special display of the art work of Liz Lemon Swindles work of Joseph and Emma, Gracia Jones came and had a special fireside to share her testimony. It was such a powerful experience. The spirit was overwhelming. Hearing your testimony of Emma’s words to you brought all of that back. Thank you for sharing that special experience. I have no pioneer ancestors because my family are converts but I feel a special connection to Joseph and Emma as they lead the restoration. Testifying of their experiences I always brings the most powerful spirit.

LauraAugust 28, 2019

From Les Miserables by Victor Hugo: Unless the Lord guard the house, in vain do they watch who guard it.

ShareeAugust 28, 2019

It's not just kids of different races or ethnicities that are bullied. Some are bullied because others just don't like the way they look or don't like some little thing about them. There should be no bullying period, not just because of race or religion.

vickieAugust 28, 2019

I didn't bother to read the entire write up on Abraham transcripts...I think that by faith we can know the truth of all things...people reading and transcribing and writing are all different and are variable in looking for imperfections will get them but it still proves nothing.....only what they want it to their own minds.

GrandpathegreatAugust 27, 2019

I work there and admin doesn't know much about actual students, and unfortunately don't really care about the needs of the staff. The ones who do the real work on campus. Certain managers are great and others only care about looking good at the cost of others. Admin needs to get out of there comfortable chairs and Actually meet with staff, in all depts not just a select few. On a side note..I have a great boss, just the bosses above us don't really care unfortunately. Hopefully President Kevin Worthen will read these comments, and listen to employees to make it a better environment to work in. I have kids who have graduated there, and I am glad they did. Go Cougs!

PaladinAugust 27, 2019

In the United States, many state and local laws require the prominent posting of a no weapons policy at all entrances. The policy in a church handbook, even if widely distributed to members via electronic means and with more clear and updated language, may not be sufficient.

Paul PlumbAugust 27, 2019

Why is it that the countries that have the most guns have the most problems with the most sick-o's? If a culture includes guns, remedies include guns. If a culture excludes guns, remedies exclude guns.

Not afraidAugust 27, 2019

It's a matter of faith. I trust that if it's God's will that I get shot in church (and the likelihood of that is very, very remote) then that will happen. If it's not His will, it won't happen. I don't need to take a gun with me to a place of sacrifice, worship, and faith. For me, taking a gun would feel I have faith only in my abilities, not in God.

LoraAugust 27, 2019

My bishop has received death threats. Our elders quorum takes turn acting as security every week, watching for suspicious characters. I felt safe with the idea that our elders were armed. I work in a government building with law enforcement officers, all of them openly carrying weapons. Not once has a gun burst out of its holster and started shooting. Now we are practically putting up a sign that says our churches are "gun-free zones"? Has anyone noticed that gun-free zones are the chosen targets for mass shooters? Has anyone noticed that shooters do not obey laws, much less church policies?

TerryAugust 27, 2019

Faith is simply belief strong enough you act on it.

Mary BellAugust 27, 2019

Love this and love you Joni. Thanks for your gracious wisdom. You're a gem!

John R CarpenterAugust 27, 2019

The key words for me are: "... unless carried by current law enforcement officers" - Most law enforcement officers are required to carry 24/7, some are not. Having been in the former, I was discreet and leadership was aware. On two occasions over my active duty time, I placed myself on duty to prevent issues from getting out of hand by judicious use of armed law enforcement presence. One led to an arrest and the other allowed me discretion to handle informally. FYI - weapons are tools - it is the person who wields such a tool who determines whether or not it is for good or evil.

George ThompsonAugust 27, 2019

Those places that prohibit guns are setting themselves up as easy targets for the next sick-o that comes along looking for an easy shot at the most people! I personally think that it is much better if he thinks that some people might shoot back. As the coward that he is, he will then go elsewhere.

Barbara RobertsAugust 27, 2019

What’s helping me: Learning how to counsel together, to disagree appropriately (be calm, understand and validate the other’s view), learning how to SELF GOVERN(see Nicoleen Peck’s work), learning how to give up the vicinity paradigm ( C.Terry Warner’s work) , learning to do the simple thing of turning to look to the raised Brass Serpent in my wilderness for healing, to trust the Savior’s hand is outstretched to save me not shame because I really am of little faith.

AlexanderAugust 27, 2019

If only I had his faith! Please pray INTENSELY for me; someone you have never met, or probably never shall!

MimiAugust 27, 2019

I've come to the realization that everything that was taught to me in primary and seminary was not all that simple, and it's okay. While I am disappointed at the new discoveries that we are finding out about how the Book of Mormon wasn't actually translated from golden plates sitting on a table and the book of Abraham not being translated from the scrolls, these stories have changed my life and perspective for the good. I am excited about all the research being done in our history. This is the Lord's church and we just have to deal with all the hidden and "let's put this away and not talk about it," parts of our past. I truly believe we will be fine if not better for it. We have to wrestle sometimes and it only makes us stronger.

Neal ChristensenAugust 27, 2019

So why did we have to hear of this from the national media before hearing it from the pulpit?

BradAugust 27, 2019

With one of our jobs as a Father/Husband being the protector of our family, we can't do that while in our church? Bishop's have been killed and people have shot up churches. And now the Church wants us defenseless against such atrocities? I don't get it...

SebAugust 27, 2019

I admit that I've had a hard time following this article. But I'm not a scholar of course. This lengthy article certainly gives a lot insight to various aspects surrounding the Book of Abraham and therefor is a good source for information ... especially for those who want to dive deeper into this issue. I however, because I have a limited understanding of the matter, will stick with the easy explanation: A lot of the papyri the BoA is translated from have been lost in the Great Fire of Chicago. The remaining part which is known to us today does not contain the part Joseph Smith translated from. So of course it will not match what we can read in the BoA. Ptolemy is attributed with stating: "We consider it a good principle to explain the phenomena by the simplest hypothesis possible." I will stick with that for the moment.

Donna HesslingAugust 26, 2019

In the Islam Koran 21 Sure:52 - one reads how Abram got himself into such a position as shown in the fascimily in the Pearl of Great Price of him lying on the sacrifice alter. "The scriptures are holy, but ot too wholey, because they are so holey"

Karen Schmidt ReynoldsAugust 26, 2019

Thank you for sharing! I heard the story my whole life about my grandmothers brother Uncle Bert's experience. I've wanted a copy and can now share it with my children. Thank you Anne for sharing!

HalAugust 26, 2019

It's been over 30 years since I graduated from BYU and I still do not understand the furor over the Honor Code or the office charged to enforce it. I say this as someone who was once called in for an infraction (my hair was too long - I knew it when I got the notice to appear). I remember being disgruntled at the time - as most 20-something men probably are - but also knowing full well that I was in violation of the code and, therefore, deserving of the mild reprimand. I'm a firm believer that, if you are always where you are supposed to be and doing the things you should be doing, 98% of the time one need never worry about being called into the honor code office. Our youth have been taught this since the time of Brigham Young. If you are at a party where there is drinking, leave immediately. If you question the intentions of someone you're dating, don't go out with him / her. My guess is that most of the students called in for honor code violations know full well what they've done wrong but they seem to think the values in the For the Strength of Youth pamphlet no longer apply to them once they turned 18 and became an "adult." Unfortunately, I know many older "adults" who feel the same way.

HalAugust 26, 2019

I very much appreciated this article. When this topic came up from my cousin and her husband (both devout Baptists), I explained to them (again) that I believe the Book of Abraham is an inspired, true document for the same reason that I believe that the Book of Mormon was translated by the "gift and power of God." The so-called secular "evidence" that the papyri make no mention of Abraham means no more to me than my finding out a few years ago that Joseph Smith often used a seer-stone rather than the Urim and Thumim to translate the gold plates. It does not matter to me how the revelation was received - all that matters to me is that I know that the Book of Mormon is the word of God and that Joseph Smith was called to be the prophet of the restoration. Everything else is mere trivia.

Phillip C SmithAugust 26, 2019

We do not have adequate insight and data from the 1830s to make any conclusive statements about the Book of Abraham. Scholars should admit that we really don't know enough to draw any valid conclusions. I find that the content of the Books of Abraham is so extraordinary and divinely revealing that I continue to accept it as having been inspired of God.

LettieAugust 26, 2019

I'd caution against completely avoiding salt as salt is important in maintaining hydration (salt = electrolytes).

Renaissance NerdAugust 26, 2019

One very simple word in Spanish is one I wish like crazy had an English equivalent: igualmente. Literally translated it means merely ‘equally’ but it has a larger meaning, something like, ‘I warmly wish similar good things for you.’ No way to say that succinctly in English. It’s just one of many examples of this same reductionist bent in modern language and thought.

Kelton ToblerAugust 26, 2019

Thank you for this perspective. I have been concerned for the past few years about the Maxwell Institute moving away from thoughtful, well-documented apologetics in a quest for academic credibility "untainted" by valid points and authorities in defense of faith. I don't know what the right balance is, but I appreciate this reminder that it is possible for a bias in favor of academic "purity" to omit well-founded, useful information, distort the whole truth, and damage faith.

Sharee HughesAugust 26, 2019

I consider the Book of Abraham to be our most profound piece of scripture. Whether it was translated from papyri that are now missing or simply by the power of god is, to me, irrelevant.This new volume of the Joseph Smith Papers should be pulled from the market and corrected to remove the subjective bias of the editors.

Charles DefranchiAugust 26, 2019

Dear Brother Lindsay, Many thanks for reconciling the testimony of the Spirit with a reasonably balanced secular knowledge. The LDS Scholars who gave this lecture must have indeed fallen into the trap of "pleasing" our critics at the expense of a more objective truth, thus proving that "being learned does not necessarily make someone wise," (2 Nephi 9:28)

PennieAugust 26, 2019

It seems to me that all these scholars are willing to swallow a camel but are straining at a knat. Altho I understand that scholarly work is needful, the fact remains that Joseph was a prophet, the Book of Mormon is true, and the Book of Abraham is a wonderful book is scripture. Sometimes scholars sound like the Jews who argued every comma and aphosterphe of the Book of the Law with Paul in order to reject Jesus. Listen to the Holy Ghost before you listen to scholarly lectures

essayAugust 26, 2019

Well written article. My question is why didn't the scholars of JSPRT4 take these points into account? Isn't their project supported by the Church?

Samuel McCrackenAugust 26, 2019

Further to your examples, when we speak English we have totally forgotten the use of the second person singular/familiar---Thee, Thou. (Funk and Wagnals Dictionary). Familiar, in this sense is still alive in French (France) and Spanish and also German. The other second person,--You-- was reserved for those who were not related by Family (familiar) or Friendship---or Plural..

Arlaine AustinAugust 26, 2019

Thank you for this amazing podcast on the negative power of anger and contention. This is one that should be listened to or read often. Thank you again!

Richard WinmillAugust 26, 2019

Meanwhile, in the "hard sciences" they admit at least among themselves that "dispute is science" and may always be until confirming experiments lend more light. It appears that the subject of JSPRT4, dependent as it is now on correcting the editorial work must rely either on personal revelation or much more clear evidence. Else the "dispute" will be unresolved until "that which is perfect comes." The editors of the present Volume 4 ought to admit that. George Musser speaking about the "hard science" he reports on for the Scientific American said: "We expect scientists to speak as one, but the very idea of speaking as one is alien to science. Scientists tend not to discuss this aspect of their profession. They often describe their disputes as dirty laundry best not aired in public (and complain when journalists do so). But if you don’t air disputes, what’s left to air? Science is dispute." To Jeff's comment perhaps we must air this laundry. George Musser, Spooky Action at a Distance: The Phenomenon That Reimagines Space and Time--and What It Means for Black Holes, the Big Bang, and Theories of Everything (p. 211). Farrar, Straus, and Giroux. But, of course, the soft scholarly work of writers and historians are a much different than scientific inquiry. I found this e-mail discussion between Dan Vogel and Brian Hales much before one of the editors for Volume 4 let off steam on Dan Vogel's FB page--I found these excerpts quite illuminating in the present discussion: Dan Vogel to Brian Hales: “You are attempting to take advantage of a silence in the historical record …” Dan Vogel to Brian Hales: I’m only focusing on the logic and arguments … since … the documentation is scarce for either side, it becomes imperative to get the thinking right. Historians often argue from the known to the undocumented and build probabilistic cases." Brian Hales to Vogel ” You follow the path so common among (Mormon) critics. They don’t have hard evidence, so they wonder or speculate and then condemn … based upon their speculations. It isn’t a position of strength in polemics, but you need to go with whatever evidence you have (or don’t have).” DAN VOGEL to Brian: I don’t have any new sources for you. I said my discussion would focus on the logic of your position. Silence is silence. You don’t know the reason for the silence. You don’t even know who knew what." Indeed!

Marsha NewmanAugust 25, 2019

I seem to always be saying thank you as I read your wonderful magazine. And today is no exception! Thank you for this moving discussion of gifts of the spirit. Most people don't think of charity as a spiritual gift to be exercised and increased regularly in us. Most consider it a specific gift of money or goods. Quite the opposite, charity is a gift of the heart, generosity of spirit, tenderly making use of forgiveness and understanding, and lifting others up by encouragement rather than chastisement. I especially loved the lost pilot story and will use it in my own family. Thanks again!

Joe CallenderAugust 25, 2019

Excellent insights here. If I may say so without violating any rules, I'm the author of an Amazon #1 Bestseller on this subject titled "Faith and Physics: How the Light of Christ Bridges the Gap." (Don't let the word "physics" intimidate you, there's no math in it). If interested, you can also download two of my papers, free, at Go to the "Articles" page.

VardellAugust 25, 2019

The answer is very simple and you mentioned it at the bottom of part 1. Joseph did not "translate" the book of Mormon. He did not read the reformed Egyptian and put it in his own words. According to all the evidence, Joseph looked into the hat with the seerstone, saw the words, and read them to the scribe. So the words read by Joseph were of divine origin - revealed to him. Royal Skousen's work has shown that the supposed bad grammar- so troubling to early church scholars- is actually evidence of early Hebrew and even 16th century English. The reason for the similar phrases is that the Lord saw fit to translate the ideas from the plates into the same language used by Tyndale and King James translators. Doesn't that make sense if He wanted the Bible and the Book of Mormon to become "one stick" in the Lords hand? Ezekiel 37:17

SteveAugust 25, 2019

Danny and his wife are friends and very nice people.

CarolineAugust 24, 2019

I saw this movie tonight. The story was wonderful, the characters charming, the scenery gorgeous, and the language terrible throughout. And there was no need for the main character to be in his underwear for so long. That was puzzling. It could so easily have been a family movie.

RosaAugust 24, 2019

Thank you for the podcast. It was wonderful to read, I especially loved the personal stories. I am the only member in my home, and sometimes it is really hard to do all the studying I feel I should be doing. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your study group.

Charles DefranchiAugust 24, 2019

I was very sorry to read about Darla's passing away, because I had developed some kind of a friendship with her through a few Email exchanges. I can only conclude that time had come for her to move into a much better and more peaceful world, especially to reunite with her son, whose suicide must have been the most devastating experience of her life. Her example and teachings do represent another confirmation of the good fruits this gospel can produce in people's lives.

Kathy MedlarAugust 24, 2019

Yes, Darla was a Special "Earth Angel." Her articles touched my soul, especially the last article she wrote. I hope you wll keep her articles archived on Meridan magazine. She wlll live on in my heart and I would enjoy revisitng her articles.

Nihla W. JuddAugust 24, 2019

Do you have a photograph of the engraving in Corinth of the text of 1 Cor 13. I'd love to see it.

Yvonne AstonAugust 24, 2019

The problem is with the decimation of the female population, those possibly millions of young men seeking partners will have to travel elsewhere to find a partner. The shortage of women will cause violence between competing males and this will escalate through female-less societies. The future of communities where females are considered to be less valuable than males will find in the future that they will have falling populations and anarchic social responses to that lack of partners for young males.

Sue AndrewsAugust 23, 2019

Darla and I shared the loss of each of our sons. I appreciated so much the correspondence we had several years ago. Her words were much needed at that awful time of my life. I’m saddened to hear of her death.

Jeriann Hughes MarksAugust 23, 2019

I will truly miss you Darla and the wisdom you so generously imparted. Thank you and take care of my husband who I am sure you will meet.

Layne KilpatrickAugust 23, 2019

As the father of a now 30-year old pediatric heart transplant recipient, I have a sense of the overwhelming gratitude and humility Paul speaks of. When an anonymous donor, in our case an infant, gives you the very gift of life, and you have no way to express to them your profound gratitude, it impacts deeply your love for a merciful God in heaven AND the fellow human beings you share this earth with who would be so magnanimous and selfless in their hour of grief. I’m so glad you and your family were able to experience that love and that you are now able to share your unique gifts and talents with all of us. And on it goes forward in the Lord’s great plan. God bless you, Paul. And thank you for your music. It is a conduit for the spirit.

David HallAugust 23, 2019

A great book that pokes fun at all the theories of creation that leave it all to chance was written by an agnostic secular Jew and renowned scientist David Berlinski - The Devil's Delusion: Atheism and its Scientific Pretensions. If you dismiss Intelligent Design, there are so many unanswered questions that are brushed aside by militant atheists in the scientific community. These people simply don't want to deal with the idea that there may be a God and thus busy themselves trying to intimidate other scientists into accepting their views. Read this book. Berlinski is really smart and quite funny.

WanasAugust 23, 2019

Began to listen to his work about a yr ago Found it to be very different than” main stream “ religion , far more spiritual but at a different level of depth - sacredly haunting it seems Near death can uncover secret pathways I write poems- if it doesn’t come to you there isn’t much value to what comes from you , I have found Speaking of organ donation: 27 yrs again my wife and I had to decide to take our 17 year old son off life supports We faced a that decision that no parent should have to But we did and by so doing gave life to those that would not have had a second chance So glad we chose to His heart was given to a musician In Nashville Would not have been Br Cardall as it was 27 yrs ago Ensign wanted our story but it got pulled by ? Church and organ donation “stuff” Not much into piano solos but when he combines it with a “full house” it is magic— keep creating there is no bottom!

Phil WasdenAugust 23, 2019

As a member of the Choral Arts Society of Utah, it was a delight to perform with Paul Cardall in a charity concert. Paul is a humble and gracious human being and most deserving of the Dove Award.

Amy ChristensenAugust 23, 2019

This music brings about a calmness to your soul, that it can help lighten whatever hardships people may be enduring in their lives. It’s been awesome to watch how much Paul has grown and the many people he has helped bring joy to with his music! It’s an honor to know Paul, through my husband Corey, on a personal level. For those that only know Paul from his music, on a personal level he is just as genuine and caring of a person, as this so reflects in his beautiful music! Congrats on the 10 year Anniversary! ❤️

Peg BranvoldAugust 23, 2019

So thankful for your beautiful, truly peaceful music. I have been wanting to let you know that for a long time. I have listened to your CD’s for years, but almost 10 months ago the Camp Fire in Paradise, CA changed my life and the lives of 27,000 people. Consequently, I have had many long drives from where I currently live to serve and worship with my community in Paradise. Your music is what has sustained during this time during my drives, when I needed to feel peace during the day at home, and falling asleep at night. I feel so blessed to have your music in my life! Thank you does not express my feelings well enough...

El Mentecato MayorAugust 23, 2019

The U.S. sided with the Mexican government that Pancho Villa was fighting against, that's why Villa became very antagonistic towards U.S. citizens, killing many because he considered them his enemies during the Mexican revolutionary war. He actually perpetrated a successful attack into U.S. soil in Columbus, NM. That's why the U.S. put a price on his head, and the reason he captured any U.S. citizen that he came into contact. I'm from Cd. Juárez and my dad is from one of the Mormon colonies, and I've been to Villa's home in the city of Chihuahua, now a museum. A place you must visit! Viva Villa!

Adams, KathrynAugust 22, 2019

Thank-you Maurine, Darla touched me personally with her beautiful spirit, as well. I was privileged to meet her, at a singles conference in Charlotte, NC about 2004, where she was the featured speaker, and I sang a song I wrote. Darla, wrote and published a beautiful article in the Meridian Magazine, about me and I will be forever grateful for her love and encouragement. She will always have a special place in my heart! Thanks to you and Scot for your ministry through the Meridian Magazine , it is ray of light in a dark world, sincerely, Kathryn Adams

Sharma AndersonAugust 22, 2019

Please keep her articles available in the archives. She had such wisdom and I would love to be able to go back and reread her contributions.

CatherineAugust 22, 2019

So many times when I doubted myself, wondered if I'd EVER be "good enough" I'd find one of Darls's articles in the daily Meridian updates always on days when I needed them the most. I always regarded those as "tender mercies" and a witness that God really does know what I need and when I need it.

Stephanie BillingsleyAugust 22, 2019

We're all better for having known Darla, even if only through her writing. I am blessed to have had her in my ward family for many years and will miss her dearly. She has now joined quite a remarkable group of women from our ward on the other side and I smile at the thought of that sweet reunion and all the work they must be doing. Her life is a testament to trusting in the Lord and His goodness. What a blessing to remember even just a bit of her wisdom each day. Love you, Darla. See you again one day.

Linda WattsAugust 22, 2019

I MUST make the arduous effort of using the keyboard. My "feeble hands that hang down" have been aptly and abundantly reminded of the availability of "strength beyond my own" as I've read your inspired/inspiring tribute to Darla, as well as How to Make the Sacrifice of a Broken Heart by H.Wallace Goddard. As I face the frustrations of muscle deterioration insidiously imposed on my body by IBM [inclusion body myositis], what I've read has refueled my fortitude tank and deepened my reverence for the absolute reality of individual/personal strength and peace accessed through the immense/infinite atonement of our Redeemer, Jesus Christ. I am greatly grateful for the free newsletter [which, I'm sorry to say I only recently have opened...having thought it was one of manymanymany health solicitors I see daily :| I open yours now. Again, THANK YOU! [just "for the record" - it took an hour to type this. May knowing that help you know of my sincere appreciation]

Jay WamsleyAugust 22, 2019

Wally, this is really good. Miss seeing you and yours.

Nicholeen PeckAugust 22, 2019

This is such a fitting article to memorialize a wonderful woman! Darla wrote an article about me years ago and I got to feel her heart in the process. She was full of love for me and for all the people who would read her article. She truly wanted to make the world a more beautiful place. If it weren't for Darla I don't think I would be writing for Meridian. Even though we haven't talked much in recent years, I will always consider her a friend. I think she was the kind of person who was a friend to all who knew her. Darla will be missed!

Michael Shea, MDAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for the lovely eulogy. I always looked forward to Darla Isakson’s articles, filled with memorable prose and solid common-sense wisdom as they were. I don’t think I have found any better way of learning practical religion from reading and pondering her words. I am grateful for the gifts she had and for her willingness to use them for the benefit of her readers, for anyone willing to listen. I did not know her, but I will miss her.

LUCYAugust 22, 2019

Having experienced childhood abuse also, I recommend EMDR. our emotions and experiences are held in our bodies. One very long session of EMDR released many horrific childhood traumas from my body and soul. I still try to gain the spirituality I see others achieving. I go to the temple and pray to feel the Savior's love. I think as the brain develops in children who are being abused, something is not developed in the spiritual centers of the brain as fully which is why we struggle spiritually. The Savior has his arm extended towards us in love. I lean on Him. I am gaining spiritual insights. Reading the Book of Mormon helps with regaining what I didn't get as a child. There are blessings of healing and celestial love from studying the spiritual concepts in the Book of Mormon.

LUCYAugust 22, 2019

I also agree with those who write that if the Lord remembers her sins no more, that talking to her husband will only bring harm to her relationship with him. it will not be helpful to the marriage because he is not totally understanding of forgiveness and the atonement. He prefers to think on the sin rather than the atonement. This woman can work privately on seeking her own personal forgiveness. Developing a closer relationship with the Savior and understanding that he has taken the burden upon him already for her assault and her attempts to to deal with the assault in sexual ways. This woman should not bring up the past that will be harmful,,,especially because she has stopped all such behavior and repented. Respect the Savior deeply,,,respect and honor his love and sacrifice for us. The Savior has suffered for this and says its now my burden. Go forth in love...lots of love is bright not let the effects of your assault continue to haunt you. You are totally above it now...don't revisit it! Even the Lord is not remembering or revisiting it.Go forward!!

Barbara LewisAugust 22, 2019

Dear Sister Hilton; You wrote this for me, didn't you? Thank you, Barbara Lewis

Debbie BakeAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful synopsis of Darla's inspiring words. May her spirit continue to influence and bless on both sides of the veil...

Arlene Larsen BascomAugust 22, 2019

Thank you Maurine for your kind, special tribute to my wonderful sister. I was uplifted, and comforted and some of my grief was lifted by your beautiful words. They did a lot to remind me of Darla's faith, words of wisdom, and the influence she has had on me and so many others.. It is inspiring to know that she had such remarkable friends as you and Scot, and that you valued her writing and personality as much as I did. I love Meridian and will forever be grateful for you and Scot and the work you do with Meridian and all your other endeavors.

RitaAugust 22, 2019

Darla's articles were always the first ones I read on the day they came out, and I have forwarded many of them to friends and family going through difficult times. She has been one of the 'tender mercies' the Lord affords us in this life, and will continue to be as her insights and humor are read and re-read.

RitaAugust 22, 2019

Thank you!

Jennie HansenAugust 22, 2019

Long before Darla began writing for Meridian, she accepted my first novel at Covenant Communications. I first met her when I assisted her at a library function and she persuaded me to withdraw that book from a New York publisher and submit it to her instead. I've never regretted that decision. She was a great friend and mentor during that early part of my novel writing career and I later enjoyed reading her contributions to Meridian. She will be greatly missed here, but I have no doubt she will quickly become a part of furthering the Lord's work on the other side as she did here.

Sheila WallAugust 22, 2019

Maurine, thank you for this beautiful tribute to my life-long mentor and dear friend. Sending you a spiritual hug as we both grieve her. I am so happy that she is no longer suffering and she is free to run and climb mountains and do all that her body limited her from doing. I'm selfishly sobbing like a child who can't catch her breath, and I'm so sad for her husband and family. I will be praying for them and for you and all of Darla's loved ones. I occasionally looked for her obituary, as I didn't want to disturb her and and take more of her energy by calling her or her husband, and yesterday I decided I would call and found her phone number. That was the day she passed! I must have had some prompting from the Lord. The call was not made. It would have been bad timing if I had called. Darla and I have a mutual friend who was precious to us, she passed a few years ago, and I can imagine them embracing. I am so grateful to know that we can be together again someday. We have lost a light to the world. I hope you will keep her page up with her articles on it so we can refer back to her words of comfort and wisdom.

David PerryAugust 22, 2019

Your ability to make us feel we are watching the scene in real time is amazing. Thanks for relating this to the Savior's perfect example.

Ann-Marie JensenAugust 22, 2019

I love Darla's take on the spiritual blessings she received from her trial with cancer. It often gives me pause when we fast and pray for someone's well being in the midst of a tragic event. When that event turns out to our liking, comments often sounds like this: "God is merciful." "God is mindful of us and our needs." "God loves us." How about when that event ends in death? We are wise to echo the same sentiments! I truly appreciate President Nelson's attitude about death. It is a necessary part of The Plan and one of the few ways for us to step into the next sphere of our existence. Darla will continue to be a marvelous example of faith and understanding beyond her own ability. Thanks for the beautiful tribute, Proctors.

Guy WilcoxAugust 22, 2019

I have always saved her articles for future reference as I do so often! Her courage during the last months are a wonderful example as we all should have! I will cherish her words now more than ever!

Janie BrayAugust 22, 2019

What a sweet article about a dear friend of yours. You have passed on, through her words, the hope we all for eternity, the truth that Heavenly Father loves us, and that even in our imperfect state, we need to trust in our perfect Heavenly Father and His plan for each one of us. Tears come to my eyes as I read this article, the love you shared for each other and our Heavenly Father is so apparent. Even in time of loss, there is always the positive, providing we are willing to look for it. Our Heavenly Father blesses us each and every day, but we have to be open in our hearts and minds to see it. Thank you and bless you for your podcasts. A group of us meet each Sunday and have lunch together and share the message of the podcasts, and our hopes and dreams. I will close this message to you with a BIG THANK YOU! and something I do for those I meet -HUGS

Stephen SmithAugust 22, 2019

I am sad and happy to hear of Sis. Isakson's passing. I have read many of her articles and saw great insight and wisdom in them. Some of the things she discussed I learned of first hand in my own battles with cancer. I too will miss her deep insights to gospel principles but I believe she is now free of earthly pains and sorrows and feels much more greatly God's love enveloping her in the realm of spirits. I shed a tear for her, for her family and loved ones, and express my deepest condolences to them all. God bless. We will miss her greatly.

Ann SiggardAugust 22, 2019

My heart is truly saddened today. I consider Darla a true friend, even though we have never met! I have feasted at her table of wisdom and experience for many years and my life has changed for the better because she shared her wonderful gifts and insights about our relationship with the Lord! Trust on!!

Kate MerrillAugust 22, 2019

Blessed Darla -- Your words and wisdom reached me in ways needed and yearned for . . . in ways that have given me connection and validation as I navigate the challenges of mortality and spiritual growth. May those words continue to reach others aching to be understood, to feel connected, and to discover hope again. Rest, explore, fly sweet Darla!

KarenAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for sharing this about my Aunt Darla. She has a gift with words and we are fortunate to have eaten at her table of wisdom that she was able to share with us.

ShirleyAugust 22, 2019

You nailed it, Joni. So many of us have huge motes in our eyes.

Diane IrwinAugust 22, 2019

What a wonderful woman!! I have LOVED her articles. And this article you wrote is the cherry on top. What a marvelous tribute to her. She will be missed.

TerryAugust 22, 2019

Thank us for letting us know her just a little through her writings.

Cynthia M. MoorheadAugust 22, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful article and letting us know about Darla's passing. I have been reading her articles on Meridian for many years and will miss them. I have her book--it has been a blessing to me. What a wonderful example of faith and trust in the Lord she has been!

Doris WilliamsAugust 22, 2019

Maurine, this article was the first thing I read this morning. My heart just melted with love and gratitude for the truths Darla espoused all these years on Meridian.....but also for YOUR words, for your inspired editorship and guidance of Meridian which is a lifeline for so many of us....for your good husband, Scot, for his uplifting, spiritually soaring photographs and words, for your shared podcast, Come Follow Me, which we have shared with our ward and family, and for the precious gospel, restored to the earth, and for all who teach, and share their insights and testimonies. I am eternally grateful.

Nyemahame D NyenweneAugust 22, 2019

Every word that I have read about Darla has just been uplifting. Thank you for writing this article. I believe it makes more sense to me because of the difficult time I am facing having just lost my Dad of cancer a month and 7days today. It's been a three and a half year battle with laryngeal Cancer. The experience has also been much spiritual. I know my Dad is in a better place now. I have been given strength through your message. Thank you

DeNile williamsAugust 22, 2019

I can't begin to tell you how much this article touched me emotionally and spiritually. I feel that I need to read this article over several times on a weekly, monthly and yearly basis. The courage and strength to overcome our earthly obstacles seems less of a challenge from the "medicine" given. Thank you ever so much for the good that you are doing in the excellent articles that I look forward to with great anticipation each e-mail. Your e-mail articles are the most important email s that I receive. Sincerely, DeNile Williams

Scott C.August 22, 2019

Though she has passed on from mortality, her messages and insight will last forever. I look forward to re-reading her articles and I will do so with the knowledge that she has now sealed her testimony with how she lived her life. I've never met Darla personally but I feel I know her. Thank you Darla for your example, and thank you Proctor's for publishing her works!

Susanne DavidsonAugust 22, 2019

What a beautiful story of the life of this fine woman, Darla. I am soup.ifted by reading this of her strength, her hope, her trust in God, her love and charity, that I will try to do and be a better person. THANKYOU Darla for your great example, your life of loving, giving, serving, doing for others . May God bless you and help us all to remember the lessons you taught us.

ShielahAugust 22, 2019

Darla will be greatly missed. Her words of encouragement and gospel truths will echo long after her death. I am so thankful to her for always choosing poignant topics that touch lives much beyond her own. We miss you, Darla.

Tanya NeiderAugust 22, 2019

All of us readers of Meridian Magazine will miss Darla! Her voice has carried us through trials, joys, and given us hope along the way. My condolences to all who knew her.

Charles McClellandAugust 22, 2019

Thank you, Maurine, for this heart touching memorial to Darlene. I am forwarding it to a loved one who will be uplifted by what you wrote.

Nefi AscencioAugust 21, 2019

Hi, I have a friend here in Winchester, Virginia Paul H. Thompson who was a Trial Attorney not member of the church but show it me pictures of his Grandfather riding with Pancho Villa they were very good friends and always hunting and riding horses, and I have another friend a greatgranson of Pancho Villa, Fernando Villa from Ensenada, California now lives in New Jersey. But always shares good stories and some pictures. I am a member of the church of the Jesus Christ of the latter days saints. In the Winchester Stake, Berryville Ward. Former Missionary.

DonnieAugust 21, 2019

Thanks so much

David WhittleAugust 21, 2019

My precious aunt, and all of our beloved sister, Darla Faye Larsen Hanks Isackson, passed through the veil this morning on her way to a glorious reunion with other loved ones gone on before. Like her mother and brother before her, she was given the immeasurable blessing of advance notice of which she spoke: "I’ve been given the gift of advance notice, of time to tie up loose ends, to prepare and help others prepare in mind and heart. What a precious amazing gift." She and we were able to share in that blessing as we expressed our love for her and she shared her faith in the love of God with us. Last week, she texted me and invited me to come and take the gems of family history she had been gathering. I had no idea that would be my last visit with her, but I will never forget her holy kiss, her saintly smiles through the pain and suffering I knew were there but not from her, and the care she took to give me (and let go of) the treasures of the memories of her life. And what a life she lived. Ten years my senior, I've always idolized her. The way she laughed when we played Flinch or badminton taught me of joy in simple things. When she won the title of Idaho Jr. Miss, I was sure she must be the most beautiful woman in the world, right up there with my mother. Every time I heard her playing the piano so effortlessly, and when she played the leading role in the play at Bonneville High in Ammon, I was sure I had the most talented aunt ever. I still remember her mission farewell and singing "I'll Go Where You Want Me to Go" and deciding that if Darla was going on a mission, then I was going on one too. I have clear memories of so much - but I can never forget those times when she was there for me when I needed someone most - especially how she took me and my children in that first Christmas alone with them. To this day, my children tell me that was their favorite Christmas ever. How could it be otherwise? Darla treated them like they were the most important souls on earth and they were each the most precious of her loved ones. And so they were that Christmas. How could anyone in Darla's presence have any doubt of their importance to her? And now the tears come, because I've let myself think of my own loss instead of the blessings of all the love that Darla has found today, and her reunion with her beloved son Brian, and my son Michael and daughter Ashley, and Grandma and Grandpa, and so many others. Darla is a bright light and a glorious soul - and I'm both thrilled to know she is free and blessed but grieving to know that my spiritual examplar - the most Christlike person I've ever known so well - is gone from my life. At least the Lord let us share our thoughts and feelings with her before she passed - painfully soon for us and mercifully soon for her. For that I am grateful to the Lord whose grace and love she lived by.

Marleen RobertsAugust 21, 2019

Thank you so much for this lesson. I certainly opened my mind and heart to how this needs to be carried out. I really appreciate it.

Donna BatemanAugust 21, 2019

Beautiful and insightful. This truly is helpful in my quest to offer a broken heart.

Herm OlsenAugust 21, 2019

Bro. G offers a thoughtful analysis of humility and prayer. I appreciated the insights of the article and the encouragement towards a more genuinely ‘broken heart’.

PatAugust 21, 2019

This is a great video with an important message. Everyone is included at the table to feast upon His word. I really wish that they would have represented those with learning disabilities. My daughter was humiliated during Sunday school by the teacher because of her lack spelling and reading abilities. She has dyslexia. She was 17 at the time and she was very aware that she cannot do what others do. It was very difficult for her. I had to ask the teacher to stop. He apologized to my daughter. It happens all the time to her. At church people need to not be so quick to point out others weaknesses and just be accepting.

AH75August 20, 2019

Google Lake Baikal and go to it's Wikipedia page and then scroll down to Historical Traditions and read about Christ visiting that region.

William TurnerAugust 20, 2019

Why do the scriptures say Noah was perfect? Noah was a just man, and perfect in his generation; and he walked with God Moses 8:27

CarolineAugust 20, 2019

If anyone is still reading comments ;) I just want to add some comments to the comments. We served three missions in Eastern Europe and never heard about this painting, which I believe is in the St Petersburg museum of art. So we really appreciate this article. We do know, for certain, that every one of the lost tribes is represented in the patriarchal blessings of the members in these countries. We saw for ourselves remnants of temple ordinances in some of the rituals in the Orthodox churches there. God loves all of His children and is mindful of every one.

AnonymousAugust 20, 2019

It's easier to forgive the debt when the creditor has moved on and no longer needs the money. But is it fair to tell a parent who scrimped for years, working two or three jobs and making huge personal sacrifices to raise several children alone that they are now expected for forgive the debt while the other parent has spent years living a spendthrift life and ignoring all family responsibilities? A parent who lived paycheck to paycheck supporting the family alone may now be facing retirement age with little to no savings because of the lack of support from the other parent. Forgiveness is important, but so is taking responsibility. It is possible to legally pursue the debt after the children are grown. Too many deadbeat parents are learning that if they just wait long enough the whole thing will go away. And too many custodial parents are facing financial ruin because of it. Therefore, I don't think it's fair to give a one-size-fits-all answer that it's best to forgive. For the letter writer, sure, she's got a good life and lots of other resources. For others, the right answer is to pursue that back support, especially when the other parent has the means to pay and simply refuses to do so.

AlbertAugust 20, 2019

Even if the vaping liquids do not contain nicotine, two factors to consider are: 1) the influences of someone vaping on younger, impressionable acquaintances, and 2) the physical effects of second hand vapor on anyone who is nearby.

AlbertAugust 20, 2019

Isn't the fact that the ex-husband is purposefully being deceitful about his payment of child support in order to obtain his Temple Recommend significant on many levels both in his personal life and in his functioning within the Church?

CCAugust 20, 2019

Has anyone done any research to find out why so many of the millennial generation are so self-centered and rude? It shocks me to see the change for worse in manners and courtesies with so many younger people.

AnnAugust 20, 2019

Let it go. His failures are on him. We all fail - sometimes miserably and grace and mercy is all we have to give to ourselves and to the person who has failed us. If he didn't pay before - odds are he still won't pay/cant pay and then you will have that grief to add to the resentments that still hold you hostage.

Kellie M. BarnhurstAugust 19, 2019

Lynne you have such a gift with your words that often go hand in hand with your wonderful musical talents. I cherish the love & kindness you offer so willingly. These real life experiences help all of us to understand that we can be “the Lords hands” within our everyday lives.

DJAugust 19, 2019

May I just say "Ditto" Christine H. Thank you for your marvelous story and example.

Diane GodboutAugust 19, 2019

alas, many women are against their own children through abuse and abortions..

Perla BAugust 19, 2019

His real name was Jose

Perla BAugust 19, 2019

While I believe everyone has the opportunity to hear, feel and be saved by the gospel Pancho Villa was definitely not a good man. I don't doubt the story and I'm glad he was good to the missionaries but that's because Heavenly Father was protecting them. Also glad they weren't girls as he raped, killed and took any woman he felt like

Lynn CallisterAugust 19, 2019

Lynne, thanks for “making meaning” in such a powerful way. Daring to love is a clarion call for us all

HalAugust 19, 2019

This article made me think of my own interaction with Siri - I typically thank "her" for her help - if nothing else, to see what response I get which usually brings a smile to my face. One thing is certain, I've found that the more grateful I am - to my family, coworkers, neighbors, ward members, and - especially - Heavenly Father, the more consideration / cooperation / blessings I receive in response. I.e. the more gratitude I show, the more people are willing to help me.

Mark W MinerAugust 19, 2019

Lynne, thank you for helping us see that love is at the heart of the matter--every matter of real importance. And thank you for reminding us that as we respond with love--which begins by just showing up--God will truly direct the show, and we will never be wrong.

Christine H (Idaho)August 19, 2019

Oh my heart, Carolyn! You are such an extraordinary woman, inside and out! I adore you!

Martin KurtzAugust 19, 2019

I'm glad to hear this story because just this morning my daughter got involved in a car wreck. All we could do was offer her love and support. I do this because I remember when I got into a car wreck many years ago there was not any love and support for me, all because of fast and prayers from former missionary companion's and a former girl friend wanting to humble me out! They even wanted me excommunicated! I guess their prayers were answered!!

Eileen deMarsAugust 19, 2019

You DUD act in love by hurrying over to help the boys. ! Thanks for a beautiful article of so many people being helpful

Alexander ForsythAugust 19, 2019

Please publish more anecdotes like these two.

kathy bergevinAugust 18, 2019

I agree that not all e-cigarettes contain nicotine, however, one is injesting vapor. A mist. Ligquid into their lungs. The medical field and dental field has reported over and over again that the application of liquid into the lungs over a period of time can become a health hazard to the lungs.

Virginia HallAugust 18, 2019

To me this is the best one of the series. I loved it!

ACHAugust 17, 2019

This happened with my wife and her ex-husband. He owed some $80,000 in back child support when I married her. Bough the state garnished his wages, he would quit the job and begin work elsewhere always trying to stay ahead of the state. We received a small portion of the back support but my wife and I determined for our peace, that we would not pursue him in another court. Though we could have used the money, but at what price to give up our peace and our relationship to the children. So we simply did nothing. We are still nice to him, the kids get to have a peaceful relationship with their father and quite frankly, they know how he is. It hurts but they’ve dealt with it and see their mother a their true hero. Live and let live. Money does not and will not bring you any happiness in these type cases.

MikeAugust 17, 2019

What are your thoughts on coffee flavored ice cream or candies?

Kathy GibbleAugust 17, 2019

Such an inspiring, thought-provoking article! I loved it very much and will refer to it often! Thanks for your devotion in researching and being great examples!

ChuckAugust 17, 2019

I raised three sons with life-threatening asthma (my oldest was hospitalized 19 times before he was 17), and have spent many hours---days, weeks---in hospitals. It's miserably hard on everyone, especially the one directly affected by it. I've also conducted the Lords' program on Addiction and Healing in my stake. I truly wish more young people could understand what violating our Saviors' instructions on obeying the Word of Wisdom by vaping, etc. can do to them. These substances destroy the will to obey commandments and live a good life; they also can lead to other addictive substances. Addicted people are most assuredly not in control of their lives---their addictions are. And despite what someone may think, these things can and do cause addiction all around the world. I've seen it.

CarolAugust 17, 2019

A fun article on a serious subject. I guess females just must be given the "finding gene" but it just doesn't mature until we become mothers.

Coy JonesAugust 16, 2019

Thank You for this lesson. It has caused me to review my life and what zip need to change. I would like more information on the different classes of angels you shared in this podcast. Looking forward to many more of these lessons.

Jerry AndersonAugust 16, 2019

I have been long acquainted with a group of Russian "Old Believers", and am amazed at the remnants of the LDS Temple clothing and the endowment ceremony that they possess. I have become very close friends with one of their Priests, and I am convinced that they are a remnant of the Lost Ten tribes. Wonderful people!

SaraAugust 16, 2019

Scot- what talk is your President Nelson quote from? Love your podcasts!

MJAugust 16, 2019

Interesting story. My grandparents lived in the old Mormon colonies in Chihuahua and Oaxaca Mexico and told nothing but frightening stories of losing homes, persecution and murder by Pancho Villa and his men. There are 2 sides to every story but I would have never guessed this one. I will have to research this more thoroughly.

vickieAugust 16, 2019

pretty much I think we all kind of know this....but....from what I have seen and known not being born into the church....but joining in 1977..that the word of wisdom being broken shouldn't stop you from going to the temple...the only thing that would stop you form going to the temple would be alcohol and smoking cigarettes....because I know others who drink decaf coffee and tea....and some drink sodas that are cafinated...however, I bet there are other things that we take into our bodies that are not good and we need to use the gift of discernment...its best to be safe ...I don't drink coffee or haven't drank it for years when I joined but as I get older I noticed I love the smell of it...and would like to try some once in awhile....but I am holding myself back..because of the word of wisdom...

vickieAugust 16, 2019

i didn't read the entire advice back ...but...I can see how hard it is to FORGIVE...and basically that is what she has to do. I bet that there are people who know the situation better then she thinks. they know the score because he has shown his hand in other ways as well. she feels hurt inside that she gave up so much...but what she needs to do is stop looking back and move forward and FORGIVE HIM...she knows who he is...and so do others...instead...pray for him that somehow he can see what he has done and change himself...and never know one day he may come to her and ask for her forgiveness..he is still her brother...if she can look at it that changes perspectives...wouldn't she want to FORGIVE her brother..

Diane CAugust 16, 2019

Many years ago when my husband was dying of cancer, I had not had time to make bread, which my children ate for breakfast every morning. My unsaid prayer was for bread for my children. That morning, my neighbor, not a member of our church, appeared at my door with a loaf of homemade bread! This was not something she had ever done. it was a testimony to me that Heavenly Father was aware of me and my small needs at this difficult time in my life. Thank you for sharing this story.

JeanAugust 16, 2019

Thank you for this question and answer. It ministered to my soul also. I love your explanation of forgiveness and Christ's part in it.... "When we forgive others, Christ assumes their debt to us." When we forgive, it's between them and Christ and we are no longer in the middle. Love it!

Don HoffmanAugust 16, 2019

We should consider sugar???

Oscar MuñozAugust 16, 2019

In defense of the few ex-husbands in this world, my ex-wife owes me over $70,000 in back child support. As the article alludes, I have no legal recourse since our son in common is now over the age of 18 and the court can no longer enforce its order. Is it fair? Is It right? Where’s the justice? I can forgive, but the forgetting part is not always easy. Why? Because it’s not fair, right, or just. Sure, we use the word “Atonement” and talk of future blessings of living in God’s present, but in the meantime the human weakness of wanting “fair, right, and just” still lingers, and that is normal, we are not perfect. Time, time has been my only friend to heal my heart.

Alexander ForsythAugust 16, 2019

CONTEXT! CONTEXT! CONTEXT! It has to do with LOVE FOR YOUR ENEMIES Matthew 5:43-48. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints needs a paradigm shift on what it means to be "perfect". It is LOVE for those mentioned in those six verses.

DianeAugust 16, 2019

Thank you for reposting this excellent article! I wish it had been around years ago when I was a young wife and a young mom. But, at that time, I probably wouldn't have believed it.

Jim ChadwickAugust 15, 2019

I'd like to know the same about different classes of angels.

JaniceAugust 15, 2019

A few years ago we were living with my mother-in-law in Midvale while building a new home in Idaho Falls. When we would leave for Idaho for a few days at a time, she would water the few plants we had brought with us. I told her she didn't need to water one plant any more because it was dead. A few days later when we called she said, "That plant isn't dead, it's blooming!" I went to check it when we returned and it was a few small silk flowers that had been stuck into the bottom in the dirt that were 'blooming'.

vickieAugust 15, 2019

what is amazing is the TIME see what other people were doing at any given time in history even when the Savior was on the earth. I know that we are all children of our Father in heaven so to me why wouldn't the Savior go to all nations after His death. How wonderful this story was to me. thank you

Ena MacDonaldAugust 15, 2019

I was thrilled to read this. I also have wondered about other visits of the Savior to other tribles of Isreal. Thanks so much for sharing this.

Amie MacDonaldAugust 15, 2019

Thank you Kathryn Somers for your comment!

RenaeAugust 15, 2019

As a woman who spent many years in singles wards, may I offer some advice. To the sisters: Do not make this search the center of your life. Be open to good non-LDS men. Avoid at all costs the men who repeatedly date a woman for five or more years and do not marry. They will still be single in their 60's and 70's, thinking their Victoria's Secret model is coming. Brothers: Do not think all the women are chasing you. They are Not! Brush on on conversational topics that interest women. Your motorcycle is not one of them Neither is your ex-wife's problems. Both: Looks and grooming and clothes do matter. Weight control matters. Having a job matters. The women are not just seeking a good priesthood holder. Both want some one they are proud of.

BenAugust 15, 2019

I'm grateful for this clarification. There might be differences from country to country but e-cigarettes CAN contain nicotine. But many do not. Anybody who buys vaping liquids can choose to buy some with or without nicotine. So vaping can be absolutely nicotine free. There are no conclusive studies on whether or not standard vaping liquids do indeed pose health risks. Vaping liquids from reliable sources usually do not contain substances that are known to be harmful if inhaled. But I adhere to official Church policy that says vaping is against the Word of Wisdom. But that does not mean that it is indeed harmful to your body. I think it is important to draw this distinction.

HarrietAugust 15, 2019

I remember sharing my patriarchal blessing with a friend. Her immediate response was that I was not living up to what it said about me. I felt unknown by her and others because I WAS living up to that part of my blessing, but have always taken seriously the commandment not to do my alms before men. I no longer share my blessing. I no longer speak to my former friend. But the Lord knows I am doing my good works. He knows me.

CourtenayAugust 15, 2019

I love what you have shared. Thank you. It's certainly far overlooked in today's society, especially for the unborn. I would encourage returning to God His rightful place in our society, adhering to the Constitution of the United States and elected representatives that keep their oath to the Constitution. Asking the UN to "provide and enforce" God-given rights that have been abused because we are neglecting our God, will not be enough. And, the UN is also very committed to abortion, sterilization and experimentation on 3rd world populations. I'm not holding my breath that they are the answer.

Carol Ann Voisin RadmallAugust 15, 2019

I would like to get a digital copy of my Patriarchal Blessing! It is under my maiden name Carol Ann Voisin.

Thank you for this profound article. It will be a source of strength to many.August 15, 2019

Thank you for this profound article. It will be a source of strength to many.

Marilyn CrandallAugust 15, 2019

This is a wonderful reminder of how my prayer of yearning was answered, when all I had left to ask in prayer, was : I needed a hug, just one, this particular day.. Everytime something good came along, I looked to heaven & asked,"Is this how God gives a hug?" And I whispered each time "thank you" ....Before the end of the day,, I received the very best hug from an old friend who was inspired to come to the temple (not knowing we'd ever see each other again, or knowing we had both moved to this new State) Yes, Heavenly Father knows us & where we are & what we need. Thank you for reminding me of His abundant love .

ChuckAugust 15, 2019

I had a similar experience recently as I was struggling within and finding myself discourage. Was I doing nay good in the world I asked myself. As I arrived at my desk there was a large fruit basket with a card. The card was from 2 women who I once worked with but not any longer. They expressed heart felt appreciation for me and all the little things I do to make the work place better. That was the shot in the arm I needed that day after a humble prayer!

Diane KAugust 15, 2019

Thank you for this beautifully inspired article. It made me feel known!

JaredAugust 15, 2019

Maurine, so beautifully written. Makes me feel like I was back in Israel again hearing one of your sermons. Thank you!!

HalAugust 14, 2019

Thank you for this wonderful insight. I was a child of divorced parents - my junior high and high school years were very difficult for lack of a father. I vowed that I would never divorce and would be the perfect husband and father. I even majored in psychology with an emphasis on marriage and family counseling. Little did I know the role free agency would play and, unfortunately, my own first marriage ended in divorce to the detriment of all involved - especially our children. I'm not sure what I could have done differently (although I'm sure there was something), but I got a second chance with my current marriage and our focus has been teaching our children the blessings of being devoted to each other.

HalAugust 14, 2019

I love articles like this! Like every other member of the church, I made (what I thought were) "sacrifices" to live the gospel. However, like the Apostle Paul, I found that "the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us." (Romans 8:18). In short, the blessings I receive daily by living the gospel far outstrip any "sacrifice" I may have made along the way.

Mark StoddardAugust 14, 2019

Nice to see this republished. I'm perplexed by how frustrating it was for those who subscribe to anti-Mormon websites to deal with my account. They go off into tangents but can't address the central premise: a Russian Orthodox priest and one of the chief leaders of the ROC said what they said in the presence of several people who corroborate my account. No sense debating beyond "is Mark delusional or lying." Sometimes the first. Try never to do the second and the people with me would have called me out. Fact is, they knew the legend. It is part of their religion's lexicon. Is it proof Christ visited the ancient Russian people? Whatever. My proof of the Book of Mormon came from reading it in all its complexities, simplicity, metaphors and amazing spirit. My experience in Russia was fascinating for us and that picture, turned into a beautiful reproduction hangs in our home. If you would like a photograph of the original painting, just email me: [email protected] No charge. I'll also include the phonograph record cover.

John H. WaitingAugust 14, 2019

Mark, another interesting report on your experiences in Russia. I have always believed that Jesus Christ visited all continents after His resurrection.

K TerkAugust 14, 2019

China did this and they are now having a "Whoops" moment. "We blew it."

Marsha NewmanAugust 14, 2019

This is a beautiful, faith-building painting, showing that Jesus never was an exclusively Jewish figure. His presence was real for the people of this hemisphere and for others around the world.

CubbyAugust 14, 2019

Really enjoy your stories, this one was a delight and brightened my day. I had a boy like that.

AngelsingsAugust 14, 2019

This article ricocheted me back to my college days in the early 1970s. I became a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in 1971 after being born & raised a good Methodist. The LDS Church & Institute by campus was different than anything I had ever experienced. My outgoing personality allowed me to easily make friends. I was happy & comfortable but began noticing some of the girls were standoffish to me. I just assumed they were shy & would warm up, eventually. Wrong ! One of them asked me why all the guys liked & asked me out. She said other girls felt that way, also. I hadn't noticed that happening but, tried to diplomatically answer. I remember telling her my philosophy was to be myself. To paraphrase she said, sure, you're a pretty blonde from Southern California so wouldn't know how I feel but how she felt saddened & concerned me. I didn't want anyone feeling threatened by me. I think college students should not be relegated into students only wards but integrated into family wards; otherwise, there is a meat market effect which is not conducive to dating or life.

Renaissance NerdAugust 14, 2019

I got married for the first time at age 47 and I rarely got a second date for all the single years. I told women I wanted to be friends if it didn’t look like marriage was in our future, that we would both benefit from that, and get to know other people as well in the process that you just don’t meet on your own, giving us a better chance at marrying somebody else. I was told often that they didn’t want to waste time. If it wasn’t going to end in marriage there was no point in dating at all, even in groups with lots of friends. I did finally get married, going in four years now, and I can’t imagine a woman more suited to me than my wife, but it sure was a longer, harder road than it had to be. Your points are Excellent.

Julie RosalesAugust 14, 2019

Interesting story. But i don’t think my Father-in-law would like it Poncho Villa murdered his mother’s first husband by hanging him in front of his mother and sister. Not a great guy

Flora Mae PattersonAugust 14, 2019

I saw a photo on FB of a baptismal font on the backs of 12 oxen. This was from Russia.

Mike BringhurstAugust 14, 2019

This may also be the fulfillment of the scripture in III Nephi 16: 1-3

Steve Hodkin. Manchester UK.August 14, 2019

I love this story. It shows all that makes story telling in America so unique in the world.

Sandra WhteAugust 13, 2019

The comments were can we print them too?

TravisAugust 13, 2019

This article sums it up well. It's vitally important for women to show initiative because nothing else communicates desire. There needs to be flexibility in terms of who asks who because people are not born the same. If it was to be that only men could do the pursuing, why do many of us men suffer from low self-esteem, discouragement, Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria or any other thing that would legitimately hold us back? Shouldn't we be immune to that stuff? Any woman who says that only men should pursue is not considering the man's point of view (and yes, empathy is vitally important for any relationship to work). The fact that any woman-initiated relationship has resulted in marriage is proof that it can work.

Sandra WhiteAugust 13, 2019

I have noticed for quite a while now that when I try to get the other comments, they do not show up.....please fix as those comments are important to us as well as the first 2 or 3 shown on the first page. Thank you. Love this article...yes, it is entirely possible that Jesus appeared to them as well as other lands and peoples. We do know that there are more golden plates like from which the Book of Mormon was at that time that was a common way things were recorded,....

SueAugust 13, 2019

Also read the chapter called "The Grand Inquisitor" in Dostoyevski's "Brother's Karamazov." He quotes a famous poem from the 1870's about Christ visiting Russia, and testifies that he knows it is true. This was written in the 1880's. It's common folklore in Russia. Archeologists there are still finding old caches buried below the permafrost in Siberia with old artifacts. One of these years they will find the Russian version of the Book of Mormon, I'm sure.

Pam RoderAugust 13, 2019

Loved reading this! thank you for sharing.

MichaelAugust 13, 2019

Does anyone remember the SNL skit where Jesus (Jason Sudeikis) visited Tim Tebow and the Denver Broncos and at the very end said "Oh by the way, Mormonism, all true, every single word. Yeah...peace!" Unbeknownst to many, it was absolutely true and actually helped in conversion efforts as the Book of Mormon musical is also doing.

Pamela SandersAugust 13, 2019

There is no doubt in my mind that this can be fact. I have often wondered who the 'other sheep' could have been. Surely there were more 'other sheep' than in the Americas. Perhaps as the last days become more apparent, more indications of who the 'other sheep' may be will come to light. Personally, I find this very exciting.

Jo AnnAugust 13, 2019

I found this article to be very informative and interesting. I wonder how many other places in the world have stories about Christ visiting them after His resurrection.

Michael Shea, MDAugust 13, 2019

Unbelievable!! Finally someone has identified the problem. Unfortunately, it seems that a large segment of the population doesn’t want to hear it. “... when the wicked rule, the people mourn.” Isn’t it the truth?

HalAugust 13, 2019

Thank you for this article. Does not surprise me at all. I pray for the day when addition scriptures are made available to us from Christ's "other sheep."

Beagle Lover in the SouthAugust 13, 2019

Like so many things in the scriptures - we need to study the Lord's symbolism to understand the full impact of what we read. Your article did a wonderful job of explaining the imagery in simple terms! Well done. Compelling and educational read. In response to another female commentator - this main point of this article's terms are to show the role of men & women. The Priesthood is specifically given to men, not women. Women may access its power but it is the responsibility of MEN to wield the priesthood. Women have their OWN area of influence, (family + children) be happy neither gender must do it "all" on their own. Re-visit the temple endowment ceremony to get more clarification. Family Proclamation info is included within the article. If you read this article again about the role of women and importance, it might fall into place better.

Marilyn BabcockAugust 13, 2019

I wish I could post a picture I found., it is a small version of a temple baptismal font with 12 oxen holding up the font. It is located in an old museum in Russia. It is amazing

ZacAugust 13, 2019

I've long believed that there were other Lehi's who were lead off into the wilderness and other people who were visited after Christ's death. Why would the Savior only visit the people in the America's? Why not the people of Asia, India, Australia, and the "Isle's of the Sea"? And how many other "Brothers of Jared" were there whose genealogy was lost when their civilization perished?

Juan ZurcherAugust 13, 2019

If they were part of the other sheep, it means that they are descendants of Israel. Which tribe? Is there any consideration about which tribe they might be from?

Pennylynn MaxwellAugust 13, 2019

The best chuckle I have had in a long time. Margaret you are hilarious! so many ways to spin this story into a great sermon about visualizing and retracing our steps back home to God. Have a great week.

Linda PaulsonAugust 13, 2019

Amazing! Thank you!

Lori HatchAugust 13, 2019

Great story - thanks for sharing. Makes you wonder what other oral histories/""legends the people of the world pass down thru their generations.

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Robin PrestonAugust 13, 2019

Absolutely amazing and delightful! Thank you for your story, I thoroughly enjoyed every morsel!

Justin MAugust 13, 2019

Thank you for sharing this! I think as we more closely embrace one another as brothers and sisters across the globe, more stories like this - sacred, deeply spiritual and cultural - will come to light. And perhaps more...

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Kathryn RhotenAugust 13, 2019

Where can i see this picture?

SandyAugust 13, 2019

I too would like to know the references regarding principalities and powers as being different classes of angels. Looking forward to your reply

JulieAugust 12, 2019

I had a vision once during a stake leadership meeting where priesthood holders in my immediate, extended and ward family lined the covenant path. I saw them help a friend on that just got out of an abusive relationship and they stood shoulder to shoulder to protect those women and children already on the path. It was a powerful picture. Your article beautifully compliments what I saw.

Larry BethersAugust 12, 2019

I really appreciated this article. I am just finalizing a divorce and it has been the hardest experience in my life this far! Many members were supportive of me but when I moved into a new ward I felt like I had the plague. The first Sunday I attended 2 other families came. They were the traditional family with kids. After the meeting everyone rushed to meet them and I was left within 6 feet of them. It felt horrible. I have always been a person to reach out to others and believe that divorced people need to do their fairshare of introducing me to others. Fast forward 2 months. I finally was embraced by ward members after I gave a talk in Sacrament Meeting and taught a lesson in Elder's Quorum. To eveyone out there, please, please don't leave a divorced person unwelcomed at church, or any person that comes to church that you don't know. It is so very painful to feel unwelcomed and worse, not wanted. Only my strong testimony and a loving bishop kept me moving forward.

Sailor GirlAugust 12, 2019

I enjoyed this very much. Thank you for getting it out there. We need all the help we can get these days.

Jorge HernandezAugust 12, 2019

Very helpful insight to gain knowledge to be brave warriors with the power of God and be worthy to bear the Holy Priesthood to defend our eternal companions and our children against the enemy. Thank you for sharing this article.

Marsha NewmanAugust 12, 2019

I am grateful to Larry for his article - just as timely today as in 2004 when he first wrote it. I have long believed that the true, revealing mark of a "civilized nation" is how they treat their women - how they educate them, honor them, protect them, and nurture girls from babyhood to womanhood. Those religions and ideologies which do not do elevate womanhood are just a relic of the past when women were only seen as a gratification for a man's sexual desires and a weaker being to be exploited. This is midieval thinking. Jesus Christ the Son of our Eternal Father and God taught us how to value women. His approach was kind, tender, loving, caring, and resulting eventually in exalting. Plainly He knew that women are the perpetuators of the human race, and the teachers of the most enabling God-like traits. It is commonly said in American history books that the West was not settled until the women came. Hunters and trappers are great and necessary, but true civilization rests on the shoulders of women. I sincerely appreciate the women athletes, soldiers, and adventurers. (My own mother was enrolled in the Women's Naval Reserves in World War II.) However, in light of the unique cultural calling of women to bear and teach the future generation, I feel the highest calling in this world is to be a woman and a mother. We have neglected to teach the importance of that calling to our upcoming generation of girls. I suggest we reverse course, and instead of applauding the "Me" attitude, we teach and revere the "I am the Future" attitude among our girls.

Alfred VienneauAugust 12, 2019

This is so true. Thank you for sharing such great remarks on Satan's Attack on Women. It helps understand and put things in right perspective. It completes the picture of why Satan attacked Eve alone in the garden of Eden rather than Adam or both of them together. .

TaddAugust 12, 2019

Great insight's! I have often wondered why women have been so persecuted throughout history and this makes a good scriptural argument as to why Satan does it and how Christ and the Priesthood step in to play their role's to defeat Satan. My one disagreement is that I do think it is healthy for couples to have some separate interests and not always have to be together.

David BellAugust 12, 2019

Very good and very true article. Thank you.

Pepe quinteroAugust 12, 2019

I did not know a ranger candidate had to be airborne qualified to partake of ranger training. The 173 airborne brigade is remembered as being one of the elite , well decorated units in the combat of arms units in the army. As a former special forces Sargent, I welcome you my dear sister in the gospel ( I being a convert ) and member of a unique unit in the us army. I hope to meet you someday... all the way, Geronimo

Andy C.August 12, 2019

"We Killed God, Family, And Community...." From the title, I thought the article was about our public schools and colleges!

Kathryn SomersAugust 12, 2019

This is a good article, but the understanding of priesthood power in it is dated. In recent years, the First Presidency, Quorum of the Twelve, and general auxiliary leaders have striven to help us all understand that not only men but also endowed women are given the power of the priesthood. Not priesthood office or ordination, but the power of the priesthood. Women can use this power to call upon the powers of heaven in behalf of themselves and their families. This is a vital doctrine that is missing from what is being taught in this article.

Mike BringhurstAugust 12, 2019

How do you get such inspired insights? Thank you for inspiring me to step up my efforts to lead and protect my wife and family through the proper use of my Priesthood.

Valerie LeBaronAugust 12, 2019

Great lesson! However, I have never heard or been taught that principalities and powers were different classes of angels. Do you have a reference for that you could share? Many thanks!

Susan CliffordAugust 12, 2019

Thank you for this article. It all made so much sense to me. I loved it .

ChuckAugust 11, 2019

Jesus Christ fulfilled His responsibility to teach truth, and atone for the sins of humanity. Any responsibility for bringing the Great Apostasy into effect rests with others alive at that time, for not more fully accepting what He taught. Our Savior accomplished His responsibilities, and set the stage for marvelous things being done today by His church. He did not fail.

Stephen L. A. RoweAugust 11, 2019

A wonderful depiction and glimpse of life beyond the veil. I have shared this with friends and family who have lost a loved one, and it brings them peace. Mahalo for this inspiring story.

JasonAugust 11, 2019

I think rephrasing a lot of this as parental responsibilities would be better. The desired results would be the same. The proliferation of "Rights” these days has become a tool to project a lot of governmental control. "Rights" have become abused in essence.

J.C.August 11, 2019

A great story about repentence and leaving ultimate judgement to the Savior. There should be records of the First Presidency letter mentioned in the article. Not doubting the author, but as a historian, its instinct in to want concurrent sources in addition to oral histories. It would be great to attach to the Family Search record as well.

LoriAugust 10, 2019

Her past is her business as is his, and not many would bring up an embarrassing past situation until they were sure they were in a secure relationship which takes time. This man is 66 years old, not a kid. I am sure he hasn't been perfect either. How sad that he wants to dwell on the negative and has made it a cross to bear. They both wanted a safe and loving partner and he is going to ruin it with his judgmental attitude. Her past had nothing to do with him.

LoriAugust 10, 2019

And meanwhile in another family, the sons never talk to their parents or have anything to do with them because they are too prepared to be on their own and their wife wants everything to be about her family. It is hard to have a balanced life where you are still family and not ignored or too involved after the kids are grown.

Amanda RoweAugust 10, 2019

I work as a Family Support Worker in Essex England, every day I see in action the exact things you describe here. I try to support families through the principals I have grown up with as a member of the church as I know they are divine principals and that if lived by would literally Change the World. Thank you for writing your thoughts in such a clear, insightive and positive way. You have voiced everything I know to be true.

Irazema Lozano DavisAugust 9, 2019

My grandfather at 17yrs old rode with Pancho Villa, he told us that Pancho Villa was a great man and care for his people wanted a better life for them. I enjoyed reading the story, I had heard part of story. It’s interesting reading the comments it looks a lot of Pancho Villas soldiers were baptized! My grandfather also accepted the gospel and we are greatly blessed we are 5 and 4 generations in the. True Church and have served humbly.

vjAugust 9, 2019

Excellent article!

Wayne KurtzAugust 9, 2019

This is truly a helpful article. I had never heard the quote.... “Advice is what you ask for when you already know the right answer but you don’t like it.” My new favorite quote... This made me laugh out loud and say ‘This is the meaning of life’... Thank for your work.. I just found you today...

MaryannAugust 9, 2019

This story sounds very suspicious. Someone who has a green thumb and works often with plants does NOT mistake a plastic plant for a real one. For one thing, she would have been checking the soil to test for moisture. I'm sure the person who shared this believed it to be true, but it sounds like a fake story to me.

MaryannAugust 9, 2019

Geoff really gave some great advice here, especially the counsel to the parents to back off and allow this couple to work this out together on their own. I hope the parents will take his checklist seriously as to how they can do this. Being too supportive will only encourage the daughter to lean on them instead of her husband.

MaryannAugust 9, 2019

The reason you "feel completely abandoned by him" is because you have been! Time to stop calling him and to accept the fact that you cannot save this marriage alone. The most important point made in this article is that marriage is a two way comittment. You cannot heal this marriage without his support. If he doesn't contact you, I would end the marriage and start looking for a man who is ready to truly commit himself to you.

PatAugust 9, 2019

This is a simple and wonderful explanation of our belief of the Bible. I will surely use its words and sentiments in my conducting conversations with others. Thank you for printing this.


The only thing I can think to say is "WOW" . That marriage is doomed.

Anne Hinton PrattAugust 9, 2019

The source for the article came from Bert Whetten himself. My husband is his grandson and heard the story many times and recorded it. This is a special story to the family. Also a note: Pancho Villa was not elected President, but was considered president because he took over the government. He sat in the presidential chair ( there is a famous picture of this)but after one day he didn't feel qualified and gave up the power.

michelAugust 9, 2019

Merci 1000 fois pour votre témoignage ,votre exemple et la mise en pratique de l'évangile qui vous donne tant d'enthousiasme... BLESS YOU.

Alexander ForsythAugust 9, 2019

What happened to the phrase: "As far as it is accurately translated!" It was not Paul that established the Principle: "At the mouth of two, or three, witnesses." This Rule came from the Old Testament.

Bruce LloydAugust 8, 2019

My grandfather served under General Pershing and they were chasing Pancho Villa at the end of WWI.

MichaelAugust 8, 2019

The fact that your wife went to such measures to conceal this unsavory relationship demonstrates that she feels extreme remorse and is taking it very seriously. I would be more concerned if she was more open about it, which might indicate she did not take it that seriously. Just a little bump in the past of no consequence. At your age you both don't have time to wallow in this. Everything else seems good. I say embrace the future and be grateful to be with each other every day. Lift each other up. Time flies.

Lori JonesAugust 8, 2019

Thank you for this insightful, real interview. I felt like I was let in on some personal thoughts and feelings as well as facts about the movie and it's making. I loved the movie too!

raj singh sidhuAugust 8, 2019

very good story

Robyn BarnettAugust 8, 2019

How can I organise this for New Zealand. We 2ould love to see the mivie to.

Marsha BowlerAugust 7, 2019

My grandfather fought against Pancho Villa. That same grandfather ended up being baptized when he was 96 years old. It is never too late to accept the gospel, whether in this life or the next.

Tora Sue Crapo KniselyAugust 7, 2019

Very exciting! Servi mina misao em brasil, Brasilia. Estsava la janeiro 1986 ate' fim de abril 1987. It is incredible that there are currently 7 shortly 8 and then before long 9 Missions in Brazil. I have a great love for the people and country.

Bryan R IsaacsonAugust 7, 2019

Thanks for writing this. My grandmother Myrtle Whiting Isaacson told me a lot about him before she died.

A M PiliAugust 7, 2019

Upwards of twenty women claimed to be his widow. He was married to multiple wives at the same time. He was apparently pretty hot stuff in his day!

HalAugust 7, 2019

This article voices a concern I have had for a very long time. We are being forced to shun truth in favor of "acceptance." A recent court case in Canada involved a female who ran a waxing service exclusively for women who was being sued by a man who identified as a woman wanting her to perform her services even though he/she still had all the male characteristics. The poor woman is being forced to either shut down her business or perform her service on a man who claims to be a woman. How does this protect the women in our society? Isn't this forced sexual abuse in the guise of "acceptance" of a person's "preferred" gender? Where does it end?

HalAugust 7, 2019

Thank you for this article! I don't know how many times I have encountered "ravening wolves" both within the church and without. Some are bold and do not hide their intent, but there are many more who are very cunning and have succeeded in luring several of my loved ones (friends and family) ever so carefully away from the sheep-fold and into their lairs.

Alisi FiliagaAugust 7, 2019

AWW Wanda had good intension and her main goal was to assist and serve. Thank you Wanda, your pure love of service has not gone in vain. I want to be like you and serve without leting many know. You are awesome

Jenny SvendsenAugust 7, 2019

I don't know what took me so long to listen to your podcast, Romans 1-6, that is the first one I've listened to. First of all, the beautiful music that brought such peace to my soul (should have know it was from Paul Cardall), and then your beautiful words and explanations helped me understand that yes, we are saved by Grace, and therefore we need to do and be the best we can, to become one with Christ. Thank you just doesn't seem enough, may God's choicest blessings be yours!

Joni HiltonAugust 7, 2019

Bravo-- what a great podcast! You've really captured the essence of gospel living: Dedication to Christ, courage, boldness, humility, genuine change, how we really get home again. This should be heard or read by everyone, everywhere.

Jenny SvendsenAugust 7, 2019

What a wonderful miracle! Heavenly Father watches over all, and paves the way! Thank you so much for sharing this!

Dave MyersAugust 7, 2019

Thank you. That's a great story that I had never heard, and it speaks to the issue of redemption that we seem to so easily deny historical figures. I'd be grateful if you could provide your sources. Thank you.

Jan KingAugust 7, 2019

Thank you so much for this article! It is great to have this previously unknown piece of history!

S RichardsonAugust 7, 2019

Great story. The author should post this, citing the original source(s), on Pancho Villa's Memories page at His FS ID number appears to be LB9H-PK4. Villa had other LDS friends, including an Elmer Wood Johnson of Colonia Diaz, who life Villa saved. That story is also posted there.

HelenAugust 7, 2019

A friend and former Visiting Teaching companion said her grandmother ride with Pancho Villa so apparently others in his family sought the Gospel, too!

CarolAugust 7, 2019

I feel for Wanda because I've done stuff like that myself. So glad she kept using her green thumb on the real outdoor plants!

anonymousAugust 7, 2019

We had a similar situation in our ancestry but when we did John's work, it was the most spiritual experience and we knew he had accepted the work of the Lord and was sealed to his grateful family for time and all eternity

Jane PAugust 7, 2019

Cool story! I probably don’t see where they’re listed on the page since I’m on the mobile version, but do you have any sources for someone to verify it and learn more?

DJAugust 7, 2019

Wonderful! God moves in mysterious ways- how special to be a part of that!

ImoAugust 7, 2019

I know now why you are so respectful of others even those below your station in life. I watched you keenly and closely at SVU and was touched by your humanity. Respect, brother.

SherrineAugust 7, 2019

Thanks for this. What a touching story. I have a great uncle who rode with Pancho Villa back in the day, and I believe his temple work has also been done, so this story touches close to home.

karell BinghamAugust 7, 2019

Wow, that is a great story. I will tell it to many people. I knew none of this! Thank you! Karell

Christine Jenkins HavensAugust 7, 2019

My grandmother, Lillian Cluff, was a young girl in the Colonies during Pancho's reign. The story she told of Pancho and his men was of the Latter-day Saints being driven out of Mexico, fearing for their lives as Pancho''s men took over their homes, food and livestock. I always understood him to be a bad man. It is interesting to hear "the rest of the story". Thank you.

DianeAugust 7, 2019

What an absolutely COOL story! The Gospel is not only TRUE, but it is for everyone, and it can change lives!

GeraldAugust 7, 2019

Wow! What a wonderful article.

Susan CarrollAugust 7, 2019

Fascinay, that after his Temple work was done, his historical image changed from despicable villain, to revolutionary hero!

Laurel Bishop NielsenAugust 6, 2019

Such a beautiful story. Makes me think of my ancestors that my children don’t know about. This has encouraged me to start writing down my memories

Marsha NewmanAugust 6, 2019

Thank you for this article. We can't tire in the fight to protect our children; they are our future and our thanks to a Heavenly Father for the priceless gift of life! If only we could teach our girls and women to understand the great privilege and responsibility they have in carrying forward humanity!

HalAugust 6, 2019

My wife and I saw this movie last weekend. Entertaining, but Hobbs & Shaw is so far over the top that it hits low-earth orbit. In contrast,we liked the more real feeling of The Fighting Preacher and The Other Side of Heaven better than Hobbs & Shaw, Spiderman, or even The Lion King. Maybe our tastes have changed, but we feel the recent releases of movies geared toward members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have been surprisingly refreshing when compared to the non-stop, pounding action of the Hollywood films.

Jared H.August 6, 2019

Thanks for the article. "However, to call a he a she, or vice versa, is a lie that some people just can’t perpetuate. " This has exactly been a major concern for me while in gov't service and factor in my decision to leave. I felt exactly as you described -- I would forced to lie in the name of political correctness. I feel we are increasing hemmed into a place where we are required to think and act a certain way, contrary to our natural rights and religion, yet it seems very little notice is taken of these 'flaxen cords' about our necks until it will be too late. The free ground to side step these issues is shrinking unless there is some form of "containment" (think Cold War) of the authority such ideas have over our lives. Isn't that worth struggling for? It is also disturbing that there seems so much willingness to (irrevocably) yield on principles in the name of peace-making. How is it that a real right, such as property rights (owners of housing and employment), are subject to unjust laws enforcing fabricated "equality" rights? Upon what grounds? What? Will we soon be told our purchases and other similarly voluntary engagements in society must also reflect that day's version of 'diversity' and 'equality'? Um, no. ...As was stated, there is no 'right' to 'validation'.

SamuelAugust 6, 2019

I had sex as a teenager, can I repent and still marry my partner, because I still love her

DeNile williamsAugust 6, 2019

I love his writings. Please continue publishing them from time to time. Thank you for this great media of truth - Meridian Magazine. I look for it in my e-mail daily!

DeNile williamsAugust 6, 2019

This article is so interesting and timely. I am going to print this out and review it often to help myself with over coming that evil one.

Jane Ann AndersonAugust 6, 2019

this story brought tears to my eyes but joy to my heart. This little one's life then brought life to other relatives who had gone on. I also have ancestors who I should write about so that my children will know them. Thank you for such a wonderful story and memory of ancestor discovery.

Ann BurrAugust 6, 2019

Sorry to hear of his passing. I will miss his new incites into the gospel my condolences to the family.

Lorraine QAugust 6, 2019

Oh great! Beginning the day with tears all over my face, but an equal overflow of love in my heart. Thank you for this touching story and important reminder.

Nihla W. JuddAugust 5, 2019

Go see The Fighting Preacher and watch what the miracle peace maker, Rebecca Bean, does with her pies.

J&W HintzeAugust 5, 2019

No. And glad to know we're not alone. Anxiously awaiting.

Sheri kowAugust 5, 2019

Have there been any talks on vaccines? Have an awful decision in my family due to a daughter choosing not to, and a daughter-in-law with crohn’s

LeahAugust 5, 2019

Lupine, thank you so much for your comments. I needed to hear it. I've gotten to the point of wanting to be active in church, but dreading attendance. I've experienced an outbreak of "awful comments" from LDS ladies in the past few years. It has been shocking! Not over a specific "lack" or event, just ME, who I am, how I talk. (??) I'm unsure. For example, one woman said, "When I saw you here, I thought 'I dont know how much (my name) I could take'!" I really want to go back to church and try again, especially since I moved and am in a new stake. I have a hard time staying past Sacrament. I prayed about it all and found this in 2 Peter 2:12 "...(they) speak evil of the things they understand not..." And your comments, Lupine, made me think I'm not alone. Thank you.

Kim HulbertAugust 5, 2019

Excellent article. Thank you for your research. Your justification and sanctification meanings are spot on and so insightful. So much food for thought. Can't wait for your next contribution.

Marlund HaleAugust 5, 2019

It's a wonder their feet are even touching the ground with that load-wheel placement!

Scott QuinneyAugust 5, 2019

As always Professer smith it spot on. Seek peace seek understanding.

Margaret VanNoyAugust 5, 2019

I know Steve! He is my cousin.I read Meridian all of the time. I was excited when I saw his name as a writer! This is the first time I have heard this story. I was not surprised because this the way Steve is. I was born with debilitating birth defects. He and another cousin,Judd King, have always been accepting, loving,caring and protective They are my only family in Utah. Whenever I need them they drop what they are doing and help. They give me blessings whenever I am sick or overwrought. I am blessed because of them.

cindyAugust 5, 2019

Two words in your testimony in your last paragraph stick out for me ... "I'll continue..." I think your Robyn is cheering you on from the other side as you "continue" . May you know that "Peace that passes all understanding."

Laurie C.August 5, 2019

Thank you for this timely and much-needed article. I appreciate this reminder that kindness, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, love, and a willingness to understand others can make all the difference.

Connie JensenAugust 5, 2019

I enjoy these podcasts so much Is there a way possible to download these so I can save them onto my flashdrive?


Thank you ever so much for your podcast . I'teaching the new testament at Porte des Alpes ward in Lyon France and even if I won't teach on the 11th of august Thanks to your podcast I can understand Paul's letter to Romans better and it will help me through all the week .I'm looking forward to next week podcast Elisabeth Conesa

Ken McGowanAugust 4, 2019

What a great story ! There are many stories such as this that provides evidence of the Lord’s involvement in our individual lives. When my wife and I served a mission in England 5 years ago our mission president visiting our assigned ward told the story of two missionaries then serving: Both had gone to visit an inactive sister who had not entered church for several decades. After allowing them into her home she immediately told them never to return and to tell their bishop to not send anyone again. Just as they were leaving one of the. Missionaries asked if they could sing a hymn before leaving. She reluctantly said yes. The following Sunday she came to church. Apparently - and not known by the elders - the hymn they sang was her favorite and, by happenstance, the hymn sung in church that Sunday was the same hymn. No one can ever tell me that the Lord is not in the details - the same One who notices the fall of a sparrow. What a testimony builder !

VivianaAugust 4, 2019

We listen to you every week...I think it's been wonderful for us to listen to the lesson and read it are great...We feel your sweet spirit and I've been sharing it with as many people that I could......Viviana...please keep doing this....thanks so much

Mark MathesonAugust 4, 2019

No other comments here?! That is so sad. The Proctors have given us some great material to ponder and shared with us several personal stories from their lives. We should be having a vigorous discussion based on what they said. I am using several of their points in my GD lesson today. Thank you Proctors for this podcast and transcription. May God keep your writings and insights going forth to the world for years to come.

Pamela RoderAugust 4, 2019

Thank you Daniel for sharing this. As always, your wit and intelligence shines through in staying ever steadfast against the mockers.

Karen S WrightAugust 4, 2019

Thank you.

Kenneth StevensAugust 4, 2019

British Methodist scholar Margaret Barker, on page 241 of The Great High Priest (T & T Clark, 2003), refers to a mother named "the 'almah" who would bear a son to be called Immanuel. She wrote "Literally 'almah means 'the hidden one..." Consider that Alma, who had fled from the servants of king Noah "hid in a place which was called Mormon." Book of Mormon, Mosiah chapter 18. In that situation, he was "a hidden one".

LyndonAugust 3, 2019

We sung a powerful rendition of this song in General Priesthood session in the Conference Center for the October 1915 General Conference. It is an all male version. So yes, it has been sung in General Conference.

Oscar Muñoz JrAugust 3, 2019

I agree with Dean A Davis. I would never use this video with a co-worker, friend or family member as a missionary tool. The idea should be sweet and short to the point: Where we came from, why we’re here , where we are going. Not for nothing, but using a paper and pencil, I have sketched out the plan of salvation many times over the years in an easier to understand fashion than the video. Even as a missionary I used to use “toy” cut-outs of spirit bodies, flesh bodies, earth, resurrection, etc to teach the plan of salvation that presented the idea in a more personal way. Sometimes I think in the name of progress, like newer fonts and designs, digitizing like Brother Davis says isn’t always effective. Just saying...

Marsha NewmanAugust 3, 2019

This is a great article and most families need it. Thank you!

Lawrence NielsenAugust 3, 2019

There are problems with the following statement: Ether 3 contains the prayer of the Brother of Jared in which he asks the Lord to help him provide light inside their barges so that his people will not have to cross the oceans in darkness. The first verse of this prayer is remarkably similar to Jonah 2, and this verse may have been modeled after the Psalm contained in the chapter. The Brother of Jared's pray was said long before Jonah prayer was written. Jonah's account was written after The Brother of Jared left The Old World. How could there "modeling after" by either party?

AyseAugust 3, 2019

I love your articles, they always hit the right nerve and give food for thought or peace and reassurance when needed. Thank you for putting into clear , sweet often humorous language the way God would have us be. You are one of my heroes for telling things as they are and how they would be better when we follow Christ. Xo

MiaAugust 3, 2019

Thanks for these wonderful insights. I am a sundays school teacher and I could say sometimes it is really tough, but whenever I read the insights of others, it helps me so much.

FrancisAugust 3, 2019

I wish someone would acknowledge the anger and betrayal he feels. I wish someone would have the ability to slip into this guy's shoes and feel the dark thoughts that will creep into his head at random times both day and night. (and for years to come) I wish someone could actually help him and not give disconnected advice that they themselves are safe and secure from this type of problem. I wish someone could acknowledge the lonely path he is on. If I could talk to him I would tell him... Take a deep breath this is going to hurt for a long time. Forgive on a daily basis. Carry this burden the best you can. Try not to lash out at her and especially yourself. Focus on the Savior and pray when those demons show up. In all reality you are the knight in shining armor who has saved a maiden in destress. Be the best Knight possible.

vickieAugust 2, 2019

I feel this man will never be comfortable unless he confronts his wife. he needs to do that with love. he needs to admit that he feels slighted that she didn't tell him up front. and it does matter whether she was caught in not telling him or she came forward with the info because she wanted him to know everything about her because she needs to feel safe and secure in his love. if these things are her reasoning then she is safe. but we don't know her reasoning for coming forward. people are different. her need could be a good one or not a good need. so I believe he does need to know more. and of course having an std would be awful. so I do not believe in secrets.

vickieAugust 2, 2019

I felt very lucky I never had the post partum depression. however its odd because I have a history of major depression and anxiety disorder..but not during or after having a baby. I have known women who were depressed the entire pregnancy and thought how sad that was. when she had that baby it was the opposite of what usually might happen. I have also known women who had babies and went through really bad postpartum. I also knew of a woman who continued for several years having post partum and she was treated and got well. we are all different. having a baby changes lives also changes the marriage situation. I think that how we feel depends on many factors....environment, hereditary, and just the body making changes can do that which is normal. I didn't know that women were ever asked about if they felt depressed. it must be a new thing because when I had my babies no one actually cared about it. im glad that its recognized now and help is available.

SamAugust 2, 2019

Maybe you should be grateful that this "old flame" was not smart enough to hang on to the treasure that you married. You are the prize.

Sue MAugust 2, 2019

What a great article! Having been through this six times, from my perspective, you described the 4th trimester quite accurately. I knlow it is different for each person, but this author really expressed a candid view of the many feelings that can arise during this wobbly time. Bless you for sharing those feelings with us. This may even help some daddy's get the picture! If ever you need their support, it is now.

Ana BlakeAugust 2, 2019

About twenty four years ago I had my first baby and so much of what you say in this article fits with how I felt then! It is SUCH a learning and growing and humbling experience to be a mother! After our first, I went on to have ten more wonderful children who have given me great joy and tremendous stretching experiences. My youngest is three now and sometimes I stop and wonder where all the time went? It goes slow and fast. You said “I’m starting to think motherhood might just always be an ongoing identity crisis where you’re constantly contending with how to do it all and what to let go of and who you are in the midst of it.” Yep. You nailed it.

Susan RoylanceAugust 2, 2019

Thank you for sharing your tender feelings.

Haze Kompelien, RNAugust 2, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this message. As a Labor & Delivery nurse I've often heard patient's express fear of being strong enough to go through labor. I always think "Sister, wait until you see how strong you are going to have to be to be a mother!" The fourth trimester with all of its challenges and changes is so often overlooked.

MaryannAugust 2, 2019

When we feel someone has "let us down," we can ask ourselves: "Have I ever let someone down?" If we are honest, the answer will be yes. Brings everything into perspective!

MaryannAugust 2, 2019

The article does not indicate if this woman previously went to church leaders and confessed her sin. If she did, I do not see why she would be under any obligation to tell her new husband.This happened before they met, and telling him now has only brought him heartache.

Maryann TaylorAugust 2, 2019

Dear Brother and Sister Proctor--You are helping me so much in teaching my gospel doctrine class. Thank you!!! I appreciate you, your testimonies, your insight, your time, and your willingness to share. It is a great blessing to me.

Dave HallAugust 2, 2019

What does the use of the name in 19th century America have to do with the language of the Nephites around 90 BC? Evangel's original complaint makes no sense. The whole answer is in Hugh Nibley's statement referenced in the article, "Alma is in fact an anciently attested Semitic masculine personal name." All this discussion about how the name was used in Joseph Smith's time, in my opinion, is a distraction.

Marti ScottAugust 2, 2019

Am I the only one who hasn't gotten the August Ensign yet?

Dave HallAugust 2, 2019

I would add one question to ask this man, and that is, did she share this information to you about this relationship voluntarily, or was she forced to admit it? If it was something like, "Honey, I have been bothered about this that I never told you . . ." I would think you need to have no other worries about her. To me, that shows character and true repentance. But if she was discovered and confronted about it, that's an entirely different matter, and I would worry about what else I might discover that she has concealed.

Michael Shea, MDAugust 2, 2019

What a fabulous reality check, told with love and humor and pathos mixed just right. As you go through more turning points in your life, keep a journal, write a book, tell the others what’s to be expected. Thanks for the article. And that’s a good baby you have there. Congratulations!

Dean A. DavisAugust 2, 2019

The art / graphics accompanying these articles is distracting to the message. Perhaps it's just because I'm older and more used to realistic type illustrations accompanying church produced articles. I rejoice for and celebrate some of the newer artists offering there visions and interpretations of scriptural and church history themes and characters but any of the digital, stick figure surrealistic type illustrations in church magazines or other church related publications dampers the message for me and makes it hard to relate to the purpose of the accompanying message.

VardellAugust 2, 2019

Great article! And thank you for including interpretation from great non LDS scholars like John MacArthur. His explanation of justification and sanctification is spot on. Paul gives us a great discourse of the doctrines of salvation, but the Book of Mormon gives us examples. The application of justification and sanctification is perfectly illustrated in the accounts of Alma and the people of King Benjamin. (And also Enos, Lamoni's father, the Lamanites in Helaman 5) Paul has explained that we are justified by our faith, not works. See how perfectly this is illustrated in the story of Alma. He was a wicked man, yet when confronted by an angel he suffered a painful repentance. Alma then merely thinks of Christ and mentally prays, "Jesus thou son of God, have mercy on me." (Alma 36:18) From this simple act of faith Alma is justified (born again, forgiven, changed to a state of righteousness) (Mosiah 27:24) The people of King Benjamin experience the exact same thing. Had Alma done years of good deeds and good works? No! So these are text book illustrations of justification and like Paul says, "therefore we conclude that a man is justified by faith without the deeds of the law." Good works do not earn salvation, but they will always follow one who is forgiven and changed by Christ.

DavidDAugust 2, 2019

Danged if you do, danged if you don't. I suppose the correct characterization is that (a) if "Alma" was known to be a man's name in Joseph Smith's time, then his work cannot be mocked for its use of the name; but (b) if it was not so known, then the use of the name in the work lends credibility to the work. Because of the importance of faith in our religion, I don't think that our Heavenly Father will ever allow the Book of Mormon to be incontrovertibly proved -- but it's sure fun watching the work pass the tests of both intelligent critics and biased scoffers.

Linda WAugust 2, 2019

It's good to be reminded of how it "really is" for a new mother -- how it is the best of times and the worst of times. It is also good to be reminded that we can all step up and do some little thing for someone else that will help ease their load and brighten their day. And don't we all need that! Congratulations, new momma! You're getting it right!

etAugust 2, 2019

I think it would add more validly if no men in Joseph's time were named Alma and that it was only in the Americas of the Book of Mormon times! It would also be cool to find the name in American Indian history before the Book of Mormon.

Douglas BagleyAugust 2, 2019

Excellent advice given here. If I could add 2 thoughts, they would be: 1. You married a loving person. Each of us wishes to be loved and have our love be the "right" love: lasting, faithful, trustworthy, honest, not hurtful, and sincere. Hey, she tried what she thought was the right thing in her past. Nothing wrong with trying. 2. When you courted her, you loved the person she is now. All of her prior relationships and experiences made her into the woman you love. If you could do it over again, and you knew about this particular relationship, would you marry her? or would you rather be alone. A good marriage is based on the now and planning future actions together to make her happier. Such a continuum is what makes marriages good. Read 1 Corinthians 10:13-14. FLEE IDOLATRY (substitute evil for idotatry). That includes thinking of the past which cannot be changed. But her past made her into the woman you love. Adore her for who she is. She knows her mistakes, be grateful she doesn't bring up yours. We all have them. But if you focus on the Savior's love and the atonement, shower her with all the best you can. Don't focus on the rearview mirror; focus on looking out the windshield and what's ahead for both of you. Best of luck to you.

Kathy EnsignAugust 1, 2019

Thank you! I copied many excerpts from this outstanding article into my journal tonight. Everything Diana Webb had writen and the fabulous resources she quoted gave me much to ponder and treasure, especially about justification and sanctification and the covenant nature of grace. I also was enriched by her exploration of the ancient Greek and Hebrew words involved in her research for Romans 1-6, especially "charis".

Melanie ThompsonAugust 1, 2019

My husband and I served a humanitarian mission in Cape Verde 4 years ago. The church is still growing at an unbelievable rate. We feel it was a great blessing for us that we were able to serve those wonderful people!

John T.August 1, 2019

Very helpful and insightful. Thank you.

Scott DawesomeAugust 1, 2019

You are an amazing example. I hope to meet you some day...

Don CottamAugust 1, 2019

Was it a Texaco station you cashed your check at? my father-in-law owned one of the two stations in Lovelock back then and it was a Texaco on the north end of town

Carol AnnAugust 1, 2019

Thanks for these ideas! We are enjoying writing our life stories right now. It can be overwhelming at times. One of the things that has helped me was creating a Timeline. I put personal events on the left, family/other events on the right, and dropped the years down the middle. I created it on Windows Publisher, and it is an incredible tool to keep things organized. Each page is a decade of my life! I've had to tweak it to get the correct dates for everyone. We have a large family with six children all grown now. I entered all family's births, baptisms, graduations, missions, weddings, Grandchildren's births, our employment and moves, Church callings, travels, etc. It's a treasure! I just wanted to share this really fun idea! Then, write memories in your life story from the timeline! I am placing the Timeline at the beginning of my life story. Adding photos on other pages is also very important for a meaningful life history. And, always remember to put names, dates, place, and a little short description to go with them. A scrapbook with photos and no notations is practically useless for a life story.

SPBAugust 1, 2019

My father was on a trip once, driving his Toyota Camry. He pulled off at a rest area and another couple was there with a Toyota Camry. They were looking everywhere for their car key -they had gotten out and been moving around and lost it somewhere. My dad had a feeling to try his key and it actually worked - their car started! He had an extra key so let them keep one and off they went.

Jen OberdorfAugust 1, 2019

You are an amazing man Steve!

Ron McMillinAugust 1, 2019

Great story, beautiful message. Enjoyed it very much.

JW ScottAugust 1, 2019

Sometimes we don’t even know the name of our friends. They wish us well, they pray for us, they give thanks for us, but we never know them save ‘the moment in time.”

Oscar Muñoz JrAugust 1, 2019

For me, writing a journal is very therapeutic. It allows me to “drain” so to speak all of the emotions, thoughts, and feelings that I might be experiencing on a daily basis. It is a personal form of expression, that allows me to better myself in thought and indeed. I started writing a journal back in the 1980s after I was baptized. I remember reading once that President Kimball said, just paraphrasing, that we should write and not hide any of our feelings as we journalize . Joseph F Smith also taught that we should not journalize from memory. I have often wondered who will read my journals? The generational gaps that exists, especially in the modern-day era of baby boomers, millennials, generation XYZ, all points to the hearts of the children turning to the fathers, at least I would hope in my own lifetime, haha. I have written 22 journals, 2 1/2 Book of Mormon journals, and have over six photo albums. “Nothing is ever wasted,“ as the missionaries say, and all I know is that for myself journalizing my life and my experiences have drawn me closer to the Savior Jesus Christ.

Randy A. MitchellJuly 31, 2019

Nice job on this article! I am not LDS but Messianic. I want you to know that the Sabbath was never changed to Sunday except by the Anti-Semitic Roman Catholic Church! The KJV reinforces this when in the Gospels and Acts they translate the Greek word Shabbat Shabbaton as the first day of the week. Shabbat Shabbaton was the cessation of the Shabbat when believers would gather for the Havdalah ritual. You may also want to know that when YHWH gave the Shabbat the Aleph-Tav was there, the Word who later became flesh. (think Alpha and Omega).

LupineJuly 31, 2019

Good grief! After 49 years in the church, I thought I’d heard every spiteful, nosy question/comment/piece of gossip that it was possible for many of our women (and men) to put out there. I say this having been through the whole kit ‘n caboodle of cultural insensitivity toward situations like childlessness, an inactive and mentally ill husband, widowhood, and then, being called a cougar on the prowl for daring to speak to younger, single guys. But these questions reported here hit the bottom level of cruelty. I respect Camille and Jared for allowing their names to be included in such a sensitive topic, yet fear they’ve opened themselves up to an even greater risk of mental peeping Tom behavior by so-called friends, total strangers, and of course, relatives. Personally, I would not and have not reported such detail on any topic for a published article, but to each his/her own . As I heard a brother in our ward comment a couple of weeks ago, “There’s a highway to hell but only a staircase to heaven. That tells you a lot about the volume of traffic that’s expected both directions.” In the church, we can likely replace “hell” with the Telestial Kingdom. There’s sometimes a cure for ignorance. They call it education. But there never has been and never will be a cure for stupidity. Please, brothers and sisters, put your brain in gear before engaging your mouth.

Tom ArmitageJuly 31, 2019

About 10 years ago my son and a sort of adopted son, his best friend, had set out on their journey to Utah from New England. They had been planning this for some time, had rebuilt the engines in their trucks for the trip. Somewhere in the middle of nowhere they stopped for fuel. They noticed a Latino family in a car sitting on the edge of the parking lot. They both felt impressed that they needed help so they went over and asked. They found out that the family had been there all day, spoke little or no English and the car would not start. My son's friend Sergio asked if he could sit in the drivers seat feeling impressed to do so. The car started right up. It had not been in park. No one had attempted to help and the problem was really not a problem at all but an insurmountable one for them. Hugs and tears were shared as this family was able to continue on their journey and "my" boys learned a powerful life lesson. Someday far in the future it will be wonderful to hear the rest of that story. I am convinced that good deeds, however small, reverberate through time.

John A Bennett, MDJuly 31, 2019

One of the joys of being 82 is knowing that I am close to meeting, in person, my grandfather, Armond Thomas Rose, who was killed by a drunk driver while serving as Bishop of the North Farmington Utah Ward. Hw was on his way to October 1924 General Conference when the accident occurred. I have always tried to honor his name and his lifetime of service. I am always amused when I realize he was one of the rowdy boys in the original Primary in the old Rock Church in Farmington. John A Bennett. Albuquerque, New Mexico

DMJuly 31, 2019

I agree with Leigh, Reasonable and gives him the choice to declare or not.

DMJuly 31, 2019

I love this story! Thanks for boosting my day.

LucieJuly 31, 2019

That story is so beautiful

AngelsingsJuly 31, 2019

A poignant, emotionally-moving true account. The older I become, the more convinced I am that some things which occur in life are not by happenstance. That these Tender Mercies are Divinely & purposefully orchestrated. Reflect back on things that have transpired in your own life & see if you don't agree.

Andrew CurrieJuly 31, 2019

As long as today's churches merely 'vote' on their doctrine to fit the current membership's whims, one would be a fool to have any confidence in such an organization. It's no different than having confidence in a religion devised by Congress--religious doctrine by committee! It's the Nicene Creed all over again!

Leigh SmithJuly 31, 2019

I think I would make an apt for a counselor (if for nothing else, your own piece of mind) and then give him the message of when the apt is. Also tell him you have made every effort to try to save your relationship and you deserve an explanation for his behavior. in other words, closure. His behavior is unacceptable and you deserve at the least an explanation for it and a release from the relationship, so you can begin to heal and move on. Give him a date by when you need to hear from him/see him face to face, etc or you will move on. Then stick to it. I have been married for 40 years and that is my advice. That is what I would tell my daughter or friend.

Leigh Ann SmithJuly 31, 2019

Thanks for sharing this story so much. There is an expectation for the perfect honeymoon, especially if you have waited and done everything "right." Rex, thanks for sharing your comments. It is true that in a long term marriage, sexual relationship/abilities vary & change and are not consistent for many reasons. I have heard of this girls condition and I wonder at several doctors examining her before and after marriage & not suspecting her having the problem and being more helpful sooner. That is sad. I have had a miscarriage, and so have some of my daughters in law, so I am sensitive about that (but never knew how traumatic they could be until I had one) My husband had prostate cancer and that can be extremely life changing & traumatic surgery/treatment for men/couples and no one talks about it at all hardly. The more we reach out to each other and share our experiences, the less alone we feel and the more we can help each other.

JeanJuly 31, 2019

Every bride-to-be should have an appointment with a gynecologist several weeks before marriage. Often very minor surgical procedures can make the all the difference in the joy and satisfaction of those first sexual and sacred intimacies.

Larry SJuly 31, 2019

Paul H. - IMHO, I think you might be thinking of Roman or some other architectural style of the times, with peaked roofs. Housed in Judea at that time tended to have flat topped roofs, with cisterns for catching rain water, and with external stairs to easily reach the roof. It was customary to spend significant amounts of time up there to eat, socialize and relax, especially in the cool of the evening when the breezes off the ocean brought reliev from the heat of the day. Therefore, I don't find it at all unusual for Peter to have been on the roof, meditating or contemplating things of the Spirit.

Maryann TaylorJuly 31, 2019

Your story reminds me of the loss of my sister-in-law, coincidentally also named Robin. She, too, had breast cancer which also later went to the bones. She was only 35 and died at the age of 39, leaving 4 young children. This left a huge hole in our family. Robin was committed to the Savior and his teachings. She had a very dynamic personality and was so much fun! Our family is so incomplete without her. It was very hard to understand what could have possibly been more important than for her to remain and mother her children. I don't know why she wasn't healed, but I put my trust in the Lord. I believe one day we will all understand why these things happen and that he will consecrate all of our suffering to bring about greater blessings than we can even imagine. What a joyous occasion it will be to embrace our loved ones again!

Carol J. ReynoldsJuly 31, 2019

A wonderful story told by a wonderful, caring man! Let's all follow his fine example and help others whenever we can.

GDWJuly 31, 2019

Excellent comparisons. You may know that 'sheet' as you alluded to can be a sail and thus the famous knot - the sheet-bend. Check it out.

Tracy WareJuly 31, 2019

Thank you Camille for being brave enough to share something so personal. I just wanted to cry reading about you feeling shame and loneliness. I am glad you are giving a voice to this, and hope to other women. I remember after having my first child, and thinking I was nursing so well, only to find out my son had failure to thrive, and had lost too much weight. I, apparently, did not produce any milk. No one in my entire life had ever said there were some women who could not produce milk. I tried so many things to encourage my body to produce food for my baby, only to have it fail each time. I was miserable, and felt like I failed. But I realized, formula was great!! Bottles were wonderful. And a healthy, living baby was far more important than nursing. I had many people ask why I wasn't nursing, and I decided to make my voice heard. Of course there were many who gave suggestions I had already tried...I just smiled. You would be surprised how many women started telling me they couldn't nurse either. How had I never heard that before. It was just not talked about. Now I tell every young woman I know that you are not a failure if you can't nurse. You can still bond with your child, you can still have those tender moments together....but now dad can too. Just as mothering is more than breast feeding, intimacy is more than sex. Camille and Jared, you have learned from the beginning what most people take years to figure out. Powerful intimacy is having a deep understanding, and love of each other. I wish you two all the best. Please know you are not broken. My heart and prayers are with you both.

DonnaJuly 31, 2019

EVERY prospective virginal bride should meet with a gynecologist for an examination to determine whether simple vaginal surgical procedures should be performed early enough before marriage to avoid the pain and/or discomfort of the first sexual relationship and to experience the supreme joy that can be theirs. DO NOT feel embarrassed to read and study literature on this subject. PREPARE YOURSELF for what can be a holy experience.

KarenJuly 31, 2019

Thank you so very much for sharing your tender story as it has touched my heart profoundly. Our family has moved across the United States several times and I have witnessed many tender mercies and miracles. Heavenly Father is so loving to His children. You story reminded me that we need to look for opportunities to be His hands and serve those in need.

Lana WellsJuly 31, 2019

While reading this story, I was prompted to turn my thoughts to the young women of the church. I watch the young women as they make conscious decisions to establish a career instead of falling in love. They want success in the world before success as a loving wife and a nurturing mother. The family is crumbling before our eyes so the words of J. Richard Clarke in this article ring out loud and strong to me, "Men guard the church and help in the home, but women guard the home and help in the church." We must be that force that nurtures family, friends and neighbors. It is possible our young women could save the world's families?

BruceJuly 31, 2019

I sit here in tears as I contemplate what you and your precious daughter and others went through. How many times has your experience in different ways touched the lives of others similarly tried? Your story describes so well the experiences which are so many and so varied but, perhaps, don't carry the magic quality of faith and hope and knowledge of life's realities as yours does. I have lost two lovely, honorable wives in my lifetime. I live, but would prefer to die to be with them, yet my family needs me to help them to understand and have hope in their own lives. So what brings sorrow to one brings hope to another. Your willingness to tell your story is a potent reminder of the reason why we come to this earth in the first place. Thank you

Jim scottJuly 31, 2019

Sister Arveseth, a great blog to Romans, I appreciate your efforts to help us, especially with our kids. I like Rom 1 for the perspective of applicability to our day with the rebellion of members to sound doctrine. The last part of chapter 1 seems to address our ills and those things we can easily rationalize by virtue of public popularity of the day. The legalization of gay activity and same sex marriage seems to negate the Lord’s position on morality. We shouldn’t be fooled by the situational ethics that tyranny of the majority makes “me” more important than the commandments of the Lord. The litany of rebellion written in the last part of chapter one is a castigation of what’s popular today. Family members should be taught and exhorted that these are to be avoided if they want total justification.

ChuckJuly 31, 2019

I love the way the Lord works! I have seen this happen over and over in my own life!

JulesJuly 31, 2019

When my husband was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s he was given a Priesthood blessing by our Bishop in which he was told that the Lord did not want his family to suffer and was willing to work a miracle in his behalf. Four years later he was dead. Now, working as a Hospice Chaplain, I have come to understand what a miracle it was that Jeff never forgot his family, his physical strength remained until the last week of life, he never lost his pleasant personality or his constant smile. My ways are not your ways and my thoughts are not your thoughts saith the Lord. God has taken care of me and Jeff continues to be a blessing to his family. God is in control and it will all make sense when we are able to see as He sees and know as He knows. My love goes out to all of you who are grieving. May the Grace of the Lord Jesus Christ provide you with comfort and strength.

Chuck ChamberlainJuly 31, 2019

I believe the advice given in this article and would add one caveat. We should never assume to know the motivations behind someone's behavior. In the case of this husband, the "message" manifested by his behavior could be something other than what it appears, and the wife should be open to new information when it becomes known. For instance, perhaps the husband had been in a serious accident and therefore unable to respond.

Charles DefranchiJuly 31, 2019

As for Martin Harris losing the BoM manuscripts, the Lord knew what to do about it thousands of years earlier. Fourty years ago, I got a French roomate at BYU by the name of Thierry. We became instant friends, and I was a witness at his wedding to a German BYU Co-Ed seven months later. Three years ago, I became severely ill and was incapacitated for a year. In a City that counts 12 million inhabitants (Paris, France), fate had it that I moved within five minutes of Thierry's home. He had just retired, and did stand as be the best possible support I could ever dream of, giving me priesthood blessings, and coming to visit me and comfort me in an inspired way almost every day. Fourty years ago, the Lord knew that I would some day need help from someone like him, and everything was planned accordingly.

KarenJuly 31, 2019

Loved that!! How nice for you to have that experience, and to recognize the hand of the Lord.

Alexander ForsythJuly 31, 2019

Stories such as this cause me to tear up, and make my heart joyful. Please include more of these testimonies.

SandyJuly 31, 2019

I love to hear how people respond to the Spirit to touch the lives of others. Thanks for sharing this tender, beautiful experience.

Lorena HolmsteadJuly 31, 2019

That's a beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing. I love the Lord and His tender mercies.

Gladys SJuly 31, 2019

Thanks Camille! I'm proud of you.

Alicia B.July 30, 2019

Thank you both for being willing to be a “witness of all things” even something so very hard and personal. I believe that the more people will be REAL, the more comfortable we all can feel with our unique experiences in this life. Thank you for doing your part to help people feel safer to just be exactly who God made them to be. What greater good could there be? I hope and pray you will be able to find a permeant resolution as quick as possible.

DMJuly 30, 2019

I add my voice to all these comments. Thank you for sharing—so brave. There are dear people in my own family that went through something very similar. Also found a facility in NY that really helped them. I was saddened to find out about their difficulties but glad they sought help. Your article helped many, I am sure.

Amy GerberJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful article! I think we met a couple of times when you visited our WA ward. Robyn and I were in the Primary Presidency together, our children were friends, and she is a remarkable woman. My heart breaks as I read this- knowing she was one of the healthiest, thoughtful, kind and faithful ladies I have known. I hope your strength and commitment to the gospel continue to buoy up her children and their families. I believe that you will be together again. ❤️

vickieJuly 30, 2019

as I see this happening esp the unborn live babies...they are murdered ...destroyed...its man's inhumanity to man and to me that is a sign that the 2nd coming has to be close. we all love babies...yet not we but there are those who wouldn't mind destroying them can that be...and there is only one answer..satan...he plants these thoughts in the minds of man...and women who want to kill their own children....we have seen how some mothers have murdered their own live sad....all we can do is pray....and sometimes take part in our government to prevent abortion ...however, even then there are those who will seek it out and that is what I think many parents are afraid of....that their daughter will seek out abortion in some dirty back alley and she herself die from it. so instead they legalize it so its in the open and accepted by law and health clinics spring up to take care of the matter and to get gain...what we can do is teach our children and set a good example to them and others...and we have to speak out about this....that it is wrong.

vickieJuly 30, 2019

this is so beautiful....I have an older daughter who is turning 49...she is my only daughter as I have 4sons....I use to say I couldn't handle if any of my children died young....esp as babies....but I now feel at any age when a child passes before the parents...its a very hard pill to swallow. God bless this woman in her faith and her daughters faith. also my own thinking is that maybe God wanted them to think she was going to be healed so they would have the ability to carry on...instead of the feelings of giving up. imagine if the blessings said sorry you are not going to make it...I cant imagine what would have been felt and what would have been done. I believe God gives us hope and the desire to continue in faith....for some reason I believe that is the only answer the LOrd could give to the priesthood....all needed that hope...the family and the daughter...look how much they accomplished living in that hope...its wonderful....God bless this family and thank you for your life story....

Shaunna TonelliJuly 30, 2019

Having been married to a professional musician for 20 years, we often discussed how the performance degree musicians get in college falls short of actually teaching a performer how to have a career in music. My husband did his doctoral dissertation about entrepreneurship in music to hopefully help fix that problem. The short answer from me (the wife) is that you must think of your sons career like a table top and your son will always have four or five table legs (representing varied streams of income) needed to hold it steadily firm. The more legs he adds, the sturdier it will be. When we were first married Mark had been a professional performer for 7 years and we were able to live on his income. Some of his streams of income were cd sales, gigs, teaching private lessons, teaching as a college adjunct, publishing articles in music magazines and journals, writing and selling arrangements, etc. it was all music related work. If you are worried about your son working hard, I can assure you, it was hard work with long hours, and the hardest part might be generating/finding the work, but it’s doable. He will have to make his own career - if he’s driven he can do it. The biggest challenge we faced was finding affordable health care. We ultimately solved that problem through my employment, but when our children were born, I began staying home, so Mark auditioned for a military band and was hired as the guitarist for the band at the West Point US military academy. If your son is willing to go through basic training, the military does have some great opportunities for musicians. After my husband left the band, he joined Millikin University in Decatur, IL, which has a heavy emphasis on student-run ventures (experiential classes) in which students get hands on experience running performance related businesses while they major in music. I might also add that even though my husband is the head of Millikin’s Guitar program, he still performs on a regular basis, records music, and publishes guitar instructional books. Having multiple income streams will always be part of a musician’s career. Hope it helps to know it can be done.

Diane CarterJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing the story of your daughter and her valiant fight. I too have battled breast cancer. I am a 26 year survivor. We had two sons, both were hemophiliacs or bleeders. When they were little HIV came onto the scene. When they were tested in 1985 both had been infected with this horrible disease. Our older son has been able to survive, but our younger son passed at the age of 21. He seemed to catch everything from the time he was about 3 years old. When he received his Patriarchal Blessing it told us that he would serve a mission and have a family. He received many blessings and the were in a positive light but the Lord had other plans for him. He passed at the age of 21 suffering with any ailments. He had pneumonia, fluid around the heart, he had nocardia another lung disease that made his lungs look like they had ground glass in them and a fungus that had eaten through his ear drum into his brain. The fungus was so rare that there was only one other person in the US that had it and they had purchased all the available medication for her and they no longer manufactured that medicine here in the US as there was no call for it. He was such a model patient and touched so many lives. When he was 12 one of his nurses asked him if he was angry about his condition? He replied that he wasn't angry and it was just something he had to go through. One of his nursed said that she had had many patients that professed to be a certain religion, but Marty was the only one that she knew that truly lived his religion. One of his nurses stated that they each had had pieces of Marty implanted within them where they continue to bloom and grow. When he passed at 21 we gave him a missionary farewell and gave out copies of the Book of Mormon with his picture and testimony in them. To date we have given out about 1900 copies and I have requests for more. We have seen many conversions to the gospel. We have received great comfort from reading D & C 138:57 I beheld that the faithful elders of this dispensation, when they depart from mortal life, continue their labors in the preaching of the gospel of repentance and redemption, through the sacrifice of the Only Begotten Son of God, among those who are in darkness and under the bondage of sin in the great world of the spirits of the dead. We discovered that Patriarchal Blessings continue on through the next step of life. So Marty is completing his mission on the other side of the veil. As a mother I could not have asked for a more wonderful son and payday came a few days before the Lord took him home. I was rubbing his feet and asked him if there was anything he had ever done that he needed to take care of? He thought and thought and responded, "Not that I can think of." Could I as a mother have asked anything more, if I could live my life to be able to report to the Lord that I had nothing to repent of how glorious would y homecoming be. I try to live my life to be as clean as he was when I am called to report.

Cristie SmithJuly 30, 2019

I had the privilege & honor to know Robyn. I met her & her family when my daughter & I moved into their ward. She was & will always be an inspiration to me. Her faith was incredible. Seeing her pictures in your beautiful story makes me smile, remembering her amazing love of life & faith in our Heavenly Father. Thank you for writing this story. It is the perfect reminder of your amazing daughter.

Jorge HernandezJuly 30, 2019

It's very sad story, I know that kind of pain and suffering in my own experience after my mother passed away of disseminated cancer. Take time to overcome our grief but our comfort and blessings still continue pouring from our Heavenly Father, sometimes it's hard to understand the " why's, me, yes or no. Our faith, hope and love bring to us His Grace and His infinit atonement to offer with gratitud our prayers in find peace in Him.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for this article. My heart is full for your family.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 30, 2019

Great articles. It seems as there is a strong movement in the world to destroy families. We all need to speak out in respect for families.

pamela Morgan roderJuly 30, 2019

If this weren’t so tragic, it would be utterly preposterous and laughable.

EmilyJuly 30, 2019

I am so proud of Camille and Jared for being willing to share. I admire their relationship and what a powerful positive force they are even just through their social media. And I feel such joy in knowing the individuals that will be encouraged and comforted through their willingness to share.

HelenJuly 30, 2019

The day before my daughter died grim Metastatic Breast Cancer, similar to your daughter's, I requested a Priesthood blessing from my Ministering brethren. In that blessing she was told she would heal. The healing was not for her but for those who loved her. She died the next morning, in her fiance's arms. She has not even been able to hear his longed-for proposal the day before. Father knows what is needed the most.

BobJuly 30, 2019

To Brad, hope you don't feel picked on. It is very hard to be patient when everyone encourages patience, and you are in the throes of anxiety and depression. If you are patient and believe or desire to believe, it will come. I suffered these things off and on most of my life and finally found Christ's overwhelming joy in my forties. Definitely worth the struggle and the wait. When I read your comment I remembered a very inspired blessing I gave to an elder who appeared like your comments. The Spirit took over; it was a beautiful blessing. The Spirit told him that what he was experiencing was by design and encouraged him to hold on and be strong and patient, that his experiences were developing him to help many many others, in his future, whom most would be unable to help; but that he would because of his experience and struggle and strengthening. I am from Louisiana. We cook. Life is a gumbo with hours of preparation and is at its best the next day. Don't make life a microwave meal. They are barely sustenance and just not that good. By the way try a little potato salad in your gumbo; it's really good.

Pattie SkousenJuly 30, 2019

How sad it must be to loose a daughter, especially from cancer. Cancer is so devastating on the body. Your daughter must have been a real "trooper" to have gone through so much. She is still your daughter, we are all families in the hereafter and are truly blessed to enjoy our family again when this earthly life is done. I lost my mother to breast cancer 3 years after they found it. I developed breast cancer and was afraid that I would die 3 years after my diagnosis. As you can tell, I didn't die and I have been extremely blessed to have lived 12 additional years. I can't tell you why some live longer and some don't; but I do know that we have a loving Heavenly Father who knows all and what is best for all of us. I have a strong testimony of the gospel and want it to grow everyday. May the Lord bless you in your trials.

JeffreyJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for writing and sharing your thoughts and insights regarding your daughter's life and death.

TiffanyJuly 30, 2019

This is a beautiful sorry. It feels very similar to mine. My mom was diagnosed with cancer at age 29. When my dad gave her a blessing he told her "you will be ok." She was gone a year later. As an adult when I was told about the blessing I asked my dad what he thought. He replied, "she is ok." Our perspective as mortals can cause us to doubt. But if we can be enlightened to a heavenly perspective our understanding deepens. Recovery, being ok, they're all part of the atonement. That's the healing that matters most.

HannaJuly 30, 2019

Loved the article, thank you!

LeahJuly 30, 2019

I've had that experience of praying mightily that a loved one will recover, that they will LIVE. I even received the warm comfort from the Spirit which I interpreted to mean I would receive that for which I asked...So when Death came, it was devastating until I realized...he does live, just at a new address. He went to his Heavenly Home, with his "real" parents. And then we realize that God sees the big picture. His thoughts are higher that ours. I've learned to be very cautious when I "interpret". I often dream of loved ones who have passed. Sometimes the dreams are vivid. Often they are comforting.



Kareen T ChristenJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing this. We lost our beautiful 36 year old daughter in law in 2014. She was the mother of 4. What you described was almost exactly the same path she took trying to fight this insidious disease. She also held out hope til the very end because of the blessings she received. She was a precious sweet girl and had a lot of faith as did your daughter. I still weep when I think about the pain and suffering she went through, but am lifted up thinking how she bravely lived her life as though she would be here many years more to raise her children.

Linda G.July 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing this. I went through a similar trial with a very faithful and loving husband. He never once complained and although he didn't want to leave us he humbly accepted the Fathers will. Me not so much, but as the years have passed I too have come to understand, accept and hope. I have learned and grown so much from going through this and truly believe this was a way and blessing for me to become more than I ever knew I could be. Again, thank you.

ErikJuly 30, 2019

My deepest condolences. While this may not be of any consolation given your loss, D&C 42:48 makes quite clear that blessings only “work” when the receiver is not “ordained unto death”. The few verses before that one are comforting.

Mary BJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing this message about your beautiful daughter and the hope the gospel gives to us all.

Melissa MarkhamJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for your faith and your honesty. Your story helped to provide clarity for me about a similar situation.

Deb LeggeJuly 30, 2019

Reading your article was the first thing I did this morning. I just sat and cried over your last paragraph. I loved your honesty about the struggle and hanging on to that small particle of “hope”. When I was a naive 29 year old, my best friend at the time was struggling with cancer. In her blessings she too was told she would be healed. We used to hash over these words as her cancer got worse and when she died my faith was shattered. That was around 31 years ago. Since then I’ve had my own bout with cancer, breast like your daughter’s. I was terrified to have a blessing knowing how easily they can be misinterpreted, but I did and was told my time on earth was to continue for I had more to learn. It’s been 10 years. As I’ve pondered your daughter’s blessing, those exact words turned her into the fighter she was right to the end. So so hard to trust the source through our limited vision, especially as continued prayers go unanswered for children and other loved ones. You have given my spirit a needed boost, thank you! What a reunion we will all have at journey’s end!

DianeJuly 30, 2019

I am so very sorry about the loss of your daughter, but thank you for sharing this beautiful story. It reminds me of an article when Elder Bednar met with Elder Maxwell years ago and this was said: “During the course of our conversations that day, I asked Elder Maxwell what lessons he had learned through his illness,” Elder Bednar said. “I will remember always the precise and penetrating answer he gave. ‘Dave,’ he said, ‘I have learned that not shrinking is more important than surviving.'” Your daughter most definitely did not shrink! Bless you all.

Donna L LeavittJuly 30, 2019

This article lifted me. Thank you for your faith in God's plan. What a joyful reunion it will be when you see your daughter again.

Jan KingJuly 30, 2019

It was a huge leap of faith which had brought us to my husband's new work assignment. He had gone off to the job, and our son to school. As I looked out across the bleak frozen landscape of Bethel AK that January morning, I spoke a soft plea to Heavenly Father for confirmation of this choice. At that moment the sun broke through the clouds in the distance for the first of many breath taking sunrises in that place....and I said, "that will do, thank you dear Father!"

Eric ChaseJuly 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing such a personal story. It touched me deeply and was just what I needed at this time in my life.

Erika P.July 30, 2019

Well, maybe all of these aborted children will assemble in the afterlife and remind the governor about what he prevented, there could be Nobel Price winners, doctors, musicians, lawyers and even governors among them. Will he then still feel that cats are more important than humans?

AprilJuly 30, 2019

Your story and mine are the same. Cancer is evil. I too lost my daughter to BC. She was 32. She had children who were 8 and 5. The loss has taught me so much about Heavenly Father and myself. My testimony of Christ never waivered. But I was mad that she was gone and that she had to suffer. It has been 6 years since her death. I miss her every day. I know she is OK and that she is watching us from where she is now. May God bless you as you struggle with grief. Your Robyn loves you now and will always love you.

JulieJuly 29, 2019

THANK YOU! I've had two friends who have had to go through similar situations. How our bodies work and things that can go wrong with intimate situations definitely need to be discussed more. And I would estimate that probably 70% of the people at church have serious problems they're struggling with. But like you, they put on a happy face when they're in public. Just being kind and inclusive is so important. Thank you for sharing your story. That was very brave.

JulieJuly 29, 2019

What a great light-hearted discussion about listening, which is something I'm working on being better at. I love that you poke fun of yourself. Finding humor in situations is a great way to help relieve tension during serious discussions.

MucumsJuly 29, 2019

Very good article

PaigeJuly 29, 2019

Sis, i know I’ve told you a million times today but I am so incredibly proud of you for summoning up the courage and vulnerability to publicly share your story. You are not alone and these comments are evidence of the powerful impact you are already having for others. I hope that you will find some healing in sharing your experience. Thank you for being an example of resilience and a bright beacon of bravery.

Kara DunkelJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for writing this article and a huge thank you to Camille and Jared for courageously sharing such a difficult trial in their lives. Most of us face private Goliath's that The Lord shares intimately with us. Disappointing to learn that doctors aren't listening to such sensitive and important concerns. The emotional challenge of changing our thought process from "forbidden" to "approved" in it self is something we should address more in our LDS culture. Also, in our culture is a sense of a marriage license being a license to have intimate relations rather than the promises and covenants to share life together in love and potentially bring spirits from heaven into our home to support, love and nurture. Thankfully we can turn to Him and trust His timing and healing powers to overcome the shame and embarrassment the world's views can inflict on our hearts and souls. Thank you for reminding us of the sacredness of these relations and the importance of patience, compassion and support in our marriage relationships with or without physical intimacy.

P. RockwellJuly 29, 2019

Very insightful. I really enjoy these articles. Thank you.

Jo Ann OJuly 29, 2019

I feel that she is a very brave person to tell her story. I had never heard of this condition, and I am glad to know about it now. I pray that she will get better and that she can have a life with intimate relations. Bless her husband for standing by her. I learned a long time ago not to ask about these things and not to ask if people are going to have children. We never know what the situations are for others. Again, thank you for this article.

LindaJuly 29, 2019

Who is asking such personal questions? Wow, I never had anyone ask but my sister who has no boundaries and she was told it was none of her business. What culture? Maybe it depends on where you live? I'm so sorry people were that invasive into your personal life. Also I was warned about taking it slow and so warned my kids about taking time to get intimate to the point of sex. Thanks for sharing.

daiseedebJuly 29, 2019

My heart breaks for you. I don't know why there are these silly expectations in life from others, as we know life is not a fairy tale. Some may try to state their life is a fairy tale, though realistically I suspect or is not. The sexualization of our culture portrays sex in a fantasy realm. It has damaged our culture beyond repair. This is a difficult experience for you and your husband which will prepare you for more difficult times. You have the advantage now that you have both gone through such a difficult time. I see your strength and wisdom as well as compassion for others, as a wonderful trait coming from this trial. You and your hubby are remarkable people. Thank you so much for sharing this painful story with others (which I am sure was difficult in itself) so others can understand and learn compassion as you have. Bless you two wonderful kids!

Jan K.July 29, 2019

Bless you both!! If only I could have read this 40 years ago. Through the years of tears and tender mercies I have come to learn and more importantly deeply understand that I am a beloved daughter of God and am blessed with a husband who has patiently and lovingly walked and supported me through a similar trial, my own path from which to learn. I echo the words of Elder Ballard.

Mr. Leonard H.July 29, 2019

Dwell in the physically clean holy places on the land parcels of Jacob or on the mountain lots of Ephraim. Obedience first.

Earthly ParentsJuly 29, 2019

Camille, thank you for being courageous enough to speak out. Your story will help others feel less alone. Too many just suffer in silence or give up on sex completely. It's important for newlyweds to know on the honeymoon that if the bride is experiencing pain, STOP. Intercourse is not supposed to be painful. It may just be that technique needs to be better (a woman may need 20 minutes or more of stimulation before intercourse is pleasurable).Or the pain may be a medical condition like yours that needs medical attention. The wife may need to train her body to feel comfortable with touch. So don’t make the trauma worse. There may be a few weeks of touch training and dilators or more treatment resistant cases such as yours. The couple may enjoy something else sexual if intercourse is painful. Nobody has to have intercourse on a honeymoon. It's more important not to have a traumatic experience and to get to know each other.

DJJuly 29, 2019

Much more shocking than this medical condition is that people (and it sounds like many!) would ask such personal questions. I was certainly never asked, or have asked, such an intimate thing. Might she have misinterpreted a general question of "how was your honeymoon" (after all, a trip to Peru sounds pretty great) to "how was the sex"?

Earthly ParentsJuly 29, 2019

I wrote the book And It Was Very Good for Latter-day Saints to help through the honeymoon (and beyond). The PDF version is free from me at [email protected]

Cindy WoodJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for sharing such a personal experience! You will never know how many people you have touched through this article. I love that we need to stop the judgement and realize that everyone has a unique path. Asking someone when they are getting married or when they are having a baby is none of their business ...we need to use more appropriate ways to communicate ...May Heavenly Father bless you in your path!

HalJuly 29, 2019

The Fighting Preacher was a wonderful movie! We are delighted to see so many well done motion pictures depicting lives of Latter-day Saints. It is truly a fulfillment of President Kimball's admonition decades ago that members of the Church should create wholesome and uplifting entertainment in the form of music, printed material, and movies to counter the drivel that so often comes from the world. We've noticed that these wonderful books and movies are even having a positive influence on mainstream media. We have seen several movies that have had much less foul language and sexual content than we used to see in similar films in years past. Keep up the good work!

Trudy EleyJuly 29, 2019

People need to realise that what goes on behind closed doors is nobodies business except the husband and wife. Too often far too many details are shared with the world. As far as comments regarding the birth of children coming into a couples life is also way out of line. The church being a family oriented church makes comments so hurtful for those who may be facing challenges in these areas of their lives. People need to mind their supposed well meaning business.

Paul HJuly 29, 2019

I think maybe there is some speculation in this article as the scriptures said Peter went to the housetop or roof to pray. Houses at that time were the shape of a U with a second story at the base and a single story on the two sides, which became an occupiable roof. Why was he there? To pray, and he wan an hungered, so my speculation is that he was praying on a Fast Sunday. Many of the great revelations were given on a Sunday. See for example the Book of Revelation itself where John said he "was in the Spirit on the Lord's Day..." By reading the three preceding chapters of Acts you can see why Peter was in that location and not abiding in Jerusalem. I think he had more on his mind than looking out across the oceans at the sails of ships.

Luana WellsJuly 29, 2019

Someone dear to me could have written this, in fact she wrote a term paper and was asked to present the material in her professor's other class. She frequently was asked why she was'nt 'pregnant already,' and even once was asked "why do you come to Relief Society, you don't have children?" These hurts are deeply personal. As Sisters and Saints we need to be far more sensitive to those around us. Such questions have no business being asked.

Charlie HarperJuly 29, 2019

We are all imperfect and fall short of the glory of God.

Kindred sisterJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for sharing this! I suffered with vaginismus for years early in my marriage and can totally relate to camille's story! I found a treatment center in New York that are experts in vaginismus and vulvodynia. They cured me completely over 10 years ago. Please let me know if she'd like more information!


I sometimes feel like I belong to a different church!! I cant believe anyone would ask questions about your wedding night, your sex life or when we're you going to start having babies??!!! I don't know how anyone even dares to hint at those kind of questions! It doesn't happen here in our branch.

BrynneJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for being brave enough to share your story, Camille! You are an example of courage, faith, and strength to everyone.

Linda WestoverJuly 29, 2019

While my situation was not as extreme as Camille's, I can definitely relate from our experience with infertility. People's "innocent" comments can be so hurtful. So I've tried to live by this standard: "Ours is not to question why; ours is to love them till we die." Not easily done, but surely the kinder path.

KatelynnJuly 29, 2019

Thank You for this.

Paul HJuly 29, 2019

I got married in my mid-late 30's and people would wonder why I didn't get married sooner. Some sisters in our singles ward announced once that any brother "not married by age 25 must be gay." You can imagine how that went over with my friends and me. My brother, before we were married, wanted to know my views on intimacy and birth control. I told him that since I was sin gle I didn't need to share those thoughts. When he wanted to know why I didn't date and marry girl "x" I asked if he married who he wanted and when he wanted. When he replied "Yes, I did" to both questions, I stated "Please allow me the same privilege." After our honeymoon when we were alone he started asking for details and I said "You've been married 17 years longer than me, so you already know everything about which you are asking from your own experience." My daughter gave birth when married two years, then suffered a bout of infertility that lasted 5 years. She had to endure countless questions of "When are you having another child?" I told her to either ignore the question, or say "That's up to the heavens" or to change the subject. People are NOSY about things that are, frankly, NONE of their business. That wouldn't be so bad but they are extremely insensitive about it, too. I don't entertain their inquiries and satisfy their curiosity about things that really won't matter to them one bit. I'm glad the person found medical help. I wouldn't feel to share my personal intimacy issues in an article because it's really a "personal thing." And I know several that have had fertility problems they have explained, but I never broach the subject. If they care to discuss it they can mention it first as I won't be bringing it to the forefront.

MistiJuly 29, 2019

I am so proud of her for not being anonymous!!!!! That takes such courage! I love that she did it for the sake of others who are looking for hope & less shame! Life is an adventure! That’s all I can say when things just don’t make sense because so many things in life just don’t for now. Btw I know of someone who this very thing happened to & she did some procedures & it worked out for them & they now have a beautiful family. Much hope for this cute couple too ❤️❤️❤️

mam262July 29, 2019

This was my experience when I was first married, and it took about 8 years for the physical pain to go away, and much longer for the emotional pain to lessen. In my case, it was compounded by close in-law family members being completely indiscreet about their very enjoyable intimate life, leading by husband to compare me to my sister-in-law and feel even more disappointed himself by the hand we'd been dealt. I wish this were more talked about. It caused so much heartache and made unrealistic and uneducated expectations for how a marriage should begin and evolve that much more difficult to sort through when things didn't turn out the way we'd expected.

RexJuly 29, 2019

Thank you for this article not only does this happen at the first of a marriage but due to medical situations that can come on anytime in a marriage physical intimacy can become difficult or impossible and it changes the marriage dynamics

AnonymousJuly 29, 2019

Michaela, thank you for writing this and Camille thank you for your willingness to share your reality. Bringing daylight to a difficult story will be a great blessing for many. Our honeymoon phase was also not so sweet but for very different reasons. We've been married for over 32 years which is a testament to love and commitment.

vickieJuly 29, 2019

I knew my grandmothers and one of my grandfathers. the grandfather that died, I had heard was a very kind man. he died when my mother was 7yrs old of tuberculosis. my poor grandmother is what I think of because they were both grandparents couldn't speak English. so, I was never able to converse with them and understand what they were saying. my parents decided not to teach me their language even though they spoke it. however, I loved them anyway because we would visit them often. they lived in another state but we traveled every year to see them. before my fathers mother died we were visiting her and she was very frustrated and tried to talk to me. I realized her frustration as my cousins were teasing her which really upset her. for some reason I was able to see that and I tried so hard to let her know I knew what she felt and would have wanted to help her. I miss my grandparents very much even the one I never saw because I heard so many stories about him and they were all great.

carol kredtJuly 29, 2019

Thank you so much, Camille, for having the courage to let your story be told. It's a strong reminder that we all need to think before we speak when we don't know all the facts. And I really feel it's none of.our business to know what transpired - or didn't - on someone else's wedding night.and that it's anything but kind to even ask.

vickieJuly 29, 2019

poor I read this story I realized that its all about expectations ..what we expect sometimes is what we see on TV or MOVIES ...and it just aint so....also the church has expectations and if we somehow don't fit that...people in church look down on that person for not following or being in that expectation esp those that have just joined the church. people who just join don't know what to expect and they go by what they see or the answers they get by asking. they really don't know. I have realized over the years that each person is different and God deals with them according to how they are not how everyone else is. for instance, not just one set mode. my oldest child my only daughter got married and she put off having children for 10yrs or so. she never had this special feeling. she was the oldest of 5 kids the rest were boys. later in her thirties she decided to have children and she had 3 kids each one 2yrs apart from the other. she is going into her 50;s and her children are in their teens. I have to say she tells me she is glad she waited because she loves motherhood. her husband who is 9yrs older has semi retired and is at home helping her raise her teens. she loves every minute of raising her kids and both parents are very involved in their lives. so as you see, one's persons expectations or desires do not always fit anothers. her younger brother had children right away and one of them just got married. who knows what they will do. we have choice and it was given to us freely by our Heavenly father so I believe that we shouldn't judge anyone or look down on anyone because of their choices made. God is the only one who can see into our hearts and minds. also I believe that we are all at different stages in our lives.

JulesJuly 29, 2019

Dear Camille, you are not alone and you have nothing to be ashamed of, although we do feel ashamed. We did not create our bodies, but in the creation process we ended up with a physical handicap. You now know that many women suffer the same or similar handicap. I also did not develop breast and my infertility doctor said it was all connected. My dear husband has passed away now, but I still thank God for blessing me with a man who was so patient, kind, and never looked on me as less than a woman. I would have preferred to be “normal” but there are physical handicaps others bear that I was blessed not to. Thank you for your honestly and courage and I pray intimacy will become sweeter for you as your life unfolds.

JocelynJuly 29, 2019

Your courage is inspiring. Thank you for opening eyes and hearts and closing down those who unabashedly pry into private territory. It is their shame, not yours.

LeahJuly 29, 2019

Sounds like he's "just not that in to you" to quote a book and the movie about it. My own experience begs me to ask: Is it possible he's behaving badly so you will kick him to the curb and thus he will escape the blame for a brief failed marriage? If he can blame you, he doesn't look so bad? - in his own mind. People's actions tell you all you need to know if you are willing to see it.

Marcela StaceyJuly 29, 2019

What a fantastic and fun research! Thanks for sharing!

Gene SchaerrJuly 29, 2019

Interesting and insightful!

Eileen deMarsJuly 29, 2019

What a brave woman to share her story. I’ve never heard of her condition, but am sure others will benefit from this.

Rebecca AndersonJuly 29, 2019

Oh my goodness. My heart goes out to that young couple. God bless them in this unusual journey. I hope the Lord will continue to help them and they will be able to experience the Lord's tender care.

DianeJuly 29, 2019

Thanks for sharing your very personal experience, Camille and Jared. Your openness, strength, and courage will provide hope to countless others.

Charles DefranchiJuly 29, 2019

My father always stood as an example of faith, deep understanding of gospel doctrine, and great leadership experience. The thing he emphasized most in his speeches and lessons in the years preceding his death was the need for more empathy from the part of Latter-Day Saints, that is, "the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within their frame of reference, that is, the capacity to place oneself in another's position."

Gordon J HensleyJuly 28, 2019

Did the Lord cause the great volcano of 1815 just to make the Smith family move from Vermont to Palmyra? He sees the end from the beginning, and sets the stars and planets in their orbits. It is not inconceivable that this was planned out before the earth was built.

Gordon J HensleyJuly 28, 2019

Thank you for sharing your autism experience with the world. My son's story is the very same as yours, but one year older. I, too, know all of the Disney and Pixar movies by heart. We learned to navigate that new-fangled internet thing while researching autism. My son also scripts movies constantly. My wife has been a strong advocate for Steven since 1996.

Tom WoodJuly 27, 2019

Insightful and inspiring, my friend. I do find myself made better by reading your lessons and look forward to them. Your efforts in preparation are very much worth their while as your message and questions are spirit building. You're quite the spiritual educator.

Sally SmithJuly 26, 2019

I just came home from the movie and was drawn to opening up my email. The first thing I opened was Meridian Magaziine and saw this article on " The Fighting Preacher". Stirred my heart! Must see movie!! Coincidence? I think not. Thank you.

CraigJuly 26, 2019

The optimist believes we are living in the best possible world. The pessimist fears this is true.

HalJuly 26, 2019

This reminds me of the atheist who marries a religious spouse. The atheist proposes a compromise for teaching their children which goes something like "If you won't teach our children to believe in God, I won't teach them to not believe God and they can choose for themselves." Such a proposal all but guarantees the atheist spouse will win. If children are not taught to believe in God, they become atheists by default. By the same token, a recent study shows that 85% of children who exhibit same-sex attraction will grow out of it IF they are just left alone (I was part of that group). Instead, children are encouraged to experiment and declare their sexuality even before puberty. In my early pubescent stages, I had feelings of same-gender attraction, but was never encouraged to act on those feelings. Like 85% of other youth that had the same experience, I grew out of it. Maybe if we stopped foisting same-gender relationships on our youth, it would become a non-issue.

JoJean LoflinJuly 26, 2019

I have often wondered how my grandmother managed to provide and care for 8 children on an Idaho farm when her husband, William Orson Pratt, served a 2/1-2 year mission in the southern states at the turn of the century, 1900. It can't have been easy. When I knew this grandmother, she had advanced Alzheimer's. The wives of those missionaries were absolute amazing women.

Marti ScottJuly 26, 2019

We saw this last night. It's a great movie and I hope many will go to see it.

G.MathewsJuly 26, 2019

THANK YOU T.C.CHRISTENSEN!!! WE ALL LOVED THIS!! You created a BEAUTIFUL MASTERPIECE with Willard and Rebecca's story. A WONDERFUL example for each of us! LOVE! LOVE! LOVE!! Anxious to buy the DVD- for ALL my kids!

RussJuly 25, 2019

To the contrary, we have entered a Grand Solar Minimum Period. If you want to know the effects of it, look up the impact of the Maunder Minimum of the 1600's. Weather will continue to get more chaotic as the years continue to go by. The Joseph Smith family had great issues being able to farm in New England during the Dalton Minimum, hence their moving to Palmyra and near to Cumorah - and the rest, as they say, is history.

Jenny SvendsenJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story, moved me to tears! Our grandson was healthy mentally till about 4 months young. He was fascinated with fans in the ceiling turning around, screamed when there was a crowd, my daughter couldn't take him shopping, too much sensory stimulation, in kindergarten she was called to the school every day because of his outbursts, typical Aspbergers behavior, which they now call 'low autism spectrum'. I suggested to our daughter that she call Tony Stephan, a very humble and righteous Priesthood holder, through the tragic suicide of his wife Debbie, and most of their children having mental issues like Bipolar/and other symptoms (I know this is not the same as your sweet boy), Tony developed a vitamin/mineral program, if you feel inclined, look up Truehope EMPowerplus, it has shown some improvement with autism for some people, plus many other issues, all independant studies that the company never paid for, it totally helped our grandson within 3 weeks. Again, thank you for sharing your tender moments!

Carol AnnJuly 25, 2019

Emergency Prep is a life-long journey not a destination. When one realizes that preparing is part of one's ongoing lifestyle, it becomes automatic to obtain those things you would need to survive most situations. It becomes a priority as it should be!

TerryJuly 25, 2019

I would not have thought these wolves could be so successful until I had a conversation with a friend's son who removed his name from the Church after listening to John Delhin's Mormon Stories broadcasts on Church history. I tried to explain to him that these broadcasts bear little resemblance to the truth and John Dehlin deletes critical comments from listeners who point out the errors. I know because several of mine were deleted. In one case he deleted one but failed to delete the one that made reference to it later in the comment atream. He is not as bright as his college degree would seem to require. And after all, he makes about $80,000 a year from conducting these interviews. He cannot have people pointing out he does not know what he is talking about but is taking so much money for making ridiculous assertions about the Church.

ShereeJuly 25, 2019

While I agree this was amazing technology and thoughtful themes expressed this is not a kids movie. Stay with the earlier one for young children. It is very, very violent-more so than the original. Tender hearted little ones will likely have a hard time with this. This is so real that the violence is even worse. In the animated it was hard enough with Scar and Simba in slow motion. If you have children who deal with night mares this may not be for them.

MelanieJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for sharing this touching account.. Yiu are clearly a blessing in your son’s life as well. You may find this video clip of interest:

Sharon ShogrinJuly 25, 2019

I recently bought this book and I can hardly lay it down. It is church history at it's best. It is interesting and entertaining at the same time. Of course I love Dean Hughes' books.

Lynn SJuly 25, 2019

I really needed to read this today since yesterday I was so torn about selling our house and moving across the country and leaving our imactive adult son and his little family and all their issues and problems. I am grateful for answers to prays not just for him but for me as I pray in distress and receive peace. It was very reassuring to read your story.

Janet GrafeJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for a sweet article. I also have a son with autism. He's 28 and so unique. There are many things he can't do, but he is a joy to us and helps us realize that you don't have to be "perfect" or "normal" to be of great worth.

A mother and member in ConnecticutJuly 25, 2019

I loved reading about the beauty of this dear child’s immeasurable value to your family. I love the joy you feel and gratitude for all that your precious son awakens in you. I also cringe when I read this because I have learned of similar stories of these high fevers that are a direct result of vaccinations. I have seen documentaries like VAXXED and THE GREATER GOOD:THE MOVIE and I’ve heard the truth about the population of children at risk for these reactions who are not identified prior to vaccinations. As one pediatrician stated in THE GREATER GOOD, he held out his hands making a circle and he said: we as medical professionals know there is a population of children this big who can not be vaccinated due to compromised immune issues. But in truth, that circle is really THIS BIG, and he widened the circumference of the circle in front of him by about three times. He said, the pharmaceutical industry out spends the oil industry six times on lobbying Congress. That money should be being spent on research to identify this significant number of children who also can. It handle vaccinations without a life threatening or life altering reaction. Then in the documentary the special “Court” was shown where parents of dead or damaged children can seek damages. But since the pharmaceutical industry is protected by our government with immunity from being sued this isn’t actually a court of law it’s dome other type of court and at the time the documentary was made at least ten years ago 4 billion dollars had been paid out to parents who’s children died or were damaged due to vaccinations. I plead with everyone to get informed and watch these documentaries and stop the madness of this profit driven fear campaign which is destroying many children’s nervous systems. The films mentioned show very sound medical research and facts and show doctors on both sides of the argument.

Penny A DouglasJuly 25, 2019

While I think there are times when just listening is important and empathizing is what is needed most, the thought of doing this with every conversation makes me want to never talk (or listen) to anyone ever again! I love the word "wallowing." It reminds me of the many times that I hear the same person saying the same things over and over without any intention of changing the situation. Sometimes this person is me, but usually after I hear myself a few times, I think, " I either have to change this or resign myself to it and get on with my life. Ultimately, we are the only ones who control our attitudes and constant complaining doesn't help anything. Saying something aloud can help us focus on the situation, but constant whining does no good at all. Listening to constant whining, like I'm doing now, - well you get the picture. I was not cut out to be a psychologist.

GinnyJuly 25, 2019

My husband and I have both read this and loved it. It truly makes you feel for what the Pioneers went through. We are looking forward to the rest of the series being delivered today!

GinnyJuly 25, 2019

I have read it, as well as my husband and we both loved it! We are looking forward to the rest of the story!

RobertaJuly 25, 2019

Thank you for your story about Andrew. My son’s name is John, he 22 and is mentally challenged and has Autism. We too know so many movie scenes by heart. We get excited when he discovers a new movie. We’ve also learned we had some not so good movies after he played scenes with bad language or innuendo over and over. My biggest “break through” with our son happened when I was fasting and praying about him. He was 15 and having a particularly hard time at home and school. I was sincerely asking Heavenly Father why did he have to suffer so much and why did we as well? He is physically strong and looks typical on the outside. I was just trying to understand why and here’s where my answer came, I don’t even remember exactly how, but my question changed to “what can we do for him?” And my answer to that was to move from a smallish town in west Texas to Charlotte, NC, where there were some unique opportunities for him. We only were there 2 years, but it helped immensely. In another part of that prayer I was telling Heavenly Father all of the things I could do for Him if I didn’t have John the way that he is; temple work, genealogy, callings that take more time, etc... my answer was, “Duh, I have others to do that, I want you to take care of John.” We have learned to look for all the things John teaches us and the unique joy he brings to life.

Charles DefranchiJuly 25, 2019

A Pastor once prayed to become more patient. Next thing, his efficient Secretary had an accident, that caused her to be temporarily incapacitated. Her replacement turned out to be slow and making lots of mistakes. The Pastor soon got very annoyed with her, until he realized that she represented the very answer to his prayer! Along the same lines, the Lord gave me a Finnish wife, whose culture greatly contrasts with Mediterranean one. They remain silent until the other one is done while we are used to talking on top of each-other! As Joni suggests, it is never too late to learn to develop better communication skills out of desire for happy and loving relationships. Many thanks for the article!

SteveJuly 25, 2019

I am British and remain surprised that Americans lump Socialism and Communism as if they are absolute synonyms. In Western Europe we have a number of Socialist led countries - particularly the Scandinavian countries. They lead the world in terms of population happiness and quality of life. Most of the other European countries swing left and right at each election. Whilst I agree that Communism is anti-gospel, I also believe that rampant Capitalism is also anti-gospel.

Kathleen ChinJuly 24, 2019

Hahaha! I can relate! My late husband grew up in Orange County, CA. When he moved “North” to San Jose, CA for college, he said he was SO cold; he could NEVER get warm! (In San Jose, CA there is sometimes frost on the ground and roof tops on winter mornings.) I moved from a suburb of Minneapolis, MN to San Jose, CA. I didn’t wear a coat—EVER—the first winter I lived there. In 1990 we moved to Modesto, CA. My husband LOVED the heat—not me! I’m heat-sensitive, sun-sensitive, and allergic to sun screen; during the “hot season” (May - October) I live the life of a vampire—I come out when it’s dark—ha! Oh yes, and...I NEVER complain during the two months it’s cold here!

Boanerges RubalcavaJuly 24, 2019

"Climate change" is an euphemism used by the catastrophists because "global warming" was not as good for heir aims. Actually Climate change is truism since the clime has been changing since the earth is earth. The important point in here is what is causing the change. The constant factor always has been the SUN, and the changes have happened before the Industrial Revolution or for that matter the USA. I can give you hundreds of real scientific references to show you that the CO2 is not doing the trick, but I will give you just one fact that everybody knows about: the atmospheric composition is Nitrogen 78%, Oxygen 21%,Argon 0.8%. Here you already have 99.8%. In the 1950-60s, the amount of CO2 in the atmosphere was 0.032% and recently has been 0.038%, this is just 60 ppm(parts per million). Please draw a graph and in the X axis put from 0 to 1.000,000 ppm, and in the Y axis time. Now make points of Nitrogen concentration from 1960 to 2019 this will be 780,000 ppm all the time (no change); now put the C02 concentration at 1960 320 ppm and in 2019 380 ppm (if you want increase it to 410 the last data that the catastrophists came with few months ago). Can you see this change in your graph?

Karen EmeryJuly 24, 2019

I have always believed that the Lord is in control of everything, including the climate and the weather. This fine article reinforces my belief. I also believe that God made us caretakers of this beautiful,productive sphere and that we should all work together to protect and preserve it. "Let us all presson inthe work of the Lord!"

HalJuly 24, 2019

This was a poignant and personally painful article. I know several members of the church, some beloved friends, neighbors, and even family members, who very subtly try to lead other members away from the church and the counsel of the prophets. Their tactics range from enticements of worldly pleasure to touting their support of fringe social issues as being charitable. When I tried to explain that I love all of Heavenly Father's children and want to share with them that keeping His commandments brings true happiness, I am castigated as being bigoted, intolerant, or a "hater."

RandyJuly 24, 2019

D&C 104: 17 For the earth is full, and there is enough to spare; yea, I prepared all things, and have given them unto the children of men to be agents unto thenselves. The earth was prepared to fulfill its purpose by our Heavenly Father, who knows the end from the beginning. The only world saving that was required was accomplished by the Savior. I certainly believe it is my responsibility to be a wise steward of my small piece of the world, the only one who has the power to control the elements is the Savior. Matt. 8: 28.

Russell CannonJuly 24, 2019

Global warming in 1847 and Trump was not even alive yet?

HavenJuly 24, 2019

We see and believe what we want to see and believe. Neither, necessarily makes it true.

Rita MillerJuly 24, 2019

Brad, your questions brought me to tears in sympathy for your sadness. It is so hard to read about marvelous experiences that seem to happen to everyone but you. As I read through the scriptures many years ago as a new member, I heard the experiences of Moses, Isaiah, Paul, Nephi and Abish and wonder "Why not me?". What I failed to see was that each of these experiences were tailored to a specific need, either the person's or God's. I eventually had my own powerful witness, which came because the Lord needed me to do something. You, too, will have your own witness, but it's never an event that comes just because you want it. It comes because you are ready for it, even if you don't realize it before hand. His timing is always perfect, and He will manifest Himself to you in a most unexpected way, a way you can't explain to others or maybe even to yourself. You are being prepared for that, and it will come. Stay true to the course the Lord has set out for you, keep close to the Savior, and ask for strength to do what He asks of you. He loves you, completely and unconditionally.

MichaelJuly 24, 2019

Chip, regarding Ether 12:41, Moroni is speaking of prophetic writings regarding the coming and ministry of the Savior, and writings of New World apostles sharing and discussing the Savior's teachings among the Nephites.

RandyJuly 23, 2019

The only problem I found with this article was the problem all politicians have today: And that is that they refer our form of government as a democracy. We are a Constitutional or representative Republic. A democracy is majority rule. The United States is a Republic with representatives representing the people. This labeling of our form of government a democracy has been going on since the 70s. And it has everyone thinking that we are a democracy. In a representative republic, all people have rights and those rights are protected so that no one is more important than anyone else.

Rusty RobinsonJuly 23, 2019

For Brad G. We know the Saviour loves each of us very dearly, otherwise why take upon himself every sin we make, so that we can go to be with him. Probably he does come to you - just not in the same way he did with those in these stories. Think in your heart. Remember?

pamela Morgan roderJuly 23, 2019

Thank you Claire for sharing your lovely video w us to feel inspired by the sweet sound of your voice singing the words of Jesus. It warmed my heart. Beautifully done!

AnnekeJuly 23, 2019

These are great tips! Thank you for sharing. I would be cautious, though, about Save Our Bones. I am NOT one to take drugs without researching, but sometimes some medical intervention may be needed.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 23, 2019

Thank you for writing this article. I found it to be very interesting. I understand completely how we each can mix up what a person says because often I try to tell others what someone said and get it wrong. I didn't know about how the last five years of Joseph Smith was actually reconstructed by his friends and recorders. I enjoy your articles very much. I always learn a lot.

HalJuly 23, 2019

When I found myself single many years ago, I purchased a modest home and furnished it almost entirely with items from Deseret Industries (all for less than $200). When I remarried and we bought a new home, all of the furnishings went back to DI before we moved. Easiest move ever!

Marilyn CrandallJuly 23, 2019

This is so tenderly written! Thank you for sharing! Your expressions of love made me smile and cry for my own empty spaces; which you showed me how to fill.

Charles DefranchiJuly 23, 2019

This to thank Cheryl Burton for her wise and enligthening advice, which will significantly help me in dealing with my less-active children. I may also add that we, mortals with limited perspective, do not always realize that the great work of salvation continues beyond the veil. This gives us great hopes that, no matter what, our efforts to bring salvation to our loved ones, as well as to all those we may be able to influence for good, will eventually pay off, if not in this life, in the hereafter.

Mary Ann KershisnikJuly 23, 2019

I loved reading about your wonderful Grandma Verna. I had such grandmothers who filled my life with love. Thank you for urging me through your words to think of them today!!!

BradGJuly 23, 2019

These stories are wonderful and they brought me to tears. I’ve come to understand that in my case I am an emotional person and where some consider a welling up of emotion to be evidence of the influence of the Spirit, I cannot. Stories like these I choose to believe but the thought always comes: why to these? Why not to all? Why not to me? What made them “special” when there are others that yearn for such an experience and receive none? Is it worthiness? I didn’t notice that these individuals exhibited any particular worthiness. We understand God is no respecter of persons. Not everyone that considers taking their life receives an intervening visit from the Savior, my guess is very few. So why these, and not me? I love stories like these but they make me sad. Self-pity is not a desirable trait I know.

Ron ClarkJuly 23, 2019

Sadly, this reviewer missed the beauty behind Lion King. It's her opinion, however, and she's entitled to it, but for the many we know, including ourselves, the Lion King rings with great drama, compassion, magnificent cinematography, and a level of computer-aided technique that transcends anything produced by Disney thus far. Audiences are proving the critics wrong. It's a must-see that touches the heart and rekindles the beauty of the original. The two art-forms were not meant to clash with each other. The new generation of film production in this case is a true compliment to the original. Take with a grain of salt the negatives. See the movie, sit back and enjoy the talent of gifted souls who labor long and hard to entertain us. Disney accomplished it and then some.

JeanJuly 23, 2019

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing such tender and heartwarming memories and "reunions" of and with your grandmother.

Ken HazelbakerJuly 23, 2019

You are too harsh - we loved the movie = absolutely enthralled with the realism of the technology We think they did a terrible disgrace to Elton John's circle of life The singer sounded amateur and shallow you left out a good thought about being the reflection of our father as he looked in the pool Having been to Africa on a safari hunt the realism of the animals was greatly appreciated - even to the syncopation of their individual gaits choreographed to the music. why can't you just sit back enjoy the movie for what it is instead of making such clinically detailed analysis? Like who cares who the actors are let's just enjoy the movie

Carol MartinJuly 23, 2019

These accounts brings tears to my eyes. He loves us very much.

AngelsingsJuly 23, 2019

Remember, Joseph Smith was a teenager when he witnessed the Father & His Son.

Jan KingJuly 23, 2019

When we see a person speaking we have more than just their words to judge their meaning by. Voice tone and body language tells us much. This is not that. Confidence can be misunderstood as arrogance, especially when tone is lacking. Personally seeing God the Father and his son Jesus Christ would inspire a level of confidence unlike any other life experience.

Wendy LanderJuly 23, 2019

Save Our Bones is a great program. I highly recommend it. It includes scripts to explain to your doctor why you will not take medications with such dreadful side effects. It is carefully researched and referenced. We have been following the program for several years and been very satisfied

Herm OlsenJuly 23, 2019

Beautiful account of a wonderful woman. I particularly loved reading the dedication at the beginning of the Scrapbook. I wonder where and when she spoke to a group of women in Logan - because some of my relatives might have attended. Thanks for introducing us to a sweet daughter who, I’m sure, still lovingly watches over you!

WILLIAMJuly 23, 2019

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Annie B.July 22, 2019

I am so glad to see this monument. My great grandmother lost two. One shortly after they started from Council Bluffs and one who was born crossing and only lived a few days. She carried the second one for two days until they reached the Strawberry River. There she let them bury the child because others were buried there and the baby wouldn’t be alone.

Helga SilskiJuly 22, 2019

I love the sweet young voice and innocence, there is purity that so often lacks from adult performers. Even the dress is part of the performance, here again Claire beautiful but simple and it does not detract from her song that she shares with us. Perfect rendition, so uplifting and sweet. THANK YOU

JohnJuly 22, 2019

you truly live up to your name, "bright" you light the world with your God given talent thank You

Judy HaddadJuly 22, 2019

My husband & I read the book & saw how the Beans overcame the adversity & completed their mission for the Church. They weren’t released for 25 years & were heartsick to leave when they were released. We are so disappointed here in Ontario, Canada that this movie will not be shown here. There are so many Saints who would love to see this movie.

SeagullSuzJuly 22, 2019

...okay fine! hiw about some information about the children 8-11...what will the boys be doing without Cub Scours...and the activity Day girls..apparently the Faith in God Program will be discontinued...when will we hear about the replacement?...


We own a Photo Equipment sales and Photography business (42 years) All our children went to college except for one son. He chose not to attend college. He had a job(s) While in High School and before he left on his mission and when he was soon to return from his Mission,one of the businessmen wrote him and offered him his job back in a print shop, When he returned, he reluctantly took the job but also worked in Insurance sales. My son soon realized his best opportunity was at the Print shop and focused on that.....Long story short, he now owns Quality Printing. He and his wife and 2 children are doing well and he did not have to go to college to make his way. We advised him along the way when he sought out our advice and experience. But he's a self made man and doing well.

Monty Brown AlvordJuly 22, 2019

Your grandfather is my great uncle. As a young girl I lived close to them in Calif. Visited with Aunt Zina and Uncle Hugh and family quite often. My father Lamont Brown, loved and respected him so much. He was going to marry me and my to be husband but something came up and it didn't happen. I always felt so badly about that. I have much history about him if you are interested. Email me if you would like to. It was wonderful to read your beautiful story!

Heidi WolfJuly 22, 2019

Thanks for sharing these great ideas. I loved your mom. She was a wonderful person.

AllenJuly 22, 2019

Most, if not all representative assemblies in this country have procedures in place that allow the citizens to recall elected officials who are not doing their duties or who are not in keeping with community standards. The citizens of this community and others with similar situations ought to be petitioning for recall elections for each offending politician. If they allow these people to continue in office, they are inviting other abuses of power, since the underlying ideals of the offenders will not change.

Carol Grass WinklerJuly 22, 2019

And after days like that, she still took time to do my husband's shirts! Keith had the privilege two summers of his Eastern States missionary experience of serving as the voice of King Lamoni at the Hill Cumorah pageant. The summer of 1955 in the first year of our marriage, we drove to Palmyra and he told me of the Beans, who had by then been released. This was before the days of "wash 'n wear", and the missionaries still had to have white shirts done up for the public appearances. Since his days were filled with assignments on the construction crew and his evenings were taken for performances, dear Sister Bean took over having his white shirts washed, ironed, and ready for him daily. Though I never met her, she has always been an inspiration.

Cheryl BurtonJuly 22, 2019

As I have several children who are on different paths than how they were raised, I have learned there are 7 things that we can do. First and foremost is to LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY. Even if we don't mention anything about their inactivity they can feel the negative energy that comes from withholding our love. Which brings us to the second big one which is DO NOT BE JUDGMENTAL. We are all on our journey back to our Heavenly Parents and need to honor Their gift to us of having agency, to be authors of our own actions. This includes ourselves! Do not waste time and precious energy beating ourselves up as to what we did or did not do in the past. This is not only counterproductive (unless we need to repent of any wrongdoing) and will deplete our energy for being able to be there for those who need us.One of my favorite mantras: Regret looks back. Fear looks forward. Faith looks up. #3 and 4 are the obvious PRAY sincerely and FAST with real intent. #5 Bless their names as we put them on TEMPLE PRAYER ROLLS. #6 Consistently send them positive, encouraging and LOVING THOUGHTS throughout the day. Their true self, their spirit will feel those affirmations and positive energy. And #7 (which is symbolic of completeness and spiritual perfection) ask for the ATONEMENT of JESUS CHRIST to bless our hurting heart to be comforted, even healed so we don't stand in the way of them coming back to Him. I find a divine connection when I use this 7th step and actually surrender my pain and their choice of journey back to Him. Then I can "give it a rest" and feel His rest as He rested on the 7th day of Creation. As I reflect the past years I can stand back and see the holes in my heart have allowed space for His Love and Light to enter in for growth and sanctification.

Marsha NewmanJuly 22, 2019

Can’t wait to see it! Historical films are a superb way for our generation to “virtually “ experience the heroism and effort that our ancestors shouldered daily To push God’s work forward. They set the disciple bar high! May we follow worthily in their footsteps.

Ruth JamiesonJuly 21, 2019

What a wonderful story of faith! Can't wait to see the movie and read the book!

Ann-Marie JensenJuly 21, 2019

Thanks for the best lesson I've ever received about Paul and his missionary work!

Mark MathesonJuly 21, 2019

Great analogy, Mr. Turner. Thank you for sharing it. Very few things in life do we test Before we buy.

CodyJuly 20, 2019

Gentle parents - I so get this! If music is the chosen path for your son, there are great tools to give him practical preparation and give you peace of mind about it. Is your family aware of the Commercial Music Program at South Plains College in Levelland, TX? I can’t say enough good about this amazing program! Top-notch instruction & mentoring in musicianship development, recorded and live-sound technical skills, music industry & entertainment business skills, and lots of performance opportunities. SPC is a public community college - personalized instruction, reasonable tuition, degree granting, transferable credit to 4 yr “U” if that ever becomes his desire. My high school aged daughters have been taking a live band performance class @ SPC over the last year & I am simply amazed at the program. Diverse music offerings - rock, jazz, blue grass, experimental, country, inspirational, and hybrids of all! If your son wants to explore the world of professional music, he would be hard-pressed to find a more supportive, professional environment in which to do so.

TimJuly 20, 2019

I too am shocked at the number of members who have bought into socialism. They seriously need to look into what they are siding with because, as Roxylynne so aptly says, everything about current left wing socialism goes against virtually everything the gospel stands for. At its worst, socialism/communism the very plan we once rejected in favour of free agency on this earth.

Jen McDonaldJuly 20, 2019

Thank you for the wonderful story of Brother Johnson and the birth of the church in Ghana. My son is currently serving a mission in West Africa and I have shared this story with him. The people of Africa are thirsting for the Gospel and so receptive to the missionaries. I appreciate the time and thought you put into your very interesting and thought-provoking podcast each week.

DENNIS BOTTJuly 19, 2019

I served a mission in the Southwest British Mission [1965 - 1968] where President Brown was a frequent visitor...on one occasion I was present during a mission wide meeting where President Brown spoke to we missionaries...during that meeting he gave this Currant Bush parable and I can testify of the power that is contained therein...I also was privileged to be personally interviewed by President Brown as he toured the mission when we were congregated in zone conferences and that was a very humbling experience...his gaze seemed to penetrate my very heart and his unconditional love for the Lord President Brown told the Currant Bush parable he made eye contact with each missionary as if to say "take my testimony to heart because the Lord will cut you down in order to cause fruitful growth, it may be painful but remember the Lord IS the Gardener here".

stevie mckennaJuly 19, 2019

Thank you for this very insightful read. Paul is a very interesting character and such a talented missionary. You brought this out beautifully.

Elliot MorrisJuly 19, 2019

"Open borders" is an incendiary phrase. It is used by those who fear liberalized immigration to demonize any and all who suggest that current restrictions on immigration are detrimental to our national well-being. There are many who favor unrestricted or less restricted migration. Some of them are socialists. Some are not (the Cato Institute being one. Hardly a Socialist organization). There are socialists, however, who ardently oppose immigration (the Chinese, for example). In other words, immigration is a policy issue every nation faces and is not determined by economic ideology (capitalism v. socialism). Many free market economists and thinkers favor the free flow of labor accross national borders. It is dangerous, I believe, to marry words like "Socialsim" and "Open Borders" as this tends to impede intelligent discourse concerning what immigration policy is best for the country. To put it another way, free market, liberty loving folks like myself, who believe in a more liberal immigration policy do not very much like being lumped in with Socialists.

Bill LawlerJuly 19, 2019

Love Issac’s comments and insights. I hadn’t thought of any of those three principles but now I will. Thank you Prof Calvert!

Chip WhitmerJuly 19, 2019

Ether 12:41 -- "And now, I would commend you to seek this Jesus of whom the prophets and apostles have written..." (Moroni editorializing.) This suggests pretty strongly that Moroni was familiar with New Testament writings. How he would have received those writings is open for speculation.

Jan KingJuly 19, 2019

I agree with Paul would have been nice to have had more information. What was the inside performance to have been??

Juli RileyJuly 19, 2019

I am so excited for this movie to finally come out! I've read the book a few times and loved reading about the great heart of these people. I'm so excited to see it in film.

McKay TurnerJuly 19, 2019

Every time someone told me "you need to take a car for a test drive" thing, I tell them they’re using the wrong analogy. It’s more like building a new house. You’ve never lived in it, but together you carefully pick and choose how you want it to look, how you build it, how it’s furnished. And once it’s built, you need to work on, and maintain the house. Then you can make changes to it over time. Add new rooms, new levels, new appliances, repaint it, keep it fresh etc

Ann-MarieJuly 19, 2019

Great book. Fantastic people.

Judy IrvingJuly 19, 2019

GREAT summary I can't name sources, but remember a talk at a BYU at Devotional in which the speaker said the suffering of the unrepentant doesn't expiate for their sins. We can't pay back the law, only Christ's atonement does. I'd love to get sources on that because it does make sense. Per force we suffer because we're outside of the only power that can relieve us -until we use the atonement to be cleansed - but our suffering doesn't pay back the Law of Justice, only Christ does that. After the suffering evidently the holdouts do reconcile to the atonement before receiving a kingdom of glory, but the suffering is a result of rejecting the power of the atonement up to that point.

Dennis MckayJuly 18, 2019

Wow!! Simply amazing. The words and meaning of the song, The music and scenery and Clair's incredible presentation are all such a perfect combination. Love it!! Thank you!!

Maggie BannachJuly 18, 2019

The PTSD that comes with abuse is not just a matter of forgive, suck it up or act maturely. It is not vendictiveness or revenge. It is overwhelming uncontrollable emotions that threaten to shame or embarrass you. They are so powerful the crying & anxiety won't stop. This isn't about being mature enough to put your child first on their day. It's about being able to get through the day without spending the entire event hiding in the bathroom.

Kareen T ChristenJuly 18, 2019

This was an interesting story that was similar to one my Father in Law told about his experience in the Army during World War ll. He was also up for a promotion from Major to Colonel and was passed over because, "He is a Mormon". This was a big disappointment but he later retired as a Major and went on to be a successful business man. He was one of the founders of SOS Temporary Services in Salt Lake City. His name was Russell Christen.

SuzieJuly 18, 2019

There are some things that a spouse may feel, but absolutely should not say...such as “Wow, you are sure getting fat.” I would never want to say something that hurts my spouse, even if there was truth to it. When I was younger, I said unkind things that were true, but often did so because I was upset. There came a point where I didn’t have it in me to fight anymore...and I started just being respectful and more agreeable. That escalated to where we both have become kinder to each other. We enjoy every day together, and we both feel loved. We must obey the Savior when he says, “Cease to find fault.” I do not even allow myself to THINK a negative thought about my spouse. I concentrate on his many positive traits, and we both are blessed.

Joni HiltonJuly 18, 2019

Thank you so much for this extremely generous praise. I will live on that compliment for a very long time! How grateful I am that you took time to write words that made my day!

Merlyn de la MelenaJuly 18, 2019

Exquisite! I’ll listen to her any time you include her in the Meridian.

Sue C.July 18, 2019

I love this Claire. Thanks for sharing your talents with us. It made my day.

SusanJuly 18, 2019

Our experience is that when one person keeps has feelings that don't get expressed, the other person can sense it, and could possibly interpret it negatively: He's not he mad? Did I do something wrong? Doesn't she think I can handle what she's going to say?

Joel Robin MarksJuly 18, 2019

Hugh B Brown strikes again!!

N. Larry JackJuly 18, 2019

Enjoyed your article. If you are interested I have a Great personal story about your Grandfather, Hugh B Brown

Larry WimmerJuly 18, 2019

Thank you, Marilyn. Yes, your grandfather was a great man; a very special man among the many with whom he served. I am also grateful to have known him. As tender and loving as any leader I have known. In addition, he has an extraordinary and beautiful granddaughter - Marilyn. From your past HT and always your friend.

Sarah HomerJuly 18, 2019

Aunt Marilyn, I too am grateful for the examples of faith that are found within our family. I cherish every moment with you and I know that Grandpa Brown continues to reach out to his family on the earth and help bring them the peace of heaven. Thank you for writing this article; it was just what I needed to read this morning!

Ben JonesJuly 18, 2019

The Church has been noticed for its members being good citizens of whatever country they are citizens of. In particular, Saints in East Germany were able to get a Temple before the Berlin Wall came down by virtue of their honoring their commitments to return from visiting temples in Western Europe. When the Tabernacle Choir visits other countries, it sings the national anthems and some pieces in the languages of those countries out of respect to them. They still get much applause for singing Battle Hymn of the Republic wherever they go.

JaneJuly 18, 2019

Thank you for sharing this powerful story of Pres. Brown's. It is one of my favorites. What a lesson for him and for us. It is a treasure!

Michael Shea, MDJuly 18, 2019

It is nothing less than astonishing to me that anyone with even a primitive education and cognitive ability above the 3rd grade level could countenance such a pernicious and blatantly evil ideology. There are certainly more dullards in this country than I ever imagined.

Kenneth W VickersJuly 18, 2019

I was bothered by the author worrying about what people in the congregation who may not be American born. I love my country, the Founding Fathers are my heros. I respected the customs of the people of Turkey when I was stationed there in the US Air Force. I also love to the Stars and Stripes waving in the breeze, in front of chapels as well as on Temple grounds, to me, it is a banner of freedom. I would recommend both author and those posting comments, to read "The Covenant, One Nation Under God" by Timothy Ballard. I consider myself a patriot. When I took the oath to defend the Constitution of The United gates of America, when I enlisted in the Air Force, it is a life time commitment to me. I also would suggest reading the history of the Star Spangled Banner, how the flag was held upright by true patriots, and as they were dying another would take his place. I apprecIate Jim Merrell's comments.

KC DayJuly 18, 2019

There is a great divide in America today. It's between those who reject change and those who insist change is needed. We have a President who is doing everything possible to further widen that gap. Nothing he says or does is remotely true to the Gospel Jesus preached, including the Sermon on the Mount. Until we elect a President with the wisdom and compassion of King Benjamin, this divide will widen, until we are once again fighting each other in the streets. Trump exemplifies everything that is wrong with Capitialists. He worships money and power. There are so many scandals associated with him, all of them sordid and examples of violating the 10 Commandments. No wonder that some people who reject his ideology are also rejecting his version of Capitialism and wish to steer our government into becoming more responsive to the needs of the less fortunate among us. They look to Socialism and Communism as examples of government that is socially responsive and responsible because they are the exact opposite of our current Administration. It is the fear that Trump will turn us into a facist state, or a twisted Theocracy devoid of Gospel principles, that is motivating their words and actions. And left unchecked, that's exactly where we are heading. We need a new version of Capitialism, one that rewards those who acheive, but also requires those individuals to pay fair taxes to assure everyone in this country has access to shelter, food and health.

RuthAnnJuly 18, 2019

I love this message so much! And me and my wrinkles needed to hear it! Thanks so much

Sandra LucusJuly 18, 2019

Marilyn ...thank you for your great example throughout our friendship. You have been an inspiration to all who know and love you. I have always admired your ability to love and serve all those you come in to contact with. Your grandparents, family and friends are so blessed to be apart of your circle of love.

Ruth JamiesonJuly 18, 2019

So beautiful! Just what I needed this morning. Thanks Claire, love your sweet voice and testimony.


Thank you for sharing your story. This is so important to love with all we have. That's the way people will be touched and know of our genuine concern and hope and love for them. I love that you felt the love not only from your grandparents, but from aunts and uncles and cousins.

CW2SADJuly 18, 2019

I'm the bulletin specialist for my ward and learned something interesting after that particular Sunday. I put in the bulletin, under the information for the hymn, "Please, if possible, stand for our national anthem." The bishop informed me afterwards that the presiding leader at the meeting decides if standing is to be done or not. I'd never heard that before... BTW: Our ward stood.

Kevin D KrauseJuly 18, 2019

I know socialism is bad. I'm not promoting it in any way, but Capitalism has its week points too. I feel like the Socialism movement is picking up pace because so many are unhappy with the current state of things, and they are desperately seeking something new.

HelenJuly 18, 2019

Thank you for this! None of my grandchildren have the Gospel in their lives. I will increase my prayers on their behalves.

CW2SADJuly 18, 2019

Perspective. Changing a person's perspective can change their life. You work in each article to assist us in changing our perspective and I so appreciate it. Admittedly, you're one of the reasons I don't write; I could never wield words the way you do... Thank you. I need you. Your community needs you. Your Church needs you. The world needs about 8 billion more of you.

vickieJuly 18, 2019

yes I do understand this message...its a great story. I was the best girl tennis player on the team at my school. I played hard because I loved it. I was just playing and having so much fun doing it that I hadn't realized I made number one on the team. boys were trying to play me and I beat one that did. well, I was proud. my father told me not knowing my circumstances that we had moved and he could no longer come this late at my high school to pick me up so he told me I had to quit. plus my grades weren't all that good so I had to quit. I am sure my tennis coach freaked out because here he had someone who beat out everyone. well, that brought me down. I had to quit and I did. the only blessing from this was...I didn't have to play in front of crowds of people. I hated playing in front of anyone because I played for me because I enjoyed it so much. many times in my life I reached the top only to find that this was all I was expected to do; to see that yes I can do well and that was all I needed at that time.

KarenJuly 18, 2019

W.O.W. Beahtifly powerful.

Leslie HillmanJuly 18, 2019

Thank you so much for this heartwarming article! I too had active Latter-day Saint grandparents who prayed daily for my brother and me, and I’m sure also for my half brother and sister. My father was active on and off after my parents split up. My full brother and I went to church with our mother and were baptized at ages 9 and 10. My father was estranged from his family but I made contact with them as an adult. What a wonderful reception! And the spontaneous family reunions as I visited aunts and uncles and cousins! I sadly never met my grandparents, as they had died when I was 14. I love to do temple work, and my brother is a temple worker! We each have children who also attend the temple!

K. Chin - Modesto, CAJuly 18, 2019

So many times I’ve heard these words, “All I can do is pray that....” I have come to learn that the word “all” should be changed to “EVERYTHING!” Prayer IS the BEST and MOST powerful action we can ALWAYS take. This story reminds me of everything good and hopeful we can do to help our families and ourselves. Many, MANY, thanks for sharing it!

Janneke BaasJuly 18, 2019

How I recognize your experience. Only: I had no grandfather to teach me about the Church, to pray for me and guide me. My parents were against any form of religion. As a child of 4, in kindergarten I first heard the story of the birth of Jesus. Since then I have been searching for a church and a religion. It was a long and hard road. But this feelings you describe, that you knew there must be a God who is personal, I recognise. A little girl with a touch of heaven is not easily discouraged.......

Alexander ForsythJuly 17, 2019

How did Saint Paul know what to write to the Corinthian Church? Did he receive "revelation" from Heaven? There is a simple explanation: open the New Testament and read 1Corinthians chapter One verse eleven: "For it hath been declared unto me of you, my brethren,by them which are of the house of Chloe, that there are contentions among you." Today, the First Presidency, and the Quorum of the Twelve get reports from Stake and Mission Presidents, and others, as to the needs of a Global Church. I am not a Church Member; only an "Investigator" - however, it is obvious that a parallel situation exists in this 21st Century, as it did in the 1st Century.

Barbara O'BrienJuly 17, 2019

In conclusion, please be assured that senior Church leaders who preside over the divinely appointed purposes of the Church receive divine assistance. This guidance comes from the Spirit and sometimes directly from the Savior. Both kinds of spiritual guidance are given. I am grateful to have received such assistance. ~ Quentin L Cook ; General Conference 2018 ; Prepare to meet God

Charles DefranchiJuly 17, 2019

Because our Church is being faced with a wide variety of attacks through Social Media and other means, I highly recommend the reading or viewing of "Stand for Ever," by ElderLawrence E. Corbridge, dellivered at BYU on January 22, 2019 (see

RoxylynneJuly 17, 2019

I'm not sure how we overcome the rampant ignorance of people who think socialism in any form is going to offer anything but bondage, pain and suffering. The most discouraging is to see young lds people, students at our own universities spout views that are the antithesis of the gospel.

Denise CottrellJuly 17, 2019

Thank you Eileen for sharing this tender story. I purchased your book and read it and have shared you message with family and friends. The Savior is always close and aware of us, our happiness and our heartaches and trials. Your book will (and has) touched many. Our special time together in Europe is a memory never to be forgotten. Love to you and your family. Denise and Dave Cottrell

Samantha from TennesseeJuly 17, 2019

My youngest was a cryer from the git-go. If she was unhappy she wanted to make everyone miserable. To make matters worse, when she got wound up, she could imitate a siren. EVERYONE at church knew whose baby was crying! We finally got through infanthood ...only to be stymied to know what MIGHT bring on the flood. It came down to ‘letting’ her stay in her room until the flow would stop. Bingo! It’s no fun crying by yourself (unlike crying and getting what or nearly what you want—attention)! Forward to HER last baby. I got used to the calls about her crying baby (minus the siren), and finally told her as long as he was fed, dry, and painless (that’s another story) she’ have to put up with it until he was older. Then her older sister came to visit. she took one look at the now toddler crying and said, “Oh, so he’s your ‘mini-me’!” Later, after sister had left, my crier asked, “Was I THAT bad?” Oh, Baby, you’re learning fast.....

AndrewJuly 17, 2019

When are we actually going to see the text of the June 1978 revelation.?

Paul HJuly 17, 2019

Great scriptural examples. In Acts 10, two things have beeen left out: 1) The Spirit told Peter the men inquiring after him had been sent and it was OK for Peter to go with them back to Cornelius's house, and 2) After Peter preached the Gospel to them and the Holy Ghost bore witness of the truth of it, Peter baptized them and continued to teach them; it wasn't preach, then leave but rather baptize and build the Kingdom of God using the time that required. Studying Acts is also fascinating to see why Peter was in the area. The Lord knows who, what, why and how to help us with our issues AND He actually does so---it isn't just theory that He has the power to do so.

ChuckJuly 17, 2019

To see the truth of this article, go to the Internet and look at sites about : "Stars of the ____s---where are they now?" You will find pictures of people thought beautiful, handsome, sexy, several years ago---and they look like ordinary people now, growing older, just like us. Thanks for this--hope it helps those who need it.

DL AndersonJuly 17, 2019

All I would add is that men, too, are obsessed with self-image (physical beauty) as much as women appear to be. Please be aware brethren that all these points apply as much to you as it does to we sisters.

Paul WheelerJuly 17, 2019

No mention was made of why so many men had white shirts and ties. Was this a special "Mormon Night on Broadway" event? Was it near the temple and a meeting was taking place when the black out occurred? I cannot imagine why that many people in white shirts and ties just happened to be there in one group.

Haze KompelienJuly 17, 2019

As a mother, grandmother, and Labor & Delivery nurse, this is so funny, so accurate!

Carol AnnJuly 17, 2019

Having seen this spectacular production in past years and feeling the great Spirit that attended it, I have to say, "This is a very SAD day!"

KentJuly 17, 2019

Daris, I look forward to the Wednesday edition of Meridian for the simple reason i know your column will be there. i never took a family vacation with my parents or with my own children with a telephone - and now i feel blessed for the lack of experience.

LoraJuly 17, 2019

I come from the future: revenge is near. It's called EARLY MORNING SEMINARY. That's when you get to wake the kids up! Also, there is a lovely phase in childhood between 5 and 10 when children are adorable and you just know you are the best mother on earth. But remember these years, because no matter how much your teens challenge you, they are still easier than infants and toddlers. For one thing, they are self-cleaning. They can dress themselves, feed themselves, and you don't have to bring them with you to the store. After they are grown, they may have children just like themselves! (That's a lot of fun, too!) But beware: they may want you to babysit.

LoraJuly 17, 2019

Aging has been a blessing to me. My own mother got old at a young age. She spent 20 years completely bedridden and died at the age of 60 of a massive heart attack. She never got to be my age. Any time I am tempted to moan about my body, I can hear her saying to me, "Did you get out of bed on your own? You are having a good day." As far as looks, I have noticed that the most beautiful women are serving in the temple with lights in their eyes that shine from the soul. Smiling is a free, instant and painless face lift. Letting go of competing with others for the Fairest of Them All is such a relief! All young women are more beautiful than they realize, and the love of God makes all of us, at every age, so beautiful! I wish I'd known this sooner!

Milton H.July 17, 2019

We must remember that God established our free land--first and foremost, among its many virtues, as a place where the true gospel of Jesus Christ and His Church could be restored. (This is recognized by latter-day saints, wherever they may live.) So our National Anthem is most appropriate for inclusion in our hymn book, WITHOUT any qualms.

Ruth annJuly 16, 2019

Beautiful, simply beautiful.

Jose GomisJuly 16, 2019

Thank you for beautiful stories; And I to can testify of the Holy Ghost which teaches me over and over and the blessing that the Holy Ghost has been to me in fortifying my testimony. I have seen all the miracles that Jesus did; done my men of the priesthood but none are as important as the gift of the Holy Ghost as we look for more ways to make ourselves better, then that the conformation of the Holy Ghost. All those daily Miracles that keep us strong, believing in those miracles that happen to us personally including and knowing that Heavenly Father and Jesus gave us a name to go through vail to come to is earth and to return through vail also with same. Learn of all the miracles is good but more importantly love the one that you can create with the Holy Ghost by following it's directions. Remembering that we must be asking for them. Then doing them! Little by little the voice become clearer and clearer and more pointed as to what we should do by doing what it asks.

vickieJuly 16, 2019

what a beautiful and precious story this is. I felt sadness for Julene and her family. I have also seen things happen just like this to other people. they seem to be in a very good place in life here on earth and then suddenly something out of the blue happens and it changes everything. maybe its like they have such a wonderful spirit that their test is something drastic but doesn't last forever and they go home. God bless her family.

KenJuly 16, 2019

Ben is right, it's not a choice, but that's because choice is not the right word. No one really thinks anyone was offered a choice to have SSA or not. It is the attraction they feel, which is real, but somehow based on a part of our nature, maybe more or less of one hormone or another, and a part of our nurture, what happened in our environment. I can give lots of examples or explanations of how childhood brains interpret situations to support one idea or another. No one will ever be able to establish how every little life experience may contribute to how we view those of the same or opposite sex. It's dishonest to claim people are not inclusive, intolerant or hateful just because they want a person to get help for what they are experiencing, rather than feed a lie that it's all nature.

J. JamisonJuly 16, 2019

My experience/advice: If you offer scripture in attempt to "tone down" inflammation or your view during discussions becomes inflamed - leave any "political" discussion alone with individual

Jo AnnJuly 16, 2019

Vocal Point always does amazing performances.

BenJuly 16, 2019

Same sex attraction (SSA) is not a choice. Nobody chose to experience SSA. You can of course choose to act out or stay true to the covenants you made. As somebody who is suffering (yes I suffer) from SSA I know that for whatever reason I experience SSA it is how Heavenly Father wants me to be. I'm not less a man because of my SSA. If I choose to seek counseling in hope to possibly overcome SSA it will be my own decision. Nobody has the right to tell me " No, you can't do this." And if I choose to live with SSA and by doing so miss some blessings during my mortal time it will also be my decision. As long as I stand true to my covenants I will eventually lose no blessings whatsoever. For a Latter-day member it is especially challenging to do not feel alienated or lost in the eyes of Heavenly Father. I have to learn every day that my Father in Heaven loves me regardless from what I might suffer. THAT is true inclusion!

Robyn GreenJuly 16, 2019

Right on Paul H

Stephen DoneJuly 16, 2019

Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing this. I've been fighting for my right and my children's right to ethical therapy to address unwanted same-sex attractions in Utah and I've been feeling so alone. So incredibly tired of being told I was "lying to myself" and that I "hadn't really changed". I literally sobbed when I read this article. Maybe sometime soon the Deseret News will have the courage to publish something similar.

Margaret DaBellJuly 16, 2019

Thank you, Eileen, for sharing Julene’s experience and the blessings she has given to your family.

MelanieJuly 16, 2019

Love this ❤️

roxanneJuly 16, 2019

well done. thank you

Celeste McclainJuly 16, 2019

This article is a great one! I’ve said before that I’m a new convert and I’m learning everything anew and fresh! Learning this history of Joseph Smith is amazing and makes me appreciate and love him all the more! The great works he had ahead of him, the ridicule and persecution that awaited him and his unmovable faith in the Lord is so inspiring! I Too knew nothing of that governor of that time, that Ford fellow.... see I forgot his first name (joking)! However, I knew Joseph Smith name before my conversion! It’s amazing what you learn just by reading articles in the Meridian! I’m so elated and proud to be apart of this Church, of Jesus Christ LDS! One of the best decisions of my life! God is always here with us! I’m learning so much, not only through my teachings, but reading articles like these helps to strengthen my faith! Thank You for your article, it was enlightening!

Charles DefranchiJuly 16, 2019

Just reading this brought tears to my eyes. How can one complain about our own miseries when seeing a family going through such a challenge and yet be such an example of faith and long-suffering?! There was no miraculous healing and recovery for Julie, but the miracle is in the healing of the souls of all who will read this story.

Celeste McclainJuly 16, 2019

I am just floored! I love your story, and it has helped me put things in perspective! Heavenly Father is so amazing and will never forsake us! I truly believe he never left your daughter, your Angel or your family, not once! I’m so sorry for your loss, but I’m grateful for your testimony and faith! I have to admit, it has made my faith stronger! I have to look at ALL the miracles around me and learn to appreciate them all and Thank God for them all! Thank you for your Angel’s story!

Gill RutterJuly 16, 2019

As a non American member, I do find it inappropriate seeing flags (of any nationality)actually in chapels, on the stand and more especially, on Temple grounds. I guess it is all about cultural differences, but I personally feel uncomfortable with the idea. Church property should be neutral territory.

Janice Kapp PerryJuly 15, 2019

I am so honored that my song was meaningful during your great trial. Thank you for the copy of your book Which I read with great interest and heartbreak. Bless you for your great faith. Love, Janice

Becky EdwardsJuly 15, 2019

I love this story and have shared it quite a few times! I'm speaking at BYU-Idaho Education Week in a few weeks. May I have your permission to share the story there, as well as the picture at the beginning of the article?

Carol AnnJuly 15, 2019

Hmmm! And, I thought there was just one congresswoman who spoke out and disliked this country so much from Minnesota! Sounds to me like the good, sensible people of Minnesota and elsewhere need to start making their voices heard in the town halls of this state and be move vocal and stand up for the flag, the Pledge of Allegiance, and this country and its principles and values before "those" people with their noise and publicity are the majority voice! God bless America!

Gerald G FullerJuly 15, 2019

You asked, "But again, isn’t it wrong and even dangerous to affirm “conquer we must,” even if we add the qualification “when our cause it is just”? " How did you understand that notion? Did you understand it to me "we must go forth conquering and to conquer"? I have never so understood it. I have always taken it to mean that when our cause is just, and there is no other way to fulfill what is right without conquering and enemy who would prevent our just cause, we will not be made to fail Notice that lately we seem to have endless wars, wars which never seem to "conquer" the opposition? Could it be that we have lost the justness of our cause?

PamJuly 15, 2019

There are hymns that I think we should include (Amazing Grace) and some I don’t care for but are in the hymn book because the lyricists were prominent Church members; not all hymns are created equal. Does it harm anyone to acknowledge our patriotism? God gave us this country as a gift and it was sanctified by the shedding of blood. We are rearing our children to love their home country and when we have nonmembers visiting I think they should hear music that they recognize and love. One of my sons said he cringed every time “Praise to the Man” was sung when he was a missionary in the South, nonmember visitors didn’t get it. I also wish we had more music by classic composers like Mendelssohn and Handel. That would be inspiring and beautiful.

Annette SladeJuly 15, 2019

Love Celeste's testimony !!

Susan ImigJuly 15, 2019

Thank you for posting this! We had heard about kids singing outside Carnegie Hall while watching ‘The Blackout’ on Fox, but did not realize it had anything to do with the Church! The young interviewer tried to get a small group of the kids to sing as they wandered over to her interview spot, but they did not take her up on the offer. How nice to know that this choir was able to bring the light of the Gospel to a dark city.

Paul HJuly 15, 2019

One might want to read again the Articles of Faith if singing a national anthem celebrating the founding of the nation in which you are singing makes you uncomfortable. Being too sensitive is not healthy.

Sam HobbsJuly 15, 2019

If I may humbly make a request to those seeking to invite members to return: please do not pretend that the past was anything other than it was. Along with this newfound transparency, I often hear statements like "that was never doctrine, it was always just policy" or "the church never tried to cover this up," or "that was just the opinion of [X], it was never taught as revelation." For many topics, those statements are simply not true. We can say that X was "just policy" in hindsight, but members (and leaders) at the time would not have treated it as such. We can look backwards and find cherry-pick instances where the church did describe Y in an Improvement Era article in the 70s or an authority mentioned Z in a conference talk in the 80s; but that doesn't change the reality that Y was rarely discussed, and that its near universal omission from most correlated material was obviously intentional. I knew a lot of things from my parents growing up, from BYU publications, or FARMS/FAIR essays here and there. But even then, I've increasingly discovered over time that I was mistaken about more than I could have imagined. Thomas Marsh did not leave the church over milk strippings. Church leaders did not end polygamy in 1890. Some individuals were, in fact, excommunicated for taking stands against the church's racism (and those individuals' beliefs would today align with the church's official stance).

Melissa MarkhamJuly 15, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful testimony of faith and the Atonement. We so often hear stories about people having the faith to be healed (and they are wonderful!) but not always about sustaining faith when our prayers are not answered in the way we hoped. I, too, experienced a trial that I said I would never be thankful for. But prayers and soul searching have helped my husband and I to recognize the blessings that have come from our experience. Thank you again for your story.

Meredith R JackJuly 15, 2019

This is a beautiful story of Faith and Courage. I highly recommend the book!

Jan KingJuly 15, 2019

Sister Wilcox, thank you so much for writing and sharing Julene's tender and touching story. I'm glad you are able to recognize and be comforted by the miracles your family has, and will likely continue to experience. Sometimes the miracles we are blessed with are revealed to us in time.

AllisonJuly 15, 2019

From the current Seminary manual: Invite a student to read John 16:7 aloud. Ask the class to follow along, looking for whom Jesus promised to send after He was gone. Whom did Jesus promise would come after He departed? (Jesus would send the Comforter, or the Holy Ghost.) Explain that the word expedient, as used in verse 7, means beneficial or profitable. Point out that “the Holy Ghost did not operate in the fulness among the Jews during the years of Jesus’ mortal sojourn (John 7:39; 16:7)” (Bible Dictionary, “Holy Ghost”). To help the class understand why the Holy Ghost did not operate in its fulness, read aloud the following statement by Elder Bruce R. McConkie of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles: Elder Bruce R. McConkie “As long as Jesus was with the disciples in person, there was not the full need for them to have the constant companionship of the Spirit that there would be after Jesus left” (Doctrinal New Testament Commentary, 3 vols. [1965–73], 753).

Karen EvansJuly 15, 2019

My eyes are leaking so much that I can barely write this. What a beautiful story. Her legacy will live on and on. She will continue to touch lives as her story is told over and over. God bless her mother for following the spiritual prompting to share her life.

Michael Shea, MDJuly 15, 2019

I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America and to the republic for which it stands; one nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all. If that’s offensive to you. leave. In fact, if you’re concerned that someone might be offended by that pledge, leave. And that means YOU, even if you’re one of the bureaucrats. No one needs you, and the pledge says nothing about allegiance to bureaucrats. Bureaucrats are a necessary evil at best. Our allegiance that we pledge is to the UNITED STATES, to the flag that symbolizes our unity as a society, and to the republican political order as it was conceived and executed by our forefathers and sustained by those who were martyrs for that cause. If that isn’t what you want, leave. Some of us have had just about all the nonsense from you that we can tolerate. It matters not at all if you don’t agree with every policy or every procedure, but if that is the case, and you would rather not leave, at least try keeping your mouth(s) shut for a change and stay out of the newspaper. You’re disturbing the peace. I join with those blowing back.

Mary Kay McGowanJuly 15, 2019

This beautiful young woman was clearly an Angel and her story helps me understand suffering better. I am grateful this was shared. Thank you so much.

Steven K. SsenyonjoJuly 15, 2019

A story worthy reading and pondering. As such faithful and dedicated members pass on, we think of their exemplified life based on their faith and testimony then we think of our worthiness, the atonement, the plan of salvation and determine to work better as Saints for our own salvation.

Jan KingJuly 15, 2019

Thank you for continuing to publish these excellent articles by Ted Gibbons! I had not read them before and am benefiting immensely!!

Merry MillerJuly 15, 2019

What a miracles story. I will pass this on to many of my friends. God bless your daughter and thank you God by taking her so she did not have to suffer anymore and now she is in your care and keeping. Bless the family and for allowing us to read your story.

John HendricksJuly 15, 2019

Hi, just a suggestion. I notice many times when you post photos there are no blurbs below the photos to identify who is who. It would be nice to see who the article is about.

Dr. AnonymousJuly 15, 2019

No one is required to recite the pledge if they individually choose not to do so. In my elementary school, there was a girl whose religious affiliation suggested that she not participate. She simply stood quietly during the pledge, and didn't receive any negative feedback for nor participating.

Jim MerrellJuly 15, 2019

For those who might be uncomfortable with patriotic music in church they obviously haven't read their Book of Mormon or Doctrine and Covenants lately. Nephi prophesied about this promised land of freedom and liberty and how when we are righteous we will prosper in this land. In the Doctrine and Covenants it teaches us the U.S. Constitution was inspired and directed by God and for "All nations". If I were in another country and they sang their national music on their national holiday, I would not feel threatened or harmed in any way. It is clear that this author is very articulate and as such are well read. Perhaps they would consider reading books about the American Covenant by Tim Ballard which gives references time and again of the God's hand in the formation of and sustaining of this country. I agree that we would do better to find ways to sustain this country by living righteously than just singing hymns in church about patriotism, at the same time I think rather than criticize the practice, we would be better served in discovering why we do it.

MarilynJuly 15, 2019

NICELY expressed! For those of us who have loved ones who sacrificed their own lives our attachments & memories find comfort in that sacrifice acknowledged in anthem. God does mend MY every flaw, and He can mend even a nation, to become even greater.

LexaGraemeJuly 15, 2019

Cute. How often would we get better results if we just approached things from a different angle.

TimJuly 15, 2019

While the UK national anthem is listed in the hymn book, I do not recall ever singing it in church as I was growing up, and certainly not during regular Sunday meetings. Nor do I ever recall hearing the Mareseilleise sung in church when I was on my mission in France. I'd be curious to know whether the national anthem gets played in other countries. And yes, it does make me uncomfortable to be in a Sacrament meeting to have the American national anthem sung. And I get some very odd looks when I refuse to stand up for it or to sing the words. Not sure this article really addresses the issue raised in the title.

BeckyJuly 15, 2019

What a beautiful story of hope. No matter the trials we go through, our Savior is ever aware of us and with us. Thank you for sharing this story

Sally MaddocksJuly 15, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this. Very moving and for me a wonderful way to start my morning listening to the beautiful voices.

Robert HaleJuly 15, 2019

Thanks for sharing that rich experience !

Christine SchwartzJuly 15, 2019

Ah, this week's episode gave me so many tears of joy. Thank you! From South Africa

DarrelJuly 14, 2019

There is only one set of 12 apostles at one time on the earth, so the ones that Jesus called in the Book of Mormon were called disciples.

Anne JacksJuly 13, 2019

Totally agree with Julie Davis!

Jan KingJuly 13, 2019

Beautifully done.......covers all the bases!!

StacyJuly 13, 2019

Fantastic article. Regarding one of the comments, it is complete nonsense to not refer to Heavenly Mother because she's too sacred. Read the Gospel Topics Essay on Heavenly Mother. No prophet, apostle, or General Authority has claimed we shouldn't talk about Her. It was one CES teacher once and thus the urban myth began that She's too sacred to discuss. Can you imagine anyone saying we shouldn't talk about Heavenly Father because He's too sacred. Does anyone actually think that God is not married to His equal? My kids are sometimes rude to me, but I love them and forgive them because I'm their mother. Heavenly Mother is infinitely more loving, knowing and powerful. It's insulting to expect any less from Her. She doesn't need to be protected--She's a GOD! Did you ever consider that maybe the reason we don't know more about Her is because people have just accepted what little revelation there is about Her? Revelation doesn't magically pour out on people's heads. Leaders and members have to ask in order to get answers. Also, most women I know in the church do not want to be put on a pedestal or be told they're superior. They want to be treated with respect and equality. Infantilizing Heavenly Mother and women into beings that need to be protected is exactly what is driving many women from the church.

Wally GoddardJuly 12, 2019

The theme of this article doesn't seem to agree with the revered research by John Gottman. See his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

Patricia RanousJuly 12, 2019

Celeste Mcclain expressed my feelings as an adult convert way more eloquently than I every could. Not a new me - but a better and happier me. Thank you, Celeste!

LauraJuly 12, 2019

Thanks for your words Celeste! That was almost as fun to read as the article. I appreciate the encouragement to be free to be yourself at the same time as being a faithful believer. They are compatible!

William R. WalkerJuly 12, 2019

Mariah; Your article was very interesting. You are a great writer. Also, I LOVED the comment from Celeste. Keep up the good work. William R. Walker

SharlaJuly 12, 2019

So very good. I see that this is so important in marriage. Our problems in communicating are destroying our 52 year marriage. Through the years I have been grateful for all you have taught, thank you.

ChrisJuly 12, 2019

Celeste McClain, so well said!!

Susan MuirJuly 12, 2019

Celeste, what a wonderful testimony. I love it.

Julie DavisJuly 12, 2019

If he says he does not want to be married to you. Believe him. Set him free to find someone else and set yourself free before you waste 25 years with someone who does not love you. It will hurt, but it will hurt less when you have 25 years to spend with someone who does love you.

Helen CondonJuly 12, 2019

Afraid I AM "super-white". Nothing I can do about it but it thrills my soul to know we are now actually in the minority. At least I'm an English woman who doesn't drink tea! :-)

AnonJuly 12, 2019

This story did not sit completely well with me. I do believe that prayers can influence good outcomes. This is scriptural. Think: Alma's prayers for his son that were granted. I also believe that all prayers are subject to the will and timing of God. Many people with great faith will pray and pray, and those prayers will not be answered in this life. Had this story not had the positive outcome that it did, it likely would not be a story.

Celeste McclainJuly 12, 2019

I watch, Stranger Things, but haven’t seen season 3! I can’t wait! However, I have to say that before I converted, I had those same ideas about Mormons. It’s called misinformation! I wish the world could get to know this Mormon! I’m sure I would shatter all of that misinformed data. I’m Black, most definitely not “superwhite”, I’m very Spiritual and I Love Heavenly Father and our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, but I’m not “super religious”! People often make jokes, or statements about people, places and things they don’t understand. It’s all very human so we shouldn’t be surprised! Let them keep speaking about Mormons on they’re very popular shows, great advertisement if you ask me, if it were me I’d want to know who these Mormons are and I’d find out. I mean to be honest I did and that is why my life is so much better now and have such more meaning and why my journey with Jesus Christ is so profound! Im no saint, not at all, and far from it... However I wish to be, joyful, happy, longing to be free! I’m a Mormon convert and I’m learning that even though I’m a convert, who I am will never change, but how I’ve lived my life has changed drastically and all for the better. I’m still a intensely passionate black woman, who loves everything and all things, I’m a writer, a poet, a cook, a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a daughter, a sister, a niece and a friend. I’m still the woman who loves and listens to Jazz and R&B. I also love classical music and country and everything 80’s! I Love history, literature and art, non of that has changed. The only thing that has changed with me being a Mormon is the positive structure and strong foundation of Loving Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ in my life, which makes me a better person. The things that has changed is that, I don’t drink liquor anymore, which was killing me, I don’t smoke anymore which was killing me, I don’t engage in nonsense and devilment anymore which would have killed me! So in saying all this, Being a Mormon doesn’t make you something your not. It just makes you a better you! This is my opinion and this is heartfelt! If anyone has a problem with it too bad! This is who I am! I am a Mormon and I’m so blessed that the Church Of Jesus Christ Latter Day Saints Came into my life and brought me so much closer to my God!

Mark MathesonJuly 12, 2019

I have not talked to anyone that has seen it, that hasn't enthusiastically liked it. So much better than the current Spiderman movie. John Groberg is a real hero, not a comic book creation. Please support films with great morals and messages or there won't be anymore to see in the future. Tell your friends, no, take your friends.

July 12, 2019

Let us now how you relate to this myth and whether it has affected your marriage.... Richard and Linda Eyre

Denton L. KimballJuly 11, 2019

If anyone is offended by the pledge of allegiance to this country, then, as someone already stated, they should return to the country from which they came. A citizen here cannot have allegiance to another country. If they do, they cannot and should not be trusted to stand up for this country when it becomes necessary. I certainly would not want such people as my neighbors.

Julie Fink/BrantleyJuly 11, 2019

I am not LDS but have read similar accounts and died myself back in '76

Laurie LewisJuly 11, 2019

Thank you so much, Jennie, for your thoughtful and lovely review of "Secrets Never Die." I'm honored that you enjoyed it. And thank you for all the times you've shined a light on colleagues' books, and for helping readers find them.

Rod LowJuly 11, 2019

I couldn't agree more. A number of years ago in some discarded records, I found a story about my 3rd great grandmother, Jacobina Well Osborn Patten Willamson. This discovery prompted me to get involved in writing stories of my ancestors. I now have stories of my ancestors and my wife's ancestor back several generations. This has led to great love and apparition for all my ancestors, but a special love for the grandmothers I never knew.

Wally GoddardJuly 11, 2019

Kandace, yes, it is great to offer ourselves and others hopeful statements. We should lift and encourage each other. I love your statement that we are enough with God and because of Him. For those without religious faith, another statement might be developed like: I have valuable talents that make a difference as I serve. I always think it is better to use a true statement than a faulty one. Blessings.

JulieJuly 11, 2019

Nice article, but it's important to remember that sometimes it is not God's will to heal us. Although our faith is enough for physical healing to take place, we do need to accept His will in these matters. I know the author is not implying this, but some would say that if we are not healed of our illnesses, it's because we don't have enough faith. Elder Oaks gave a beautiful talk on healing entitled, "He Heals the Heavy Laden".

HalJuly 11, 2019

I am grateful for the "little" miracles I witness nearly every day of my life. We have a neighbor who has been reclusive for many years. We began praying for this dear sister a few months ago and, almost immediate, an occasion arose for us to ask her to go for a walk with us. She opened up and talked to us for over an hour - more than we had spoke to each other in the past 10+ years. Last week, we prayed for guidance on how to contact a non-member who had recently moved into our neighborhood and made it a significant part of our fast last Sunday. Following our Sunday meetings, we discovered this neighbor's daughter was having a birthday the following Wednesday which gave us an opportunity to visit and meet the entire family. We were graciously welcomed in, had a wonderful introduction to the entire family, and opened up opportunities for future visits. There are miracles all around us every day - we just have to open our eyes, our ears, and our hearts to recognize them for what they are.

Charles DefranchiJuly 11, 2019

When I got married 27 years ago to my wife - quite a pretty young woman - I made sure we'd get a professional photographer to take wedding pictures. The pictures turned out to be very nice. However, my wife always resists my showing those pictures to family and friends. There are some mysteries in couples relationships that may never get resolved in this life. Maybe more testimonials from our female Latter-Day Saint readers would help...

Seagull SuzJuly 11, 2019

OMG...yes, your last comment...BE MORE DELIBERATE!... Have you ever had a group of kids...a diverse group...LDS and other Christian or Jewish or Muslim kids?...ask them a question about any social issue...most likely the LDS kids will not have a clue how to answer...teach your kids about the world around them...BE DELIBERATE!...those kids need to be street smart as well as BOM smart!!!

Andrew ChildsJuly 10, 2019

What Boanerges Rubalcava said. My thoughts exactly.

Oscar MuñozJuly 10, 2019

“Prophecy is but history in reverse—a divine disclosure of future events.“ Ezra Taft Benson Jan 1974 Nephi saw Washington and his struggles: 1 Nephi 11 17 And I beheld that their mother Gentiles were gathered together upon the waters, and upon the land also, to battle against them. 18 And I beheld that the power of God was with them, and also that the wrath of God was upon all those that were gathered together against them to battle. 19 And I, Nephi, beheld that the Gentiles that had gone out of captivity were delivered by the power of God out of the hands of all other nations.

Nihla Wilcox JuddJuly 10, 2019

Loved your insights. Thanks for sharing.

Jay GoldthwaiteJuly 10, 2019

I also refer to the amazing talk by Lawrence Corbridge at BYU. He was asked by church leaders to study many Anti-Mormon writings, and he was powerfully affected by them. He talks in detail about the experience. But he also explains why he was able to get through all that material without losing his testimony, his faith, his conversion. He teaches a fact that the "anti's" poke at the branches of our doctrine rather than at the heart. Or perhaps better said, at the secondary questions that arise from the history of the church among imperfect members (all of us) rather than the primary questions. Find the answers to the primary questions through sincere and prayerful study and willingness to change if true - as is officially recommended to investigators. Here's the link:

Samantha, Lebanon, TNJuly 10, 2019

I should have said, 'most of the parents we saw in the office' seemed as if they did not want to take responsibility for their children' almost as if they were afraid of them!

J JamisonJuly 10, 2019

I was baptized in Minneapolis - St.Louis Park is a suburb of Mpls. - the Mission Home was(?) in Burnsville, another suburb

Samantha, Lebanon, TNJuly 10, 2019

I worked as a registered nurse in a pediatric office for almost 20 years. Parents could always call for advice about their child's health. At first, we nurses could give advice on what to do before making an appointment. That was well received for many years before my time and for a minimum of five or so years after. Gradually we saw resistance to common sense remedies for things which our parents would NEVER have made an appointment. By the time I retired, the majority of parents were resistant to suggestion for even the simplest thing, such as removing a splinter. And horror of horrors -- inserting a suppository rectally for an older infant with constipation!! Parents would calI and complain about their child not taking their medication (I always wanted to ask 'Who's the adult in your house?').I came to the conclusion long before I retired that today's parents don't want to take responsibility for anything -- not even their children!

Gary LawrenceJuly 10, 2019

Very good. Thanks.

Anne StricklandJuly 10, 2019

I'm from NZ and very much interested in doing this tour. How do I get in please.

Lisa CroftJuly 10, 2019

God’s laws don’t change, but the application of those laws do. If it were not so, we would all being eating Kosher. It is important to understand the distinction. Those who are steeped in the culture of the Church, instead of its Doctrines will struggle with change.

John C PearceJuly 10, 2019

This is a great movie that should be seen by every Latter-day Saint and anybody who wants to have a beautiful emotional experience. I was fortunate enough to organised a private screening of this on June 29th with over a hundred in attendance. Everyone that I spoke to after said that they really enjoyed the movie and said they would love to see other inspiring movies in the future. In other churches the leaders encourage their members to attend christian themed movies. My wish is that members will support this and other well made movies without "being commanded in all things".

Jenny SvendsenJuly 10, 2019

Good article, well written! If I may, let me just make this observation...members may leave the church because they are not anchored in faith and knowledge of God our Eternal Father, His son Jesus christ our Saviour, the holy Ghost who reveals truths to us and testifies of Christ. I just read a talk given by Lawrence Corbridge at BYU (look it up on youtube), absolutely amazing, and brings to light why we need to be anchored in the above, that is all that matters.

Charlotte SinclaireJuly 10, 2019

Regarding the city council who voted to forego the Pledge of Allegiance at their meetings: The councilwoman who was pushing for the pledge to be eliminated said it might "scare" people away. Well, if they're going to be scared away by a strong country that offers liberty and justice for all, they certainly were misguided when they came to the U.S. All those council members who voted for this change should be voted OUT. As should many other groups, organizations, and people across the country -- and especially those who run our schools -- who have chosen not to include the Pledge of Allegiance as part of their daily routine. It's bad enough that "God" has already been removed from so many aspects of American life. But this is kind of the last straw because it is against both God and country. Our country is a gift to us from God. It is the great place it is (despite its problems) and we have what we have (the ability and right to solve those problems) because of God's blessings and protections. The folks who push for these kinds of disrespectful and ungrateful initiatives are, brick by brick, dismantling God's protection over our country and making us vulnerable to the same problems experienced in the less prosperous, less tolerant, less happy, and less secure countries in the world -- the same countries from which our foreign visitors and new citizens are fleeing. I believe think these visitors and new citizens would be thrilled to hear such a Pledge of Allegiance, counting it as confirmation that they have truly come to a better place. It is a shame, then, that our own citizens simply take it all for granted. Taking something for granted is like daring it to disappear -- to disintegrate bit by bit when we aren't looking. With initiatives like this one, we should not be surprised to turn around someday and realize that the God-given blessings and protections we have as a country have disappeared. Who or what will we pledge allegiance to then?

Bob PowelsonJuly 10, 2019

Why should we be tolerant of Islam when it is intolerant of Christians? Tolerance works both ways.

Ed DeusenberryJuly 10, 2019

Seems to me all elected officials need to remember who they work for. They are there to represent we the people. And if you can’t/won’t do that, you need to step down.

JulieJuly 10, 2019

I totally agree with Ms. Auclair. If someone is offended by The Pledge, just leave the room when it’s being said & then come back in! It’s getting to the point where being in the majority means nothing.

John H. BurgonJuly 9, 2019

When the wording in the temple ceremony changed along with Pres. Nelson changes in standard policies many wondered how truth could change? Truth has not changed, the doctrine of Christ, faith, repentance, baptism, gift of the Holy Ghost and enduring to the end are still the same. The purpose of the endowment, to receive the necessary names, signs and token to be able to return to God’s presence, is still the same. Polices will and should change to fit the times we live in. Doctrine will remain but may be added upon.

Marianne RimmaschJuly 9, 2019

I know Jana and Brtynee, you can’t be around there family without knowing the amazing amount of courage and faith they have. Thank you for the story. Beautiful ❤️❤️

Sue CJuly 9, 2019

Your points are so important. Thanks for this video! Well done!

MaryannJuly 9, 2019

Once again we see that our founding fathers truly did worship the "Great God, our King." I am so grateful for their perseverance and sacrifices. How I wish we had more political leaders today following their pattern of faith and obedience. Articles like this spark greater patriotism and remind us that our Heavenly Father is still in charge. We have a great obligation to live the gospel with all of hearts with a spirit of thanksgiving, and also to retain our promises of freedom and prosperity.

CynthiaJuly 9, 2019

Thank you for a wonderful, thought provoking article! Yes, God doesn't change, BUT three thoughts came to mind as I read this article: 1. First, He DOES reveal things line upon line and precept by precept ... and should we suppose that because He "has spoken one word, (he) cannot speak another"? 2. The world changes, and Satan's tactics change - while the principles of the Gospel will never change, we may (probably) need to apply - or speak about - them differently. 3. I sometimes visualize myself - in my understanding of the Gospel - like a 2-year old feeling like having a tantrum when I'm faced with a new instruction / direction (whether from a leader or from the Holy Ghost) ... I've finally learned that the more "quickly I obey", the happier and more blessed I am. Father does know best, and I'm positive Mother does, too.

Kim HulbertJuly 9, 2019

London is overrated and the crowds are huge this time of the year. This tour looks spectacular. Would totally give up London (having been there 3 times) to do this tour.

Bob. SpielJuly 9, 2019

Such great insights, Janet. Thank you. C.S. Lewis once said, "We read to know we are not alone." It seems history has this power..if we will let see our condition is not unique unto itself. Each generation is faced with challenges that appear daunting, and even insurmountable -- yet God's work and will continues and His children overcome as our better angels are employed!. How valuable it is for our children to learn this simple lesson. Thanks, again, for the reminder!

Richard HillsJuly 9, 2019

Your excellent article is well written and thought out but doesn't deal with an essential question. Why do changes in church teachings, liturgy, policies, and culture sometimes make Latter-day Saints feel uncomfortable? For me, I see myself accepting changes with shallow explanations pretty much mindlessly. I see me rationalizing without end, never admitting that I've ever been wrong, never considering that I might be wrong and never wondering what my priorities should be. And I'm uncomfortable wondering what's next?

Boanerges RubalcavaJuly 9, 2019

I tend to agree almost completely with this article, however, I must emphasize that due to the fact that the author tries hard to be 'inclusive" for women, this makes the article at the end to be very "sexist". I will explain myself: There are different aspects in our Church that show very clearly that the Church never has been sexist, although many members have been. The author used our Heavenly Mother to try us to change the way we have been treating Her in the past: With a veneration and respect beyond the understanding of the author. First, we seldom refer to Her, because Heavenly Father seldom refers to Her either; nevertheless, we as a Church is likely the only one that has come with this concept of a Heavenly Mother; this shows very clearly that we are different than any other church in the history of the world, and Second the reason we seldom talk about Her is because He, our God wants Her to be sacred and He only revelas Her to few prophets and for special reasons. That's also the way that He is teaching us to treat women in Church, as our sacred companions, the mother of our children and because of this untouchable for the evils of the world. The late Apostle Mervin Ashton once told me when we were discussing feminism: "I never understand why women wanted to be equal since they always have been superior.". This is the way we think of women in the Church, and if some of the members do not understand it, it is very important for articles like this to illuminate them, but be careful do not go all the way to the other side trying to be "politically correct" and change to the manner of the world. Of course we must embrace change, and in this church I have learned this better than in any other place on earth. However, we must remain with Heavenly Father (obviously this englobes HER, but I do not want and I will not do that, to trivialize HER) in the changes we want to make following the prophet when those changes come, that I believe will be changes in procedures but very likely never in the doctrine.

Neil DevereauxJuly 9, 2019

From an eternal perspective and trying to comprehend a God that is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent means that there are infinite numbers of choices which God can make and in turn reveal to us. Just because God chooses to reveal and put into practice specific aspects of His divine plan for us as to how His kingdom on earth will be administered at a given time, doesn't mean that those are the only choices He has. Any combination of the infinite number of choices which God has at His disposal can be revealed to His prophets so that His church can be administered according to His will and in order to fit the circumstances of an ever changing world. Why should we be surprised when God allows us to know that He has many ways to deal with the volatility of His children. His Plan of Salvation and Happiness has many facets that we may not be aware of at any point in time but they are always at His disposal. When Nephi received a revelation to incorporate two different records for the same period of time in his writings, he didn't know why but God knew He would have to deal with Joseph Smith's bad decision hundreds of years in the future. We are in good hands and God knows what He is doing. Pres. Nelson has told us to prepare for many more aspects of the restoration that have not yet been revealed. God does not change. He just uses different choices from the infinite ones he can select from. I hope we can stay faithful as we see His divine plan unfold.

CarolineJuly 9, 2019

As Sister Joy D. Jones said “If the pull of the world is stronger than the faith and trust we have in the Savior, then the pull of the world will prevail every time “. Since Adam and Eve, literally, this has been the sad story of mankind. Faith in Christ, loving Him with our whole souls, always remembering Him,following Him as He and our prophets have always invited us to do, is the whole purpose of our existence. The “anguish” of President Nelson’s heart is when we decline His invitation. “Retention” has always been a problem. The cycles in the Book of Mormon and throughout history are evidence of how His children are so prone to wander and why He weeps. Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is the anchor and the answer to every question, to every doubt, and fills us with joy through all the pulls of the world.

Don HoffmanJuly 9, 2019

Doctrine and policy are very different matters.

Charles DefranchiJuly 9, 2019

Dear Brother Frogley, Thank you very much for this very inspiring message -- indeed, so many similitudes with the current Temple Endowment ceremony! The very fact that reading this feels sweet to my soul does not tell me only about the value of your writings but about the fact that, despite my sinful nature, there is something in me that continues yearning for the gift of eternal salvation. I do occasionally catch sight of you at the Paris Temple Visitors' Center, working alongside my good friends Jacques and Danielle Meunier, but look forward to having a chat with you one of these days.

Steven K. SsenyonjoJuly 9, 2019

An inspiring article which has reminded me of our role and relationship in this mortal life with God. Moses had such a calling from God in this life. All us Saints in this life we have a duty or calling to fulfill before God, that is, serving God through serving others.

Laurie OgdenJuly 8, 2019

Mr M. and Mr. Elliot ... and so there wasn't at the time of the Reverend Roger Williams, but if he was seeking that true prophet, keys, church and authority of Jesus Christ, surely he has found it now <3 for it is here <3 in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Doug WrightJuly 8, 2019

I know this amazing family well, their father is the branch president in my branch in rural south Alabama. You can tell the entire family puts the lord first like Whitney mentioned. Can’t wsit to see the twins.?

Kandace A. McClureJuly 8, 2019

Uplifting article, thank you. Only other comment, "I am enough" is not meant to be boastful but more of an encouraging, hopeful statement; a way some people are able to lift themselves up and get a better footing in a world constantly disparaging their efforts. You can't breathe unless your nose is above water. We are enough, with God and because of Him. I understand your point, but for people with little or no faith (or religious beliefs), trying to create a positive mental attitude about yourself to overcome adversity is never laughable.You have to start somewhere.

Tamra KriserJuly 8, 2019

As the mother of Whitney and Heidi, I am also aware of the years of prior prayers and fasting for the blessing of Whitney in finding her eternal companion. These were blessings we all desired for her to have, and yet, for reasons and timing the Lord only knew, they were years she needed to faithfully wait. I thought Elder Dale G. Renlund did a great job in expressing and explaining this in his talk, "Abound with Blessings," this past April. His whole talk was dedicated to this subject--the need for our faith, prayers, and actions, but also the trust in the timing of our Heavenly Father. Even though there had been many prior prayers and fasting, Heidi's heart was moved with deep desires for her sister to receive this blessing, and she earnestly sought these blessings for her. Were all the prior prayers and faith in vain? Certainly not, but only added upon as the Lord's timing neared and Heidi was moved upon and then acted to help bring about this blessing and miracle for her sister.

Bob SpielJuly 8, 2019

Such a great reminder, Maurine! Thank you! Along with Tim Ballard's book, another great source is Seven Miracles that Saved America by Chris and Ted Stewart. It has stories in it that are breathtaking, and demonstrates that God is intimately involved in the forming of America, and the preservation of it's freedoms, so it can be a beacon to bless the whole world. I highly recommend it.

Marlon WaiteJuly 8, 2019

Great insight, and another wonderful article. As a seminary teacher, I want to incorporate this concept into many of my lessons. Thanks for being a worthy messenger with a most worthwhile message!

NanetteJuly 8, 2019

I am so grateful you share your beautiful insights with us! I have learned so much from your books and articles over the years! Thank you!

FranzJuly 8, 2019

I agree that we have so much pressure to look young and perfect forever and this creates issues of self confidence, there is also trauma in some cases that might have started the issue. However, as a therapist myself I don’t quite see the point in ignoring the issue and just focus on the other qualities of the partner. In a relationship, mutual attraction is not an option, but a pillar. This means that despite being imperfect, and not beautiful, we find something in the other person that draws us to them physically too. Maybe their quirky expression or the way they touch their hair. But it all counts. When a person becomes upset for a sincere compliment, I would suggest going to the root and ask them, how do you feel when I say this? In a therapy setting, I would go down to the root issue, the moment when she started to develop such a negative image of her body that no one can compliment her looks. It’s very unhealthy. It talks about feeling you are not enough. It could have started when a relative made a compliment she found creepy at age eight. It could be that a school friend called her names because of her body. It could be her mum comparing her to the sibling. Whatever it is, the root can be identified and there are psychotherapy techniques that will enable the client to move on from old beliefs that are hindering her. I had a session last week with a 47 y.o. Man. Since he was a child he has suffered from social anxiety. One of the aspects of it was that hand he was young he was teased a lot at school, and once his dad teased him because at age five he gave a kiss on the cheek to his best friend, who was a girl. His parents teased his for months about it. He felt very uncomfortable and confused and side then he failed making meaningful connections with women until in his 40s. He always waits for women to start because he is terrified of being teased again just like the little boy he still has inside. So, while it is good to give compliments about a spectrum of qualities, it is indeed fundamental for any person who can’t take a compliment, to get some help and be able to accept, enjoy and celebrate his or her human body. The human body is beautiful even with scars, disease and imperfections because it has been created after the image of God. It is not superficial to appreciate the body of our partner. We are wired to find it attractive and to enjoy the warmth, acceptance and comfort of another human being close to us. As a columnist of this magazine myself, maybe I should submit an article about the damage we do with our words when we talk to young children about their body in unhealthy ways. One of them is to make them believe that it is sinful to have a nice body, or to look at it. In appropriate settings it is perfectly fine indeed.

SueJuly 7, 2019

This is one of the most helpful articles I've read about marriage. Very practical and helpful advice. Hal's comment was a powerful reinforcement of the principles you taught. Thanks.

Russell Rich CannonJuly 7, 2019 I grew up attending Ensign Stake Conference in the Assembly Hall and often saw my Great Uncle John Taylor’s watch on display in the old Temple Square Information Bureau. Even if the watch did not stop a ball, the fact that John Taylor’s life was spared was a miracle. I loved the photo essay.

Mark MathesonJuly 7, 2019

May God bless Sierra Leone. They have had so many ups and downs. Ebola - now Literacy. May this be the start of a long string of ups for this sweet people.

Deb LeggeJuly 7, 2019

Your articles through the years have had such an impact on my life! You are such an insightful person. I’ve quoted you in Relief Society and Sunday School lessons and when I’ve spoken in church. Your gift of putting words together is so inspired, how you will be missed! I can’t wait to meet you someday. God bless you for your willingness to share your journey with all of us through these many years.

Neva BordenJuly 7, 2019

Heidi & Whitney's Grandparents went on a mission to Siberia with a prayer in their hearts that their older daughter would find the right man for her, marry and move forward with her life. This happened..... Therefore, my husband and I went on a mission to the SL Inner City with a prayer in our hearts that our older son would find the right woman for him, marry and move forward with his life. This also happened.... Heidi knew these stories. She knew the service part of these prayers. President Monson often said, "When we are on the Lord's errand, we are entitled to the Lord's blessings." Thanks be to God.

Mark MathesonJuly 7, 2019

Thank you for your insights. It provoked some of my best personal Gospel study I have had during my current dry spell.Thank you for being a spiritual catalyst.

SarahJuly 6, 2019

My husband's birthday is on the 4th of July, mine is on the 17th of September (Constitution Day). We honeymooned in Washington DC. My children always say that their parents were a match made in... the USA! It may sound silly, but I think this is part of the seed of our family culture. My children all have a genuine interest in US History and a true love for country. My son in particular is known for his flag-bearing wherever and whenever he can!

Barbara PainterJuly 6, 2019

These two men were not Jesus apostles but were followers.

RanaeJuly 6, 2019

As a wife who doesn't want compliments about my body, I think Geoff answered this fairly well. In my case, rejecting these types of comments was not really about insecurity or body shame as much as wanting reassurance that I was actually seen and known by the person who has the best opportunity to reflect back to me who I really am. I want to know that my "other half" sees my talents, my struggles, my strength, my vulnerability, and that these things are precious and lovable. When comments are about superficial things like body shape or beauty, I don't feel like he is seeing me at all. I don't want to hear that I am okay in a competition of looks, when I know that aging is inevitable and there will always be someone who can outshine me. I want to know that what he sees and loves is deeper than appearances. When that need is met, the compliments about my body and looks are icing on the cake, and I enjoy them also.

Gordon J HensleyJuly 5, 2019

The Lord told Joseph Smith that he raised up these righteous men (and women) to be the foundation of our country. Who are we to question His judgement? I think He knew there were slaveholders among them, but he needed them to frame our constitution, and to set the stage for the future extinction of the universal historical practice of legal slavery.

Teresa FlegalJuly 5, 2019

I never heard the whole story. What a miracle. Heidi, what a great sister to pray so hard for WHITNEY. Loved hearing this story.

Lina HatchJuly 5, 2019

Thank you for including this beautiful story of my two nieces. What a sweet surprise to read it in Meridian! Heidi is also now wed. Blessings to Heidi, Whitney & Mark!

Jan KingJuly 5, 2019

Further evidence that Heavenly Father delights in the details of our lives.

Name WithheldJuly 5, 2019

I’ve been praying for this to happen with my daughter now for over 10 years. She is 32 and remains single. I do not understand the Lord’s timing or how this will all work out. When you pray for righteous things to happen for your family, and they don’t, it is hard. I continue to hold onto my faith and fast for her. I’m happy for this family.

Diana ChaseJuly 5, 2019

Wonderful story!! So happy for them. But, what about all those other single sisters that have been praying, fasting and waiting for their answers or blessings about marriage? Why is the Lord so silent for these righteous sisters? I know, everyone has their own journey and plan but, sometimes you have to wonder why?

bob powelsonJuly 5, 2019

The time has come for the LDS to stop being semi--pacifist and apologetic about our faith and conduct. Most are unhappy teens who need to be brought up very short.

AlexanderJuly 5, 2019

The romantic part of me says: "marvellous!" However, I know RM who are still waiting for a spouse.

Sue C.July 5, 2019

Maybe we should also disrespect the First President of the UNITED STATES, George Washington, as well. Maybe we should split off from the whole southern section of the Eastern seaboard because they owned slaves hundreds of years ago. I love this country,good bad and indifferent. I love Betsy Ross for hand stitching a flag for the Revolutionary War--that gave us all the freedoms we enjoy today. I love that we have the history of the War Between the States so hopefully we don't have to resort to it again. And if we want to learn from the past we better study it and cherish it and honor it. The best way not to have slavery happen again and to make sure everyone is respected is to start with ourselves. Respect Betsy Ross for what she did. Respect George Washington and Thomas Jefferson, because even though they owned slaves that was not all they did. They gave their all to this nation. We can have the blessings and freedoms we have today because of such great men. I love the RED, WHITE, and BLUE. I love that is has flown in this nation since1776. And with all the ups and downs we have faced as a nation. It still flies. It flies in my yard and in my neighbor's yard. It flies on churches and synagogs. It flies at markets and at schools. It stands for something grand and great and bigger than any one of us or any race or any creed.

MaggieJuly 5, 2019

all so true !! What is really awesome is when we as a parent are aware of this! You are the best! Thank for coming back to sharing with us !!

LexaGraemeJuly 5, 2019

Very good. We as a family have learned how important storytelling is. My children’s Sacrament Meeting talks follow this, and people will come up to them weeks later and tell them what they said is still remembered. My husband and I do this with our own talks and class discussions. But it goes further than just How-to-Give-a-Good-Sacrament-Meeting-Talk. Effective storytelling is needed to tell our *own* stories. Telling stories of those who came before us gives the family roots. It can give inspiration. It can hold families together. It could honestly be looked upon as a Life Skill.

LoraJuly 5, 2019

Islam has got a PR problem. I know of no other religion that has in its holy book that it's necessary to loot and kill non-believers. Thomas Jefferson bought a Koran because the Barbary pirates said that it was the will of Allah that they attack our ships. Jefferson couldn't believe it. He read the book--and there it was! The first person to try to reform Islam was the grandson of Mohammed. He was killed. We would all like to believe that Islam is a religion of peace, but it has never been so. Islam started as a religion of conquest. Now we see "no go" areas in Europe and the US where law enforcement is not permitted to enter. In San Bernardino a Christmas party was shot up by Muslims. The neighbors saw suspicious activity but didn't want to look Islamophobic so they didn't say anything. If people feel nervous when Muslims pray, we have had many reasons for doing so. We don't see Buddhists, Hindus, Catholics, or Amish people blowing things up. Until Muslims face that reality, they are still going to be looked upon with suspicion.

Esmeralda AmosJuly 5, 2019

Loved this story!!!

LoraJuly 5, 2019

I can understand thinking that the Confederate flag is a symbol of white supremacy. I cannot understand thinking that the Betsy Ross flag is a symbol of white supremacy. It represents the 13 original colonies who broke free from the British empire. If the Betsy Ross flag is offensive, tell that to James Armistead, Peter Salem, Prince Whipple, and Oliver Cromwell, who fought under that flag. They are named by William Nell in his books Services of Colored Americans in the Wars of 1776 and 1812 (1852) and Colored Patriots of the American Revolution 1855. Young Americans used to know about them until Woodrow Wilson (D) took them out of the history books.

CraigJuly 5, 2019

This is only going to get worse. As the country becomes more secular, less tolerant of religion, and as the demographics of Utah change with mass immigration, members of the church are going to find themselves targeted more often. We're not at another Hauns mill yet, but that's not out of the realm of possibility one day.

Doris WilliamsJuly 5, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this story with us, Michaela. It's just a fact that miracle after miracle occurs when we are trying to follow the Savior. It's so wonderful to share in Whitney and Mark's joy in the gospel and their growing family and Heidi just has to glow, for having played such an important part in their union. I wish the best for their whole family.

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Renate MartinJuly 5, 2019

This is a beautiful spiritual story. And also proof miracles still do happen.

Don HoffmanJuly 5, 2019

We need to include tolerance for Christian behavior while we're at it.

PopsJuly 5, 2019

I was listening to a debate on the subject of how one can determine what is morally correct. One participant was religious, and took the position that reliance on the Bible is necessary. The other, an atheist, argued that morals can be arrived at through reason. The religious man asked how the atheist could possibly find his way through the myriad ideas, bad and good, that arise from the intellect, and choose the best. The atheist's response was that he personally relied on the still, small voice.

JulesJuly 5, 2019

It's a great story and I'm glad it worked out for them. But I think we need to be careful about implying that because she prayed so well, that God granted her wish. I literally fasted and prayed for years to meet someone and it was still many more years before I found my husband. And I have friends who are returned missionaries and are very righteous and pray really hard and specifically amstill haven't found someone to get married to. Marriage is not a blessing given to people when they are righteous enough or when they pray hard enough or deserve it enough because it's they've worked hard enough. The concept of prosperity gospel (aka that if you are righteous enough, only good things will happen to you) is something in our church culture rhetoric that needs to go away. Righteous people don't always get what they pray for, and sometimes have things not work out for them all neat and tidy.

Rodney SmithJuly 5, 2019

James is right about Madison opposing chaplains. I discuss the issue at some length in my book. He feared that chaplains would be selected from majority religions and paid for with general tax dollars. He also opposed having a religion department at the University of Virginia. He preferred a wonderful solution -- let all religions have property near the university where they could establish "institutes" (his term) that would have regular access to the university. In today's world where chaplains have been drawn from most faiths, I am not sure how he would stand on the issue -- remember, establishment meant non-preference and equality for all religions. Remember, as well, that his history was one of bloodshed, imprisonment, and persecution of minority religions when one religion was given special preference by the government. His view actually squares very nicely with the 134th section (I wrote an article on this for the BYU Law Review).

TRAILHEADJuly 5, 2019

Wonderful! Love hearing the quotes of Washington showing he was so close to God in commanding the troops in laying the groundwork for freedom and liberty for all

Jeremy R FarnsworthJuly 5, 2019

Diana, I really enjoyed talking with you today. Our meeting seemed random, but considering that I went through this event this week I doubt it happenstance. My house burned down Saturday, and my family lost everything. After a sleepless night, I kept getting phone calls requesting interviews for the news. I did not want to talk to anyone. I asked God what he wanted me to do, and I received an answer that changed me, and my entire outlook on this event. I learned that what happened, though tragic, was not about me. There are way more people involved in ways I cannot begin to imagine. I was told to not rob people of their blessings and to let them serve. Finally, I was told to stop being afraid and to let my light shine so that other's may see His work. There have been so many miracles, and each day brings more.

vickieJuly 4, 2019

YES IT IS DIFFICULT to remember to not say Mormon church or im a Mormon....but I do realize its important because as scripture dictates that Christ said to be called by His latter day saint is fine with me....and saying I belong to the church of Jesus Christ of latter day saints.....most people know what that anyway....

David H BaileyJuly 4, 2019

This article is only part of the story. There is another historical matter of great significance. It is the mission of Joan of Arc who in 1428-9 succeeded in breaking the back of English power in France and enabling the removal of English dominion within 20 years of her death on the pyre. Except for her assumed impossible success, France would have been overrun if the English managed to capture the bridge over the Loire River protected by the city of Orleans. That she prevented that capture enabled France to survive as a nation. The success of our independence according to two historians I researched, wrote that except for the role of France, independence would have likely failed. France provided 63 ships, 22,000 sailors, and 12 soldiers to that battle. Her true story (I like Mark Twain's book) is tragically missing in American history and among Christian writers. Yes, Mark Twain spent 12 years researching English and French records and 2 years writing. Of her Winston Churchill wrote that she had no equal in 1000 years. Other historians and writers say she has no equal in all recorded history. It is an intensely spiritual experience and one of direct involvement of Heavenly messengers. .

Tom ShawJuly 4, 2019

It is remarkable that at this point in history, my nation, the British, were engaged in a major war against Napoleon, which was prioritised. This drew away most of our military power from the Americas & along with the incompetency of our generals allowed the fledgling Revolutionary army to led by an inspired leader to.triumph. The Lords hand was there as it was many years later when a defeated British Army was miraculously snatched from Dunkirk to fight on & form a foundation for the Allied armies that eventually defeated an evil tyranny. Not to forget a small RAF force that was later able to defeat the larger Luftwaffe. I think that both of our nations, as remnants of ancient Israel, are watched over by the Lord , but we must hearken to the warnings by ancient prophets, that we will lose his protection if we turn from Him as many are doing today.

RobJuly 4, 2019

Hi Kate, Does the desire to return to a time of white supremacy include black people who wear MAGA hats?

Patricia CarrJuly 4, 2019

This is such a beautiful reminder of how we should be living our lives today. We definitely need the divine he!I of God to get this country back to what God established it to ve.

David AJuly 4, 2019

Stop buying all Nike Products! Boycotts are effective, but they'd rather listen to a silly, has-been wanna-be NFL player. Boycotts Nike!

KateJuly 4, 2019

I think that Nike made the right decision. The Betsy Ross flag, as lovely as it is, is a favored symbol used by white supremacists, harking back as it does to a time when black people were slaves and women were legally chattel--a world the supremacists would dearly love to recreate. I would not want to wear shoes with that symbol, and I'm guessing that the target demographic of the shoes would not either. Its only value would be to help the rest of us spot those sympathetic to white privilege, much like a MAGA hat does.

KateJuly 4, 2019

There is so much to be said about this topic. Yes, follow the prophets, but be sure that you obtain your own assurance from the Lord regarding their counsel. Brigham Young worried aloud on several occasions that the saints would just give their agency away to the church leaders and not confirm counsel themselves. It is our responsibility to make conscious choices, confirmed by the Holy Ghost. Also it is very important to remember that the prophetic counsel we should heed is that coming from the prophets alive today, not those from years ago. Things change. As an example, one of the other commentators referred to the Equal Rights Amendment--while the Church opposed it in the 1970s, it had been supported by the Church when it was originally proposed in the early 20th century. Something obviously changed. Were it to be re-introduced today, it is possible that we would get different counsel than in the 70s (or not). What Pres. Kimball said in the 70s is interesting (and sounds so much like him! ), but we should not assume that Pres. Nelson would say the same nearly 50 years later.

Carol AnnJuly 4, 2019

I am now a fan of Arizona Governor Doug Ducey (R). Finally, someone on the right side of history speaks out boldly and loudly! ONE person on the left should not have that much power to compel and change Nike's decision making!

EstherJuly 4, 2019

Beautiful reminder. Much appreciated today. A day when my life is simple and can be reflective on our founding fathers and mothers. Their resilience and devotion to covenant with God and have faith in all might to keep moving forward.

Mary LindeJuly 4, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful lesson. I was truly touched by the Spirit. You have a wonderful way of writing that opens the heart to the message written within.

Pat Elliott, Sr.July 4, 2019

There are many examples of how spiritual & physical intervention has helped the outcome of battles in wars and the one mentioned in the text is a very good example. There are a number of scriptures that is an affirmation of this and the creation of the United States of America, D&C 101:79-80, being an excellent example. There are a number of things that happened during WW II during battles, the Battle of Midway and what happened there, are excellent examples as how Heavenly Father helped this nation against a brutal, aggressor nation of Japan and there are other significant happenings during that brutal war that helped the U.S., and allies, win the effort.

RachaelJuly 4, 2019

I appreciate your great insights and knowledge. Thank you for sharing with all of us!

ClaireJuly 4, 2019

This is such an informative article! My thoughts exactly, although I’d never to phrase at as eloquently as you.

Larry SteimleJuly 4, 2019

What is our responsibility in protecting this great gift we have been given? First to be informed, to appreciate, then to teach our children and show them the way. God bless America.

KateJuly 3, 2019

I realized this when my oldest was a toddler and would be the perfect child at the babysitter’s and have a complete meltdown by the time we got home. After a few months of this, I realized that he’d been keeping it together (he was 2!) for several hours and knew that now that he was with momma, he could let all those scary emotions out. Honestly, my husband does it too! It helped so much when I realized what was going on—I’m happy they trust me to be that safe harbor.

Esmeralda AmosJuly 3, 2019

Thank you for your words of wisdom. This information ( The crumbles) may equally apply to adults!

HalJuly 3, 2019

Thank your for this article. I found this out the hard way. My first marriage was to a divorcee' who condescended to marry me because she saw me as "a diamond in the rough." (i.e. "project"). I was determined to be the best husband possible and sacrificed to accommodate her every desire. However, I never quite measured up to her expectations. Her disappointment in me gradually turned to frustration and finally to the point where she despised me and I couldn't do anything right. As mentioned in the article, over the years, I HAD changed to meet her expectations. Unfortunately, it was like getting a puppy that is, at first, adored for what it is. But then it digs up the yard, so you have it declawed; it barks all the time, so you have it debarked; it sheds on the carpet, so you have it shaved; you get tired of cleaning up after it, so you banish it to a 4 x 8 foot dog run. You still have a dog, but it is a sad, lonely, neurotic animal that is no fun for anyone (especially the dog). That's the way I felt - I had changed to meet my wife's expectations but, in doing so, was "no longer the man I used to be." The man my wife fell in love with had become someone else and she didn't like it. Looking back, it was inevitable that we divorced. I later met a wonderful woman who took me for who I was and our love has grown and flourished for many years now. Perhaps I needed my first marriage to appreciate just how well I am treated by my current wife.

Jo Ann OkelberryJuly 3, 2019

This article I should have read when my children were small. Thank you for these wonderful insights. We all need a safe place to vent.

Cary HolmquistJuly 3, 2019

Thank you for writing this and sharing your insights. I will make sure my wife reads this as she is the safe harbor for the three of our kids who crumble only with her. She does not complain about it, really, but it does wear her out sometimes, as you can imagine. My role is limited, since they won’t confide in me that much.... But your insight will be helpful!

HalJuly 3, 2019

Loved this article! It reminds me of a story I read in the Ensign years ago. A father of a Downs Syndrome son was sitting next to his then 5-year-old with feelings of concern regarding the future of his boy. Out of the blue, the boy looked up and said with perfect clarity, "Dad, I'm okay." Sometimes we're blessed with small, tender mercies to calm our fears and help us to soldier on.

ChuckJuly 3, 2019

In the fall of 1984, I was assigned to the U.S. Air Force band of Europe. We toured the countries of western Europe to participate in festivities marking their 40th anniversary of liberation from the Nazis who had turned Europe into a charnel house. As part of this, I went into many cemeteries to sound Taps in honor of American war dead. When surrounded many times by white crosses and occasional Stars of David, I reflected how none of those good men wanted to die, but they fought Nazi-led troops, were killed, and buried in Europe. I am so grateful that God knows these men, by name, knows of their bravery and sacrifice, and will, indeed, honor them as His children for their commitment to freedom for me, and for you.

ConnieJuly 3, 2019

I feel for people in states like Arizona whose systems are being stretched to the breaking point by refugees. I’m a public school teacher and I understand how hard it can be to meet the needs of students in the large classroom, especially when many are suffering trauma. People in those states deserve the support of the rest of us in dealing with the current refugee crisis. And that’s what it is, a refugee crisis. Because of a failure of the governments in those Central American countries to protect and support their people, partly As a result of previous US support of corrupt regimes, human beings are doing anything they can to ensure their children have a safer and better life. In the midst of this crisis we’ve reduced aid to those Central American countries, assuring that more people will flee. They will flee just as many of the our ancestors fled. Nobody asked the current citizens of this great land (Native Americans) whether they would accept boatloads of refugees from Europe. We just showed up, stinking and starving and carrying disease. Now, as descendants of those Who fled Europe to escape its oppression and poverty, and who have completely taken over this land, we owe it to the descendants of those Europe colonized, some help. Or, putting history aside, we owe it to our fellow human beings to give them succor. I am confused by those who say the Savior, a man sentenced to death by the government of the day for being a subversive, for doing such things as overturning the tables of moneychangers in the temple and healing on the Sabbath, and questioning the morals of those in power, would say that He would support not helping these people. Whether the money comes for their assistance through private donations, or through taxes, doesn’t matter. Taxes are monies levied for what we’ve decided to do as a group, even if we don’t have 100% agreement. Unless we want this crisis to continue, and states on the southern border to continue to be overburdened , and children to continue to die, and families to continue to be separated, we must intervene. We must intervene at both the source of the problem and the source of its effects: in central America and at the border. Government is best positioned to do this. Most people I know have put their money where their mouth is when it comes to helping refugees. It isn’t enough. Now government has to step in. If government is unwilling, we must challenge it until it changes.

Dr. AnonymousJuly 3, 2019

Henry D Moyle, a counselor to President McKay, visited my mission and stated from the pulpit that none of us would ever rist to greater heights that we did on our missions. Thankfully, that particular statement proved to be untrue in my case!

Nihla Wilco JuddJuly 3, 2019

My mother was born and died a Canadian, and yet she was the most patriotic American I knew. We never missed a July 4th Parade or a fireworks display. She played the Star Spangled Banner, the Battle Hymn of the Republic and God Bless America on our old upright piano in our living room. Old Glory was flown in our yard. Whenever a flag passed by or was in close proximity, she was the first to stand, the first to have her hand over her heart, and she saw to it that her four children were next to do so. Fearing that she would not be able to pass the citizenship test, she never tried, but remained a red blooded American to her last day. God bless my mom for her patriotic example, and God bless America!

James HarveyJuly 3, 2019

Except he leaves out the fact that Madison opposed installing chaplains in both the military and in Congress

Don HoffmanJuly 3, 2019

I love this perspective.

July 3, 2019

Words of our prophets. The Constitution and free republic granted by heaven through the instrumentality of inspired and courageous framers and founders carries the responsibility to uphold the principles they were willing to sacrifice for. Thank you for sharing.

Michael Shea, MDJuly 2, 2019

A great story of enlightenment. Thank you.

Mrs. Barbara LittlefieldJuly 2, 2019

My husband (lifelong Church member) and newly baptised me (Nov 2018) watched it together...we were both in tears several times! A very powerful representation of the best human qualities brought out by faithful adherence to the covenants of the Mormon faith, and the awe and beauty of the South Pacific in landscape, song, and culture.

EvelingJuly 2, 2019

Thanks for all the info!. I'm hispanic and will definitely share some of the interesting details you provide on this amazing podcast on sunday school...

Jo AnnJuly 2, 2019

I am going to post one of these a day on Facebook and also send them to my children and grandchildren. I think a lot of members of the Church do not know what our prophets have taught us about the Constitution and the men and women who developed this country.

Jo AnnJuly 2, 2019

This was so interesting to read. Thank you for this timely information.

Rachel KummerJuly 2, 2019

This is one of my favorite songs, and is even in my wedding video! I love the message of it so much. Is the sheet music available anywhere?

Boanerges RubalcavaJuly 2, 2019

What President Nelson did was to call attention to the scriptures; we read in 3Nephi 27:8 "And how it be my church save it be called in my name? For if a church be called in Moses' name then it be Moses' church; or if it be called in the name of a man then it be the church of a man; but if it be called in my name then it is my church, if it so be that they built upon my gospel." I'd recommend to everybody to read the complete 27 chapter in 3 Nephi. For me this was very clear since my early years as member of the true Church of Christ on earth, I've always thought that we were neglecting the scriptures and logic when we accepted they called us "mormons", and worse when we accepted to call the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, the "mormon church". I am glad this has been corrected by the prophet.

karell BinghamJuly 2, 2019

This is the perfect time for everyone to welcome the name of Christ into our Church's title again. So many in our times are moving away from anything that mentions Him for fear of being brought somehow to shame for being exclusionary.

Joyce MeserveyJuly 2, 2019

Beautiful. Love this song. Love this time of year. The 4th of July is my favorite holiday. Love the songs we sing and they still bring tears to my eyes & gives me goosebumps. Thankful to the Veterans past, present & future that make the freedoms we enjoy possible. I love AMERICA!

Rochelle HaleJuly 2, 2019

Where else can you go and spend so little? $500 per month is a bargain, especially when you factor in other expenses besides housing. Back before there was a standard monthly cost and allocation of funds, missionaries managed their finances themselves. Initially my mission cost was $120 per month, but due to inflation I could easily get by for half that for a good part of my mission. Friends supplemented what I did not have, and after I got home I was able to return excess funds in my account to help other missionaries.

Justin MastersJuly 2, 2019

My wife and I had to drive a bit to see this movie (surprising, as a local theater usually shows LDS oriented movies), and it was hard to find a pair of seats at a respectable distance from the screen. The movie was refreshing and emotionally exhausting, as you went through each trial as portrayed in the movie, and saw the faith of those who endured them. It's not hard to see how each of our lives are similarly tried, and with faith can overcome all and eventually rise victorious. I applaud the inclusion of the dialogue at the end, that explains the lives of the main characters. It was handled in love and respect, even towards those who opposed the faith, but served God in their own ways. I loved the portrayal of Pres. Monson by Russell Dixon... from the opening "referee" scene where it was his eyes and eyebrows that did the "talking" to the goat herding, to the inspiration in the barber's chair.

Justin MastersJuly 2, 2019

Thank you for posting a wonderful essay and tribute to James Madison that outlines the upbringing and guiding influence that shaped the law to which we most dearly hold fast to. And thank you for outlining John Witherspoon's influence as well. Both men among many who prepared this land for freedoms that are a guiding light for the world today.

Newell HarwardJuly 2, 2019

Thank you for those very inspirational quotes. I am so grateful to all who have sacrificed so much for our liberty I am saddened to witness a rapid decline in patriotism and a move toward socialism.

A. BinghamJuly 2, 2019

Elder Patrick Kearon's recent piece "Of Rights and Responsibilities: The Social Ecosystem of Religious Freedom" given at the Religious Freedom Annual Review" provides additional insights on key ingredients of a properly functioning pluralistic society. The rule of law is especially critical when people fail to take responsibility to ensure their own rights AND also HEED the rights of others. We live in such a society today.

Mary Jane McCayJuly 1, 2019

You knocked it out of the ball park the movie was wonderful and I feel it was as good as the first Other Side of Heaven movie.

Paul HJuly 1, 2019

If not knowing a lot about Church history is your reason to fail to share the Restored Gospel and in your mind it is a valid reason, what does that say for all the thousands of young missionaries throughout the world? I think you missed my point, which wasn't about some fear in sharing the Gospel, but a personal fear in being willing to learn about the Church and by attachment, the Gospel. "Ignorance is bliss" is one way of saying it. For me, the more I learn the greater my testimony grows and is sustained that it is indeed true. Not all learning is from history books, either. Fast Meeting is an example of such learning. New converts are some of the better individuals for sharing the Gospel because they have come into a new spiritual light and understanding and their knowledge of the Church is small, yet their experience is fresh and life changing. They have enthusiasm for sharing it.

Douglas E NadybalJuly 1, 2019

That might be another myth, that you have to know a lot about Church history to share the gospel.

Jenny VisentinJuly 1, 2019 This is where is talks about concealer.

DanielJuly 1, 2019

I'm a little concerned about the second paragraph of this article portraying all husbands having gotten "much their sexual learning [..] from questionable sources like pornography." This seems like a very presumptuous and stereotypical comment, that paints and unhealthy picture of men's sexuality that sows mistrust. How can it be healthy for women to enter into a relationship with this prejudice toward a potential spouse?

KateJuly 1, 2019

No, H North and the other commenter, children were not endowed. However, garments were essentially union suits (they were basically normal underwear with markings added), because to the Victorian mores of the time it seemed much more appropriate to show women with children in their underwear rather than women alone. It was also considered perfectly fine to sew your own temple garments up until mid-century and my MIL, who worked for years at JC Penney in Provo, said she remembers when temple garments were sold at Penney's. When Rose Marie Reid redesigned women's garments and the Church took over all production, everything changed. You could still buy "union suit" garments at least into the 1970s, and of course the garments worn in the temple itself had to be long-sleeved and -legged until then as well. Thankfully, times change!

William BakerJuly 1, 2019

This is an important topic for latter-day saints. We need never doubt the prophets, and the nearer we come to Christ, the more we will agree with prophetic declarations and understand the "why" behind those declarations.

Paul HJuly 1, 2019

Along this same line of hesitancy, is a fear of learning about Church history. "People are afraid they might learn something about their religion" is a phrase I used to tell my teenage children. "Never fear a study of the Restored Gospel will weaken or destroy your Testimony" was my follow-up statement. But learn from a true source, not some internet site that specializes in anti-LDS thought. The Joseph Smith Papers are an excellent source for those with inquiring minds that want to learn in detail about the subject. There is nothing that is worthy of fearing or from which you need turn away in the Church's history, even though no member is perfect.

JacobJuly 1, 2019

If he’s anything like me( me and most men) he’s compartmentalizing. His time with the kids, he’s in dad mode you don’t exist. When he’s with you, he’s in husband mode, believe it or not, the kids kinda don’t exist In those moments. (This is also HOW men are able to cheat) Men take in a lot, but we drop wats unnecessary to tend to the necessary that’s just how we are wired. If we tried to combine all task, we’d NEVR get anything accomplished. See women would rush to blend the two ASAP( like you’re actively doing) not realizing it’s NOT ABOUT YOU (again wat you’re doing) and it would all crash and burn. This is why step-families have hatred because some idiot didn’t consider the clashes of combing total strangers into one household.

Nadine AndertonJuly 1, 2019

When rhe Equal Rights Amendment was very controversial in Church circles, I was very conflicted. In the late '60s I was a divorced mother of two young children. My former husband only paid me child support when his current wife's ex-husband paid the support he owed her, which evidently was not regularly. It had been difficult for me to find a job at all, in Utah, because single women were not considered to be a good risk because they might get married and leave the work force. Even in California, I kept having to justify my minimum-wage job because I was "taking a job away from a man who had to support his family." WHAT? I had a need to support MY family! So the equal protection of some rights was important to me. However, knowing that I was out of sync with the Prophet and other leaders of the Church was troubling to me. After much prayer, I finally felt that although I had the agency to support the amendment, I was out of step with God's revealed word. I believed that asking questions was a good thing to do as long as the purpose was was to get answers by personal revelation. That answer for me was that I should continue to pray to understand why the amendment was not supported by God and his prophets and that I should wholeheartedly follow their leadership. I am thankful for my agency to make my own choices, but I know that I when my initial instincts lead me in a different path from prophetic leadership, I had better pray until my feelings are in line with God's revealed word. We will not be led astray!

MichaelJune 30, 2019

An interesting question is raised. Why did people hate Mormons enough to want to kill them? I think understanding the answer could be useful, if the time ever returns when we suffer physical persecution. Family legend tells of an ancestor who was supposedly a Danite during the conflict in Missouri and how he fought back against the mobs. I know this history is controversial but if it is true that some members of the church were fighting back, plundering property and burning and shooting at other people, whether guilty or innocent of mob activity, that could snowball into extreme anger and violence. . It is best to follow the Savior's advice to turn the other cheek, which probably was the more common response, even though it cost people their farms and homes and sometimes their lives. I think the part of the story of being kind and generous, even to our enemies, is the most notable part of this story.

MaryannJune 30, 2019

I am sick to death of the obsessive saturation in our country over the issues of LGBTQXYZ "rights." Is is really about "rights?" The real issue is that there are some who are issuing demands that attempt to force my acceptance of a sinful lifestyle. If we do not accept, and even support, the immorality of practicing homosexuality, the next step is to try and shame us. If someone won't bake your wedding cake, there are plenty of other bakers who will. Get over it.

MaryannJune 30, 2019

I was about to comment on this article, but I couldn't say it any better than Charles Kraut. I hope everyone will take the time to read his wise and well thought out comment. I will say that I am especially concerned about the fact that the government stole the funds from Social Security and are unable to replace them. How can we dole out money to illegal aliens when we can't even take care of our own people?! This is going to become increasingly serious as we see more and more "baby-boomers" coming of age to receive the funds they paid into social security for many years. For some, this is their only source of income.

MaryannJune 30, 2019

Thanks so much for this! You have given me additional inspiration for my preparations to teach this lesson next Sunday!

Samuel AtumaJune 30, 2019

Wonderful thoughts on listening. I enjoyed reading every word. I took to heart what you had to say about listening for acceptance above agreement. One word 'amazing'

Ann SiggardJune 30, 2019

I own a book entitled, "The Fate of the Persecutors of the Prophet Joseph Smith" which details many gruesome maladies of this mob after they were acquitted in a court of law in Illinois. It;s accounts sound very much like the account mentioned here.

Mark MathesonJune 30, 2019

A wonderful, up-lifting movie. It had dramatic tension and heart-rending plot-lines that moistened my eyes often and strengthened my faith. Tell your friends to see it!

JaneJune 30, 2019

Are we going to try to build Zion without making room for our LGBT brothers and sisters? I don't think we can. It seems to me that there needs to be a little more humility on both sides of this issue, and more willing to see other perspectives. The article sort of approached this, but not really. Being part of a society which seeks the inclusion and well-being of all of us makes it imperative that we begin to see that our gay brothers and sisters who desire marriage and family are just simply being human, and that these desires are honorable. To my mind, there are plenty of reasons (and benefits) to make room for them and their families in our public life. You don't have to agree with gay marriage to simply treat them with respect, and make sure that they not be discriminated against.

Marie CJune 30, 2019

I saw it at its first showing on Friday morning at 10:45 at the AMC in Times Square. There were ten of us. Words can't describe its power. Please see it. You won't be disappointed.

Cheryl Roderick-LittleJune 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing your insights to these beautiful teachings m! I currently serve in Primary and I look forward through reading your lessons. Your tremendous preparation is a blessing to me.

Sandy ReddishJune 30, 2019

This is just beautiful thanks for sharing! There is something very special about being up at night with a little one....unforetunetly , none of my kids have been good sleepers and I was bleary eyed and desperate by baby number 5. When one of my good friends noticed I wasn't looking so hot and shared her secret (she has seven kids)... So long story short look up Woombies. They are special jammies to help babies sleep and are divine....worth every penny. Also I would try to sleep when he sleeps. You will recover better and get stronger faster if you do it. Get a nice thick eye mask for daytime sleep....

Luis LoayzaJune 29, 2019

Being myself in the shoes of this father, how inspirational I find this article. The world really needs more transitional family characters. Thanks.

Ruth JamiesonJune 29, 2019

Such an excellent movie!! Sitting on the edge of seat at times biting my nails and crying at others. This is an action packed movie full of faith and overcoming differences of other faiths! Loved it!!

Sue BringhurstJune 29, 2019

Michael Grant, what makes you assume those who push for immigration reform and humanity haven't opened their pocketbooks and/or homes. You should do some research on this particular author and her ilk before passing judgement. They are adoptive mothers, founders and leaders of humanitarian organizations, active with their Congress, etc. They have personally been to the our southern border, Cox Bazaar, Afghanistan and other places. Seriously.

Sue BringhurstJune 29, 2019

To all of you who still adhere that they are lawbreakers. This "law" is equivalent to speeding and driving on an expired license or registration. Cast the first stone?

VeronikaJune 29, 2019

"Some days we can feel nearly crushed by mourning and feelings of helplessness over laws and policies that inflict suffering on God’s most vulnerable children." I relate to this very much. The need to resist unjust laws is more relevant now than ever. We've got to raise our voices for compassion. Thank you for such an insightful piece.

Sue BringhurstJune 29, 2019

With the world in turmoil and so many peoples displaced, how can we as the most rich and well off turn our backs and site law? Germany and France have done so much. I hang my head in shame as I read the comments above. Where is the Christ in our Christianity? What have I done? Do I stand condemned? I pledge to do more than just lip service. Thank you for stirring me to action.

June 29, 2019

It is not required by law to detain asylum seekers who have passed a credibly fear interview. In fact, it goes against every compassionate, humanitarian, and merciful instinct. The law does not require that an asylum seeker wait in another country for the court decision on their asylum petition. The law REQUIRES that anyone asking for asylum do it on US soil or at a Port of Entry (all of which have been metered so it's impossible to come through there without starving to death first). The worst of the humanitarian crisis at the border is caused by current policy, NOT by law. The vast majority of those coming to our border right now are asylum seekers.

JoanJune 29, 2019

Thank you for this very thoughtful piece. As Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. wrote in Letter from Birmingham Jail: "There are two types of laws: just and unjust. I would be the first to advocate obeying just laws. One has not only a legal but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws. I would agree with St. Augustine that "an unjust law is no law at all." Now, what is the difference between the two? How does one determine whether a law is just or unjust? A just law is a man made code that squares with the moral law or the law of God. An unjust law is a code that is out of harmony with the moral law. To put it in the terms of St. Thomas Aquinas: An unjust law is a human law that is not rooted in eternal law and natural law. Any law that uplifts human personality is just. Any law that degrades human personality is unjust."

JanJune 29, 2019

Saw it last night, the theater was nearly empty... but those there sat though the credits and we spoke to each other as we left... "wasn't it amazing, can you believe it?" Well worth the time and effort to go. We laughed and cried and cried, then laughed some more. Couldn't believe the faith of the Groberg family and helped me to love them without meeting them. You understand immediately why President Monson wanted it made... he played such a big part in the story.

Donna DeusenberryJune 29, 2019

Thanks to recliner seats we were able to see it yesterday at the earliest showing. It took on even greater significance because we’d recently re-viewed the first part/first movie about Elder Grohberg’s mission as a youth! The Spirit was strong from the opening scene! Take lots of Kleenex!!! It’s sweet manna from start to finish!!

JudiJune 28, 2019

what's with the woman's sole of her foot?

Rita McNeilJune 28, 2019

I saw it last night in Hillsboro, Oregon. I was so disappointed to see that there were only 5 people attending. I thought the movie was very good--professionally done, excellent acting (all the characters were so believable), satisfying as entertainment, and, of course, the story was just amazing. I loved the real-life photos shown at the end, and the short bio of the family. Excellent movie-making. Thank you to all involved.

Gayle WJune 28, 2019

Two years ago I was visiting Carthage Jail. Among the group of tourists in our group was a woman whose ancestor was a member of the mob that murdered Hyrum and Joseph. She is a member of the church, and she told us how bad she felt because of what her ancestor did. It was important for her to visit that place.

CubbyJune 28, 2019

Two thoughts. One is that having access to a car at home is a privilege. Senior missionaries pay extra, too. Maybe paying extra would help missionaries not have the sense of entitlement. The other thought is that if the person is willing, the Lord will provide, I know he will. Start that mission with an act of faith, find a job, work hard, and pray. The Lord will provide!

AnonymousJune 28, 2019

So true! After being married for several years and a widow for another several, I had a marriage proposal. “I didn’t need anyone.” How glad I am that I accepted that proposal! Truly, trading my independence for interdependence has been WONDERFUL!

Gaye BreillattJune 28, 2019

Well worth the money. Changes so many lives including the missionary and his or her family!!!!!

A. BinghamJune 28, 2019

Charles Kraut your comments are interesting. I am not sure that forced compassion in the form of taxation to support ongoing illegal immigration activities is getting us to a higher place. It is quite a pickle that our legislative department has gotten the US into. It is our responsibility as citizens to speak out to our elected representatives on the unacceptablity of the current situation. Sponsorship that is enforced appears to be the best way forward and ensures a fairness, accountability, and an ethical standard by which all parties can be judged. Great post.

A. WildeJune 28, 2019

Before the Church "standardized" the monthly cost for missionaries our serving the Lord we had a young man leave from our ward to serve in Japan. The family's monthly contribution was well in excess of $1,000/ month. This monthly increase is really quite reasonable.

Arlene S PearsonJune 28, 2019

It was an amazing, emotional movie.

Laurel H DraperJune 28, 2019

I saw this movie last night, and I believe it is just what Pres. Monson, Elder Groberg and Mitch Davis envisioned and desired it to be. It is a magnificently filmed and directed motion picture; its story taking place against the backdrop of a gorgeous island nation in the Pacific. It has heart and an ample serving of the Spirit...some of which you'll undoubtedly take home. It is a feast for the eyes, and with its incredible added measure of the almost unbelievable true story, this movie will fill your heart and soul with the faith promoting examples of the incredible lengths some dedicated servants of the Lord will serve Him, and to share His gospel. I left this movie wanting to do, and be better. I couldn't recommend it more! And see it this weekend, so it can be seen by greater numbers, with wider distribution!

Mary Ann McConkieJune 28, 2019

Thank you for assembling this beautiful photo essay. I had thought several times throughout the day (the 27th): "this is the anniversary of the the Martyrdom". But those fleeting thoughts were enlarged to a profound gratitude after viewing the pictures and the quotes. Well done.

Sasha KwapinskiJune 27, 2019

Just saw it today. It opened today (the 27th) in my area.

Richard JukesJune 27, 2019

Very moving essay, Scott. You really captured many of the feelings Marie and I had when we were there. Thank you.

Bryant RidgwayJune 27, 2019

The author makes some great points....however, we here in Arizona are really stressed making this work for the people that are traveling through Mexico into the U.S. Our schools are being flooded with kids that cost a tremendous amount of money to feed and educate. Our social welfare system is bursting at its seams. There is an lawful way to enter the U.S.... it should be followed. I have traveled all 7 continents and used my passport to gain legal entry into each country. Even Mexico requires entry visa and if you are staying for a long time, a passport.

Ken McGowanJune 27, 2019

I totally agree with Charles K. The government is deciding the rate of tax and how it is spent. To allow anyone who wants to come to America come and then have access to financial subsides without the support of the elected is stealing from one group (the American) to give to another (illegal entries). Let’s face it, the Treasury is not inexhaustible and without some manner of control and continued increase in taxes the Treasury will at some point be empty and everyone reduced to poverty. The writer seems to be advocating a particular political viewpoint which is dangerous. Ancient Rome was overcome and destroyed by “illegal” entries and in some way there is a modern parrallel.

ScottHJune 27, 2019

"How is there room to treat other people with hate when people are seriously suffering in this world?" This goes back to the old adage, "Hurt people hurt people." This is not an excuse; just an explanation. We tend to hurt others when we are hurting inside. When we act out of fear rather than out of love we can hurt others, even while it looks to us like we are prudently protecting. At least in my case, I often don't even realize that I am insisting on holding onto hurt rather than giving it to the Savior, who has already paid that price and has carried that burden.

Richard ClingerJune 27, 2019

It's interesting to note that our hymnal number 27 is "Praise To The Man". Easy to remember the date of June 27, 1844 --the Prophet's martyrdom.

Pamela SmithJune 27, 2019

"This is why socialism is evil. It employs evil means, confiscation and intimidation, to accomplish what are often seen as noble goals — namely, helping one's fellow man. Helping one's fellow man in need by reaching into one's own pockets to do so is laudable and praiseworthy. Helping one's fellow man through coercion and reaching into another's pockets is evil and worthy of condemnation. Tragically, most teachings, from the church on down, support government use of one person to serve the purposes of another; the advocates cringe from calling it such and prefer to call it charity or duty." Walter E. Williams from "Concealing Evil."

D.L. AndersonJune 27, 2019

While I cannot condone what the old man had done (who would???), such misery in this life - & from a son - regardless of how the son was treated or who the "Brother Brooks" (for so he IS) was as criminal as whatever else this man had done. I'm glad to see that the saints of that time and place were kind.

karell BinghamJune 27, 2019

June 27th is always a sad day for me as I remember the murder of the Prophet Joseph!

rebkotJune 27, 2019

I have an uneasy worry that innocent people from South America are being used for political purposes by activists from our country encouraging them to come to this country, not because it is good for the immigrant, but because it furthers the agenda of the activists. This is such a confusing issue - one way I try to determine which view to take is to look around the room at who is supporting a certain view: Am I in bed with Hollywood elites, abortion advocates, Constitution haters and anti-religion folks? I may be in the wrong room.

Alexander ForsythJune 27, 2019

How many of this murderous mob were wounded, or killed, by returning fire form Prophet Joseph and his faithful band?

BrynnJune 27, 2019

It is entirely possible that the daughter in this story lacked respect and kindness. However, as someone who is a caretaker for an elderly mother, I want to share another possible perspective. A few years ago that daughter might have been me. If I tried to fill out forms at the doctor’s office without asking for my mother’s input (even though I knew the answers) she would view it as an assault upon her independence—as if I didn’t consider her really there. I, too, would sometimes need to loudly ask her the questions since even with hearing aids she struggles to hear with the background noise of doctor’s offices. I admit that I would not have asked that specific question out loud. But what if I had? A few years ago my mother had a short-term reaction to a post-surgery medication she had been on that caused her to feel depressed and hopeless. If she had said she felt hopeless most of the time, I would have ached for her as I did every single day during that time, but I would not have reacted in the doctor’s office since I already was well aware of that side effect and knew there was nothing we could do until she recovered from that reaction. Those in the doctor’s office would not have seen all of the other moments when I tried to patiently encourage, uplift and support her day after day. I was, and still am, dedicated to my mother who I love dearly. At the same time, being a caretaker in such a situation is emotionally draining for many reasons. There were times back then when I found myself struggling with feelings of hopelessness. Those who observed me with my mother in several challenging situations where things might have appeared one way didn’t know the entire story. Offering compassion and support instead of judgment is another form of respect—and when I received that compassion as I struggled to do the best I was able in caring for my mom, it was a much needed tender mercy. We have to be very careful when we judge others not really knowing the full story.

CJJune 27, 2019

So far no comments have covered the topic of abuse. Lies in a marriage are abusive. Trust is shattered and trauma occurs. Lies are a betrayal of sorts. Until this wife realizes she and her marriage are being abused, and whether she wants to continue living in this situation, or is able to remove herself from it in time, it will be a miserable marriage for her and any children that are or are to come in that union. So many women do not understand the complexities of an abusive relationship and choose to remain married out of covenant with God when the spouse has chosen to leave that covenant. Even a civil marriage between two non-Christians is a covenant of sorts. It is an agreement at least between themselves. God is not ok with abuse. However, He allows us the choice and if we choose to leave for the safety of our emotional and physical health, the Lord is faithful to assist as needed. I hope this woman can get into some abuse counseling and help her realize just where her situation is. There may be more going on with her husband behind the scenes than she knows about--he won't be the one to reveal it to her because he lies. She could be in danger from a number of issues. He is the one with the problem and makes the choice to remain. She also has a choice whether she wants to live her life wrapped around his behaviors.

Claudia H. SmithJune 27, 2019

Very interesting article. I hope you find more.

June 26, 2019

No , these ads are for”UnionSuits” or, regular long underwear! Children were not endowed, but they did wear long underwear , everyone did!! I

Elsa FigueroaJune 26, 2019

This is an excellent article. We parents are so afraid of letting our children make mistakes and we try shield them from the natural consequences that come. I think it was an excellent written article and something that most of us need to implemen to be better parents to some or our very entitled children of this generation. We need to allow our children to do hard things to learn and grow!!!! The Lord really is our greatest example of how to be the best parent!!

Becky OttesonJune 26, 2019

I have a friend with chronic sinus problems, are you sharing the doctor who treated you?

Charles KrautJune 26, 2019

I struggle to understand the connection between your scriptural quotations and related discussion and the issue of "compassionate" immigration. The United States is now a welfare state, and millions of hard-working Americans are forced to pay high taxes literally at the point of a gun. What do they get for surrendering their hard-earned money? They receive the hatred and bile of the recipients of their money, the funds they might have used to improve their home, send their children to college, make charitable contributions, and so on. America under our Constitution has a government tasked with one specific purpose; to protect the freedoms of every citizen. There was a time when immigrants flooded our shores seeking freedom from oppression and the opportunity to work hard and make a life for themselves and their families. In many cases today that is no longer true. Millions of people come here to have "anchor babies" that will enable whole families to circumvent our laws and come here to receive benefits the taxpayers must pay for. America may be "the world's only remaining superpower" but we are not and were never intended to be the world's sugar daddy. Our immigration laws are largely ignored today as millions of illegal immigrants stream across our southern border, are processed and allowed into the country, and quickly disappear, never showing up for their court hearing that will determine whether they will stay or be deported. Where is the compassion there? It is essential that line-jumpers not be given preferential treatment over those who use legal and appropriate means to enter the United States. All immigrants must be subjected to appropriate tests, for infectious diseases, for subversive proclivities, and more. If our government did not do this it would fail in its purpose - and that is exactly what is happening today. Let me give you an example of exactly how things should be done. If an individual or a corporation wants to sponsor an illegal immigrant, that person, group, or corporation should be required to post a bond for each immigrant. Since the average cost of an illegal immigrant to the taxpayers is $72,000, that should be the amount of the bond. Once the bond is paid, the sponsor becomes responsible for the conduct of that thoroughly vetted immigrant individual. It's a very simple system, and it works. I know it works because that was the official policy of the United States back in the 1970s. I returned to the United States as a serving member of the United States Army. I had met and married my German wife in Europe. When I returned to the US the Immigration officials had me and my bride sign a statement promising that under no circumstances would my wife - my legal immigrant wife - ever seek, accept, or receive any form of welfare from any level of government in the United States. I agreed to be responsible for her conduct and to provide for her for the rest of her life. Simple, appropriate, and legally sound. Americans need to wake up and realize that we have exhausted our financial resources as a nation. It's been a long time since LBJ raised the issue of "guns or butter." He went ahead with both, building the military for the Vietnam War and massively enlarging the welfare state through his Great Society programs. America has been on the road to bankruptcy ever since. I don't merely mean financial bankruptcy; the welfare state has helped to bring about our moral bankruptcy as well. As Christians our obligation is to serve and bless our neighbors. Having met those needs as we feel inspired to do, we are free to expend our personal resources on behalf of those "huddled masses yearning to breathe free," as the Progressive Emma Lazarus declared. Welfare must be individual and personal. We are not compassionate when we give away someone else's money. The sponsorship system works, and it is vastly superior in its faithfulness to scripture than anything that will ever come from government. Let's look toward real, personal solutions that will bless us for our individual efforts instead of government-imposed programs that impoverish us as a nation and drag us toward economic collapse. Did Jesus ever say that we needed a government program to serve others? Is salvation to be obtained at the cost of our freedom?

A. SeleneJune 26, 2019

One of the key points about Christ's earthly ministry is that He did not violate established law. In fact, the story of "pay unto Caesar" suggests that we owe duties both to God and earthly rulers/laws. See also Article of Faith 12. Notably, in the incident where He saved the adulteress from stoning, He did not challenge the correctness of the law (which would have been odd, in any event, since it was His law) or the fact that she had violated the law and her marriage vows, but instead provided her an opportunity to repent. Obviously Christ's First Coming was a mission of showing mercy; but too often members forget that God is also just, which means that he will enforce his laws. As for changing immigration laws, we will have to agree to disagree. I don't see anything merciful or loving about allowing millions of immigrants into the country with the concomitant depression of wages and increase in housing costs (you do remember the supply/demand curve from your economics classes?), increased crime (including identity theft), and increased public expenditures on law enforcement, welfare, etc., bringing with them the dysfunctions that caused them to leave their native countries in the first place. Unless you don't care about the people that are already here...?

Michael GrantJune 26, 2019

All those who wish to support non-legal immigrants can always open their pocketbooks and generously support those same people in their own countries to help them improve their country for the better. At the same time those same people do not have the right to force others to open their pocketbooks through the law and support a law they do not believe in. Remember, every country has their laws for LEGAL immigration and their laws punishing those who ILLEGALLY enter their countries. Sadly those who support ILLEGAL immigration never want to pay for and support those entering illegally, they always want everyone else to assume that expense. If you want to support those poor (or otherwise) souls NOT living in the United States, open your pocketbooks and voluntarily send them YOUR money; and then convince others to voluntarily do the same. REMEMBER, Heavenly Father gave you your free agency to CHOOSE, he did not force any of HIS laws on you, and you must do the same with others.

Alece ReynoldsJune 26, 2019

Of course we can challenge laws we don't like. But, until those legal laws are changed, we should try to follow them, just as our 12th Article of Faith encourages us to do. Ignoring constitutionally enacted laws only brings chaos!

Kay RookhuyzenJune 26, 2019

Another home run in both comedy and narrative! Loved the article!

Jim PetersonJune 26, 2019

Nice job illuminating this important truth. I have used your explanation of watching the "pendulum swinging" motion of the steering wheel many times. Keep using your gifts to bless the kingdom.

Shep KuesterJune 26, 2019

To challenge a law is not breaking it. Challenging means we are advocating a change to the law. Immigration made this country what it is. Illegal immigration may be our undoing. Illegal immigration is just that, illegal. Anyone doing this, for any reason, is breaking the law. If you break the law, you voluntarily disqualify yourself from being a legal resident. That leaves legal immigration, which I agree needs to be addressed. For several decades now, the Legislative branch has abdicated their responsibilities of writing and modifying laws. They abdicated to the Judicial Branch. Doing the tough job of rewriting or even eliminating hot topic laws ruins their chance of reelection and acquiring more power, so Congress lets the courts do it instead. Their inaction set the stage for the current situation going on at our southern border. The problem is not new, it's been going on a long time, just getting massive attention now. People, including children, have been dying on the border for decades. It's big news now because the flow has become a flood. The blame for this sits at the foot of a Congress that has failed for decades to act. As members of the Church, it is our civic duty to meet with other concerned citizens, put together points that would create a fair, compassionate, and workable immigration law and policy that will keep our country safe from criminals and terrorists, and speed up the process for asylum and economic immigration that is within reason and beneficial to our country, and those who wish to become citizens here. We take these points to our representatives, not just in one state, but every state. Congress will only listen to a massive movement. We are bound to obey the law. We are also bound to demand changes if those laws are unjust. To do that, we must speak up, and form cooperation within our communities, not to protest, but to put forth the points of a better law.

Alece ReynoldsJune 26, 2019

This is the best podcast you have done so far. The words are stunningly beautiful. The remarks about the two angels described in the JST translation of these scriptures fully resonated with me because they reminded me of the visual I have of the two Cheribrim found on the top of the Mercy Seat on the Ark of the Covenants found in both the Tabernacle and in the Holy of Holies of the Temple of Solomon -- also placed on each end of the seat -- just as these two angels placed themselves on each end of the stone slab in the seplecure on which the body of Christ was laid, and facing each other while standing as witnesses of the mercy of the Savior in forgiving his spiritual children of their sins -- which mercy could only be obtained through the death and resurrection of the Lord. The language expressed in these scriptures, which mentioned the shining garments of the angels, was also wonderful to hear as I had once had a beautiful experience in the Preston, England Temple while acting as proxy for an Iniatory ordinance, in which the woman who was receiving her clothing ordinance exclaimed in my ears and mind, "Oh, my shinning garment" as that ordinance was authorized for her. Beyond that, as I read your comments about the possible identiy of those two angels, the spirit confirmed, at least for me, that your possible identification of these two angels was correct. Thank- you for making such a profound moment possible for me!

David DurfeeJune 26, 2019

Regarding the very difficult issues of immigration and compassion, I realized something significant recently about the parable of the Good Samaritan. We focus on what the Samaritan did - he took the wounded man to an inn and paid the innkeeper to take care of him before he went on his way. Wonderful. But there is something very interesting that he did NOT do. He did NOT take the wounded man home with him to be nursed back to health in his own home by his own family. He would have CERTAINLY done that if the wounded man had been his son or his brother or his father, wouldn't he? He would not have simply dropped his wounded son off with an innkeeper. He would have taken him home! I think that the United States should do everything possible to make conditions in the home countries of these people more livable. Stick and carrot approaches with their governments - to fight corruption and gangs. Urge companies to move there and provide jobs. Etc., etc. But I do NOT believe that the answer is to bring all these people -- which would eventually be in the hundreds of millions -- home with us. That is misplaced compassion and that will be obvious when there are eventually so many of these people here that there will be 10 families living in your backyard in tents and you will be responsible for all of their medical, education and other needs. The parable of the Good Samaritan does not teach that. The Savior does not expect them. Urge our government to work to make conditions better in their own countries -- where they really want to be anyway.

karell BinghamJune 26, 2019

These are example of the Greek word for love: Agape. It is a love so powerful that you would be willing to give your life for your friends. It is the love of God. In his final words, Jesus pleaded for his apostles to love another. They missed it, they were too concerned that he said he must leave them. I truly believe that he used the word "agape". A new commandment. Agape. Just like Christ. Agape.

JimJune 26, 2019

Do we get to pick and choose which laws to obey and which laws we don't have to obey? I don't believe so. If we do pick and choose which laws to obey our not to obey, then we will be living in a lawless society. If we disagree with a law, then work to change it, but until it is changed, we should obey it.

Lisa CroftJune 26, 2019

So much in this to unwrap, but let me, as a lawyer, just add one thing about the event when Jesus “rescued” the woman who was ACCUSED of adulterous behavior. The law required two witnesses in order to condemn a woman for adultery. Christ asked for those accusers. Of course, it had to be someone who had. It participated in that crime. There were none to be had. I suspect the woman was more abused than a willing participant and Christ demanded that part of the law to be satisfied. He did not disregard the law. First, you have to understand the law, before you attempt to apply it or even change it. When we disregard the law, we reward the criminal elements of our communities and allow further abuse to take place. Don’t be deceived to think that by disregard our immigration laws are somehow compassionate. It is NOT!! (I, too am a lawyer.)

Larry SteimleJune 26, 2019

Exactly what are you trying to say?

Charles McClellandJune 26, 2019

Very timely message! We must all do our part to encourage creation and enforcement of laws and government policies that are in sync with the gospel of Jesus Christ.

H NorthJune 26, 2019

We have no responsibility to obey unjust laws. A large majority of the laws in America today are in direct conflict with the US Constitution, a holy document.

H NorthJune 26, 2019

Are those children wearing garments in those ads? Were children receiving their endowments 100 years ago?

Bob PowelsonJune 25, 2019

Colin is right on. Religious tights come first.

Herman the GermanJune 25, 2019

My son was 5 and 1/2 when he came in with a piece of paper covered with scrawls. "What's this?" "A birthday card for Jesus." Suddenly the scrawls changed into stick figures, and I was what he was trying to depict. In the first panel were Mary and Joseph and the animals kneeling before the manger. In the second panel was the tomb, with a rock rolled in front of it. In the third panel was the tomb with the rock rolled away. He had the life of Christ on a piece of paper. Then a gentle voice said, "For me? Why, thank you!" It was impressed on me that if He sees every sparrow that falls, then he appreciates a little boy drawing him a birthday card. I looked at the paper later, and all I could see were scrawls.

VardellJune 25, 2019

This can be a very confusing topic, and cannot be understood without a clear definition of the words "saved" and of "hell". Those early Mormons should not have been surprised at a revelation that sounded like universalism. The book of Mormon teaches: "Wherefore, he has given a law; and where there is no law given there is no punishment; and where there is no punishment there is no condemnation; and where there is no condemnation the mercies of the Holy One of Israel have claim upon them, because of the atonement; for they are delivered by the power of him. For the atonement satisfieth the demands of his justice upon all those who have not the law given to them, that they are delivered from that awful monster, death and hell, and the devil, and the lake of fire and brimstone" (2 Nephi. 9:25, emphasis added). King Benjamin taught the same principle: "For behold, and also his blood atoneth for the sins of those who have fallen by the transgression of Adam, who have died not knowing the will of God concerning them, or who have ignorantly sinned" (Mosiah 3:11, emphasis added). Mormon taught it: "For behold that all little children are alive in Christ, and also all they that are without the law. For the power of redemption cometh on all them that have no law; wherefore, he that is not condemned, or he that is under no condemnation, cannot repent; and unto such baptism availeth nothing— . . . for repentance is unto them that are under condemnation and under the curse of a broken law" (Moroni 8:22, emphasis added). So indisputably those who pass mortality unexposed to the law of the gospel are "delivered" by the Atonement and grace of Christ and have part in the first resurrection. But keep in mind that the first resurrection involves a morning and afternoon, and includes those of a Celestial and a Terrestrial glory. So these scriptures do not mean that ignorance is a free pass to exaltation. Notice that nowhere in these verses is the word "saved" which almost always means Gods Kingdom - exaltation. Josephs vision of the degrees of glory says that these who die ignorant of the gospel will be in the terrestrial kingdom. "these are they who are of the terrestrial… these are they who died without law." D&C 76:72 Of course there are personal exceptions and D&C 137:7 seems to be an exception to D&C 76:72. Do you have another explanation of how to reconcile these two apparently conflicting scriptures?

Mike DenosJune 25, 2019

Thank you for the article from United Families. I know this organization has been working to strengthen families for several decades and as such is labeled by many and has seen pushback. This call to awareness and lovingly speaking out is needed for all faith groups. The family must remain the core of humanity. Our Heavenly Father expects us to be a vanguard.

Phillip C. SmithJune 25, 2019

A wise and thoughtful piece. Thank you

ColinJune 25, 2019

OK, you've identified the "elephant in the room". A situation that is obvious to almost any thinking individual. I expected to see a thought or suggestion to address the "elephant" but was disappointed. I'm looking for answers as well but found none here. Therefore, I offer this. The 1st amendment to the US Constitution guarantees the free exercise of religion in that the congress (and I believe it infers that no lesser state or federal body) “shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof;”. It is my reasoned conclusion that the issues in the first amendment were so fundamental to a free people and to the authors of the Constitution that it was the first principle that they could all agree on. For that reason it is found first. The present social clamor for the “rights” of the LGBTQ community are subordinate to the principles authored by our founders. The United States is a democratic republic. This means that the majority of opinion have control over the government and its laws but cannot violate the inalienable rights of the individual as expressed in the Constitution. Freedom of religion is an inalienable right. Sexual mores or inclinations are not. No person would advocate that the LGBTQ community not have a right to have a cake or flower arrangement to celebrate their events. There are others that will offer them. It does mean that those with deeply held religious values cannot be FORCED to share their talents or participate in any way with an activity that violates their conscience or religious values to provide such a service. To pass, or attempt to enforce, such a law directly contradicts the Prime Directive (US Constitution, 1st Amendment). There. I’ve just slain the elephant. Will some else please remove the carcass from the room.

Charles DefranchiJune 25, 2019

KATE: The tyranny of political correctness has stricken again! I lived long enough to hear the kind of horror stories you mentionned into my own family. This includes one of my Great-Grand-Mothers witnessing the suicide of her desperate sister through drowning into the ocean. But we are only talking here about an epidemic in this generation - including among far too many Latter-Day Saints - that consists in choosing to end one's marriage rather than going the extra-mile in sticking to covenants through thick and through thin.

Gary S EdmondsJune 24, 2019

My teenage son was awakened one night by a bright light in his room. He saw a beautiful figure standing by his bed who said nothing but showed him the prints of the nails in his hands. Our son took his hand and felt the warmth, but the figure then left him.

Kathryn AdamsJune 24, 2019

Dear Darla bless you my friend , I am so sorry for what you are going through! I know the Lord loves you as so many do ! You have touched many lives for the good. I'm adding my prayers and faith for healing and comfort! I so enjoyed meeting you, and appreciate the article you did after we met in Charlotte and it has been an instrument in sharing light and love ! May the Lord continue to hold you in His loving arms, love,Kathryn Adams

Elouise LambJune 24, 2019

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story of becoming a new mother. Your words remind me of my experiences of bringing each of my four children into the world. The hardest times of my life yet the sweetest and most meaningful times that I wouldn’t trade for anything. God bless you and your precious little family!

Paralee EckmanJune 24, 2019

I love the way you write, and describe what each of us mothers have felt. I am now 84 years old, and the mother of 9 children -- the oldest of which I, now a widow, live with. He will be 63 years old this summer, and if you enjoy these days, wait until they grow up, have children of their own, and become a grandparent themselves! My oldest is now a Patriarch, and has given me such joy. I also have some beloved children, who have chosen a path that at this time doesn't include being active in our Church. But our prayers will never cease. Thanks for your beautifully written story. You'll have many more stories in the future yet to be written, as you live your own life!

Sharon SeiterJune 24, 2019

Thank you both for the outstanding contribution you are making! I look forward to these insightful podcasts each week. Would you please advise me of the reference for the following quote? I would like to look it up. An early Christian asked Peter, “Shall those be wholly deprived of the kingdom of heaven who died before Christ’s coming?”

jwJune 24, 2019

Beautifully written!! You tell a story that we mothers all relate to, and describe our multitude of feelings so well. Congratulations.

Susan C.June 24, 2019

In the same vein of "touch" meaning "hold me not," and in the light of the cute "grandma experience" cited above, I have always felt that touch/hold me not meant "detain me not"...for I have a schedule to keep. Maybe he, also, would rather not have parted at that time from someone he had such a close relationship with, but he had always kept "being about his Father's business" at the forefront. I have no doubt that Mary understood this. The scriptures are typically the "cliff notes," and someday we will know the full account of all that took place between them in that moment.

AlissaJune 24, 2019

I laughed, I cried, I smiled, and boy oh boy did I relate as I read this article. I could not have put my own experience becoming a mother in better words.

Helmut A. WorleJune 24, 2019

One cannot avoid the observation, however, that "neglect of the cross," if such there is in our theology and worship, is an aspect of our religion that was actively fostered and promoted by early church leaders of the restoration. After all, the cross had been and still is the symbol of non-LDS christianity for 1800 years before Joseph Smith. It was a well-calculated and intentioned move that led us away from the cross. The question then is, were they too successful and overshot the goal? Is a correction necessary now?

Luana WellsJune 24, 2019

Two suggestions. After holiday family dinners sit around the table, before you even clear the table, start,"Remember the time......?" The fun memories and laughter flow. Second, write your memories. Take 2pieces of notebook paper for every year you've lived. Label page 1 with the date you were born. On page 3, write the year, and age, on page 5, "2 years" and so on. The year you started school write the grade. Using 2 pages per year allows room for seasons. After you get your "frame" finished, you can start writing your personal or family's history as you remember random incidents. "When I was 10 we ....." or I graduated in 1998", or "i was in 5th grade when I ...." You have three ways to help you rememb events and places. As family members are added, include something about them each year. I share what I've written with our grown children at our reunion last year. They were amazed by things they had forgotten and enjoyed reading the stories. Now, when we talk to our grown children, I take quick notes about the grand children's activities and add those to this year's story. I used this same format to write my parents and grandparents stories. It's a simple format that works! Using loose-leaf paper allows adding room to write as necessary.

JoyceJune 24, 2019

Enjoy it all now. Time goes so fast he will be 45 years old in no time at all. This is the best time.

Cathy & Dave TapeyJune 24, 2019

I am at a loss for words. Dave and I have found memories of our time in Spain with you. I have always enjoyed your many articles and taken strength from your Faith. May Heavenly Father and His Son continue to comfort and bless. Much Love from us both.

Joy LundbergJune 24, 2019

I loved reading this article. What a beautiful baby! What a beautiful mother. What a blessed daddy. Thanks for sharing on such an intimate level. Mothers everywhere can relate.

LoraJune 24, 2019

It seems to me that the husband is in a no-win situation. If he tells her the truth, she will get angry and start yelling at him. If he tells her a lie, she will be angry about the lie. She doesn't say that her husband is an alcoholic. She only says that he doesn't think it's "healthy". Is she really concerned about his health? Or is she treating alcohol as if it were a sin, which for him it isn't. Put it another way: a wife who thinks that eating ice cream isn't healthy, but she keeps doing it. Her husband asks her if she ate ice cream. She can admit the truth and face the consequences or she can lie. What if the husband simply stopped asking? It's hard to love a Daddy/Watchdog, and it's hard for the husband to love a Mommy/Watchdog. A lot of people use "health" as an excuse to make others' lives miserable. She knew when she married him that he was not LDS and that he enjoyed alcohol. A lot of people enjoy going out for a beer with their buddies and it isn't a problem as long as he isn't driving drunk. I suspect that what she's really trying to do is make him live an LDS lifestyle. That's not what he signed up for. Accepting one another is part of having a successful marriage. Is this really worth all the contention?

Sandra Baird PattonJune 24, 2019

He's beautiful! Now, at 77, I still remember the 3 a.m. feedings. It's a magical time of night.

KathleenJune 24, 2019

I read about this study about 6 years or so ago and used it as the basis of a lesson in Relief Society. I asked the Sisters to go through the list and share some of their family narratives. It was very interesting to hear some of the answers. It is important to tell and write down our stories so our children know these experiences. Thanks for reminding me of this lesson, it's time to review this DYK list!

J COLLINS MEEKJune 24, 2019

Dear Mariah, This is my 4 am response to your 3 am mother thoughts and poignant feelings. I'm so grateful that you are able to share in such a heartfelt way. I am a learning specialist, and a man, so, as I tell my clients: we men can intellectually understand what the drama of motherhood is all about, but because we don't have wombs (and fulsome mother feelings) there is no way in which we will ever be able to really fully "get it." No way. Thank you, Mariah, for helping to move us partway on this impossible journey. - Doc Meek, Sherwood Park, Alberta, Canada, June 24, 2019

Jo Ann OkelberryJune 23, 2019

Every word of this is true. Thank you for this article.

Wendy H.June 23, 2019

Cute---as always. But "ablum" misspelled on purpose or just a typical typo.

Debbi McCrackenJune 23, 2019

I can only echo all the beautiful words penned to you. You have inspired me and touched me greatly. Truly you are accomplishing your mission! May you continue seeing tender mercies and feel the peace you need. much love

KateJune 23, 2019

Charles DeFranchi - the reason our great-grandparents didn't divorce was because for a woman at that time, divorce was a one-way ticket to poverty and social ostracism for herself and her children. Women put up with a great deal to avoid that fate, including, but not limited to, physical and sexual abuse (which was perfectly legal, btw) and adultery and other damaging behaviors by their husbands. Now that a woman can support herself (and her children), the balance of power has shifted, and women expect more from marriage than their great-grandmothers did. As they--and their husbands--should. And Sarah, yes he is lying to her. However, he is under no covenant to not drink alcohol, and he has his agency to do so if he chooses and there is nothing wrong with that. Repeat: there is NOTHING wrong with drinking alcohol if you haven't made a covenant not to. I assume he is not coming home drunk (she wouldn't need to ask if that were the case), so it seems that she might be exercising a bit of unrighteous dominion here--trying to shame him into not drinking. He's pushing back by giving her the answer she's demanding--which is a lie--but this sounds like it could be game playing to me. She says "he's ashamed of drinking because he knows it's not a healthy behavior" but it would be interesting to ask him if that's his actual opinion, or her projection of what his opinion should be. Most people I know who drink in a normal (not to excess) fashion do not think of drinking as an unhealthy behavior at all.

JessicaJune 23, 2019

I rarely, if ever, comment on articles, but I want to echo the thoughts of many others and thank you for your rich insights and vulnerability over the years. I have loved your articles and admire so much your strength and faith. My mother-in-law passed away in 2015 from colon cancer that had metastasized to the liver. She attempted treatment for a while before also deciding that she wanted to be able to enjoy some of her last time and use it as a gift to tie up her loose ends. I wish you continued peace and love as you continue your journey. Praying for you and your loved ones.

JacobJune 22, 2019

Seems like they need to establish ways to communicate without it escalating. He may think lying is the better option and leads to better outcomes for himself and even for their relationship. To coax him into telling the truth, they need to establish times and ways in which they can both feel safe to speak their truths to each other without super negative repercussions.

Joseph A OttJune 22, 2019

My 6 year old daughter saw Jesus at the door of her closet in the night time. She described what he looked like: A big man with a white robe and had lots of lights around him. She could not relay what He talked to her about, but it was like just something that seemed perfectly normal. She knew that it was Jesus.

Debra McCrackenJune 22, 2019

I sit here a week after a car accident with a cast and oxygen trying to be positive about my own small miseries. this really touched me!

Eva Mae HahnJune 22, 2019

Only a seasoned genealogist would do that. It is funny tho.

MarenJune 22, 2019

I hear in this woman’s continual discomfort and questioning a desire to establish a healthy boundary for her marital relationship. It also appears that she may need assistance in establishing said boundary. It is a normal and healthy expectation for a spouse to function without the use of a chemical substance. My hope is that she will gain confidence to create a healthy boundary for herself regardless of her spouse’s choice and begin to assert independent of this dysfunction.

SarahJune 21, 2019

Bryan and Dave, he's lying to her. That's the issue. She ain't trying to stop him drinking. But sure ..keeping the peace is more important than trust/ lying/ deception !! He just needs to tell the truth when she asks. End of issue, but he won't.

BryanJune 21, 2019

I agree 100% with Dave's comment. Instead of trying to force him to accept your way of life, love him anyway for his good qualities. Perhaps then he will change because he wants to, not because he is forced to to keep the peace. Remember, someone else one time wanted to force good behavior and save all of us. How'd that work out for him?

DaveJune 21, 2019

I'm wondering why this woman feels like she needs to "check up" on her husband's drinking. She knows he drinks. He's ashamed of it and already knows he shouldn't be doing it. Bringing it up obviously bothers her husband so much that he deflects the question by lying. So what useful thing does it accomplish to bring it up? She could end all of this contention by simply not bringing it up. How many more years will it take for her to figure out that what she is doing isn't working?


A couple of days ago, I attended the sealing of a young man to his parents after more than twenty years of being less active in the Church. More interestingly, his father had come home drunk year after year and had a tendency to spend his earnings gambling. Many people were pressing his wife, an active Latter-Day Saint to leave him. Instead, she stayed with him and waiting patiently for his conversion. They are well into their 70's now and you would not imagine a more beautiful old couple. They both attend the Temple regularly, serve faithfully in various assignments, and contribute to playing a good influence on their kids and grandkids. Too many couples nowadays call it quits as soon as something unpleasant about each-other arises. What about the power of grace and the atonement, long-suffering, unconditional love, being a light and not a judge, and remaining together for better or for worse till death doth us part? Talk to your Grandparents or Great-Grand-Parents about that and they will tell you that marriage has never been easy, but they'd never consider divorce as a solution unless being faced with extreme circumstances.


According to recent changes in communicating the official name of the Church, the title should have read:"Apostle Thanks Kuwait for Formally Recognizing The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints"

Sally SmithJune 21, 2019

As a grandmother it is my responsibility to teach my grandchildren what religious freedom is, how to stand for it,and how to fight to preserve it. Mist important to be a voice that speaks out against secularism Thank you printing this article

Cindy WilliamsJune 20, 2019

I consider my Dad to have been 98% perfect while upon this earth. He probably wasn't, but he was to me, especially in hindsight. Whatever my Beloved Daddy promised me, he delivered. He always kept his word. He was my Protector, my Hero, my Best Friend. When circumstances outside his control prevented delivery on those promises, he told me ahead of time. I knew I could always trust him. Because of trusting my earthly Father as I grew up, I came to have such a strong testimony and faith in my Heavenly Father. Daddy set the example for me as a tiny little child, long before I would grow in the knowledge of Heavenly things, and ultimately pointed me in The Way.

LisaJune 20, 2019

Absolutely wonderful. My day has been changed.

DianeJune 20, 2019

This was a great reminder for caregivers of all types. I have been the main caregiver to my totally paralyzed (from a car accident) daughter for over 15 years. I have learned so much and the Lord has truly blessed us both. After all, I get to work in my own comfortable home, caring for my best friend. It isn’t easy, but it is worth it.

JCJune 20, 2019

As a caregiver of my Husband for the past 5+ years, I needed this advice. It is a challenge to work full-time and support us financially, take care of the house & yard, help the kids and the grandkids, have a church calling, plus get my ministering visits and not feel overwhelmed with life. We do need a care-givers "rest" day--to take the day off and not feel guilty. Thanks so much for the article!

KateJune 20, 2019

There were 13 witnesses. Let us not forget Sister Whitmer and Joseph Smith. I went on a Church history tour last year and was humbled by the research that has been done since I last visited these sites many years ago. The number of regular people outside this select group of 13 who saw God the Father, Jesus Christ or angels or other Heavenly manifestations is astounding. This work was not done in a corner. And its foundation was not laid by people credulously following reports told by others. People saw for themselves. They experienced themselves. And then devoted their lives to making a reality what they had been shown was the will of God. We are fortunate to live in the time when so many of their early efforts in preaching the Gospel and building temples are beginning to really pay off. There is still much to be done, but the shape of Zion is becoming clearer. It really will sweep the earth and every one of God's children will be affected by its reach.

Mary Lou CollinsJune 20, 2019

Thanks so much for your time and effort in this great undertaking to teach us all you know about our Lord and Savior. This week's lesson has been the most difficult for me. I know it must have been difficult for you to write it as much as it has been for me to read it. So glad we are moving on to the resurrection next week. Thank you both, dearly, for all you do to help bring us closer to our Savior and all He has done for us. Best wishes...

HalJune 20, 2019

I run into this all the time. We once had to take my (then) 9-year-old son to a medical facility after-hours because he had something stuck in his esophagus. He wasn't chocking, but he was in distress and we needed to get him somewhere quickly. As instructed on my insurance card, I called the after-hours number to find the closest facility. I got a recording that the office was closed and to call back the next business day (this was on a Friday afternoon a little after 5:00). In frustration, I hustled our son to the nearest insta-care facility a few miles from our home. The bill was a little over $200 for the visit and the claim was denied by our insurance company because the facility was "out of network." I appealed with the argument that I had followed the after-hours instructions to find an in-network facility and that it was the insurance company's fault that they did not provide the needed information. The claim was still denied. I decided right then that, the next time I had a similar issue, I would simply call 911 and the insurance company could foot the several thousand dollar bill for emergency transport and an emergency room visit. No wonder our premiums are so high.

David Newbold, PhDJune 20, 2019

Three Types of Healthcare Providers During my lifetime and perhaps more keenly aware of, in my professional career of practicing psychology for 40 years, I have observed three main types of healthcare providers, meaning physicians, nurses, on down to lab technicians and aids of all kinds. My own mental health professions are also part of these groups or divisions. First, are those that do not do a particularly good job of adequately diagnosing illnesses or disorders. They often do a less impressive job of treating those maladies which they are called upon to heal. I have been most fortunate in my lifetime to have only been personally handled a limited number of times by these individuals, and I have quickly discontinued my interaction with them. Plumbing might be a more suitable career for some of these people. Second, are the providers that are adequate, and sometimes highly skilled with the science or art of diagnosis. They are often useful and experienced in treating illness and curing diseases in patients. But their skills and ability are limited; they are only capable of identifying and healing illness. I turn away from these providers in short order. I have not liked them much. Third, are those caregivers who are just what the word implies, they are actual caregivers. They possess the ability to identify disease correctly and with a high degree of accuracy. They are skilled in the treatments that they apply. But they have the capacity to treat people. Skills and intelligence are highly crucial in healthcare professions. True healers possess compassion and do not hesitate to provide their patients with an abundance of kindness and caring. Again, they treat people, not just illness. These are the providers that I seek out, and I am grateful for their skills and their compassion. During the lengthy illness, spinal cord cancer, that my late wife, Lorene, experienced we most certainly encountered all three types of these providers. I was saddened by the poor quality of care that occurred in some situations. I could not understand having excellent skills and not an ounce of bedside manner. But I relished the attention and care given by those who knew how to treat people. Those providers had a positive impact on my wife’s dealing with her pain and death. They were also able to treat me as well; they reminded me of what is truly most important in life; to love and care.

CarolJune 20, 2019

Thank you for admitting your problem and how you got "cured". The filling your empty house with good stuff and then staying totally away from any hint of porn forever is the best analogy I have heard when trying to change your life what ever problem someone has.

Ann-MarieJune 20, 2019

Thanks for publishing this much-needed article.

SandyJune 20, 2019

I loved reading this. It is such a faith booster!!!

Harold RustJune 20, 2019

A great description of a process and its consequences. Many parallels with other actions such as willing to change, willing to try something new, willing to love an enemy, and willing to speak out for the truth. All are steps of vulnerability which, if pursued with faith and with confidence, can move us ahead much further than we were.

Claradene StewartJune 20, 2019

Thank you for your article. The perspective you are teaching us is most refreshing. My own father died of prostate CA in 1995. It was hard to see him suffer, but he was valiant to the end. He was in a coma for two weeks which occurred right at the time of the Oklahoma City bombing in 1995. I flew to OKC the day after this tragic event and helped take care of my dad for two weeks until he passed. There were about 8 bodies in the mortuary from that bombing. Our family had lots to learn during this time and we watched how a whole city came together to start working to overcome this terrible event. We miss our dad a lot, but feel his presence sometimes. My mother lived another 18 years before she passed on. She just missed Dad so much and just got to go with minimal disease process.

Barbara SmithJune 19, 2019

Thank you for sharing your journey with us, all of it. I know my life is better for learning from your experiences and perspective.

Jen LarsenJune 19, 2019

Great Article and perspective! I think perhaps you've hit the nail on the head. Maybe those who are afraid of death and disease and want to cure/heal it are those who aren't right with God yet. Maybe the thought (even subconsciously) of coming face to face with their mighty maker is scarier than death or disease and so they look for mortal fixes/answers/cure to prevent that from happening. Perhaps I'm wrong, but I know that when I haven't been "right" with my lord, the thought of seeing him face to face and being in his presence terrifies me. But likewise, when I have been right with him, there's nothing I want more than to be enveloped in his arms. Get right with the Lord so that your burdens may be light. Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom. I pray for you and your family to have the strength to face what is ahead. Much love and appreciate for you!

Ken LongmoreJune 19, 2019

An excellent article on whatis expected of us who are on the Lord’s errand. I might only add the parable of the Goats and the Sheep as presented by the Savior in Matthew chapter 25 as perhaps the most critical of all expectations. We can discover that brother England touches on all of these things in his article if we study it out and ponder it deeply. “If ye have done it unto the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”

Carol AnnJune 19, 2019

I, too, had a father such as yours. He also was a mighty oak in the forest of life who influenced thousands of people for good through his high Church callings and his law profession! He was a wonderful Father to me and lovingly guided me in the growing-up years. However, he had a devastating stroke at age 82 and lived five more years before he died. I met my test by caring for him and my invalid mother along with rearing a young family along with the help of my dear husband. All of that has defined my life as well.

Carol AnnJune 19, 2019

Very timely post, Carolyn. Thanks for your knowledge!

JulieJune 19, 2019

Elder McConkie told us in his last conference talk, that while on the cross, the Savior felt all the pains and agonies of Gethsemane a second time.

DonJune 19, 2019

This makes me wonder if the difference in outcome are related primarily to parental style/behavior, or if how the child perceives the parental involvement is equally (or even more) important. Of our 4 children, the one with the worst outcome is the one who perceives that we were trying to "control" them - the other three were fine with our default level of involvement.

Ole OlsenJune 19, 2019

Excellent article. I've been assigned a Sacrament meeting talk on the 30th about how to accept and move past failure. This story is perfect. Thank you. and say Hi to your Dad for me.

Joel Robin MarksJune 19, 2019

How true it is that ' Sin is the true enemy' and death is a 'welcome respite.' May God always bless us with the truth.

Haze KompelienJune 19, 2019

President Holland's quote, "As a reminder of those days, Jesus has chosen, even in a resurrected, otherwise perfected body, to retain for the benefit of His disciples the wounds in His hands and in His feet and in His side—signs, if you will, that painful things happen even to the pure and the perfect; signs, if you will, that pain in this world is not evidence that God doesn’t love you; signs, if you will, that problems pass and happiness can be ours." just touched my heart. I had never before thought of why Jesus kept the marks of His suffering. Great article, all should read and share.

AnnekeJune 19, 2019

Well said, and a good reminder. We should remember this perspective!

Vicki CraycraftJune 19, 2019

What a sweet story, thank you for sharing. Greg is a beautiful person. I am proud to see the man he grew up to be. What a blessing you two will be to each other.

JaneJune 18, 2019

Sharee - VidAngel believed that what they were doing was completely within legal limits, citing the Family Home Movie Act of 2005 which "allows the creation of technology that can edit a DVD or transmitted movie on the fly (during playback) and thus present a censored version of that movie."

Laura Israelsen KebkerJune 18, 2019

So well said Michaela. Thank you for sharing this great illustration of such an important principle.

Scot Facer ProctorJune 18, 2019

I love this story and I love the man you married. He is such a wonderful son-in-law. How blessed we all are to have him in our family. And I'm so grateful you chose to be vulnerable. Love you. --Dad.

Geoff SteurerJune 18, 2019

I love this article! Thank you for using such a powerful illustration of this important principle!

HalJune 18, 2019

Great story and a wonderful analogy on how our testimonies are built line upon line, precept upon precept, stone upon stone and having the faith that our questions and failings will all be answered and turned into strengths if we just stay in the Good Ship Zion and keep on rowing.

Chuck McClureJune 18, 2019

Thank you for your wonderful article! I wouldn't normally read something like this but I was drawn to it! I love the way you tied you dating experience back to the Savior. And, being somewhat of a romantic, I loved the wedding picture and your story. Being open to the Savior is so important. Thank you again!

John R CarpenterJune 18, 2019

People fail to understand and parents fail to teach their children, that anything posted to the internet or "on-line" could and likely will be used against them in some manner in the future. Often when it is most embarrassing or inconvenient.

CarolineJune 18, 2019

I love this, especially the phrase "trembling trust." Thank you for sharing these stories.

ShareeJune 18, 2019

It is unfortunate that Hollywood chooses to make films with objectionable content. However, companies like VidAngel need to contract with the studios to do their editing out of the objectionable portions. They apparently did not do this, so the studios were within their rights to sue and the judge was right to award the settlement to the plaintiffs. Moral of this story: don't meddle with other people's property without their permission.

Maralyn DotsonJune 18, 2019

Wow! I can’t breathe! Thanks for making vulnerability so celestial and righteous! Thanks for sharing your beautiful self with us. I love you for that!

RebeccaJune 18, 2019

I thank you for a well written article which explains so much to this two year convert to The Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter Day Saints. Yes I have received my Patriarchal Blessing but have not read it recently; but will pull it out to read again. To me receiving my blessing was the next step after baptism. I received encouragement and hope as I am the only member of my family. I can’t wait for Part Two Of this article to be published. Again, thank you for blessing my heart the encouragement you gave me today.

CherylJune 17, 2019

Thank you for having the courage to be authentic. People listen when people like you tell their truth. Bless you. Life isn’t easy for anyone even you❤️ I’m sending this to my husband and only pray he reads it because he doesn’t believe he has a problem. So sad

Margaret E. BatesJune 17, 2019

I was 14 when I attended the public open house for the opening in 1964 where Pres. Oaks was at age 12. I grew up in San Francisco, eventually taking out my endowments there in 1986, and finally, sealed there to my spouse, Stephen in 1999. My Oakland temple memories run deep, and I have had spiritual experiences there that defy public discourse because of their sacred nature.

AneteJune 17, 2019

Thank you for making the New Testament come to life as you share your knowledge with us. A group of us in our Ward get together once a week and talk about the "Come Follow Me" lesson. We each listen to or read your podcast and gain much knowledge. We also appreciate all the articles and information given us in your magazine. Thank you for sharing your talents with us.

Neal ChristensenJune 17, 2019

I have long thought that the reason the Lord directed the early missionary effort be in England was because he knew these experienced tradesmen, especially hard rock miners, would be needed to assist in the physical building of Zion, particularly the construction of temples.

JonathanJune 16, 2019

About 10 years ago I finally began to really study the scriptures, rather than commentaries and lesson manuals. Brother England here demonstrates one of the most exciting lessons I have learned: to look up the definitions of important scriptural words - in the dictionaries of the prophets who wrote them. The 21st century dictionary is of very little, or no value in understanding the Standard Works, though it’s great for General Conference, etc. Happily, the 1828 Webster's American Dictionary of the English Language is free online to show us what Joseph Smith meant in the Doctrine and Covenants and Pearl of Great Price. It also serves for the Book of Mormon - although an expensive unabridged Oxford may be better. For the Old and New Testaments, I use, and click on the HEBREW or GREEK button to see a verse in the original language, then click on the Strong's Concordance number for the word I want to see. E.g. meek, repent, holy, sanctify. When verse of scripture seems obscure, this is generally the simplest and most productive step to understanding. It's quick, cheap, and easy - and often dramatically clarifies the scripture's meaning.

AlitsaJune 16, 2019

After 60 years, I will be meeting my biological father next month. I will not call him my father, dad, or any such thing. He never showed an interest in me and does not warrant the honorable titles. Apparently, he fathered others before committing to a marriage and family. The were shocked to learn of me and even more shocked to learn of at least two others. At first, he said he didn't believe my birth mother but soon after changed his story. I know his other illegitimate daughter is thrilled to finally learn who he is and that is the reason I pursued my research. Finally contacting my estranged birth mother who sent a registered letter with nothing but his misspelled name. My birth mother gave me up for adoption to her mother and stepfather so we were raised, legally, as sisters. Part of the reason for the estrangement is because I won't call her my mother nor my other sister my aunt. (Not to mention my other sister's illegitimate child who everyone wants me to call my cousin.) They aren't. They are my sisters, the girl that was given up for adoption across the country is simply that, and I am entitled to my family name. Even the birth certificate I have has no mention of my biological parents. My adopted parents are listed as the birth parents. In my twenties, I also had a child and gave it up for adoption specifying an LDS family. My upbringing was belittling and violent. I was a convert to the church and, oh, what I would have given to have been raised LDS. He had been adopted by members over 500 miles away. When he was 17 someone gave him my phone number and we had a disappointing conversation. I knew both sides of the adoption story and thought I had made the better choice by not aborting and giving him a "good" family. He didn't want to believe the circumstances of his birth and, through puffs of cigarette smoke, was blaming me for all of his troubles. I hope he has matured and made better choices. SO! Who knows how this will turn out next month. I am curious to see faces that may be similar to mine; to learn about the relationship my birth parents had. no matter how brief; to learn of medical backgrounds, etc. But he will simply be a man I met and not promoted to Father. That belongs to my daddy. The man who raised me and loved me even though I was not his own and had no blood connection. The ones who hurt, abandoned, abused, belittled, judged, and/or controlled were blood. I feel sorry for them. They have missed out on a lot of good things and either were or are very unhappy.

NancyJune 16, 2019

How to say ‘thank you’ for all that your articles have meant to me over the years… Darla, you have served as a much-appreciated spiritual mentor as I wend my way through the twists and turns of my own mortal journey. Though Heavenly Father has not yet delivered me from my physical and psychological trials, His spiritual strengthening is enabling me to bear them and learn from them. Your Christ/Atonement/gospel-centered insight, borne from your own personal struggles, has always resonated with me and has served as an invaluable tool in the divine arsenal that has been prepared for my spiritual support. I hope that in the life beyond this life I will have the privilege of thanking you in person for illuminating my path with the Savior’s light. As you finish your mortal assignment, may you be bolstered by a keen and constant awareness of His and His Father’s abiding love for you.

AnaJune 16, 2019

Love that you write the podcast and add talks to share and I can look it at in Spanish for some of my friends out of the states and for my Spanish branch in Des Moines Iowa.

Becky BigelowJune 16, 2019

my sweet Darla, I think I was about 3 years old when you first knocked on our door. And you became an important part of our family, and than into my own family. The times we spent talking, and just knowing you were there, it filled my heart. You have been my greatest example, my mentor, and sometimes my second mom, and I love you so deeply. But once again your love for the Lord, your testimony, and the peace you share from your heart, and the grace that is you.I will continue to pray for the peace you feel, and the love you feel by the comfort of Heavenly Fathers hands. And always for Doug and your family

MaryannJune 16, 2019

When LDS Family Services was still placing babies for adoption, I worked for them as a volunteer. I met with the expectant girls during the months before their babies were due, encouraging them and helping them to explore their options. One time the LDS social worker allowed me to be the one to place the baby in the arms of the adoptive parents for the very first time. That was quite a thrill! I remember one time when an adoptive couple came to the office to get their baby--I was astounded at how much the baby looked like the adoptive mother. These children really are meant to be with these families---they just come by a different route!

MaryannJune 16, 2019

I hope we aren't in danger of putting disagreements on a pedestal here! After 49 years of marriage, my husband and I agree on most things that are truly important to us---the gospel, our political affiliations, and many other issues. We find a lot of joy in the things we have in common, especially our sense of humor. While we occasionally just have to "agree to disagree", we usually have a peaceful relationship. Neither one of us is a "doormat," and we both speak our minds about how we feel. It IS possible to have a peaceful and mostly agreeable relationship without any sense of boredom. I don't think I would want to stay in a relationship where my husband and I were disagreeing all the time.

D.Kendall, June 16 2019, AZJune 16, 2019

- I was introduced to Sarah Hinze by my niece some years ago, and she gave me a copy of her book, WE LIVED IN HEAVEN. I have not had such an experience myself, but do believe those in tune can surely have thee experiences.

WonderingJune 16, 2019

I followed that Attention Seeking vs. Attachment Seeking reference, but in the reference they appear to be synonymous with respect to the behavior in question. The point seemed to be that the care-giver should interpret the attention-seeking behavior as attachment-seeking, and that that mindset will help the care-giver, not the one engaging in attention-seeking behavior. I wish the author could provide advice on how someone stuck in the attention-seeker's life story can better walk in that story and be less obnoxious to those around them.

Loretta (Lorry) Clayton BensonJune 15, 2019

All of us at Hillcrest those first three years, respected and admired Principal Jensen. I remember so well you and my sister Terri in junior high school together, and how much she admired you.

Harold RustJune 14, 2019

A powerfully touching reflection of what some fathers have been and what all of us fathers pray we can be. Thanks for reminding us of the goodness in Fathers.

anonymousJune 14, 2019

"just saying": This is very much a situation where the role can be reversed. 'nuff said. The answers herein may be helpful.

Suzie SabinJune 14, 2019

Wow, how blessed you were to have such a father. I felt a twinge of sadness, as I thought about the dysfunctional family I grew up in. We 6 children never got hugs or encouragement, and we were extremely poor., growing up in a shack with only one bedroom. The unfinished attic was lined with beds, some of us having to share a bed. Our overwhelmed mother often would hit us, while yanking our hair, yelling that she hated us and wished we had never been born. We grew up unloved, unwanted, depressed, and not wanting to live. I was 19 when the Lord answered my prayer: “What church should I join?” Within three months, the Spirit had guided me to Germany, where I was introduced to the church. After reading only a few chapters of the Book of Mormon, I knew it was true. Since joining the church, and over the years, the Lord has helped me overcome the ignorance, anger, and despair I once knew. The Gospel has taught me to forgive my parents, to understand them, and to love them dearly. The church had become my parents, where I was nurtured and loved. I have been healed. I love knowing how it was growing up for you in a loving, gospel-centered family. Thank you for the light you share at Meridian Magazine.

Kathryn LeviJune 14, 2019

Please can I get a list of the 43 faith Scriptures Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and the hard work that you put into the podcast - I have enjoyed reading and listening to your wise words of counsel. God Bless you both.

JimJune 14, 2019

Brother and Sister Proctor, I’ve been reading and listening for a long time to Meridian Magazine and your knowledge filled and insightful podcasts. I even decades ago bought a large book by you. It had wonderful large photos of early church history. May I make a suggestion? I listen to a lot of podcasts during tasks that are pure repetition that happily allow me to concentrate on subjects that fascinate me - including yours. If someone reads to me my mind wanders - even if the subject is wonderful and the reading is filled with new insights. The podcasts that keep my focus are “discussions” instead of “readings.” May I humbly suggest you use your knowledge and skills to cover the material you’ve so painstakingly prepared to simply discuss it on air. There are a few times when this seems to happen in your podcasts with a telling of an anecdote and I’m all ears at those moments - but those moments are the exceptions. Thank you for the fine service you render to us listeners and readers.

James DooleyJune 14, 2019

Well done, Scot & Maurin e!

NicoleJune 14, 2019

Thank you for the article. Thinking of my own farther and his bad choices that affected my mother, five siblings and me and his own excommunication twice from our faith, who is now an endowed member. I find it’s still difficult to believe my father and even believe his worthiness because we have been lied to so much in our lives. There was never an apology to my mother who he was unfaithful to or my siblings and me and that’s where I have a hard time overcoming feelings I know I should let go. I love my dad and I felt like I have forgiven him but it’s clear as I’m writing this I still have forgiveness to give and this article helped me look deeper into what I need to be doing. Thanks again

HalJune 14, 2019

Great article! I pray daily that our daughters will learn to develop the mutual love and affection for their future husbands as my wife and I have for each other. I pray that all people in the world can understand that men and women are to compliment and complete each other - not compete against each other.

Bradley AndersonJune 14, 2019

The article published by Mark Mathews on September 14, 2017, GETHSEMANE: HOW A PRECIOUS TRUTH WAS LOST AND FOUND in Meridian is especially insightful on this topic. There seems to be little doubt that the insertion of the passage at a later date, was actually a re-insertion of what was found in texts earlier than the 3rd century.

CW2SADJune 14, 2019

I’m wondering if Jesus “bled from every pore” to allow room for whatever coursed through the veins of Adam and Eve before they partook of the apple. This would explain why, when Jesus’ side was pierced, the report was “water and vinegar” was seen.

Bradley KramerJune 14, 2019

An amazing tribute with a profound point--fathers (and mothers) can do much in simple, often nondramatic ways to reveal to us the goodness of God.

KathieJune 13, 2019

Your beautifully expressed a article is so helpful to me as I proceed on the same journey. Thank you for putting your thoughts into words to help others. I am having chemo injections now and wonder if I will lose my hair. You look adorable in the bright pink hat in your photo. I would appreciate it very much if you would tell me where you bought it so that I might purchase one like it. Thank you and God bless you and your husband and family.

Gerald G FullerJune 13, 2019

Candace, as I understand the "adjustment" of the Our Father, whether by Pope Francis or by Joseph Smith, it does not deprive me of my agency (responsibility and privilege) to choose to refuse the temptation. Rather it emphasized that God neither causes us to be tempted nor forces us to reject the temptation.

MeganJune 13, 2019

As someone with a difficult father-daughter relationship, I can attest that forgiveness is real, but it can take many years, perhaps even a lifetime. Boundaries are essential as we work toward reconciliation. As long as we are earnestly striving to have a soft heart, we need not feel guilty if the process of forgiveness takes time.

DeAnn FergusonJune 13, 2019

Yes, Interesting isn't it that Joseph's antagonists or succeeding attackers of the Church are no longer in existence or are long forgotten

HalJune 13, 2019

Thank you for this article. While in my early teens, my own father left my mother to marry a woman many years his junior. To add insult to injury, he moved out of our house on Christmas Eve. I was angry because I struggled during my teenage years and desperately needed my father in my life. That said, I maintained an uneasy relationship with him and I was finally able to forgive and reconcile with him while in my early twenties. I am grateful for the law of forgiveness because it took away the rancor and hurt in my heart. My father an I enjoyed a good relationship until he passed away. Knowing what I know now, I would have regretted not having forgiven my father because I would have lost out on all the wonderful times we had in the ensuing years. I now have an adult son who severed our relationship over ten years ago as a result of a silly argument. I have repeatedly apologized and reached out to him but - so far - to no avail. I long for the day when we, too, can be reconciled and perhaps rebuild the loving relationship we once had just as I did with my father.

SheriJune 13, 2019

As someone who just recently found her birth mother, (in the past week) I couldn't agree more with this article. I am in the family I'm supposed to be in. I have 4 1/2 siblings that have always known about me, and wanted to meet me. I've fought the feeling for the past few years about needing to look, and couldn't have been more excited about how things are working out. I'm so grateful to my birth mother for making the decision that she did, and for my parents who wanted me so much and have given me a perfect life.

Gunnella MurphyJune 12, 2019

Darla, I am just one of the many who have been lifted, encouraged, and blessed by your gift to share what is in your heart through your many inspired articles here in Meridian Magazine. Thank you for sharing so openly, and taking us on this journey with you. It is an invitation for each of us to reflect deeply and to consider the growth needed in our own lives. Thank you for all you continue to teach me.

LoraJune 12, 2019

I have a friend whose marriage is without disagreement. Her daughter once told her that it was a disadvantage to her in her marriage because she didn't know how to have a disagreement with her husband! She'd never seen one! I said, "Send her to my house. I'll show her." I have a son who said, "Thank you for showing me how to have disagreements in marriage. It's really helped." He'd seen us disagree for years. We don't call each other names. We don't bring up past disagreements. When I'm feeling especially inspired instead of frustrated, I just burst into prayer. Right there. Praying in the middle of a disagreement automatically softens voices and invites the Spirit to help. There have been times when I've gotten very upset, and that's when I get quiet. My husband is aware that "the silent treatment" is actually better than my saying what I'm thinking at that moment. I'd rather not have to apologize for saying the wrong thing when I'm up on my high horse. If I had the unrealistic expectation that a truly eternal marriage would be between two people who never disagree, are never thoughtless, and never hurt each other's feelings, we wouldn't have lasted 43 years.

Ron B.June 12, 2019

As the parent of one natural child and three adopted children, our attitude has always been that the more people in our children's lives who love them, the happier we are. Two of my children found their birth mothers. One through a miraculous connection and the other through DNA. One was underwhelming but the other was a reunion beyond description. We were reduced to tears at the mother's expression of pent-up emotions when our child reached out to his birth mother after 31 years. Our children know who we are and we are not threatened by the expressions of love between birth bonds and meeting new siblings. I'm sure the Lord would see it no differently.

K. Chin, Modesto, CAJune 12, 2019

I am deeply touched by the immense courage and strong faith EVERYONE in this story has shown! The Savior is, indeed, our perfect brightness of hope. Through all of the challenging, heart-wrenching, devastating experiences we face in is only through Jesus Christ, and His gift of the Atonement to each of us (if we accept and apply it) that there is ANY chance of happiness. In submitting ourselves to our Savior, we have EVERTHING to gain and NOTHING to lose; but we often don’t realize this until, through exercising our faith in Him, we courageously take a couple of steps into the unknown. I believe MANY more lives will be blessed by hearing this story. Thanks to ALL who have been willing to share it!!

Jo Ann OkelberryJune 12, 2019

We adopted a baby girl in 1967. She was of mixed race and certainly stood out in our family. We loved her so much, and she loved us and her six natural-born siblings. She died 10 years ago, and we have grieved so much as has not only her siblings but her aunts, uncles, cousins, and so many more. She was a delight in our lives. She never wanted to find her birth parents because she always said that we were her "birth" parents. I have read of so many people who found their birth parents only to have a very unhappy relationship. People sometimes don't want to be reminded of the child that gave up for adoption.

HalJune 12, 2019

Thank you for printing this article. The statistics I've read are that less than 1% of abortions are performed to save the life of the mother. Perhaps a few more are to terminate a pregnancy resulting from rape or incest. Even in the case of rape, some wonderful human beings came into this life as the result of an unselfish mother choosing to bear the child of a rapist rather than destroy that precious and productive life. The rest are for "convenience" and to avoid taking responsibility for one's own actions.

Dr. Stan and Cristie GardnerJune 12, 2019

Dearest Darla, Sending you love and prayers for peace and joy in this part of your earthly journey. We have enjoyed working with you so very much and you are in our prayers. We love your vision and your faith.

David C HillJune 12, 2019

Last summer my wife organized our personal version of "Relative Race." Each family had different sites in Utah County and Salt Lake County to locate and had an activity for each stopping point. Eight location had a family connection. We even had a trophy for the family that completed their assignment first. The families learned a little bit more about their ancestors and had a great time in the process.

ChuckJune 12, 2019

You're right---I'm a father, grandfather, and great-grandfather of both young women and young men, and boy! are they different. All are quite precious, and I need each of them. In fact, a daughter is driving me to a temple recommend interview tonight because a son at the last minute couldn't take me. With all these great people, though, it's no wonder my hair is so grey!

Pete PrattJune 12, 2019

That's great story and I'm very glad it worked out the way it did. My wife and I adopted a brand new baby at birth. When he reached adulthood he tracked down his birth mom, who promptly tried to take control of his life. It took a couple years for her to accept that his life was formed by his adoptive parents and he would not change to conform with her desires. Now they have an arms length relationship that is a burden to him. He says he wishes he had not pursued this.

Bob PowelsonJune 12, 2019

Nice story. My wife and I had a girl first then three boys in a row (four in six years). She was the oldest of 5 followed by four boys. A rather unruly bunch but protective of others. It was a rather exciting time. When the boys were teens we received a wonderful message from the school. The boys were bragging about how tough their mother was. Girls are prettier but much harder to care for.

Ray H GarrisonJune 12, 2019

For those of us who also have suffered a lifetime of chronic sinus infections, would you be willing to share the name and contact information for the Good Doctor you treated you?

Kay RookhuyzenJune 12, 2019

I simply LOVE your writing style and laughed out loud at your narrative! Keep writing!

VardellJune 12, 2019

Excellent article! I especially like this line, "I cannot fix myself. I cannot try a do-it-yourself program that will go the distance. I cannot transform myself to be like him." So true! Despite our LDS culture of perfecting ourselves - of doing more and being more - the scriptures teach that we are not capable of improving ourselves to a point of deserving redemption. All the self perfecting is only of value as it increases our faith in Christ enough to believe that he can forgive us and change us. Our works are only of value if they lead us to broken-heartedly plead for his mercy. Alma is the poster child for this truth. He was very wicked, had barely enough faith to plead, "Jesus thou son of God, have mercy on me." Having done NO good works, but with that tiny mustard seed of faith, he was forgiven, born again, redeemed, even changed to a state of righteousness!" (Mosiah 27:24-26) Only AFTER being redeemed was Alma able to be transformed and to do the great works.

Sandy DildineJune 12, 2019

Thank you for your story. I have one of those strong, protective sons. If we just could have that perspective while they are still young!

Marla SmakaJune 12, 2019

I am writing with great respect. I would like to take a view point 180 degrees opposite to the general tone and theme of this article. The author never mentioned how the feelings of the adoptive family feel about their adopted child seeking out the birth family. I along with my four siblings am adopted. My brother sought his birth family. I cannot describe the absolute tearing this caused the fabric of our family. We were sealed in the Mesa, Arizona, Temple. I thought we were now the children of our adopted parents (for those who have participated in the ordinances of the Temple, recall those sacred words). My brother sought his birth parents and found them, and also found he had biological birth siblings. He called one of his birth siblings in my presence his "real sister." I am not an adolescent or twenty-something. I am a grandmother of 13. I wish the trend to glorify the reunion of birth parents would stop. By the way, I saw a survey that said that 90% of adoptees who sought and found their birth families said if they had it to do over again, they would not.

Lori SmithJune 12, 2019

I just found my birth mother we talked this lady Sunday not meeting in person till September halve to build up the courage

JoyceJune 12, 2019

A word of warning for those seeking to dig into their past. My sister-in-law was 15 years old when she paired up with a 20 year old college student. Needless to say they produced a child. The drama in the family was stressing for the siblings who kept better morals, the devastated parents, etc. The infant was placed up for adoption. Fast forward 18 plus years and the offspring wanted to locate his birth parents. Grandparents were contacted to locate their daughter -- stirred up memories of times left in the past. Daughter secretly meets up with the young man over the years. Doesn't tell her parents nor siblings. Until the young man finally get married and his biological mother and her husband are invited to the wedding. Biological grandmother is not. Siblings are told of the upcoming wedding and the drama that daughter had brought upon the family is relived again. Things left in the past were stirred up once again. Spouses of the siblings were told of the wayward daughter and they were new trauma victims as they learned that their spouses had kept this family secret from them for decades. What other secrets were kept from the spouses? What an emotional mess! Biological grandmother now widowed was calling her son for months asking if they 'did the right thing' to have their 15 year old daughter put the child up for adoption as if he hadn't been traumatized enough in high school during his sister's pregnancy. Now he was having to relive the mess that sister's poor life choices had brought upon his family and his own time in high school that should have been pleasant years but were clouded by his sister's actions. He now had to explain to his wife that he had kept this secret from her for all the years of their marriage and wife was upset wondering if there weren't more secrets to be dropped upon her some day. Raking up on the past --- there is a reason that people say -- let the past stay in the past. Before the adopted person goes stirring up the past -- ask yourself if the birth situation that compelled you to be adopted might not cause others biological parents, their siblings, the biological grandparents, etc to relieve painful emotions that they had to deal with and have put in their past. It isn't just the adoptee who is involved. Your decision, just like your birth mother's acts that got her in a family way, will impact many others. The biological mother's acts caused drama in the family -- are you willing to risk stirring up trauma of things left in the past by those who dealt with the biological mother's pregnancy? The infant was hopefully raised in a good adoptive home -- be content with that unless you know that the biological family is not going to be traumatized again at your re-appearance. My neighbors adopted 2 infant boys weeks apart -- both of their mothers were drug addicts and are probably dead. My friends adopted two children -- their son's biological mother was a drug addicted. The daughter tracked down her birth mother -- the adoptive dad told me he was saddened that he had raised the daughter was there for her through medical school -- financially and emotionally was there of HIS daughter. As an adult she wanted to re-connect with her biological family -- dad being a dad -- said if his daughter wanted to find her birth parents he was good with that but deep down he was sad. Dad's do these things for their children --- hiding his true personal heart break because of the desires of his daughter. Daughter was giddy as could be to meet her biological mother --- but for his friendship with me, dad suffered silently that daughter didn't see him and his wife as her true full family. How many other adoptive parents conceal their personal heart break of an adoptive child looking for their biological parents? How many biological aunts, uncles, grandparents lives will be sent into turmoil once again from the reappearance of a child long ago placed into a NEW home with NEW parents? Think before your search causes trauma to others -- biological mother did not think what her actions would do to others.

RussellJune 12, 2019

At 63 looking back as a father this articul is spot-on, my girls were taken to another country for 9 years, I did all I could to comunicate with them but not being there certainly had a negative effect on them, my 35 year old still struggles with the effects quite badly, the next also has her struggles, eventualy I managed to get them back and raised my youngest from 13, we were fortunate to be able to develop a loving trusting relationship with her and she is as happy and well adjusted as most. I would like to know how to reverse the negative affects, it is very hard to watch your daughter continually choose self defeating behaviors and see also the ripple effect into the next generation, she has1 boy 4 girls and they have no Father.

DebbieJune 11, 2019

Thank you for all you have shared with us over the years. We pray that every day of your life will be the very best.

Michael BullJune 11, 2019

Last Saturday, mysterious symptoms I was experiencing were finally diagnosed as cancer in my liver, which is also not operable. I am still in hospital going through test after test. My heart is broken for my wife and the fact that my plan that I would ever by at her side and we would grow much older together, will no longer occur as I’d hoped. I feel I have launched my children on a journey that will be painful for them. I wish I could take this cup from them, yet I cannot - we are so very close as a family. Your words were a great comfort to me and my wife. Our experiences of support from the holy ghost and family members are very similar. Thank you so much for sharing.

GavidaaeJune 11, 2019

Was there any differentiation between legal and illegal immigrants? I don't know anyone that has a problem with legal immigration. We take more immigrants by far than any country in the world. The problem is people who don't follow the law. That is a documented financial burden for generations. Maybe it's supposed to offer us comfort that children will do better in school so they can be successful enough to pay the amount of money required by our government through taxes to support the cost.

JustinJune 11, 2019

I have enjoyed your many pearls of wisdom over the years. Know that you have blessed the lives of many directly, and those who have been the recipients of uplifting behavior of those who were changed. In other words, you are a big rock in the pond with ripples that have spread outward in ways that cannot be measured. And there are blessings in store for you in this life and in the life to come! Be well, and may you have the strength and humility to rely on the Lord in the coming days.

Rita MillerJune 11, 2019

What a difficult journey you're on! In addition to looking for resources to help you deal with this, another idea I had was to work on separating the children from each other. Separate activities, like individual play dates or community outings, will keep them from agitating each other so much, and help them work on their one-on-one skills with adults and other children. Being together as a family is good, but when it's only one adult doing all the parenting, having other 'parents' (actual or otherwise) for each of the children will give them a larger base to work from, and help diffuse their energy away from you.

CubbyJune 11, 2019

My sister is much the same position of caring for autistic grandchildren. She has one advantage, she is a school counselor. She found a discipline book called 123 Magic and implemented the strategies. It is amazing. I was a special needs teacher and had, over the course of years of experience learned the same strategies. They work. I now do some lecturing internationally and teach others bits of this. My psychologist friend who invites me also agrees it works, and now the teachers I work with do also. You can google it. Used editions are cheap. Side note, my sister also follows your advice and gets help, a lot of it.

BarbaraJune 11, 2019

This is great. Please make some more recordings.

MikeyJune 11, 2019

Darla -- i am cheering with/for you. I am in year #6 of the pancreatic cancer adventure.

Charlene DanielsJune 11, 2019

So sorry to hear of this part of your journey. I have so enjoyed your writings over the years and want to thank you for your testimony and for strengthening mine. My prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Janice Cline SommerJune 11, 2019

Dear Darla, your words have touched me more than I can express. Although I didn't get to have a lot of contact with you, you influenced my life for such good and I've often wondered how you were doing. I know that you have courageously faced physical challenges for many years with great faith. Thank you for your sharing from your heart. I've face physical challenges for many years as well. This has filled me with such hope and peace. You are such a light and I'm sure have influenced far more than you know. My prayers are with you as you are going through this tender time of preparation to return home.

MarkJune 11, 2019

This is great advice for couple's that live in the world. How about the couple's who live in the world but not of it? My loving and eternal companion and I come from bad marriages. I prayed that some day the Lord would guide me to somebody who put more emphasis on our reward on the other side. He led me to her! Since we look upon life with spiritual eyes, we don't have disagreements. I don't think I could love anybody else as much as I love her. The road to the tree of life is very narrow and the reward is joy and happiness. I know most of the things you are talking about here are of worldly situations. I think the bigger thing to consider when disagreeing is, "What would Jesus do?"

CandaceJune 11, 2019

The Lord neither leads us into temptation nor will he prevent it. Temptation is a the tool we use as we learn to overcome the natural man. This change removes the individuals responsibility to freely choose not to allow themselves to fall into temptation. It negates the principle of agency and the atonement.

Lora KinderJune 11, 2019

Darla, I have been so inspired by your writing, and this article rings very true for me. I had a similar experience while waiting for brain surgery on a tumor. I had no guarantees that I would live through it, or that I would be the same afterward. I experienced the peace that you describe, and wanted to be sure that my last words to everyone were words of love. As it turned out, it wasn't my time (yet), but we all have that day coming. We've spent our lives preparing to return to God. I like what you said about not fighting cancer. We seem to treat death as if it were some kind of defeat instead of an inevitable return to our heavenly home. I hope that we will still be blessed by your insights in the future, but if not, please know that your writings have been an incredible blessing.

Markus GappmaierJune 10, 2019

Dear Darla, thank you very much for your powerful testimony of most precious tender and loving mercies of the Lord which you have experienced during the recent days amidst very challenging experiences. You surely have been gifted with very vauable insights and the wonderful strength to let them govern this special phase of your life. I pray you, and your kind husband, will continue to feel the perfect strength of our Father's divine arm until returning into his presence, whenever this will be according to his reliable wisdom. I feel very blessed by knowing you! P.S.: Thank you for the beautiful pictures!

John ReilJune 10, 2019

My dad landed on Juno. I miss him a lot.

Jane BirchJune 10, 2019

Beautiful and tender, Darla! Thanks for taking some of your precious time to share these tender teachings with us. Our prayers are with you! Thanks for the example of bowing to, "Thy will be done." You are surely in God's arms.

LorieJune 10, 2019

If 41 countries were involved then the number of schools or students in each country were limited. If you only collected data on 7,000 US students, that is not a representation. The issue with immigrant students is not only what the grades are. The real issue is resources are limited when there is an influx of students without an equal number of households paying into the system with taxes. Overcrowded classrooms, limited supplies, out of date books, overworked teachers all add up. I live in an area that has always had a large number of immigrant students coming in. My high school student is using a sociology book that was printed in 1980 with over 40 kids in a classroom. That is a problem

KristineJune 10, 2019

I try to read whatever you share. You have unique insights that are so helpful. Love.

JenniferJune 10, 2019

My husband and I have really enjoyed your podcast this year in helping us study the Come, Follow Me curriculum. I listened to this one alone when he was out of town and I came back to reread the transcript--it was so powerful. I plan to share it and discuss with him to help us strengthen our marriage as we approach our 25th anniversary this month. What beautiful counsel that can be widely applied by many married couples, not just newlyweds. I definitely think you should make it into a booklet of advice for bride and groom!

KathyJune 10, 2019

Very tender. Thank you for sharing very personal thoughts.

KathleenJune 10, 2019

My late husband's boss told us Cancer was the 'Gracious Disease' because it gives us time to spend with family, sort through things and more. You have set an incredible example of handling this curveball in a most gracious way. We love and appreciate your honesty, your example and your faith. Thank you for sharing it all with us! Keep the Faith, the Best is yet to come!

Lissette BakeJune 10, 2019

Three months ago , I suffered a stroke and I just have not been able to voice my thoughts and emotions, UNTIL NOW, through you, Darla. THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL, POSITIVE THOUGHTS! I WILL TRY HARDER! I WILL GO FORWARD! THANK YOU AND BLESS YOU FOR TEACHING ME/US! ¡MUCHAS GRACIAS!

June AdamsJune 10, 2019

Darla, I add my sentiments to the others who have commented. I have printed your messages many times & they will continue to inspire me when I need your wise & consoling words. Thank you for sharing this chapter of your life & all the blessings you're receiving through these tremendous challenges. I will keep this message, too, & share it with others because I know that your faith will continue to inspire all of us as we all go through life's difficulties, hopefully with the same wisdom & grace that shines through you. My prayers are lovingly with you all the way.

Joy LundbergJune 10, 2019

To our dear Darla, We are so sad to read this news about your declining health. We want you to be here on earth longer! Much longer. But we know Who is in charge and we trust Him to take good care of you along this journey. We love you and we love your talents. Your writing is superior and always touches our souls. You have blessed the lives of so many through your books and articles. You have certainly blessed ours. You are in our prayers, dear friend. We love you! Joy and Gary

Jorge HernandezJune 10, 2019

Thank very much for sharing your miracle experience. I am sorry your difficulty and health struggles but then the impossible for the men was posible for our Mighty Lord.

June 10, 2019

Darla, Thank you for sharing your insights with all of us as you go through this journey. Your grace and dignity are to be admired. You remind me of others who have said, Well, why not me? You are truly one of the great and noble ones. We love you. Russ and Daria Evans

Kerri DavenportJune 10, 2019

Thank you for writing and sharing your spritual experience with us readers for so many years. I was thrilled when I heard Elder Holland quote you in October 2017 because your insights have been helpful to me and I'm sure to so many others. Thank you for continuing to share when life is hard. You are a beautiful soul!

KathrynJune 10, 2019

Darla, there are no words to express my thanks. You have inspired me in the past with your articles, but to have all my own beliefs confirmed is going to help me when it is my turn. I feel that time is coming soon. My daughter beat a very aggressive cancer earlier this year. Your attitude is like hers, but unfortunately it wasn't enough to make her leave her church and come back to the truth. But knowing the absolute truth of your words is so comforting. God's timing is not our timing and His ways are not ours. But, oh, the love, it overshadows everything Thank you and be kind to yourself because it's working.

Laura ClaytonJune 10, 2019

I've heard that Elder Neal A. Maxwell wrote about the Atonement of Jesus Christ was, somehow, performed for each one of us one by one. (I haven't had a chance to search for it, but I'd dearly like to find it!) Elder Merrill J. Bateman, however, taught: "For many years I thought of the Savior's experience in the garden and on the cross as places where a large mass of sin was heaped upon Him. Through the words of Alma, Abinadi, Isaiah, and other prophets, however, my view has changed. Instead of an impersonal mass of sin, there was a long line of people, as Jesus felt, 'our infirmities,' bore our griefs, carried our sorrows and was bruised for our iniquities. The atonement was an intimate, personal experience in which Jesus came to know how to help each of us." (Ensign, Nov. 2005)

Karen RawlingsJune 10, 2019

Darla, my husband and I have been lifted and inspired by your beautiful messages through the years. Your faith and testimony are an inspiration and a light to many people. Thank you for your openness in sharing this phase of your journey here on Earth. We pray for you and your family, that you may have continued peace and love.

SebJune 10, 2019

Highly interesting study. However while the study showed that in countries with a higher number of immigrant students the archievment gap between native and immigrant students is lowest, one question remains: Does a higher number of immigrant students correlate with statistically better or worse test results and achievements when compared to students in low immigrant countries? Or in other words: Do students in high immigrant countries have higher or lower grades compared to their counterparts in low immigrants countries? And another question is: What role does the origin of the immigrant students play?

ShirleyJune 10, 2019

I. Was diagnosed with the exact same cancer in early March...colon to liver. I have been taking chemo . Your message hit me right where it was needed I have been struggling to find the peace you speak of. And that is His will not mine be done. Thank you for sharing your story.

MarlundJune 10, 2019

Luana, I agree with your point and final statement...but you should know that stars are actually suns that are light sources just as our own sun is our physical light source. Every star you can see in the night sky with your unaided natural eyes is in our galaxy (the Milky Way). And the Milky Way contains innumerable worlds that orbit those stars. You may enjoy reviewing D&C 88:6-13 for the connection of physical and spiritual light.

Donna BatemanJune 10, 2019

This was the PERFECT complement to what the Lord has been teaching me about my own healing and the healing of my family. Thank you for adding your witness and thereby strengthening mine.

Rick ChapmanJune 10, 2019

You have been an amazing teacher and testifier of important things over the years. Your articles and books have helped our family and others we have shared with on numerous occasions. Your faith and willingness to share your experiences and insights learned, have been a blessing to us and no doubt countless others. Our thoughts and prayers and gratitude are with you always. Thank you! We know Father will bless you in the days ahead.

Cynthia CarlsonJune 10, 2019

Beautiful article with lovely thoughts! You have shared so much of yourself with us, your readers, all these years. May the Lord continue to bless you daily and hourly.

Eileen SalyardsJune 10, 2019

Thank you so very much for sharing. God bless.

CarolineJune 10, 2019

This is precious. Thank you ,dear sister , for joyfully sharing your own lessons of what is real and good and eternal.

ColinJune 10, 2019

Darla, I've been inspired many times by your honest and insightful articles here over the years. May God bless you with comfort through the end (and then beginning) of your journey—and the reunion with your son.

Corina BurnerJune 10, 2019

Words cannot express my gratitude Darla, for you sharing your experience. Having received a diagnosis recently of thyroid cancer, and awaiting the time when I undergo radiation treatment; your testimony and encouraging message was exactly what I needed to hear in a time when my heart was filled with doubts and fears. It was but another tender mercy from the Lord to let me know He was very much aware of what was going on in my life. Thank you again for sharing. You'll be in my prayers.

Debra WoodsJune 10, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing Darla! I can see why you consider it a blessing to have advance notice. It is a gift to us to see into the mind, that could be our own, of someone who knows the end of the mortality phase of life is just ahead. To take time to write your thoughts and feelings to us is so appreciated. We all know we will die someday, but usually ignore that reality, as if we can, by the ignoring, evaporate the truth. The sweet blessings you are experiencing, amidst the weakness, fatigue and pain, are an inspiration for what is possible whenever we submit our will to God. May your transition be just that much more peaceful, and the reunion on the other side that awaits you just that much more delightful because of the preparations you are making now. Thank you for your years of writing and sharing your journey with us to help make our journey more meaningful!

JoyceJune 10, 2019

Darla, I have been learning from your journey in this life as you have recorded it on Meridian magazine all these years. Thank you for sharing this part also. You are a strong valiant daughter of God. I will keep you in my prayers.

Pauline SmithJune 10, 2019

Darla, I have read your articles from various sources since the 1980s and they have always given me hope and courage to go on. You have been one of my special angels! I’m so sorry to hear this news, but I want you to know I love you and I will be praying for you! Maybe we’ll meet somewhere, sometime in a future day. Thank you for being you and sharing your wisdom. My heart to yours!

HalJune 10, 2019

We do not often eat fast-food fan but I've always preferred Wendy's and Chick-Fil-A over other franchises. Not only is the food better, but I like supporting companies that support family values. We adopted two older children through the foster care program and, while not without challenges, our adopted children have brought incredible joy into our lives. We support any entity that promotes adoption over abortion. Conversely, we also decided we could do without Netflix because of their support of abortion. We are not "boycotting" per se, we just choose to divert our resources from a company who does not share our values to those that do.

June 10, 2019

I have been a fan of yours since you were a writer for the little women's magazine many years ago.

Cynthia DeckerJune 10, 2019

I feel God's grace and love from Him to you and then to me. Thank you.

DJJune 10, 2019

Loved this article (as I have many in the past) and you. Thanks for the courage to share this experience and testimony with us.

Cynthia DeckerJune 10, 2019

I feel God's grace and love from him to you and then to me. Thank you.

KathyJune 10, 2019

No words can express how your words touched my heart. The expressed Faith you have says it all...I thank you! I pray for continued growth and happiness in your cancer journey. Much Love, Kathy

LaDawn JacobJune 10, 2019

Thank you Darla for this tender and thoughtful expression of your journey, not just this episode but countless others that you have freely shared. You cannot know how many hearts have been lifted and burdens made lighter by your writings along with your precious sister Arlene. Thank you for teaching through example serenity and joyful submission because of your trust in and personal knowledge of our Redeemer. With gratitude and love, LaDawn Jacob

Karen HallJune 10, 2019

Dear Darla, Thank you for sharing your heartfelt thoughts! What a frustrating experience to go all those months and not have any answers and then finally to get an answer with no treatment to provide the healing one would understandably desire. I felt peace as you asked how much time would be enough for you to say goodbye and likewise, how much time would be enough for your family to feel that they had enough time to let you go? It is a powerful reminder to make the most of each moment we have. Your tender expressions of love and gratitude touched my soul deeply. I was brought to tears as you described the Spirit bathing you and your husband and enabling you to communicate heart to heart on a level you rarely had achieved before. That was so so beautiful! We all long for such a gift and it is truly a journey of learning to communicate in that way, and it takes lots of practice. However, it is truly a gift from the Lord through the Spirit to have our eyes and hearts opened to have true understanding. Through the years, I have loved reading your experiences and the things you have learned in your relationships. Thank you for sharing that your prayers for healing have been answered! Thank you for being vulnerable and giving us hope that we may also be blessed with the Spirit to enable us to receive the gifts of unity in our communication and healing in our relationships, according to the Lord’s timing. Thank you for sharing the gifts you are receiving at such a difficult time. Thank you for all the things you have shared with us through the years to help us turn to the Lord in our journeys, especially during the hard times when we long for His comfort and peace that passeth all understanding. I, too, love it when my critic is silenced and I can envision and feel that I am a little lamb being tenderly held and encircled in the arms of my Savior's love. My prayers are with you and your family.

Vicky Jo SmithJune 10, 2019

This was such a sweet read. Thank you for sharing!

Marla SmakaJune 10, 2019

I do not have adequate words, so with much love I will say thank you and may God bless you.

CynthiaJune 10, 2019

Darla, Your insight and spirituality has blessed me over the years. I'd read an article that touched me to my soul and time after time I'd look at the top and find your name there! I'm grateful you shared in this article how you are partnering with the Lord on this part of your journey. I've learned myself that submitting to God and letting him in while accepting the finality of a loved one's life can be one of the sweetest and most beautiful experiences we can have. I am touched to see you living this and sharing the beauties of it with us. God be with you and thank you.

CatJune 10, 2019

Darla has always been on my "must read" list when it comes to Meridian articles! She always has such a beautiful way of putting this mortal journey into proper perspective.

Deanna SasserJune 10, 2019

I have had many friends that have passed on because of cancer. I am grateful for Darla’s comments. I felt her Spirit and it is the spirit that is needed at this time. I have always loved her stories and comments in the Meridian Magazine. I will miss her. Her article was comforting and healing to all those who read it. Thank you Darla. I know the Lord will continue to bless you and your husband.

Janene BaadsgaardJune 10, 2019

Oh Darla, Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with me today. I have great love and respect for you and the beautiful desires of your heart. God bless you my sweet friend.

Karyn HughesJune 10, 2019

Oh Darla, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I met you at a homeschool conference years and years ago. We chatted and had a heart to heart talk. I've loved you ever since. I thrive on your wisdom. I'm a better person because of you. Thank you for everything you've given me and to the world. My prayers are with you as you complete your journey here. I know how blessed and sacred that time is. Bless you dear sister!

Jo ZsemberyJune 10, 2019

Please Darla, take the time to write or dictate letters to your loved ones. And audios of your voice- even reading a patriarchal blessing are wonderful for those who grieve or never knew you this side of veil. We have some of those things as we had time also. Such precious gems!!

C ShieldsJune 10, 2019

Having lost 2 extended family members in the 2017 Santa Rosa CA Tubbs fire, I attest your conclusion after the experience of your day of fear: that 'nothing else really matters', when it comes to the preservation of the life. Tangible goods can be replaced, but love ones cannot.

Ann CapelJune 10, 2019

Thank you for sharing these precious thoughts with us. They are just what I needed You are wonderful!

Natasha PalaganoJune 10, 2019

I have read many of your articles. They are wonderful. Thank you for sharing these thoughts about your journey. I wish you the power of God, his perfect grace, and the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. Peace to you forever.

Laura BreymanJune 10, 2019

Thank you Sister Isaacson . We add our prayers to your and your families. Thank you for years of wisdom.

Christine BJune 10, 2019

Thank you for sharing your insights and thoughts on your experiences right now. I appreciate your words and I’m so glad you are feeling love and peace at the moment. I pray that these feelings will continue and sustain you in the journey ahead. Much love.

Erika PechacekJune 10, 2019

My son and I came early and enjoyed the atmosphere and excitement before President Nelson's arrival. Hearing the prophet was a spiritual feast. My son enjoyed the medical information that Pres. Nelson shared and how much it benefits people today. Pres. Uchtdorf and his wife shared experiences from the post- war time in Germany. This brought back experiences of my own. All the talks were very comforting and spiritual to me and emphasized the importance of our scriptures. The book of Mormon, if carefully read, is so important for us to understand how the Lord deals with His people and that Joseph Smith is a true prophet. I wish that all people would listen to the prophet and make decisions for themselves and others accordingly.

Ann-Marie JensenJune 10, 2019

Thank you for sharing your encouraging insights and the sweet lessons you're learning. This morning I studied President Nelson's April 2012 talk where he states, "To return to God through the gateway we call death is a joy for those who love Him and are prepared to meet Him." I wish you continued joy.

Kathie CraneJune 10, 2019

Darla we have learned so much from you through our visits at Kitchen Kneads and through your articles. Thank you for your thoughts on what is important in this life. They express our thoughts completely. Thank you for being our good friend. Love Joe and Kathie Crane

Pat PaulsonJune 10, 2019

Enjoyed this article very much. May God continue to bless your journey. You have given me a more comforting way to look at death. Thank you.

C ShieldsJune 10, 2019

Poignantly insightful. Thank you for reminding us how to live EVERY day of our lives, even withOUT a knowing 'end' in place....

Kathie CraneJune 10, 2019

A beautiful article about the important things in life.

Suzy LloydJune 10, 2019

Dear Darla, You have long been one of my favorite Meridian writers and I was SO sorry to read of your struggle. However, as usual, your faith and ability to spiritually cut to the chase, have lifted my spirit. I am grateful for your example and will pray for your journey and comfort. Bless you and your family, Suzy Lloyd

KathyJune 10, 2019

Thank you for your articles and insights. Thank you for sharing your feelings and testimony. My husband and I traveled this same journey a few months ago. It is a cherished, sacred time. You will be in my prayers.

Claradene StewartJune 10, 2019

I have enjoyed reading your stories and articles for these many years. I appreciate your insight into your struggles at this time in your life. I appreciate the fact that you do not blame God, and understand that you have done your best job taking care of your body and soul. C'est la vie, as they say in France where I am serving a senior couple mission and know very little French! May Heavenly Father and the atonement ofJesus Christ continue to sustain you and your husband and family.

JackJune 9, 2019

I think it’s a jump to conclude that fruits, vegetables and grains are herbs. Webster defines herbs very specifically as soft stem plants that die to the root annually. When Webster claims it comprehends all plants, he means the “whole plant”. Herbs are plants. He didn’t mean fruit trees (which are plants). Trees are not herbs! Vines are not herbs! Grains are not herbs. So when Webster says plants he means the whole plants which are used for culinary purposes. Grasses are a good example of an herb.

Daniel BakerJune 9, 2019

I have enjoyed much interfaith contact - many events, many opportunities, shaking hands with ministers, rabbis, muslims, even a national leader, having interesting respectful conversations and being told some amazing respectful things. We do not need to give up our own doctrine or belief to grow to understand and respect another. It's better than going forever according to some rumors unfounded.

Patricia BennettoJune 9, 2019

You have once again blessed me Thank you! This is getting printed so I can read it over and over and over

Diane C TadjeJune 9, 2019

Where can I find elder bednar's words about the enduring power of the atonement from podcast number 23?

TammyJune 8, 2019

Absolutely beautiful! The veil is so thin. What a blessing that Heavenly Father allows us to have these sacred experiences.

JoyceJune 8, 2019

My daughter in law thought her family was done after they had 5 children. But then she dreamed of a little boys who said he would be part of her family and his name was Caleb. Her husband agreed they should have one more child. Caleb is now 2 years-old.

PamJune 8, 2019

There are support groups on Facebook. ABA is amazing with autistic children. There are several providers. Try getting DSPD services that offer respite and help with other needs.

Patrick collinsJune 7, 2019

My Lord Jesus will always lead me and my family to the light of his love his words save our souls and his cross is the symbol of his saving sacrifice for us who truly love and adore his holy name.amen Lord jesus.

CarolynJune 7, 2019

Kari. where can I find that report. My dad landed on Utah beach.

Anne PrattJune 7, 2019

So Beautiful Maurine. Thanks for sharing!

Don HoffmanJune 7, 2019

Faith in the power of The Atonement of Jesus Christ has always been our source of strength to overcome temptation, as noted in Alma 7:11

Ali NeriJune 7, 2019

What a beautiful mission of our dear Prophet Joseph Smith!! What is "JD" and "HC" in reference to?

Geoff SteurerJune 7, 2019

This is such a beautiful story and a perfect illustration of God's goodness!

LaRita Call EvansJune 7, 2019

My father was at Normandy. I am so grateful that he survived. I am sure that the Lord was with those great men, as they stopped the Nazis. None of us knew what was happening, it was all a secret. I was 14 years old.

Richard JukesJune 7, 2019

Thank you, Maureen, for this article. It does this memory day justice and inspiration.

RS Ormond (Capt USAF Ret)June 7, 2019

Did he write a book about this?

Ann-Marie JensenJune 7, 2019

Thank you for making this available to us! What a perfect example he provides of being in tune with the Spirit. Quite the lesson for us that he received revelation about The Book of Mormon while getting ready for a deadly beach landing.

Tacy MuzzyJune 7, 2019

Thank you, Jonathan, for the recommendation!! We signed up. I like to support any efforts to offer alternatives to the increasingly questionable content available today.

Susan AnneveldtJune 7, 2019

I used to be in the same ward as Hugh Nibley and have great memories of walking to Church with him on some Sundays, or chatting with him in his little downstairs study/visitors room at his house. As I have a great interest in history, especially that of WWII, we talked about that too. He once told me about how he had been a "snoop" (his term) in the war, because he could understand the necessary languages and dialects. Great man!

Kayleen HunsakerJune 6, 2019

Thank you SO much for this article! [and all those that you write] I find that you speak directly to my soul and I am always able to understand in such a wonderfully simple way those things that I can DO to help myself...after reading your precious words!

pamela Morgan roderJune 6, 2019

Nibley is a hero of mine! Now even more so. Thank you for posting this!

Nihla Wilcox JuddJune 6, 2019

I will be reading this article again and again. Thank you for teaching correct principles and eternal truths. The one scripture you chose to quote has been a favorite of mine for as long as I can remember. I loved it the first time I read it. It resonates deeply with me. Thank you for reminding me of truthful solutions.

Margaret DrysdaleJune 6, 2019

In England, I have been watching on TV today the commemoration events of this important anniversary. They were all marked by humility from high and low, with great gratitude to those who fought and fell on that day, with speeches by many who were there and are now in their 90s and over a century. The speeches by the Queen and President Trump were touching and all the programmes so moving they brought me to tears, especially the ones from the immaculate War Cemeteries in the area President Nibley saw action. Surely this faithful man had divine protection. Our country is indebted to the USA for it's help and support in the later years of the War. Afterwards I remember having to take a jar to school to bring home drinking chocolate powder from a huge container, a real treat in those deprived days. Food and clothing was rationed for years after the war ended. When Princess Elizabeth married in 1947, many sent their clothing coupons for her trousseau.

Melvin HillerJune 6, 2019

I do not understand if Weatherspoon is for or against abortion. article is confusing

KariJune 6, 2019

I just read an old report of the landing of 4 divisions on Utah Beach on D-Day, the report being well researched and written 1960. What a bloody and horrendous day for so many men who died or were wounded. I am so grateful to them for their sacrifice. I think very few know of these accounts. It was a difficult day, to say the very least. We should all know about it.

Glen BlakleyJune 6, 2019

I read Sergeant Hugh Nibley...It was a great read. I have read hundreds of books on WW II form all sides, but Hugh Nibley's book is one of my favorite. When I was a student at BYU, I live across the street from him. I find all of his books very interesting. He always felt like he was just an observer. He felt our roll on earth is to repent and forgive. He was one of the smartest men I ever me tor heard speak.

Kent BrooksbyJune 6, 2019

I read the book years ago, and one thought of his has stuck with me. During the war, he often thought, What becomes of me matters very little; all that matters is what I become.

Kenny MazzantiJune 6, 2019

I have wondered about the reasons for the cataclysmic events that occurred on the American continents upon the Saviors crucifixion. In Jerusalem there followed three hours of darkness. In the Americas it was three days. In Jerusalem there was a quake. In the Americas the rocks were broken up, the whole face of the land was changed, cities were burned, buried in the ocean or crushed by mountains. Not to mention the myriads of people killed as a result. Granted that many of the people in the Americas were wicked, as there has been in all ages and in all places, but in Jerusalem the people actually cried out for the Saviors crucifixion, he was illegally tried, scourged, and crucified, and we have no record of mass extinction or destruction. The people in the Americas, as we call it, had nothing to do with the events in Jerusalem, and yet there is little comparison to the destructive events on these two different continents? Fortunately, I know that the Lord knows why this had to happen as it did, and I trust Him absolutely. But, does anyone have thoughts on why the great difference?

Sharon PhilpotJune 6, 2019

I've always loved Hugh Nibley, no even more so. Thank you for posting this. I'll share with our ward, and guess I'll have to buy the book!

Luana WellsJune 6, 2019

It has always been interesting to me that they refer to themselves as "Stars ". Stars only reflect, they do not give off true light. I choose to follow the Light of the World!

kathryn amesJune 6, 2019

Have read this marvelous book. What an astounding first-hand report of WWII from a faithful saint and scholar!

Dr Mike CriddleJune 6, 2019

Hugh is an American Hero and is also very honest about his wartime experiences. What is not mentioned in the story above is that Hugh was assigned to Army Intelligence( OB group) and took part in much of the planning of D Day for almost a year. He mentions elsewhere that it was that huge Storm that actually saved the invasion because German intelligence had the original date and were fully expecting the landing to occur. When the storm came in so powerfully,not only did it delay the invasion, but it also blew many of the ships out of position and changed the order enough to substantially confuse the Germans. In the end the Miracle of D-Day was very much in the storm along with all the planning, but without the Storm it is likely we would have not succeeded at Normandy. Nibley acknowledges that God was fully in charge and that the wisdom and planning of men is insufficient; IMO Quite profound.

Carol AnnJune 6, 2019

All these Hollywood "people" along with super athletes who think they have political sway, actually end up turning me against any of them who think they can tell me how to think and feel.I will not support or watch their movies nor sports events! Thank heavens for the courage of some people who still stand up for what is moral and right in protecting these precious unborn babies and protecting and respecting our American flag and conservative values!

HalJune 6, 2019

Thank you for this article. Our own experience is with a reclusive neighbor who has rebuffed our overtures of friendship for over ten years. Recently, however, circumstances have provided opportunities for our family to provide subtle service to this beloved child of God. Those small acts of loving service has soften hearts and opened avenues for conversations with our neighbor that seemed impossible even a few short months ago. We are looking forward to building a wonderful relationship with our "new" old neighbor.

SuzieJune 6, 2019

To all who embrace the killing of unborn babies: Your arguments are clever. Satan couldn’t have worded your arguments any better.

Thomas (Tom) NibleyJune 6, 2019

Hugh Nibley, after his WWII experiences was no fan of warfare. He did comment on how truly noble and heroic many of the men he fought with were, and the fact that warfare allowed that nobility to shine forth. He saw war itself as the result of a few very self-centered individuals who happened to be able to gain power and authority attempting to gain greater gain, power and authority for themselves at the expense of anyone who tried to stop them. He saw the real warfare that we need to fight as the struggle in our hearts to rule over any selfishness and pride that would lead us away from 'thinking of our brethren like unto ourselves and being familiar with all and free with our substance that they may be rich like unto us' (paraphrased from Jacob 2:17) Today (June 6) we rightly commemorate those who sacrificed more than I can comprehend so that we can live in freedom. But Hugh Nibley would be among the first to remind us that all their sacrifice would have been fruitless had it not been for Him who made the greatest sacrifice of all; And the Messiah cometh in the fulness of time, that he may redeem the children of men from the fall. And because that they are redeemed from the fall they have become free forever, knowing good from evil; to act for themselves and not to be acted upon, save it be by the punishment of the law at the great and last day, according to the commandments which God hath given. Wherefore, men are free according to the flesh; and all things are given them which are expedient unto man. And they are free to choose liberty and eternal life, through the great Mediator of all men....{2 Ne. 2:26-27) Brethren and Sisters let us all fight the good fight to become One in Him.

Pit Bull FanJune 5, 2019

PIt Bulls are the most protective dogs toward children, called the Nanny Dog in Britain. We had one, lived up to his billing. Very loyal and protective. Get your own pit bull and if your dad's dog bites your children, ie, the pit bull's children, he will attack your father's dog. end of problem

JenniferJune 5, 2019

My former husband's mental illness destroyed our marriage. Even 40 years later I am still trying to recover. My best wishes to you. It would help if Church leaders actually recognized the real effects of the kind of serious mental illnesses that cause people to lose touch with reality. Their goto response in my life was to blame the wife, then excommunicated the husband. When it all happened again in the second and third marriages, they used him as an object lesson in talks about the slippery slope of sin. May God forgive them. Me, I just pray for a separate section in Heaven where no priesthood leaders are ever allowed to enter. Maybe there I will have peace.

PaulJune 5, 2019

Ron, your suggestions are very appropriate to the situation and they give due consideration to the possible issues that can arise. But I do think you've missed one point. The letter is from the mom of the kids, but Grandpa is her husband's father. There isn't much mention of Dad in the story so I have to wonder where he is in this whole mess. What does he think about his father's position? Your response is to the Mom although perhaps you are implying that it is to both of them. In general my experience has been that when there is a family issue with a grandparent it is much better if that issue is carried by the parent who is the child of that grandparent, rather than by the parent who is the in-law to the grandparent. It seems much easier for a grandparent to dismiss or minimize a message from the in-law as opposed to the one who is their own child. Of course, it can also be very powerful if both parents jointly and simultaneously confront grandpa.I just think in this scenario it's likely to be more productive if the son takes the lead in this discussion. If Dad is somehow not very concerned about this danger to his children, then I don't think there's going to be much progress in dealing with Grandpa until this underlying problem is resolved. I guess what my question boils down to is whether Mom and Dad are firmly singing from the same page on this topic.

Lincoln HydeJune 5, 2019

Excellent. As Scoutmaster, my place in the hike was last - exactly for the reasons described (not including enemy attacks).

W Jay GoldthwaiteJune 5, 2019

Our now going on 46 years of marriage with 9 children and 34 grandchildren with a few more to come started out with merely friendship. Neither of us had even a hint of romantic feelings. And that continued not weeks, but months. She was not at all my type from the standpoint of who I would be attracted to enough to date, and I was to her in the same category. But, in our case, because of our assignments in church, and her need for occasional rides, and finally with the two of us trying a summer business together during our college years as friends, I gradually began to have the very feelings the man spoke about in this article. All those qualities we should also become familiar with besides attraction turned me around, and caused me to see her in a different light. She became more and more attractive to me as time passed, while I was still merely a friend to her. Prayerfully, I was able to retain our friendship as if I had no deeper feelings until after a few weeks passed, and our church put on a summer outing in the pines. I asked her to come with me to fellowship a girl who was overweight and had few friends, and she finally consented. That day, for the first time I changed my hair from the old fashioned comb back style to a new over the side style. I bought a pair of more in the fashion pants and shirt. I then made it a point without being obvious to spend time with her by enticing her to do what I knew she would want. She consented to go on a hike. We still never held hands at that point, nor was she inclined (she still did not know that I was inclined). I managed the hike skilfully and at one point told her I would like to rest for a while and enjoy the weather, scenery, clouds and blue sky, birds, etc. While she and I were resting about six feet apart, she started staring at me unbeknown to me. I finally looked over and saw tears in her eyes. It was then that she had an amazing change of heart. Suddenly I was the best of all the young men she wished would take her out. The rest of the day went well. On the way home, she made it a point to sit next to me rather than at the passenger door the way we came. And she put her head on my shoulder. Though there is more to the story, we have been in love ever since, and have a wonderful life together. We have had struggles, but have always worked them out as most good marriages require. So the advice on this article is right on. Spend time with a good friend, and expand your time with those you think you would rather be with. That's what we did. And over time we found that no one else compared to the relationship we had together.

Keith WilsonJune 5, 2019

Jan, Some great and practical insights about the law and the intent of it all in our parenting strategies. Thanks for sharing with all of us. Keith Wilson, Provo

Kay RookhuyzenJune 5, 2019

Another lesson well told! I love your articles!!

Rita MillerJune 5, 2019

What a hope-filled way of looking at our jobs here in mortality. Our dispensation is the last one--the last wagon. Our job is to make sure everyone reaches Home, picking up the stragglers, encouraging the weak and weary, watching for attacks and fending them off so the rest of the 'train' can continue. Most of what we do is one-on-one, quietly done, and unheralded by a dismissive world that refuses to see the good. But we, everyone of us, are important to the work. Our Wagon Master is still leading the way, sending us help and provisions, and encouraging us to hold on, that the end is not far away and we'll be there before we know it.

DavidDJune 5, 2019

There are living cells or "life" in the hair that I leave on the floor in the barber shop, but I don't think that such "life" should be given full human rights. If the wording changes to "potential for human life," then sperm and eggs have the potential for human life even before they are joined together -- why arbitrarily limit the protection of sperm and eggs to the moment that they link up?

Doris CrockettJune 5, 2019

This was beautiful and enlightening. We can never give up......

Judi GedckeJune 5, 2019

I've always loved this story, first given by President J. Reuben Clark, Jr., first given at a 1947 General Conference address titled "To Them Of The Last Wagon." I think a reference to his article would be in order. There is a small book published with that title as well.

Neal ChristensenJune 5, 2019

How many children have been mauled(some fatally) by a "sweet dog that wouldn't hurt a fly". Too many people place their pets on a higher plane than their fellow human beings. Sounds like an ultimatum is the proper response to this situation..."leave the dog or stay home".

LexaGraemeJune 5, 2019

Oh, this is good. Thank you for writing this, and giving me something to chew on. I’m absolutely the Last Wagon in many situations; reading this and remembering it can help. Thank you.

Charles NickelJune 5, 2019

J. Reuben Clarke, Jr. wrote a book with the title "To Them of the Last Wagon," following the same explanations your father gave. Your father may have been familiar with the book. Whether he was or not, he gave excellent perspective on your role, and one we can emulate under similar circumstances.

Gordon J HensleyJune 5, 2019

If too many people choose the "natural immunity" route, there will come a time when we will experience the heartache of high childhood mortality again. And we will have brought it upon ourselves. Before vaccines, life was brutal and short. As late as the 1950's children were still getting polio and spending their short lives in iron lungs. Do we really want to bring that back? Adversity brings growth and strength, but there's no need to become a martyr.

Gordon J HensleyJune 4, 2019

My brother was married at 17, and for this reason he and his wife were living in our parents home with the rest of our eight-member nuclear family. One night, about six month's into my sister-in-law's pregnancy, I received a visitation from my unborn nephew. I was sitting on the floor in front of the TV, and I felt a strong presence behind me looking over my left shoulder. I turned around, but I did not see anyone. But I still felt very strongly the presence of a boy, and I knew he was here to see his future home and the family he was coming to live with. I wrote this experience down in my journal, but I never told anybody in my family about it. I think this is the first time I have ever related it in a public forum. It happened about 40 years ago, but I still remember it clearly. I never told my nephew about it either, having lost contact with him after he and his mother moved away a few years later.

Julie MajorJune 4, 2019

The core issue surrounding abortion is, do we really believe in the sanctity of life? Do we believe that life begins at conception or when a child exits the womb? For me, the answer is obvious. God has given almost all women the incredible blessing of being host to the creation of another human being. Someone who is completely distinct and different than the mother from the time of conception. It is a miracle!! So if we really believe that life begins at conception, are we willing to stand against abortion? For the last few years, I have participated with an organization called 40 Days for Life, that through love and prayers is working to stop abortion. They don't scream and they're not extreme, they have faith in God that hearts will change through prayer. As a result, they have been able to save thousands of babies from abortion, and at the same time have helped the mothers to feel peace . Unfortunately, in Utah at least, very few LDS women actually participate to try to stop abortion. I understand that they are busy with many good humanitarian and service projects. But as I've asked sisters in my wards to join me, only a couple have been willing to get involved. I hope and pray that more of us will recognize the importance of standing with our Christian brothers and sisters to try to stop this evil practice.

Emily BlodgettJune 4, 2019

Thank you for posting!!!

Dave HallJune 4, 2019

While I admire these pro-life activists, they have to be truly dreaming to think that Roe v Wade will be overturned anytime before the Second Coming. There is no way that either Roberts or Kavanaugh will vote for overturning this. Such a vote would unleash a literal war. Get a grip on reality. Even if the Supreme Court would re-consider this decision, which they're not going to do, the best they could hope for would be a 6-3 decision to uphold Roe v Wade.

CubbyJune 4, 2019

I agree with John. I feast on the richness that Brother England has acquired through a lifetime of study. We cannot all study as he has, but we all can feast at his banquet as we understand each of us has our own particular assignment and all can share.

CubbyJune 4, 2019

I, too, had experiences, but never heard of others having the same. I am glad the stories of mother’s are being told. It is time!

DavidDJune 4, 2019

There are some of us who are very tired. Tired of the extremists on both sides of the issue, NOT TALKING WITH one another but SCREAMING PAST one another for the last 50 years. Uncompromising pro-abortionists yell that it's a zygote/blastocyst/embryo/fetus and it at NO time has any human rights. Uncompromising anti-abortionists yell back that it's a pre-born human and at ALL times has full human rights. Right or wrong, a lot of us are just plain tired of the screaming, uncompromising extremists.

Jan KingJune 4, 2019

Nola, did not Jesus ask to "have this cup pass....."? Asking to be excused from this very heavy responsibility? And then, "not my will, but thine".

Susan SandbergJune 4, 2019

After my oldest son and his wife were married, I had a very vivid dream in which I was sitting on a stone wall in a meadow. I looked up and two little boys approached me--one maybe 5 years old, holding the other's hand, 3 or so, and leading him to me. The older had dark hair and eyes, the younger was fair with blue eyes. I instantly knew who they were, and I was filled with joy. The older said "Hi Nana!", and then they turned and ran away. They are here now--and both 100% the same as in my dream. Their parents were so amazed when I described both these precious boys years before we saw them!

TylerJune 4, 2019

Lehi in Arabia is a terrific movie. 12 criteria had to fit the bill for this location to be bountiful. It's amazing how each of those criteria were laid out by nephi in the b.o.m. It's also amazing that as their family were traveling southward in the wilderness, Lehi named a lot of sites (according to semitic tradition, the patriarch would often name new locations). Lehi named valleys and rivers. But interestingly enough they came to a place that WAS called Nahom (lehi didn't name it). Ishmael died and was burried there. There's actually a place NHM or Nehem in the exact location they were traveling that was a burial site, I think the term even meant a place of mourning. From that point, nephi and his family traveled due east (until they arrived in (most likely) this site mentioned in this article). At the time of the publication of the book of mormon, there was a serious criticism that the arabian penninsula was just a giant desert with no trees. Preposterous that they'd find trees to build a boat, honey, fruity, etc. Amazingly, look on google maps satellite view and you'll see how the penninsula really is a wasteland (EXCEPT for this ONE small patch of bountiful). My takeaway from all this is that if we are humble, and seek the Lord's hand, he will direct us to our own promised lands. We may have to go through a good amount of desert, but the only way to survive spiritually in a coming day will be to have the companionship of the holy ghost as a constant companion. Also, I judge laman and lemuel a lot less harshly after seeing how far they traveled. Early on in their travels when they hadn't even gone very far relatively speaking, they had to return to get the plates on a 20 day round trip journey. That couldn't have been easy. Love this find.

John KJune 4, 2019

This is nonsense, abortions are at a 40 year low. Roe v Wade gave women control over their own bodies, this isn’t Saudi Arabia or Iran, women should be able to make their own choices. It is misogynistic to limit their freedom.

Alece ReynoldsJune 4, 2019

Our daughter saw three of her four children before they were born. She has since seen the son in the exact moment at which she saw him in vision. The two daughters are still not old enough for her to see them in life as she saw them in her visions.

Jan KingJune 3, 2019

I have been enjoying these republished articles very much but I'm a bit surprised that prayers of gratitude are not mentioned. I once read "if tomorrow we only have what we thanked God for today, what would we have?" Every day there are new hardships and challenges for our brothers and sisters around the world with natural and man-made tragedies which I feel compelled to pray about, for healing, comfort and service.

John E. KammeyerJune 3, 2019

I was there in 1977, when they were new, so I don't of course remember them as dank or slumping. Of course, coming from the Pacific North West, my understanding of "dank" could be different. I had a pretty good time there, and was kind of sorry to get thrown out into the lone-and-dreary-world. I remember heading up the hill, with my group, every Thursday at sunrise, to the Provo Temple. Wonderful!

Sarah HinzeJune 3, 2019

Thank you for your comment on your personal adoption. Announcing dreams are also prevalent when it comes to adoption. I have several stories of adoption in my book The Announcing Dream. In some cases the circumstances surrounding how to find the adopted child are given in the dream. It is miraculous. If possible, I would love to have your story for my new book. [email protected]

Charles l. GarnerJune 3, 2019

I enjoyed the information. What would the value of the 1851 Danish B of M be ? Thanks , Charlie

Lydia GibbonsJune 3, 2019

Reply to Boanerges Rubalcava: I completely agree with you. I am Ted's wife and we have discussed this very thing many times (before he passed away). Our prayers are not vain if we truly yearn for blessings and answers, as we pray, even if they are repetitious as you said.

Sue Ellen WinmillJune 3, 2019

My husband and I were in the process of deciding whether or not to adopt, as we could not have children by birth. I was ready and filled o ut my paperwork, but my husband had some misgivings about parts of the application process, and we put it on hold for a while Then one day he had this special experience: our future son spoke to him (I don't know if he saw him or not) and said something like this: "Please finish the application, I am going to be your son, you need to get ready." (He died 13 years ago, so I couldn't ask him!) We subsequently finished the application and then a couple of years later we moved from west Los Angeles to Pleasant Grove, Utah, transferring our paperwork to the LDS Social Services in Salt Lake City. We waited two more years for the letter saying we could expect a phone call in the near future. Then my husband got the phone call (he worked in Salt Lake) and finally got hold of me at BYU where I was attending Women's Conference. I hurried and went to the car, stopping at home to get the baby clothes we had for him (they don't provide those!) and drove to the LDS Social Services office where I met my husband. The moment he was placed in our arms, I received a witness that he was our son, and that has been confirmed many times over these past 43 years. We were able to get a beautiful daughter six years after that, and I received a similar witness that she was truly meant to be in our family.

JohnJune 3, 2019

I am so happy to see another article by Brother England! Thank you very much. His articles have been a great help to me with my old testament gospel doctrine lessons. I hope to hear from again.

RobJune 3, 2019

I'm responding to the question about the writings of Josephus. After listening to the podcast I went to Amazon and ordered the complete "translated" version for less than $20. It looks like fascinating reading.

Cynthia AbbottJune 3, 2019

I had this experience with our grandson. We had two sons, and for six years off and on I had recurring dreams of a dark-haired, dark eyed boy. I saw him at various age, usually in infancy. Our boys were blonde and blue-eyed though on my husband's side there seemed to be possibly some Native american dna. I kept thinking I was dreaming about a child I would have. I started the dreams in my mid 30's and into my first year of being 40, so I began think I was going to have a "change of life" baby. In the dream I was always about to leave the child and would go into a panic suddenly remembering him. I would continue to panic in my dreams as I did not have formula, food or diapers! Sadly, our oldest son had a teenage romance that resulted in the birth of a child, a son. The mother was (or looked) part Indian or Hispanic, and as soon as I found out she was pregnant, I knew this was to be the child of my dreams. Her family did not want to support her in this, and we did. Before the baby, a dark-eyed, dark-haired, even somewhat dark-skinned boy, was two, his mother ran off to another state and left him with us. We helped our son, who was a devoted young father, get permanent full custody. We have raised him since then, since birth really. There is no doubt the Lord was preparing me for this amazing child who has blessed our lives.

JemezblueJune 3, 2019

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for this article!!! I am so glad to know about this book and how many times visions of unborn children really happen to others. It has also happened to me. I am a single woman and past menopause, but, I too, have had these experiences. I have know for years that a angel son is out there and that a angel daughter is out there somewhere, too, helping me. Just a few weeks ago, my son to be helped me find a name. I did not choose his name, HE did! Whether I will be blessed to have children at an old age in this life, have them through adoption, or if I will have them in the next, I know they are there, watching and helping me, and they are mine to raise when the time comes!

Boanerges RubalcavaJune 3, 2019

I agree that we should not "say prayers" bu to earnestly pray to Heavenly father knowing that He is listening. There are repetitions in our prayers and VAIN repetitions. This is not the same. Repetitions are right if you know you are asking for the same thing or for the same persons every day to Him, and He is there and He is listening. Repetition in itself is not wrong, is not "saying prayers", it is simply we have the same desires for the same people (our children for instance) and even "the missionaries" or for that purpose, the Prophet and all the Apostles and our Bishop, etc. I have been making these repetitions for years, and I will continue because I still love those I am praying for. The "vain" repetitions are wrong even if they are not repetitions when they are simply "vain", meaning we are not conversing with HIM. I have pondered about my repetitions, and prayed about them and feel that they are right if they are not vain. Every day of course may come something else that needs to be addressed and it is added to the daily repetitions that come in the order that my children were born.

AnonymousJune 3, 2019

My heart is full of Thanksgiving, not just for this very timely article, but for Scot and Maurine and every writer you employ for the sakes of your readers. Today, this article comes when I’ve been struggling with how to put my heart into adequate words to express myself as a child to my Father, as well as to try and explain this principle to a loved one regularly using repetitive language in family prayers. Everyday, bar none, I open Meridian to find a minimum of one, but most days, at least two and often SEVERAL articles pertaining directly to current issues and concerns in my heart and/or in the lives of my loved ones. I’ve expressed on multiple occasions to my husband and/or close friends, my amazement at how intimately Heavenly Father knows me and how intricately He arranges things in such organized order that exactly the counsel from EXACTLY the source who understands MY heart, is right in front of my face when I open Meridian Magazine! This article on prayer is one example in a multitude!! Scot and Maurine, I have grown not only to love your spirits, your oneness in purpose and your oneness as a team, in marriage and in business, but especially your oneness with our Maker and the Father of us all. My gratitude lacks for words to truly express the continual thanks I have and attempt to express to Heavenly Father for you, each and collectively. I pray you’ll both be granted long and prosperous lives as you continue this beautiful mission, touching untold lives such as mine!

LeisaJune 3, 2019

This also happens with non-biological children. I had the vision of a child that was to come to us through adoption...I thought he was going to be our child through IVF treatments that we were going through, so when those failed, it made me very confused. When I met our son for the first time, I finally understood that the little boy sitting on someone else's lap was the boy destined to be ours!

HalJune 3, 2019

Thank you for this beautiful and moving article. In addition to spiritual experiences involving our biological children, we have had similar experiences with our adopted children that convinced us that, although they were brought into this world by another mother, these precious spirits were meant to be a part of our family.

Phyllis LopezJune 3, 2019

That's beautiful!

A thoughtJune 2, 2019

@DonHoffman There have been multiple studies that have shown absolutely no link between autism and the MMR vaccine. Business Insider just published an article about it in the last couple of months:

Don HoffmanJune 2, 2019

Have we ever felt unwilling to do a good thing, yet went and did? I think the parable says it's OK to be at first unwilling, and then walk the walk, rather than talk the talk and fade. Jesus did not want to drink of the bitter cup, as we very often do not wish to do, BUT He did walk the walk, and set the example for us all.

Don HoffmanJune 2, 2019

it's a big business, and more is not better, especially for babies. Seventeen vaccinations before 2yrs old? Talk to some of my friends with autistic children due to the MMR vaccine. Learn the truth that the CDC in Atlanta tried to cover up, but one of their top scientists became a whistler blower and showed it was all about money. Vaccinations surely have their place, but wisdom is required from the general public, because in Government and Big Pharma it is not to be found.

Patricia BennettoJune 2, 2019

Again, I thank you. You are both such a blessing in my life. Are the works of Josephus published?

Kathryn VarnerJune 2, 2019

Joseph Smith has been quoted as saying that we should never kill an animal unless we face “starvation.” This is in church history when he comes across two rattlesnakes crossing the embarras. The Holy Spirit also speaks strongly that I have no desire to draw the blood or take the life of.... anyone. If ordinary people were to kill their own meals they would immediately feel the despair and sadness and even trauma and grief. We are not meant to kill, unless we have to. #veganISlove. It’s really selfish to find reasons to kill others when it’s not for need: it’s truthfully killing for pleasure. Spiritual people have abstained from meat in many cultures becuase it draws you closer to God, and if you can’t give up your meat for 30 days than you are suffering from addiction to it.

MarcJune 2, 2019

Not being a follower of history all that closely, this article was extremely informative and very uplifting. I had no idea. Thank you very much.

JaneJune 2, 2019 Thank you for your question, Kathleen. Thanks to Google, I quickly and easily found this on the Church's website. Very interesting.

DianeJune 2, 2019

Thank you for sharing these thoughts. Very good article.

DianeJune 2, 2019

Great article! Thank you.

DanJune 1, 2019

Your article Isaac hit the nail on the head for me, especially the last section. I've been pondering lately what it means to feast upon the word of God and though I read the scriptures daily, I can't say that I feast upon them. But an analysis of where my heart is makes perfect sense. Thank you for your insightful words.

Marcia AndersonJune 1, 2019

My husband and I so look forward to each podcast every week! We love listening together/. Thank you!!

Lynn JohnsonJune 1, 2019

Excellent collection, most faith-building. Many I had seen, but several were new to me and I read them with joy. Pres. Nelson has said trials are ahead, and like Greg I am determined to listen more closely.

Iclea MegreJune 1, 2019

Thank you so much for this article, specially the last part about treasuring us the worst of the Lord, those words comforted and inspired me.

M EcclesJune 1, 2019

I can't see the article on my iPad. I'd very much like to read it...can you help? Regards, Melanie

Holly DudleyJune 1, 2019

I also would like to know the reference re the 24 temples.

RandyMay 31, 2019

When I met my wife, 47 years ago, it was like we've known each other all our lives. Which was not possible, considering that I grew up in Georgia and she was from New Jersey. We met while I was stationed at Ft Monmouth, NJ in 1971. When we met all we did was talk about the Church and what we wanted out of life. We talked all night long, until she had to go home. She was not a member of the Church and so we spent a lot of time talking about it. She was in a holding pattern in her church while looking for the one that taught what she believed. We met in March and got married in December, then 8 months later she was baptized. Shortly after we were married, I was sent to Vietnam in 1972 and then to Korea, 6 months later, where she was able to join me. Our first child was born in a Korean hospital. I was attracted by her spirit and that we felt like we had known each other all out lives. I believe that in the pre-existence, we knew each other and promised that we would, somehow find each other. And with the help of the Lord, we did.

AlexMay 31, 2019

Romantic attraction (love), is a relatively new concept. There are still many societies that practice arranged marriages. I believe that any two people who wish to make a marriage work can. Now how easy it is will depend on a number of factors and that is what the dating period is for, to reduce some of those major factors that would derail a marriage. (for example, Its hard enough to raise kids as it is, but knowing that both parents are of the same religious beliefs may reduce some of those difficulties.) That is, Love, is a choice. You should look for someone that you are comfortable with. As long as you are not repulsed by the person's looks, then you can (and likely will) learn to love the way they look. In any case, looks change. I would think that the old saying of "they have a great personality" might be a better gauge of long term marriage potential than "love at first sight".

Steven SwarthoutMay 31, 2019

For what it is worth, I know of several people who, on first meeting were unattractive, but with further appreciation of their personalities became very attractive...and vice versa. Beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes clear to the bone.

NolaMay 31, 2019

You are downplaying the importance of physical attraction, but it's important enough that it needs to be there. If there is not physical attraction, he is not going to really want her sexually. She deserves to be with someone really wants her and not just someone who loves the person she is. Yes, physical attraction is important. It help us to weed out who might be a good match and who is not going to be a good match. It's great to give it a little time and see if it develops, but if there is no physical attraction, don't do that to her or to yourself.

Monte MortensenMay 30, 2019

What a perfect story of loving each other. Those children at Rising Star are angels! You write beautifully Becky! You have reminded me to be ever mindful of others who might be struggling or in despair. It is so easy to be self absorbed and ignore who are around.

DarrelMay 30, 2019

How much of the land was changed at the death Jesus Christ? Was the land more green then?

ShawnMay 30, 2019

There's this list too: The Rockies are clearly what he had in mind!

Jorge HernandezMay 30, 2019

No questions, Joseph Smith was a true Prophet of God to continue giving revelation to his servant. So follow up the Prophets no doubt. Thank you for this insight. JH .

Kay HansenMay 30, 2019

Becky, I loved this story! I know the Lord has been instrumental (or at the helm all along) in all the miracles that are a part of Rising Star’s legacy. Hearts can be changed and it is so sweet that in this case it was the sincerity of little children enthusiastically singing a simple song that made the difference.

LORNA BOOTMay 30, 2019

There is always a new nugget of insight in Peterson’s articles. Love them!

OumieMay 30, 2019

Love this! Very insightful, thank you

pamela Morgan roderMay 30, 2019

Thank you Daniel Peterson for your usual insights into Palestine and the Middle East in general. Yes RS a special place, a consecrated place that will one day receive its glory and... more rain. To be there is to feel deep down inside, its true worth to us, the children of Israel- who love to read and study the words of those of whom you wrote about Thank you so much.

Paul JMay 30, 2019

If you read the minutes from the Council of Fifty you will understand why Brigham Young didn’t make any big announcements about going to the Salt Lake Valley but let Texas, Wisconsin, Oregon and California be topics of speculation even though he knew exactly where they were going.

Greg AndrewMay 30, 2019

Thanks Brother Marsh for the gathering of so many testimonies of the Prophet Joseph Smith's prophetic insights on going to the Rocky Mountains. Makes me want to pay better attention to President Nelson's words!!

LexaGraemeMay 30, 2019

Thank you for this. I look forward to reading more of Dr Peterson.

UFIMay 30, 2019

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AndrewMay 30, 2019

Thank you. The best collection of Firsthand accounts concerning Joseph’s prophecies of this Valley. We usually hear only one. Particularly enjoyed Anson Call’s recordings.

Gary LindnerMay 30, 2019

Wonderful article! Glad I noticed your name and remembered your many insightful comments during Sunday School. I will have to try and follow you (though I am too old to figure out what that means). We miss you guys! Say Hi to Michael and keep up the good work.

AndrewMay 30, 2019

I watched this episode so long ago and it greatly impacted me. I was beautiful. It made me cry. THANK YOU for following the spirit and permeating that one episode with inspired music and the spirit. Can’t wait to watch these clips and rewatch the episode with my family.

oscarMay 30, 2019

you have twisted the word of wisdom to fit your vegan beleifs. 1) you claim that it says "avoid flesh of animals". it does not. its says the opposite "flesh also of beasts and the fowls of the air, i the lord have ordained for the use of man with thanksgiving 2) you claim that god has made it possible for man to obtain nutrients from animals in TIMES OF NEED. again it doesnt say that. all it says is that meat is for man however it should be used sparingly. sparingly does not mean "in times of need". eating meat just once per day could be considered using it sparingly. 3) you say that we can easily obtain all the nutrients we need from plants without killing animals. but the word of wisdom doesnt say that. like i already pointed out it says the flesh of beast and fowls of the air is ordained for the use of man. you cant eat the flesh of beast or fowl of the air without first killing the animal

KathleenMay 29, 2019

Where is the prophecy/writing or teaching from Joseph Smith about the complex of 24 temples? I would like to read more about it.

Bonnie MMay 29, 2019

Marilynne, another great article! Thank you! I'm passing it on to our family.

TessMay 29, 2019

It is indeed tragic that we have so little faith in the immune system that God built. One wonders how we can be so selective in choosing which "arm of flesh" to believe. In China, with reported 100% vaccine rates, these same break outs described as crisis, are happening. The same in Montreal. Over and over it is seen. The down sides of vaccines are seen through the vaccine injury being identified, and even compensated for in spite of the immunity (pun intended) that has been bestowed upon vaccine companies. The GlaxoSmithKline in-house reports from Italy were a tipping point for me. When international court rulings allow us a glimpse at the known fatalities, disabilities and additional side effects of vaccines, I beg to differ that the measles is our biggest foe. I chose to stay in the church but I cannot understand how members reconcile this deep dependence on medical understanding while claiming to believe in the word of the Lord. Lean not unto thine own understanding, right?

HalMay 29, 2019

As an avid history buff, I loved these photos! They show that in spite of the horrors of war righteous people can make a tremendous difference. They remind me of the scripture in Alma 50:23. In the midst of a horrific war, ".... there never was a happier time among the people of Nephi, since the days of Nephi, than in the days of Moroni, yea, even at this time..."

Alisi FiliagaMay 29, 2019

Thank you again and can't wait to hear again from you next week!

ElizabethMay 29, 2019

Persuasion is powerful. It's how we're encouraged to share the Gospel as well. If we had a 95% vaccine rate, we would be disease free. What a wonderful state of affairs that would be. The money that could be saved, the lives of everyone improved. Vaccines are a modern day medical miracle.

Becki TeerlinkMay 29, 2019

Interesting and so insightful. Ideas that can easily be used immediately. I look forward to more articles.

Kay RiceMay 29, 2019

Awesome. I remember that time.

VardellMay 29, 2019

Great article, thank you. Your emphasis on prayer is very important, but the scriptures also tell us that abiding in love is a result of our redemption, of gaining a remission of sins and being born again. Lehi said, "the Lord hath redeemed my soul from hell; I have beheld his glory and I am encircled about continually in the arms of his love." Imagine being encircled continually in the arms of his love! Lehi said it was because he was redeemed. Alma and the people of King Benjamin said the same thing; they talk of being forgiven, born of God, and redeemed. They too feel the exquisite joy and love of God and man. This remission of sins and being born again - being redeemed is the key to abiding in Christ's love. Mormon reiterated this in Moroni 8:26 "The remission of sins bringeth meekness and lowliness of heart and because of meekness and lowliness of heart cometh the visitation of the Holy Ghost which comforter filleth with hope and perfect love."

Ken MazzantiMay 29, 2019

Every time liberals, socialists, communists boycott Chic-fil-A it just takes longer for me to get my lunch. Those who support freedom and religious liberty patronize this wonderful company and every minute I wait is so worth it!

Rochelle HaleMay 29, 2019

A year or so ago a lovely young-ish couple moved into our ward. One of the first things I did was ask if they had children (because they looked old enough to have several). I knew (from my own experience) that it was not the right question, and I ended up immediately sharing my own difficulties and that I didn't mean to offend or upset them. During my own years of struggle, which finally resulted in one child, I actually enjoyed babysitting or having the neighbor children come over for crafts and cookies. I delighted in sewing baby clothes for friends or giving the best gift I could at baby showers. Church was mostly a haven, except for the dreaded questions, and that many friends were having their families and leaving me and my husband behind. Even today, well beyond and not possible child-bearing, I still sometimes feel the hurt. This may seem odd, but it mostly comes when another sister has miscarried. It isn't that I don't empathize and feel great sorrow for her loss; it's that at least she knew she could get pregnant.

JackMay 29, 2019

This reminds me that we are both challenged and promised to be able to "stand" in holy places. The examples of retrofitting our temples seems in part to say that we need to build flexibility into the way we make our way through life's challenges. These spiritual go-to's you describe allow us to bend with the wind and not break. Thanks for the thoughtful visual.

Jorge HernandezMay 29, 2019

I appreciate this publication, Larry has been one of my favorite writer. He had the special gift of knowledge; eventhough He pass away, our feelings of love is at the high. I am sure that now Hi still continue teaching the Godspell of our Redeemer to the others spirits.

Faith RalphsMay 28, 2019

This story brought tears to my eyes. I've been to Rising Star as a volunteer and can picture those precious little ones. I just wish I could kiss their cheeks through the computer screen. Becky is an example of the kind of woman I want to be--never forgetting the poor.

MargaretMay 28, 2019

Thank you, for your words, it is what I have needed at this time.

StefanieMay 28, 2019

I agree with Nora, Jesus Christ ALWAYS wanted to do the will of the Father. And Father NEVER asked Satan to go, he wanted to volunteer with his selfish plan.

GTOMay 28, 2019

"Views, incidentally, that were vindicated by the Supreme Court..." I'm not a leftist, but this statement is not true. The Supreme Court found that the state of Colorado had prosecuted Phillips with an unfair bias. It's not the same thing as vidicating his beliefs.

stevie mckennaMay 28, 2019

Good article. However this applies to everyone not just our children. It applies to us.

Marian EsterhotlMay 28, 2019

Years ago my non-member fellow faculty member turned on TV and accidentally chose "Mormon" Conference. Her own parents had come from Germany and this touched her.

Bob PowelsonMay 28, 2019

Pres. Monson had the gift of Charity - the pure love of Christ.

Mellisa HancockMay 28, 2019

Thank you for sharing your journey. I have a 13 YO daughter that is currently experiencing some similar health issues that are yet to be diagnosed. As her mom it is so difficult to watch her remove herself from social situations that she once thrived in, not being able to eat and to see her so terribly ill. We often speak about her journey and how she is learning to be more prayerful, faithful and patient by leaning on her Savior and Heavenly Father to get her through this trial. I pray for your life to be blessed with continued understanding, hope and faith.

Bryan HurtadoMay 28, 2019

Pres Conforte used to call me "Super Uomo", Superman, every time we met. I love him. He's the kind that recharges your batteries with just a word, a touch or a gesture. He's no pushover, he's a tough guy. There's a reason he was a career military leader. Used to say that the United States was strong because it was "united", and that we can learn a lesson from that. I served with him in the Padova mission in the cities of Ancona, La Spezia, Livorno, Forli, Rimini and Pesaro 90-91. He and Sister Conforte are among those people with some of the strongest testimonies I've ever known. Italians have had so much adversity, it's hard to believe what it takes to join the church there. So proud of them for getting a temple. Well deserved! Tanti auguri a voi!

Robert StarlingMay 27, 2019

In regard to the question of how one chooses a church, C.S. Lewis suggested that when a person accepts Christ and becomes a "mere Christian", it is as though he or she enters a large hall filled with people. There are many doors leading off the main hall, representing different churches (I believe there are many more than 175, perhaps more like 3,400). Lewis says "And above all you must be asking which door is the true one; not which one pleases you best by its paint and paneling.” He says the “mere” Christian must ask of a “door” he might plan to enter; “Are these doctrines true? Is holiness here? Does my conscience move me towards this?” Then finally he adds, “When you have reached your own room, be kind to those who have chosen different doors.

Robert StarlingMay 27, 2019

To Geoffrey: Since both Catholics and Latter-day Saints believe that baptism is essential for salvation, the biggest difference between the two churches is the answer to the question, who has the authority to act for God in performing a baptism that He will accept as valid? Catholics believe that priesthood authority comes through an unbroken line from Peter to the Popes. Latter-day Saints believe the priesthood of God was taken from the earth because of apostasy, and restored by resurrected heavenly messengers (including Peter) in modern times (1829) in accordance with prophecy. That is the practical difference. The existence of an "unbroken line" of priesthood authority is inconsistent with history. (There were once three popes who all excommunicated each other.) The truth of the restoration of the priesthood in 1829 can only be determined in the heart of each individual by spiritual means (James 1:5).

DeniseMay 27, 2019

What a wonderful man and teacher Brother Gibbons was. He is missed. Thank you for sharing his words of wisdom with us. This has also painted a picture in my mind I won't soon forget. Thanks.

Larry TolpiMay 27, 2019

Please provide Cedar City and Las Vegas temple phone numbers and temple representative to coordinate visits from Saint George.

May 27, 2019

What are the phone numbers for the Cedar City and Las Vegas temples and who is the temple-contact person to discuss group visits from Saint George?

BrendaMay 27, 2019

I've heard this story before, still makes me cry. Love our neighbor like the Savior loves us!!

DeborahMay 27, 2019

I am sitting here crying about how much I wished that everyone would be like this to all around us whether member's or not. What a powerful testimony President Monson gave with just this one example of how a ward pulled together to help the least of one of their future members who had suffered so much. Thank you for sharing this.

KathyMay 27, 2019

I love the articulateness, stated here, of how our church differs from the rest of the churches of the world. This article is carefully crafted in reason and logic. It is easy for anyone, who sincerely wants to know the differences, to follow the progression from the original church moving forward. I'll bet your firesides are powerful and spirit-filled! Thank you

Joel Robin MarksMay 27, 2019

President Monson again. In this 'It's a wonderful life' true story, it is Bishop Monson. There is no duplicate of that apostle. Praise to the man who epitomizes the Savior's spiritual service. May Almighty God bless his memorable memorial memory.

Romney BiddulphMay 27, 2019

The Restored Church of Jesus Christ believes in the Christianity of the New Testament era. Catholics and Protestants believe in Fourth Century Creedal Christianity. Here are the beliefs of Christians of the New Testament era: 1. Baptism by immersion by the father (who has the authority) of the family 2. Lay, married clergy 1st Timothy 3:2 3. Baptism by proxy for deceased ancestors 1 Corinthians 15:29 4. God and Jesus organized the world, rather than creatio ex nihilo. 5. Belief in a tripartite anthropomorphic Godhead, as witnessed by the Apostle Stephen. Acts 7: 55-56 6. Belief in theosis (that faithful Christians can acquire god-like attributes). All early Christian leaders believed in theosis. 7. Belief in God’s Plan of Salvation, given by Jesus Christ to the Apostles during the 40 days after His Resurrection. (Sophia Jesu Christi) 8. Belief in sacred esoteric ordinances which allow faithful Christians to ascend to the highest heaven. Cyril, Bishop of Jerusalem, administered these ordinances until 350 AD. (Catechetical Lectures 20 and 23). 9. Belief in Eternal Marriage, as recorded in the Book of the Apostle Philip. 70:20 Which is the true Christianity? New Testament Era or Creedal?

Mark E. PitzkeMay 27, 2019

This story sounds so much like something President Monson would do. He was ever so good at helping others!

Ross JensenMay 27, 2019

"Mein brudder, mein brudder" is the title underwhich I have previously read this account. It is so heart-tugging. Thank you again for publishing it.

Geoffrey TurnerMay 27, 2019

Sorry, but this is simply a re-hash of LDS justification, it doesn't answer the question asked by the elderly Catholics - How does this Church differ from ours? If I was the one asking this question (and, as a sympathetic investigator, I think I could well be), I would want to know how the end results of all the history quoted differs without all the verbiage in the article. Both Churches believe in Christ and that he is the way to salvation; both Churches have a leader through whom they receive guidance; both celebrate the Sacrament and, on the ground, members of both Churches do all they can for their neighbours. So what is the practical difference that flows from what the article describes? Are Catholics not "saved"? Does the Pope not receive guidance from God? i assure you, this is a genuine enquiry.

Jacob HessMay 27, 2019

I would love to hear more about you, RaNae. I'm sorry you feel "elderly people are less valued members" grandfather changed my life. Older people are our anchors in the storm - and provide the mentoring all the rest of us need! Please don't walk away...we need you! And A. Bingham - I want to interview you too! RaNae and A. Bingham, can you contact me at so I can ask you more?

Jacob HessMay 27, 2019

No one's "pretending everything is fine" Amber. There is so much to be done! That depends on having an honest, discerning conversation about things as they are, however. I'm simply arguing here some significant limitations to Jana leading the way, in that regard - and pointing out ways her overly accusing analysis might fuel the very problem she is (genuinely, I think) concerned about. There ARE ways to discuss all the challenges she describes without so much suspicion, accusation, and fault-finding - and in ways that build faith. Let's do THAT! Special thanks to these three individuals who remind us in their comments what is most important when it comes to knowing the truth: James Done: The majority of us will instead have to rely on the eternal principle written by the Great Moroni in the last part of his record, preserved for us in the Book of Mormon. Those with a sincere heart and real intent, having faith in Jesus Christ, can have the truth of all things revealed to us by asking and then acting. I will continue living my life in such a manner and encourage any others seeking truth to do the same. It works. Pattie Skousen: I do question, but I take it to the Lord and I feel the Holy Ghost whisper to me that what is happening is what He wants. Chris: In my experience I think finding truth in this life is greatly helped by the Holy Ghosts assistance's. Without that help and experience at finding truth your ability to evaluate it is greatly hindered.

Aussie SmithMay 27, 2019

Thank you so much. I'm going to share this with each of my married children and also with unmarried prior to their big day. Thank you so much for sharing, you are influencing our family.

Jacob HessMay 27, 2019

Dear Jane - it's true I take issue with parts of Jana's worldview. But that's not why I wrote this (many dear friends of mine share Jana's worldview). Rather than another perspective in the conversation, however, Jana has clearly and explicitly presented her views critical of the Church as empirically-based, scientific, and factual (aka, *more*than just another view). When such a serious claim is made publicly, it seems fair that it be open to public scrutiny too. Would you disagree? It sounds like you agree with many of Jana's arguments - even to the point of seeing them, in your words as "just facts." It's precisely this language that I've pushed back on here. Thus, I would say it's not a fact that "women have no power" in the Church - nor is it a fact that "gay people face a hostile environment." Those are both arguments about which we should be able to disagree and explore different perspectives (at least that's *my* perspective!) But as is clear around us, that kind of open conversation is not happening. And that's why I'm trying to fight for this kind of open civic space where, yes, we can learn together how to grow in love and peace as a people (I agree there is so much more to learn there!). I believe that space to disagree is pre-requisite to getting there. Thanks for being open to sharing your concern.

LizaMay 27, 2019

I’ve watched Aladdin twice now, both times in the Imax and it was a visual treat. I don’t understand the bad reviews when this version is far superior to the original. I am glad for the Bollywood feel, the multicultural cast and the visual effects. My only complaint is that all these musicals use overuse auto tune. Will smith’s Genie was a nice surprise and very enjoyable.

DLMay 26, 2019

My heart aches for you. I too have been in a long marriage (38 years) with a husband who has mental health issues. I pray for your heart to have peace and joy and healing. My prayers are with you.

Michael HogganMay 25, 2019

Her husband is in desparate need of professional treatment and, most likely, extensive psychiatric hospitalization. His actions have gone too far and are indicative of an underlying problem. I say this as a pschizoaffective. I don't know if the VA covers dishonorable discharges, but I'd bet the farm that his mental illness was a factor in his discharge.

Carol BogaskiMay 25, 2019

They did say that the Cedar City and Las Vegas Temples will be where the St. George saints need to attend during the renovation, Larry Tolpi.

Karen YamamotoMay 25, 2019

Thank you for all of your podcasts. I have often wondered why the throng of people were so jubilant to welcome Jesus but a few days later cried to have him crucified. Why such a drastic change. I am loving Come Follow Me. It is increasing my faith and love for my Savior. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and understanding.

Pam McMurtryMay 25, 2019

So Moroni’s trumpet may be a shofar? I like that ❤️

Adrienne Cohen May 25,2019May 25, 2019

I had a lump in my throat reading this incredibly beautiful story. Thank you for letting me relive this extraordinary day. And thank you for you, Becky.

WS JosephMay 25, 2019

Sister Taylor: Very effective guide lines, they are familiar and such good reminder for each of us. No matter how much we may know or don't know, these guide lines are constant reminders to help us through. Thank you and Blessings to you for the great article.

Alisi FiliagaMay 25, 2019

Appreciate the message and video with the story I can relate and at time I too wonder. This story could happen to anyone, something similar and is this short life, we must move forward with a grateful heart. Even if it was someone else's poor and sad choice.

KMay 24, 2019

Great article thanks abton

Becky DouglasMay 24, 2019

Phil-wonderful to hear from you after so many years! I'm so sorry to learn of your ALS diagnosis. Write me at [email protected] and let's see if our families can meet together. In the meantime, we're praying for you. Becky

Richard BowermanMay 24, 2019

As a young man, I wanted to serve in Brazil, because that was the highest baptizing country in the world. Instead, I was called to the lowest baptizing mission in the world, France Paris. It was humbling, to say the least. But for me it turned out to be the absolute best place I could ever have been called to--I grew so much during those two years, because I had to rely on the Lord each and every day. I am so thankful for an inspired call.

Richard BowermanMay 24, 2019

Thanks for this informative article. Since I was baptized on September 21, it was particularly meaningful to me!

Addie SimperMay 24, 2019

Music from the mouths of sweet babes brought light to darkened hearts and inspired social change. My heart melted when I read Becky's account of this experience, inwardly cheering for each of the champions that played a part in this miracle. Modern day heroes giving voice to the plight of those who have long been ostracized and deemed untouchable. Hearts can change. This story lets us know a new day is on its way for those afflicted with leprosy. Becky is an angel on earth bringing true hope, healing, education and a voice to those that have suffered far too long.

Kathleen CurtisMay 24, 2019

Why be such a naysayer?? Aladdin was absolutely delightful if just a little overly loud in our theater. Yes-we enjoyed the1992 version- this is simply a different experience and doesn’t need to be compared with the animated version. Will Smith is terrific in his role! Mena M did a great job in singing - it’s not opera and his light touch made him in his role even more believable. Whether we needed a new “girl-power” ballad or not, Speechless is going to be the new Frozen song-of-the-year. Well sung. Moral lessons? Enjoy the movie and DISCUSS the moral dilemmas at home!!

margaret K HackingMay 24, 2019

Because other people have free agency and he can't take it away from them. That is the plan

LauraMay 24, 2019

Thank you for this clarifying lens! When we use our material blessings as wise stewards to serve and bless others, it can eliminate pride and guilt. I am ready to make this paradigm shift, thank you for the clarity thus article provides.

Kenneth NoelMay 24, 2019

Look at Job! Carefully read the story. Job was good. The disasters befell him because he was GOOD. His problems were an example to us. He was tried and tested Because he was good. They demonstrated his goodness in front of observers on both sides of the veil, effectively refuting Satan's accusation of favoritism against God and of mercenary greed against Job.

DebbieMay 24, 2019

MAKE a person become pro-vaccine. Wouldn't encourage be a better choice of words? Shock value works both ways. Look a look at the damage done by vaccinations might encourage pro-vaccines to change to anti- vaccine.

George ThompsonMay 24, 2019

Get him to play the computer game TETRUS. it will help him sort his feeling out. It is most helpfull right after a trama event but it can't hurt at a later time.

Ed JesseeMay 24, 2019

Great of my very favorites!

Lynn AdairMay 23, 2019

I completely agree with the other comments but am not as well spoken. I am against most vaccines. I had the measles as a child and I'm Fine!! I have read that a measles vaccine wears off about 5-6 years later and getting measles as a teenager is much more dangerous. My friends who have had the flu vaccine, usually get the flu. I haven't had one for decades and guess what! I haven't had the flu. Sorry BYU, you are incorrect!

Toni PorterMay 23, 2019

Outbreaks of an "eradicated" disease cannot be attributed to those within that community who have not been vaccinated, but to those who come into that community who have or carry the disease. If we are to be transparent and educated about vaccines, let's be honest about who can transmit them to others. One cannot become a carrier simply because he/she is unvaccinated. Let's be realistic about who is bringing the diseases into an area which has been "eradicated of the disease," and focus on making changes in, perhaps, our porous border and immigration practices.The worst offenders in the vax/don't vax argument are the very lucrative pharmaceutical companies who should be using some of their profits to develop safer vaccines. They are the beneficiaries as they sell problematic vaccines in ever-increasing numbers, due to requirements forced upon citizens. I'm not an anti-vaxer, but I smell something fishy in the cozy arrangement between government and big pharma.

Tess WardleMay 23, 2019

I still think anyone who does not vaccinate in today's world is so ill informed. However, no one is denying them the right to choose not to vaccinate. They just reap the consequences of their actions. Yes, there are the rare people who have a reaction.... Talk to the relative suffering from the effects of polio as a child. If one chooses not to vaccinate they deserve to be excluded from school during an outbreak as they are unnecessarily exposing others that may be immune suppressed. It just seems like such a step backward. I have never understood the mentality not to vaccinate. At least in our country you have that right. Go to China or some place where you don't have those choices!

ObserverMay 23, 2019

I think it was President Monson (if I remember correctly) who said the biggest the Lord uses on where to send a missionary is based on who his/her Mission President will be.

Sandra CusterMay 23, 2019


Kathie L MCARTHURMay 23, 2019

Thank you for your tender thoughts Vickey!! So glad you were able to have the opportunity to teach again.

Kathleen K MihokMay 23, 2019

I had the measles and complications. I got encephalitis. Very few children who get the measles end up with complications. I am still opposed to vaccinations. Allow parents to vaccinate for one disease at a time at a slower rate. The government has taken that right way from the parents. Guess what I am protected for the rest of my life while vaccinated children are not. The vaccine Co. and news media are using scare tactics as usual.

CarolineMay 23, 2019

I love reading Becky's articles to my children around the breakfast table. This one pulled at the heart strings just like the rest. Also, great reminder to incorporate more spiritual music into the home!

Larry TolpiMay 23, 2019

It would be helpful to add a statement identifying other nearby LDS temples that could accomodate additional temple patrons during the St. George temple-renovation period (include each temple-contact name and phone number).

HalMay 23, 2019

Thank you for this powerful article. I remember having some same-gender attractions and confusion about my identity as a boy in the 1960's. Guess what? As the article stated, along with 85% of other children with similar issues, I - grew - out - of - it. By the time I was 15 I realized that I was male and that was that. I'm in my 60's now, I have been happily married with four children and have never questioned that I am and always have been, male. Unfortunately, I have a close family member who had the same issues as I did as a boy, but "society" encouraged him to "celebrate" and "embrace" his confused feelings. He is now an adult and struggling with his place in society. We are doing our children a grave disservice by encouraging such behavior.

Duke WilliamsMay 23, 2019

My wife and I are serving as CES missionaries at a noted Ivy League university (aka rampant secularism). The millennials attending our institute classes (over half of the YSAs) certainly don't fit the Reiss descriptions. They have totally impressed us with the strength of their testimonies and conversion. Yes, they have questions/doubts, but we haven't seen any more of that than we remember going through at the same stage of our lives.

Lynette MillsMay 23, 2019

I raised my kids in calif but now live in Utah. When my daughter put in her papers I didn’t ask her where she wanted to go, I asked her where she didn’t want to go. She answered quickly ... Temple Square! She thought it wasn’t really a mission. So of course that where she was called. And also of course, she loved it and when she was done labeled it the best mission in the church. Serving the Lord has a way of making a person grateful and happy no matter where they are. And I’m sure she had some excellent leaders who cared for her and taught her well. I love the missionary program.

Phil HarrisonMay 23, 2019

Becky, I'm so proud of you and what you have accomplished in India. Thank you so much for telling this story, documenting the beginning of deliverance from stigma for these people. You probably haven't heard, but I was diagnosed a year and a half ago with ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease). I will probably be gone within a year from now. There have been many family members, Ward members, neighbors, and healthcare workers who have supported and taken care of me. While there is no stigma attached to ALS, perhaps I can still appreciate some of what these lovely people in India feel in gratitude for your efforts. God bless you and John in all your efforts. With love, Phil.

LeilaniMay 23, 2019


J JamisonMay 23, 2019

See John Pratt for his analysis of calendars, dates, names, etc

SarahMay 23, 2019

I have spent my life living in places that are in missions that do not sound like they would get a lot of huge cheers of excitement when the call was read. I have often thought over the years how grateful I am for the missionaries who serve where I live-- they are very much needed and are such a blessing to God's precious children who may happen to live in a "flyover" location. Thank you for writing this!

Becky DouglasMay 23, 2019

Mary, thank you so much for including Rising Star Outreach on your account. That it so thoughtful of you! I know it seems like just pennies, but pennies add up! It reminds me of the old adage of the power of small things to create meaningful change in the world. All in all, it's a pretty painless way for people to help us. Each month we get a check from Amazon that helps us to reach out to a few more people. So thanks again for taking the time to name us in, thus becoming a sender of those wonderful pennies! And thanks to all of you who have taken the time to share your own insights and thoughts. I love learning from my readers! Becky

Barry HMay 23, 2019

Another great story, Daris! Thanks for sharing.

FOR CHOICEMay 23, 2019

I am sorry for those that have had lasting problems from diseases, however this does NOT give anyone the right to demand that everyone conform. We were given our agency for a reason. I do know there are other ways to help fight diseases that aren't vaccines and THEY WORK. We STILL NEED THE CHOICE. Please also look at the folks that did get the measles recently? Many HAD been vaccinated I have an autoimmune disease that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, and it’s not easy to live with. The comparison of disease results being compared to autoimmune diseases isn’t fair, as some of the autoimmune diseases are costly and have many lasting effects, too. Father in Heaven created our bodies to heal...and fight infections/diseases... IF we do our part, too. Please don’t use this to divide the United States (or our church) any more than it already is.

NolaMay 23, 2019

I think it is a far stretch of the imagination to think that this parable is about Jesus and Satan. There is no indication in the scriptures that Jesus ever hesitated or said that he didn't want to go and do the Father's work. From the beginning he said, "Here am I, send me." Why would he turn it on the Pharisees and hypocrites if it wasn't about them? This is opinion presented as fact.

Mary JurgaitisMay 23, 2019


Jette HalladayMay 23, 2019

Thanks for this article. This was new information for me. It’s adds another significant layer to God’s weaving and patterns. And the gathering is taking place on both sides of the veil.

AnnaMay 23, 2019

To understand the importance of using vaccines for preventable diseases, i suggest : --spending time in under-developed nations, or at leat studying in-depth their health problems; --studying causes of death pre-vaccine by doing serious family history research; --reviewing literature on infant mortality and disability related to preventable diseases (such as infants born blind becuase mothers were exposed to rebella in the first tri-mester. Most of the objections are based on fear of "big pharma," intrusiveness into paental decision-making, poor and out-dated, incomplete research, and anecdotal social media stories that do not reflect all of the associated facts. When faced with millenia of information and real, documented case studies, the objections pale in significance.

Janene ZimmermanMay 23, 2019

You hit this spot on! Missionary life is one amazing yet difficult ride! The leadership of each mission is so critical for each missionary serving. The growth that comes from serving the Lord full time cannot come from any other experience.

Ed BrownMay 22, 2019

Well written. Thank you.

Roxanne dupliseaMay 22, 2019

thanks for the info on flax seed.

Mary JurgaitisMay 22, 2019

I use Anything that my order contributes goes to Rising Star. And now, whenever I type in Amazon in my address bar, it reminds me to use So beautiful to have read this article!

Shaunna YanezMay 22, 2019

What a great letter to all of us. Thank you for sharing. This really painted a realistic picture in my mind; something I will remember.

ShariMay 22, 2019

Kate, I understand what you’re saying and agree that underlying problems need to be treated and addressed. I took this article to be a about the pain of anxiety and resulting behaviors. During the the anxiety attack is not an effective time to deal with the underlying issue. The brain is too flooded to process the cause but once they calm down they will be better able to do so. I wish I had learned these anxiety techniques in my early years to have helped myself and later to have helped my daughter. Thankfully, good counseling has helped us both to do better at controlling our anxiety attacks and not letting them take control of our behavior. This article is a good supplement and reminder.

Chelsea KernMay 22, 2019

This was such an amazing and beautiful story that truly brought tears to my eyes! Each one of us has felt ostricized in our own way and we continue to talk about the increase of depression, suicide, and other mental illnesses within our communities. It is time that put this concept into play and recognize how important it is to simply be kind.

Ronnie BootheMay 22, 2019

While serving a Senior Mission among the Native American People in Arizona we lived in an old trailer . It had a propane Stove and heating. We had a CO/Smoke Detector but it was near the bedroom , far from the stove. The stove(we did not know at the time) was slowly leaking. after 2 years it got so bad the alarm went off on the detector. By this time I suffered CO2 poisoning as I was cooking all morning that day. I believe I still suffer from the effects ,but am alive. My heart goes out to this family.

MaryMay 22, 2019

Years ago, there were 3 of us girls who were best friends. A new girl moved into our small farming community who was our same age. Two of us included her in our group, but the 3rd girl felt threatened since she had always been #1! After a few weeks, the newcomer's mother invited the three of us to her home and talked with us about friendship. She invited us to sing together the song, "Angry Words, Oh Let Them Never." We left her home with new perspectives and the four of us became great friends.

Karen RawlingsMay 22, 2019

That is such a beautiful story. Music has such a power to touch people's hearts. I would love to see the additional lyrics that were written for these children.

Hilarie OliverMay 22, 2019

As a facilitator for a self-help program Recovery, I can add that by learning to self-talk before an anxiety fueled flare gets too intense, there is a way to abort it and calm oneself down. This can take only seconds and is a cognitive-behavioral internal process that a teenager could learn and use.

Raymond Kent BakerMay 22, 2019

What a wonderfully written account. This is inspiring. Thank you. I wish that we could hear the song that was sung.

DonnieMay 22, 2019

This happened to my daughter when she was in 8th grade. One of the offenders was a church friend from 1st/2nd grade and the other was a non-member. We were shocked and confused by the exclusion and name calling, as was the church friends parents. We advised our daughter not to sink to their level, to be polite and to move on. A few years later, the church friend brought the non-member to girls camp. Our daughter was fearful that her camp experience would be ruined. Again, we gave the same advise and reminded our daughter that camp was "her turf" and that the non-member friend would be the one in unfamiliar surroundings. Leaders were made aware of the situation and camp went off smoothly for all of the girls. Flash forward to senior year of high school, the non-member girl praised our daughter for her "adult" behavior and apologized for her behavior towards our daughter. Now they are all adults, with families of their own. They mended the fences and have kept in contact. It was really rough in the beginning and middle, but in the end, it worked out.

AngelaMay 22, 2019

This makes much more sense! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

Mike M.May 22, 2019

George Washington has rightly been called the "one indispensable man" in the founding of the United States of America. He was raised up and protected by God. During the French and Indian War, as a 23 year old officer, he was with a group of soldiers lead by British general Braddock when they were ambushed and surrounded by about 600 Indians. The leader of the Indians told his braves to aim their guns at all the officers who were on horses. Washington, being a little over 6 feet tall and about a foot taller than the other officers was the easiest target. However, he was not shot. His cloak had four bullet holes, and his hat had one. He had two horses shot out from under him. Most of the other officers were killed. After he was president he traveled to the Ohio Territory where the battle occurred. Hearing of Washington's visit, the chief of the Indians went to meet Washington. Washington's personal physician was with him and recorded what the chief said. The chief said that when he saw that his braves were unable to hit Washington, he knew that the Great Spirit was protecting him and that he would be a great leader of his people. During the Revolutionary War, when it was customary for generals to be behind the troops in battle, he would stand in front of his troops as bullets whizzed by him and cannon balls exploded around him. His junior officers frantically urged him to move back. He was never wounded in the war. When enlistments were up every December, he was able to inspire most of his ill-fed and unpaid men dressed in rags to remain and fight. The war would not have been won without Washington. When Madison and others were trying to convince the representatives of the colonies to meet at what we call the Constitutional Convention, most of the representatives were fearful that the result would be a too powerful federal government. Madison repeatedly tried to convince Washington to attend, but he refused, fearing he would be part of a huge failure. After Washington finally agreed to attend, the representatives agreed to attend because they knew that Washington ... who had been begged by his junior officers to take control of the government which failed to provide for the troops during the war, but who had refused to do so ...would not allow a too powerful federal government to be established. He was elected to preside over the convention. Without Washington, the Constitution would not have been written. Americans would not have the freedoms they enjoy without George Washington. At one time these truths about Washington and other Founding Fathers were taught in the text books in our public schools. For the last several decades, text books and teachers have brainwashed most students to believe that socialism is what's best for people.

JoeyMay 22, 2019

Thank you so much for this. You may have missed that the war on George Washington actually started years ago when the wokescolds succeeded in having the plaque marking his pew removed from the church where he worshipped in Virginia. Also the pew of Robert E. Lee.

Jorge HernandezMay 21, 2019

Beautiful story, miracles can happen when we activate our faith and do what ever suppose to do. This is one of example of love to show to our less or inactive members of our Church that we often signaled as "leprosy ". Thank for sharing this article.

SueAnn BullockMay 21, 2019

I have followed this brave and inspired woman and those who work with her for years. So many are blessed by the work of the “Outreach” program. May we each do a little more in this regard! Thank you for this article!

Lee GrobergMay 21, 2019

Once again, Becky Douglas tugs at the heart strings with true events which should touch the lives of humankind. Her efforts with the leprosy-affected are admirable and I only hope that I can be a better person for having personally witnessed the looks in the faces of these precious children - from leprosy-affected families.

A. BinghamMay 21, 2019

Has there been any mention of support for the congregations and churches that were similarly attacked in India?

FrancineMay 21, 2019

I am an adult woman in my mid 60s and still have friends who are unkind. I finally just decided to cut them out of my life. I do not have to suffer through their endless one upmanship and attempting to denigrate my life. While it would be nice if a frank conversation would help, I have seen these people operate. They use gossip and out right lies to try to convince others to shun you. A friend once said, "Life is junior high." Best advice. Drop them and never look back.

CarmelitaMay 21, 2019

I hurt my lower back last week. I moved 2 big humongous flower pots with the aid of a hand truck. I washed my car pristinely. The next morning, I could hardly get out of bed. I went for a walk with my friend with little pain. I went to church with little pain. However, I felt the pain getting worst. I asked for a blessing from my ministering brothers. The blessing was to get professional advice. I did. Although I am in pain, I still do my chores. The promise of Heavenly Father for the Comforter to comfort us gives me relief not even noticing my pain. Thank you for sharing your experience. God loves us all.

JohnnyMay 21, 2019


LewisMay 21, 2019

another beautiful article! She has a real gift!!

BrettMay 21, 2019

Love this story! Kindness changes lives. This is a wonderful reminder to me to be a little more aware of what is around me.

Amy S., South Jordan UTMay 21, 2019

BRILLIANT! Thank you to those involved this tremendous outreach effort. Such a wonderful example of Christlike healing (both of those affected by leprosy, and those fearful of it).

AleniMay 21, 2019

This is very touching...thank you for sharing and thank you for all you do in India to help those children of Heavenly Father. May God bless you.

PattieMay 21, 2019

Thanks Sister Judd, what a beautiful miracle you received and I appreciate how you listened to the promptings of the Spirit to further in your heal process. Giving service is the best medicine we can get and it brings us closer to our Savior.

D.L. AndersonMay 21, 2019

I'm not a parent, but have had this situation much - both as a child and an adult. We get bored "with the same old friends". My mom's advice was, "Well, if they don't want you around, find new friends." Just because you play together DOESN'T mean your "friends". It just means you're coveniently located to each other and the opportunity oganically emerged (setting aside the possiblity of forced "play dates" set up by helicopter parents in the past). Kids do fine without us interfering and "making" children be friends; or setting up "play dates". Tell your daughter - if she feels ostracized or made fun of - that she doesn't have to be friends with these girls OR continue to play with them. But indeed, if there IS bullying, make the parents of those kids aware and help your child to find new people to play with or new hobbies to develop on their own.

TawnaMay 21, 2019

I've felt before the power of the hymns to soften hearts (my own included!), and also what the simple faith and love of a child can do, as well. Thank you for sharing this. I am so glad that those hearts were touched; hopefully that feeling was repeated many times in their lives. What a tender miracle.

Shalay GoldMay 21, 2019

This story was so powerful. I have seen what the power of music and most importantly LOVE can do in another's life. It only takes one person to make a difference for others around to change. Thanks so much for the great reminder of this simple yet so powerful principle.

JoeMay 21, 2019

A while ago my boy had a situation where he felt bullied by one kid in our ward. It happened mostly at school . At first , I felt like it was just “kids” but then I thought to better stop it from getting worse so I called my neighbor and told him what his son was doing. He took it well. He then talk to his son and now both boys are good friends again. The key here is communication.Don’t feel afraid to talk to your neighbors about their daughters and solve the problem before it gets more complicated. If they take it wrong, then is their fault. As parents we have the responsibility to correct our children. If they are the bullies they need to stop.

JaneMay 21, 2019

What a beautiful story. Becky Douglas is an extraordinary person who has done remarkable work in India. Bravo, Becky and thank you.

AubreyMay 21, 2019

Such a beautiful story and is a good reminder to treat others with kindness and love. Thank you for sharing!

Laurie WhiteMay 21, 2019

Thank you for this deeply touching article. I have new resolve to "walk with" and "talk with" those who need a hand.

J COLLINS MEEKMay 21, 2019

Yes, walk our talk. What a great message! Bravo to all that made this history-making event in India happen: turning our hearts to the lonely, the rejected, the isolated, the stigmatized. - J Collins Meek, Sherwood Park, Alberta, Canada, May 21, 2019

JuliaMay 21, 2019

Our daughter had something similar happen to her between 7th & 8th grade. In our ward, she was included in a group of about 6 LDS friends, and they all got along pretty well. A new girl moved into our ward, and all of a sudden, our daughter began to be excluded from activities that the other girls would have. Then, they would talk about how much fun the activities were in front of my daughter at youth activities. Our daughter came home from many of those in tears. They never offered any reason for the exclusion. Our daughter was crushed. We just encouraged her to make new friends. She made a new best friend, a non-member girl with our same values, that turned out to be a huge blessing in her life. Even today, I'm a bit miffed about the way those LDS "friends" excluded her in junior high school, but my daughter has long forgiven them for it. Encourage your daughter to look for someone else who needs a friend, and become that friend for them.

LarraineMay 21, 2019

This brought tears to my eyes, and self reflections, as well. I can do better. I can be better about giving a kind word and smiling at those I don't know. Thank you so much for sharing. I love this Primary song, and it melts my heart each time I hear it.

Judith NielsonMay 21, 2019

What a beautiful example of Christ like you have created with Rising Star Outreach. From beginning with a small group of faithful women with a dream, you have changed the world! Thanks for sharing this wonderful story.

Roberta HarrisMay 21, 2019

Another touching and profound article written by Becky Douglas!! Thank you Becky for the reminder to reach out within our own communities. As you have said...if those prominent men in India could actually shake the hands of leprosy affected fellow human beings...everyone of us can do the matter the condition of the ones we should be helping. Becky...your articles are always so beautifully written...thank you!

H NorthMay 21, 2019

The "Southern Poverty Law Center" has nothing to do with the South, with poverty, or with law--it's entire title is a fake deception. The SPLC is itself the worst of all hate groups.

Richard GarrisonMay 21, 2019

What a wonderful event and touching "result"! Thanks for all the great work your Outreach does!

MCMay 21, 2019

Those are good suggestions. It is probably inaccurate to say that these are “friends.” Friends are generally kind and inclusive. It can help clarify the situation if you don’t confuse things by labeling them as friends as friends don’t act in unfriendly ways.

Charles DefranchiMay 21, 2019

Being myself a BYU Alumni with six years of experience of the "Y," I see a potential problem in communicating the identity of those who report violations of the University's Honor Code. First, one cannot guarantee that they will be safe from any attempt to retaliate. Second, many of them will no longer do any reporting for fear of retaliation. Please reconsider this aspect of the new policy.

Mary Jane McCAYMay 20, 2019

THE OTHER SIDE OF HEAVEN is my all time favorite movie and I am so excited for the sequel of that movie, you are truly talented and inspired artists. I would like to offer a suggestion, I have been very impressed by the Kendrick brothers movies also they are able to capture true emotion and teach great religious principles and their goals are similar to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. It would be great if our Church and the Kendrick Brother could join together to make a mighty force for good. Thank you for your desire to teach gospel principles in the theater. We have the power to change peoples hearts for good.

Cy WelchMay 20, 2019

Isn't it wonderful how simple it to get blessings, simply 'Feed His Sheep' just as the scriptures say. This proves we love him, and he just won't let us get ahead of him, so he blesses us over and over again as we simply love our fellow travelers in this great life's quest we are all on.

AngiMay 20, 2019

My sweet son lives in Diamond Valley! With my Aunt. I love that place! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story! You are a blessing to many!

Kay RookhuyzenMay 20, 2019

Josh Lucas played the father, not the boy. The movie was wonderful! Well worth seeing! I saw it twice!

Romney BiddulphMay 20, 2019

All Missions should purchase CO/Smoke detectors with a 10 year battery life. They give an audible signal at the end of their life and must be replaced. You can't expect young missionaries to check the batteries in their CO and smoke detectors without fail each month. It helps to have senior missionaries to make apartment inspections, but that's not universal.

AllenMay 20, 2019

As a convert to the Church during the 1960's and a member of the "Vietnam Generation" I have gone through and watched other people go through all of the same conflicts that Sister Reiss claims to be unique to Millennials. It may be that the culture in California caused these questions to come up earlier than in Cincinnati, but most people do end up asking the same questions of life and of themselves. They also end up taking pretty much the same courses to resolve those questions. Many of the people I knew in my early years in the Church are good and faithful members today. Many others have left the Church. Some of the people I taught during my mission are loyal members. Others left the Church even before I returned home. It comes down to testimony. Those who take the time and put in the effort to develop one are unshakable. Those who don't bother or who make a half hearted effort are then forced to struggle with faith for the rest of their time in the Church and are likely to end up on the outside.

DianeMay 20, 2019

Thank you for sharing such an awesome experience.

Jason AllredMay 20, 2019

Shouldn't the study also compare these results with generational differences that exist completely independent of the Church? For example, if you ask people who have no connection with the Church what there attitude is about "conforming," you may likely see similar generational differences. It would also be difficult to determine what views people from an older generation held when they were younger. It may be that if you asked Baby Boomer a few generations ago about their attitude about "conforming" how would that compare with people of that age now?

VardellMay 20, 2019

I wonder if we LDS confuse repentance with sanctification. Sanctification is a very lengthy process of becoming perfect, and can only happen after we have repented and been redeemed (been forgiven and changed by Christ). Repentance, as it's used in the scriptures, is a broken-hearted recognition of (as King Benjamin put it), "our worthless and fallen state." Repentance is recognizing the immense gap between our natural man and the righteousness of God. Repentance is asking Christ to forgive us and change us. Consider these accounts of repentance: Alma, Enos, Lamoni's father, and the Lamanites in Helaman 5. Alma was wicked, confronted by an angel and shown his hellish status. He spent 3 days in a coma, then immediately announced, "I have repented of my sins, and have been redeemed..." (Mos. 27:24). If Alma could claim that he had repented of all his sins in only 3 days, then repentance is not an eternal self-perfecting process.

LaurieMay 20, 2019

Thank you for sharing your beautiful experiences.

SusanMay 20, 2019

I never, ever thought of doing what I should be doing, or working towards a goal as repenting. It was only,I shouldn’t have done this; now I’m sorry. It’s going to take a minute to really assimilate that idea.

Mary JMay 20, 2019

I'm sure others may feel the way I do about the title you use for this contest, but I didn't see any comments about it. In light of the fact that our prophet has told us to use the proper name of the church, perhaps the title for this contest needs changing. Not to worry about members not knowing what this refers to. All members who are listening to the prophet know.

JaneMay 19, 2019

I am a 5th generation faithful member. My conclusion of these reviews is that the author doesn't like the world view of Jana Riess, therefore her research conclusions are not valid. This polarization in the US and in the church -the idea that only your own "side" is right, and that the other "side" is so unproductive and pernicious. I've read Jana's work over the years and find her to be a very thoughtful and faithful member. She often points out things we as a church should consider. I have not read her book, but I will start with the assumption that her research is valid because of the obvious things I see with my own eyes in the church. Yes, many young people are faithful. But many are leaving (so many in my own family and in my area). Rather than discount the answers she offers, we should consider that she has a point. In my own family, the main reasons people left are because of gender inequality, the way gay people are treated in the church, inconsistencies in church history, and the judgmental attitudes in congregations. If we are honest, these are valid concerns. In our church, women have no power, and gay people face a hostile environment. Many important questions remain unanswered or even addressed. We seem to like to point out each other's supposed failures at living the gospel. These are just facts. Rather than condemn the research, we should take a look at what is happening, and what we can do to be more inclusive. The exclusion policy was wrong, and I'm glad it has been corrected. The recent temple changes were good, and from what I know came about because of surveys the church undertook to understand the issue. A very good and positive development. We can sustain the prophets, which I do, but still realize they can and will make mistakes. They are not infallible - (as President Oaks pointed out in the news conference after President Nelson was called.) We are a church that believes that many great and important things are yet to be revealed. Changes are inevitable. Until we know more about the thorny issues, we can do better as a people in recognizing our faults and making our congregations more inclusive.

L.B.V.May 19, 2019

Thank you Maurine for the most beautiful "how to" marriage advice letter I have ever read. My daughter gets married in the Logan temple in four weeks. I am sharing your words with her in the hopes that right from the start, she can build a happy marriage. I am also copying it for myself (been married 23 years) to reevaluate my own marriage. I can't thank you enough for including this advice in your podcast. Heaven sent. Bless you for all the good you do through your magazine and podcast.

Carola A StraussMay 18, 2019

My grandmother Anna Maria Theresia Lormess Fischer was converted to the Gospel of Jesus Christ by her Catholic Priest who had suddenly died. He appeared to her at dawn pointing to a book he held in his hands. It was the Book of Mormon...and then he was gone. My grandmother did not know he'd died that week and searched for the book until she finally found it laying by a trash can in Breslau, Germany after WWI. She read it and was converted. She found the missionaries, they did not find her. Her story is shared on my FamilySearch's Memories page. That is how our family became members of our church. Through angels that have passed.

Kathleen WoodburyMay 18, 2019

Thank you for this wonderful article. My dad served part of his mission in Lancashire, and my mom has a couple of ancestors who were baptized in Downham during the time spoken of in this article. The mother died soon after and her dying wish (according to family stories) was that her daughter could come to America to join the Saints. Their relatives are the ones I believe my mom and dad have been teaching on the other side of the veil and that's why I have been finding so many of them for temple work.

Mary Ann KershisnikMay 18, 2019

This is so inspiring and I know from personal experience that angels do help us. Thank you for reminding us. I love Annie Henrie's painting!

MaureenMay 18, 2019

Great ideas for married couples, young or old. One practical thing that is often not mentioned is determining early the division of labor between a husband and wife. Not knowing what "your job is", even if shared, can lead to later bad habits developing and general chaos or misunderstanding and resentment. Talk early and often!

DarlaGMay 18, 2019

Thank you so very much for this analysis, Dr. Hess. I have long been bothered by Reiss' writings & interpretations of our mutual faith. I first read her "Mormons for Dummies," thinking it might be a good pass along for curious friends, but instead of finding faithful explantations & descriptions of our doctrine & practices (even if they needed to be laced with the humor inherent in the a Dummies series, which I have always appreciated), I found things that sounded more like a "jack" Mormon's view, "Sure, they tell us to do X, but most of us do Y & just pretend about the other stuff." Really disturbing, and nothing I wanted to pass along as a good, if humorous, look at my faith. After the November 2015 handbook controversy, I yet again stumbled upon her writings, where she was calling for a sort of "war" on the church for a policy with which she vehemently disagreed. Every time since, it has been the same. Progressive beliefs first, faith & church much later. Having recently heard her on the Leading Saints podcast discussing the publication of her work, I felt it was no different, for very much the reasons laid out in this article: the lense through which all is seen is "progressivism," not faith. The explainations, the questions, are grievance based. She feels oppression & disenfranchisement are adequate descriptives because they describe her feelings. I feel she is writing her own narrative, not taking into account the other possible, counter narratives. Bias r'us. P.S.- TopCat- you're funny! Lol

Roxanne ThayneMay 18, 2019

You are so right. But the thing I have learned is that you have to slow down enough to see, smell, and be grateful for those flowers. You have done that with the gratitude you are showing for your testimony of the temple, Christ's atonement, priesthood blessings, prayer, scriptures, service, and determination. I appreciate being taught by you!

Chrystine H ReynoldsMay 18, 2019

Scot and Maurine - another wonderful lesson. Thank-you so much; and especially - thank-you for that 11 year-old's reply to your question. I can't think of a better answer to that question. Jim and I would also love a copy of your scripture list! Keep up all your great work and stay safe in the Holy Land!

Chrystine H ReynoldsMay 17, 2019

Yes, absolutely make that booklet, only make it for grooms as well as brides!

Susan FerrinMay 17, 2019

My husband and I just saw the movie and loved it. I disagree that the main plot is whether or not CJ will find the right man for her. For me, the main theme was that Bailey's job is to watch over CJ as she lives her life. The theme for CJ is whether she will she have the courage to follow her dream of being a singer/song writer. Regardless, we thought it was a good movie and recommend it to all. PS. If you don't have a dog and don't want a dog, don't take your kids to see this.

Nicholeen PeckMay 17, 2019

Well said Gary! That is exactly what I was trying to illustrate. It is all about empowering the child to desire to be a victor not a victim.

Darla GaylorMay 17, 2019

I do find it rather sad and fascinating that those who decry "judgers," seem to have no compunctions about judging others themselves. The focus Reiss has on "all" of the judgement found within the church fails to acknowledge her own writings, which are rife with judgement. The internet peanut gallery, as it were, is one massive sea of judgment, and only a fraction of a fraction of a fraction of those commenting on other's actions, behaviors, fashion choices, etc. are members of our faith. Could it be that judging others is a failing of humanity as a whole, and no more or no less prevellant in our church than in a as a whole? I know, ideally, it would be less so, but, well, are we not all sinners in need of grace?

Darlene YoungMay 17, 2019

Thank you. This is interesting and insightful and exciting! You're doing great work.

Beth TMay 17, 2019

Oh!!! Thank you so much for bringing so many quotes and stories together to confirm my thoughts on pleading for help and stepping up my efforts to do all our Father is asking me to do.

David PerryMay 17, 2019

Lynne, thank you for the reminder that Alma's seed-planting exercise can and indeed should be repeated regularly.

JulianneMay 17, 2019

If you were to produce a booklet, even though this letter was to your daughter, it should be produced as advice to both the husband and wife. I think, culturally/historically, the expectation of making a marriage work has been placed on the woman. It should be an equal expectation.

Cary HolmquistMay 17, 2019

THanks, Sis. Pratt, for pulling all these inspiring and sweetly touching examples together into you message of hope and faith and love. Who would remain unmotivated after learning of the Father’s great love for us and providing us with His angels—our own family gone ahead of—to aid and guide us? As we DO missionary work, temple work/family history and nurture our families and friends, the angels will be there.

JemezblueMay 17, 2019

I know this is true. I am working on my Master's Thesis in U.S. West History at my university and I am researching history in a local community. I cannot tell how many times I have received confirmation that I am doing the Lord's work! THEY KNOW AND THEY ARE HELPING! I get confirmation on the names in history and the places that are familiar to people on the other side. Work of this sort, for the gathering of Israel is so important that you WILL receive help! AND THEY LOVE YOU FOR DOING IT!

Jorge HernandezMay 17, 2019

This is so beautiful and spiritual teaching lesson. Thanks to Meridian Magazine for it publication. I will like to share with others but this page only allow me witn emails, no texting, no messenger, can you help me please?

AnonymousMay 17, 2019

In addition to Kenny's comment, there may be laborers who were sick, injured, or otherwise incapable of laboring all day long, given circumstances beyond their control. It's possible that not many of the laborers who came late had just been partying and shirking responsibilities.

Cary HolmquistMay 17, 2019

Very cleverly amusing. I LIKE that Nephi guy and his inspired testimony to be the “go-to guy” to “get things done!”

Vardell TaylorMay 17, 2019

This is an important principle that Brother Goddard is teaching here. Our self centered culture is not what is seen in the scriptural accounts of those who are forgiven, born again, and redeemed. Consider the stories of Alma, Enos, the people of King Benjamin, Lamoni and his father, and the woman in Luke 7, etc. All of these examples clearly portray a completely broken-hearted dejection immediately prior to being forgiven and born of God. The broken heart is not a contrived humility, but is a recognition of what King Benjamin called "an awareness of our worthless and fallen state." Only by recognizing this and appealing to Christ for mercy are we born again and redeemed.

DeniseMay 17, 2019

Thank you for this. It is a beautiful piece and I know it to be true. There have been angels around me my entire life. I thank the Lord for this knowledge. This is a wonderful reminder of that.

DJCMay 17, 2019

Vickie, your comment is pretty insensitive since this is an article about infertility. I'm happy for you that you could bring babies into the world so easily, but this article is for those of us who CAN'T. Hearing your story does nothing positive for those going through infertility.

TomMay 17, 2019

Organized religious institutions were never meant to be the end but only the foundation and invitation to develop a personal relationship with God and fellowmen. See the religious institution for its good and overlook its faults. That is how God sees each of us so may we do likewise with others as well as expect others to view us the same way. Religion is simple not tortuous and contradictory. A personal and vital relationship with God is the key to success in this ever changing world. Anything else falls short of the measure of our creation. Religion only helps us find God who provides salvation.

Teri NineMay 17, 2019

Excellent point that Kenny Mazzanti makes! I had never thought of that. I love this parable, just as I love the others Jesus taught. They have so many lessons within each one that we can learn from.

Philip BakerMay 17, 2019

PS my friend John Grinceri was with Elder Benson and other Church leaders when Italy was re-dedicated . John & Vicki attended the Rome Temple dedication with their son Joel and our daughter Stacey, who have been married 21 years :)

Philip BakerMay 17, 2019

one of my very best friends in Perth Western Australia is John Grinceri - John served a mission in Italy as a 19 year old then was called to open the Padova Mission near Venice . 10 years later as a 29 year old with wife Vicki and toddler children, they served for 3 years then coming home to later serve as a Bishop, then AA/70 then Perth Temple President and now a Patriarch. He still plays a good game of tennis with me and other friends every Friday morning :) The family remain great Kingdom builders and wonderful Saints. PHIL BAKER

Mark MinerMay 17, 2019

What a wonderful, real-life metaphor of planting the seed and continuing to experiment upon the Word. While simple on the surface, there are so many deeper, eternal, and nuanced lessons for me. Thank you so much, Lynne!

Christine PMay 16, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. I got that kind of news 11 months ago and it was exactly as you describe. I was amazed & humbled as I was led to grow more spiritually and in my testimony through a deeper understanding of the Atonement, along with a wonderful new Ward, Bishop, RS Pres and friends. Heavenly Father has blessed me beyond what I had any idea could come out of this time.

Jan KingMay 16, 2019

Thank you for this detailed article. It's very gratifying to know how my monthly contributions are being used!

Kristine HaycockMay 16, 2019

Oh my goodness, I don't even know where to begin...or end. All I want to say is this was exactly what I needed to hear for my marriage of 2 years, its great advice for all ages and stages of marriage. I live on your every word each week to study and ponder about the come follow me lesson of the week. Thank you two so very much for the time you take doing these podcasts and for giving us the script to boot!

GaryMay 16, 2019

Interesting how some interpret successes. Helping people with anxiety (myself included) to cope and find positive outcomes is not to make a parent look good. It's to help the person who's coping with anxiety realize that they can have control over a situation that previously left them feeling completely powerless. This makes them a victor and not a victim of their circumstances.

LizMay 16, 2019

Wonderful article. Thank you so much.

KateMay 16, 2019

Well this may work when anxiety is merely a behavioral problem--regular garden-variety anxiety (first day or school, giving a talk, etc). It will help mom feel better when the child "controls" their anxiety. Mom is a success! But my experience tells me that the child may well grow up to be the 20-something with serious problems (depression...) because all they really learned was how to make mom feel successful, not what the actual problem was and how to solve THAT (not to mention some resentment against mom for not being interested in the real problem, only in the behavior). Well-behaved children often have pretty spectacular mid-life crises.

Kenny MazzantiMay 16, 2019

On its face, the laborers who came in to the fields late in the day are blessed with the same pay as those who toiled all day long. Is that fair? Consider that in a hand to mouth existence as portrayed, those who labored all the day also had the security of knowing they would earn enough to buy bread to feed their families that evening while those who stood on the streets hoping for work had the despair as the day went on that they would have nothing to bring their families that evening. Working all the day long in the Gospel gives us peace and security throughout our lives that we will be rewarded by the Lord according to our labor. I have had the security found only in the restored gospel my entire life, and feel sorrow for those that do not have the blessings of the Gospel throughout their lives as I have had.

Lynn Clark CallisterMay 16, 2019

Thanks for sharing your profound insights that touched my heart

Joy LundbergMay 16, 2019

Thank you, Lynne, for writing this inspiring article. It is so true. Bless you for reaching deep in your journey and encouraging us to do the same as we face our bleak seasons. Bulbs of faith always do bloom, eventually.

ConnieMay 16, 2019

What a beautiful commentary! Very relatable - brought back lots of memories, and some tears. Thank you!

Barbie S LittlefieldMay 16, 2019

HA! I thought I was the only one to garden with tough love! I used to joke about threatening my plants when they were not doing well!!!

Barbara Strandt LittlefieldMay 16, 2019

Thank you for this article and sharing the perception of hope in the eternal resurrection of life in nature. Our local newspaper The Washington Post had a garden writer long ago named Henry Mitchell. I remember reading that he died while planting daffodils and thinking that was the way to go...sowing beauty not yet visible. If planting bulbs in fall is not an act of faith, I don't know what is!

Chris EpsonMay 15, 2019

It's important to remember that this is a parable...a story...that follows parables about lost sheep and a lost coin. But now the Savior teaches us about a lost person. A lost soul. There are so many deep lessons to be learned from this parable. We all are, or have been, the younger son in some way. We definitely must "come to ourselves" at some point in our lives to accept Jesus's gift of atonement and grace. We always have opportunity to be the be forgiving and accepting and welcoming and loving. To leave the past behind, and just be grateful for today. And we are so very often the older brother...a little self righteous, jealous, judgemental, and angry. For a wonderful in depth study of the parable, read "The Return of the Prodigal Son" by Henri J. M. Nouwen. Once again, there is much more depth to this story than we usually think, as we skim over it in Sunday school and our personal study.

ViolaMay 15, 2019

RaNae, before you leave the church, will you try two things? Every day, pray sincerely and read the Book of Mormon. Do this for just one week. That’s all I ask. Thank you.

JerryMay 15, 2019

I agree with Penny....just another Korihor in a very long list of them preaching a biased agenda of secularism, sad but true.

Matthew GlosengerMay 15, 2019

This “research” is pretty faulty from the start. I have read both parts of this article critique and all mentions of impropriety were cherry picked to support her own positions. She never accounts for personal choice. It was always someone else’s fault these people left the church. Any kind of validation of these points collectively is dangerous But the real story should be “why is the Church membership becoming mainstream by accepting the victim mentality that the world so easily accepts” Equally concerning in the information provided is that, though she admits to getting some parts wrong, she doesn’t seem willing to change it. No matter what faith you are, if you understand personal accountability, you will see her presentation of “The Next Mormons” as a faulty depiction of reality

Maurine McLeanMay 15, 2019

What a neat article, Carolyn! I enjoyed every word and what good advice for us all. We don't need to see new places to have a great rest! All best to you!

Minda LubbenMay 15, 2019

Maurine, yes you should make a little pamphlet of your letter to your daughter. It will be an ideal gift to those who are about to get married on their wedding shower. I really enjoy listening to your podcast on Come Follow Me. I am learning a lot from you and Scot. Thank you so much. More power to all what you do in bringing the gospel to light.

KentMay 15, 2019

I look forward all week o Daris' column. He reminds me that in a world where nothing in public life makes any sense at all, there is still kindness and humor to be found in a private life.

Phillip C. Smith, Ph.D.May 15, 2019

It really comes down to whether or not a person not only accepts Jesus Christ as the God and Savior of this world, but also accepts the desirability and reality of His living prophets like Russell M Nelson, those authorized and thus truly inspired to represent to the world what the Lord would like for us at this time. Prophets are not chosen to reflect what the world wants but what the Lord wants. Jana should remember thus the counsel given in Jacob 4:10 to “seek not to counsel the Lord, but to take counsel from his hand.” through his living prophets.

Karen SmithsonMay 15, 2019

What resounding TRUTH! It has made my heart sing with joy. Thank you for sharing it with us.

Ramsey WarnerMay 15, 2019

"Large data sets have also been long appreciated among scientists as introducing even greater risk for confirmation bias." Can you provide a reference for this? So you are saying that less data is good? Large data sets help to eliminate outliers or at least make them average out. Jana Reiss conducted a survey. Surveys are inherently representative of those surveyed. We can't conclude anything about them except they represent the way the respondents responded at the time they were surveyed. Can the wording of the question affect the response? Of course. She's just reporting what the responses were to the questions asked. I am not sure what your article is arguing? All data collection and the conclusions following are impure. It's merely an attempt to explain observed phenomena. The comments stating that we all just need to pray and read the scriptures more is akin to saying that if we were all more "churchy" then we'd be churchier people and churchier people are the best!!!

Joel MarksMay 15, 2019

If one compares oneself to the labors and efforts of Paul the vaunted Apostle, as Joseph Smith intimated, we come short'of the glory of God.' May it be so that we all strive to 'follow Christ' as Paul sacrificed his life for the kingdom of the Messiah.

Rebecca AndersonMay 15, 2019

Maybe I missed it, but I didn't see any caution about using essential oils. It's not a one size fits all recipe.

ReyLainMay 15, 2019

My vote is a big YES! A booklet to give to newlyweds would be ideal. I was thinking as I listened, "how can I get this message to the newlyweds in my life?" Your example of love and growth in your marriage can inspire us all. p.s. I am so grateful for the transcript!!!

CubbyMay 15, 2019

My grandma had a Hoya vine that would not produce flowers, to her great disappointment. Then one year she’d had it, “If you do not flower this very year, I am pulling you out.” She declared. Time passed and I went to visit. I stepped into her porch and sniffed. It was such a lovely smell. Her hoya was not only in bloom, but the most fragrant and delightful blooms, too. That is the year I learned flowers do talk.

A. BinghamMay 15, 2019

Brilliant analysis Dr. Hess. I encourage you or some other enterprising social scientist to examine closely, "the other side of the story". Those individuals (such as myself), who, have, after years of professional indoctrination, have simply walked away from the prevailing worldview that espouses a distinctly progressive narrative of gender, sexuality, and generally deconstructionist approach to religion. Indeed secularists such as Camille Paglia, and, psychologist /Catholic Jordan Peterson and others are also calling out the hypocrisy of this bankrupt line of inquiry. I too, a born in the covenant PhD social scientist, cried foul, and after nearly 4 decades, walked away, and return to my original faith community. I currently rejoice in the promises and covenants available to all in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. A. Bingham, PhD

DouglasMay 15, 2019

I feel badly for this man. I detect not an ounce of awareness on the part of the woman of the reality that all men suffer from the cumulative effects of visual temptation. Her definition and expectation is that a godly man is a perfect one. How much more productive this marital conversation would have been if she had not made it about her and her marriage but about helping him sort through what got him there and how he felt for having indulged. The response was equally immature.

Michael HogganMay 15, 2019

I read your linked book about relationships. It was very interesting. I think part of the problem is that more and more people have some attribute that is on the list of true icebreakers that you mentioned. (I.e. an addiction, a disability that makes it very difficult to find employment...etc). In my opinion, society has done a crappy job of preparing people to be married in the first place. This is particularly true for kids from broken homes.

Gordon J HensleyMay 15, 2019

The first commandment given to all life, including man and animals, was to multiply and replenish the Earth. When we progress to the point where we start to populate our own Celestial homes, I wonder how the non-gender-conforming couples who were exalted will produce spirit children. Adopting orphans?

Paul HMay 14, 2019

This reminds me of another author many years ago named Fawn Brodie, who the critics all quickly accepted as the best and highest source to expose and solve "the Mormon Problem" as she did her best to appear as an insider with facts no one else was privy to in her writing. It didn't take Hugh Nibley long to expose some of her errors, but many years went by until the critics read her book about one of the founding fathers (I think it was about Thomas Jefferson) and then they discovered she was no expert at all but more of a quack out doing a hatchet job. In this current book apparently the author is once again an acclaimed expert because for one thing she says the brethren are all white, aged men that just don't get it, a popular theme in the world of anti-LDS folks. Denigrating the Prophets is tantamount to apostasy and making that public and pushing such an agenda is dangerous ground upon which to walk if one wants to keep their membership in the Church. I was past 35 when I married so I am familiar with many struggles of singles and had many friends who married in their 30's as well. They have since been bishops, senior missionaries, high counselors, etc. besides having successful careers, families, and remaining true to the faith of their childhood and youth. There is no need to think those who have left the fold will have much positive to say as to why they did or what they think of the Church. That they are inactive pretty much says how they feel about things. And the "progressive agenda" will never be the norm in the Lord's Kingdom. It reminds me of the Children of Israel in the wilderness murmuring that it "would have been better to have died in Egypt." So no surprises, really.

Barbara SanfordMay 14, 2019

Disagree that self-esteem is anathema to serving and loving others, rather it increases empathy and realization of needs and means to love others. It is not only adaptive to fill your own cup but necessary in order to fill another's. Self-esteem is about our perceived "worth" and our perception of other's "worth" emanates from this perception. Therfore, it is more likely that we love those we perceive as "of great worth" as the scriptures state.

Dave MelansonMay 14, 2019

Certainly, we should avoid being self-centered and pursue humility. But I would also recall that our Young Women Values include both Divine Nature and Individual Worth. President Harold B. Lee (quoting Sir John Frederick William Herschel) said “Self-respect—that corner-stone of all virtue.” And, “. . . when one does not have that love for himself . . . other consequences can be expected to follow. He ceases to love life. Or if he marries, he has lost his love for his wife and children—no love of home or respect for the country in which he lives, and eventually he has lost his love of God. Rebellion in the land, disorder and the lack of love in the family, children disobedient to parents, loss of contact with God, all because that person has lost all respect for himself.” Elder Russell M. Nelson (speaking to his daughters) “My dear ones, in order to experience true joy in the morning, or at any time, at least three factors are needed. You need to feel good about the people with whom you live and work—your companions in life. You must feel good about yourself—not in any sense of conceit, but simply a proper esteem for yourself, well deserved. And possibly most important, you must feel good about your relation to God and sincerely love him.”

Sasha KwapinskiMay 14, 2019

The only "quibble" I may have with this article is that there actually are some (not all, but some) religious traditions which definitely do engage in degrading and belittling of one's self, even in some cases openly advocating self-hatred, or the refusal to entertain any good thoughts about one's self.(Continually thinking of one's self as "totally depraved," a"miserable sinner," "by nature evil," etc.) I ran right into this type of religious teaching some decades ago, before becoming LDS.

Harold StuartMay 14, 2019

The Church exists to help us become like God. It would appear that Jana wants the Church to become more like her.

JenniferMay 14, 2019

Marcela, I understand what you're say but I think the point of the article is to point out where the "oxygen" comes from.

AleceMay 14, 2019

I fail to understand why anyone would consider Jana Riess to be a credible expert on the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I consider her, and her thought processes about the faith, to be similar to those of John Dehlen and Kate Kelly. At the very least she is a wolf in sheep's clothing like Peggy Fletcher Stack, who continuously writes snarky articles in the Salt Lake Tribune, hoping to generate page upon page of anti-Mormon comments. I would not read Jana's book if you paid me to do so. I'd rather spend my time reading something faith promoting!

John v. kMay 14, 2019

What one person might describe as art, e.g., in the first half of the last century many deemed jazz music to be inferior, now it is held in esteem. In a marriage situation, one partner does not control the others taste in media, clothes, etc. If ones partner enjoys something the other doesn’t, it’s okay. My father collected postage stamps, which was of no interest to my mother. I’ve been to a number of places, in Riyadh, one might consider BYU dances to be trashy. It is just a matter of perspective about an undefinable standard.

GTOMay 14, 2019

You discuss the mindset that Jana took into her research and that colors her conclusions. It's very interesting to look at hers compared to mine. I'm a convert from Judaism. I've lived in various cultures here and around the world that are majority Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Jewish, Moslem, Evangelical Christina, Buddhist, Hindu. The culture of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints compares very favorably to all of these other religious-majority cultures, as far as I can see -- in every category, from judgmentalism, the number of rules, etc. It would serve our hyper-critics to have the same kind of broad experience I have enjoyed.

RonMay 14, 2019

I have been contemplating this very subject lately and have come to many of the same conclusions! Thank you so much for this well-written and concise article that has helped me and will undoubtedly help countless others. There is such an emphasis today on "you", "yourself", "loving yourself" and "you time", etc., often times the results of which are contrary to gospel teachings.

Douglas E NadybalMay 14, 2019

While it is quite possible this new earth shaking report was a not so disguised attack on the LDS Church, I really think the unintended victims might actually turn out to be (gasp) the "Millenniums" themselves. I admit, I am so old I don't know much about them. What I learned about them here is that they walk away from contracts, prefer disobedience and non conformity over the opposites (which is really odd because if everyone was a non conformist they would be conformists), they hate old people (most prophets are old), are hyper aware of race and gender to the point it is a crime to have one. All this is much ado about nothing, yet another case of " I can't leave the Church alone now that I have left it" derangement syndrome. 5% more or less Mormons in the world, makes no the outcome.

RaNaeMay 14, 2019

I appreciate this critique of Riess's research. However, as a life long member who at my advanced stage of life, having been a single, divorced female, I certainly find credibility in Riess's writing. Further, now as a retired PhD professor and family therapist, i am appalled by the closed mindedness of the majority Republicans in the church. Politics certainly prevail from my point of view. I am on the fringes of leaving the church. I certainly am in the minority but I am also aware of my own behavior and I truly don't fit even though I've remained a relatively "good LDS" member. There's more to the story. I'm questioning the truth as I continue my research & studies of civilizations and mankind, religion. Many church members, especially older, don't appear to be critical thinkers. They remain steadfast to FOX news or simply are uninformed. I choose not to have visiting or home ministry. I can't trust folks who are not informed thinkers. While I've been very independent most of my life, it is sad and depressing to not have community. I continue as a music person in the church, but keep less active as elderly people are less valued members. Sometimes, it depends on the ward, one's age, family. Lots to unravel as we continue our evolutionary growth.

R. GibbonsMay 14, 2019

Very interesting, thank you. I am reminded of an article in a women’s magazine in the early 1980’s about HIV. It had a questionnaire at the end that they wanted readers to respond and submit. One question- Now after reading about the HIV virus, will you be changing your behavior? What a poorly written question! I would answer no to this and appear to be stupid. But my current behaviors were not putting me at risk! It’s all in how a question is asked.

JOHNMay 14, 2019

There is interest and sadness to see surveys taken to help the church and the brethren adjust their rules, regulations, and doctrines to maintain membership. Perhaps they believe if the brethren see the survey, they will study it and determine ways to become more popular, so members will be strengthened and ex members will return. Those who have worked, sought, and fought for their testimonies know this method is like the tail wagging the dog.

DianeMay 14, 2019

I loved this! Very thought-provoking.

Renaissance NerdMay 14, 2019

With my own kids I like the term self-respect, which is, I believe, entirely compatible with humility and selflessness.

Sandra PattonMay 14, 2019

Thank you for a beautiful video telling it "like it is". I'm crying.

Pennie KnottMay 14, 2019

The korihor's of this world are alive and well. It doesn't seem that she did any analysis of the Savior and His atonement. That true testimony is grounded in Him. Her work is based on a worldly outlook. Too bad she and the News Tribune will fail.

Justin MastersMay 14, 2019

I think it is wholly appropriate to recognize that a tension exists within the church and in our personal beliefs and interpretation, however, in reviewing the outcomes of testing this tension within ourselves, we find a greater degree of growth if we give the same level of sincere effort and work to test those facets that lead to the greatest tension within our lives. In other words, one should not accept a narrative based on the experiences of others, but should test it for ourselves. Doing otherwise is an injustice to resolving the tension.that we have set for ourselves, and for lack of a better word, is "lazy". It takes work, effort, self introspection and yes, even calling upon our Heavenly Father or God for answers. This book appears to be a self-validation to the internal struggle being felt by the author towards the acceptance of a vehicle (and the leadership within) in place upon the earth by which Heavenly Father (or God) would choose to promote its interpretation of His direction and counsel. At some point there is "acceptance" and faith, with a worn and tested set of personal struggles and answers, or there is acceptance of an outside influence that we accept without the appropriate effort within ourselves. Yes, that sounds like a "my way or the highway" type of interpretation, but in reality it is a challenge to "come and see", test things out in your mind and life, and give communication with our Heavenly Father (or God) a chance. He WILL give an answer with our extension of sufficient humility and sincere effort - a test that should be acceptable to all who profess a faith in God - inside or outside the church. One must also be intellectually honest in accepting that no organization is filled with perfect people, and establishing the foundations of belief in God cannot rest solely upon those imperfect people, but should be built upon a divine and perfect source.

Marcela StaceyMay 14, 2019

Putting the oxygen mask on yourself before assisting fellow travelers is not selfish - it is responsible. You can’t help others if your oxygen is lacking. It’s what you do with your oxygen supply that matters. So many LDS women already feel like they don’t measure up to all that is required of them, please let’s nit guilt trip them into thinking that taking care of their “oxygen” is another reason to feel not good enough. It’s a fine balance we are trying to find already. The Lord looketh on the heart. It’s Him whom we serve as we serve others. It’s a fine balance. Keep the oxygen mask on for the purpose of serving others.

ChristineMay 14, 2019

Like a child from a 6th Generation Wealthy family, the "old" latter day saints vs the "new latter day saints" show us that those who have lost faith or never gained it were some who rode off other people's testimonies and never fully adopted or adapted to practices that are meant to provide a solid foundation and lasting conversion. A 6th generation wealthy man for example would never see the value of saving a lost soul (a less active person) because that person should already "know" they should be at church. I have heard it so many times that those Born in the Covenant do not understand the problems and social ills that go on today. They do not know the protection they have received as a result of being Born in the Covenant just as a wealthy person does not understand that they must generate some cash flow themselves no matter how small. The bank is just not going to do it for you no matter how big your savings account is, living off that interest can turn out to be a disaster rather than a blessing.

DanielMay 14, 2019

I think Jana is providing a great service in helping all of us to better understand this new so called generation 'the millenniums'. Likewise Jacob is exposing many of the flaws in her interpretation of those findings. As one who lived and experienced the 'nonconformist generation' I can tell you that many, if not most, of our generation can not relate to them in this new Information Age that has formulated their entire life. I suppose human behavior has not really changed much since the days of Adam but they are living in a paradigm shift that perhaps equals the invitation of the Guttenberg press. Will they change Spiritually as we know it? I doubt it. But they may well change Religious practices as we know it. We need to meet them where they are, open our hearts and understand them better. They are our children.

SueMay 13, 2019

How bravely you acted. I am moved by your quick thinking and willingness to put your own life at risk to stop the gunmen.

T. LarsenMay 13, 2019

While I find your thoughtful analysis very interesting, what I appreciate most is your modeling for us of fair and constructive engagement with viewpoints that can seem unfair and threatening. It is a modern adaptation of the way the Savior dealt with many who challenged him, and a good example for us to follow. Well done.

Diane CowleyMay 13, 2019

I found Jana's conclusions very interesting but out of sync with what I am seeing. I volunteer at an LDS temple and we have seen a HUGE increase in youth and young adult attendance in the last 5 years. Huge increase and they are coming by themselves without leaders or parents. Many millennials may be disenfranchised, but large numbers are finding a deeper meaning in their relationships with the Savior by praying daily and searching the scriptures so that they can be lead by the spirit. Interestingly, every "once was a Mormon" I have spoken with, has admitted to me that they did not pray and they did not read their scriptures to seek the spirit. Very telling. Don't blame it on the church. The Lord is very specific about communication.

Jo Ann OkelberryMay 13, 2019

This article should be required reading for all members of our governing bodies.

Newell FranksMay 13, 2019

In Joseph Smith's day the word stripling had a particular meaning when applied to young men. A boy became a stripling at age 12. Also interesting and never talked about is that the young men did not go off to basic training, they went irectly to war. They also took their own weapons with them... and they already knew how to use those weapons...

ChrisMay 13, 2019

I appreciate the depth of thought you have taken in evaluating this study. There is so much manipulation of data and the phrasing used to obtain it, most people accept the results as truth. In my experience I think finding truth in this life is greatly helped by the Holy Ghosts assistances. Without that help and experience at finding truth your ability to evaluate it is greatly hindered

Top catMay 13, 2019

I wonder if this woman is any relation to the wife of Thomas B Marsh?

RexMay 13, 2019

Did the Younger son repent? We know that he recognized his wrong doing and he expressed sorrow. While he was given the robes, shoes and ring by his father, a number of Apostles have stated that the prodigal son had squandered his inheritance and would not be placed before the older son. I am trying to square the article with the many statements of apostles and prophets that seem to indicate otherwise to what the article contains.

Debi-Ann Ward CaseMay 13, 2019

I am choked with emotion at the bravery of these two young men. I am sorry for the death of Castillo, but grateful no one else died. I hope all heal well and quickly. There is no telling how many lives these two young men saved. I pray that every one will recover well from this cowardly act.

ronald b. kirkMay 13, 2019

I wonder what kind of statistics would have resulted from a survey similar to the one cited had it been given to the populace during the time preceding the "Great Flood" when Noah was the prophet of the dispensation?

LorraineQMay 13, 2019

I once became acquainted with an individual who helped produce the 2002 exposé. Initially, I was excited about her seeming interest in the gospel and naively trusted her to be sincerely. Let’s just say she turned out not to be so much as she was fishing for inside perspective which was later turned to a negative purpose. I am now very guarded about sharing my deepest feelings about the gospel. Once bitten, twice shy.

J. RogersMay 13, 2019

What comes to mind, as suggested by Bro. Givens (I believe) in a recent BYU documentary, is what Martin Harris did on his return from New York. He essentially pledged his wealth and reputation on the work Joseph was engaged in. He must have been convinced. Many of us have that same testimony.

Alan WildMay 13, 2019

We aren't really losing that many, its just that those who leave do so very vocally. Actually, it is other denominations that are losing members rapidly according to this non-LDS web site:

KayMay 13, 2019

I serve weekly in one of the local LDS Temples and I must say that regardless of what the this film, social media or any "study" may lead you to believe, our Temple sessions and other service opportunities found in the Temple are packed to overflowing with Millenials every day. It's really quite wonderful to see and experience the devotion and committment they seem to have for the beautiful experience, peace and blessings found by attending the Temple regularly! I feel that those millenials leaving the church, are in fact a very small minority even though the media seems to want to present it otherwise.

Pattie SkousenMay 13, 2019

Thank you for your in depth analysis. I am one of those "baby boomers" and I do question, but I take it to the Lord and I feel the Holy Ghost whisper to me that what is happening is what He wants. What vendetta does Jana Riess have against the church? Is she against all religions or just against ours? She must get some joy or popularity from her "discovery." What is her motive? It has been said from prophets that some will try to persuade us to follow them and not the prophet.

Phillip C. Smith, Ph.D.May 13, 2019

Jana Reiss may be unaware of, or paid no attention to, the very wise advice on the evaluation of a religion given by the late Krister Stendhal, Lutheran Bishop of Sweden and formerly Dean of the Harvard University Divinity School. Stendhal said that the best, most accurate sources about a given religion are the faithful, believing leaders and members of that religion, with the living prophet as the most important source. There is every reason to believe as well that the most important, accurate and not particularly happy reviewer of this book, if He were still living in mortality, would be the Lord Jesus Christ himself. Following his "Bread of Life" discourse (John 6) many did indeed leave him then as is also true today. When he asked his apostles if they would join these deserters, Peter said, as educated, intelligent, faithful members today would say also, "Lord, to whom shall we go? thou hast the words of eternal life.

Deanna SasserMay 13, 2019

This was amazing! It gave me chills! I watched and listened with my two year old grandson and he loved it as much as I did! Thanks for sharing this!

AmberMay 13, 2019

The book presents uncomfortable truths. Simply closing your eyes to them or disliking them doesnt make them untrue. How about instead of burying our heads in the sand and pretending everything is fine, we acknowledge the problems and do something about it?

Neal ChristensenMay 13, 2019

You must remember that the Salt Lake Tribune was established specifically to tear down the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and that remains its mission. Anything they write about The Church must be viewed in that light.

Gail GrovesMay 13, 2019

Thank You, Sister Perry, for all you have done to musically enrich all of us through the years! May the Lord continue to bless you for your selfless service and know of our love for you!

John PetersenMay 13, 2019

Excellent! Thanks for this very thorough discussion of criticism. I look forward to part two.

Walter E. "Pete" MoakMay 13, 2019

The Word of God has power because of his righteousness, His Love, and his mercy by which all elements willingly honor him. See D&C 29:36. Those whom God trusts with His priesthood power, in righteousness, can speak in His name and have the same effect. "Whether by mine own voice or the voice of my servants, it is the same." D&C 1:38.

James A DoneMay 13, 2019

Thank you, Doctor Hess. Yours is a textbook approach, probably shared with all new graduate students, when considering interpretations of a large and complex study of human behavior. I wish we were all able to approach life's questions with these points in mind. The majority of us will instead have to rely on the eternal principle written by the Great Moroni in the last part of his record, preserved for us in the Book of Mormon. Those with a sincere heart and real intent, having faith in Jesus Christ, can have the truth of all things revealed to us by asking and then acting. I will continue living my life in such a manner and encourage any others seeking truth to do the same. It works.

Gene SchaerrMay 13, 2019


Bradley KramerMay 13, 2019

Thank you for this article. As baby boomer who grew up in Reiss's home ward in Cincinnati, I can say that virtually all of the questions, concerns, and issues Millennials are portrayed as having with the Church now, we had then. After all, we were not sheep. We were the "nonconformist generation, the people whose mottos were "Don't trust anyone over 30" and "Question Authority." The difference therefore between us and these "next Mormons" is that we have been addressing these questions, concerns, and issues for a long time and have either found answers within the Church or have not and have left it long ago. As a result, I find this study reflecting more on the ages of the people involved rather than the Age in which they live, and I am optimistic that Millennials will be thoughtful, faithful, purposeful, individually committed members of the Church just as many of us "old folks" have tried to be.

McClellan RobinMay 13, 2019

Merchants of doubt take half truths and make truth. Intellectuals can’t get through the complexities without explaining or justifying their biased beliefs.

JohnMay 13, 2019

Well done, great work on this, I had similar thoughts, so thank you for so concisely appraising this, looking forward to your Part II. I also wonder if Jana's research was international, what percentage US respondents compared to rest of the world. Something I've noticed on our travels and meeting LDS overseas are their nuanced interpretations of gospel covenant living. I listened to Terryl Givens in London once suggest UK LDS are "living in the past with 1970's Bruce R McKonkie - devote 'Mormon Doctrin'e perspectives"... comparable to 'Saints' and their views elsewhere in the world.

CarolMay 12, 2019

Thanks for standing up for good. Hope your injuries heal quickly!

CarolMay 12, 2019

And why is that so hard for us to believe?

Keith RamseyMay 11, 2019

I have taken an active role in an annual Community of Faith Through Music event that has been held in our area for 18 years. At the end of the evening of shared music we have often sung one of two songs, 'How Great Thou Art', and 'Grwat is Thy Faithfulness'. I have learn to enjoy the music and lyrics of this second song and would hope you would consider including it in the upcoming new addition. Thank you, Keith Ramsey Burley 9th Ward, Burley Idaho Stake

KimberlyMay 11, 2019

It is a hard day for me, I am single and past the age of having children. When I was younger and my mother was alive, her not being a member and not coming to church with me I gave her the gift. Then after she died some times the gift is a flower you can plant so I take it and plant it on her grave. Also my branch I attend don't understand they are all married and have children and I try to explain how hard it is and they all say you will be a mother you could marry someone with children or we are all mothers. I just don't say anything anymore.

Pat ProffitMay 11, 2019

That is the most amazing insight and advice that I've read in a long time. I'll forward on to my 8 daughters and daughters-in-law and my 2 grand daughters who just became mothers!! I love being a mother with its immediate reward, problems, sorrows, and also the long-range rewards that are "opening the windows of heaven and pouring out more blessings than I can contain"

Ralph C HancockMay 11, 2019

Maurine Proctor, exemplary mother, Latter-day Saint, and editor of the great force for good, Meridian Magazine, here blesses us with a beautiful and powerful tribute to motherhood, the kind that could only be expressed in a true mother's voice, and that of a mother of mothers. Anyone seeking an answer to the question of the meaning of life should pause long and reverently on Maurine's words. Now, being a father has a fair amount of beauty and hardship in common with being a mother -- but c'mon now, we men are mostly skipping over the surface of things without our connection with womanhood and motherhood. There is nothing more important we can do as husbands and fathers than to support mothering, and to learn from wives and mothers about what it all means. We provide, we care, we help to nurture, hopefully we provide structure and needed authority, but the depths of care and love we must learn through our wife and and the mother of our children. (Only then do we begin to appreciate our own mothers.) And being a grandfather is wonderful, but the sweetest part is surely being married to a grandmother who is filled with love and dedicated wisdom. Maurine won't mind, I'm sure, if I dedicate this post to my Julie, who has taught me for 43+ years what love and bravery and resilience really are.

Ralph C HancockMay 11, 2019

ScottH - please slow down and note that I'm not discussing Haidt's argument, but the use Arthur Brooks makes of it.

Tina SMay 11, 2019

Maurine, this was a beautiful letter and testimony of Celestial living and loving. I felt the love and respect that i see you and Scott have for one another. Thank you for sharing this with all of us.

MarenMay 11, 2019

When someone shows who they are, believe them!

DJMay 11, 2019

Lovely article, even re-sharing one of your stories from No Success Can Compensate for CHILDREN in the Homes. Now my girls are mothers, I've tried to find your little booklet to purchase and share with them, but can't find it online. Have you thought about reprinting it? (I'm not ready to part with my copy yet ;-) ! ).

M NashMay 10, 2019

Great read!

AnnMay 10, 2019

Some facts verses fiction: When your husband says that they are his kids and “he won’t choose between me and them,” he is choosing absolutely choosing them. Parents “owe” adult children nothing. Any individual who will not stand up to the poor behavior towards another person is part of the problem. They share the guilt of poor behavior. When your step-son says that “this isn’t my home because I’m just married to his dad,” he needs to go back to law school. A spouse has much more claim against her husband than any adult child has against their father. And no spouse should choose adult children over their spouse… When you say this man “has been the love of your life since you were teenagers,” you are living an adolescent fantasy. This is not mature thinking. It is the fallacy of high school proms and first kisses. You need to take a very careful look at your husband’s lack of protection and seriously ask yourself if anyone is the love of this man’s life. Please get more counseling than available in this column. You need to be preparing your exit strategy and get yourself where you can be physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually safe.

Terry McCullyMay 10, 2019

If your spouse really loves you She would not put you in a spot to have to choose.

Cary HolmquistMay 10, 2019

And so, it boggles my puny mind, considering these concepts that are universal in nature. To consider further that the God of this universe bothers with us puny mortals and all our minuscule experiences...well that boggles the mind also. Why should we be any part of His attention. And yet He has told us that we are His children and so are of paramount importance to Him and He constantly blesses us with so much. Our gratitude for this probably seems so minute in comparison to what it should be. This is just the beginning of a discussion of galactic proportions....

Joe AlvaradoMay 10, 2019

Couple of months ago I went to my favorite library (The BYU. Library) for knowledge as I used to do when I was attending BYU, and came across the book titled : “Translating the Anthon manuscript “ by Stan and Polly Johnson. Very interesting book. Basically , it shows how Stan translated the manuscript with the knowledge he has of ancient American tribes. The result: the transcript talks about the jaredites leaving Jerusalén and crossing the ocean... If you have time, take a look at it

J. Wanless SouthwickMay 10, 2019

Despite the imperfections, can we learn to love as God loves? "This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you." John 15:12

Denise ChristensenMay 10, 2019

Maurine...such a beautiful article! What a great Mother’s Day tribute!

Joy LundbergMay 10, 2019

Great article, so much wisdom. What a beautiful baby boy! So adorable. I love the mural. So peaceful and inviting. Not only are you a brave mama, but you are a talented one as well. I love the mural! He's going to want to climb those mountains.What a blessed baby to have you for his mama.

JMay 10, 2019

I love the sweet message and the video, thanks for sharing

Linda Starr WinansMay 10, 2019

MARVELOUS!!!.....Especially in light of the fact that we wished Mariah well when she was in the delivery room. ( A group of us were traveling on the bus through Israel with the Proctors at the time.) What tender thoughts, Maurine. What a profound thought: "Forget any idea that motherhood is an invitation to be somebody else besides who you are and that your highest goal is to completely erase yourself in sacrifice." So many blessings to count and be grateful for. I loved the mural, too. Thanks for sharing! God bless all!

Leilani CookMay 10, 2019

Beautiful words, stunning mural, and a baby's face that melts the heart. Thank you for this amazing article. Thank you for being a brave mama. And, thank you for sharing your delicious Benjamin with us.

PattyMay 10, 2019


DeniseMay 10, 2019

I have been in this situation. My Husband is on the Autism Scale (high functioning), and working through this situation has been a literal hell. He can't understand why I would be upset. There are some times when Christ like love is the ONLY thing that will save a marriage. Very difficult.

EmilieMay 10, 2019

Beautiful! Happy Mother's Day!

Concerned ReaderMay 10, 2019

Of additional note: If he wants "to change his stance on media" to include "basically dressed up porn," they have further "trust" and couples issues to address. I hope they won't focus only on issues of deception, but will include the damage that significant changes in these particular standards will have on their relationship over time.

Romney BiddulphMay 10, 2019

The genesis of Temple ordinances and practices can be viewed on this YouTube video: (Look for the Emperor Constantine video).

Chris EpsonMay 9, 2019

Great article. Thank you. If anyone would like to experience the truth of this, you can attend an Addiction Recovery Program 12 step meeting. The steps are considered the workbook of the atonement, and the guiding principle is that we cannot change ourselves...only the Savior can change us. He asks for only two things...a broken heart and a contrite spirit. In other words, give it all to him and then live a life of gratitude by doing our best to follow his commandments, love Him, and love and serve others. There is nothing we can do to cause Him to love us less...He loves us. Period. Life is just easier and much more fulfilling when we just accept it and appreciate it.

Mary Ann KershisnikMay 9, 2019

I know Shauna Robins and she deserves a loving tribute like this!!

Alice GreenMay 9, 2019

Are these products available for purchase in Canada in Canadian dollars?

Mari CarrollMay 9, 2019

I am curious about the optoon to plastic lunch containers. We tried getting the kind that is microwave safe for warming lunches. Also zip lock baggies for sandwiches and airtight storage. Thank you for the headsup.

KjcoMay 9, 2019

The ying & yang balance referenced only works when it's not a 5-2 ratio. That makes for an awfully lopsided, bumpy & precarious wheel on which to ride.

Susan CombsMay 9, 2019

We belong to a church where some men and women measure a woman by her marriage status or her fertility. They then make comments in their talks, in a meeting which is supposed to be devoted to the teachings of the savior. It is no wonder that single and childless women stay home! Celebrate your mom at home and teach only the gospel at Church!

Bradley AndersonMay 9, 2019

Prior to serving his mission in the 1940s, my father received his patriarchal blessing. Arriving in the mission home in SLC, he discovered that missionaries who had not received a patriarchal blessing would receive one from the Patriarch of the Church (a calling that no longer exists). He had heard that if another patriarch gave a blessing, it would be exactly the same as the first, so he got in line with the missionaries go to see the Patriarch. When his turn came, he sat in the chair, the Patriarch placed hands on his head and then hesitated. "You have already received a patriarchal blessing, haven't you?" he stated more than asked. Dad told us that he could not have been more impressed than if the blessing had been a duplicate.

PaulaMay 9, 2019

Perhaps the Saviour was also allowed to communicate with his Heavenly Mother during mortality as He was with His Father. Either way, His lessons on love have outlasted all the foolishness spoken in 2,000 years.

KendraMay 9, 2019

Shall I share what not to do? Do not go on your husband's Facebook page and tell his friends and family how he failed you by not wishing you a Happy Mother's Day and then invite everyone's opinion as to who is correct. This was the tactic of a woman in my ward whose well-known husband has not had anyone post on his page in the year since. And yes, they are still together, but she is much younger and very pretty so I guess men will tolerate any humiliation if the wife is attractive enough.Happy Mother's Day to all the sane women I know. Your children need you. So do your husbands.

Connie HarrisMay 9, 2019

VERY great article! I've despised M-Day for 50 years, but this gives a wonderful perspective in many scenarios.... Thanks!

ScottHMay 9, 2019

I appreciate Dr. Hancock's discussion of our society's current cultural morass. His observation that liberal thought can be as repressive as conservative approaches is noteworthy. But Dr. Hancock seems to misrepresent Dr. Haidt's moral foundations theory in order to use it as a cudgel for beating up on liberals. Johnathan Haidt himself, at least as I understand his thinking, does not suggest that liberals that hew mainly to care and fairness are inferior to conservatives that embrace these factors plus loyalty, authority, and sanctity. Rather, he paints the two views as complementary and necessary for balance; as yin and yang. One view promotes the virtues of change while the other advocates the value of stability. Each needs the other to prevent going too far, since fully realizing either goal would lead to worse horrors than they seek to solve. Moreover, Haidt calls for people of all persuasions to get outside of their ideological "teams" and focus on common threats, since humans are quite good at addressing common problems (that are recognized as such) but are not so good at finding common ground. The "I'm right and you're wrong" approach taken in this article and in so many other facets of our culture leads us to mainly focus on that which divides us instead of that which unites us. Contempt for differing viewpoints may help us feel secure in our principles, but at the cost of blessing God's children as we otherwise might. Like it or not, we live in a pluralistic society. Most walk the broad roads and few travel the narrow path to eternal life. Disciples of Christ are tasked with holding firmly to God's commandments while simultaneously working to bless as many of God's children in as many ways as possible. Easy? No. But nobody ever said it would be.

Charles KrautMay 9, 2019

This is a very important article. It defines one of the most critical issues of our time, and cuts to the heart of what our "society" is really all about. The ramifications of settling for two of the five criteria is what we have experienced ever since the Sexual Revolution began and well-meaning, nominally Christian parents, teachers, leaders, and others began acknowledging and then defending their and others' children's right to choose. Absent the moral component, we are no better than animals. As Americans, we were meant to be self-governing under our Constitution. That document was inspired by the Declaration of Independence, which proclaims the supremacy of natural rights. Our foolish pursuit of human rights in place of natural rights is rapidly destroying our society and civilization itself. Thank you for sharing this article. I would not have wanted to miss it.

LisaMay 9, 2019

Loved the way you turned the problem upside down. I attended an LDS conference once where the speaker, a veterinarian, told about calling a staff member aside when she was being viciously berated by a client. He privately told her to add $20 to the woman's bill for services, then after the woman left, he handed the staff member $20 and told her to use it to take herself to dinner. I must say, I have adopted that tactic myself with clients who were out of control. Three hours extra charged whenever someone went on a rant. It completely changed my ability to tolerate the verbal abuse. (And let go of fantasies about keying their car door.) I personally hate Mother's Day. Too sentimental by far. I feel sugar shock coming on during the talks in church. I don't want a flower just for being a woman. Thus day is for morhers, not women in general, despite what Sheri Dew said. I hate the comparisons between mothers and daughter-in-laws about who the man owes the most to, his mother or the mother of his children. I find it appalling when the daughter-in-law displays her newly gifted jewelry and has her husband hand his mother another photo of the grandchildren as her Mother's Day gift. Amazing how people can be so blind. Obviously, they did not read enough Jane Austen when they were young or they lack the ability to read the faces of everyone else in the room. Making vomit gestures during the meeting is probably a bridge too far so I will skip church on that day. I will indulge myself with chocolates because I know I am worth it, as a daughter of two heavenly parents, one a mother, one a father, and two earthly parents, one male, one female, all honored and loved.

Julie DunfordMay 9, 2019

Bravo!!! This is the most intelligent and true article I have ever seen on this subject! Well done! Thank you for bringing this to light and articulating it so well!

NancyMay 9, 2019

Brilliant analysis!

Old GuyMay 9, 2019

Does this man understand that it is HIS FAULT that he and his wife will not be together on their anniversary? Does he understand that at this point she really doesn't care how he feels? At this point all he should do is send her a note thanking her for her attempt to reconcile with what has happened and then let her respond when she is ready.

Shirley GriffinMay 9, 2019

You're so wise, Joni. Mother's Day should be a time when we celebrate Motherhood, the opportunity to nurture others and appreciate those who nurture us. I love what you say about the Savior and his references to nurturing like a mother. I wish we knew more about His mother and grandmother.

retired shrinkMay 9, 2019

I am a clinical psychologist. I find that scheduling sex for certain days makes a positive difference with some of my couples. There is one study that suggested scheduling sex made it more likely for a woman to have an orgasm. "DrJ"

Charles DefranchiMay 9, 2019

President Nelson recently stressed how imortant it is to use the right words when referring to Church language. For example saying "Latter-Day Saints" instead of "Mormons," or "Church of Jesus-Christ ..." instead of "LDS Church," etc. So why borrow the word "Gay" from the LGBT community, when it often means engaging into a sexual relation with someone of the same sex? It would have been more appropriate for a Church-sponsored Educational Institution to refer to what General Authorities call "Same-Sex Attraction."

Priscilla OwenMay 9, 2019

O, well done....What a thoroughly enjoyable read. I am an unelectable too.

VerleneMay 9, 2019

This BEAUTIFUL song brought tears to my eyes while listening to these men sing, praising their Mothers.!!! Such beautiful voices and music !!!

Julie ParkMay 8, 2019

I have emailed requesting the list of scriptures as well and haven't received it yet, love your podcast, have learned so much. Thank you for sharing with us

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SallyMay 8, 2019

Simply Beautiful...the men, the music, the Mothers!!! Thank you!!!❤️

Jorge HernandezMay 7, 2019

Thank you very much for your very interesting Temple inf. With all the details, may The Lord bless you

J. JamisonMay 7, 2019

What a message for today! Sadly, some voices sowing "hate, anger, etc." might be those of family

JoeMay 7, 2019

Thank you President Nelson! The old policy was exclusionary and insulting to my wife and I who were converts and the only members of our respective families. I don't regret avoiding the disappointment, resentment and hard feelings this would have caused towards us and the Church from parents and grandparents. Even more shameful was how a small minority of hard-line church members and leaders treated us for our decision to marry with our families present. Thankfully most of our LDS friends understood our situation as did the Lord.

Lisa ReisingMay 7, 2019

I received quite a few powerful insights from this article - another great one from Brother Frogley! I so appreciate his willingness to share how he synthesizes the truths of the Gospel. Thank you!

RichMay 7, 2019

Mother’s Day has been an extremely difficult holiday for me and my wife for the past several years. It is still difficult to read stories like this, partially because of the heartbreak but also because many members will still see and praise the “success” of adopting children. The people in this story would be just as important and wonderful if they had chosen not to have children. My wife and I have not pursued any treatment or adoption paths because we have decided not to have children. Even without children, there is a lot of life to live. Last year I had people actually get offended because I didn’t want a Father’s Day gift at church. I’m not a father. I’m not going to be a father. Please don’t give me a gift. I’m not a veteran, so nobody gives me free meals on Veterans Day. I’m not a father, so I don’t want a gift on father’s day, regardless of the giver’s reasoning behind it. Anyway, long story short: everyone is valuable, regardless of their fertility. The sooner we learn to celebrate that, the better for the many people who currently feel overlooked.

Andre MostertMay 7, 2019

My wife Terttu Tuulikki Aunola and I were married in England as she was working there at the time (1960). Under English law we had to not only be married by an LDS Branch President, we had to repeat the vows before an English magistrate. LDS rules at that time insisted we would need to wait a year for a temple sealing, however since neither one of us was an English native (she was a Finn and had previously gone through the Temple as I had) and I was in the US military London Temple authorities made the decision that we could be sealed later the same day. I am most pleased of this newest decision. What a joy it will be for those having nonmember family and friends.

VickiMay 7, 2019

Intolerance in the name of Tolerance is wrong. The way to demonstrate tolerance of others whether it is religion, race, ethnicity or political party is to demonstrate respect and allow all people the opportunity to voice their beliefs whether or not we agree. Any American, anywhere is entitled to these rights and should not feel marginalized because they hold a public office. As people we should demonstrate our commitment to this basic value by encouraging all to stand firm for your beliefs. It is when we impose our own definition of Tolerance and Acceptance with very narrow boundaries that we negate the very principle of Tolerance. Those who are critical of the Governors posting as a demonstration of intolerance do not understand the meaning or spirit of the Constitution and should have no credibility with the rest of us.

helen leonMay 7, 2019

wonderful article, 4 years ago we established a Freedom of Religion Commission in orlando and have had 4 Summits so far with up to 600 people attending. Our steering group has all the major religions and an atheist and we have gone from being sceptical to being friends and realizing how much we all have in common.

B MowerMay 7, 2019

I love how the parables have so many layers and depths of meaning. Thank you once again for all you do to add understanding to the scriptures.

A. RoldánMay 7, 2019

Would it be possible to get a copy of the PowerPoint presentation? It would be useful forma a Young single adultos presentation

ChuckMay 7, 2019

I, too, question the time and place of his announcement. It appears to not have been about the substance of his announcement, but was about him. Read the Book of Mormon. Read how pride was the recurring downfall of individuals, families, and civilizations. False pride, of any type, is quite destructive. Examples of this, from the past, and from today, are before us.

Christian Vanoi MinerMay 6, 2019

I'm very proud of you, Governor Ducey. You are helping this generation see the importance of religious freedom. We live in a land that is promised freedom. The Lord set apart this place for the free. I am an Arizonan. I voted for you because of this very reason. Thank you for keeping your promises.

MichaelMay 6, 2019

A thrice divorced friend said: "It is better to be wishing you were married than to be wishing you were not." Although you have suffered much, there is hope for healing. And gratitude that you did not let yourself get roped into another terrible relationship.God bless you and my prayers are with you.

YanniMay 6, 2019

I believe this is a wonderful change for people whose close family were being excluded. I know it would have been wonderful to have any close relatives share my day with me. I do have to ask, is the bishop the one who determines if this is authorized or is it at the discretion of the couple to determine if relatives are close enough? And does the bishop have input into the type and place of the civil ceremony, say one conducted by a minister of another faith who is the bride's grandfather but the ceremony held in the bride's parents home. In other words, are there restrictions and who determines them?

Don FreemanMay 6, 2019

Good for you governor!

Bob PowelsonMay 6, 2019

It is long past time when Christians of whatever kind should be hesitant about mentioning their faith and belief. Freedom of Religion, not Freedom from Religion is the test. Any who do not like can simply shut up and go away.

ViolaMay 6, 2019

There are a lot of safe, cheap cleaners that can be made with ingredients from the grocery store. Check into those before buying expensive natural products.

RobertMay 6, 2019

God Bless you, Governor! If more public figures would stand up to this attack Satan is waging on Christians, we would soon see them disappear in the night. Every time a government (local or national) caves in to the left's unreasonable and unconstitutional demands they grow a little stronger. Law suits should not be permitted against clearly detailed Constitutional rights as detailed in the Constitution. Courts should reject them as "having no standing". Freedom of speech and freedom of religion is paramount to the success of any Democracy.

BEV TAYLORMay 6, 2019

I have a very dear friend who is 65, never married & Mother's Day is soooooo difficult for her, she cannot even attend church that day. Even though Mother's day gifts are given to all sisters over age 18, she still feels nothing :(

William ToftMay 6, 2019

Hmmm. I didn't see any Angel Moroni statues atop any of these 3 temples. Is that an accidental omission or is the pattern for these new "small" temples?

Lawrence BarryMay 6, 2019

Wonderful explanation of the role of temples in Heavenly Father’s plan for His children. Would it be possible to get a copy of the PowerPoint presentation?

Alisi I FiliagaMay 6, 2019

I listen to ALL Podcast from American Samoa US Territory. I look forward to the next one. I also record every Podcast, but not too successful at times. I like to listen to the recorded ones because internet flaky and I listen often when driving or other chores while listening. I try to share often from my FB page. Please help by making Podcast available for download. I teach Sunday School I use some approaches, stories from your Podcast in my lesson at time. But all done with the spirit to direct my class and self to more creative ways as I try not to be too boring. So I use the music you share and other tips. I have had good outcome personally and with my calling. Sorry lengthy but keep up the good work. Make it shareable so I could share often too.

Julia WoodallMay 5, 2019

I love listening to your podcasts. I learn so much each week that increases my understanding of the weekly lesson. May I please get a list of your Faith scriptures? Thank you.

Dan M BellMay 5, 2019

Fascinating. I just love reading and learning new scholarship regarding the Book of Mormon that becomes another brick in my firm foundation. Thank you.

Susan ThomasMay 5, 2019

I love your podcasts! Can I please get the list of 43 scriptures on faith??

Carolyn ThelerMay 5, 2019

I really enjoy your podcasts - thank you. I would also like the list of 43 Faith scriptures. I would also like the reference for the quote by Brother Matthews and his discussion with Elder McConkie and the correct translation from this quote in your podcast “A more correct translation of this verse is: He that is without THIS sin among you...” Thank you so much.

CathyMay 5, 2019

I hope you are still sharing your list of scriptures to memorize as I would like to add these to my own list also. Thanks

wandaMay 5, 2019

I feel for anyone who has a struggle of any kind. My issue is how does a person become a Valedictorian of a school who doesn't know how to stay on the main topic, This was a graduation for a lot of students. It was not only about him.

Lindsay KaelbererMay 5, 2019

I am really enjoying your podcasts and the lesson helps for "Come Follow Me!" Thank you for the insights. I would love a list of your 43 Faith scriptures. Thank you!

smerrellMay 5, 2019

Thank you for this wonderful story and the important principle you taught. I am interested in hearing more about your time at Osher Shlomo synagogue. When were you there? How long did you study there?

Rochelle HaleMay 5, 2019

God bless your family, and God bless that, through your own pain, you are helping so many others. I went through 5 years of infertility struggles, tests, surgeries, etc. with no specific answers. I was an early candidate for IVF, but it was very expensive in those days, and for several reasons adoption was not a viable option. Finally, we were blessed with one son, but empty arms and hearts take many forms. Thank you again for helping others who long to be mothers.

Kevin MarlerMay 5, 2019

Scot, First off, I enjoy these podcasts as part of my preparation for teaching Gospel Doctrine! I have a question about this statement: I was teaching this story about 7 years ago and we had among our group a family with young children. I asked this question “What was the Savior doing?” to this whole seasoned group of Saints. No one ventured an answer. But, from my right, a young 11-year-old boy, named Jonathan Hyatt, raised his hand. “Yes, Jonathan?” “Wasn’t he saying, “I am He who gave the law. It was my finger that carved the law in the stone tablets on the mount.” I said, “You are exactly right Jonathan!” Again, what an answer! Did he actually write that? is this an undertone? I was always under the impression that he was writing the names of the accused as per tradition.... she being accused without the man...... no man, no witnesses kind of thing..? Thanks!

Robyn JensenMay 4, 2019

I was glad that my eldest daughter was sent to Germany instead of Russia. I was very concerned when my youngest daughter, who has Reynaud's Syndrome and is very sensitive to cold, was called to the Lansing Michigan mission. She was excited to go, and told me it would be her "test" to keep warm. She passed. However, she did marry a man from Tucson AZ and lives in Phoenix.

E, Hunter HaleMay 4, 2019

This is turning out to be a great year for Mormon Cinema OUT OF LIBERTY coming as well as the sequel to THE OTHER SIDE OF HEAVEN and T.C.'s THE FIGHTING PREACHER. Now let us hope the Church members will support these efforts in large numbers.

Doris CrockettMay 4, 2019

Please add me to your list of the 43 scriptures

ColleenMay 4, 2019

Take the authors advice THEN send her on a cruise ALONE with a sister or friend every year UNTIL she is ready to have you go on that vacation with her. Do it, don’t complain about it, don’t equal expense your own vacay, just do it.

JanetMay 4, 2019

This article helped me as I was grieving for the lost parts of my motherhood that were taken with the loss of a husband and father. There is still a brightness of hope even beyond the grave and these pains will be overcome in time and with help from our Savior.

JemezblueMay 3, 2019

As a single woman who has never been married or in a relationship, Mother's Day is very hard, especially during my 30s and 40s. Now that I am in my 50s and any chance of having my own children behind me, I really work hard on being grateful for what I do have. Those who have an eternal mate need to be grateful because that very hard chore of finding someone has been done. I am still looking. However, I have moved on with my life, I have returned to school and working with a small local community to help them with history and genealogy. Life is beautiful! Look for it! Life is good! Be Grateful! Be Busy! And have fun with what you do have, because there is someone that does not have what you do. (and yes, I still get mad and storm around the house, but that's okay and I go on.)

ViolaMay 3, 2019

I appreciate the comment mentioning the single woman who had never married despite her efforts, but who remained chaste and true to her covenants. As one of these women, i can affirm that being single and true to covenants receives no positive affirmation from anyone but general conference talks. Everyone does need love in their lives, but some of us have to wait, or show love to others in other ways. The church doesn’t justify living together for singles in the church, so why is it okay for gays to marry against church doctrine? We need to accept and love all God’s children, no matter what, but this kind of thing gives me the idea that the doctrine has changed. I am really confused, especially with Deseret Book sponsoring a talk about being gay in the church. If acting on gay impulses is a sin, then publicly proclaiming that we have that inclination seems to be contrary to the desire to do God’s will. Should people proclaim their pornography problems, or that they cheat on taxes? Would they get the same response? I’m not trying to judge, just trying to understand the point of such a public proclamation and why it is helpful.

Angie BlatterMay 3, 2019

Could I still get a copy of the 43 verses to memorize? Thank you. I enjoy your podcasts very much.

Jennifer JohnsonMay 3, 2019

Beautiful article!

TaylorMay 3, 2019

I can't imagine the same reaction in the crowd if someone had indicated they are defined by their sexuality such as infidelity, pedophilia, or other sexual sins. A sexual behavior is not an "identity". Love of course is important, but not to the point of putting sins on a billboard. Love is not encouraging sins, forcing others to publicly congratulate those immersed in them, or clapping when someone announced behavior that is opposed to God. The whole idea of "coming out" is an attempt to gain support for opposition to God. We need to love one another, but we do not love the sins. We should love others, but not at the exact moment they are announcing sins, that would be foolish, unless they are announcing they are turning from those sins.

ShareeMay 3, 2019

Mothers Day can be a sad time not only for those who have had infertility problems or have lost babies, but also for those for whom celebrating their mother is painful, due to their treatment at the hands of an abusive mother.

Charles DefranchiMay 3, 2019

I admire the courage, faith and determination of this beautiful young couple. I am sure they will be able to help and comfort many who could not be otherwise. In the end, I like what Elder Holland once said: "this world is filled with thorns, thistles, briars and noxious weeds," but we are still being promised joy, partly in this world, and certainly in the here-after.

LaurenMay 3, 2019

I am trying to find the direct quote and reference from Elder Mckonkie for the part in the podcast about the more correct translation of the verse about sin among you. This quote from your podcast: “A more correct translation of this verse is: He that is without THIS sin among you...” Do you have the reference you could share with me? Thank you so much. I love your podcast and listen every week :)

Linda WelchMay 2, 2019

I too would love a copy of the faith scriptures. I enjoy you podcast. Thank you for your insights.

John GardinerMay 2, 2019

I used to get tired of people, mostly men who feel they need to "come out of the closet." Most of us could care less. Keep it to yourself and your close friends and family. I wonder if he was encouraged by some activist(s) to stir things up?? I hope we don't get periodic updates about him in the future. We've got enough celebrity wannabes in our Society...

JenniferMay 2, 2019

Thanks for sharing this intimate journey. I believe trusting in Heavenly Father to guide us in our medical decisions is so important. Fear can often keep us from doing what is best for our health. I waited too long to treat my Crohn's appropriately and have scarring that I may not have experienced had I followed my doctor's advice sooner. Praying for a cure some day!

RobertMay 2, 2019

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Camille ParkerMay 2, 2019

Thank you to everyone who is reading this post! I am the one who this article is about and have felt very strongly that this is a story I need to share. There is a link to my blog in there if you would personally like to contact me. I would love to hear from you and offer any words of encouragement!

KarenMay 2, 2019

Thank you for sharing the process of sustaining faith through a long term challenge. I appreciate addressing the real discouragement and fears we all battle in our trials, and it is especially hard when it’s a long term trial or a trial of a lifetime!

CoreyMay 2, 2019

I, too, am very uncomfortable about this. So much of the discussion on this issue (even from the church) seems to start with the assumption that this is an innate characteristic, such as race. And there is no scientific proof for that. But once you assume that this is an innate characteristic, it clearly does become “discrimination” to not accept, normalize and, yes, marry those born this way. And I worry that this is the slippery slope people seem to be on.

Beatriz GarciaMay 2, 2019

I would like to have a copy of the 43 verses to memorize.

Grace Dupute TagwireyiMay 2, 2019

thank you for sharing. this gives me hope.He always keeps his promises.

Wendy SorensenMay 2, 2019

I would love the 43 faith scriptures!

L. Eileen BrinkerhoffMay 2, 2019

I would have thought that he might have added that "As a son of God I believe in being moral, chaste, and living the kind of life that will always allow me to be a member in good standing. That I can return to my God and be welcomed home.

Elise R.May 2, 2019

I am a Primary Teacher with a recently-diagnosed autism child in my Sunbeam class. We have three teachers for a class of 5 (one teacher is there only every-other week). We have great support from our Primary Presidency and Bishopric, but I feel like there are no good resources available on how to meet the needs of all the children in our class. One of us focuses on (I’ll call him Matt), and the other teaches the lesson, but the best we can hope for is to keep Matt in the room with us and prevent him from hitting and hurting other children, climbing out the window or running out the door! We don’t want to take him out, because we feel he’ll just run with that (literally!) every week. And he will be missing out on class. But keeping him in the room is hurting the other Sunbeams (also literally!) One boy last week actually turned his chair around quietly and faced the wall, he was so disturbed by the constant running, yelling and hitting from our autism Sunbeam. He stayed that way for most of class, after being hit by Matt with a wooden puzzle base. And the other children were anxious and upset. This is a typical week, and we are at a loss as to how we can meet all their needs when Matt is there. It’s COMPLETELY disruptive and none of our Sunbeams’ needs are being met, including Matt. We refuse to have the parents stay in class - we feel strongly that they need to have a break and enjoy church, and are doing our best to let them know we love their son and it’s ok to leave him with us. We need some good, solid help on how to make this work for all the children. We need some tools / resources. This article is the only useful one I’ve found, and I’ve really searched! I’ve found nothing useful / actionable that is specific to teaching an autism child in a structured class environment at church. Ideas?? Anyone??

EdMay 2, 2019

I am so proud of Brother Easton. To live in an enviroment for fours years where to many are UNCOMFORTABLE. It reminds me of someone else who may have been uncomfortable in His enviroment, Jesus Christ. There was a time in the Church when members were very uncomfortable with Catholics. Today, President Nelson and The Pope hug each other. Change is in the wind!

Sharon ShogrinMay 2, 2019

This is the best one yet! I loved listening to it. Keep up the good work and sharing it with us as we learn. Thank you!

Sharolyn BlumeMay 2, 2019

Being gay is not a sin. There is not just one "gay lifestyle." There are many members of the church who are attracted to people of the same sex. Some stay on the covenant path. For some that proves too difficult. Could they be stronger? Should they have more faith? Shouldn't we all? A moment comes to mind when the Savior said, "Let he who is without sin first throw a stone..." But if we hope to encourage our LGBTQ members to find a way to remain true to their covenants, we need to love and support them. I recommend the books "That We May Be One" and "In Quiet Desperation" to those who want to better understand our brothers and sisters who are gay. Matt, I hope you will continue to encounter members and leaders who will cheer you on just as your fellow students did. God bless you!

Kathleen CurtisMay 2, 2019

Excellent article. Thanks for framing the importance of our personal perspective so well. And live the quotes!

Glen GideonMay 2, 2019

I would love a copy of your list of 43 scriptures. I listen to your podcasts every week I learn so much from them. Thank you

TerryMay 2, 2019

I was diagnosed with an IBD called Ulcerative Colitis about a year ago with pretty much the same symptoms as Chrons and I know the pain, anxiety and embarrassment the symptoms can cause. Luckily the Doctors found the right medications to bring me into remission and I am thankful for that. Kudos to this young lady and the good man who will be by her side through this for the rest of her life. I too have a wife that stands with me in this. And nothing means more to me. Those with IBD may look quite normal and go about our business everyday...but every day we suffer. Keeping faith that the Lord will help us through the trial brings great comfort.

RoxAnne ChristleyMay 2, 2019

This was amazing Jodi! Thank you!

anonymousMay 2, 2019

After Prostate cancer, my husband is impotent and does not feel the pleasure of sex he once had. I do not know how to give him pleasure since this. After 47 years of marriage, I am insecure about approaching him so I don't. I know this is terrible but somehow I just don't know what to do! It is effecting our relationship due to lack of intimacy. What can I do to help him have a satisfying experience? HELP!!!

Ellen Hingst - May 2, 2019May 2, 2019

The clarion call from President Kimball, who said "Don't put off having your children" even if in school - with a spouse in graduate school, clinical psychology - how could I even think of bearing children, clinical directors counseled against getting married, much less children. I took it to the Lord, simply, in prayer. As I was driving home one night, all five of my children showed up in the car - each one with the looks (I saw in my mind so clearly) and personality - expressing to me that indeed, they are my children! How grateful I am for that experience that continues to strengthen me. I have gone on to have similar experiences with some of my grandchildren - how remarkable it is that we can have experiences and joy with those who we have contracts with and are strengthened by covenant relationships! Thank you for the article!

CW2SADMay 2, 2019

I’ve been concerned a lot lately about being okay-with-being-down. I do see a counselor, but between visits feel like I’m wasting their time. Thank you for once again listening to the Spirit and pouring wise, comforting words upon us who read everything you write.

EvelynMay 2, 2019

Thank you for helping to make this subject easier to understand. Agreeing with it in principle - on paper - so to speak, is one thing. Experiences along the lines of Amaleki's is another :) The quote from President Hugh B. Brown especially resonated with me: “Let us remember . . . that each of us is being tested, just as the finest cars and planes are tested before they are put into service. They are tested for weaknesses; they are tested for flaws....."

Janet HodnettMay 1, 2019

Could we get a copy of your list? We memorize scriptures as a family. Thank you!

AllisonMay 1, 2019

Your story gave me much comfort and courage in our family’s situation. Thank you!

vickieMay 1, 2019

I connect to this story as I have chronic IBS. I had this as a little girl and remember things that happened. it subsided for awhile then came back full force. these are autoimmune illnesses or diseases. hopefully one day there will be a cure. there are many more out there and different kinds of these autoimmune diseases. im old now and it ravages my body again and I am like a child who went going out to eat have to make sure where the bathroom is. it does curtail what I do. however, I understand the pain and realize that my Father in heaven knows and the Savior suffered for me. I have other illnesses as well and know that the Savior was right there for me.

Heidi WillMay 1, 2019

Thank you so very much for sharing! I loved reading this!

Ashley RohrerMay 1, 2019

Wow! Thank you for sharing! My 15 yo DD was diagnosed with this awful disease a year ago. I am so grateful I stumbled upon this to give her some hope and so she is reminded that her Savior is near. <3

Linda LundbergMay 1, 2019

Love your podcasts. PleSe send me the 43 fairh scriptures.

DebbieMay 1, 2019

We too would love your Faith Scriptures. Thanks for being such an inspiration!

Ella D HughesMay 1, 2019

I too shed a tear. I can feel for you as I have horrible pain at times in my feet and can't sleep. I know the Lord is with me and keeps me going and am blessed.

Jill Dowding-WalkerMay 1, 2019

I did not get married until I was 37. Several times before that I had suffered deep depression episodes. During some of those episodes, I seriously considered ending my life. Through those trials I often dreamed of a young child with wavy blonde hair, dressed in dungarees, running around a field, laughing as I chased. I always felt comforted by this recurring dream. The same dream sporadically over almost 2 decades of my life. When we married, we hoped to have a child, but as I had also had hormonal issues, thought that may not happen. My husband said it didn't matter; that I was enough for him, if that was how it was meant to be. After almost 3 years of marriage, even when I was alone in the house, I felt like someone was in the next room, or just behind me. After 5 weeks of this, when in spiritual receptivity, I felt prompted to buy a pregnancy testing kit. 8 months later, our beautiful, healthy, daughter was born. One summer day when she was 2½ we were playing on the village green in front of our cottage. She had blonde wavy hair, was wearing dungarees, laughing and running ahead of me chasing her. Suddenly I stopped in my tracks recognising, "This is the dream! It was her!" I had a spiritual witness to my soul that she had been telling me since my early 20s that this day would come. We were sealed as a family when she was 7.

Mike M.May 1, 2019

In 1638 Roger Williams founded the First Baptist Church in America. Many years later he wrote: "There is no regularly constituted church on earth, nor any person qualified to administer any church ordinances; nor can there be until new apostles are sent by the Great Head of the Church for whose coming I am seeking."

Brian EMay 1, 2019

Thank you for sharing her dream of the Savior. This article brought tears to my heart

DCMay 1, 2019

This makes me so uncomfortable. I don't think it was appropriate for him to do that there. It goes against The Proclamation on the Family, which I believe is a truly inspired document and should be made scripture. I have gay relatives and friends who I dearly love and have great relationships with, but the gay lifestyle is not God's way, even if people are born that way. This is doctrinal. In this context, proclaiming that you're gay and proud of it really isn't something to be cheered and applauded. Pride has always been and continues to be a killer of civilizations. Gay pride is definitely part of this. This makes me even more wary of BYU, which in some ways seems to be becoming increasingly like the world and society and our increasingly permissive culture at large, as are many Church members. The ways of the world are not the ways of God. This whole thing is more evidence to me that the great sifting is happening at an ever-increasing rate.

Patrick Elliott, Sr.May 1, 2019

Roger Williams, a founder of Rhode Island, circa 1603-1683, and a Christian minister, stated that there was not a true voice of Heavenly Father, or Jesus Christ, on the earth at his time, meaning not a true prophet with the keys and authority to do God's work on the earth.

JudyMay 1, 2019

I love the depth of understanding of this parable. I first learned this interpretation from the scholarly work of John Welch, a BYU scholar and professor.

DonnaMay 1, 2019

I’m so touched by her courage and renewal as she’s moved through her life—what a tough thing! On the surface, no one can see—but those are go love her know. Grateful for her sweet attitude and patient persistence.

hollandparkMay 1, 2019

Really appreciate this. Thanks for sharing your story and dream Camille.

LaRee MadsenApril 30, 2019

Your teachings are inspiring, thank you. Please add me to the list receiving the Faith Scriptures to memorize.

Philip A HarrisonApril 30, 2019

I'd like to recommend another book on recovery from pornography addiction. It is my own book, based on my own recovery from this terrible addiction. It is called Clean Hands, Pure Heart – Overcoming Addiction to Pornography through the Redeeming Power of Jesus Christ. It is based on the principles of the 12 Steps as understood to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Many approaches can give us understanding, but the power to change a person's heart comes through Jesus Christ and His Atonement. In this book I tell how gaining a personal relationship with Jesus has changed my heart and replaced torment was peace and a clear conscience.

Danna SkoyApril 30, 2019

What a beautiful and powerful moment for thousands of members. I'm so enormously proud of that young man. He truly is testifying of the love of God for all of us. Great example and inspiration for generations to come...he's making the world a better place for EVERYONE. God speed!

FloApril 30, 2019

Please add me to the list of those who would like the list of scriptures you are sending out.

Margaret StuartApril 30, 2019

would I also be able to get the list of scripture please. I enjoy listening to these podcast, I listen make notes, then go and study them. Thank you for all that you do.

Catlin Solome' BassettApril 30, 2019

Can I get your 43 faith scriptures? I love listening and learning from your words.

J. JamisonApril 30, 2019

I am being slightly facetious when asking this question: Why did I think of the article about the valedictorian reading this? Me: There is a conundrum...On the one hand, then on the other. I was born and raised in Hollywood, an identical twin. My sister loved tea parties and dolls, I was a tomboy. VERY grateful being born when I was (I am 60) - no assumptions made about either of us, as people make today. The question regarding "born like that?" I wouldn't answer, but only say I know many backgrounds that have led to choices on both sides. I love the Family Proclamation because it tells what Heavenly Father wants for His children. I also believe in percentages - not all (100%) relationships will fall into that category. The ONLY problem I had with the valedictorian was the "marriage".

EdApril 30, 2019

"There are no homosexual members of the Church. We are not defined by sexual attraction. We are not defined by sexual behavior. We are sons and daughters of God and all of us have different challenges in the flesh." - Elder David A. Bednar How quick we forget what the brethren teach.

JBApril 30, 2019

I question the appropriateness of making that type of announcement at graduation. Families with kids would be present. To me, that topic is is a deeply personal matter. Using graduation as a platform to politicize the event (and lecture the audience) seems like bad judgment. . But maybe I'm missing something. Can someone can explain how the tell all fits in with the Thirteenth Article of Faith? Is it something virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praise worthy that we should seek after? Does labeling oneself as LBGTQ provide an advantage in the eternities?. In his General Conference talk, “Where will this lead?” Elder Oaks said it "is also important in choosing how we label or think of ourselves. Most important, each of us is a child of God with a potential destiny of eternal life. Every other label, even including occupation, race, physical characteristics, or honors, is temporary or trivial in eternal terms. Don’t choose to label yourselves or think of yourselves in terms that put a limit on a goal for which you might strive."

Boanerges RubalcavaApril 30, 2019

I am a proud son off God, and am trying to follow the commandments given for us through His son our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore I will try with all my heart to follow Him complying with them. For instance I will try to keep the sabbath day holy, I will try to not have any other god before Him, I will not make an graven image and not bow down to them, I will not take His name in vain, I will honor my father and y mother, I will not kill any person, I will not commit adultery, I will not steal I will not bear false testimony, I will not covet. Hopefully this young man will do the same. I will also will follow His admonition of after being blessed by Him, to multiply and replenish the earth. I will also follow His prophet on earth in all the counsel he would give me. In few words I will Love my God with all my hearth and with all my soul and with all my strength and I will love my neighbor as I love myself, and for this I will try to be the best man I can be, attending the Temple and being married there for time and eternity to have an eternal family in Their presence as King and Queen with my wife. I feel love for this young man and hope that he and I will reach the greatest blessing on earth by follow His Son in every thing during our lives.

Pam RoderApril 30, 2019

Thank you for writing this much needed article! You managed to say important things that I needed to read/hear (in my brain)! Such a struggle and how did you say it...follow the one who is!.... I can do my best to follow because clearly, we need Him more than every to overcome the darkness that does visit more than I like! Thank you, thank you.

D HansenApril 30, 2019

I was at the graduation and frankly quite shocked at the response of those in attendance when this guy announced his sexual preference it was whooping and hollering and thunderous applause. I am with most of the those here that have made comments in questioning the time and place of his announcement. I don't think the response would have been the same if a unmarried woman stood and said she had been single for 20 years through no choice of her own but had chosen to remain true to her moral values. My point is was his talk about encouraging others to go out and be an example to the world or was it more about him seeking affirmation and pats on the back for his bravery at the expense of others in attendance? After his talk they awarded a post humorous degree to the widow of a student that had fought cancer courageously and with dignity but had succombed before he could the receive his degree. The response was polite but nothing like what the other fellow received. What a contrast! Do we have our priorities mixed up? I think we do...

Julie DavisApril 30, 2019

A man of God is the protector of his family and those in need. A man of God is the guardian of the ways of honor and courage. A man of God will not put his own desires above what is right. Above all, a man of God, is always motivated by his utmost duty.

Carolyn MietusApril 30, 2019

Somehow I missed the offer of the scriptures to memorize. How can I get them? Thank you so much.

vickieApril 30, 2019

I can only imagine how hard this must be to anyone discovering that they are indeed gay. I have a son who is gay. he was different when he was a little guy. as he got older it showed more. he didn't know it. he told me later that he realized something was different when he was 11yrs old. he was always good. he went on a mission as he wanted to. he had never done anything wrong. then at 33yrs old he comes out and tells us he is getting married to another man. I thought I would take it hard and his father would as well. I realized that he couldn't live without love in his life. I thought my husband would be so upset but instead he looked at me and said ...he is my son .and I love him very much. I realized at that moment so did I. I love him beyond anything else. I know that all we can do is pray and ask God for understanding. I cannot judge another because I am not in his shoes. also, I began to think how my son showed signs when he was little so there must be something biological about this. until we know any more than we do, what we do need to do is LOVE ONE ANOTHER. so to me LOVE transcends all things in God. I love my son and now his partner.

M C DobbsApril 30, 2019

Thank you for sharing these beautiful lessons. I too feel I am no longer studying alone. Each week I look forward to feasting on the word because of the insights you share. I am beginning to find greater meaning in my personal reading time as I see repeated themes you first introduced to me. Please include me in your email of scriptures for memorization. This is my goal for 2019 and I enjoy seeing what others are memorizing.

Julie A. IsmaelApril 30, 2019

I hope you do an article in Reliv, because it has been an answer to prayer and has totally changed my life for the better.

Michael Shea, MDApril 30, 2019

How profoundly I need this! I need to be reminded it daily, maybe more than daily. It’s a very difficult concept to understand and master. There are so many pitfalls, some of which you mentioned. Thank you.

Rhonda WilliamsApril 30, 2019

May I get a copy of the 43 Faith Scriptures referred to in your podcast?

Kate ChaneyApril 30, 2019

I am thankful that tough conversations are being had. For too long, this under represented portion of our congregations have had to hide.

DTApril 30, 2019

Thank you for addressing a very important topic. To the reader who wrote in, may I recommend she google The Julie Rowe Show. Julie has many podcasts. There is 1 on abuse, and many other helpful topics. Listening to her podcasts has gone very far in healing me, besides (of course) the gospel and healing power of Jesus Christ's atonement. I also recommend the current Sunday School study - Come, Follow Me. It is powerful and healing to all, even to us who did not experience love and kindness from those who we trusted.

Win BroadhurstApril 30, 2019

May I also have a copy of your Faith Scriptures please? Thanks so much for all you do!!

BrianApril 30, 2019

Another excellent resource for members of the church struggling with a pornography addiction is the book Power Over Pornography. Relying upon a gospel-centered application of cognitive behavior therapy, it is a new and innovative approach that works. It tends to be easier to implement than others as well.

Charles DefranchiApril 30, 2019

Dear Wally, how grateful I am to count you among my friends and be inspire and guided over so many years for such simple and powerful advice. Maybe we all need to come to Christ, but you have been one who, better than most, showed me how to get there. Once again, I will be a better individual for what you wrote in this article. Blessings as you say when ended messages.

BEV TAYLORApril 30, 2019

Seriously it was approved by BYU ahead of time WITH THE GAY COMMENT? or did he just add that to his approved speech? Did anyone check with BYU on it or just take his word? I'm asking because there wasn't ANYTHING in DESERET NEWS on it ?

Coy JonesApril 29, 2019

May I request a copy of the 43 Faith Scriptures? I enjoy listening to the podcasts. I learn so much. Your comments about the scriptures are inspiring. Thank you for all your hard work.

Anne JefferiesApril 29, 2019

I would like a copy of your list of scriptures. We have listened to each podcast as they come online. We have told our eight children and many others. We have loved Meridian Magazine since it began. Thank you for your many efforts on our behalf. We feel richly blessed by your many efforts.

Daniel DonnellyApril 29, 2019

I retired from my job because of severe asthma. As a result I have spent a large portion of my income for medication but have found nothing that works as well as a drop of Peppermint oil to quickly relieve an attack.

Linda SmithApril 29, 2019

How about talk about oils more generically for those of us who use DoTerra? Or maybe help by including what is in the blends Young Living makes?

Martha ClantonApril 29, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Carolyn. It has helped to answer a question I was wrestling with.

LaRae KerrApril 29, 2019

I already use Young Living Essential oils and would like to join your private wellness group on facebook. How do I go about that?

Wade DoyleApril 29, 2019

We would like the list of scriptures. We are really enjoying your podcasts! We tell everyone about them!

Helen OlstenApril 29, 2019

I always enjoy “the small and simple things” ideas as well as letting someone know they have been appreciated. It seems to me many people wait for the “eulogy” before appreciation is expressed.

Gail ReinhardtApril 28, 2019

We too would love to have a copy of your list of 43 Faith Scriptures to memorize if it is not too late. We love your podcasts.

Krystal BoyackApril 28, 2019

Powerful insights. You teach me so much!!! I would dearly appreciate your list of 43 scriptures. Thank you so much.

The HuntsApril 28, 2019

We would love to have a copy of your list of 43 Faith Scriptures to memorize if it is not too late to request one. We love your podcasts!

RitaApril 28, 2019

One of the scriptures used was 1 Timothy 6: 1-2 Let as many servants as are under the yoke count their own masters worthy of all honor, that the name of God and his doctrine be not blasphemed. And they that have believing masters, let them not despise them, because they are brethren; but rather do them service, because they are faithful and beloved, partakers of the benefit. The "servants" were, for the most part, either indentured (and would be released after their indenture was fulfilled), or captives taken in war (who could buy their freedom after a few years service.) The scripture did not address the generational, legalized slavery we had here in the US, and elsewhere in the West. Christian preachers would justify slavery by twisting Paul's words, while conveniently ignoring the words, "For all are alike unto God, both bond and free."

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C ShieldsApril 28, 2019

The veil between the pre-existence was thin for me, too – with each of my 4 pregnancies including communication prior to their incarnation. One, was prophesied to my new husband before either of us knew I was carrying a child. This was exciting news, as we were anxious to start our young family! The next one let me know her name (Jessica) and that she wasn’t going to stay, because she needed to be on the other side helping me with the child who was yet to come. I miscarried her shortly thereafter. With the third one, I was told the gender and name he was to be called here in mortality (Newell), which interpreted, means ‘solidity’ (something I often needed, along with Jessica’s help, in order to deal with his special needs!). Like the newel post that anchors the stairwell, he taught me how to stand strong while we dealt with the particular challenges his existence proffered. With my last one, the Spirit came over me one day, showing me a child who was anxiously awaiting his body – a blonde haired little boy. My sweet little caboose was born 9 months later. I am so grateful for these connections to eternity - witnessing the divinity this stewardship invokes. <3

KathleenApril 27, 2019

Through my tears I say thank you for being a true teacher. "To teach is to touch a life forever."

Janie AxelsonApril 27, 2019

I enjoyed this article very much! I work at a facility who have many people of one particular faith that has the mindset that Marsha Newman talked about, “they will be toast”. I try to explain that Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ loves us all so much and that all the righteous will have the opportunity to be taught, but this message does not compute. I can’t say enough how grateful I am for the Restored gospel of Jesus Christ!

Earl ChantrillApril 27, 2019

Wonderful insights, cousin. I think much in this article can be of worth to me and my family.

ChuckApril 27, 2019

Thanks for your kind-hearted, professional reply to this woman. My daughter experienced some physical abuse, and a lot of verbal/emotional abuse, for years. She ended that wretched marriage several years ago, and is now dating a good (also kind-hearted) man, a school teacher who is good for her and her two sweet daughters. I really appreciate what this guy is doing for them. I hope this lady incorporates your advice into her life.

K. Chin, Modesto, CAApril 27, 2019

Teachers have SO many pressures to comply with administrative dictates—and I’m not criticizing these dictates. I don’t believe very many teachers choose this profession because they dream of fulfilling administrative paperwork requirements. No, it has been my experience that teachers choose their profession more as a calling—hoping to make a difference in the lives of their students. Your article should give hope to teachers feeling overwhelmed—even bogged down—that they make a HUGE difference in the lives of some students. Also, as all of us have been students, your article is a great reminder of the importance to COMMUNICATE our thanks to those who have helped us on our life’s path.

carol Anne DeAdderApril 27, 2019

When my son was married in the Manti temple, I had a quick glimpse of three children standing at the altar. The third child who looked to be two years old, was running around the altar while the other two appeared to be girls, standing straight and reverently. Within six years, my son and his wife had three children, two girls and a busy little boy. Just as I had seen on his wedding day. These three children have been strong in the gospel all their lives.

Karen BukerApril 27, 2019

Of my ten children I only had an experience like this with one of them. That was my 9th child and the night before she was born I was aware of a beautiful young woman with long brown hair and a calm peaceful spirit standing by my bed. She said, “My name is Amy Jo” and then she left. I told my husband and he said, Then that’s her name. My 10th child, also a daughter, was born on Christmas Day and weighed 11 pounds 9 ounces. I had lost her twin at about 3 months but continued to carry her. The due date was in late October and the Dr. assumed I had conceived her after the miscarriage. She told me when she was very young that she had told the people she wanted to be born on Christmas and they told her that would be hard on me. She said she asked them if I would be okay and they told her I would. I don’t think she remembers that now but she definitely remembered it then.

Susan D'AndreaApril 27, 2019

After our third son was born, he would often look at a lamp or light and smile. I always thought he was remembering Jesus, whose "brightness and glory defy all description" (Joseph Smith 's description from the first vision). At our son's blessing some in the circle said that our baby looked up at the lights on the ceiling and smiled during his blessing. They also thought he was remembering Jesus.

coraApril 27, 2019

Geoff, thank you for your compassionate, insightful and informative answer. And, thank you Meridian for addressing the difficult topics. Our daughter was in an emotionally and verbally abusive marriage. She is struggling to heal, find her self-worth, and not let fear and distrust rule her life. Emotional and verbal abuse are forms of domestic violence. Often the perpetrator has a narcissistic personality and they are able to make the victim look the 'crazy one'. I wish that bishops and stake presidents were more educated and informed to spot this type of abuse and unrighteous dominion.

Patrick Elliott, Sr.April 27, 2019

A good article; however, as in almost all articles on the American War Between the States and Lincoln's involvement, there is absolutely nothing mentioned concerning Mercantilism, the Henry Clay American System, the Morrill Tariff Acts and what all this did to the economy and living conditions of the South. In reviewing the quotes Lincoln made, he was not the great emancipator nor were his intentions on the Emancipation Proclamation intended for freeing the slaves as the U.S. kept slaves in bondage in a number of places such as Baton Rouge as their labor was needed. The full intent must be brought out on this issue.

Lori BenyoApril 27, 2019

I've had numerous experiences like this. After our third child (2 boys and a girl) my husband felt our family was complete. I didn't so I prayed to ask the Lord how many children we should have. My patriarchal blessing said "there are choice spirits being reserved to come through your loins" so I wanted to make sure we weren't missing anyone. As I prayed I heard a distinct clear voice in my mind state " you will have (another) boy and two girls. It took me several years to talk my husband into that many children but he couldn't deny it was revelation when he saw that we did indeed have another boy and two girls. On another instance my 2nd child who was 4 at the time was sitting at the breakfast table when he announced he'd had a dream that he was an angel watching me. "Mommy you were doing very bad stuff like drinking beers and smoking cigarettes, but then you decided to be good and follow Jesus". I was pretty shocked to hear this. After high school I had gotten into a very bad relationship and was pulled down a negative path. It was a very dark time in my life and certainly not a memory I had shared with my small children. I realized that in spite of my struggles I had angels watching over me... My future children.

SuzanneApril 26, 2019

What a profound example of wise and loving parenting! Thank you so much for sharing this outstanding article.

Velia Coleman, CMHC, RNApril 26, 2019

Great article and I'd like to add an important comment about your tendency to get involved with other 'unhealthy' men. You've probably been conditioned to tolerate and accept demeaning treatment from abusive men. Seek a counselor or Psychologist specializing in deep psyche damage that can assist you in identifying and respecting your 'gut responses' to their first abusive or maybe sarcastic remarks. These are red flags about the person's abusive nature. Too easily, many people dismiss or minimize their uncomfortable or negative feelings around an unhealthy person to 'keep the boat from rocking'. Too many excuses we give ourselves for not respecting our responses. That is the Spirit warning you! Take care and God bless.

Gail StephensonApril 26, 2019

Waiting on the Lord is a principle of action!

Old GuyApril 26, 2019

My wife is an LCSW who specializes in working with abuse victims, so we talk on the topic a lot. I have to say this was a beautiful reply to the letter. Absolutely beautiful. The reason that verbal abuse is so absolutely damaging is because we eventually believe what is being said and inferred about us. The children's book "The Secret Garden" says it best: when you hear something about yourself enough times you start to believe it. We can heal from the physical abuse, but the person who heals from verbal abuse is far and few between. I am retirement age, but I am still fighting to overcome verbal abuse of my childhood that has left me with a lifetime of self-doubt and self-hatred. (When I was a child, therapy was looked at as "bad" and a crutch only a "weak boy" would seek.) The person who wrote this letter could very possibly benefit from time spent with a therapist to help her shift through the verbal abuse and recognize the lies so she can rid herself of them. God bless her!

W TaggApril 26, 2019

I also believe that new born babies remember their pre earth-life. I remember once holding my fussy little grandson,less than five months old.. I couldn't calm him down until out of the blue I asked him. " Do you remember Jesus. Immediately he stopped crying and looked up at me. I just kept talking to him about Jesus and Heavenly Father and he stayed perfectly calm the whole time. That was a long time ago and he is now a faithful returned missionary.

AnonymousApril 26, 2019

Truly I wish I had had this back in 1970. I married at 19 and had no idea about sexually intimacy, in fact, I went to the library after the honeymoon and check out of the special behind the desk section books about sex so I could participate. Thanks for opening this subject up. I have always believed it was a great gift given to us.

HalApril 26, 2019

I had similar experience to those expressed in the article and comments. When our youngest son was born, I felt my mother's presence in the delivery room. She had passed away unexpectedly five months earlier. I think these types of experiences are not limited to biological children. A dear friend of mine was showing The House of The Lord film strip to his family back in the 1980's. When the sealing room in the Salt Lake Temple showed on the screen, his then 5-year-old adopted son piped up and said "I know where that is; that's where you and mom got married." My friend looked dumbfounded at his son and asked, "How did you know that?" The boy pointed at the screen and said, "I was standing right over there." I love these tender mercies and glimpses into the eternities that bolster my testimony and give me hope for the future.

Susan HilbigApril 26, 2019

Our dear friend and sister in the Gospel passed away recently after a long struggle, during which she continued to teach and exemplify all she taught in classes and writings. She will be dearly missed. Thank you for publishing another of her wonderful messages.

Mary JurgaitisApril 26, 2019

I have known that I had experiences with ALL 6 of my children. I loved pondering on those experiences as a result of reading this article. The most important experience was seeing my children standing together and saying "NOOO, mom and dad! You can't be a ZPG advocate. You promised us." After we got married, we had determined that we weren't going to have any children. Then the missionaries knocked on our door. As our family grew and has grown to this point (now 15 grandchildren, we figured that our children sent the missionaries who taught us the plan of salvation (happiness). After we were baptized, we knew they had banded together to make that happen.

Steve PerezApril 26, 2019

I had a similar experience with one of our eight children before her birth, where her name came to me during a prayer. The veil is thin for dad’s too.

Carolyn BarnardApril 26, 2019

Brother Howard, your articles are always inspiring. Thank you.

Janet WiseApril 26, 2019

I think it applies equally to older temple and family history consultants who have the beastly task of searching for evidence of marriages performed for their ancestors!


Verse 4 - not 3!

Dave JacksonApril 26, 2019

I agree completely. We benefit so much more from inclusion in every way. Unfortunately, many members are not able to bring themselves to do so. My wife is a non-member, and even within our family while they are 'nice' there are certain ways she has been excluded over the years from the 'clique'. It has been a sore spot in our marriage and has had negatively affected her view of the church generally. So sad!

Angelsings. (Genia Stephenson)April 26, 2019

Thank you for your spot-on, insightful & viable input, especially, that verbal/emotional abuse can be as debilitating & damaging (if not more so) than physical abuse. A portion of a person withers away & dies when they've experienced any type of abuse. Do not remain in an abusive relationship. There are resources for help. And, find a good therapist; do not suppress your feelings because that will cause more damage to your overall psychological & physical well-being. Like yourself enough to see your worth.

AnonApril 26, 2019

I do find this article an interesting read and always appreciate when less discussed historical facts are talked about. Some other things I wish people understood were the fact that not all slaves were from Africa. There were many white slaves. There were an abundance of African slaves only because some African tribes would conquer others and enslave/sell them. Also, while slavery was a definite element in the Civil War it wasn't the cause. Historians say a lot smaller of a cause then is currently taught. There were a lot of issues between the north and the south, there were a lot of stubborn people, so war was likely inevitable either way

Mike M.April 26, 2019

Early in his public life, Thomas Jefferson was one of the first statesmen anywhere to take action to end slavery. In 1778 he introduced a Virginia law prohibiting the importation of enslaved Africans. In 1784 he proposed a ban on slavery in the Northwest Territory, new lands ceded by the British in 1783.

Jacqueline FarnsworthApril 26, 2019

I believe these stories because of similar experiences with preborn children in my life. Couples should pray for inspiration in choosing how many children to bear because there may be prior commitments made that should be honored. Thank you for this testimony building article.

Beverly AndersonApril 26, 2019

Well-written, informative and inspiring. Thank you so much.

AnnekeApril 26, 2019

Thank you for this article! Yes, until you can find a measure of healing, the verbal abuse affects future relationships, and not in a good way. I hope this piece will encourage those who have suffered from verbal abuse to get the help/healing they need and find peace.

Bev TaylorApril 26, 2019

what was the "misreading" in the Bible?

CW2SADApril 26, 2019

Vaughn J. Featherstone said once, essentially, if you don't smell cigarette smoke and alcohol during your sacrament meeting, your reactivation program isn't working. I'm not readily accepted in my ward and, as always, am very appreciative of your written words. Thank you, Sis Hilton

Eunice RobertsonApril 26, 2019

When my daughter announced she was pregnant with her second child, that night I dreamed I was holding a baby in my arms. He was communicating telepathically with me, and he kept saying, "My name is Michael. Please don't forget. Throughout my daughter's pregnancy this child would keep visiting me, repeating his message. I got to know him, that he had boundless energy, was always laughing, would always run everywhere. When my daughter delivered her child, it wasn't him, but a little girl, and I told my daughter there was a little boy yet to come. In the 6 years until he finally came to earth, Michael kept visiting me, and the last dream I had of him, he appeared to be about 3 or 4 years old. When he was born, he looked so much like the child I had seen in my dreams. I warned my daughter of his energy, his intelligence, his laughter, and he is absolutely the same child of my dreams, and of course, his name had to be Michael, as he had told me before.

Ana BlakeApril 26, 2019

I am in my mid forties, the mother of 11 children who are so far on track to do all the things parents want, keep the commandments, serve missions, get educations, marry well, and begin to establish their own families. I TOTALLY get the ideas Richard eyre is talking about here about control, ownership, and independence. I have come to realize that the main (only?) thing we can control is which way we are oriented—toward God, or not. Everything seems to flow naturally from that. At times in my life I have felt like I was beating my head against a brick wall, trying to control my circumstances when it would have been better to relax and accept them instead. I suppose it has a lot to do with the fine line between faith and works, like knowing when to be still and know that he is God and when to work as if everything depended on you. Anyway, it is exciting to me to see what someone else seems to have come to similar conclusions.

Oscar MunozApril 25, 2019

You are welcome. 2 Nephi 10:2 was/is a witness given to me through the Holy Spirit “after all I could do” for him.

Gary LawrenceApril 25, 2019

Good info and insights, Rick. Thanks.

Roger HoffmanApril 25, 2019

This is a wonderful article. Definitely worth re-reading!

MelanieApril 25, 2019

Wow! Thank you for these amazing insights and depth of understanding!

ColinApril 25, 2019

That’s BURL Ives. I grew up on his music, like Little White Duck.”

kim hulbertApril 25, 2019

Best you've done since I started listening in January. I love the added insights in this presentation. You've taken us outside the box. Thank you

MarilynneApril 25, 2019

Oscar, Thanks for bringing this scripture to my attention. I wish I had used it in the article.

Douglas E NadybalApril 25, 2019

The word "either" does not appear in the verses you selected. It states "and". The "dichotomy" does not exist in the text.


How often do we go to the ever living God first instead of last? In whom do we put our trust? Is it in our education, our money, our wisdom? I once had a cat who was very attached to me. He choose me as his human. We were as bonded together as any animal and human could be in my view and one day in my office the cat "sox" was sleeping on my desk chair and I was sitting on the couch. A "new" noise occurred in our back yard. The first thing Sox did was to look to me., If I was alright with me it must be safe. I assured him that it as ok and he went back to sleep never looking outside to see what caused the noise. I have often looked at the event as a great lesson in my relationship with Him who is might to save and knows all the dangerous and safe noises in this lesson we call earth life.

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Keith WilsonApril 24, 2019

Jeff, These are some really cogent thoughts about reason and revelation. thanks for bringing them together in such an uplifting way. Have you ever noticed that we often use D&C 8:2-3 to talk about revelation coming either through the heart or through the mind? After pondering this dichotomy, I wonder if the heart and mind often are almost coequals in the process of revelation. I am loving your articles. A fellow teacher, Keith

Oscar MunozApril 24, 2019

2 Nephi 10:2 “ For behold, the promises which we have obtained are promises unto us according to the flesh; wherefore, as it has been shown unto me that many of our children shall perish in the flesh because of unbelief, nevertheless, God will be merciful unto many; and our children shall be restored, that they may come to that which will give them the true knowledge of their Redeemer.” This scripture gives me hope for my “wandering child.”

Gary HansenApril 24, 2019

Very nice story of a teacher going above and beyond and changing the life of a student. Very simple and yet effective because of his sincerity. He was probably prompted to do what he did by the Holy Spirit.

SaraLynApril 24, 2019

What a beautiful photo- thank you! Only problem- I accessed it on my phone, thinking it would be emailed, but then I got it right away on my phone. I’m not sure how to use it on my phone. I tried to request it on my computer thereafter, but it isn’t working, perhaps because I already downloaded it once? It’s not a big deal, but if someone knows the solution to this, I’d love to know as it sure is a lovely picture! Thanks!

B. AllenApril 24, 2019

Bravo! So well written. And so on point. Thank you for this excellent article.

McClellan RobinApril 24, 2019

One of my favorite sayings came to mind as I read this. People don’t care how much you know till they know how much you care. Brother Howard you are a true disciple leader.

BonnieApril 23, 2019

Very beautiful and powerful. Thank you for sharing this article by the late brother Gibbons.

DavidApril 23, 2019

It’s nice to lnow about the open houses, but this one has been “sold out” almost since it was announced. Disappointing when one logs in to site as advertised only to learn it is full. Members in OKC tell us that tour group sizes have already been doubled too. Just FYI. I love the open houses.

E. TafsinApril 23, 2019

I agree with the mental health evaluation comment. The husband’s actions and feelings could very well be symptomatic of depression. We are just barely beginning to address depression as a viable disease entity that needs diagnosing and treatment just like diabetes, cancer and a host of other medical disorders. Such an individual under proper medical care can continue to have a healthy quality of life supported by loving family and friends.

DeeBApril 23, 2019

This article shares an ideal at best, but statistics are showing a higher prevalence of pornography use which warps prospective marriages in their expectations of eachother and the sexual experience.

AnonymousApril 23, 2019

This is a great article! I have benefitted so much from your books! You talk a lot about the "Good Girl Syndrome". I would love to see equal attention paid to what might be called the "Bad Girl/Boy Syndrome". Immorality is a plague that is affecting so many. If we are honest, I believe most of us are "wired wrong" by our constant exposure to worldly views of sexuality, and most people have probably had some encounter with immorality to one degree or another--whether in thought or deed. How do we "Rewire" sexually, the way God intended for us? How can we move into the "Sacred Intimacy" that Elder Jeffrey R Holland speaks of in "Souls, Symbols and Sacraments"?

Scott WApril 23, 2019

Eternal marriage in the new and everlasting covenant is a doctrine (D&C 132:19). Plural marriage is a practice based upon that doctrine.

TawnaApril 23, 2019

I love Gopi's example in loving young Surya. That example is something I want to remember. Thank you for sharing this, Becky, and thank you for posting such uplifting articles, Meridian!

HannahApril 23, 2019

What a beautiful reminder as a parent. Our whole goal is love as parents, we can't forget to internalize that and then react according to that love.

ToddApril 23, 2019

Thank you so much, thus is coming as our daughter has just become dating age. There are so many things for her to learn. This is excellent news to facilitate. Our son is not far behind By way of long term marriage issue in the same vein there is so much negativity around the topic of physical intimacy. I don't know how to get my wife to be open and willing to learn, beyond my trying to share or present resources. Therefore an affectionless marriage, because of certain views and stigmas

LewisApril 23, 2019

A touching and profound essay. What a gift she has!

AngieApril 23, 2019

Everyone needs love, and disobedient children are often craving it the most. You can discipline the action, but don't forget to love on that child even more. Thanks for your ongoing lessons and reminders, Becky.

Caroline OrdnerApril 23, 2019

I needed this today, thanks Becky!

Dianna BurkApril 23, 2019

Beautiful! Also good to know that even parents who are fumbling along in the dark can succeed!

DavidDApril 23, 2019

The first thing I would suggest to anyone in the Church talking about sex is to please, please, please NEVER use the term "procreative powers." The implication is that the main, and maybe the only, purpose of adult intimacy is or should be to spawn children, and any other purpose or design is secondary at best. And maybe even displeases God. Adult intimacy, practiced in a healthy manner, has everything to do with bonding and joy and only incidentally and extraordinarily infrequently does it have anything at all to do with procreation. Even for, and maybe especially for, young marrieds, these are "bonding powers."

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I was so delighted to get right in under your new sign in. Thanks so much for making my early morning browsing so ...... what word could possibly fit - I guess joyous.

Mark MathesonApril 23, 2019

Becky tells profound stories so clearly and touchingly. May we take her stories and apply them in our teaching, leading, and parenting.

BeckyApril 23, 2019

Marci, you are too kind! Actually, the blessing was mine. The beautiful love given by two-year-olds is unmatchable. I carry it with me still today! And I might add, that you have been MY inspiration through the years! Thanks!

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I have to thank you, Scott and Maurene for the wonderful picture I hope to download. I enjoy Meridian Magazine very much. Have for years. I can't imagine why people get so testy. You provide a wonderful service which I enjoy almost every day. Thank you!

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Aloha Scott and Maureen, you two are the dearest and my husband and I would also wait as long as needed for this inspired magazine/resource to be functioning & back to its’ usual self, Your tremendous labor of love and faith bring an increase of faith, understanding ,peace hope, and joy to countless numbers of us. Mahalo nui loa from our hearts and home to yours. We pray for your and all your staff and contributors regularly. With the warmest of aloha and the prayers for abundant blessings

No ThanksApril 22, 2019

My 5 year old sister has homework.

Random PersonApril 22, 2019

I live in the states and all of my brothers and sisters who are in elementary and I have had homework when we were 5

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Weird I never had a problem with links or anything and I visit the site every day to share your stories on my facebook page.

Rose C. WalkerApril 22, 2019

I wondered what was going on with the links, but I figured sometimes there are just glitches in sites and wasn't too worried that it wouldn't be fixed. Hard to understand people actually being mad about it.

MarciApril 22, 2019

The work Becky has done and is doing in India is simply amazing. She is an incredible woman with much wisdom. When my daughter moved into their ward with my 2 year old grandson, she found out that Becky was the nursery coordinator. My daughter's response was, "I have hit the motherlode! Becky will be teaching my son!!" I am absolutely certain that if Becky would have gone to that Friday night meeting, everyone would have come home with a notebook full of parenting tips. Not just of John and Becky's parenting advice, but she would have pulled everyone's great ideas from them! She is phenomenal.

D. McCrackenApril 22, 2019

It is such a blessing to see this happen, in a country where bloodshed and struggle and hatred have occurred, the Lord overcomes and establishes His House. The stone is surely rolling forth!

Katherine FagerstenApril 22, 2019

A true is through the Spirit that we can effectively patent our children. What an insightful article!

Nicola in New ZealandApril 22, 2019

Thanks for all you do. Loving the come follow me podcast. Hadn't noticed any issues...but I'm way south, so by the time I got it, it was probably fixed!!

HalApril 22, 2019

Thank you for a wonderful site where I can access news and articles that uplift and motivate me. Thank you for following the prophet's call to make definitive changes to how we identify ourselves as disciples of Christ. I appreciate all the efforts you have gone to in producing this wonderful website. I cannot thank you enough.

Lisa CorcoranApril 22, 2019

Beautifully said Becky. Love your articles and love what you do. Thank you

BrettApril 22, 2019

This article was absolutely fantastic. Just what I needed to hear as a parent and I’ll be sharing this with others as well!

Bethany WarnerApril 22, 2019

Beautiful photo. Thank you!

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Son como Ángeles cumpliendo su misión en la tierra..

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Thank you so much for all your work and dedication to help us along the path home. It has made a difference in my life and my journey. The knowledge I’ve gained has brought me closer to our Father in Heaven and our Savior. Also, your beautiful gift will bless our home and constantly remind us of Christ’s love and sacrifices. I’m grateful.

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Tim MitchellApril 22, 2019

I got copies of Patti's books for my grandchildren for Easter. When I read those books, the Spirit bore witness of the truthfulness and reality of our Savior's mission, His atonement, and His love for me and each of us. Patti's videos are also wonderful. Other than the scriptures, I can't think of a more meaningful gift we could share with our children. Thank you, Patti.

Lee GrobergApril 22, 2019

Experience is often the best teacher. Becky tells it like it is and I have learned a good lesson from Gopi and the defiant young student. Thanks for sharing.

Cleve HorrocksApril 22, 2019

Ted was and is a great man! He was a friend to all, and an example of true Christ-like love. As a new member of his ward, he sought us out and invited us over to his home on several occasions. We were saddened to learn of his cancer, and doubly saddened when he moved. The Lord preserved him and called him to serve as a Stake Patriarch for the last few years of his life. Many have been blessed, not only by his writings, but by his life as well. A great teacher, a great example, a great friend. We would all do well to learn from his example. We pray for his family, knowing that they have been taught well. Lydia, thank you for sharing him with us all. Thank you for re-posting his wonderful articles.

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A wonderful essay! Parent or not it's well worth reading, especially for the sweet and powerful message and the invitation to apply the lesson.

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It saddens me to the core that you received "any" harsh comments on doing what the prophet has counseled. You provide a wonderful treasure for millions of people and it is sad that some of us have no patience or understanding. Keep up the awesome work!!!

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David PerryApril 21, 2019

"Blessed are the peacemakers." Simple. Profound. Lynne, you are a great peacemaker. I have seen that all of your life. You will be blessed.

Debra L TowsleyApril 21, 2019

Excellent article with great insights. Well done.

ConcernedApril 21, 2019

Has this husband had a mental health evaluation? From what little we know from this letter, I think he needs one. It might help him figure out what's going on.

LindaApril 20, 2019

Beautiful as always. Made me feel like I was there. It so touched my heart Thank you Proctors.

Daniel BakerApril 20, 2019

A very good read, very thoughtful.

Anne WoodardApril 20, 2019

A wonderful article—a great way to usher in Easter Sunday. Thought-provoking and uplifting insights into what Peter probably experienced. Thank you.

J ChadwickApril 20, 2019

Thank you for this information! I had no idea that this kind of healing approach existed. I'm excited to look into this!

MarkusApril 20, 2019

Thank you, dear Sis. Hilton, for discussing this important topic relating to the power of the atonement of Jesus Christ including the justice and grace of our God at this Easter Season, which is all about the good tidings founded on the divine sacrifice of our loving Savior. It is the main reason for the Gospel of Jesus Christ to be the Great Plan of Happiness. I appreciate your definition of the adversities in life (also interpreted as tests in your article), with these clear words: trial, hardship, learning, crash course, God’s work with us, blessing, something that brings us closer to God, reason to turn to God for understanding and help, opportunity to increasing in faith and grow into the people he wants us to become, tribulation, opportunity to bless others. I appreciate these defining words as they clearly suggest that these celestially designed “tests” (test as a non-scriptural word surely requiring a gospel-based definition) are not the same as the telestially designed, secular (pass/fail) tests we often encounter in life and sometimes confuse with life’s “tests” that are part of the divine Great Plan of Salvation. (I so love the wisdom of Elder Robbins who recently linked our divinely permitted mortal challenges with the promise of endless second chances to succeed). I am grateful for Pres. Nelson’s most recent characterization of Christ’s roles in our lives which helps me understand adversity as a divinely orchestrated headwind carrying me ever closer and closer to my Heavenly Father, a long as I desire to remain faithfully connected with my Savior: "But this feeling of being penalized is engendered by Satan. He tries to block us from looking to Jesus Christ, who stands with open arms, hoping and willing to heal, forgive, cleanse, strengthen, purify, and sanctify us." (April 2019, General Conference) Finally, this is really helpful, too: Your notion that we may be “testing” others in life clearly helps see that life’s “tests” do not resemble secular (pass/fail) tests. As “testing” others would mean that we were failing our tests as we are not really supposed to be doing so. Thus, this notion helps understand that life’s challenges are for our growth, and for our becoming, with endless second chances, even for our becoming less and less of a “test” for others, in the course of our mortal experience. Thank you, again, for this most important topic regarding our trust in life and Deity!

Lori SmithApril 19, 2019

This was truly wonderful to hear and feel the Savior in the scriptures shared! My heart is rejoicing now as " I think of His hands pierced "and feet bleeding for my sins. I feel the VICTORY in His perfect sacrifice for me a sinner who keeps trying. Thank you for loving and sharing your passion with me. Truly blessed from your depth of scriptures shared and ideas of our Savior' depth and reaching out for us lost sheep!

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JMApril 18, 2019

Yes, I should have been more precise in writing that opening paragraph. March 26, 1830 is the date the Book of Mormon was published. The coming forth of the Book of Mormon is the sign the Savior gave that the gathering of Israel had begun. March 26, 2030 (just a few years from now) is the 200th anniversary of that event. My apologies for not making that more clear in the opening paragraph.

MartinApril 17, 2019

It is a very good article except for the very first paragraph. The first paragraph distracts the reader from the actual article. We are all reading this trying to figure out what you know about 2030 as the time when some mysterious prophecy will be fulfilled. When we reach the end, we realize you are actually talking about 1830 being when the fulfilling was begun. There is no information in the article at all about 1830.

CubbyApril 17, 2019

Warm greetings Ed and Troy. I think I know the answer. I am a retired English teacher and a neurolinquist. See if this makes sense, and I hope the author will read it and correct it for us, especially if I did not understand. Congrats, Ed, i am a couple of years behind you. March 26th, 2030, is not only the 200th anniversary of the publishing of the Book of Mormon, it is also the date of the fulfillment of one of the most important prophecies in world history. Both Enoch and the Savior foresaw this event, and declared it to be the sign of the beginning of the Lord’s work, to get the world ready for the Second Coming. I think our writer used an unspecified referential index. He would be clearer to use referential indexes. In other words he needed to specify what “it” refers to. Going to the end of the essay it becomes clearer, I think. And in 2030, we will get to celebrate the 200th anniversary of the fulfillment of that great sign—the Book of Mormon coming forth and covering the earth like a flood—which tells everyone that the prophesied latter-day gathering of Israel is underway. Let me try and see if it is clearer and I hope our author will correct any mistakes I made. March 26th, 2030, is not only the 200th anniversary of the publishing of the Book of Mormon, it, March 26, 1830, is also the date of the fulfillment of one of the most important prophecies in world history. Both Enoch and the Savior foresaw this event, the coming forth of the Book of Mormon, and declared the coming forth of the Book of Mormon to be the sign of the beginning of the Lord’s work, to get the world ready for the Second Coming.

TroyApril 17, 2019

Where do you get the date of March 26th?

Ed GowenApril 17, 2019

The 200th anniversary of the publishing of the Book of Mormon on March 26th, 2030, is undoubtedly a wonderful event to anticipate. I'm 73 now and will be just short of 84 if I last that long in mortality. I'm really curious why you believe the 200th anniversary will be the date on which the prophecy will be fulfilled. Also, it's not clear to which prophecy you refer. It seems to me that the prophecy concerning the start of the gathering was fulfilled back in 1830.

Gail BowmanApril 16, 2019

These things have been a part of our family traditions for many years and it has been a great blessing for us. I loved and felt validated seeing it in writing. Thank you so much. We now continue these traditions with our grandchildren. One thing not mentioned that we do and our children love is a re-enactment of the original Hebrew Passover. Everyone dresses as ancient Israelites and we eat the Passover with our hands using wooden bowls by candlelight. A strip of long red material blows in the wind on our outer doorway signifying of the blood on the door post. We sing hymns of the Savior and talk about the symbolism of each element of the Passover and how it applies to the Atonement of our Savior Jesu Christ. In the “Come Follow Me” program it says in Jesus’ day they “gathered together to remember the deliverance of the house of Israel from slavery...” as I read that this week I think I want to add to our tradition this year Our stories of “deliverance” by the Lord. I would like to hear each person who wants to to testify of a special way the Lord has “delivered” them from a trial or difficulty, a bad habit or temptation, or a very difficult circumstance. I believe that will add even more to the specialness of the evening as we remember what Christ/Jehovah has done for each of us specifically!

Sister Dana MaglebyApril 16, 2019

Heather, I loved this story for several reasons: it takes place in OUR mission (amazing we are in the same mission with Alexis, but we've never been close enough to see her), because you followed a prompting in the middle of the night and brought incredible blessings for your entire family, because Heavenly Father put the pieces together so Alexis could follow up with your missionary moment before she goes home, and because when I saw the picture of Jean she looked so much like your wonderful mother! Did you notice that, too?! We love it here in the SIM, and wish we could see Alexis before she goes home. We've heard awesome things about her! By the way, we were talking to a store clerk here who wanted to know when Donny was coming back to do a concert! He started asking me all about Donny and Marie, knowing more about them than we did! Sure love your family! Enjoy having your sweet daughter home.

MaryannApril 16, 2019

It is made very clear in the temple that the promises made are conditional upon obedience and ongoing repentance. While it is true that the Savior and our Heavenly Father never give up on us, there are no promises that all of our straying children will receive the blessings of the Celestial Kingdom. That is predicated upon worthiness. Receiving an inheritance in the Celestial Kingdom is not just getting to a place. It is received by becoming a true disciple of Jesus Christ--it is BEING a faithful person. It is interesting to note that we have been cautioned about making promises at funerals about what kingdom the deceased is qualified for. Only God can judge and make that determination, based on each individual, how much they understood in this life, and whether they were as faithful as they could be in their circumstances. As members of Christ's church, we should never give up hope, and continue to pray for and lovingly nourish those who have wandered away from the gospel and the church.

Buffie BarkdullApril 16, 2019

I could hear Ted’s powerful voice as I read this article. I am so grateful for the blessings of his writings and the example of his life that he left for us. A gentle giant has gone home.

David ChristiansenApril 16, 2019

"Come lay his books and papers by." He was a great teacher. His insights and testimony will be missed. He helped make me a better teacher.

HalApril 16, 2019

Thank you for this article. It reminded me of the many times I have seen someone who looks so familiar to me and yet we could not discover where we had met before. I am convinced that our pre-mortal associations sometimes manifest themselves in mortality. I am even more grateful to know that our mortal connections can continue in the life beyond and into eternity. Thanks again!

Charles DefranchiApril 16, 2019

President Kimball went to see a young Latter-Day Saint Inmate in jail. Instead of asking him what had brought him there and why he had committed such serious crimes as a Latter-Day Saint, he told the young man:"tell me about your mother." The next question was, "tell me about your father." No scolding, no lecturing. Maybe this good Sister could establish a fruitful dialogue with her mother in the same manner:"tell me about your parents, upbringing, etc." And maybe this would help to understand her over-controlling behavior.

Sally SmithApril 16, 2019

Dear Brother Goddard, Thank you for writing these words of wisdom about the gifts of God. It gave me a whole new way of thinking about my gifts and how to better serve with them. I am a caregiver now and my gift of compassion and understanding of their situation are used everyday. I used to live in Sherwood and have been to your talks and fireside. So grateful for your spirit and gifts of the spirit that you give so freely in your life.

LaurieApril 15, 2019

Thank you for sharing these insights.

Mike BringhurstApril 15, 2019

One of the reasons this gives me so much hope and comfort is that not only do my wife and I have some children that we are so concerned about in this regard, but also because I feel like I myself am a wayward child in so many ways. I am very sure that my parents, who are now in the 'world of spirits', find great comfort in this message as well.

Kathleen ChinApril 15, 2019

I am not a musician—although I do my best to TRY to not sing too off-key in the alto section of my ward choir. This said, some of the most sacred experiences I have had in my life have been through music! My heart thrills when I see and hear the soul-uplifting and soul-comforting music from the MANY talented, dedicated, and immensely HARDWORKING musicians and vocalists in our Church. Welcome Joseph Peeples! Thank you for your GREAT SERVICE (and THANK YOU to ALL of the organists on Temple Square, as well as ALL of the wonderful musicians, vocalists, directors...and EVERYONE involved....) Your service is a heaven-sent gift to not only the members of our church, but, truly, to all the world! K. Chin, Modesto, CA

DL AndersonApril 15, 2019

It is good to know (or remember?) that "salvation" means one of the 3 degrees of glory and not just the Celestial Kingdom. I'm not sure I saw it mentioned in the article, that is only why I mention it here. Regardless of that, it's good to know that we have those wonderful bonds to look forward to. I have no children, but experienced the reverse - saving my parents! However, I just did the ordinances. I'm sure both sets of parents continued to love and minister to their childrent when they arrived in the Post-Mortal realm. We're never alone in the work - regardless of how the adversary may make us feel.

Donna PendletonApril 15, 2019

Heather - This is beautiful - thank you for sharing! Our Heavenly Father knows and if we follow His promptings, great things will happen. Such a great reminder for us all! All the best for your daughter - please thank her for her service! Love to you and all your family!

richard martinApril 15, 2019

very cool. i served in Ireland '73-75 so this caught my eye very quick. Hopefully i can learn how to share on social media such as this.

HalApril 15, 2019

I loved this article! It reminds me of the many times I have been prompted to help someone or otherwise connect with someone in a way that led to a gospel-related discussion. I'll probably have to wait until I get to the other side to see the full effect of acting on those promptings, but I find joy in knowing that I acted on inspiration regardless of the outcome.

CeciliaApril 14, 2019

I saw this page only today but, still, I want to thank you for the research of the statements from all 17 prophets of this dispensation inviting us to the House of the Lord. So powerful and helpful to strenght those who need to be encouraged. Something I was looking for. Many, many thanks.

Cynthia WoodApril 14, 2019

Thank you Scott for sharing your insights with us! I enjoy everything that you wrote and you were podcast as well!

MikeApril 14, 2019

False assumptions- So true for us too. My wife said she didn't want to have children before we married and I didn't believe her. We delayed stopping contraceptives for a couple of years until she wanted a baby. Then we experienced a little brush with infertility for a few years. When she finally did get pregnant, she wanted the baby but didn't really want to be pregnant. So she totally ignored it. No prenatal care until late and no symptoms except an enlarging abdomen. When her mother finally made her go get checked out, she asked the doctor, can you just put me to sleep for these last few weeks and then wake me up when its all over and hand me the baby? No. Later, the baby was 2 weeks overdue and they were going to do a C-section the next day. We were talking about writing a book called: How to laugh your way through pregnancy- when her water broke. The next 6 hours were like going through a category 5 hurricane outdoors. Without going into details, she almost died but they managed to save mother and our feisty little girl. I claim the doctor didn't have to slap her on the rump to get her breathing, she slapped the doctor. My wife was in the hospital for a week and home flat on her back in bed for the rest of a month. Motherhood didn't really start until then. (Almost had the girl toilet trained.) Lucky we had a strong extended family support system. She was going to continue working from home programming computers for NASA but her career direction changed to programming children; first her own and then other people's children as a music teacher at a Methodist school that doesn't require a teaching degree. I laugh now when she expertly picks up a baby or child and gently quiets it. I think to myself, she really doesn't know what she is doing. Yet another false expectation, retroactive. I wish you the best and also really like your mountain painting in the nursery.

TJApril 14, 2019

Excellent information about what it takes to get a movie released internationally. I think it is important for us to know how things actually work so we can use the system as it exists to accomplish our goals.

KateApril 14, 2019

Start every interaction with agreement as to any advice she gives you and praise. Thank her for caring about the way look, then ignore the advice. "Oh Mom, I appreciate so much your love and care for me. You've always wanted only the best for me." Then speak of something else that she is interested in and give more praise.

MaryannApril 14, 2019

I think we sometimes forget that, since we are ALL descended from Adam & Eve, when all the temple work has been completed, we will ALL be sealed to one another--the entire human race--ONE FAMILY!

SusieApril 14, 2019

A book that has been recommended for people who have problems with controlling family is Boundaries by Henry Cloud.

Gordon J HensleyApril 13, 2019

When the Equal Rights Amendment was being promoted back in the 70's and 80's, we were ridiculed when we said that they were trying to force us to accept unisex bathrooms. I see nothing has changed.

Neal ChristensenApril 12, 2019

this is called "ripening for destruction."

Cat SteeleApril 12, 2019

My husband thinks Joseph Smith is not as uneducated as people around him thought he was and he with others compiled the Book of Mormon (from other sources) longer than what is proposed. I don't know how to answer him because I haven't yet found a rebuttal on these theories. Help?

RanaeApril 12, 2019

The author didn't answer the question "Is it okay for kids?" That depends on the kids. I would recommend watching it first if you have younger children, or those who are sensitive. The author didn't mention watching a disabled boy being kicked around by bullies, a bus fall from an overpass, the members of a board meeting being terrorized directly and behind a smoked glass wall, or a little boy getting lost in a crowd and not able to find his mom. Children are the primary characters in this movie, so unlike many other action movies, children are being directly targeted by the "bad guys". The rating is well-deserved.

Juliannah AshbyApril 12, 2019

I love the idea of doing something each day! Is anyone else having trouble with the pdf downloading???? I would love to get a copy.

S. GlavinicApril 12, 2019

This is a wonderful idea! Thank you. I particularly like the 'vigil', waiting for the resurrection. I also like the symbolism of the candle at the altar (the light of Christ) which is passed from person to person to person until it fills the whole room (symbolizing that we can pass the Light of Christ to those around us by the examples we set, and He can light us all).

Karlene DanceApril 12, 2019

Your ideas for Easter Week are so wonderful. I love putting Christ back into Easter and making this a Holy week. Thank you

Anna FeatherstoneApril 12, 2019

though I know when that day comes it will involve endurance and pain and exhaustion and sacrifice,.... How about that for another false paradigm??! We have more influence on our own birth process than we know sisters!! Xxx

Don BetoApril 11, 2019

I think Mitch Davis is completely on target and I appreciate his honest assessments. While I agree with the importance of having high production values and name stars, that in itself doesn't guarantee success. It's also the writing. How many turkeys have we all seen with a stellar cast and top-notch production values? Our stories has to be compelling and on par with the BEST of Hollywood, for the best writers are our competition. Without great writers, we will always be provincial.

CubbyApril 11, 2019

I have never had the privalege of going to my ancestrat home in Europe, but mt sister did on here mission. She brought me back a tea towel. There ob the tea towel was a girl with a chin like mine, a face much like mine. I couldn’t use it, I got a frame and hung it in the living room. It feels like a piece of my roots hanging on the wall. Glad you got to enjoy your “roots” vacation!

Corey J.April 11, 2019

The Prophet Joseph Smith spoke about what the name means, and I was waiting to see that here, and, unless I missed it, I am saddened that the author did not include it.

Marsha NewmanApril 11, 2019

Such a beautiful, clear and concise treatment of the spirits in Spirit Prison and the organization to teach them as one last compassionate act that members of the lord's church can do for brothers and sisters. All other Christian churches (as far as I know) teach that since "this life is the time for man to prepare to meet God" that millions, indeed billions, will be condemned to remain eternally as disembodied spirits. As one of my Christian friends put it, "They'll be toast!" The true Gospel of a loving Father and His Son will leave no one out who desires to live with God again! Thanks be to His Restored Church to correct false doctrine!

KentApril 11, 2019

Daris, you are one of my very favorite on-line columnists. You have a gift for describing the human condition in relatable and human terms. So "Snakes and Sunk Boats' becomes an instant classic here in the SE USofA. I don't prowl rivers looking for snakes but I do fish in a lake with sycamore trees and snakes crawl in those all the time. So I've seen my share of sunk boats and for that very reason. FUNNY stuff. BTW, advise your daughter the correct way to address a group of people in this corner of the country is NOT 'y'all' but rather 'all y'all'. The former is singular person in correct usage.

RhianApril 11, 2019

Beautifully taught. Thank you!

DJApril 11, 2019

I remember how fun it was to watch you with Johnny Carson on the Tonight Show, thinking "and she's a Latter-day Saint"!

Pattie SkousenApril 11, 2019

Thank you for your amazing work you have done on the first movie. I was so impressed I watched it many times and had my family watch it with me. I look forward to seeing your sequel and telling others about it. As you talked about the 4 missionaries who were handing out the Book of Mormon to those who were entering to see the movie--and those who scoffed at them--reminded me of Lehi's Dream and the Great and Spacious Building. I am truly grateful for your continued work on this important part of giving to the world a better perspective on our faith and the divine work that has been our charge to do. I will try to do my part.

Harold RustApril 11, 2019

There's an even deeper meaning to the paradigm you describe and that is the parallel between such a new experience to what it will feel like for us when we pass on to the other side. We may now think we know what paradise will feel like and, as members of the Church, we may be convinced we know all about the here-after. However, just like you and your updated reflections on child-bearing, we won't really know what heaven is like until we're there. And when that happens, let's pray we aren't disappointed.

Gina McDougallApril 11, 2019

Great article! I agree and have often wondered why the church, or those in a financial position to help, has not made more films/movies to share the gospel with the world. Instead they seem quite onboard when it comes to making short films for church education to help educate the Saints. How often have our leaders encouraged us to use social media to share the gospel? I agree with you. Cinema is the best way to share the gospel and at the same time provide wholesome, uplifting truths that the Holy Ghost can witness to the viewer. If President Thomas S Monson could see the benefits of using social media then why can't others. Unfortunately, it does require a lot of money to make excellent quality films. Interesting that Thomas S Monson has been pushing for the sequel from the other side of the veil. There must be a good reason for it. However, Is the church willing to provide a budget for LDS box office cinema? Would church members be willing to help fund these projects and how? I would love to see more of our films out there instead of the garbage that is filling the screens today. I know Darin Southam is wanting to make an epic big budget film about the Book of Mormon wars and the stripling worriors. That is one film I hope makes it to the big screen. I suppose it comes down to how important is it to get the truth out there, in all it's forms. It would be nice to set the record straight instead of sitting by while the world mocks, ridicules and disgraces the church. I wish you luck with your endeavours and look forward to seeing more LDS films. Kind regards, Gina Mac (Australia)

Beagle Lover in the SouthApril 11, 2019

Very interesting! Good inside look at how movies can influence people for the good and bring about the spread of gospel values and become an impetus for advancing faith in our world today.

KateApril 11, 2019

Loved this article. Thank you! I have always believed that one of the lessons we are here on earth to learn is that we are all family. We are all brothers and sisters. If everyone could understand that, how wonderful it would be! I am also adopted, and I find so many get too caught up in “finding” their family, and don’t see that the one they have is great! I feel blessed to have double ancestors, and the more I research, and the more I travel, the more I see we are all related, all one big family. Thank you!

Linda EApril 11, 2019

Who ever said running a business requires one to to do things according to some one else's ideals? Strip clubs offend me, should i require them to stop stripping so I can feel comfortable eating there? Or just choose to not visit their establishment and go some where they suits my views? Think about it :)

Karen GreenApril 10, 2019

Thank you for the information. I contacted both of my senators. I shudder to think of what will become of our nation if this passes.

SusanApril 10, 2019

What a brilliant insight into becoming a mother. With your mindfulness, you are becoming a better mother than you ever thought you could be.

KateApril 10, 2019

This describes my husband to a T. I do not share anything about my concerns or challenges anymore because he hears it as criticism of him, no matter how softly i approach the subject (and yes, I'm a dedicated student of Gottman!). I don't want him to take that guilt/shame on, so I deal with my life on my own. He cannot receive a compliment without turning it into a criticism--and this is a VERY accomplished, wonderful man who is often given awards by his peers (which he throws away). It is so sad--especially because the shame he lives in distances him from the people who love him. I know he would like things to be different, but it seems to be impossible for him not to go into defensive mode and keep us all at arms length. I've tried to encourage therapy, but he sees that as just someone else who would tell him what a failure he is. Argh. Should I be surprised that two of our children are studying to become therapists and another is married to a therapist?!!

DBApril 10, 2019

I'm so grateful that my father had the Christ-like grace to listen lovingly to the frustrations my mum would verbalise to him, without retaliation or putting up a mirror to her or making her feel less. He was a true leader who loved her, and told us children to love her despite the imperfections of her communication style. He was more concerned about focusing on the issue and the other person than on the way that came about.

Hap CluffApril 10, 2019

The word pronounced "mormon" in Arabic means “true believer” Mormons will be the bridge to reunite Arabs with world

WendyApril 10, 2019

Thank you. It is always good to have a list to refer to when my faith is weak.

Patty K.April 10, 2019

Imjetta, here is a quote from the article: "According to the National Violent Death Reporting System, a surveillance system run by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Utah and other states in the Rockies consistently have the highest suicide rates in the country aside from Alaska." Colorado is in the Rockies, is it not?

KathleenApril 9, 2019

Our plan of study this week was to extract the promises and blessings in the Conference talks. Thank you for the running start!

pennie knottApril 8, 2019

Something I just read recently-Polygamy is doctrine; not practicing it at this time is policy

Kelly LifferthApril 8, 2019

The author should look at byu’s citation index. It is a website and mobile app that covers general conference addresses back to 1942. Additionally, scriptures are indexed to these talks and to the Journal of Discourses already.

Rita MillerApril 8, 2019

That huge blue spike starting in 1985 is significant. That's the year Pres. Ezra Taft Benson became the prophet, following the death of Pres. Kimball. He started his tenure with a bang, declaring that the Book of Mormon would cover the earth 'like a flood'. He emphasized the Prophet Joseph Smith's declaration that "the Book of Mormon is the keystone of our religion." Is it any wonder that this particular book has been increasingly mentioned in Conference?

Pattie SkousenApril 8, 2019

What a nice way to present these promises made to us at Conference. It endears my heart to know that they are praying and for each one of us, not necessarily by name; but as a whole church. I am always over whelmed with the promises and blessings we receive each conference.

John PetersenApril 8, 2019

Excellent! Thanks for the explanation.

SteveApril 8, 2019

This is Great & exciting news. He looks to be a very humble & kind person. I look forward to hear him speak.

BrentApril 8, 2019

Thanks Scott for posting an overview of the thoughts and promises given us from general conference. A refreshing read this Monday morning.

Charles DefranchiApril 8, 2019

There is indeed a great need for courageous Latter-Day Saints being affected by same-sex attraction, who can testify that they can abide by gospel principles regardless. At any rate, whether gay or straight, we are all subject to temptation, especially when being single, or in a difficult marriage. The solution is always to lean on the Lord, trusting that great blessings await the faithful, here and in the here-after.

Alexander ForsythApril 8, 2019

Was polygamy a doctrine, or was it policy?

anonApril 7, 2019

I don't think there is such a defined line between policy and doctrine. I think it's more muddled than this article suggests. Some things that were once called doctrine and then changed, were either not doctrine, or doctrine that was changed. (For instance, for decades many prophets and apostles named and considered the Priesthood/Temple ban doctrine.) If doctrine changes from time to time, it doesn't bother me because the institutional church learns and grows just as individuals do. The doctrine should change according to further light and knowledge.

Cherida JonesApril 6, 2019

I would love to see how many times the word “promise” or “I promise you” is used. It seems to be increasing over the years.

Reed EbornApril 5, 2019

Great Work. I once started to make a list of all the illiteration in Neil A Maxwells’s talks. I didn’t have the knowledge that you have or I might have continued. I’m hoping somebody will do this someday. Each alliteration is like a min sermon and very memorable, which of course was his iintent. Just a thought.

Teresa TaylorApril 5, 2019

They were not all there in Manchester England April 1971. Copy, paste, and search link to read who was there.

Michael Shea, MDApril 5, 2019

Speaking of normalization, it might be worthwhile to normalize the number of references taken from a particular work according to the number of words or verses or chapters or pages in that work.

Jeremy ClarkApril 5, 2019

I would be very interested to see the trend line for How many times in church history that the words "second Coming" are spoken of. I feel like the trend would show more as we draw closer to this current year.

Joan G. SmithApril 5, 2019

This brings tears to my eyes. What an amazing miracle... and we know that more stories like this are coming. I am so happy for the members in Kuwait!

TCApril 5, 2019

Interesting! I wonder if the sheer number of talks would be better if normalized by how long they were an apostle. The apostles that passed at younger ages will by default have fewer total talks but perhaps would be closer to the top if represented as number of talks over time or something similar.

David ThomasApril 5, 2019

Excellent work, thank you for compiling and sharing the information.Do you follow Nathan Yau's "" site? He's an inspiration for visualizing data.

ScoutHApril 5, 2019

The leaders who feel guided to make a change may not always understand all of the reasoning behind the Spirit's guidance on the matter. Nor may we fully understand all of the Lord's purposes for any given policy change during this lifetime. Was the 1982 change to 18-month missions for elders a mistake for learning purposes, or were there other reasons we don't fully perceive? We must be careful not to conclude that a policy change always means that a mistake was made when the previous policy was developed.

bluewaterApril 5, 2019

I could give a 100,000 word comment to this! But I will instead just say thanks for this article and thanks for attempting to articulate something about those of us who have Anxiety---- and to attempt to educate others that all members of the Church are not Extroverts who are very needy for Attention like they are.....

Chad FranciscoApril 5, 2019

For those of you who would like to know more about the Book of Mormon characters that Joseph copied from the plates, I highly recommend "The 'Caractors' Document: New Light on an Early Transcription of the Book of Mormon Characters," Mormon Historical Studies, vol. 14, No. 1 -- by Michael Hubbard MacKay, Gerrit J. Dirkmaat, and Robin Scott Jenson, who are recognized LDS scholars with years of study of and/or direct involvement with the Joseph Smith Papers.

KaDeeApril 5, 2019

Beautiful! “...and all things denote there is a God; yea, even the earth, and all things that are upon the face of it, yea, and its motion, yea, and also all the planets which move in their regular form do witness that there is a Supreme Creator.” Alma 30:44

JeanApril 5, 2019

Thank you for this study. It's very interesting to see what scriptures were most used. In addition to the topics addressed, I would love a study done of the music performed by the Tabernacle Choir at General Conference. What hymns were most sung over the last 48 years would be very informative.

GrandpaApril 5, 2019

This is probably the best reply you have ever written for this column. A delicate but honest reply. My mother used to say that a discussion between marriage partners is all about how you present yourself, and this reply is as well-presented as my mother when she was determined to defuse a tense situation. As a man whose wife actively employed all ten of the negative communications techniques listed as questions in your reply through the first twenty years of our marriage, my natural instinct was to instantly side with the husband on this one. The only way I was able to teach my dear wife to use better communications techniques was to stop being a gentleman and talk to her how she talked to me. When she accused me of being a bully, I told her she'd been the bully for twenty years, so now it was my turn. It was rough for a few years, but we're getting there. If you want a man to open up and talk to you, especially about things like feelings, you have to occasionally make the conversation about something other than yourself. You have to understand that a man sharing his feelings or talking about your feelings is a very rare and should-be-treasured moment. My mother called it a sacred moment when Dad would do so, and she treated it as such. You have to listen to him with your mouth shut. Don't correct him -- he knows his feelings far better than anyone else. Saying something foolish like "I know how you feel" and "that's not what you think" tells your husband you're a liar or a fool, and trust is gone. Correcting him about his feelings is the very-same-thing as calling him a Lair, and that's also a conversation ender. He trusted you with his feelings, and then you belittled them. Trust is lost. Many men detest being analyzed or being forced to analyze the way many women like to analyze themselves and those around them. Forcing him to do is effectively a mental assault on the most private, sacred center of his being, and it's being forced on him by someone they are supposed to love and trust, and they will attack back to protect themselves. And then they will never trust you with their feelings again. Men are not women, and women aren't men. Men are NEVER going to talk about themselves or about their wife the way their wife wants them to. It just isn't in their make-up; God did not create men to do so. Forcing them to do so against their will only creates a fight and will destroy the very trust you think you are building by forcing him to do what you want. In his eyes you are an abuser. I go back to what my mother taught us: a discussion between marriage partners is all about how you present yourself, and my mother knew, because she could sweet talk any conversation she wanted out of my ever-macho Dad by respecting what he said, by not correcting him, by not belittling him for having the wrong feelings, and by showing gratitude that he trusted her enough to share it. And then she never betrayed that trust - she never repeated a word of it to anyone. He knew that she never shared a word that he didn't want shared. And by doing all this, Dad in turn WANTED to hear Mom's feelings, and then they could work on their feelings together. Mom knew that a wife hearing her husband's feelings is not a right -- it's a privilege she has to earn through trust and love and respect.

Ronald BarnesApril 5, 2019

When my brother was a bishop, he received a letter from the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve telling bishops how a certain situation should be handled. Two weeks later he received another letter from them saying that the previous one should be ignored. Another example is Plural Marriage. It is still a doctrine of the gospel, but the current policy is that we do not practice it.

Haze KompelienApril 5, 2019

I have always enjoyed seeing analysis of scriptures. It may not lead to deep spiritual changes, but it is fun. Sort of like studying the meanings of numbers used in scripture. May be uplifting sub-context to a verse but not its primary message. ( think 3, 12, 42, etc)

David DurfeeApril 5, 2019

Party loyalty almost always breeds confirmation bias. Party adherents tend to believe that their party does nothing wrong and the other party does nothing right. Bad conduct by a member of their party gets a hall pass, but the same conduct by a member of the other party gets shrill condemnation. And on and on and on. If you want to take a strong position either way on abortion, then fine. But the moment you hardwire yourself to the party that supports your position, you abrogate your responsibility and ability to be fair and rational in general. Register Independent!

LaurieApril 5, 2019

I think the “hope” is that Heavenly Father’s plan of salvation, to ultimately bring all his children who desire to be in his presence, will be a reality in their own life. That through the atonement of Jesus Christ, a way will be provided for all who follow Christ to receive the greatest blessings promised. When I hear stories from LGBT members, they don’t know what this path looks like. While some may hope for an acceptance of the lifestyle, that is often not what I personally hear about. From what I read and hear, it is variable for each person.Some, it appears, can have a lessening of their attractions, others find that they can find happiness in a traditional marriage, others find that while nothing physically changes, they feel the grace of God sustaining them from day to day, with the support of compassionate members who love and honor them as children of God. It is certainly a walk of faith as the path is not clear for anyone. However, I think the overarching principle is that a loving Heavenly Father, with his perfect combination of justice and mercy, can guide each child home. This is where faith in Jesus Christ, hope that we might be like Him, and being filled with charity (His pure love) come in for all of us.

JennApril 5, 2019

Thank you for the clarifying description of doctrine and of policy. Over the years I have struggled with the changes and reversals, while trying to keep the faith that the leaders are following Fathers direction. I know there is much I don't know. Your article has absolutely been an answer to my prayers!! Future changes will be easier to accept and I am grateful for this new understanding.

Val R.April 5, 2019

I have always thought it would be interesting to compile a list of "superlatives" from General Conference. For example, phrases like, "the most important...", or "the best...", or "the finest...". This would give us an overview of what subjects to which the brethren give topmost consideration.

Ed HaynesApril 5, 2019

Good work. Now track subjects of talks. Over the decades I have watched subjects change from Word of Wisdom, food storage, women not working outside the home to the Atonement, temple work for kindred dead and temple attendance. We have become a more spiritually mature church and have moved from temporal subjects to spiritual subjects. It would be nice to see how that perspective have shifted over the years.

Becky RapierApril 5, 2019

Wow! Very interesting.

Older and WiserApril 5, 2019

Parts of this article described me to a T! I never realized it was anxiety. I am in my 60s now, and have learned how to deal with my feelings when they crop up. I don’t feel as anxious anymore, either. I do remember moving to a new ward when I was in my 30s and spending Relief Society in the kitchen, listening but not attending, so I wouldn’t have to “stand up and introduce yourself.”

DJApril 5, 2019

Thanks for sharing your insight -- very interesting!

Rebecca Clark RicheyApril 5, 2019

So sad for Nebraska! Learning how to garden is a process. Who knew that growing zucchini would ever be hard? We moved to southern Virginia and it is taken me several years to learn the tricks of growing that amazing vegetable. Here there is fungus and bugs and lack of calcium in the ground that makes it very hard. I’m finally after many years learning how to overcome enough of those to get a crop or 3 of zucchini. (Like feeding the plant weekly w Calcium/tums etc) I learned that bush beans are the way to go because pole beans will be attacked by hordes of Japanese beetles! Gardening takes time and money and lots of experimentation in your area. Start now to learn What you can grow in your area

Ann M. HansenApril 5, 2019

This fascinating study clearly illustrates something which always saddens me: the lack of knowledge of and appreciation for the Old Testament and Pearl of Great Price on the part of so many members of the Church. These bodies of scriptures are an important part of our spiritual roots.

Charles DefranchiApril 5, 2019

Dear Scott, As the French say, "if you did not exist, someone would have to invent you! :-)." This is a great contribution to uplifting our spirits in relation to the General Conference. Many thanks!

TraceyApril 4, 2019

Such a beautiful story...both yours and the one your art portrays. How honored Christ must feel to see his passion story told in the medium of His own What a Gift. Thank you.

Gary CrosbyApril 4, 2019

Corrected typos: Excellent Mr. Charles Kraut. My sentiments exactly. Too bad others don't see the left for exactly who they are: progressives and socialists wrapped in the disguise of helping the poor, needy, and women's rights. These disguised will only destroy us a little at a time until destruction is imminent. We all can see the beginnings of this destruction. Wake up everyone. Stand up for our great country! I'm really surprised at the author's twisting of Dennis Prager's unequivocal stand against our destruction. She needs to listen and read more prior to taking a stand against his worthy good work. May I please repeat the words "Venezuela, Venezuela, Venezuela"? It's socialistic and progressive quaint beginnings destroyed a remarkable country right under our noses and in our back yard and yet no one seems to really care. Wake up!

Jerry GroverApril 4, 2019

The Caractors Document consists of primarily hieratic Egyptian, most glyphs fairly straightforward, with a minor amount of Demotic. The book Translation of the Caractors Document is available for free at various places on the internet.

Jerry D. Grover, Jr.April 4, 2019

After getting a copy of this book, I bought an entire box to give to my friends, it is an excellent Easter gift for anyone of Christian belief, or for anyone who likes rocks. I'm actually a geologist so found this art very fascinating. It is also very interactive with the website videos, if you have children. The "rockmation" moving videos are an artform by themselves. I can't speak highly enough of this book and its author.

Debra LaceyApril 4, 2019

The UN is evil!! It not only is trying to destroy the family unit, but wants to take away our Republuc's sovereignty and freedoms! It is also anti-Israel!! The United States should get out of the UN and kick it off our soil! The UN is like Rasputin was to Russia before the Comminist Revolution--EVIL PERSONIFIED!!

Ken HazelbakerApril 4, 2019

Patti, how truly wonderful! Even better than your song 'Soft Inside'. You are an amazing instrument in God's hands. How can we connect? We live in Cedar Hills now. Pls call me: Ken Hazelbaker. 916-201-9415