My wife was abused as a child by her brothers and when they got angry, they found her and took it out on her. So, my getting angry about anything triggers a physiological response in her which she has no control over. I can't be perfect in my behavior. It seems we are both walking on eggshells, me worried I will trigger her, and she worried she will be triggered.
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My husband has betrayed me in countless ways over the years and we’re trying to work things out. However, he’s trying to force me to trust him sooner than I’m ready. I don’t know how to explain to him that when someone lies and lies, the other person can't just trust. Or am I wrong?
How do I know when it is okay to walk away? Should I listen to his family who are convinced that it is different this time and to give him one more chance? I read quotes about not going back to abusive situations, but my missionary son has also sent me quotes about forgiveness and second chances. How do I know when I have done enough and given enough chances?
My husband's first wife was and still is a beautiful woman. I've even seen a twinkle in his eye a few times when he has talked about her, their past, and her beauty. I've never seen that twinkle in his eye for me and he’s never tried to have an intimate life with me.
This is a confusing topic for those who have sexually betrayed their partner and for those partners who have been sexually betrayed. This is an episode for people in all stages of recovery.
I’m an enormous mountain of good with a few bad pebbles. My wife of almost 40 years only focuses on the pebbles. She tantrums, then hints of divorce instead of working toward companionship. She clearly has contempt for me… and believes everything is my fault.