Yes! You Can Help Stop Opponents of the Family
By Gary and Joy Lundberg

Recently we and other Meridian Magazine writers have been focusing on the attack on families and marriages, and rightly so.  This is a cause worth fighting for.  We were heartened by the response of readers to our last article entitled Worldwide Attack on the Family.  We received over 200 e-mails from across the country and around the world requesting information as to how they could best assist in the fight to protect the family.  Each letter was answered and given help as to what to do.  Here are a few exact quotes from the many letters we received.  They show the depth of concern people have.

Canada (several similar letters came from Canada):

As a Canadian I am ashamed of the “same sex marriage” issue. One wonders how much more our children can endure of the evils and smut that continually surrounds them when they walk out the door each day. May God bless you with insight, strength, love and His Holy Spirit as you go forward doing His work and please let me know how I can be of help.

The article in Meridian  was very interesting.  I’m appalled that we in Canada have to live with same sex marriages. There will be no appeal to the Supreme Court of Canada. I would like to write to my Federal and Provincial representatives but I’m not sure how to phrase my objections so that I don’t sound like a “religious fanatic.”

[We are happy to report that recent Meridian articles by Richard Wilkins, Sharon Slater and others present persuasive arguments.  Also is filled with helpful information.]

            Scotland:  I was very interested in your article, and would like to do whatever I can to assist in bringing the issue of helping protect families in accordance with the principles of the “Family Proclamation” in my area. I live in Aberdeen Scotland, I look forward to receiving your email on the subject.

Utah:  The U.N. is not only anti-family, religion, etc., it is anti-American and dedicated to forcing us by law to accept all the precepts you write about and become, with them, a one world-wide nation of godless peoples ruled by an elite cadre of evil men and women.

Oklahoma:  Yes, I would be very interested in knowing what to do to get our voice heard.  Thank you.

Unknown locations:    

What can I do to help slow down this evil process?  I am willing to write letters and contact my government representatives.

  I am a very busy mom and I love staying home with my three beautiful daughters and another baby on the way.  I would like to do what I can to help in the fight against these attacks on the family.

            Anything that I can do to help the cause, in my position as a Stake Relief Society President; any tips, etc. would be greatly appreciated. And thanks for all that you are doing for all of us.       

Most people want to help, but don’t know what to do.  Sometimes they express feelings of being overwhelmed by the immenseness of the battle and say, “There’s nothing I can do.  I’ll just have to leave it in the Lord’s hands.” There is, in fact, something vitally important each person can and must do.  To leave it in the Lord’s hands only is to deny His admonition to us.  He has given us the Family Proclamation and it is our duty to live it and defend it. We are to be anxiously engaged in good causes such as this.  He is counting on us.  However discouraging it may be, we need to persevere.

When we feel like we’re losing a battle that seems insurmountable; when countries and states pass laws that undermine the family, as some are now doing; when evil appears to be prevailing, it might be well to think on the words of Elder Dallin H. Oaks: “When we face seemingly insurmountable obstacles in the fulfillment of righteous responsibilities, we should remember that when we are involved in the work of the Lord, the obstacles before us are never as great as the power behind us. We should reach out and climb. Handholds will only be found by hands that are outstretched. Footholds are only for feet that are on the move.” (Dallin H. Oaks, “Reach Out and Climb!” New Era, Aug. 1985, 4)

With that inspiring counsel in mind we suggest two ways to “outstretch” your hands and get a “foothold” that will move this important work forward.  You can make a difference.

What You Can Do

First, contact your representatives and senators, and we’re going to make it very easy for you to do.  One click on this Web site will take you directly to where you can contact them.  Just click on your state on the map and there you are.  One of the most important issues on the docket right now is the Federal Marriage Amendment.  This is a constitutional amendment that defines marriage as “a union between man and woman.”  Fortunately, Senate leader Bill Frist has announced his full support in favor of the amendment. Now the opposition is rallying with fervor.  We must counter their efforts with our own support of the amendment by sending this message to our representatives and senators:

Please support the Federal Marriage Amendment. I’m counting on you to define marriage as a union between man and woman. 

Then please return to the map, click on Tennessee and send this message to Senator Frist:

Thank you for supporting the Federal Marriage Amendment.  Please stay strong in your support of this amendment.

Second, and most important, make sure you are doing all in your power to make your marriage an example of a joyful union between a man and woman.  The best way to ensure that marriage endures and is passed on to the next generation is for your children and grandchildren to see a good example of it right in their own homes.  Examine your marriage and ask yourself the following four questions:

1. Do our children see a mother and father enjoying each other’s companionship?  If not, start having some fun.  Lighten up and be happy.  Let them see you laugh. Let them see you going on a date, just for the fun of it, regularly.  Let them see you hugging and kissing each other.  Ignore their groans and just know that inside they are rejoicing to see that their parents love each other.  It’s very comforting for children, including teenagers.  They’ll see that marriage is enjoyable and will want that for themselves one day.

2. Do our children hear us praying for each other and them?  Family prayers provide that opportunity.  We were touched recently when visiting a young family whose father had left for work before the family arose. Their mother gathered the children in prayer as is their custom each morning, and we heard her pray, “Please bless and protect Daddy who is working hard to give us this nice home.”  That’s a loud message that Mom loves and appreciates Dad.  And, of course, Dad needs to do the same for Mom.

3. Do our children see us working out difficulties with gentleness and compassion?  If they see parents fighting and arguing it makes marriage look very uninviting.  Let them see you express opinions respectfully. Having different opinions is natural, even good.  It’s how we express those opinions that make all the difference.  If Dad always has to be right, or Mom has got to win, then they don’t learn the value of compromise and effective communication.  Let them see you communicating and resolving problems respectfully.

4. Do our children see us holding on to each other and our faith in Christ through the hard times?  Every couple goes through hard times.  The only thing worse than hard times is pulling away from each other and losing faith during those hard times.  Your children will have their own struggles in life, and they’ll know how to deal with them successfully if they see you exercising faith in each other and in God as you go through yours.

These are just four ideas to consider right now.  Discuss others with your spouse and do what you need to do to make your marriage a happy, fulfilling relationship.  Pray daily for guidance in this matter. You are teaching the next generation of husbands and wives-it’s worth every effort on your part.

If you’re single, consider what you can do to teach the value of marriage in conversations and lessons.  Those who are divorced can teach their children that marriage can be a beautiful relationship. Point out good examples in your family and ward.  Work toward your own eternal marriage by examining what your part in the break-up may have been and be determined to correct the problem in the future.

With all of us working together to keep our own families strong and taking action to encourage our national leaders to protect marriage and families, much good can be accomplished. Let’s not get discouraged, let’s just get busy and do something.

[The Lundbergs can be contacted through their Web site]

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